24F

So I am soon to be engaged and married (Covid delayed) and I am also a born again Christian and I’ve sensed that many will be very judgy over my decision.

I’ve had someone (radical millennial woman) question my relationship and ask me if there were any unbalanced power dynamics (who even says that?) between my partner and myself because he is a man and older then me (not by anything extreme) and is pastoring our house church. All of these loaded questions because of him being a MAN. I really had to put my foot down and assert this is MY LIFE and stick up for my spouse and defend him (confidently and with kind humour) and when these individuals know NOTHING about him other then he is a Christian MAN.

I’ve felt like I’ve had to keep it private because I don’t want to have something that’s a special precious season in my life scrutinised and pulled apart. Isn’t is crazy how years ago I would have been congratulated but now I am cross examined? Our family and close friends have been so supportive. It’s just the outside world I’m getting this from.

I’m okay with the judgement of others it doesn’t phase me I’m just dumbfounded by the change in our culture especially the reaction from other women.