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| 95 | I think he's more attracted to 2d girls and naked twitter models than meHe sounds like he has some legitimate addiction issues. You're too young to commit to this problem. You should be having the best sex of your life in a committed relationship, at 21. Find a man with a healthy view of sex. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/20 02:25 AM |
| 6 | STFU when he does something he knows I hate? Help plsIt sounds like him taking over the dishes would be a pretty good compromise, as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/20 09:57 PM |
| 5 | Cant digest my guy's new overly frank friendHe says i was away busy doing my things that made him make this friend. So he's deliberately putting this on you. It's not your fault that you have a life. He could have made male friends. Multiple times i read he wanted her to come over to his college you know just casually but i guess we only want to meet people we super like. That's weird. That really is not acceptable behavior in a committed relationship. Then he explains to me that i have given you password because i didnt do anything wrong… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/20 05:55 PM |
| 1 | How to not overlook good guys?I didn't know she had another one! I LOVE Marry Him, even being married. It is so accurate. I'll have to pick that one up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/20 05:49 PM |
| 7 | Cant digest my guy's new overly frank friendDifferent couples have different arrangements on opposite sex friendships. There is no set rule. However, it doesn't sound like you had any arrangement. Your boyfriend likely didn't feel he was breaking a rule if no rule existed. That being said, talking to one girl this much, across so many apps is super suspect, so I get why you feel upset. You need to come to an agreement on what works for you, without either of you feeling controlled. My husband and I don't have private opposite sex friendsh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/20 02:52 PM |
| 16 | Do you get sad when you feel emotionally cheated on?There are men who are above this behavior. I recommend you find one. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/20 02:37 PM |
| 3 | How to not overlook good guys?Definitely read Marry Him: the Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough, by Lori Gottlieb. It's written by a woman in her forties about exactly this, all the great guys she turned down for ridiculous reasons. Now they're all settled and happy and she's alone with her streaming services. It'll wake you up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/20 02:35 PM |
| 3 | My SO does not want to be married at allI think it's really unfair and unwise to assume he'll change. He's entitled to feel how he feels and if OP stays, expecting him to come around, she deserves what she gets. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/20 02:31 PM |
| 16 | My SO does not want to be married at allBut eventually she'll age, as we all do, and then she won't meet his standards and he'll be free to move on to someone younger. She'll be old and alone, with a lot less to offer. This is a great deal for him! OP, he's made it clear where his priorities lie. Decide where yours lie. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/20 11:54 PM |
| 2 | How to/when to negotiate?My husband and I had one of our biggest fights when I bought my car. He wanted me to test drive a bunch and I wanted to choose based on research and a test drive, not talk to 30 salesmen. It was an epic battle and he never spoke to me the WAY OP's husband did. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/20 05:23 PM |
| 3 | How to build mature wardrobeI recommend dresses and cardigans or a cute blazer. Just make sure to only accentuate one thing. Choose tight OR short OR low cut... or none of these. I wear dresses all the time, when we're not in a pandemic. I feel more capable and confident and people treat me with so much more respect. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/20 05:20 PM |
| 10 | Should Nun Mode be shorter at 30+?You don’t have to go full on nun mode to improve yourself. You can continue to date and workout and deal with your emotions all at the same time. You don't have to throw yourself into dating, but you also don't have to limit yourself to self-betterment. There is a middle ground, where you can be open to meeting someone, and it sounds like that might be okay for you. If you feel you need time just for you, though, go for it. There are few limits if you don't want kids. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/20 05:12 PM |
| 8 | Career ChangeThere are options. There are many work from home STEM jobs and you could easily teach in most US states. You're not trapped. The good thing about STEM is that there are a lot of paths. Consider another one. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/20 03:49 AM |
| 2 | Question from a manThis will be removed in a few, but women marry across and up. Men marry across and down. Lots of teachers marry teachers. Of course, then the man often goes into administration for the higher pay, but still. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/20 03:27 AM |
| 18 | How to/when to negotiate?Agreed. That's literally what she was doing and he seems to think there's no comparison between something he wants and something she wants and to suggest one is disrespect... which is, ironically, extremely disrespectful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/20 11:24 PM |
| 17 | How to/when to negotiate?Well, emotional blackmail is never fair, so walking away was probably the right move. Maybe you guys should give it a couple of days and cool off. Perhaps it's worth discussing splitting money and what that would look like, if this is a recurring issue. If that happens, just make sure to champion yourself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/20 10:21 PM |
| 26 | How to/when to negotiate?Blowing up proves you to be the irrational woman I'm sure he thinks you're being. Let him cool down and refuse to concede without a respectful discussion. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/20 09:46 PM |
| 50 | How to/when to negotiate?I think we have more issues than I realized. That seems to be the case. My husband and I have had some whopping disagreements and he has never done anything like this. If he had, I'd probably say screw the table and demand marriage counseling. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/20 09:44 PM |
| 30 | How to/when to negotiate?Well... the only responses I have aren't appropriate for this sub. I'm sorry OP. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/20 09:39 PM |
| 11 | How to/when to negotiate?It seems, just from what OP has posted, that he's used to getting his way on things like this. If that's the case, I definitely think it's worthy of discussion. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/20 09:05 PM |
| 59 | How to/when to negotiate?I am certain that someone is going to chime in and ask you if this is really a big enough deal to make a fuss over... but that's really only up to you and maybe the answer is yes. My husband has such a strong personality that I sometimes feel like he steamrolls me and it most often manifests in his telling me we can't afford something that costs $20 and then buying himself a $20 bottle of whiskey. I am familiar with this disagreement. We've made progress, though. I really feel dismissed and I fe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/20 08:59 PM |
| 3 | RPW Episode 8: Am I Ready for a Baby?I think you can give advice from a neutral perspective. "Here are your options. Here are the risks." That advice can definitely be given without "Here are the moral implications." | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/20 04:04 PM |
| 7 | Dipping my toes in the waterIs everyone on varying levels? Yes. Overall, everyone is pretty respectful of each other's differences and the fact that what works for one family doesn't necessarily work for another. That being said, there are sometimes clashes, because different participants can have such varied backgrounds. Is it worth it to pursue even if only a few ideologies fit with my lifestyle or would I be missing out on something. Yes. Many of the pillars of The Red Pill are facts, while others are correlations, but … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/20 01:38 PM |
| 10 | His previous online activity is ruining my trustThese posts make me happy that my husband and I just have no social media accounts. No matter who's right or wrong in this, I'm glad I don't have to deal with it in my relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/20 11:53 PM |
| 1 | Red flags from Mr Perfect?I, personally, would never play matchmaker with my friends. What happens when they break up? What if it's messy? What if the reason she's single is because she's a judgemental cow? People act really different in relationships. I remember a former friend complaining that her friends never hooked her up with anyone. It was quite simply because she thought she was too good for everyone. Meeting through mutual friends sounds like a bad idea when there are so many other options today. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/20 07:10 PM |
| 1 | How to better respond to conflictI honestly think your only option is to continue this, but work to keep a calmer voice and demeanor. You can only control your own response. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/20 07:07 PM |
| 1 | How to better respond to conflictBecause I know we both lose our tempers in these situations, I try and avoid helping her with these technology tasks as much as possible or simply do the task for her later on my own when it's an easy fix. Obviously, this is not a good long-term solution since she's my mom and I obviously want to be a good daughter and help her. This sounds like a great long term solution. Libraries often offer tech help and most brands have brick and mortar stores she can visit if it's beyond that. Parents and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/20 05:55 PM |
| 16 | What was the fate of low-SMV women you know?High SMV with no regard to RMV has left everyone I know in that category a single mom over 30. SMV gets way too much fanfare. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/20 05:07 PM |
| 54 | What was the fate of low-SMV women you know?This is so full of self-pity that I fear you're right and no one would ever want to commit to such self-loathing. It would be exhausting to constantly try to lift up someone you see value in, only for that attitude to persist. I'm not going to tell you're beautiful, because I have no idea. I'm going to take you at your word that you have an unattractive face and my response is, so what? There are makeup tutorials all over the internet to hide unsightly features and highlight attractive ones. Pla… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/20 04:44 PM |
| 3 | Red flags from Mr Perfect?Ding, ding, ding. There could be a reasonable answer, but it's still a valid question. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/20 01:58 PM |
| 10 | Ladies, have you told your SOs that you that you read RPW/consume this media?How, why or why not?Yeah. I prefer discussion of ways to improve oneself, than ways to manipulate your spouse into doing what you want. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/20 12:05 AM |
| 1 | Fiancee let me use his phone and i opened his browser and saw he uses omegle and jerkmate (a site where you JO with other people/women.)I think the different takes on cheating are fascinating. Unfortunately, it's not uncommon for people to get super defensive about their definition being the correct one. I don't think there is one answer, though. For me, anything online would be unacceptable because we've agreed not to view porn... but I kind of view it all as the same transgression, assuming the girls in question are all strangers. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/20 09:42 PM |
| 7 | What is RPW’s opinion on Alimony and Child Support?My husband would never ask for a divorce. I'm not interested in debating, that. He just wouldn't. If I did, I wouldn't take anything from him, because I have my own career and make my own money. I'd take child support and put it aside for college, if court ordered. Outside of a court order, he'd only do things directly for our children. He would never give me money to buy them shoes. He'd give them shoes. It's worth noting that alimony is a lot harder to get that RP subs claim. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/20 09:23 PM |
| 16 | Ladies, have you told your SOs that you that you read RPW/consume this media?How, why or why not?I find the MRP sub to be even less appealing than TRP, myself. I'm pretty turned off by the way some of the men talk about their wives. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/20 09:17 PM |
| 13 | Ladies, have you told your SOs that you that you read RPW/consume this media?How, why or why not?He knows I'm active on this sub. I tell him about different debates and we have our own discussions. I'm not worried he'll start reading TRP, because he's generally disgusted by it. We have traditonal and conservative values and this is one of the few traditional female spaces I can find. I don't, personally, claim terms like Red Pill Woman or Captain. They sound too much like some kind of role play to me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/20 09:16 PM |
| 13 | For those of you who dont/rarely deny your captain sex - do you have a routine for keeping things fresh down there on a budget?I shave everything on Thursday and Sunday, so I'm smooth for the weekend and then for the week. It's just the right length of time to avoid razor burn and never be too prickly. I refuse to pay someone to groom my bits. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/20 09:14 PM |
| 3 | Fiancee let me use his phone and i opened his browser and saw he uses omegle and jerkmate (a site where you JO with other people/women.)You also risk the person agreeing and then continuing to hide their behavior better. I think a lot is given away in their reaction, as to how seriously they take the boundaries. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/20 08:36 PM |
| 2 | Fiancee let me use his phone and i opened his browser and saw he uses omegle and jerkmate (a site where you JO with other people/women.)I agree. If this is a deal breaker for her, I think an ultimatum is fair, as long as she's genuinely willing to walk. I would probably want to work on this with my husband, but she hasn't actually committed to this problem yet. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/20 07:49 PM |
| 3 | Fiancee let me use his phone and i opened his browser and saw he uses omegle and jerkmate (a site where you JO with other people/women.)Thank you. My only point is that I don't think that we should be labeling this so firmly as "cheating." Personally, I'd much easier forgive a chat roulette version of infidelity than an in-person one. It's definitely different for different people, though, and it really is up to OP. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/20 06:59 PM |
| 3 | Fiancee let me use his phone and i opened his browser and saw he uses omegle and jerkmate (a site where you JO with other people/women.)That's not the inarguable definition of cheating and you're needlessly rude. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/20 06:15 PM |
| 3 | Fiancee let me use his phone and i opened his browser and saw he uses omegle and jerkmate (a site where you JO with other people/women.)Comparison only adds white noise. All she needs to ask herself in order to decide if she can forgive something is if she is okay with this behavior or is she not. Period. She doesn’t need to cloud her thinking with wondering whether or not she’s thankful he didn’t get someone pregnant. You are the one who called it cheating. That's not a fact. It's a matter of opinion. Most people consider cheating to be one of two things: physical or emotional. This is in a weird grey area, where it's neither. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/20 05:57 PM |
| 1 | Fiancee let me use his phone and i opened his browser and saw he uses omegle and jerkmate (a site where you JO with other people/women.)Should we spend time splitting hairs on how cheating without protection is worse than cheating with protection or how cheating with a woman who has had a hysterectomy is better than cheating with a woman who hasn’t? When a woman is trying to decide whether she can forgive something, it's absolutely relevant to consider that it's not as bad as something else to which it's being compared. OP, he didn't cheat on you physically. It's up to you whether or not you think this is any better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/20 05:26 PM |
| 3 | How to get over regrets?It's okay. It's just a frequent response to the recommendation and I actually wish she had given it a different title, because that's really not what the book is about at all. I agree that "settling" is a bad idea. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/20 03:49 PM |
| 4 | Fiancee let me use his phone and i opened his browser and saw he uses omegle and jerkmate (a site where you JO with other people/women.)Just because it’s online doesn’t make it better than “in person” cheating. I mean, he can't get someone pregnant or catch a disease or have her confront him or OP in real life. It's unfaithful, but it's certainly better than traditional cheating. I couldn't handle either, but it's inaccurate to pretend they're exactly the same, if OP is trying to figure out how she feels about it. I think men who continue to choose porn in relationships, knowing how their gfs or wives feel about it, either have … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/20 03:46 PM |
| 5 | How to get over regrets?All of what you've said is irrelevant to the book recommendation. I clarified the title was inaccurate. Read it before you form opinions. It's frequently recommend here for good reason. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/20 03:38 PM |
| 7 | Fiancee let me use his phone and i opened his browser and saw he uses omegle and jerkmate (a site where you JO with other people/women.)He's my dream man and the love of my life in every other way. This is a pretty big exception to that. I have an issue with porn as well, one of my primary ones being the number of marriages that suffer from addiction to it. Why risk it? Your boyfriend obviously knows you have a problem with pornography and he still watches it, in addition to using these sites. You may just have different views on this very controversial subject. I think you should talk to him, calmly, about what you saw and expl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/20 02:13 PM |
| 35 | Feeling lost. Tired of holding my tongueI wouldn't introduce him to RP. It'll make everything worse. Just cut you're losses, while you're young enough to do better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/20 08:56 PM |
| 12 | How to get over regrets?Read Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough, by Lori Gottlieb. The tile is deliberately hyperbolic, but it's a more liberal take on the reality of the dating world. I met my husband six months after I read it and if I hadn't, I probably wouldn't have given that wonderful man a chance. I didn't settle at all. I just accepted reality and got over myself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/20 07:18 PM |
| 2 | Passive Agressive PartnerAh. OP responded to the original commenter with more info on what he said to her and that was my reference. I agree that, by itself, the comment about her not answering isn't really crossing the line as a joke. Calling her basic and boring because of her faith, though, is a pretty mean "joke." Passive aggressiveness isn't honesty. Saying it verbatim would be honest, but if he actually thinks that, he should probably break up with her. It doesn't excuse his "kidding." | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/20 07:03 PM |
| 2 | Passive Agressive PartnerFace value says he thinks she's basic and boring. His claim that he's joking came later. I get that your husband has that sense of humor, but OP herself has said this is new, passive aggressive behavior, so I'm just saying I don't think it's a matter of humor, especially when she's been clear that she doesn't like it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/20 06:49 PM |
| 1 | Passive Agressive PartnerIf this is new behavior, I'd doubt it's the same. Does your husband call you basic and boring, because you're Christian? | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/20 06:41 PM |
| 8 | Do you think that women are influenced to be sluts?I actually agree. We condemn men for spinning plates all the time and call them players. We regularly advise women to avoid men from TRP and we have pages of discussion on how women would prefer men with a lower number. Why is it so different to use a derogatory term for women who sleep around? | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/20 06:36 PM |
| 6 | Do you think that women are influenced to be sluts?"32 ways to please your husband in a monogamous relationship" just doesn't seem to sell. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/20 06:33 PM |
| 22 | Passive Agressive PartnerHe usually says it’s just a joke or that I’m too sensitive and I just want to know how to not be on edge when it comes to digs in areas I may already be insecure about? You've obviously expressed that this bothers you and he's dismissing your feelings by blaming you for being "oversensitive." If someone tells you their feelings are hurt, you don't get to debate that. The problem isn't you "being on edge," but him being rude. Tell him clearly and calmly that you don't appreciate his remarks and y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/20 06:21 PM |
| 9 | Do you think that women are influenced to be sluts?Your comments just read as very blue pill justifications for bad decisions. However, I think at it's core it comes down to women want to be able to control what goes into and comes out of their vaginas. Historically women were bound to arranged marriages and used as baby-making machines to produce and raise offspring. Today as women are becoming more self-determined, that will invariably manifest in self determining their own sexualities as well. In other words, some women will WANT to have a va… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/20 04:16 PM |
| 1 | I just reread an old romance novelI haven't. I honestly read such a range of things that I relate very little of it to the real world. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/20 01:37 AM |
| 1 | I just reread an old romance novelIt's a shame more people can't just appreciate escapism and fantasy for what they are, without real world crossover. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/20 01:36 AM |
| 5 | Do you think that women are influenced to be sluts?A lot of TRP men have issues with this sub. Our goals are very different. They frequently claim we're "RP in name only," because we want men with a balance of alpha and beta traits, who have preferably never heard of TRP. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/20 01:24 AM |
| 4 | Do you think that women are influenced to be sluts?Yes, it certainly didn't come across that way. I totally agree that married sex is the best sex. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/20 01:02 AM |
| 8 | Do you think that women are influenced to be sluts?The idea of having sex with multiple partners for pleasure in your thirties is not a concept aligned with TRP or really RPW. I agree that the other response was needlessly rude. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/20 12:54 AM |
| 2 | Do you think that women are influenced to be sluts?Y'all? Give it a minute. She'll be downvoted like crazy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/20 12:48 AM |
| 3 | Is my life over? 26, about to turn 27 and husband wants to leave meExactly. You'll be thirty in three years either way, OP. Do what you can before then. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/20 12:17 AM |
| 66 | Do you think that women are influenced to be sluts?At 27, my friends used to mock me and tell me I'd regrown my virginity, because I'd only really even kissed one man and had one sexual partner. All the women I hung out with would tell me I was being ridiculous and pressure me to have one-night-stands as they bragged about theirs. Of course, if I joked that they were sluts, I was the asshole. When I met my husband, we took it really slow. He'd been with plenty of women, but for the previous two years, he just hadn't been interested in the hook u… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/20 11:46 PM |
| 2 | I just reread an old romance novelMy husband is very much a touch person and an acts of service person. Any more than that usually comes off as cringey for me. It works in fantasy and not so much in reality. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/20 11:38 PM |
| 3 | I just reread an old romance novelYeah, I've never really had that problem, myself. Perhaps it's because I don't find the overly romantic guy especially attractive, so I don't read those romance novels. I haven't had any real trouble separating the myth from the man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/20 09:22 PM |
| 2 | I just reread an old romance novelI love romance novels. I'm totally unashamed. I tend to read more RP ones, though. Kristen Ashley has a bunch of "alpha male saves damsel" contemporary novels. The women are never slutty or full of bravado and they don't play hard to get. As another commenter mentioned, historical romances are a lot more traditional, too. They just aren't my taste. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/20 08:29 PM |
| 8 | I’ve lost everything.I'm just picturing someone munching on chips, asking this of an inconsolable woman. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/20 03:26 PM |
| 2 | Soon to be 25, just got out of a longer term relationship with a man 6 years older than me and I just found this sub. I think I ruined my last relationship due to being on the ‘feminist’ sideI would add to this, the recommended reading of Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough. It's from the perspective of a liberal, feminist, career-woman, who regrets her decisions to next good guys for lame reasons and assume she had all the time in the world. It's going to be more relatable and palatable to someone previously deeply entrenched in feminism. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/20 07:49 AM |
| 6 | How can a working-class woman hope to marry a MC/UMC man?She can absolutely go to community college or trade school and get an associate's degree or accreditation and get a good job, with little to no debt. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/20 07:36 AM |
| 3 | Fatherless Homes Suck: Perspectives from a Daughter Raised by a Single MomMy mother is extemely mentally unstable and won't seek help. She deliberately kept me from my father all through my teens, by telling me he molested me, because she knew I'd live with him just to get away from her physical abuse. She drugged me with 250 mg of Wellbutrin daily to make me easier to manage, for five years. My father feels deep remorse for leaving me with her and while he's not perfect now, he knows he wasn't the best dad when I was growing up and wants to make up for that. He's sor… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/20 09:45 PM |
| 2 | Fatherless Homes Suck: Perspectives from a Daughter Raised by a Single MomI understand that argument, but I also think if two people dedicate themselves to civility and respect, they can manage it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/20 09:42 PM |
| 26 | Dilemma...boyfriend is now spinning plates but now I am feeling weird.Men aren't all soulless monsters. Morality and love are absolutely a factor in monogamy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/20 05:32 PM |
| 39 | Fatherless Homes Suck: Perspectives from a Daughter Raised by a Single MomDivorce, one of the most common reasons for this, just sucks for kids. No one wants to talk about it, because it makes them feel bad about their own divorce, whether it was warranted (which seems to be rare) or not. My parents split when I was 10. My mom took me and my dad took my brother. Not only that, they later fought over who got my brother and who had to take me. My brother and I only see each other at Christmas, because we just didn't grow up together. We have no real attachment. I haven'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/20 03:17 AM |
| 5 | About to turn 27, and I've realized the truth about "The Wall"Yeah my remark about how often it comes up definitely extends to the real world, not just here. I mostly hate the oversimplified scare tactics here, as you've mentioned. I also rarely see anyone mention male factor infertility. There's a direct correlation between autism and the age of the father at conception, but that gets blamed on women too. Even when couples have trouble, the default is to blame the woman and send her through complicated tests, despite male tests being so very simple. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/20 11:42 PM |
| 2 | About to turn 27, and I've realized the truth about "The Wall"Absolutely it's about risk, but it is frustrating how little it's addressed I feel frustrated with how often it's addressed, but I also live in the South, where everyone is done having children by 25. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/20 08:36 PM |
| 13 | About to turn 27, and I've realized the truth about "The Wall"You can also look amazing and have a low egg reserve, which has no signs or symptoms. Or you can be super healthy and have a whole mess of eggs and marry someone with a dreadfully low sperm count. The "30/35 is the kiss of death" mantra that people like to cite here is really just not that simple. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/20 05:27 PM |
| 29 | About to turn 27, and I've realized the truth about "The Wall"I've met very few 27-year-olds who look anything near disgusting, without all of these extreme measures. I'm glad it's worked out for you, but I don't think it's necessary. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/20 03:31 PM |
| 43 | About to turn 27, and I've realized the truth about "The Wall"> So I have spent the past 8 years wearing sunscreen every two hours, eating 100% clean food (not even birthday cake), drinking minimally, and going to bed on time. This sounds miserable. I'm aware that my mantra of "I'd rather have hips and red gummy worms than no hips and no red gummy worms," is not exactly RPW gospel, but you have to live a little. My husband never would have gone for a woman who wouldn't even eat a piece of cake. I'm all for healthy choices, but I didn't take it anywhere nea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/20 03:04 PM |
