attractive after babies

companyllc · 2019-07-09T20:35:41+00:00

Well I guess I will take a stab since no one else has commented. I have only had one baby but am currently going through a similar problem. I'm not over it yet, but here is what is working for me.

Getting in shape. Lose that last 10 pounds (I know it's hard!) and you will feel better. When you go to the gym, make sure you aren't just running on a treadmill. Do core exercises, lift weights. Maybe yoga or Pilates. It makes a huge difference!

Focus on you. I know it's hard to find time, but do your nails or go to a salon. Make sure you are keeping your hair trimmed regularly or doing it yourself. Put on lotion every day and keep up your skincare routine. Again, it's hard to do but you will feel better and look better.

Drink lots of water and eat healthy. Take vitamins and iron support if needed. I know I am bad about eating and doing things I would never want my child to do. Treat yourself like your own child and take care of yourself.

Sometimes it feels selfish to do these things. But I realize I am a better wife and mother if I take some time for me. I look and feel better and treat others with more kindness when I am not frustrated and feeling like a mom slob.

Try to get some clothes that fit your new lifestyle but aren't frumpy. For me, that was things like dresses that are feminine and easy to wear but also machine washable and in dark colors. You don't have to get dolled up all the time, but a little bit of makeup and a sundress can go a long way for feeling more pretty and confident and feminine. Also get a new bra if breastfeeding and pregnancy has changed size and shape!

Also, I have had to have lots of routines. Otherwise I forget to take showers and just throw on sweatpants and feel old and gross. I don't forget showers if I know they are always during baby's first nap, or I always paint my nails on Sunday evenings. Find something that works for you but don't be afraid to be flexible if you have a kid who is teething or something. Stuff happens!

Date nights are important. It's good to have time just for you and your husband where you can be a wife and focus on him and your relationship without the mom aspect getting in the way. Easier said than done, I know!

And if you think you have PPD or need to see a therapist don't be afraid to get help!

Okay I'll stop rambling...sorry it's not more coherent. I just wanted to offer a response since no one else has and let you know that you're not the only one going through this and it is a huge change and just takes time <3

NiburuPhobia · 2019-07-08T19:37:11+00:00

No comment at all? Come on ladies..

TradiWaifu · 2019-07-27T20:31:27+00:00

I’m on my fourth baby right now. First, make sure you’re having sex as much as possible. It’s fantastic for feeling sexy and desired. Get dressed every day. Go shopping and get something new for yourself. Spend lots of time outside with the kids. Plan with a cute journal. All of those things make me Feel my best!

Title	attractive after babies
Author	today1776
Upvotes	7
Comments	6
Date	July 3, 2019 9:47 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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