Hello everyone,

I have been a silent member of this community for the past ten months. I am really attracted to the principles and ideas suggested here. But I have a few doubts on how to implement them in my life.

Let me brief about myself before asking my doubts, I am 22yo and I have a full time job with a decent pay. My n-count is zero. I cook and am capable of taking care of all the household chores. I love embroidery and I can crochet and knit. I binge on books, movies and sitcoms at times when I am bored.

I have listed out my doubts below:

  1. In my place, parents usually arrange a meeting for marriage. They will consider the major red flags in the prospective groom for sure, but still I am afraid of this whole setup. Please tell me if I am right about this or am I just overthinking

  2. Where do I meet men whom I can date? The place I go often next to my workplace is the church. Also I am not much of a party person.

  3. It seems like I have been saying no to men who ask me out even if I find minor red flags. It feels like i am too cautious. Is it okay to be this way? Or am I just overthinking??

  4. Please advice if I have to change anything about myself.

Thank you so much for your help