| 8 | From Career Focused —>Family FocusedIn 2016, I was thrilled to start my first full time librarian job... as an entry level manager. I was 28 and dating my husband and really just wanted to work full time as a librarian, but the opportunity arose and in such a competitive field, I couldn't bring myself to turn it down, especially since I was working half time and substitute teaching. So I found myself a lead librarian with seven direct reports, literally over night. My pay more than doubled and I attended meetings with the most est… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/20 02:52 PM |
| 4 | Not sure if this the right sub, question about Abstinence.I understand why. I think that's something to consider, though, that it may not turn out to be the beautiful moment you always wanted. I'm not trying to discourage you, but it is a possibility. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/20 03:17 AM |
| 5 | Not sure if this the right sub, question about Abstinence.You should check out r/christianmarriage. They frequently have this discussion and many of them waited until marriage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/04/20 11:51 PM |
| 25 | Gossip at workI know that women working can be a controversial topic on this thread but I’m reaching out to all of you anyway. It shouldn't be. What works for your family is your business. Managers are human and some of them aren't very good at some parts of their job. It sounds like that might be the case here. This criticism is ridiculous and she can't police your "holier than thou" attitude, even if she feels that way, so it's really pretty unprofessional for her to bring it up without pretty outstanding e… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/04/20 12:20 AM |
| 5 | Married RedPill Ladies, where should I begin?She's also really good with disclaimers about how something only applies to Christian women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/20 10:38 PM |
| 6 | Help for a beginner?Start with Mrs. Midwest. She's likely younger than you, but she has some great basics lessons. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/20 09:36 PM |
| 3 | Biting your tongue/STFU during QuarantineI think knowing each other's cues is really important, along with not sending mixed messages. My husband, for instance, knows that if I say "leave me alone," I mean leave me alone. I can't STFU if he badgers me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/20 05:36 PM |
| 3 | Can we have less lax rules on male commenters?If red pill men are not what red pill women are looking for why should their perspective matter here? Genuine question, it’s been something that has been on my mind for a while now. The good commenters from TRP are well-versed in the indisputable facts of TRP and can often offer a valuable male perspective in general, not just a TRP perspective... but I do agree that a lot of "As a man, I agree..." posts have cropped up lately. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/20 12:04 AM |
| 7 | New Here! What was your "ah ha" moment of becoming "Red Pilled"?Oh, I just mean that the point of RPW is that we're not adhering to the modern female standard. We don't spend our twenties having indiscriminate sex and getting fat and we don't wear our jammies and messy buns on dates, when we do land a guy. It's not unreasonable to think this refusal to adhere would mean that we choose not to come home from work and ignore our children and husbands for TV and social media, supporting the noting that it's not possible to excel in certain careers and a home lif… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/20 09:21 PM |
| 10 | New Here! What was your "ah ha" moment of becoming "Red Pilled"?It's generally advised that women avoid the male TRP subs. I, myself, am married with a master's degree and work in a very competitive field. Fortunately, it's pretty family friendly, but plenty of the women here have full-time careers and families. The entire point of RPW is to go against the grain, so I don't think it's any more of a stretch to do so as a wife and mother with a career, than as a single dating woman. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/20 08:42 PM |
| 19 | New Here! What was your "ah ha" moment of becoming "Red Pilled"?I first discovered the male side of TRP, through Ian Ironwood's blog, The Red Pill Room. This is not a woman friendly space and I read many of his posts in horror, with an unconscious acknowledgement that his facts were usually correct, despite his commentary. After a couple of years of reading around the manosphere and putting some of the tips into practice, I found RPW. In general, I found it a lot more palatable to read about women bettering themselves in response to the same facts I'd found … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/20 08:09 PM |
| 2 | Help raising boyIt is fascinating to me how the dna shows up so different. Personality is somewhat hereditary, I'm aware, but her rudeness is not genetic. As another commenter mentioned, letting her have her way in the moment is setting the example for everyone. Don't punish her by letting her be unbearable, because "that's just the way she is," or she might find herself in the same situation you are, regretting that things didn't work out with a man who wouldn't stand up to her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/20 03:07 PM |
| 3 | A great way to read psychology books for freeMarry Him: the Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough, by Lori Gottlieb. It's less scandalous than it sounds. A forty-something woman talks about what she wishes she'd done differently at 27. She talks about great men she blew off for stupid reasons and how she thought she had all the time in the world. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/20 02:50 PM |
| 3 | Help raising boyHe finds my Mother incredibly infuriating and thinks I am an amusing but reckless lunatic. If the time comes, leave that off the dating profile. 😉 | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/20 02:47 PM |
| 3 | Help raising boyAgreed. My brother and I fought like angry kittens and his wife walks all over him... like cliche oil wife, who demands $800 shoes to wear to her teaching job and then complains that he's not around enough... that kind of walks all over him. If he'd learned not to engage, as children, he might not have let things get this bad. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/20 02:46 PM |
| 3 | How did you meet your men/husbands?I'm in the South, where people can be very, anti-Catholic. My goal was a Christian who was comfortable with Catholicism and might even attend Mass. My husband was very lapsed, non-denominational, when we met. He went to Mass every week and even attended a Bible study group with me, right up until coronavirus. He's even mentioned converting a couple of times, but that's all up to him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/20 02:35 PM |
| 101 | Relationship questionWhen everyone on r/relationships tells you to leave, roll your eyes. When everyone on r/RedPillWomen tells you to leave, lace up your running shoes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/20 05:06 AM |
| 19 | How did you meet your men/husbands?I met my husband online, long after college and grad school had passed. Meeting someone at work wasn't really an option, since my field is notoriously liberal and I was seeking the opposite. I'm also a big believer in not swimming in the company pool, when I knew I wanted to build my career there. Church didn't work for me, since Catholics don't have much of an outlet for young singles. Mutual friends didn't really work, because my friends weren't likely to know the kinds of men I'd want to date… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/20 02:31 AM |
| 1 | How were you prepared for disaster?We're creating a garden right now. Fortunately, Home Depot is still open. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/20 09:03 PM |
| 1 | I'm starting to lose it. How do I get it back?I actually think it's totally okay to be handling this well or concentrating on dressing nice and being well-made-up. It's fine to be putting energy into productivity. I spent the day baking banana bread and making masks, while listening to an audiobook. I just don't think its fair to hold a little despair and its many manifestations against anyone in a global pandemic and the nature of RPW tends to lean toward "pull up your big girl panties and deal." | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/20 09:02 PM |
| 1 | I'm starting to lose it. How do I get it back?It was the Sims for me... and That's 70s Show... and Twilight. No lie. I was in my early 20s and there was just something about watching teens who hadn't destroyed their lives fall in love, that made me hopeful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/20 08:58 PM |
| 1 | I'm starting to lose it. How do I get it back?If you have a library card, you should see if your library has downloadables on Libby. That's where I get most of mine, cuz I'm cheap. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/20 07:54 PM |
| 5 | I'm starting to lose it. How do I get it back?I wasn't knocking the positivity, so much as the downvotes of people admitting that this has been hard. Haha. I saw that post, actually, and if you genuinely think it would be too much for you, it's good that you know that. You can indulge in many ways beyond food, too. Choose a favorite show or book series or online game and just enjoy yourself for a little while. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/20 07:06 PM |
| 1 | I'm starting to lose it. How do I get it back?I've been listening to so many audiobooks, while walking. I feel a little more productive and I'm entertained. There's nothing wrong with a little escape. Also, I love urban fantasy. Which one? | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/20 07:03 PM |
| 6 | I'm starting to lose it. How do I get it back?The living together without being married is not good. I think that may be the central stressor underneath this all. Playing house with no ring. A test run. This is a very controversial comment and I don’t know that you’d be able to move out without it looking like the wrong thing, but keep this in mind. I actually read this thinking that the level of security marriage offers is really nice when my husband and I are stress bickering. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/20 06:01 PM |
| 23 | I'm starting to lose it. How do I get it back?Well, first of all, thank you for admitting that this is getting to you. If I read one more post about how awesome everyone is handling isolation... all the cooking and cleaning they're getting done with perfect hair and nails, with all of the negative comments downvoted... I'm going to have to delete my account. This sucks and it's okay to say so. I'm sorry we're all going through this and you're not wrong to struggle. I'm starting to feel like a dog. I'm stuck here at home then my boyfriend co… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/20 05:41 PM |
| 8 | What are your online dating experiences?I have a coworker who uses it and he's definitely given reports that the few who are looking for something serious have left. I never actually met anyone on it, myself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/20 04:16 PM |
| 9 | Guy on Hinge gave me his phone number, what does this mean?I always hated chatting through the apps. I'd give my number pretty early and move to text, then meet. Obviously meeting isn't an option so maybe FaceTime or a phone call would be a good next step. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/20 03:22 PM |
| 31 | What are some unwritten rules you follow in your home for the sake of your SO?Do most red pill women agree with OP on this issue? I've never been on board with this idea. I rarely turn my husband down for sex, but if I'm just not feeling it, to the point that I know I won't be able to get in the mood, I say so. I'm a woman with her own thoughts, feelings, frustrations, and stresses and I am 100% allowed to decline any invitation. He's a grown man. He can handle it. Not only that, he would feel terrible if he felt like he pressured me to do something I didn't want to do. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/20 03:19 PM |
| 11 | What are your online dating experiences?I had Christianity listed in my profile and got "Jesus is against Tinder" as an opener once. "Oh, really? What verse is that?" "Tinder is a meat market." "Maybe for some, but I've never done anything on here I couldn't tell my dad about." Tinder was not successful for me. I do know people who met their spouses on there, though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/20 03:13 PM |
| 6 | What are your online dating experiences?I met my husband online. I met men organically and online, but I found online dating to be preferable, because you could vet for religion, politics, employment, and relationship history... all things you can't ask in an organic first meet... upfront. I would suggest taking it offline as soon as you feel safe doing so, so you're getting to know a real person. If you're not in college, this is going to be one of the best ways to find a good man, outside of church and mature mutual friends. The oth… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/20 03:11 PM |
| 7 | What does it say about a woman who all of her pictures she posts online are of her, mostly showing off her body in provocative ways?I'd say selfies should never be provocative and should exist in about a 1/10 ratio. So for every 10 photos of the book you're reading or your cat or that dinner with the family, you get one selfie. In general, I'd say less social media is more. Social media, as a whole, often comes off as validation seeking if you're especially active, particularly to men. There's "keeping in touch" levels, where you post a few times a week, but beyond that, I wouldn't suggest posting much. Now, I'm about to get… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/20 07:28 PM |
| 2 | What are some key things that gain a man's respect?Calmly holding your ground, whether on your personal viewpoints or just boundaries in general is key. My husband and I don't agree on everything, so it's important to be able to stand my ground in a rational, polite manner. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/20 06:50 PM |
| 4 | Red Pill Women, do you cut off your exes for good, leaving the past in the past, or do you reconnect/think about being friends down the line?I think this is about as much contact as is healthy, if there are no kids involved. "I heard your grandmother died. I'm so sorry. Can I have your mother's address to send a card? She was always so sweet to me." The end. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/20 05:34 PM |
| 1 | Red Pill Women, do you cut off your exes for good, leaving the past in the past, or do you reconnect/think about being friends down the line?Disappointed. I thought it was gonna be Lips of an Angel. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/20 05:26 PM |
| 8 | An Au Pair's perspective on RPWThinking of sex, finding a woman attractive, sure. Leering at your hired help to the point of making them so uncomfortable they have to change their clothes? No. If that's the men you're finding on TRP, I'd say thats precisely one of the reasons women here are frequently advised to avoid them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/20 05:18 PM |
| 6 | Red Pill Women, do you cut off your exes for good, leaving the past in the past, or do you reconnect/think about being friends down the line?To what end would you keep contact? This only seems like it would cause drama in future relationships. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/20 05:16 PM |
| – | Gratitude: What are you thankful for?I could get away with not doing anything, but if they have to make tough decisions, I want to know I've done all I can to exclude myself from that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/20 05:15 PM |
| – | Gratitude: What are you thankful for?I am so thankful that I'm being paid while being home for at least six weeks and that I've found ways to do my job from home so I can continue to justify that pay. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/20 04:42 PM |
| 2 | Do you find that insecure men have a problem with "confident" women?Yeah I'd rather date a confident Wal-Mart manager than an insecure doctor. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/20 04:41 PM |
| 8 | An Au Pair's perspective on RPWNot all men are like that. You work for a creep. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/20 02:42 PM |
| 3 | OrbitersIf he's into you, you'll know. If he's not, you'll be confused. It sounds like you have your answer. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/20 02:38 PM |
| 5 | Guys brag about loving pussy but don’t take the time to learn how to really please his woman...why?What kind of response are you looking for? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/20 02:06 AM |
| 2 | How were you prepared for disaster?The thing that upsets me the most is knowing how bad it will get for other people and the fact that I may have to disregard their plight in order to take care of my own family. I agree. I'd love to donate more or spend more money for the sake of the economy, but I don't know how long this will last or what it will mean for my family, financially. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/20 12:09 AM |
| 9 | Do you find that insecure men have a problem with "confident" women?I only ever had this issue on first or second dates. It was a hard next if he was insecure. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 11:14 PM |
| 2 | How were you prepared for disaster?We keep a well-stocked pantry in general, and purchased extra essentials as soon as we heard about COVID and heard of lockdowns happening elsewhere. We're well-stocked as well. I had some food insecurity issues in my early twenties, though, so we're much better stocked now. a) Our healthcare system in Australia, which is really great. Knowing that people won't avoid getting treatment due to cost is important. Definitely a concern here, even though my insurance is great, because I know a lot of p… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 11:06 PM |
| 3 | How were you prepared for disaster?It was mid-March when I was stocking up and people were still calling me crazy. My dad literally told me "people are so (expletive) stupid" only to call a week later to make sure I wasn't leaving the house. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 11:03 PM |
| 4 | How were you prepared for disaster?Me: THE WORLD IS ENDING! Husband: These are all the reasons the world is not ending. Me: We're all gonna die! | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 11:01 PM |
| 7 | Clothes that lastI also wear my dresses a couple of time before washing them, if it's not really hot out. But yes, "dry clean only" means "gentle cycle with prayer." | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 10:46 PM |
| 3 | How were you prepared for disaster?My Gramma was my rock for 27 years before my husband took on the role. I worry for her. I worry for my career, though I don't think it's at much risk. I worry I'll we'll survive financially if the unthinkable happens, even though we're doing pretty well. I worry about my husband getting sick, since he's essential. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 10:45 PM |
| 3 | How were you prepared for disaster?I mean... i'm kind of having a shit fit now. Lol. I can't imagine being 22 and in my senior year, newly divorced, and going through this. I'd have ended up living with my grandmother, undoubtedly. I don't know how I'd have finished my student teaching. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 10:36 PM |
| 8 | Clothes that lastI find department store clothes last me a good long while. If those places are still open in six months, I wouldn't turn my nose up at them. I think how you wash these things can make a big difference. I wash everything in Woolite Dark detergent and make sure to put my bras in mesh bags. I use cold water on delicate. I hang dry most of my clothes. I have dresses that look fine after years of wear and they're largely from places like Old Navy and Kohl's and JCPenney. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 10:33 PM |
| 3 | How were you prepared for disaster?Younger me would have been an idiot. This would have ruined my life 10 years ago. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 10:27 PM |
| 2 | Are Homemakers Doing Better Than Feminists During COVID 19 Shut Down?These comments about day drinking in order to deal with children at home while teaching and taking conference calls simultaneously make me wonder if these women are closet alcoholics. I’d be extremely concerned about my friends’ mental health if they started slugging back bottles of wine and stopped showering. I mean, I would hope most of these are jokes, but I don't know. I don't have social media and this pandemic has made me so much happier with that decision. I don't actually see these memes… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 10:24 PM |
| 34 | Do you find that insecure men have a problem with "confident" women?This was an issue I had when dating, occasionally. I would go out with really successful men and a couple really took issue with my level of education. It was strange, because I didn't emphasize it heavily and it was in an entirely different field, but they seemed really threatened by it, going so far as to insult my degree or career. One of the things I loved about my husband, was that he was so confident it never bothered him. He asked about my job, without assumption or implication. He's incr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 10:17 PM |
| 6 | How were you prepared for disaster?Personally, I'm very stressed. It had already been a hard year, so a global pandemic was sort of a gut punch. I'm kind of a high-strung person in general, but now I'm home all day worrying about the state of things and the other things going on in our personal life. Work was a great, fulfilling distraction. Although it's been rough emotionally, we weren't totally unprepared logistically. My husband and I have spent the last few years working to get ourselves into an ideal financial position. We … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 10:14 PM |
| 4 | Anniversary Ideas in Lock-DownI wish I could. He's like the least sentimental person I've ever met. I basically married Ron Swanson. If I recreated a special dinner or something, there's no way he'd even realize it and his appreciation would even be limited to "Hmm... that's nice." A day randomly mauling each other would probably be appreciated, though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 09:08 PM |
| 3 | RPW Episode 6: Leftism Is A LuxuryRight, I just meant that we have more choices today and that's really nice. We can aspire to any of those ideals or make new ones. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 08:55 PM |
| 2 | Anniversary Ideas in Lock-DownWell, he's still working every day, which is part of why I've done all of these special things I'd normally do for a special at-home anniversary. He has to actually go out and exist in this crazy world, while I sometimes do my job at home and read and watch Netflix. I've sort of used up all the treats and short of being an ungrateful jerk for the next month, I'm not sure how to create something special. Lingerie may be just the right idea. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 08:42 PM |
| 3 | Anniversary Ideas in Lock-DownI'm thinking maybe a staycation day like that might be good. All of my days are staycations lately, but he's still business as usual, so he probably would appreciate this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 08:16 PM |
| 4 | Anniversary Ideas in Lock-DownYou know, the anniversary of our first date is in June, so perhaps that would be a better time to celebrate. We do have an acre of land and a pretty large house, so maybe a chill night on the patio by a fire would be best. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 07:21 PM |
| 2 | Anniversary Ideas in Lock-DownHaha. Very true. For better or for worse... | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 06:40 PM |
| 5 | Anniversary Ideas in Lock-DownLol, he's had both in the last week, but noted. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 06:39 PM |
| 6 | RPW Episode 6: Leftism Is A LuxuryAgreed that this is ideal for many, but I think it was pretty rare, as Pearl stated. I know in the 50s, my grandma was working full time and pulling the "second shift" while her husband watched TV. It was even worse when she was divorced. She told me once that she had to have her dad co-sign so she could buy a lawnmower, because she was a woman. My other grandma actually told her that my mother wasn't good enough, because she came from a "broken home." Hypocritically, she was divorced as well an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 05:47 PM |
| 2 | Are Homemakers Doing Better Than Feminists During COVID 19 Shut Down?Hold up...this comment is from a person who JUST began staying at home? She's said January a few times. I really just think different women thrive differently. I have coworkers who are amazing parents, truly, but if they stayed home all day, that wouldn't be true. They need another outlet for their creativity/energy, to be around other adults and just other people, and at the end of that, they're excited to be with their family, which makes them far more enjoyable to be around. I had a really tr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 05:40 PM |
| 3 | RPW Episode 6: Leftism Is A LuxuryMy grandparents have never shared a room in my entire life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 05:25 PM |
| 4 | RPW Episode 6: Leftism Is A LuxuryI'm pretty sure typing is traditionally a feminine task. 😉 | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 04:54 PM |
| 2 | RPW Episode 6: Leftism Is A LuxuryCan there be a transcript? I'd love to read a transcript. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 04:42 PM |
| 1 | RPW Episode 6: Leftism Is A LuxuryWhat are you even talking about? You have written lengthy posts but how awful your teaching job was, which was my very basis for the comment on your working experience. I cited you. I didn't criticize you. It's just exhausting that you keep making these long posts about how fulfilling staying home is (which is so awesome for you, genuinely), but include all sorts of patronizing and generalizing statements about people who work, because some woman on Facebook keeps posting tacky memes. I might lo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 04:11 PM |
| 2 | RPW Episode 6: Leftism Is A LuxuryYou're just being rude at this point, so I'm done. I guess the hours you spend judging social media posts and memes and being snarky on the internet, as opposed to fulfilling your family's every need, are just the hours I spend making money. To each their own. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 03:56 PM |
| 2 | Are Homemakers Doing Better Than Feminists During COVID 19 Shut Down?I think most people who are working from home are just super grateful to still have jobs. I know I am. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 03:52 PM |
| 2 | RPW Episode 6: Leftism Is A LuxuryIt is bizarre to me that being with ones own children is not high on the priority list. That's what I'm saying. I'm sorry if that was not clearly indicated. You're saying it on every post, though, and usually in very presumptive ways. Who is saying that their children aren't first on their priorities? Who are these people and why are you friends with them? What I am saying is sad that parents don't want to raise their kids and would rather spend all day in a career and find that more fulfilling … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 03:39 PM |
| 6 | Laser hair removalThe time is my deal-breaker for this. I live in a suburb on the very far outskirts of the city, bordering on rural. It would take a couple of hours each session and I can shave everything in 15 minutes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 03:31 PM |
| 4 | Are Homemakers Doing Better Than Feminists During COVID 19 Shut Down?I think getting off social media would help a lot of people during this quarantine. Other peoples negativity during this time sounds exhausting. The mommy wars always wore me out and it seems everyone being at home has made it much worse. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 03:28 PM |
| 2 | Are Homemakers Doing Better Than Feminists During COVID 19 Shut Down?I think one of the details we're missing here is that the women struggling with kids at home are still working. Of course they don't know what to do with the children. They're on a conference call. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 03:26 PM |
| 2 | Are Homemakers Doing Better Than Feminists During COVID 19 Shut Down?Your career mom friends would probably benefit from your wisdom and experience of being a homemaker, and you can offer support and homemaking/scheduling/organizing tips rather than being condescending that they choose to work, for whatever myriad of reasons they may have. Just a thought. :) Maybe after more than four months at home, she'll be able to do that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 03:25 PM |
| 5 | RPW Episode 6: Leftism Is A LuxurySo, am I the only one who thinks it’s sad that you look down upon someone who chooses to raise their children like my parents raised me? No. You're not. These judgemental comments are exhausting. I was a daycare kid and daycare gave me structured play time with other kids every day. I didn't cry on my first day of kindergarten or when mom dropped me off at grandma's. I was social and prepared for the school years. That experience is super normal for middle class America. I've taught kindergarten… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 03:20 PM |
| 5 | A character problemYour issue is the anger and aggressiveness. It's okay to contradict someone, especially when you're talking about facts. It's not okay to yell at people for it. When you get to this point, you need to just excuse yourself from the conversation. Go to the bathroom. Check on the food in the oven. Fake a phone call if you must. Remember that you're not any less right, just because someone else is intent on being wrong. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 03:03 PM |
| 13 | Laser hair removalI think the biggest thing to keep in mind is that it's a long-term commitment. It's going to take multiple sessions and dollars to get a lasting result. You're not going in all fuzzy and coming out hairless as a sphinx cat in one day. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 02:59 PM |
