Being extra supportive during a tough work schedule

Wife_and_Mama · 2025-11-07T12:25:43+00:00

It sounds like you do a lot right now, but my advice would be to just double down on that. Make sure his laundry is the only thing on his plate when he comes home. Clean, cook, do the groceries, but also take care of any gift buying or wrapping. Stay in budget. Only ask for an opinion if he'd really care. Decorate for the holidays by yourself, as best you can. Maybe accept that this is not the year for the 50 foot Santa he always sets up or whatever the equivalent.

If there are traditions he looks forward to, like going to see Christmas lights or watching a special movie, try to plan a few dates when you can do that together, so no one's disappointed if they fall through. Deal with any family holiday drama as quietly as possible, only informing him when necessary. I'm talking "my sister stole my pie recipe and is telling everyone it's hers," not "grandma is having open heart surgery." Find ways to entertain yourself and keep yourself busy, so that if he just feels like being alone when he gets home, you're not upset or overwhelming him.

I'd say one of the most important issues here would be the TTC stuff. If you're ovulating and he's not feeling it, because work is exhausting, give him some grace. These are not the only months you can get pregnant and the whole process becomes more stressful if you force it. It can really mess up your sex life and neither of you needs that right now.

InevitableKiwi5776 · 2025-11-07T16:24:34+00:00

Making sure the house is clean and calm when he gets home, there's good food available, and you're calm and happy to see him is probably the best way to support him. Maybe start buying Christmas gifts now to reduce that stress for both of you in the future. Plan ahead as far as possible.

Sometimes I like to think about things to do for my partner that he can brag about, like things that reflect well back on him. That could be as easy as baking something special for him. If it's appropriate, bake some things for him to take into work to share. Do you make him lunch to take to work? Not everyone likes that, but if he would like it, that would be helpful during a busy work time.

And take the extra time you have to yourself to do self care type things so you will be extra happy when you see him.

AutoModerator · 2025-11-07T05:34:25+00:00

Title: Being extra supportive during a tough work schedule

Author sneakysmellysaucy

Full text: Hey guys, sorta new to this stuff but I felt like yall would give some good advice on this.

My husband is active duty, he’s about to go into a crazy work schedule. It’s not a deployment, but he will hardly be home and between that and some family stuff he has going on I just really want to make sure he feels extra supported and comfortable at home so he can really rest.

I wfh so I generally handle the house: cleaning & organizing, food etc .He does trash and his own laundry. Trash is easy for me to take over, he is firm on doing his own laundry. I think it’s a sleep trigger for him like part of his bedtime routine and doesn’t wanna mess with it. Idk

We’re happy, we laugh a lot, we’re currently trying for a baby and we’re sooooo excited about that. I was having a hard time for a while but we got some answers & I feel in my heart it’s gonna fall into place soon

Anywho like I said his work schedule coming up is gonna be crazier than ever, and the holidays with family issues are stressful. I was wondering what sort of advice yall have for just helping make this period as nice as possible?

TIA ❤️❤️

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Title	Being extra supportive during a tough work schedule
Author	sneakysmellysaucy
Upvotes	3
Comments	4
Date	November 7, 2025 5:34 AM UTC (9 months ago)
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