| 1 | Are Homemakers Doing Better Than Feminists During COVID 19 Shut Down?I know another person commented that they're able to do it all with a 50 hour work week, but I really have a hard time believing that it can be done well over the long term. At some point - something has to give, whether it's your mental/emotional/physical health, your family, your finances as you outsource other people to help you in home tasks, etc. Just because both spouses working didn't work for your family, doesn't mean it's not the better option for others. If this pandemic has taught me … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/20 11:49 PM |
| 6 | So how are you and your man holding up during these tough times?I noticed a lot of down votes, too. Im sorry. What I meant to say was "just baking away, in nothing but my apron and a smile!" | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/20 09:39 PM |
| 3 | To my fellow red pill ladies that wear makeup: How do you, personally, justify wearing makeup?I wear makeup for the same reasons I don't wear pajamas every day. I like to look pretty. It makes me feel good, but also capable. People take me more seriously when I'm dressed professionally and makeup is a part of that. I look like I care about their perception. My eyes look bigger, so I look more awake and welcoming. Makeup highlights my natural beauty. Why wouldn't I want to do that? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/20 09:37 PM |
| 3 | what are Easy hobbies that impress men and are not basic?Well, I personally love alpha male leads with sassy heroines, probably because I can relate. Kristen Ashley has a bunch of great Cop Saves Sassy Damsel books, many in series taking place in the same universe. My favorites are Mystery Man and Breathe. I'm rereading Samantha Young's On Dublin Street and loving it as a contemporary. I don't usually have the attention span for erotica, but Bared to You was far superior to Fifty Shades. My favorite paranormal romance is probably Kresley Cole's Immort… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/20 08:53 PM |
| 22 | Husband is against botox, but I really want to try it. Thoughts?I agree with you. My husband hates short hair and tattoos. That takes them off the table for me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/20 08:26 PM |
| 4 | Are Homemakers Doing Better Than Feminists During COVID 19 Shut Down?Most women have to work out of the economic necessity and/or to relieve their husband of all that financial pressure. I don't know that this is true or fair. I work because I love my job and the impact it makes on the world. I've never thought I had it in me to stay home and this pandemic has only solidified that. Also, being a feminist and a homemaker is not mutually exclusive; nor is being a non-feminist and working... I completely agree. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/20 08:24 PM |
| 7 | So how are you and your man holding up during these tough times?My husband is genuinely so even-keeled that he's not really worried about this to the extent of the rest of the country. He's taking it seriously. He doesn't believe it's a conspiracy or anything. He's talked his parents out of having everyone over for Easter and doesn't want to take unnecessary trips, but he's truly solid during all of this. We're financially stable and he believes we'll get through it and in a few months, everything will be okay, if a little different... ... which is great, be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/20 08:22 PM |
| 11 | what are Easy hobbies that impress men and are not basic?I hated knitting, but I love crochet and sewing. I like to paint. There are so many free painting tutorials online and they're a lot of fun. I have my own art hanging in our house now and afghans I've crocheted laying around with blankets I've sewn. Edit to add: Who cares if it's basic, if you enjoy it? I love romance novels and coffee. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/20 01:57 PM |
| 3 | Hypergamy ruined my relationship with the man who should be my husband. Can I fix this?Looking through my past comments, I can't find it. I know it was deleted. I can tell you that the words " The relationship was beautiful and he was absolutely perfect. Saying that he treated me like gold would be an understatement" feel like a direct quote. OP's account is a year old, though, so it may just be coincidence. As Tea says, it's a common story. This one just seems very similar, as another commenter stated. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/20 01:43 PM |
| 6 | Hypergamy ruined my relationship with the man who should be my husband. Can I fix this?You can look through my history and tell me if I've ever cried fake, but I'm doubtful that this is real, because it reads so close to one posted about a month ago that everyone was able to prove was a guy from TRP. Maybe it's coincidence, but some of the phrasing is shockingly similar. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/20 03:09 AM |
| 1 | Cut my hair?Lol, the cartoon kid. I Google it and it says his name is Alfred E. Neuman. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/20 03:04 AM |
| 14 | Raising boys and girls!I fully agree. I work with a variety of teens and the gender confused ones usually come from a home with one extreme view or another. A boy who likes pink is just a boy who likes pink. A girl who likes to dig for worms is just a girl who likes to dig for worms. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/20 12:44 AM |
| 3 | Where Will You/Did You Find a Trad Husband?I met my husband through online dating. I'd met guys in person or through friends, but there was always this weird question of whether or not he was into me and if so, for what? Online dating allowed me to vet for those things, before the first meet. Was he Christian, well-employed, looking for marriage and family? I know these things before I met anyone and I know he was meeting me with romantic intent. It really took a lot of stress out of getting to know each other. I changed my tactic with R… | /r/RedPillWives | 08/04/20 12:42 AM |
| 2 | COVID19 and the hypocrisy of modern feminismWe're all going crazy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/20 12:37 AM |
| 2 | COVID19 and the hypocrisy of modern feminismOh, it's definitely part of bias and even generational poverty for many. But there are lots of discussions not being had about who this disease effects and why. The impact on men could be turned to a discussion of what leads them to the behaviors that make them more susceptible. I don't know that I feel the current conversation, worldwide, is only sexist. It's conveniently selective and exclusionary in many ways and I think it's okay to be upset about that. I feel like the people insisting, repe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/20 08:04 PM |
| 2 | How to avoid awkwardness with a guy who made a pass at me, but i wasn't interested in? And how to avoid leading guys on in the future?Finally. I've been waiting for this answer. It's not OP's fault for taking him at face value, but if a guy wants to come over alone, especially if he invites himself over, he's likely into you romantically. Fortunately my husband and I met just as "Netflix and Chill" was becoming popular, so I never ended up in this situation, but I would have 100% thought it just meant hanging out. Ironically, being married is what's given me insight into what men really meant all along. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/20 07:51 PM |
| 5 | Cut my hair?It's your hair. Do what you want with it. I don't mean that his opinion doesn't matter. It does. He's also being quite clear that it's okay with him if you cut it, so if you want to cut it, go for it. If you like it long, keep it long. Personally, my husband and I have a deal that if I cut my hair, he shaves his beard and he looks like the kid from Mad TV without a beard. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/20 06:23 PM |
| 10 | COVID19 and the hypocrisy of modern feminismI live in a very conservative area, where most men I know (my husband included) are in manual labor and still working, whereas my liberal, female dominated field has been out for three weeks. There is definitely less regard for men's health here during this crisis, because people want their water and electricity running. I also know a lot of "health at every size" champions, in my very left job, so it seemed like a valid comparison to me, because I guarantee they aren't willing to discuss that r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/20 05:46 PM |
| 9 | COVID19 and the hypocrisy of modern feminismI deleted my comment because it didn't clarify that I wasn't agreeing with OP, so much as bring up another way that people are picking and choosing from facts that make them feel like the proper social justice warriors, as they talk about this virus. It's not just the impact on men that people aren't discussing. Healthy at any size just means obese people can still make positive lifestyle changes, and live healthy even if they never successfully drop the weight. That is literally not the message… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/20 05:37 PM |
| 18 | COVID19 and the hypocrisy of modern feminismBlack American women die at disproportionate rates in childbirth, controlling for SES and health factors (obesity etc). Are we also angry about that? Lots of people are angry about that. I saw a front page reddit thread about it just today. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/20 05:32 PM |
| 30 | COVID19 and the hypocrisy of modern feminismI said people, not doctors. OP was pretty clearly talking about general buzz among laypeople, not doctors and engineers, since someone obviously has to be reporting these things for us to even know about them, but whatever. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/20 05:17 PM |
| 114 | COVID19 and the hypocrisy of modern feminismI agree that there would be more outrage were those numbers reversed, but no one is discussing the impact of obesity or obesity impacted preexisting conditions either... because fat is beautiful and you can be healthy at any size. 🙄 Edit to Clarify: I think a lot of people are picking and choosing where to place their outrage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/20 03:12 PM |
| 4 | Important questions to ask during courtship/datingTelling my now-husband how much I owed in student debt was terrifying, but he deserved to know after a given amount of time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/20 08:07 PM |
| 10 | Important questions to ask during courtship/datingMoney. I definitely second money. How does he feel about it, a means to an end, the ultimate security, something he'd rather not think about (🚩)? How does he spend it? How does he save it? These questions could potentially be more important than how much he actually earns. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/20 07:21 PM |
| 17 | Important questions to ask during courtship/datingI'd say this is the merit of steering the conversation toward these topics, as opposed to outright asking. Listening to stories about his family is going to provide much more genuine information than asking how he gets along with them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/20 07:15 PM |
| 62 | Important questions to ask during courtship/datingI don't know that direct questions are as helpful as getting him to talk about the following organically, but these are the topics I would suggest you steer him toward: What was his childhood like? Does he have a favorite memory? What was the worst thing that happened to him growing up? How does he feel about his family? Do they get along or do they have a somewhat complicated relationship? If so, is it bad blood or just differences in personality? What are his personal beliefs and stances, from… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/20 06:21 PM |
| 3 | My husband is putting me and children at great risk.Yes, the one that protects almost half the country every year. No one agrees with you. No one here or in the medical community agrees or is being influenced by your arguments. Why are are you fighting this so hard? Go take your family to a closed playground or have a 50 person barbecue. Do something useful with your time. You just seem to be arguing to argue at this point. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/20 02:30 PM |
| 7 | My husband is putting me and children at great risk.There's also a vaccine for the flu. If there weren't, we would totally shut the country down for it... like that one time when we did, cuz everyone was dying. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/20 05:36 PM |
| 1 | Biggest problems in your relationshipHe's perfect for me and hopefully I can go back to making his life easier soon. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/20 02:25 PM |
| 12 | Transitioning to full time workAn old manager once reminded me that, although I taught all day before coming to my half-time librarian job, I was not the same authority figure at the library. Remember that. Don't talk to your husband like a child or an irrational parent, as I think that's the greatest risk as a teacher. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/20 02:04 PM |
| 2 | Biggest problems in your relationshipI am really struggling with Covid-19. I'm home all the time worrying and have these highs and lows throughout the day that are completely exhausting. It doesn't help that I can't sleep because of the stress. My husband has been super supportive, but I hate being such a chore for him. I've actually just been approved for a medical marijuana card, so I can treat the problem, without taking prescription medication like Xanax, which can lead to dependency. I'm hoping this helps me level out through … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/20 02:02 PM |
| 10 | What value does your man bring to your life?He can be much more accepting and forgiving of my struggles than I am. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/20 03:56 PM |
| 9 | How to date in late twenties to get commitment from guys who are also late twentiesMy husband was 30 when I met him at 27 and I completely agree. I did find that most men, in my region, who were mid-thirties either had too much baggage or wanted to marry yesterday, but early 30s was totally doable, even in a state where people tend to marry early. A 27-year-old can just as easily be divorced with kids in these parts, so why limit by age? | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/20 03:22 PM |
| 48 | What value does your man bring to your life?He takes me exactly as I am. He's never embarrassed or annoyed by my dorkiness or awkwardness. He can handle how high strung I can be and accepts my highs and lows during this stressful time, without making me feel bad about them. We are extraordinarily different people, but he just accepts it. He's a natural leader and I never feel like I have to do everything. It's so nice to know that he'll do his share without a fight. The bills will get paid and the lawn will get mowed and the kitchen will … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/20 03:15 PM |
| 38 | How can I learn to accept that SMV means everything to men?When I was 23, I found myself newly divorced from a terrifying relationship, weighing 275 pounds at 5'6". In the next couple of years, I lost over 100 pounds. I finally had the money to eat healthy and the time and motivation to workout, because this time, I was going to find a good man. As I'm sure you already know, when you're fat, no one is openly cruel to you. No, they'd have to see you for that. You're simply invisible, to the cute guy flirting with your friends, your professors, even poten… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/20 02:24 PM |
| 9 | What are some red flags of a potentially domestically violent/emotionally abusive man?There are a lot of screening methods, that should be a natural part of the vetting process, which should help you figure out whether or not a man is abusive. For instance: Does he raise his voice when he's angry, not just at you, but his brother, the dog, another driver? Does he ever take his anger out physically, such as by breaking things? Are people in his life nervous around him or afraid of his anger? Does he share his thoughts on your choices in a respectful way? The other day, I was weari… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/20 05:04 PM |
| 12 | Remember to put in the effort for the man who matters most in your life!I actually asked my husband once, if he was disappointed that I take off my cute dresses when I get home. He's a very practical guy, has never enjoyed truly high-maintenance women, and told me quite clearly that he thought it would be stupid for me to sit around in dresses and flats at home. If I can make it through this pandemic well-groomed, without gaining weight, I'm happy and so is he. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/20 03:16 PM |
| 61 | Remember to put in the effort for the man who matters most in your life!I've been home for three weeks now and I haven't worn one of my cute work dresses or a full face of makeup even once. My husband doesn't expect me to, either, because we're in a freaking pandemic. I shave my legs, keep myself well-groomed, and put on concealer when I have to be on a web-cam for work. Otherwise, I'm in athletic shorts and tank tops every day. My husband cares a lot more about me being pleasant to be around during these stressful times, than he does what I'm wearing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/20 02:02 PM |
| – | Simple QuestionsYou'll see that said verbatim from time to time, that you want a man with the right beta traits. "Beta" in RP terms would include taking care of you when you're sick or helping with childcare. It actually pisses my husband off to see those traits called "beta." | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/20 04:54 AM |
| – | Simple QuestionsMy husband and I also have a very traditional relationship. He has a very natural balance of alpha and beta traits. He also finds the Red Pill generally revolting. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/20 02:12 AM |
| 1 | Any movie suggestions with good female role models?Jo ultimately concedes that her writings are trash and marries the professor to run his boys' home and have his babies. There are plenty of articles out there on how Jo isn't feminist at all, how nothing about that story is feminist, and feminists are stupid for thinking otherwise. Regardless, there are four other feminine role models in that story. Amy's story arch is particularly moving. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/20 02:59 PM |
| 6 | How to deal with online dating?I also refuse to online date. Depending on where you are in life, you're limiting your opportunities (even outside of a pandemic). Most people have a presence on online dating sites. If you're a college student, who takes full advantage of every opportunity to meet men organically, you may be making up for it, but if you're past that stage of life, you're missing out on a lot of chances to meet good men and vet them beforehand for things like family focus and career achievements. I need to read … | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/20 12:41 AM |
| 1 | Being a reliable first mate and taking care of the home routineI tried not to be accusatory. It definitely came off as an uneven split. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/20 11:33 PM |
| 25 | Being a reliable first mate and taking care of the home routineMy husband usually does the cooking and dishes, while I do the cleaning and laundry. Since I'm working from home right now, I do what I can to make his life easier, since he's essential and his work is business as usual. If that means I take out the trash, do the dishes, and plan dinner, that's okay. I'd be pretty frustrated to come home from a stressful day during a pandemic only to have my hushand complain that he didn't have clean clothes, when he had all day to start a load. That washing mac… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/20 04:42 PM |
| 14 | How do I know if we’re ready to get engaged?I think it is a way to solidify the level of commitment we have for each other. You talk about engagement like it's a stage of the relationship, when it's really for making arrangements. If you're not ready to actually get married, then you should probably hold off on engagement. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/20 02:21 PM |
| 3 | Audiobooks?If you want to listen to a classic, Of Mice and Men is very well read. It's also very short. Little Women is a good one to listen to, as well as In Cold Blood and Dracula. The Harry Potter books are some of the best audiobooks out there, if that's your thing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/20 11:43 PM |
| 2 | Any movie suggestions with good female role models?Misery has a good female role model? | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/20 01:23 AM |
| 11 | Any movie suggestions with good female role models?Steel Magnolias Mona Lisa Smile Yours Mine & Ours The Help Hidden Figures Wonder Woman Something to Talk About The Blindside Practical Magic The Women (original black and white) Little Women Terminator Alien Scream My Big Fat Greek Wedding The Mummy Pleasantville Aquaman Honorable Mention: Scarlett O'Hara in Gone with the Wind for what not to do. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/20 10:47 PM |
| 2 | What Makes You Swipe Left?All dating apps utilize this set-up and online dating was already the number one way people were meeting, but I'd imagine it will become even more popular after things settle down. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/20 04:10 PM |
| 2 | What Makes You Swipe Left?It's very regional, I find, what's popular. My advice is to avoid the paid ones. More often than not, you can't actually tell who's paid and can see your messages and all the same people are on the free sites. Edit: I met my husband on Plenty of Fish, which is where I (surprisingly) tended to have the best luck. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/20 02:50 PM |
| 3 | What Makes You Swipe Left?Oh, the movie quotes. It was like every single man introduced himself with his love of Anchorman... I never liked meeting right away either. I wanted to talk for 3 days to a week. I always felt like someone who wanted to meet right now also wanted to get naked right now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/20 05:37 AM |
| 3 | What Makes You Swipe Left?OP didn't mention Tinder. Online dating is the number one way people meet, which was true before the pandemic and is certainly true now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/20 05:33 AM |
| 17 | What Makes You Swipe Left?Mine was: Our basic values don't line up (kids, faith, etc.) You spend more time on your hair than I do. I prefer rugged to polished. You won't disclose your job title/field. I need to know that you earn money and how. You have a roommate (I live in one of the cheapest parts of the country and was dating late-twenties/early thirties men). You post frat boy photos (generally douchey, vain/partying, just your car/motorcycle). You make vulgar or sexual remarks You insult online dating. We're all he… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/20 07:26 PM |
| 7 | Movie Recommendations?Mona Lisa Smile isn't a classic, but it has the feel. I love that movie. Desk Set is great, though it takes place during Christmas. Yours, Mine, and Ours is wonderful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/20 07:20 PM |
| 37 | I got engaged!I think a lot of women only realize the impact of this sub, when they're in happy relationships. Congratulations! | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/20 04:42 AM |
| 6 | When your entire life up until now has been nun mode. How to explain that to a man?Your first date will be just that, a first date. It won't be the day you meet your future husband. Your second date probably won't be either. After those two are out of the way, it's super easy to just say "I've dated a little, but I've really been focusing on x, y, z until now." No one asks for more than that explanation for awhile into a relationship. I know, because I was 27 when I met my husband. I'd only even kissed one guy, but I had had plenty of first dates. It didn't come up for almost … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/20 11:38 PM |
| 9 | Best things you did while nun mode?When I was single, I taught myself a lot of crafts, including crochet. I even made some money off of it, for a few years. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/20 01:50 PM |
| 1 | About, Without and Around the WALL.It's like the writings you'd find in a notebook, in an apartment full of ears. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/20 01:48 PM |
| 1 | About, Without and Around the WALL.You have literally no presence on any RP sub, prior to whatever this is. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/20 04:44 AM |
| 5 | Hobbies make you sexyI feel like "sexy" is an overused term. For some, it means literal sex appeal and others would say it's synonymous with attraction. I'm not sure how OP means it, but the former literally makes no sense to me, so I'm choosing to assume the latter. I do think we get awfully judgey here about hobbies, in general. I suggested someone take their mind off something with a YA novel series once and had an immediate response from a literature snob about how YA novels have no value. This librarian wholehe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/20 09:12 PM |
| 5 | Hobbies make you sexyWho cares how respectable it is, if it's done in moderation? It's a hobby. Everyone wastes time in different ways and if it's not the only thing you do, the activity itself doesn't matter, whether it's a video game or a light novel or anime. I'd sure rather spend time with someone who admits to a weakness for k-dramas than someone who pretends their every spare minute is spent volunteering or reading classic literature. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/20 06:15 PM |
| 9 | Hobbies make you sexyno real hobbies or personality outside of television and online social media Those are the people she called dull, repetitive, and boring. You're talking this oddly personally. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/20 02:50 PM |
| 5 | Hobbies make you sexyWhy not? How often do I have to do something for it to be a hobby? You seem to have really strict views of hobbies. Hobbies are just personal interests that you engage in sometimes. There aren't rules for hobbies. I read and crochet and paint and write. I don't do any of those daily or even weekly. They're still hobbies. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/20 02:47 PM |
| 8 | Hobbies make you sexyMy job kind of requires hobbies. I'm a teen librarian and I'm literally trying to teach myself to contact juggle, do balloon animals, and follow a painting tutorial in isolation. It's awesome to get paid to learn random skills. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/20 01:57 PM |
| 23 | Hobbies make you sexyI'm not sure how anyone is taking offense to this. I think isolation is making everyone way too sensitive. Perhaps they need a hobby. It's healthy to have your own interests. You shouldn't be lost when your husband goes on a business trip or hunting or wants to do something without you. These interests can be literally anything, from watching nostalgic childhood TV shows to yoga to video games and sci fi novels. I know of too many relationships where one person just expects the other to entertai… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/20 01:12 PM |
| 10 | My (F25) boyfriend (M35) "suggested" that my clothes aren't apropriateDown vote rescinded. I thought you were lashing out and the quarantine must be getting to you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/20 02:47 AM |
| 3 | Why I submit to my husband like it's 1959You're right. Revolutionary. You totally changed my view. | /r/RedPillWives | 25/03/20 12:13 AM |
| 16 | I’m “playing wife” to someone I’m not (but would like to be) married to. What should I do?> I can’t leave without going into debt. If I absolutely must leave then I can, but it would not be financially wise to do so at this time. I’m 25 and will be done with school a year from now. This is exactly why I personally caution against moving in before you have a ring. More often than not, someone finds themselves trapped if things go south and they'll stay for what is literally the absolute worst reason. > “I know. I’m not going to screw you over or waste your time. If I decide can’t marr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/20 03:54 PM |
| 9 | Overly Protective BoyfriendI have asthma and my husband is really worried about my contracting Covid-19. Any time we go to the supermarket, he hands me a wet wipe after everything I touch, because he doesn't want me to get sick. This is the same man who always rolled his eyes when I would use antibacterializer in church. That's protective. What you're describing is controlling. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/20 01:58 PM |
| 6 | How do you discover the REAL you?Well, the good news is, in our technology rich age, there are all kinds of things you can try from home, from online painting tutorials to crochet to yoga to music genres and TV shows. You can download all kinds of books and audiobooks. Start there and get comfortable admitting that you don't like something. Try all kinds of things, with the understanding that you're throwing darts at a board and many of them aren't going to hit. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/20 04:56 PM |
| 9 | Dating during Covid timesI think if you want to date right now, you're going to have to change some of your rules. If you're not okay being alone at his for now, though, you could definitely have a picnic in an open park or go hiking, allowing you the chance to get to know each other. Then you could eventually move it to someone's apartment, perhaps a little earlier than you'd typically desire. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/20 07:39 PM |
| 5 | How long did you wait to sleep with your SO?Eight months. We had said "I love you" and were talking about marriage. I hadn't been with anyone in six years and even then, it was just one person. He was my second kiss. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/20 01:34 PM |
| 14 | Covid-19 and RPWsI'm not gonna lie. It's day three and I'm crying, because I want to go back to work. I miss my coworkers. I miss my library teens. I miss my customers and my routine. I love my job. I am so fortunate to be getting full pay and benefits, but the sickness is doubling daily in my state and we're pretty sure my niece and my brother and SIL have it. This isn't going to end any time soon and many still aren't taking it seriously. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/20 11:25 PM |
| 8 | High Maintenance, but on a budgetI don't know how you style your hair, but mine is pretty easy, so I actually cut it myself. Once a year, I'll get a $15 cut and have it shaped properly and then I maintain it for the rest of the year. I cut my husband's, as well. It saves a lot of money. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/20 08:14 PM |
| 3 | Anyone else feel like this in an early relationship?Yeah, my point was definitely not that it's required to be Christian to have that stance, but that that's probably one of the only labels I'd claim in regards to my sexual choices... if that. I don't need a label to describe my sexuality. I'm married. My husband is the only man I want. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/20 04:08 PM |
| 9 | Self Improvement: Quarantine EditionI am so glad that I own gym equipment during this time. My elliptical and rowing machine have been getting a lot of use. Living in the cheapest part of the country also means I have a 2300 square foot house on an acre and won't get cabin fever too badly. I'm also trying to perfect egg drop soup. It's not exactly high end cuisine, but it's a favorite that I can't really get right now. Yesterday I made St. Patrick's Day cookies with green icing and corned beef and cabbage for my husband. I'm going… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/20 01:19 PM |
| 11 | Anyone else feel like this in an early relationship?I always felt this way. Even if I thought a man was attractive, I didn't want physical contact until we really knew each other. At 27, my husband was my second kiss, on our sixth date. I hate when people call me demisexual, though. I have a high sex drive and can easily find someone attractive. I just don't want to get physical with them. That's contrary to the demisexual definition, according to every source. I'm just modest and a Christian and those are the only labels I claim. No one else get… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/20 01:12 PM |
| 1 | Recommend a Show or Movie!I've actually watched about half of it! Maybe I should finish it. I have a soft spot for teen dramas. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/20 01:21 AM |
| 1 | STFU Discussion?I write a post about this a while back. https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/cb4xjb/stfu_in_practice/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/20 02:53 PM |
| 2 | Recommend a Show or Movie!I watched Marriage Story actually and wow, did thise people divorce for zero reason and with zero consideration for their son. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/20 01:16 PM |
| 7 | My boyfriends birthday is on Thursday and with all of the corona virus stuff going on, I don’t think we can do what we originally planned. I need ideas?Many restaurants are still doing takeout. You could order in, light some candles in your bedroom, and lay out a picnic on the bed before watching a favorite movie. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/20 11:36 PM |
| 2 | Recommend a Show or Movie!I'm sorry. That completely defeats the purpose of closing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/20 11:30 PM |
| 11 | Thoughts on wedding ring tattoos?I'm getting a tattoo removed on my foot and the technician has told me horror stories of removing finger tattoos. It doesn't work the same way as on other parts of the body and it's something I'd recommend researching first. My husband works in manual labor and trades out his gold band for his black rubber one every morning and afternoon. He hates tattoos, so that's what works best for him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/20 06:54 PM |
| 6 | Recommend a Show or Movie!Yours, Mine, and Ours is a great one! Oh to have female comedians like Lucille Ball. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/20 06:51 PM |
| 1 | Recommend a Show or Movie!I'll have to try some of these! Others I already love. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/20 04:07 PM |
| 2 | Can't seem to find anyone decent on a dating sitePlenty of people hook up on Tinder, but are still open to finding a relationship on there as well. I never actually met anyone on Tinder, when I was dating, but if I'd met someone who seemed like he was there for something serious, I would have definitely given him a chance. I do know people who have found relationships via Tinder, as I assume do most people. It's not delusional to think you can do what others have done. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/20 02:12 PM |
| 4 | Can't seem to find anyone decent on a dating siteI met my husband on a free dating app. If you're having bad luck with one, I'd suggest you try another, perhaps one that allows you to put more of a bio than "be interesting." You have to come across as interesting, too, of course and it doesn't seem that this one allows for that. I know Tinder really doesn't. It also won't hurt to have profiles on more than one app. I would suggest avoiding paid apps, though, as all of the same people are on them. As for the sleazy guys, they exist in apps, jus… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/20 02:08 PM |
| 4 | Sending sexy pictures?Agreed. My husband really likes when I wear tank tops. He thinks they're really sexy. There are definitely ways to be sexy without nudity. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/20 03:31 AM |
| 8 | Sending sexy pictures?Work on seductive facial expressions, with heavy makeup. Not only do you not want to him to judge you, but you don't want to give nudes to someone you aren't planning to be with forever. For what it's worth, I don't trust technology enough to send nudes, even to my husband. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/20 01:59 AM |
| 2 | Love is BlindI feel like reality TV is basically just poorly written fiction. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/20 10:12 PM |
| 3 | How are you keeping yourself occupied during quarantine?I just thought to myself "Oooh, I could learn to make a souffle!" Then I Googled it and thought "Woah... walk before you run." | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/20 04:32 AM |
| 4 | How are you keeping yourself occupied during quarantine?I just gave blood two days ago and the virus is just catching here, so I'm glad I did. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/20 12:28 AM |
| 3 | How are you keeping yourself occupied during quarantine?My state has three large library systems and I work for the largest. One just closed and we now have a confirmed case in my county, so I'd imagine mine is next. I bought a yoga mat and blocks, checked out a bunch of yoga DVD's and went to Hobby Lobby to buy some blank canvases and paint last weekend, so I can do some free painting tutorials online. I've also been working on crocheting an afghan for some time, so that might finally get finished. Fortunately, I own a 2,300 square foot house on an … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/20 08:55 PM |
| 2 | Any Ladies Married to Wealthy Providers?Any intelligent successful man will require a prenup. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/20 08:13 PM |
| 2 | Any Ladies Married to Wealthy Providers?> Any woman who doesn't marry for money is an idiot. > I will admit a lot of women do not PRIORITIZE it, but it is a factor when she evaluates a man. The phrase "marry for money" literally means to prioritize it. Earning potential obviously matters, which is why I specifically mentioned work ethic, but you're demanding high earnings above all else. This is clearly the most important thing to you, from what you've said in your post and comments, and that's an awful primary motivator to be with so… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/20 07:18 PM |
| 1 | Any Ladies Married to Wealthy Providers?If it were easy all women would do it. Nope. Some value work ethic, kindness, generosity, faith, family values, common interests. Most women don't marry for money, not because they can't, but because they're above such parasitic behavior. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/20 07:02 PM |
| 2 | Any Ladies Married to Wealthy Providers?Businessmen respect other businessmen. "Gold digger" ≠ "Businessman" | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/20 06:07 PM |
| 8 | Any Ladies Married to Wealthy Providers?Most wealthy men will see right through this goal and won't want a woman who's after their money. I'd recommend you find some other motivators to marry. Plenty of wealthy people lose everything. Look at the stock market now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/20 04:30 PM |
| 11 | Curious to hear people’s strategies in responding to pushy/ forward attempts at sexual escalation?On my third date with my husband, who I met online, I stepped away when he tried to put his arm around me and get close. He was a stranger! He stuck it out and didn't kiss me until the sixth date, when he felt I was more comfortable and, obviously, the rest is history. A man who wants to develop a serious relationship, wants to spend his time getting to know you, not getting in your pants. Keep pulling away. It's a good vetting strategy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/20 03:29 AM |
| 3 | Dating app first date - offered to pick me up from homeMy husband didn't drive me anywhere until the 4th date and I wasn't subtle about it being for my safety. It never bothered him. If protecting yourself, on a first date especially, annoys a man, that's a red flag. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/20 05:40 PM |
| 7 | What do you respect the most about your man?His work ethic. I have a very customer service/research oriented job. It's hard work sometimes, but it's rarely physical. He works in manual labor all day, only now beginning to earn decent wages and respect after leaving oil for me and he never complains about the work itself. He'll visit his parents and help them transplant trees and tear out their septic system all weekend without a negative comment. He built a set of shelves for me over the summer, going all the way around the bedroom and he… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/20 04:47 PM |
| 3 | My boyfriend is full of contempt for me but won't end the relationship. I'm stuck anxiously waiting for the break up.I'm pretty sure he's making the both of them miserable. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/20 12:28 PM |
| 1 | What are some methods to creating an intoxicating first impression?I agree. It think this advice is strangely specific and most women using it would come off as pretentious and/or trying too hard. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/20 12:19 AM |
| 25 | My boyfriend is full of contempt for me but won't end the relationship. I'm stuck anxiously waiting for the break up.He said last week after i failed to order something online for him "You have no personality. At the very least, I need a helper, but I don't even get that. I feel trapped. I deserve better." Wow. You deserve better. A rabid dog deserves better. Go find it. Plenty of men would love a sweet, soft spoken woman and I say that as someone who is neither of those things. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/20 11:43 PM |
| 5 | What are some methods to creating an intoxicating first impression?Ask questions, especially if you're a nervous talker! Showing genuine interest in him is one of the easiest ways to be truly appealing and it's super useful, because you should be vetting from that first date. It ultimately gives him the chance to be a part of the conversation and creates a natural flow. Dress nicely in a way that's natural to you. Don't wear your first pantsuit or an itchy Easter dress that makes you self-conscious. If you're a sundress gal, go for it. If you're more of a tailo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/20 11:37 PM |
| 18 | Receiving compliments with graceJust say thank you. It's okay to include a shy smile. You really don't have to do any more than this, and in fact, it can be very off-putting to argue when someone tries to pay you a compliment. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/20 06:50 PM |
| 1 | Accepting the TerrainBut all of those people are dating online, too. Why would you want to miss the opportunity to meet one of them because you're jaded? Yeah, there are a lot of people looking for a hookup, but they make it pretty obvious. It's not that hard to find the ones looking for something serious. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/20 03:04 PM |
| 3 | Accepting the TerrainHaha. Very true. I'm also unsure how meeting a group of people online to go hiking is any different than meeting one person online to go hiking. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/20 02:53 PM |
| 1 | Accepting the TerrainI had a similar issue. I lived in a suburb about 30 minutes out of the city, but my husband worked in oil in a rural area when we met. He said he didn't mind driving, so I gave it a shot. That was almost five years ago. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/20 01:05 PM |
| 8 | "Is he proposing soon?" and other questions that I wish I could quit asking myselfI'm not sure what you're looking for here, but you seem to be on the right path, trying to come to terms with the possibility that you may never be married if you stay with him. I respect that you seem to accept that you can't change him, but I'd recommend you lean a little more toward the idea that you guys will never marry, rather than fantasizing about him proposing. Can you live with that? Would you be comfortable with a compromise, where he calls you his wife and has a party and buys a ring… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/20 01:18 AM |
| 4 | Accepting the TerrainThis doesn't work if everyone else is dating online. Online dating has completely changed the way people interact. I remember doing activities like these, hoping to meet someone and you know what I found? Couples who met online volunteering together or hiking together or taking painting classes together or going to church together. It's great to get out there and meet people organically, as well, but if everyone in your area meets online, it's short-sighted to refuse to play that game, also. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/20 06:30 PM |
| 3 | Accepting the TerrainTo look at a child and only feel your ego protesting (that's not my DNA!) seems like some big baggage in itself. How would that kind of man feel if a child was his DNA but defective in some way? Should he still be expected to stay around? How could a he be trusted as a leader? Yeah, I don't equate those two at all. Plenty of people, men and women alike, don't want to take on the drama of being a step-parent, if there's another option. No matter how much they love the kid, there are all kinds of … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/20 06:22 PM |
| 4 | When men pull awayOh, I agree that this guy isn't really one to chase, but I'm also concerned that OP might write off future men, because they have hobbies and lives beyond constantly texting her. High value men just have more going on in their lives, at this stage of the relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/20 05:44 PM |
| 9 | When men pull awayBut what texts did he ignore? Women are notorious for saying "Don't just say hey" and then just saying hey. This just seems like a massive overreaction from the entire peanut gallery about not being contacted in three days, without more information. I've had friends who will literally text a guy their entire internal monologue all day long and you know what? If those guys stick around, they don't commit, because the women come off as clingy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/20 03:34 PM |
| 30 | Alpha widowed to an unimaginable degree. Need help moving forward.The term "alpha-widowed" is a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you insist you're never going to be satisfied with any less than Chris Hemsworth, then of course your average 5'9" guy with a slightly receding hairline but really pretty eyes and a great sense of humor won't be good enough. If you want to get past this, you're the only one who controls your ability to do so. I don't buy that you "can't change" your appearance, for one. There are always ways to do your makeup or styles to wear that make … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/20 02:54 PM |
| 13 | When men pull awayThree days? I feel like this is an overreaction. My husband and I would go two or three days on the regular without contact, in the early stages. Based on your description, I don't think this guy is worth trying to make it work, but I think you might consider lowering your expectations for how much contact you should have in the early stages. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/20 05:44 AM |
| 16 | Left an LTR with an amazing guy to attempt the “empowering” casual sex life my friends were into. Now I’m all kinds of fucked up with no idea what to do.You're 24. You have time to work on yourself and develop a more realistic picture of the man you can attract. Take a year and workout, up your makeup and wardrobe game, and really improve yourself. Then date again and don't make the same mistake. At 24, I insisted I'd never date a man under 6 feet tall, who was balding, or who had red hair. I met my 5'7.5" husband at 27 and the only hair he has is his red beard. I find him extremely attractive. It is possible to change your outlook and values an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/20 05:40 AM |
| 2 | Extended family adviceMy brother-in-law is a meth addict and just generally incredibly irresponsible, even without the drugs. There is just constant enabling and overlooking his behavior and lack of assistance, when he lives a few miles away. Then his parents chew my husband out when he can't get off work to come help with something. It's exhausting, but just recently his parents have really stepped up to help us out with some things, when mine have yet to return my call. Family is family, good and bad. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/20 02:23 AM |
| 4 | Extended family adviceMy husband's family can be a lot to take, mostly because they don't realize it's not 1979 and you can't use those words anymore. Mine, however, can be crass and gossipy in ways his aren't. That's just part of being married, though, waiting until we get to the car to mention the awful thing my aunt/his mother said. I love him, so I can find it in me to love his family. While I understand the stress of spending time with this woman, I don't think there's any way around it, without more stress, unl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/20 01:55 AM |
| 10 | How to handle female friend who has been really irritating me the last couple of months?I'm glad to see some comments encouraging OP to try and resolve the issues, instead of the usual Reddit response to write people off as "toxic," when the real issue is more one of poor communication. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/03/20 10:16 PM |
| 19 | Should I fight for my marriage?This sounds like a Lifetime movie. Neither of you seem ready for marriage and his and his family's explosive tempers seem like a permanent fixture in your life. I'm not one to recommend divorce, but it shouldn't be this hard, this early in the relationship. I think you should really consider whether or not you want to honor your commitment to this man for life and whether or not you want to bring children into this dynamic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/03/20 06:44 PM |
| 28 | Extreme cold feet about marriageI honestly think a lot of your insecurities would be solved by being in the same place as this man for awhile, before getting engaged. I don't think its reasonable to make that commitment with so much distance between you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/03/20 06:39 PM |
| 21 | How to handle female friend who has been really irritating me the last couple of months?This shows she's respecting your feelings by trying. That's worth something, when you value other aspects of your friendship and it's more than many people do. One commenter said she's not going to stop. It sounds like she already has, even after only having been asked once, via text message. You really should just be more direct with this person, about the things that are bothering you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/03/20 06:33 PM |
| 13 | How to handle female friend who has been really irritating me the last couple of months?In hindsight, I recognize this competition as a common dynamic between mid-twenties single women. I once had a friend who was so upset when I started a relationship, because her "last single friend" was attached, that it created a huge rift that eventually contributed to the end of the friendship. She was just so competitive that she couldn't be happy for me, because the relationship she began when I met my husband, was an on-again, off-again affair with a man who didn't want to commit because s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/03/20 06:30 PM |
| 1 | Accepting the TerrainI do feel like yours is observed in larger numbers, though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/03/20 06:07 PM |
| 5 | Accepting the TerrainI'm glad this worked out, but I find this to be mostly anecdotal. Men who are willing to take on baggage usually have plenty of their own. I've watched women hit the wall while waiting for that high quality, low baggage alpha male who wants to help raise their kid, instead of going out with cute single dads who have similar amounts of baggage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/03/20 02:59 PM |
| 5 | How do you get a guaranteed long term commitment from a man before sex occurs?Then keep doing what you're doing and keep getting what you're getting. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/03/20 12:32 AM |
| 3 | How do you get a guaranteed long term commitment from a man before sex occurs?Buy a vibrator. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/03/20 12:31 AM |
| 10 | Accepting the TerrainDo you think your age or community or location make a difference to what you are experiencing? I think we overlook this a lot on RPW. I'm in the heavily religious, American South. While online dating was already ubiquitous when we met, I was able to clearly state my conservative values on my profile and got very little push back. I had little trouble enforcing my boundaries, right down to refusing to get physical with anyone until I met my husband, even on second and third dates. Men just unders… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/03/20 12:30 AM |
| 2 | How do you get a guaranteed long term commitment from a man before sex occurs?Well, for starters I had zero sexually charged conversations with him for the first two months. We spent that time getting to know each other on PG13 terms, which I'd recommend if you want to be taken seriously. If a man is genuinely interested and looking for a long term relationship, this shouldn't be that difficult, especially if you're not putting yourself into situations where you can get physical. Go to festivals or walk around the mall or visit a museum for those first few dates and give … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/03/20 12:24 AM |
| 15 | I think (read: know) I made a huge mistakeWhat's the literal worse that could happen? He could act like an ass and you could be in exactly the same situation with a valuable lesson learned. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/03/20 08:20 PM |
| 40 | How to I (25f) end the relationship with someone(35m) unstable?I'm only here to say that you didn't "leave behind your youth." You're still young enough to find someone mentally healthy, with low baggage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/20 08:21 PM |
| 3 | Doing things on "husband time"I don't think that all conversations on this topic constitute nagging. For instance, last fall, some new video game came out and my husband was playing with a friend that lives in another state and started playing with my brother as well, so it was a bonding thing. I was happy for him to have his hobby, especially since the weather was turning and he had less daylight to work outside, as he likes. Then I realized a lot of things just weren't getting done. For a few weeks, I would just do them, u… | /r/RedPillWives | 06/03/20 03:22 PM |
| 43 | Feel guilty about my pastI enjoy this space, but I really wish everyone would stop putting so much emphasis on sexual history. Is it a factor in a healthy relationship? Sometimes, yes. Always? No. You shouldn't go into this marriage feeling as though you betrayed your husband before you even knew him. Even if that aligns with personal beliefs, you can't change it. He's been with other women and says he's fine with your past now (which is great, because that means he's not a massive hypocrite), so take him at his word. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/20 01:31 PM |
| 1 | Only attracted to high quality menYes, completely valid. I was mostly just recommending she raise her value in general, but yes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/20 01:27 PM |
| 4 | Only attracted to high quality menAgreed. My husband has definitely dated more physically attractive women, but they were all dramatic party girls. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/03/20 04:03 AM |
| 4 | Degree or not degreeI'm a librarian with a bachelor's in education and I actually support your mother's recommendation not to major in education, not for the money, but the stress. Many teachers leave the field after just a few years, but if you still want to teach, you can easily get alternatively certified with a more general (and therefore more valuable) degree. All that being said, I had to have an MLIS to be a librarian and I'm fortunate enough to have an extremely stable job, in an extremely stable system, in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/20 04:43 PM |
| 45 | Why do women have to do EVERYTHING nowadays?You don't have to do anything you don't want to do. If you're not passionate about the degree, go be a receptionist in a nice area of town, date with purpose until you find a good man who can support a SAHM and work until you have kids. I love my job, but I also don't maintain the thriving social life our Instagram loving world encourages. I have work friends and family and my best friend is my husband. That's enough for me. Something has to give. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/20 12:54 PM |
| 24 | The love of my life prefers chubby women. I’m thin. Should I gain weight to be desirable to him?> I think he got involved with me as an experiment because he definitely wasn’t all that into my body. I have never been able to cause the deep, instant arousal in him that bigger women have. I’ve never been able to cause a “she’s so sexy” response. It’s made me feel like absolute shit, like I’m not a real woman. My husband has dated all kinds of women and he'd never tell me that he prefers some other body type. It's really weird that you know this about this guy and if he's verbalized all of th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/20 07:48 PM |
| 4 | Seems like an interesting point of view on marriage and pregnancy> Some parents can make the two working parent household work while also being involved with their kids. I don't know how, but it happens here and there. I will tell you, it's not the norm. Usually one parent is part-time or doing some sort of consulting or flexible role if they are working at all. Generally speaking though, a two parent working household is a disaster for kids. Parents are too swept up in their careers to notice what's going on. Nope. I work with teenagers and this simply is no… | /r/RedPillWives | 04/03/20 04:43 PM |
| 3 | Boyfriend left me :(OP, this is ludicrous. He sabotaged his own interview and while you could have been a little more sensitive, all of these assumptions that it was the last straw are just that, assumptions... likely from people who don't remember your last post about how he'd never said he loves you. This is not the kind of thing that ends relationships. If my husband and I ended things over one of us saying the wrong thing, we wouldn't have made it through the first date... or dinner last night. You're human... … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/20 04:46 PM |
| 35 | Boyfriend left me :(I'm absolutely certain that I have said and done worse in my marriage. It doesn't sound like this, or even his work troubles, is the reason he broke up with you. I'm glad you're working on yourself and taking time. You'll find someone who feels for you, what you do for them. You'll do so sooner and with less heartache if you just let this one go. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/20 08:21 PM |
| 147 | Boyfriend left me :(OP, I'm pretty horrified by the number of people trying to make you feel better by misrepresenting what happened here and claiming he just needs to focus on his career right now. That's not what happened, according to your post. He told you, verbatim, that he doesn't love you. Don't wait around for that to change. Don't chase a man who has literally told you he doesn't love you. It sounds like you're a catch and you did everything right, but the feelings aren't there. That's okay and neither of … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/20 07:06 PM |
| 8 | 32 and single / seeking positive storiesI'm not even sure how you date consistently without online dating in your 30s anymore. For better or for worse, it's ubiquitous and I'm glad I chose online dating over not meeting my wonderful husband. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/20 02:37 PM |
| 15 | 32 and single / seeking positive storiesPeople who get married and have a family, date. My husband was my 21st first date, at 27. If you don't want to date online, you're going to need to find another outlet, but if you get out there and date with an open mind, it's only a matter of time before you make a connection. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/20 04:36 AM |
| 2 | So I know TRP desires women with low N-counts, having supposedly high N-counts themselves, but do any of you also prefer men with low N-counts?Oh, I meant the responses to your comment, not the original. My husband has always had delightfully realistic expectations of my body and I largely credit that to his experience. He's seen enough average female bodies to also find mine attractive. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/20 07:43 PM |
| 8 | So I know TRP desires women with low N-counts, having supposedly high N-counts themselves, but do any of you also prefer men with low N-counts?I see all these responses about avoiding men who watch porn, as if it's impossible to get unrealistic expectations from literally every other form of media. I don't look any more like 1997 Kate Winslet naked than I do a porn star. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/20 06:39 PM |
| 3 | So I know TRP desires women with low N-counts, having supposedly high N-counts themselves, but do any of you also prefer men with low N-counts?I agree. My husband doesn't actually know his number and his estimate is really high. He hadn't been with anyone for two years before me, though, because he was so over that stage of life. I 100% believe he wouldn't have asked for my number, if I hadn't shared. His count has impacted our marriage exactly zero times. I find the entire concept to be vastly overemphasized here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/20 06:36 PM |
| 4 | How important is sex, really?I'd start with just suggesting some low key BDSM activities, sort of a "Would you like to try..." conversation. If he's not game, you're going to have to seriously consider whether or not you can do this long-term. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/20 05:02 AM |
| 29 | Found another woman's panties in my bf's cupboard, am I just being insecure?It sounds like they're both too immature for a relationship... and also like he might have some teeth stored somewhere. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/20 03:54 AM |
| 2 | Hello ladies, how do I highlight my skills without appearing desperate?Most people don't find out they have fertility problems until they're ready to try for babies. You're at the advantage of already knowing this. There are plenty of people who want to foster or adopt, so just open with an interest in that early on in a relationship. I'll note that surrogacy, however, is crazy expensive and not even legal in some states in the US. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/20 03:52 AM |
| 18 | How important is sex, really?BDSM is often something people need for sexual fulfillment in a way others don't necessarily require general preferences, such as certain positions and the occasional willingness to try bondage. You sound as though you're part of the former group and not the latter. There's nothing wrong with that, beyond the potential to let an otherwise great guy go, but if you're feeling unfulfilled at 25 how are you going to feel at 35? 45? How important is sex? If you're dwelling on this now, it may end up … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/20 03:37 AM |
| 6 | How does r/RedPillWomen feel about guys and girls being friends? Can guys and girls be close friends or are they just considered orbiters?I think couples can have friends of either sex. I generally find that to be the best way to maintain opposite sex friendships with coworkers and such. I had a friend at work I kept mentioning, just because we were around the same age and liked the same things, so to keep it from being weird, I got his gamertag and he and my husband play XBOX together. He comes over for dinner and they drink on the porch after I've gone to bed. They talk almost as much as we do now and that makes it much less of … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/20 12:40 AM |
| 5 | Discovering the person I'd want to beI recommend Mrs. Midwest's YouTube videos. Many of them are directed at young women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/20 09:01 PM |
| 2 | Dealing with sexual thoughts about womenConsidering RPW isn't a religious sub, I don't think this is the best place for your question. I suggest r/christianmarriage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/20 10:19 PM |
| 7 | RPW - advicehe agrees that we are “in a relationship “ but we haven’t said what type. This vague descriptor could apply to literally any relationship. You have a "relationship" with your neighbor, your mail carrier, and the guy who mows your lawn. Honestly, if you're pushing for more clarity and he's hesitant after a year, it's not a good sign. He doesn't want a committed relationship and the most concerning part of this is that you're not on the same page, while also engaging in BDSM, something that requir… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/20 01:43 PM |
| 5 | Is everything going well with this guy or am I just anxious?> When we were out drinking he thought a man had touched me inappropriately and said he would "deal with anyone that touches you wrong". I don't think a man would do this for someone he views as just FwB. I mean, I'd be pretty upset on behalf of any one of my friends who were touched inappropriately without their consent. You haven't been together long. You should work to increase your non-sexual, non-inebriated interactions if you want the relationship to naturally become something more, withou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/20 06:00 AM |
| 7 | Is everything going well with this guy or am I just anxious?It's really hard to tell what's going on from a description like this, but it sounds more like he thinking of this as a Friends with Benefits arrangement, than a relationship. He says there's no one else and he does care, but that's not necessarily exclusive from FwB. It's possible you just let the relationship become physical too quickly. I'm sorry. I know that's not what you want to hear. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/20 05:04 AM |
| 1 | BF wants me to pay for vacation together?"I work hard to be responsible with my money and it's not my fault that you don't have enough for this trip. I can't cover you without hurting my savings and I'm not going to do that. You need to change your spending habits, if you want to change your situation. Complaining about a birthday gift makes me feel like you don't appreciate what I can do for you. I know you would do it for me, but that's not a good financial decision and you shouldn't." | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/20 08:37 PM |
| 6 | BF wants me to pay for vacation together?I think he was upset by me saying I wasn't going to be able to pay for us both, because if he was in my shoes he would. That's because he's financially irresponsible. You don't pay for something you can't afford. He's being mighty ungrateful to turn his nose up at any birthday gift. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/20 07:54 PM |
| 29 | Utilising RPW theory when you don't naturally fit?The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago. The second best time is now. If you want to change, change. You don't have to do it all at once. Just start by throwing out any stained or ripped clothes and gradually work your way up to buying more stylish things. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/20 07:50 PM |
| 9 | BF wants me to pay for vacation together?You're not his sugar mama. I understand, at your age, perhaps insisting you pay for yourself when you go out or go on trips, but the expectation that you'll pay for him is ridiculous. He can make more responsible decisions or not go, but the level of entitlement he has to tell your friends his attendance depends on your willingness to pay is a huge red flag. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/20 07:43 PM |
| 6 | Seeking help for a sensitive problem between my fiancé and II feel like a religious counselor would make the most headway, if he's especially traditional, without just telling her to leave. He definitely needs to reassess his priorities and expectations. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/20 03:33 AM |
| 21 | Seeking help for a sensitive problem between my fiancé and IPremarital counseling is always a good idea. This is a huge disconnect. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/20 12:59 AM |
| 57 | Seeking help for a sensitive problem between my fiancé and I"Wife" is not synonymous with sex slave. This is a deeply disturbing red flag, demanding such frequent sex as payment for housework. You should see a counselor who will respect your conservative worldview, but also tell him this is awful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/20 12:51 AM |
| 38 | Am I wrong for having dreams for my daughter's future?I told her she'll change her mind when she grows up. This is an incredibly condescending statement and that's going to offend anyone, especially a teenager. Let her have whatever dreams she wants to have, whether it's to travel the world with a backpack on her shoulders or be a high-powered career woman. She's 13 and regardless, it's extremely unlikely that what she wants now will come to fruition. Unlikely doesn't mean impossible, though. If you're right and your daughter comes around to wantin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/20 06:48 PM |
| 3 | How to start idealizing a healthy relationship/man and get over the dopamine addiction of on and off guys?I don't think so, but I'm sure you'll get plenty of recommendations. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/20 12:23 AM |
| 6 | How to start idealizing a healthy relationship/man and get over the dopamine addiction of on and off guys?Friday Night Lights has one of the best romantic relationship depictions ever. Eric and Tammy Taylor are my relationship goals. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/20 12:17 AM |
| 6 | I got married and coworkers cant let it goA lot of the advice you're getting is to act very pretty, but I don't think that will improve your situation or reputation. If you take something like this to your supervisor, their first question will be whether or not you've spoken to your coworkers directly about the problem, which is what I suggest you do, but also what you'll be expected to do. "I don't appreciate being called crazy girl, at all, but especially to patients. Please stop." "I'm sorry you're still bothered by my private weddin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/20 12:55 PM |
| 4 | Accepting my partner's weakness?I wouldn't suggest you just bail, without explanation, but I think it's reasonable to bring up your concerns. It does seem like a pretty low threshold. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/20 04:08 AM |
| 10 | Accepting my partner's weakness?I think you're right to be concerned about these occurrences, if you want your husband to be the leader of your household and you don't want to be soothing his ruffled feathers all of the time, mostly because the things you've mentioned are really minor. If he can't handle an argument with a peer, how will he handle the bigger things that are tough on both of you? How will he handle a major financial setback? A miscarriage? Your dad dying? Different relationships thrive under different dynamics.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/20 03:52 AM |
| 1 | The wife and a question of my participationYou're also supposed to be an active participant on TRP and have something relevant to add to the conversation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/20 04:15 AM |
| 2 | The wife and a question of my participationYes. Being banned on multiple accounts counts. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/20 03:35 AM |
| 2 | The wife and a question of my participationPlus rant about being banned multiple times | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/20 02:41 AM |
| 21 | Uncomfortable situationParticularly when it's so blatant. It's strange that neither of them spoke up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/20 01:44 AM |
| 11 | The wife and a question of my participationI don't actually even see a question here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/20 01:43 AM |
| 3 | Breasts starting to sag a bit due to weight fluctiationAsk your doctor. This is not something the internet can answer for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/20 03:03 PM |
| 2 | Ok so... WTF are red pill men!!! Ew!You're not generally advised to date RP aware men. My husband thinks very little of the RP movement. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/20 09:57 PM |
| 22 | How Can I Stop Being So Hurt About Porn?Different people feel differently about this topic, as you're about to read in the inevitable 4,000 responses, but you're allowed to feel how you feel and he's allowed to feel how he feels. If this isn't something you can handle, there are men out there who are willing to forgo or limit their pornography exposure for the health of the relationship. It's okay to let go of this relationship if this is a deal breaker, now that you know. In your next relationship, be sure to clarify these feelings f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/20 09:14 PM |
| 29 | Too late for me?No one ever really mentions it here, because overly aggressive people come out of the woodwork to argue about it, but some guys won't ask about sexual history. My husband's best friend was a virgin on his wedding night and, while he knew his wife wasn't, he still doesn't know her number. He doesn't care. He cares that she's a good wife and mother, who allows him to lead his household. Hookup culture is enough of a norm, that a lot of people assume their partner has a history and don't want detai… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/20 09:12 PM |
| 4 | Boyfriend watches virtual reality porn?If you're morally opposed to pornography, the industry as a whole, or consider it a form of cheating, as many people do, it's very relevant. I think it's great you and your guy align on this, but it's entirely fair to feel differently, as OP clearly does. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/20 04:58 AM |
| 4 | What book red pilled you?The sheer volume of dealbreakers is the problem. I once met a woman who thought bald guys were gross, but she was more than willing to date a guy in the military. I can do the first, but not the second, so if that's her line in the sand... ... then again 2/3 of men age 35 and up experience significant hair loss, but you get my point. You get 3-5 blanket dealbreakers, tops, before you're being ridiculous. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/20 04:44 AM |
| 66 | I'm a bit of an airhead. I unintentionally create more work for my boyfriend.It could benefit you to live on your own for a bit before living with your boyfriend. We don't really encourage women to do this enough, but it makes everyone a better adult to have to rely on themselves for a time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/20 04:32 AM |
| 4 | Boyfriend watches virtual reality porn?I don't know that personal opinion is baseless, when OP's trying to figure out how to feel about it. Personally, I'd say that if they've never discussed this and she's uncomfortable with something she's found, it's time to have the conversation more than anything. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/20 04:30 AM |
| 7 | Boyfriend watches virtual reality porn?I was actually referencing the people who get hostile or insanely defensive every time anyone voices a personal opposition to porn. It happens literally every time the topic comes up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/20 12:48 AM |
| 20 | What book red pilled you?It just sort of reiterates the RP stance, but from a pretty liberal perspective that has likely never heard of the term. It talks about how we don't have unlimited time to next guys for stupid reasons, if what we want is a traditional family life. She talks about the actual stats of what's out there, like the percentage of men over 6'. She also talks about guys she dumped because they're lame dressers or losing their hair and how now, those guys are married and great family men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/20 09:59 PM |
| 6 | Boyfriend watches virtual reality porn?We actually agreed (mutually) on just forgoing altogether when we were dating. Relationships are complicated enough. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/20 09:35 PM |
| 28 | What book red pilled you?Marry Him: the Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough was the book that made me realize that all the articles and posts about how women have limitations were true. It's so easy to read the advice here as the output of a niche group or think well, just because she settled, doesn't mean I should. Reading the account of a feminist who followed the 90s Strong Independent Woman movement like gospel, only to realize how lonely she is, can really wake a girl up. I met my husband six months later and he'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/20 08:17 PM |
| 37 | Boyfriend watches virtual reality porn?Every time... My favorite was when I was told that my husband and I agreeing not to view porn was abusive on my end. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/20 04:00 PM |
| 53 | Boyfriend watches virtual reality porn?I'm just waiting for the crazy defensive porn addicts to weigh in, here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/20 01:41 PM |
| 10 | BF hates my work colleagueIf your boyfriend doesn't have a legitimate reason for this fear, he's being controlling and insecure. This is your job. He doesn't get to interfere without cause. This is a red flag. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/20 06:25 AM |
| 5 | Should I tell his girlfriend he was talking to me and lied that him and her weren’t together?Stay out of it. Date an adult. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/20 07:39 PM |
| 10 | Would you marry a man who was unable to have, or didn't want children?"Does he want kids?" and "Can he have kids?" are entirely different questions. You could pass up a great guy, who wants kids, but knows he can't have them, to marry an okay guy, only to find out that he also cannot have kids. If a man doesn't want kids, you're not changing his mind. If a man wants kids, it's more important that he's open to the many options available to have them, because more often than not, you're not going to know about fertility issues until you're trying to get pregnant. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/02/20 04:44 AM |
| 61 | BF Going out with female best friend on valentines dayBased on your last post, he is absolutely her orbiter. I think it's fair for you to move on to someone who prioritizes his relationship with you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/20 10:31 PM |
| 1 | Boyfriend doesn't tell me how he feelsIf you're in your late twenties and have been dating 7 months, I think the "what are we and where is this going" conversation is fair. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/20 02:37 PM |
| 1 | Boyfriend doesn't tell me how he feelsI'm referencing him, not you. Adults generally know how they feel at this point. I get that people are advising you that actions speak louder than words. That was true for my husband, as well. I still got the words, though they weren't necessarily eloquently given. If it's been 7 months, you shouldn't be this unsure, not at your age. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/20 01:01 PM |
| 2 | I find myself deeply regretting losing my virginity ( how I did, who with ) years later. Hate feeling this way. Any words of wisdom ladies?Thank you. It's a big responsibility, being someone's first, especially when you get out of your teen years. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/20 11:36 PM |
| 11 | I find myself deeply regretting losing my virginity ( how I did, who with ) years later. Hate feeling this way. Any words of wisdom ladies?Strong cope. Married my second kiss, not coping with anything. The "sexual experience is good" argument is a feminist talking point. ... one that I didn't make. I get that you are trying to make OP "feel" better. But, you are going about it in a way that trivializes the value of sexual access to her. No. I'm not. I'm telling her that many, many men are going to be at least as comfortable with her number being 1 as 0, outside of religious communities, when she's 23, because it's true. My anecdota… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/20 10:50 PM |
| 5 | How do I find out and accommodate his love language?Oh, love languages. I simultaneously appreciate and loathe the concept. On the one hand, it's wonderful to consider how your partner receives and shows affection. On the other, humans are far more complex than five love languages. For example, my husband shows affection almost equally through touch and acts of service. The former is also how he best receives affection, which is likely why my language evolved to include touch, as well. Before him, I didn't like to be touched... still don't really… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/20 09:59 PM |
| 16 | I find myself deeply regretting losing my virginity ( how I did, who with ) years later. Hate feeling this way. Any words of wisdom ladies?As you get older, virginity loses its appeal for most men. It becomes daunting, the idea of being a women's first, what it means that she waited so long, what she's expecting to develop. I'm not sure how old you are, but if you're 21 and men still prefer virgins, wait two years and they'll likely prefer a low number, over zero. You have a lot of firsts to enjoy with a partner. Don't get too hung up on the ones you missed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/20 08:51 PM |
| 13 | I [28F] am in the dating phase with this guy [30M], but he is pressuring me to move into a relationship…I understand that a long gettting-to-know-you period is what you need, but it's also not the norm. I think most people feel like a relationship is either worth pursuing or not, by three months. If a woman wrote this about the reverse situation, we'd all be telling her to walk. That's likely what you can expect from this guy, as well, if you can't give him the relationship he needs. In general, if this is something you need, I think you should be really upfront from the beginning, because it is u… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/20 07:25 PM |
| 8 | Lying boyfriend ?The move was clearly a mistake. You don't rectify one mistake with lots of other mistakes, though. Don't waste more time. Date a grownup. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/20 07:16 PM |
| 17 | Boyfriend doesn't tell me how he feelsSeven months in your late twenties shouldn't mirror a relationship from a teen show. Find someone who knows what he wants and counts you on that list. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/20 07:12 PM |
| 5 | When you first meet up with a guy as a blind date or online match, what do you do to greet?Yeah, maybe I'm weird about touch, but I never hugged. They're still in stranger territory at that first meeting. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/20 04:38 PM |
| 1 | Help Me Vet?It's one thing to accept something big from a committed relationship, but a new guy only does this so you'll owe him. The good news is, you're 18! You have soooooo many options to find high value men and so much time to do so! | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/20 03:10 AM |
| 3 | Help Me Vet?Oh, this is weird. Do not meet. Date local... and not creepy. Also, don't accept expensive gifts from men. You're not a virginal romance novel heroine. You don't need to feel indebted to anyone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/20 02:46 AM |
| 24 | What’s a good, cheap but sweet gift I can send my mom (she lives out of state) for her birthday (she’s going to be 62 years old) in a week?Print out a special photo and find a nice frame. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/02/20 03:22 AM |
| 6 | How soon do you think is too soon to spend the night in a new relationship?Define LDR. Two hours isn't that far and your link specifically describes a very different situation than OP's. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/02/20 03:21 AM |
| 1 | How to deal with the feeling of not having enough time and options?Fingers crossed, we're moving in that direction. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/02/20 01:14 AM |
| 1 | How to deal with the feeling of not having enough time and options?Haha. I absolutely had to have my degree to be a librarian. Do you have to in Australia? | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/02/20 01:01 AM |
| 1 | How to deal with the feeling of not having enough time and options?Ah, yes. In the US, if you don't have a high school diploma, you should probably lie about that. In fact, I had a friend who's husband lied for 10 years, before getting a GED. It's risky, though, because some places might demand the diploma, even years later. Many places have stops in place for moving up without a college degree, as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/02/20 12:30 AM |
| 33 | How soon do you think is too soon to spend the night in a new relationship?My husband and I were about an hour apart when we met on a dating app. He was more than willing to travel to see me in the city, but it became easier to have sleepovers, which we did after about eight to ten weeks of dating. It was so much nicer to have those few extra hours and the closeness of sharing a bed, as opposed to driving home late at night. We were officially exclusive and we didn't have sex for another six months. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/20 11:14 PM |
| 10 | How to approach an unprofessional manager?Retail is notorious for drama. Simply be a terrible source of intel. "Oh, I forgot." "I don't know." "Hmm... I'm not sure." Be super flaky and she'll eventually realize you suck at matchmaking. This is all, of course, if you can't bring yourself to go to HR or tell her bluntly that you're not interested. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/20 08:16 PM |
| 6 | Seeking Advice from RPW about tact with women.My question is how do I even tell her this kind of stuff without come off as a shallow and petty? You don't. Does the issue lay with me? Should I be the one to adjust what I find attractive here and just suck it up for the time being? The issue is totally with you, but that's okay! Go find someone who fits these preferences, because just as you don't want to pretend forever, neither will she. I've had like three manicures in my life. My husband and I both think they're frivolous and wasteful. Ot… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/20 03:46 PM |
| 16 | Do I compromise? Or put my foot down?One of my favorite things about my husband is that, despite being a good ol' country boy, he will not only eat zoodles, but make them himself. I vetted for that, though. I'd been fat for years and lost a ton of weight and I didn't want to be with someone who would discourage a healthy lifestyle. I agree with the other commenter that you don't get to demand change, or "put your foot down." It's also reasonable to break up if you're turning into different people and he's not interested in working … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/20 02:54 PM |
| 6 | How to deal with the feeling of not having enough time and options?I think varying levels of education are acceptable dealbreakers. I'm glad things worked out for your husband, but a high school education is a reasonable demand, since most decent jobs will require a diploma. I did, however, ultimately decide that someone with a trade, as opposed to a 4-year college, was absolutely fine. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/20 02:48 PM |
| 16 | Moving on from humor as a coping mechanismI had a lot of trouble with this and, ironically, my husband was the person to help me break the pattern. Before I met him, I prided myself on my ability to tamp down my emotions. Now, he can come home on his lunch break to me crying over a book because true crime just isn't for me... and there's just no shame. It's like having a safe place to share my feelings opened the floodgates. I'm not all drama all the time or anything, but I'm also a lot more comfortable just telling him what's bothering… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/20 05:07 AM |
| 17 | How to deal with the feeling of not having enough time and options?You're getting good advice and Marry Him: the Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough is an excellent read. That being said, date! Download some apps, join some meetups, and date! Choose 3 to 5 reasonable dealbreakers (religion, wants a family, education level, not a mountain troll...) and if a man doesn't hit one of those, meet him! There was a time when I'd have never met someone like my husband, because he lived too far away, was in an industry I didn't love, wasn't tall enough... all silly rea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/20 07:11 PM |
| 3 | Dealing with those who don’t understandIt could also be jealousy that you're young and have the option to live your life in a different way than she lived hers, therefore potentially accomplishing things she wishes she'd accomplished. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/20 12:17 AM |
| 1 | He told me that he's more intelligent than me and my feelings are hurtI'm actually not criticizing you for feeling hurt. I am pretty horrified by the people telling you this relationship is over. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/20 08:25 PM |
| 2 | He told me that he's more intelligent than me and my feelings are hurtI mean I'm on your side. It's a strange defensiveness. I'm not one of the numerous commenters telling OP to run. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/20 02:40 PM |
| 2 | He told me that he's more intelligent than me and my feelings are hurtThat is a question no one here is asking, likely because OP is already upset, but is he smarter? If so, why is it wrong for him to think so... even if she disagrees? I admit I'm just as defensive if my intelligence and I agree with everything you've said, but I am shocked by some of the initial responses to this story that villainize a guy for a difference of opinion. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/20 02:01 PM |
| 3 | He told me that he's more intelligent than me and my feelings are hurtI can only go from the details you shared, but ending an otherwise excellent relationship over this one issue seems absolutely ludicrous to me. I cant believe comments on this sub are actually telling you to run over this one argument. I wish you luck in understanding each other better and finding a way to resolve this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/20 06:11 AM |
| 2 | He told me that he's more intelligent than me and my feelings are hurtOnly you know the tone and sentiment you got from his comment and the later discussions, but it does sound like you're being oversensitive to a (rude) question he was asked. If they'd asked who was stronger or better at beer pong, I doubt you would have cared about the answer or expected him to change it based on your feelings. You also mention that he pokes fun at smaller things and I think it's fair to set boundaries. There is nothing wrong with admitting that this is an insecurity you have an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/20 06:00 AM |
| 5 | He told me that he's more intelligent than me and my feelings are hurtYou should tell him you don't appreciate his comments on these weaknesses. Compare your lack of commentary on his reading skills. If he's saying little things that are building up to big hurts, you need to speak up for yourself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/20 05:47 AM |
| 8 | He told me that he's more intelligent than me and my feelings are hurtI love this comment. The idea that he's not allowed to value his STEM-related intelligence more, when that's where his passion lies, is just ridiculous. I bet there are a big list of qualities that you are unequal in. Wow. My husband is a physically harder worker, more athletic, better at all things outdoorsy, better with money, but just the suggestion that he might be smarter than me really would hurt. I wonder why that is... possibly an extension of some feminist concept of ultimate equality? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/20 05:44 AM |
| 12 | He told me that he's more intelligent than me and my feelings are hurtHis comment was an answer to a direct question. Honestly, at least one of the jerks in this situation is the friend who asked it in the first place. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/20 05:34 AM |
| 3 | He told me that he's more intelligent than me and my feelings are hurtThis honestly sounds exactly like an argument my husband and I would have had, while dating. It's fair to feel hurt and if you speak to him about it again, I think it's reasonable to tell him that you guys can agree to disagree about the value of different kinds of intelligence, but in front of others, it can come off like a personal insult. My husband would never laugh at me today for struggling with math, but he stumbled a little before he realized that my intelligence isn't an area where he c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/20 05:15 AM |
| 0 | He told me that he's more intelligent than me and my feelings are hurtWe both excel where the other does not, and bring our different strengths to the relationship, building each other up. I am a good writer and trained in research and critical thinking, he is good at math and design. He is not a good writer or reader, and I have never excelled at math. I am the person that our friends go-to for emotional advice/ support, he is the one they go to when they need a good time. I really saw us as two opposite but equal dynamic forces. It's clear that these things are … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/20 05:01 AM |
| 2 | Dreams and goals you have outside the relationshipIf you're part of a large system, they'll likely have downloadable books, audiobooks, and magazines. I'm a librarian and we even get the newest movies and TV shows. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/20 03:12 AM |
| 2 | Dreams and goals you have outside the relationshipI recommend downloading audiobooks from the library. I've gotten so much more reading done since I started listening to my books. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/20 10:54 PM |
| 2 | What are some habits/ways to glow up you would recommend to a single RP women in her early twenties.I had it reinked when I got my second tattoo (which I actually like), so it's been 14 sessions. They typically charge about $50 per square inch. Some colors won't come out, from what I understand. I can say that the pain fades quickly to a bearable ache. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/20 10:42 PM |
| 4 | What are some habits/ways to glow up you would recommend to a single RP women in her early twenties.The most accurate description I've heard is of having hot grease poured on your skin. Mine was on my foot, which I've heard is comparable to the ribs. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/20 09:24 PM |
| 11 | What are some habits/ways to glow up you would recommend to a single RP women in her early twenties.I have my grandmother's signature of her first name on my other foot. It's my middle name. I love it, but it also means a lot more as my only tattoo. They're super trendy in my field. My boss actually has a sleeve. I just don't get it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/20 08:36 PM |
| 24 | What are some habits/ways to glow up you would recommend to a single RP women in her early twenties.You're allowed to feel good and pretty at any weight. There's no reason not to dress up on your way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/20 08:33 PM |
| 46 | What are some habits/ways to glow up you would recommend to a single RP women in her early twenties.Dress up. Whatever that means for you, be it dress pants and adorable blouses, with delicate jewelry or sundresses and curled hair with a full face of makeup. The best way to set yourself apart from the competition is by dressing up more, even if it feels awkward at first. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/20 08:13 PM |
| 27 | What are some habits/ways to glow up you would recommend to a single RP women in her early twenties.I have a very small, entirely meaningless one on my foot. I've been getting it removed for almost five years now. It's so expensive and painful. I'll never get another. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/20 08:11 PM |
| 9 | Going back to how it wasAt 23, I filed for divorce, all alone. My ex was a literal psychopath and still, leaving was so hard. I can't even say why, in hindsight, except maybe the devil you know, vs. the one you don't? He was abusive and cruel and manipulative, but he was a constant and I really had no other constants. Obviously, I couldn't go back. My life had literally been in danger. So, with no other option, I got through it... and now, almost 10 years later, my life is infinitely better. I married a good, strong, l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/20 08:03 PM |
| 7 | valentines dayWe bought a pizza on sale on Super Bowl Sunday and froze it for Valentine's Day night. We'll share $20-$30 gifts and have a night in with a movie or a board game. I'll probably make the red velvet cake mix cookies he likes. Neither one of us considers Valentine's Day worthy of a fuss. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/20 01:27 AM |
| 5 | Should I make him drive 2hrs+ to see me? Potential LDR adviceI understand, but without an investment in the relationship, I feel like playing hard to get is going to get you ghosted by this guy, especially since you're actively trying to seem mysterious, in addition to wanting him to come to you. If you're three hours apart, I think it's fair to find a central location for a first meet and then you can decide how to take turns if things go well. Remember, this guy doesn't even know if you are who you say you are or if there's even any conversational chemi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/20 09:41 PM |
| 4 | Im getting married in April and thinking about it makes me want to throw up. Is that terrible or normal?I cried on my first wedding night, too. I cried a lot of nights during that relationship. Sometimes it's just not right. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/20 07:12 PM |
| 6 | Should I make him drive 2hrs+ to see me? Potential LDR adviceI'm genuinely curious. Why would he drive several hours, for a woman he has never met, if she's not willing to even meet halfway? I honestly don't know what the motivation would be here. I understand the chase, but this is a woman he's never even seen in person, who is going to (at best) be an LDR, starting said relationship with an unwillingness to travel. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/20 03:18 AM |
| 10 | Lonely | New momMy library does baby story time. I promise you, those women come for their own socialization more than their infants'. | /r/RedPillWives | 05/02/20 02:26 AM |
| 5 | Should I make him drive 2hrs+ to see me? Potential LDR adviceSo, I ask this having met my husband on a dating app, knowing he lived an hour away. What is your end goal? Is it a long term relationship that could lead to marriage? If so, what's the solution to the distance issue? Would you be willing to relocate? Do his circumstances lead you to believe it might be an option for him? At the time I met my husband, I knew that I wasn't willing to relocate. I work in libraries and, believe it or not, it's an extremely competitive, volatile field. So, when I sa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/20 02:25 AM |
| 26 | Im getting married in April and thinking about it makes me want to throw up. Is that terrible or normal?She literally asked if it's normal. She's asking for opinions... and judging by the upvotes, I'm not the only one with this one. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/20 12:50 AM |
| 92 | Im getting married in April and thinking about it makes me want to throw up. Is that terrible or normal?My first relationship ended in a divorce at 23... and a lot of emotional issues that likely could have been diagnosed as PTSD. Up to my wedding day to my now-husband, the only anxiety I felt, at all, was in regards to being the center of attention. I never, not for a second, felt anything negative toward marrying my husband, despite my previous trauma. He never even had the slightest of cold feet, either. He's still the best decision I ever made. Your feelings aren't normal. His feelings aren't … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/20 11:05 PM |
| 1 | What are the long-term consequences, both negative and positive, of modern day feminism?There are some really great ones for boys, but they're few and far between. Ashfall is a really good adventure series, as is the Maze Runner. Even The Hunger Games had a more organic love triangle that gave more insight and value to the male characters. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/20 07:48 PM |
| 3 | What are the long-term consequences, both negative and positive, of modern day feminism?I'm a teen librarian and you wouldn't believe the number of YA novels that act like men and boys are just props to amuse their female protagonists. It's love triangles galore in teen books, even non-romances, because boys' feelings don't matter. If there were ever a book with a male protagonist (though, even those are few and far between), who played two girls against each other for his own amusement, the extremely leftist ALA would have a fit. I can't figure out why boys don't read more! | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/20 06:37 PM |
| 4 | Are there any questions you guys have about arranged marriage?Do you love him? | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/20 03:27 AM |
| 7 | Husband has career opportunity overseas— I’m scared!When my husband goes away for a weekend, I watch teen movies and shows he hates and eat snack foods for dinner and stay up all night for no reason and its so much fun... for two days. Then I'm ready for him to be home. I have a ton of hobbies and my husband is still preferable. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/20 03:02 AM |
| 18 | Are there any questions you guys have about arranged marriage?How much say did you have? Did you want an arranged marriage? Was it something you always knew was coming? I think it's really interesting how online dating, when done correctly, mirrors arranged marriages, from what I've read of them. Two people share the fundamentals and then consider a future. Obviously, next steps differ, but I find it fascinating that we're being more pragmatic about relationships as a whole, after years of condemning pragmatism. In fact, divorced at 23, I remember saying I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/20 02:55 AM |
| 8 | Why we are attracted to men with purposes? I don’t care that he can give me a banana now, i want the man, that can protect my current banana stash from thieves and get me infinite future bananas in the future."I love your addition. Measurable progress toward those dreams is really the best way to tell if a man will ever accomplish his goals. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/20 06:49 PM |
| 9 | How long should the dating phase lasI planned mine in 5 months. I got my dress off of Etsy for $400, cut to my measurements. I reserved a newish, somewhat out of the way venue that had an opening. We hired a DJ instead of a band. We had a local grocery store cater. It can be done. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/20 06:44 PM |
| 18 | Husband has career opportunity overseas— I’m scared!Definitely don't tell him no. You'll both regret it. You might check out some armed forces wives' advice for keeping in touch and feeling close during deployment. Honestly, it'll probably be easier for you, because you'll be able to talk whenever you like. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/20 04:59 PM |
| 26 | Why we are attracted to men with purposes? I don’t care that he can give me a banana now, i want the man, that can protect my current banana stash from thieves and get me infinite future bananas in the future."My husband was in oil when we met, making about 80k a year (we live in a state with one of the lowest costs of living). When we started discussing marriage, we started talking about him getting out, because once we bought a house, had children, he'd be stuck in oil and I don't want to raise kids alone half the time. Since he got out in fall of 2016, he's started with the city, where he's earned several licenses and raises, and even a couple of promotions. He's made investments and paid things of… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/20 03:33 PM |
| 3 | Babies or back to school?My position requires a master's degree, so at any given point, I can name five or six people my age who are going back to school... and it's awful for them. Life will only get crazier and more hectic the older you get, the more established you get in family life. Finish school now. | /r/RedPillWives | 02/02/20 09:27 PM |
| 21 | Full-time working Red Pill Wives & Moms, How do you keep going, doing it all and not resenting your husband?I understand that you feel like you're nagging if you bring these things up repeatedly, but it's fair to sit down with your husband and share these points. Traditional roles aside, you both work full time, which means you're splitting the "male" role and you need to be splitting the "female" role. If he can't agree to that, then I would honestly suggest some kind of counseling, because that is entirely reasonable. If he can agree, then make a deal that the next time the baby is sick, he takes of… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/20 06:42 PM |
| 18 | Full-time working Red Pill Wives & Moms, How do you keep going, doing it all and not resenting your husband?Meanwhile my daughter got sent home from daycare, my husband will not take off to care for her from his job, and I have done so many times to the point that my boss makes remarks about it. Unless he would notably suffer professionally, this is not okay. You both work. You both make the sacrifices of being working parents. Its is entirely reasonable to expect him to take care of the sick baby sometimes, especially when it's hurting you professionally. I have communicated them to my husband, but a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/20 06:16 PM |
| 1 | Question on your namingYou're missing the sidebar. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/20 12:19 AM |
| 5 | The Ultimate Strategy for RPWThe natural (biological) mark of a great catch is the hymen. I strongly disagree. What, exactly, signifies to a man falling in love that there's a hymen present? Using the word biological doesn't make your argument scientific. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/20 08:22 AM |
| 12 | The Ultimate Strategy for RPWProtect your hymen at all cost, with exception of your life of course; but don't be afraid to bluff that you're willing to sacrifice your life rather than letting a man penetrate you without marriage. Most men will retreat if you bluff well. I hope you're a troll, because this is terrible advice... for life and for avoiding rape. This is why we get 22-year-olds here who think they're worthless for losing their virginity to their boyfriend of three years. We literally have to console these women … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/20 04:37 AM |
| 59 | Am unable to satisfy my husband - looking for tips from women in similar situationsLiterally anyone can get a job in a year and a half. Anyone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/20 02:25 AM |
| 1 | Help. I hate cleaningI really liked her take on this as well, about not having to always feel good, but doing stuff that will make you and your family feel good later. | /r/RedPillWives | 31/01/20 04:23 PM |
| 2 | Help. I hate cleaningI suggest a chore chart for yourself, especially with the chaos of an infant. Map out what you'll do on different days and do them all at once while listening to upbeat music, and audiobook (free from your library, likely) or a great podcast. Ideally, you won't be dedicating more than an hour or two a day to these tasks. | /r/RedPillWives | 31/01/20 04:22 PM |
| 20 | When Is the Best Time to Tell Him?Online dating is a great way to share goals like this upfront, if done properly. Ideally, you shouldn't share a list of "don't wants," but stating "I work full time in an admin position and enjoy the environment, but would eventually love to care for a family full time." That doesn't sound lazy or money-grubbing, nor does it sound desperate, but it clearly states OP's goals. I had a similar must on my profile. "I have a great job in a pretty volatile field, so I plan to stay in the metro area," … | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/20 04:20 PM |
| 4 | When Is the Best Time to Tell Him?This is a pretty good tactic with everything. On our second date, my husband and I talked about our timelines for a relationship, in regards to what our friends were doing. It was totally organic and hypothetical and it was very clear that we weren't talking about each other, but I always knew from the beginning that a five year dating period wasn't his goal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/20 04:15 PM |
| 8 | When Is the Best Time to Tell Him?Don't mislead. If they ask directly, share your plans for the meantime "I'd be happy to just work as an admin assistant. I've never been interested in being a career woman." Then, when you're a little more serious, you can share the SAHM goal and it won't be out of the blue. Are you religious? Religious circles are likeliest to turn out men who are excited by the idea. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/20 04:12 PM |
| 6 | Conditions for young marriages?Well, for me, I needed someone who had a career underway. I was done with school, a master's degree, and felt that that part of my life was behind me. If he wanted a degree, he needed to have it already. He also had to know what he wanted. Wavering about where he wanted to live or if he wanted kids or to travel the world or become a sportscaster was unacceptable. I knew what I wanted and needed to know we were on the same page. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/20 05:10 AM |
| 17 | Conditions for young marriages?A good time to get engaged is when you're ready to get married. It sounds like you have some really long term plans that are going to take you in different directions. If you're set on them, it really might be too soon to discuss marriage. As for marital age, I think your twenties are a great time to marry, but there's a lot of living between 20 and 29. It doesn't hurt to aim for the center. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/20 04:26 AM |
| 4 | Nursing school is so hard I kind of just wanna be a house wifeMy bachelor's is in education and I work as a teen librarian. I feel like I make a much bigger difference in my current job than I would teaching. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/20 10:50 AM |
| 6 | Nursing school is so hard I kind of just wanna be a house wifeI actually do have that magical, fulfilling career, where I feel like I make a huge difference in the world and I love what I do... but I'm not the norm and it took a master's degree and five years of working two jobs to get it. My husband uses his bachelor's degree to work for the city and doesn't hate it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/20 04:19 AM |
| 5 | Nursing school is so hard I kind of just wanna be a house wifeI really hate the push for the College Path or a Career. Most people just work jobs and are lucky to do so with people they enjoy. There can only be so many firemen and doctors. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/20 03:38 AM |
| 21 | What are the qualities of a high value man vs a low value man?I needed a man who worked hard and was ambitious, because those aren't one in the same. He needed to be generally cheerful and even-tempered, have no addictions, have healthy relationships with friends and family. I wanted someone who was Christian (any denomination) and was comfortable with and open to my Catholicism. He had to want a family and be on a similar timeline to mine. He needed to respect my career and be open to learning what librarians actually do (spoiler alert: it's not read all … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/20 02:00 AM |
| 6 | Nursing school is so hard I kind of just wanna be a house wifeI mean, it's not like we live in a world of only nurses or housewives. There are many other choices. I, personally, wouldn't be happy staying home at all, especially before children, so I can't tell you good reasons, though I'm sure plenty of women here can. I can only tell you "this is hard" is a bad one. I also know that hairdressing is notoriously catty. Lots of drama. You could always just work in an admin position or major in HR or business. You don't have to have a career if the real goal … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/20 01:09 AM |
| 7 | Nursing school is so hard I kind of just wanna be a house wifeConsider a less demanding career path. You don't seem invested and it's only going to get harder... a lot harder. While the motivations you outline here for wanting to be a housewife are terrible, if it's something you do end up doing, you could save yourself some work and debt, while you date with purpose. College isn't a must. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/20 11:49 PM |
| 2 | Living RP even as a trans women changed my life 200% for the betterI'm not faking it and I like classic gender roles and representations. If you ever read YA, you should check out Birthday, by Meredith Russo, a trans woman. It tells the story of a trans teen in Tennessee (yikes), but has a nice, romantic ending. Your comment about overcompensating by being deliberately masculine reminded me of it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/20 03:01 AM |
| 1 | My husband and I are going to start trying to have a babyIf you pair with an app and have a pretty predictable cycle, I guess I feel like the strips are more beneficial, but that's a pretty specific circumstance. I, for example, vary by one or two days from what my app says, so I can start testing a few days before and I get a really accurate result. If someone has an irregular cycle, though, I can see why temperature and discharge analysis would be more effective. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/20 02:46 AM |
| 7 | Living RP even as a trans women changed my life 200% for the betterI'm not surprised that someone transitioning to female has more success if they lean in to classic female roles. I don't claim to understand the feeling behind being trans, but it doesn't seem like you'd satisfy the urge by being anything but feminine. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/20 12:12 AM |
| 7 | [Advice] How to talk to an "alpha" guy and look cool while doing it.Just don't get too comfortable. "One of the boys" is not where you want to be, while looking for love." | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/20 11:16 PM |
| 3 | My husband and I are going to start trying to have a babyGenuinely asking, but what advantage would this give over ovulation strips? I asked my gynecologist and my primary care physician if there was any reason to track my temperature or other bodily signs if I was using strips and they both said no. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/20 08:23 PM |
| 2 | My husband and I are going to start trying to have a babyTrue, but I found I had a tendency to take pregnancy tests if they were available and it always made it harder to find out I wasn't pregnant, because I would get my hopes up. I'm sure it depends on the person. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/20 07:26 PM |
| 25 | [Advice] How to talk to an "alpha" guy and look cool while doing it.Do you work in customer service? Doing so gives you experience working with people of all kinds, from homeless women to hot, successful men. Just getting out there and practicing talking to people can really help with this. As for dates with high value men, again practice makes perfect. Go on dates. Get used to talking to men. When a good one comes along, you'll feel a lot more comfortable. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/20 04:53 PM |
| 6 | My husband and I are going to start trying to have a babyMy doctor prescribed this great gummy prenatal that's free under my health plan. I get to start the day with candy! | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/20 04:28 PM |
| 20 | My husband and I are going to start trying to have a babyWell, congratulations. I'll give a couple of tips that I've learned in the last few months, as my husband and I have been trying. Don't buy pregnancy tests, unless you need them. You'll end up taking them for pretty much no reason and getting your hopes up. Wait until your missed period and then go get a pregnancy test. The $1 ones work just as well as the pricey ones. Do buy ovulation strips. Just knowing that you're ovulating can really ease your mind, since that's one of the main reasons wome… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/20 03:50 PM |
| 1 | Are ultimatums RPW friendly?I think too many women are afraid to speak up about their expectations in a relationship, for fear of scaring off a new guy. That's exactly the time to scare him off, though, if you're not on the same page. Date three is the perfect time to mention that you want marriage and family, so that if he doesn't or can't even discuss it, you can find someone who's ready for the same things, instead of living together for two years only to find out that he doesn't really believe in marriage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/20 02:47 PM |
| 27 | Are ultimatums RPW friendly?Set your standards early and stick to them and you won't find yourself in need of an ultimatum. If someone doesn't fit your needs, you walk, ultimatum free, because you can't change people. You can only change what you accept from them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/20 04:44 AM |
| 5 | Newbie -disagreeing and alcoholIf your boyfriend wants to move in before marriage, how do you state that you don’t want to until marriage without undermining his idea of doing it before marriage? Disagreeing isn't undermining. "I don't want to move in with anyone before marriage, because of x, y, and z" is a perfectly acceptable response. Perhaps you can compromise with engagement and a set date. As for the drinking, it doesn't seem like you live together, so I think it would be acceptable to remove yourself from the situatio… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/20 05:29 PM |
| 2 | I want a re-doMy husband and I even struggled with that at 29 and 32. It took some real effort for him, especially, to adjust to having another person to consider. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/20 05:22 PM |
| 2 | I want a re-doThere are obviously exceptions to every rule. I'd just suggest you vet well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/20 05:19 PM |
| 6 | I want a re-doFor the most part, if someone wants to settle down, they've done so by 40, if they're a desirable match. If they haven't, there's probably something wrong. I'm not sure any dedication to career would have made up for that, when I was dating. Keep in mind, it can be regional. I'm in the South. Everyone marries at 22. In a large city, a never married 40-year-old probably isn't the same red flag. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/20 05:03 PM |
| 10 | Newbie -disagreeing and alcoholYou need to be agreeable on a day-to-day basis. If he asks what you want for dinner and you say you don't care and he chooses Mexican, you don't get to say "anything but that." If he asks you to bring him a soda on your way from the kitchen, grab one. I think this really applies to both people in a relationship: start fewer arguments. That doesn't mean the advice transcends to major life decisions, like moving in together or buying a house or how many kids you want to have... You're allowed to h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/20 05:01 PM |
| 7 | Call off or talk it out?Thank you! I have never understood why people recycle old relationships, especially beyond high school. If it doesn't work in the honeymoon phase, it sure isn't going to work for the long haul. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/20 04:57 PM |
| 31 | Call off or talk it out?Ha. He wants to get laid, on a regular basis, and sees you as the most obvious outlet. Hard next. Find a guy who wants you for what you want, a relationship. You're 21. You don't have to settle for a castoff. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/20 04:34 PM |
| 17 | Is there something or some things you know now you really wish you knew when you were younger?Get better friends. I work with teenagers and it's so funny how we tell them that "you are the company you keep" all the time, but act like we're above it as adults. I spent so much of my twenties with catty, vengeful women, who used to pressure me to be promiscuous. They would insist that men didn't care that they were single moms, never realizing that there's a difference between a man who will take you to bed and a man who will take you home to mom. I never gave in to those terrible bits of a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/20 03:17 PM |
| 2 | I want a re-doAs much as I love Marry Him, I feel like OP should go in cautiously on that one, as it's really directed towards twenty-somethings from the regretful 40-something. It might be too depressing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/20 03:04 PM |
| 2 | What are some physical hygiene tips/Ways you like to care for your physical hygiene?Their initial appointment will usually include a skin cancer screening and they'll look over your body for spots or moles that look suspicious. I'd just write down any questions you have, such as recommended moisturizer and such. My dermatologist actually told me not to use a retinol cream yet, because I didn't need it, so the answers will all be unique to you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/20 03:01 PM |
| 20 | This 1955 ‘Good House Wife’s Guide’ Explains How Wives Should Treat Their HusbandsMy husband works 7-4 and I work 8-5. Because he has time to decompress and play a video game, when he gets home, he often makes dinner while I decompress or workout for a bit. If he's working in the yard, I'll take over dinner. If one of us is off during the week, it's sort of an unspoken agreement that we'll clean and figure out dinner. Freshening up isn't an issue for me, because I dress up for work. I'll usually change into a t-shirt and short athletic shorts when I get home. After dinner, we… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/20 05:12 AM |
| 1 | How to prevent burnout?I agree and it's always good to be in the best place possible when a baby comes, i.e. a job you don't hate that isn't forever away. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/20 09:32 PM |
| 3 | How to prevent burnout?I know that stress impacts fertility, but I also think some of these comments are coming off as a little insensitive. You had a miscarriage and it could have been from any number of factors. Yes, you should manage your stress, but please do not feel like your lack of meditation caused your miscarriage. I don't think anyone means to say this, but I'm not even the person targeted and that's what I'm getting, so I thought I'd offer some encouragement. Miscarriage is extremely common. You are not al… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/20 08:08 PM |
| 2 | How to prevent burnout?I hate to drive and I don't even live in a big city or an especially congested area. There's something about being at the mercy of other people's driving abilities that really gets to me. I also hate wasting time and when I've had a long commute (50 minutes), I could never get over how much time I was losing. I can't imagine doing that with children, either. If OP finds a job closer to home, it might even be something that could work well with a family, if she needs/wants to work after children. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/20 07:59 PM |
| 41 | How to prevent burnout?I always say the secret to a happy life is a short commute. My husband and I both work 10 minutes from home. We get to come home for lunch and eat together. If you hate your job anyway, I think it might benefit you to get one closer to home. Even if you feel the same way about it, the short commute will lessen your stress. In the meantime, try to enjoy the commute as much as you can. Your library likely has downloadable audiobooks or you could get a paid music service. As for dinner, I applaud t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/20 04:01 PM |
| 11 | Anyone else feel this guilt?I admire people who wait until marriage, but I also understand why others consider it impractical. If he's not a virgin, do you feel less toward him for it? Do you feel cheated? I would hope not. You missed a lot of firsts with him. I assume he wasn't your first kiss or the first guy you got drunk with or the first guy to meet your family. That's okay. People are whole people when they commit, pasts and all. As for the question of whether anyone else feels this guilt, I sometimes feel regret for… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/20 01:13 AM |
| 3 | I want my man to be more independentDo you want to be married to someone who won't clean his house? You're just getting a taste of what a forever relationship looks like at this point. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/20 04:41 AM |
| 4 | Getting ahead at workTry askamanager.com. She really offers some practical advice to be polite, but firm. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/20 02:18 AM |
| 12 | How did you become a red pill woman and what values are you looking for?I was divorced and 100 pounds overweight at 23. I stumbled on The Red Pill and read it out of morbid curiosity for a couple of years, enjoying some of the truths, but mostly repelled by the hostility. Then I found RPW and realized that, although a post occassionally turns me off, I love the traditionalism and the focus on self-improvement. I wanted to find a better man the second time around, so early on in all of this, I lost the weight and learned to wear eyeliner from YouTube and started wear… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/20 02:13 AM |
| 3 | What are some Christian/feminine lifestyle Youtubers you like to watch for inspiration?It's been mentioned before, but I'm enjoying Mrs. Midwest. I'd love similar recommendations, especially of some older women, like in their thirties. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/20 02:08 AM |
| 5 | I want my man to be more independentIt's not an issue of disrespecting the relationship. They say it, because you shouldn't act like a spouse until the other person has given the commitment of making you their spouse. There are girlfriend duties and there are wife duties. Cleaning up after him and accepting that this is just how he is, is something a wife does. A girlfriend vets for a man who acts like an adult to avoid that situation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/20 02:02 AM |
| 19 | I want my man to be more independentYou're not his wife... but also wives don't do this to this degree. Moms do... enabling ones | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/20 04:19 PM |
| 1 | I’m stuck in a situationYou're essentially a sex toy for him. Cut contact and work on gaining some self-respect. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/20 02:19 PM |
| 13 | Fast dating/courtship?I know people who got engaged within a few months, married a few months later and it all worked out. They're also very religious and were virgins on their wedding nights. I wouldn't suggest you make any lifelong commitment before the newness wears off the relationship, which is usually around four months. Then I'd suggest you give it another couple of months to have that first fight or embarrassing moment or what have you. So, you're asking for an answer on the shortest healthy courtship, before… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/20 02:16 PM |
| 2 | Advice- husband doesn’t interact with me muchI would recommend you Googe "digital well-being" apps. There might be some useful ones on there for showing just how much time he spends on his phone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/20 01:44 AM |
| 3 | Advice- husband doesn’t interact with me muchYou are being reasonable. He's addicted to his screens and the entertainment and validation they offer. He's not trying to be hurtful, true, but he's also not listening or trying to resolve what you're telling him is a major problem. If he had any other compulsion and refused to work on it, it wouldn't be okay either. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/20 11:56 PM |
| 7 | Redpill and marriage??I do not see this in my day to day life, either. My husbands friends are all really happy to be married. So are my four brothers and even my dad dotes on my step-momma like crazy. I don't really work with men, but the married ones are really happy to be married and the single ones want to be married. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/20 09:55 PM |
| 6 | Advice- husband doesn’t interact with me muchPart of me wonders if this is how it is to be the wife of someone who’s smart, successful, popular and if I should just accept it. I’m confused about what to feel. It's not. My husband is all of those things and yes, he likes his phone, but he also takes it seriously when I ask him to put it away. He can read the news at lunch and he can listen to podcasts while he works in the yard and he can play video games while I read, etc. If he's spending time with me, he puts it away. You're making a lot… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/20 09:49 PM |
| 3 | Advice- husband doesn’t interact with me muchSure, but that requires him admitting this is a problem. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/20 09:45 PM |
| 5 | Advice- husband doesn’t interact with me muchIf you get to the breaking point of ignoring him again, the next time he misses you and gets sad, take the chance to discuss this. He refuses to discuss what is a major problem. He is not the victim and you have a right to demand a resolution or compromise. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/20 09:45 PM |
| 6 | Redpill and marriage??The key is to be very clear about that being your goal. If a man can't talk about the hypothetical of marriage to someone one day, it's reasonable to assume you're either on different timelines or want different things. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/20 05:53 PM |
| 6 | Advice- husband doesn’t interact with me muchShe says he still does this on dates and vacations. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/20 05:52 PM |
| 41 | Redpill and marriage??RPW women aren't looking for RP men. They want a better balance of beta and alpha traits. These two are just not the natural match they seem like they should be. My husband was all about marriage and he thinks very negatively of the entire RP ideology. He's extremely alpha, but he's also very gentle and caring toward me (RP calls these beta traits). He considers family to be the cornerstone of society. He appreciates the financial benefits of a dual income, having a partner to come home to, some… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/20 05:44 PM |
| 19 | Advice- husband doesn’t interact with me muchIf he's happy having you take care of him, but isn't returning the favor, I don't think it would be unreasonable to stop. I'm not suggesting you don't do your share, but your kisses and smiles and backrubs and bringing him treats... just stop doing these things. If he won't give any extra and isn't interested in discussing it, you shouldn't be expected to go the extra mile either. When he's ready to talk about why, perhaps he'll initiate the conversation and you can have a more effective dialogu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/20 05:41 PM |
| 2 | RP-SexThank you. That is how I read that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/20 01:44 AM |
| 3 | RP-SexIt is very different if one just tries to listen or give useful advice instead of criticizing or trying to convince them about the female perspective. That's not what I did. Honestly, I think the problem with new readers reading the TRP posts is that they're not getting the perspective of most men, nor are they getting the perspective of the men they want to date... and that's what they think they're getting. If you're familiar with the RPW sidebar and ideology, yes, it can be interesting and he… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/20 01:18 AM |
| 6 | Should I tell him that I love him?No. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/20 11:44 PM |
| 1 | Hi! How do I stop being naive?I was both. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/20 11:28 PM |
| 9 | Sharing recipes that were a hit!I think it's less about how the recipes taste than it is ideas in general. I can only eat zoodles so many times before I am zoodled out... and I love zoodles! I do appreciate the book recommendation, though, and I'll check that one out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/20 08:41 PM |
| 22 | Sharing recipes that were a hit!One of my biggest challenge is finding tasty low cal recipes. I can make anything good with three cups of cheese, but I'm constantly on the lookout for the healthy stuff. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/20 08:01 PM |
| 2 | Is It Okay To Go Back To Someone You Rejected?You're welcome. The good news is, it doesn't sound like this is a lesson that caused you to truly miss out on someone compatible. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/20 08:00 PM |
| 1 | How to stop this cycleI think you should work on your social issues first and I recommend doing so by finding a safe space with free teen activities, like a church or library. I'm a teen librarian and my programs are a bully-free zone, where we play games and do art projects and STEM activities. A ton if my teens met through my programs and are really great friends now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/20 07:59 PM |
| 10 | Is It Okay To Go Back To Someone You Rejected?I don't understand why you think it's these two guys or nobody. The guy you're dating sounds like a bad match, but so does the other guy. You nexted him for a reason and I think the reasons are fair. He's 21 and doesn't know what he wants to do with his life, but you want to marry and be a SAHM. Yes, it's a bit shallow to let the neurosurgeon go to your head, but you're 18! You're still learning and that's okay. This was a learning experience. Find a third guy who is actually compatible. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/20 05:14 PM |
| 2 | NFP impact on sex life?Well the latter was my point, that there are plenty of things all faiths claim but most individuals don't follow. I don't know why this one is always the hangup. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/20 05:05 AM |
| 2 | NFP impact on sex life?I'm not offended. It just baffles me how people get so caught up on this one requirement of the Catholic faith, when there are so many other mandates from Christianity in general, and other faiths, that the followers just can't bring themselves to abide by... but it's this one rule that so often comes up, particularly lately on this sub. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/20 06:29 PM |
| 1 | Boy/Self Improvement Advice for College StudentYou can still have your fairytale romance if you meet online. It's just about arranging the first meetup. My husband and I met after a few days of talking and I'll tell you, the "How we met" story doesn't come up near as often as we imagine it will. You can also just tell an abbreviated version of the truth. "I was reading at Starbuck's, when he introduced himself. I struggled with flirting, as well. I still don't really know how to do it or recognize it. My husband was once shocked to hear me t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/20 03:44 PM |
| 10 | NFP impact on sex life?I know this sounds incredibly insensitive Then you probably shouldn't have said it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/20 01:51 PM |
| 3 | NFP impact on sex life?Plenty of faiths require things their followers aren't strong enough to give. Most deminimations demand a 10% tithe and I know more people who follow NFP than I do who donate 10% of their earnings to the church. OP, I agree that this is too personal for us to judge, but you could add ovulation strips into the mix, as another predictor. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/20 01:13 PM |
| 8 | Hi! How do I stop being naive?Okay, I'll reword: "who finds your innocence attractive." If you're naive and innocent, finding someone who considers it a perk is a natural choice, far better than losing that innocence. Literally any asset can be exploited by bad people. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/20 02:56 AM |
| 5 | Hi! How do I stop being naive?I was once on the fence about going over to a man's house to watch a TV show we both liked after the first date. Then I remembered he said he didn't own a TV. I don't feel like he was really planning to watch Arrow. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/20 01:54 AM |
| 24 | What are some physical hygiene tips/Ways you like to care for your physical hygiene?I wash my hair every day and my dermatologist says that's best, that there's no reason to skip days. The last dermatologist I saw said the same thing. They both recommended CeraVe facial moisturizer and I can honestly say that the $10 bottle I've had for over a year is just as good as the $70 three-month supply of Drunk Elephant. I use the cleanser, as well. So I guess my advice is to see a dermatologist and see what they recommend. Some things really very by skin type and ethnicity. Edit to add… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/20 12:20 AM |
| 9 | Boy/Self Improvement Advice for College StudentI'm a big proponent of making the most of the college dating scene while you can, because that's one of the last times organic dating is easily accessible. That being said, in the next couple of years, online dating will be the next obvious move, so there's no shame in taking it now. When you date online, you can very clearly state what you want and vet similarly. You might even be able to find a guy on campus, with the added bonus of both of you knowing you're pursuing something romantic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/20 11:32 PM |
| 1 | RP-SexYou're right. There's no value in debating this, especially when numerous posters have explained reasons to avoid the men's sub. Have a great day. OP, the RPW sidebar will serve you well, as will lurking. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/20 10:03 PM |
| 12 | Hi! How do I stop being naive?I was pretty inexperienced when I met my husband... and it was a big part of what attracted him. I remember being absolutely panicked about our first time together and wondering what I was supposed to do with my arms. I wouldn't worry about the naivete. There's nothing to be gained from promiscuity. Just make sure you're being safe, by not meeting men in private places or going to his with the expectation that you're really going to watch Netflix and chill (totally thought that's all that meant … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/20 06:44 PM |
| 9 | RP-SexNo. It's not. It's frequent advice for a reason. Those men are looking for completely different things than the women here and many of them are still in the anger phase and lashing out. If women even comment in those spaces, they're met with hostility, because the space is not for them. It's not intended for rational discussion between the sexes. The same is not true for men who have valuable things to add here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/20 06:37 PM |
| 5 | What to do about a hostile non-RPW friend?Fair enough and at this point, we'd be derailing the discussion. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/20 05:04 PM |
| 7 | What to do about a hostile non-RPW friend?That seems contrary to your post history, but I still that it's fair to say the vast majority of women here wouldn't want to be single at 40. Maybe "everyone" was too absolute. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/20 04:28 PM |
| 11 | What to do about a hostile non-RPW friend?Not everyone would be as upset as you clearly would be at being 40 and/or single. Literally everyone in this sub would, since it's about finding a happy relationship while you're at your best. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/20 03:03 PM |
| 2 | What to do about a hostile non-RPW friend?It's also workplace bullying, in a much more literal sense. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/20 03:00 PM |
| 20 | RP-SexDon't read the male subreddit. They acknowledge the same truths and have completely different goals. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/20 08:33 PM |
| 1 | Women of RPW - how would you propose introducing this sub to a girlfriend/relationship partner?I first read and heard both terms from Ian Ironwood's blog, which is a pretty scary place to start. I don't think I'd claim either phrase for myself and that's probably partly why. I took me a long time to realize that I kept coming back because of the truth I saw under the crazy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/20 03:00 AM |
| 7 | Women of RPW - how would you propose introducing this sub to a girlfriend/relationship partner?I feel like both of those phrases would lead a woman to really unattractive parts of the internet. "Hmm... I guess I'll Google 'redpill.' | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/20 12:43 AM |
| 2 | Instead of flowers my captain regularly surprises me with stuff like this. This is the result of being feminine towards him so he can be the man I need. He sent this text while at training this past week! Married life is great!My husband never buys me flowers... because I think they're wasteful and stupid. They cost a fortune and they die. I'd much prefer candy surprises and that's what he does. | /r/RedPillWives | 18/01/20 04:18 PM |
| 13 | Why I submit to my husband like it's 1959Letting your partner be the leader is going to occasionally require submitting. There will be times when you cannot come to an agreement and if you're truly letting them lead, then they get the final say. For example, you want the car that's $25,000. He says you can't go over $20,000. You discuss it and share your views over the course of a week and he still says $25,000 is too much. If you're truly letting him lead, you'll find a cheaper car. A friend of mine actually had this problem, but in r… | /r/RedPillWives | 18/01/20 04:16 PM |
| 12 | How often do you think about how your physical appearance helped you?Every woman gets frustrated that she's not the physical ideal. I wish I were more slender, my shoulders weren't so broad, my feet weren't so big. I think your insecurities are natural and that yes, it may be a turn off to some men, because it is a little different of an issue, but you're not in a totally unique situation of feeling like no one wants your ducks. You just have to keep advertising them. Everyone hates dating. We all just want to find someone and your situation is the same in that a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/20 05:11 PM |
| 8 | How can I help my friends find the red pill?It's actually not told from a woman with a traditional background at all. The title is scandalous and I wish she'd called it something else, but it's basically told from the perspective of the 90s career woman who was failed by the Sex and the City culture that said she could have it all. She talks about the men she turned down in her late twenties, the time when it would have been best for her (in her city and situation) to settle down and all of the ridiculous reasons she had. One was a really… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/20 05:07 PM |
| 75 | How often do you think about how your physical appearance helped you?People who tell you appearance doesn't matter are lying to you. My husband is 5'8" and I'm 5'5". His first girlfriend was 6'1", though, so there are men confident enough to date a woman six inches taller. In your place, I'd suggest a support group for your specific disorder to gain confidence and maybe even meet someone. It might only have an online presence, but I'm sure it exists. I'd also say that this is one of the rare cases where it's fair to refuse men under 6 feet tall, but you'd have to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/20 04:52 PM |
| 7 | How can I help my friends find the red pill?Lead by example and let them take their cues from you, if they're truly interested in how you do it. That's really all you're able to do for them. I have a lot of feminist, leftist friends and I'd never tell them about RPW. They'll automatically relate it to TRP and it will be a nightmare for you, socially. If they want to change, they'll have to find their own path. You might try recommending some of the more innocuous book titles, like Marry Him: the Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough, but … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/20 04:47 PM |
| 5 | Does anyone know if sexting counts as being "slutty" or promiscuous, and if a potential partner would mind the "N-count" on that while you are single, if you never actually hooked up with anyone for real?You asked and everyone is telling you it's a bad idea. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/20 03:16 PM |
| 8 | Does anyone know if sexting counts as being "slutty" or promiscuous, and if a potential partner would mind the "N-count" on that while you are single, if you never actually hooked up with anyone for real?I mean, it's still not the best idea and most men probably would care that someone had your nudes, regardless. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/20 03:34 AM |
| 7 | Does anyone know if sexting counts as being "slutty" or promiscuous, and if a potential partner would mind the "N-count" on that while you are single, if you never actually hooked up with anyone for real?I think that's a terrible idea, regardless of the circumstances. Even with the most trustworthy recipients, clouds get hacked. Photos get out and you can't get them back. I know some women on here share them with their husbands, but if my face were visible, my husband would be upset that those photos exist somewhere on the internet, now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/20 01:51 AM |
| 6 | Does anyone know if sexting counts as being "slutty" or promiscuous, and if a potential partner would mind the "N-count" on that while you are single, if you never actually hooked up with anyone for real?I don't know that my husband ever asked about this, not that I had anything to share. I don't feel like most men would ask/care, unless you're sending nudes. Sexting is kind of... nothing. Like it's just make-believe, if it's someone you don't even know. Maybe that's why I never did it? I'd rather read a romance novel. That's better written. If you know this person, though, you're courting trouble. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/20 12:20 AM |
| 6 | What are your best tips for overcoming feelings of jealousy/envy towards other women?That's why I said it was an oversimplification. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/20 11:39 PM |
| 93 | What are your best tips for overcoming feelings of jealousy/envy towards other women?Lose the social media. I always tell people the reason I don't have a social media presence is that Instagram is where young people go to compete and Facebook is where old people go to fight. That's obviously an oversimplification, but if envy is a problem, I'm betting it will help to stop looking in other people's windows. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/20 08:44 PM |
| 2 | Realizing how truly annoying I amI disagree. His method more often breaks dishes and doesn't get them as clean and overfills the sink, to the point that we have to place dishes next to it, until the current load finishes. My question is "Will saying something change anything?" No. He'll either load the dishes his way or I'll load the dishes. Even if his method is stupid (your word, not mine), I'd prefer a broken plate to always having to do it myself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/20 07:06 PM |
| 28 | Should I tell my boyfriend how I feel?I cannot imagine he'll care and he might actually reassure you, but virginity is not the be-all and end-all as it's often portrayed here. You're an adult woman with a, pretty limited, adult past. It's fine. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/20 04:54 PM |
| 7 | I'm confusedJust because a man will sleep with you, doesn't mean he'll introduce you to his friends. He's got a girlfriend he intends to keep. Your best case scenario is being his dirty secret and feeling disgusting for it. Cut ties. Completely. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/20 07:56 PM |
| 1 | I’ll never be as special to my husband as I didn’t lose my virginity to him. It’s just the way things go.No. You said all of that. She didn't. She hasn't even joined the discussion after her vague post. Commenters literally cannot tell if she's sharing a theory or a relationship problem. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/20 03:04 PM |
| 1 | Opportunity to out vindictive co worker. Is it my place to deliver karma? HELP!If you feel this strongly, I think you should find a new job. This woman really does sound terrible, but your methods of working with her sound complicated, at best. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/20 06:11 AM |
| 16 | "You always treat me like a man, and I love it." + VulnerabilityI read this sub for years before I met my husband, never commenting, only reading. At first, I judged a fair amount... but I still paid attention. I still raise a brow at a post every now and then, but I also still pay attention. I have enough contemporary relationship advice in my life. It's great to have a traditional perspective, too. I absolutely see the good it does in my marriage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/20 02:54 AM |
| 48 | Realizing how truly annoying I amIt really is just about choosing your battles. My husband sucks at loading the dishwasher. He really is awful at it. He overfills it and doesn't start it, because he wants to play Tetris and somehow get more dishes in there, so they pile up in the sink, in the meantime. ... but the dishes are his thing and I almost never have to do them, because they do get done. So I keep my mouth shut and enjoy clean dishes, done by my husband, instead of ones done by me, on my terms. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/20 01:23 AM |
| 2 | Opportunity to out vindictive co worker. Is it my place to deliver karma? HELP!Your original post isn't displaying properly for me to cite what I was referencing. If she's doing something the company considers theft, I don't see why you shouldn't anonymously report it, especially if it's a regular thing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/20 12:28 AM |
| 9 | I’ll never be as special to my husband as I didn’t lose my virginity to him. It’s just the way things go.How? It's 18 words long. If she meant something else, she probably should've written more. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/20 05:27 PM |
| 5 | Scared to have kids?I'm a librarian. Every Summer Reading, I'm convinced I don't want children. It's actually okay if you decide you don't want kids. They're not for everyone. If you're still convinced you want your own, though, you might limit your exposure. Literally most of the children's librarians I know, don't want kids anymore. | /r/RedPillWives | 11/01/20 05:22 PM |
| 11 | I’ll never be as special to my husband as I didn’t lose my virginity to him. It’s just the way things go.... because your value as a person isn't concentrated in your hymen. People live lives before they find each other and contrary to the occasional post we see here, virginity is not even an asset to all men, let alone a requirement. It was awkward enough for my husband and myself, when I'd only kissed one other man before him. It was physically uncomfortable and it took me literal years to lose the self-consciousness that came with my lack of sexual experience. People bring a range of assets to a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/20 05:17 PM |
| 6 | Opportunity to out vindictive co worker. Is it my place to deliver karma? HELP!You're making a lot of excuses for things that are 100% theft. Regardless of any of your personal issues, I consider it an obligation to report someone who steals from your company, if we're talking switching prices and changing tickets (versus office supplies or sweet and low), regardless of who it is or your relationship. That is unquestionably theft and your motive shouldn't be getting back at someone, but doing right by your employer. It sounds like you work with a bunch of thieves and many … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/20 02:21 PM |
| 6 | Is it always a bad idea to date a colleague?Is it always a bad idea? No. If you work in entirely different departments/offices, report to different people, rarely see each other at work, and the social environment is adult enough that no one cares, then you're probably okay. For example, a lot of teachers date and marry within their school system, but outside their building. Is it a bad idea in your situation? Absolutely and you've already listed every reason why. I'd suggest you wait until your circumstances change and you either don't w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/20 10:55 PM |
| – | Gratitude: What are you thankful for?This morning, I woke up to my husband telling me that he'd realized on his way out to work, that I'd left my fog lights on, and my battery was dead. Without waking me up, he jumped my car for me and only woke me to tell me my keys were in the ignition, so the battery could charge. When I got to work, I locked myself out of the very small library I open on Fridays, requiring me to call my manager at another location to rescue me, since I was the only one on site. Then I smashed my hand in the doo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/20 03:48 PM |
| 9 | How are you supposed to withhold giving him sex if it's the thing that you want?I feel like OP is being deliberately obtuse to get the validation she wants. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/20 04:19 PM |
| 2 | Serial Dating Until ProposalI usually couldn't talk to more than one man at a time. I couldn't keep the details straight. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/20 01:27 AM |
| 8 | Am I being too much?From what you're saying, here, you really haven't been together long enough for this kind of dependency, especially if he's "joking" about being annoyed with you. If you really like this guy, you need to lay off. Develop some hobbies outside of him and spend time on those. Work on building friendships, perhaps by joining some clubs at school. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/20 01:41 PM |
| 8 | Serial Dating Until ProposalMy husband was my 21st first date. I counted. He was only my second kiss, though. Serial introductions worked very well for me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/20 01:05 PM |
| 4 | How to get rid of this underlying feeling?You have two separate issues, the porn addiction and the feeling that there's something better out there. A lot of people are addicted to porn today and many of them are beginning to see the harm. It sounds like you guys came to the decision to stop viewing porn together, so your only choice is to trust him. Some married couples have open tech agreements or even use accountability software, like Covenant Eyes, but that seems intense for a dating relationship. If there are no signs he's viewing p… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/20 01:01 PM |
| 13 | Serial Dating Until ProposalI'm reading Dracula right now and just finished Little Women. That's how the women in those stories married, but I've yet to hear of anything similar in this century. If you're not a part of some religious sect, I don't think this is a realistic plan. No one wants to marry anyone who hasn't even committed to exclusivity. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/20 03:51 AM |
| 29 | Truly moving onMy husband is such a natural alpha, that he has no desire to search the Internet for tips on how to be alpha... and thinks that labeling beta traits as beta is stupid. Look for that. Real men can be both strong and tender. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/20 10:55 PM |
| 1 | The Risk of "Panic Dating"Another commenter mentioned a similar concern and we actually discussed a bit about how hard it can be to differentiate between giving someone a chance and fighting a lack of attraction. I do think, in your example, you mostly mentioned red flags, like cheating. But, for the context of my post, settling only meant being realistic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/20 09:42 PM |
| 3 | The Risk of "Panic Dating"You'd probably enjoy the book, then. It's basically that joke fleshed out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/20 08:39 PM |
| 1 | The Risk of "Panic Dating"I think neutral is the best place to be, when dating online. High expectations will never be met and low ones will bring them down in your eyes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/20 08:27 PM |
| 3 | The Risk of "Panic Dating"If you haven't read the book mentioned, then you really don't understand what's meant by "good enough." It's a scandalous title, but that's really not what she's suggesting. I took a lot of heat for this suggestion, when I first brought it here, because of the title, but as more and more read it, I see it recommended more and more often. I would not, personally, advise someone to settle for "good enough," but I would suggest they consider the actual intersection in the venn diagram of "men who w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/20 08:26 PM |
| 3 | The Risk of "Panic Dating"Lol, this is literally the opening to Marry Him: the Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/20 08:22 PM |
| 3 | The Risk of "Panic Dating"The first time I saw my husband, I thought he kind of just looked like a guy I'd see on the street, neither good nor bad. He was the height he claimed and he had really pretty blue eyes. His teeth were straight, which surprised me, because he didn't have an open-mouthed smile in his photos. I felt like there was the potential for attraction, as with any average looking man. I now find him very attractive. I think it's too much to ask for stop-in-your-tracks attraction from the start, if you're l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/20 05:51 PM |
| 6 | The Risk of "Panic Dating"Dating when you're enthusiastic and have the momentum can be great, but once you start dreading the date, it's definitely time to rest and enjoy the single life. This guy actually claimed to be Catholic, so I was totally blindsided. My husband isn't even Catholic, but he goes to Mass with me every Sunday and is completely respectful. I have a ton of atheist friends who have never been that ugly. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/20 04:02 PM |
| 3 | The Risk of "Panic Dating"Ah. I misunderstood. Yeah, it's tough to balance giving a guy a chance and spending time with someone when there's no future. I dated a couple of guys who were really nice, but I just wasn't into them. I think it was hardest to move on from those, because I felt like I was being too picky, rather than the times when he was a jerk or there was some fundamental disconnect. I remember being on a third date, walking to the car, thinking "Please don't kiss me, please don't kiss me, please don't kiss … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/20 04:00 PM |
| 3 | The Risk of "Panic Dating"I wasn't suggesting anyone settle, but it is important to have realistic expectations. That's really more what that book is discussing. My husband is an amazing guy and I don't feel like I settled at all, but if I'd kept turning up my nose at guys in ball caps, because they're obviously losing their hair, I'd have never met him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/20 03:31 PM |
| 8 | College boys are the worst. Is a man a bit older a better fit for me? Do I have decent SMV?Dating older, relationship-minded men sounds like the best idea for you, if you're ready for commitment. Most 22-year-old men, especially on the coast, aren't thinking about marriage and family. At 21, I'd caution dating older than 30, though. That's a pretty big gap. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/20 01:29 PM |
| 4 | College boys are the worst. Is a man a bit older a better fit for me? Do I have decent SMV?I've gotten downvoted any time I've said this about age gaps, but I agree its easiest to relate to someone in the same stage of life, who grew up watching the same shows and playing with the same toys. My husband is only three years older than me, but his parents are two years shy of the Silent Generation and his sister and cousins are all Gen X. He relates a lot more to Gen X and it's sometimes surprising how different our experiences were, growing up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/20 01:27 PM |
| 8 | The Risk of "Panic Dating"My birthday and the new year were the worst. I once went on three dates in one week and called my grandma crying because I was going to die alone, after some guy had yelled at me over The Walking Dead. It was only exhausting. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/20 01:16 PM |
| 13 | The Risk of "Panic Dating"I have! I totally agree that this is a problem and the reason people think the options are endless. OKCupid was the worst, with all of their questions. I'm glad I ignored my husband, because I'd have passed on anyone who didn't like cats. I didn't have a cat. Now I do and we both like him. Waaaaay too much information to choose from and also in another way with the invasive sexual questions. I am definitely a maximizer. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/20 01:10 PM |
| 3 | A guy I was seeing didn’t bother to tell me he had a gf until I askedIt sounds like you'll do fine. Brush this off as a learning experience. You wouldn't want to be the cheated on girlfriend in that relationship, anyway. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/20 07:32 PM |
| 17 | How to vet for sexual compatibility?If you're not a virgin, there's no need to wait for engagement or marriage. It's just advised that you wait for commitment, which logically shouldn't be more than a few months. If you're dating someone you find physically attractive, the kissing and hands stuff is good, and he's in decent health, there's a reasonable chance it will all be fine. If not, and you have sex after a few months and it's not working out, it's only been a few months. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/20 06:42 PM |
| 4 | A guy I was seeing didn’t bother to tell me he had a gf until I askedI completely disagree that women shouldn't make more than men. I make about 50% more than my husband, because he left oil for me. I simply respect him enough that it's not an issue. I wouldn't close the door toward men in other specialities, but definitely take advantage of being in a Male-dominated field. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/20 06:32 PM |
| 4 | Please help me with my doubtsYou'll meet all kinds of men everywhere. Don't limit yourself, based on other people's worst case scenarios. Dating apps are ubiquitous. Just meet men in public places, once you feel safe doing so, and vet well. If anything, online dating allows you the freedom to ask some pretty invasive questions before you even meet (religion, politics, marriage goals). | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/20 02:28 PM |
| 6 | How to deal with my boyfriend's promiscuous past?I honestly think you're being pretty unfair, especially since you're not a virgin yourself. People are whole humans, with pasts and all, but you've known this about your boyfriend for two years. If this was an issue, the time to address it was two years ago. How would you feel if he suddenly felt uncomfortable with the fact that he wasn't your first? My husband doesn't really know how many women he's been with, just that he hadn't hooked up with anyone for about two years before me, because he w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/20 02:25 PM |
| 9 | A guy I was seeing didn’t bother to tell me he had a gf until I askedIt's not your fault he's a jerk, but it does sound like you were giving him the boyfriend role, before commitment (sex and deep emotional discussions). Block this guy and save boyfriend privileges for boyfriends. As for your fields, I'm betting there are a lot more men in your field and they're likely to be more ambitious and make more money. Look there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/20 01:41 PM |
| 13 | Please help me with my doubtsI find arranged marriages fascinating. As long as you retain veto rights, I see no reason not to meet these men. You can definitely meet men at church! You could also try volunteering to meet service minded men. I'm pretty religious myself and met my husband on a dating app, so that's not out of the realm of possibility, either. You just have to be very clear about your principles. There are no minor red flags. "He seems nice, but he drinks a lot." That's just a red flag. If you're hitting next … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/20 01:37 PM |
| 17 | Pull backYou should probably also focus on vetting. It sounds like you're still dating guys who aren't interested in commitment. Even in the modern dating world, a guy who considers you relationship material and wants that relationship, will make it known. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/20 01:07 AM |
| 3 | My boyfriend wanted to break up and I’m feeling bitter.At 21, you have time to see how this pans out, but it's okay if it just doesn't... because he changes his mind or you're tired of trying to prove yourself. He's young and it's possible for you to just not be the right person for him, but there still not be some core problem with you. Sometimes people are just incompatible and personalities change so much in your early twenties. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/20 11:49 PM |
| 5 | My husband works 7 days per week by choice and I feel lonely in our marriageWell, you're 24. You have time to buy the house and allow him to find a better work life balance, before having babies. It sounds like he's hearing you and you just need to be patient, for both of your sakes. Imagine how much financial freedom you'll have if you don't have a mortgage. All good things take time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/20 11:45 PM |
| 2 | Boyfriend doesn’t understand why I want marriage?Google it. There are many articles about how badly off women are after divorce. Here's the first result: https://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2016/04/the-divorce- gap/480333/ Most of the results discuss financial issues, not even mentioning the tougher dating market. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/20 09:28 PM |
| 16 | My husband works 7 days per week by choice and I feel lonely in our marriageDoes he have a timeline? How long does he plan to keep this up? When are you planning to to buy a house? When are you going to have children? For what it's worth, I think you should take him up on his offer of taking Fridays off. That is compromise and it's a step in the right direction. Your pain and loneliness are very real, but this is a much better problem to have than the opposite. He's literally doing all of this for your family and future, so it makes sense that you turning down Fridays s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/20 09:16 PM |
| 10 | Femininity shouldn’t mean materialisticI think this topic is really subjective. While I might scoff at designer brand clothing, purchasing mine from Kohl's and Target and Ross, I do have new, very nice furniture, for my 2,300 square foot house on over an acre of land. My husband and I almost never eat out or go on expensive outings, one of my few luxuries is midrange makeup, and we only have one very low car payment, but I have a $2500 laptop and he has a new deep freeze in the garage. What might seem like luxury to you is just someo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/20 09:08 PM |
| 2 | Boyfriend doesn’t understand why I want marriage?I deleted it because I don't feel like arguing with you, when this sub's entire goal is to help women find marriage-minded men, who do exist, whether your buds agree or not. My evidence, not anecdotal, is the fact that people still get married and the ones who do are actually staying together. https://time.com/5405757/millennials-us-divorce-rate-decline/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/20 04:50 AM |
| 307 | My boyfriend (24m) says some concerning things and It’s hurting me (19f)This is a fundamental difference in values. Move on. Six months is nothing. Don't waste six years on someone who is likely cheating on you, based on what you say here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/20 04:46 AM |
| 13 | Boyfriend doesn’t understand why I want marriage?You don't want to get married to someone who doesn't want to marry you. This seems like a fundamental difference in values. There are plenty of men who value marriage. Find one while you're young enough to find a good one with low baggage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/20 01:41 AM |
| 3 | Boyfriend doesn’t understand why I want marriage?A Google search will clarify the legal benefits of marriage, but here are a few: Marriage often enables men and women to claim a larger tax deduction and file jointly. It allows a person to claim their spouse's social security and IRA benefits upon death, make decisions regarding the health of their loved ones when they're not able, inherit property, receive health insurance, and can help in paternity disputes (if the relationship ends and he claims the child isn't his). Furthermore, the reason … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/20 01:39 AM |
| 1 | Book recommendationsI actually only read it, because I thought it must be horrible, when I found it while making a New Year's Resolution display. I get that she was trying to catch people's eye with that verbage, but "settling" is hardly what she's discussing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/20 12:33 AM |
| 38 | Boyfriend doesn’t understand why I want marriage?You cannot change his mind. He most likely won't marry you and if he did, he'd resent you for it. There is a lot of risk, particularly for women, to buying a home and having children without marriage. If you're going to continue this relationship, you need to come to terms with the fact that you will never be married, instead of planning on changing his mind, while you waste your years. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/20 10:31 PM |
| 16 | Book recommendationsI came here to recommend this! I actually took a lot of heat when I initially brought this one here, because of the title, but I don't think I'd have met my husband if I hadn't read it. Heaven forbid 27-year-old Kara date a red-headed man under 5'10". You know what? I'm a librarian and can tell you that dating guides age fast and we pull them, once they see less demand. This one is 10 years old now and there's always a wait list. I think more and more women are nearing 30 and wondering why they'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/20 09:00 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on how to get over an ex - The best revenge is massive success - Frank SinatraMaybe we made the news again. I was a lot hotter at 25 than at 19, too. I remember telling a friend I'd rather be alone than "settle." He told me I'd better mean it, because I might actually be alone if I didn't get over myself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/20 08:27 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on how to get over an ex - The best revenge is massive success - Frank SinatraWhat comment are you even reading? I said nothing about settling. I'm actually married to a high value man and just said women won't always be able to "level up," as they get older. That concept is literally one of the basics of this sub. As for your expectations, best of luck. They're unrelated to my comment. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/20 08:02 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on how to get over an ex - The best revenge is massive success - Frank SinatraAgreed. Entirely different goals, acknowledging the same truth, means entirely different methods. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/20 06:47 PM |
| 6 | Thoughts on how to get over an ex - The best revenge is massive success - Frank Sinatra"Leveling up" isn't always an option, especially as women get older and accumulate more baggage. This is particularly true if your idea of doing so is centered around finding a higher value man. The best revenge is truly moving on and not caring how he feels about it. Live your life to the best of your ability. Men aren't trophies to be flaunted. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/20 06:00 PM |
| 2 | 33 year old former feminist. Am I screwed?My library had it for checkout and download. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/20 02:59 AM |
| 2 | What to do with a diminishing friendship with a non-RPW?Nearly all of my coworkers are very liberal, with entirely different core values... and that's okay. It sounds like you and your coworker have an unhealthy level of competition from both sides, which you admit. Maybe it's best to let the friendship cool a bit, but from a professional stance, it is always best to keep the peace with coworkers. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/20 02:23 AM |
| 2 | Do you always agree with your boyfriend’s/husband’s politics?Sure, if we can do it civilly. I just don't feel the need to continue once the civility wears off. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/01/20 05:54 PM |
| 18 | 33 year old former feminist. Am I screwed?I love this book and actually first brought it to this sub, so I'm thrilled to see others recommend it, but if you're going to read it, be prepared for some hard truths. I typically recommend it to twenty-somethings, because it can feel a bit defeatist to read it in your 30s. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/01/20 05:46 PM |
| 2 | Do you always agree with your boyfriend’s/husband’s politics?My husband and I also love a good debate, because while the fundamentals are the same, we have a few topics where we just don't align. On rare occasion, he'll get incredibly patronizing and I just end the discussion, because we've left "friendly debate" territory. He doesn't do it as much as he did when we first got married. OP, you don't have to STFU about your opinions. Just make sure your most important values are similar. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/01/20 01:35 PM |
| 6 | I feel like I'm holding my boyfriend back in lifeI was trying to clarify that I'm not judging your age difference, so much as his age, when he's complaining about not accomplishing more. I'm 32 and I have a master's degree, a full time job that I find deeply fulfilling, a wonderful husband, great friends, and I own my own home. This guy has 16 years on me and should have more to show for it. Find a local man your parents would like and have an actual relationship with him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/20 07:42 PM |
| 33 | I feel like I'm holding my boyfriend back in lifeYou're 20. He's had 30 years to do these things. You're not the problem. What would I do? I'd find someone with more ambition, who didn't imply his failings were the fault of a 20-year-old. If you want to date older men, and have considered all the issues, date ones who've accomplished more. That's literally the entire appeal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/20 02:34 PM |
| 1 | How are you preparing for the new year?I'll have to bookmark that one. I just finished Little Women in time to average 1 book per week for the year. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/01/20 04:09 AM |
| 6 | Catholic Birth Control and anxieties over sexThanks for the factual comments. If Catholicism isn't for some, that's fine, but the blatant misinformation (to say nothing of the hostility) is really frustrating to read, as a practicing Catholic. Obviously OP's husband is only interested in the official stance. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/12/19 05:13 PM |
| 6 | Catholic Birth Control and anxieties over sexIts not debatable in the Catholic faith. If he can't do the other stuff for religious reasons, he can't do this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/12/19 05:07 PM |
| 7 | Being a stay at home wifeI know so many home school moms who do this on a low income, but they feel it. Their kids wear cheap clothes, often second-hand, they do the local online charter school so they can get funding for sports, there aren't a lot of treats for anyone, and they live in pretty small houses. It's doable, but you're going to make sacrifices. Personally, I love my job and I make a difference doing it, so my husband and I are compromising with Catholic school and working local, low stress jobs, because we w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/12/19 05:02 PM |
| 10 | Tired of dating : rantMy height requirement was 5'10", average for American men, so it seemed reasonable, even though I'm 5'5". My hairline requirement was "mostly full head of hair," because I was dating men in their late 20s/early 30s. I didn't know until I read this book that 2/3 of men will experience major hair loss by age 35. I wasn't interested in redheads or beards, either. My husband is 5'7.5" and what hair he does have is mostly his red beard. He has a traditionally female name. He's genuinely very handsome… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/12/19 04:50 PM |
| 5 | Tired of dating : rantI don't think it needs a concrete timeline or a title. Just enjoy being by yourself for a few months and see how you feel. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/12/19 03:46 AM |
| 48 | Tired of dating : rantThere are a lot of book recommendations here, but my favorite is Marry Him: the Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough. It really puts into perspective how many guys you aren't giving a chance for stupid reasons, like being a lame dresser or only being two inches taller than you. I read it six months before I met my husband and I actually thought my dealbreakers were pretty reasonable, at the time. Dating sucks, regardless of your method. Deleting your apps just minimizes your chances. It sounds … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/19 06:04 PM |
| 11 | How are you preparing for the new year?My husband and I are leaving for his parents' today and won't be back until Tuesday, so I've cleaned out the fridge, cleaned the entire house, done all the laundry, and made sure we have something nice to eat when we return, with little effort (Sam's Club pizza). My big personal resolution is to read more classics and YA novels (teen librarian), so I'm making reading lists as I finish up my last two books of 2019, which will average me at 1 book per week. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/19 01:31 PM |
| 8 | Your favorite appsAnylist is my new favorite. We log in on each of our phones with our joint email, that we use for bills. If I add cottage cheese to the grocery list, it updates in real time on his end. It's super handy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/19 01:27 PM |
| 11 | Catholic Birth Control and anxieties over sexNFP is often used like this, by non-religious people. OP, as a Catholic, I'm pretty sure that ovulation strips would be acceptable. You can get a huge box on Amazon for $20 and you could easily add that extra protection to your charting. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/19 01:25 PM |
| 1 | My Boyfriend Got a DUIgently run for the hills Skip for the hills. If my husband developed an addiction, I'd stand by him, because he's my husband. I wouldn't have actively committed to someone with an obvious addiction, though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/19 03:58 AM |
| 3 | Did I screw up with my gift to his mom?I really liked the update: "I was right and you were wrong. Everyone loves me." I'm still not sure this is an actual post. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/19 05:23 PM |
| 7 | 2020 Goal SettingI love New Year's resolutions! I want to be healthier, which means exercising more, drinking less, eating better, and being more deliberate with my time. This past year, my goal was to finish the books I start. I'm only two away from averaging one book per week this year. Mission accomplished! They weren't good books, but they were books. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/19 04:50 AM |
| 3 | 2020 Goal SettingGetting rid of all social networking is one of the best things I've ever done for myself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/19 04:49 AM |
| 16 | How do I suppress my desire for wanting to have children?Concentrate on enjoying where you are right now. One day, you'll have children screaming because you gave them the wrong cup and you'll wish you were single. Take the time to enjoy the here and now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/19 05:05 AM |
| 1 | Ladies, how did Christmas go?Not all of the memories can be perfect. Holidays can be tough. Keep trying. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/19 04:37 AM |
| 4 | Guy's View On SAH WivesOpinions aside, the problem with posts like this, is that they're far too singular to OP's taste to actually be useful. The mods regularly delete these kinds of posts, for that very reason. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/12/19 08:17 PM |
| 5 | Guy's View On SAH WivesI'd rather work. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/12/19 08:12 PM |
| 3 | What's your easy, go-to dinner?One or two pulses in a miniature food processor and it's good to go. I guess "finely chopped" is more accurate. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/12/19 03:35 PM |
| 1 | What are you ladies doing for Christmas/the holidays? What are some activities you enjoy doing to prepare? What are your Christmas holiday traditions?Bonnie, from Vampire Diaries gets a magic Advent calendar that brings her love | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/12/19 03:34 PM |
| 2 | What are you ladies doing for Christmas/the holidays? What are some activities you enjoy doing to prepare? What are your Christmas holiday traditions?I watched Christmas Calendar three times. I love that movie. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/12/19 04:04 AM |
| 8 | What's your easy, go-to dinner?I am so much lazier than all of these commenters. I get a bag of microwavable rice, shred some broccoli, cube some ham, and cover it all in jarred cheese sauce. It's a delicious end to a crappy/crazy busy day. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/12/19 04:02 AM |
| 1 | Where can I meet high quality guys in nyc ?Bumble requires women send the first message, because women are so slammed by messages on other apps and men often feel like they don't even see their messages. It seems well received, from what I've heard. Literally every app requires photos. Tinder just requires nothing else and that's the number one benefit of online dating, knowing the facts about a person before wasting each other's time. To my knowledge, Bumble is the only one that doesn't allow men to initiate. There are many others to ch… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/12/19 06:13 AM |
| 1 | RPW Dating TipsThank you. The book is less inflammatory than it sounds, but I did meet my husband six months after i read it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/19 07:38 PM |
| 10 | How to be a good wife when your mother was a bad example?My grandmother was just telling me how proud she is that I keep my house so clean, when I grew up with a mother who literally never cleaned. My mother was overweight and frumpy and put more energy into being my friend that being a mom or wife. A framework for what not to do can be just as helpful for one on what to do. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/19 07:37 PM |
| 18 | RPW Dating TipsWell, I'd suggest you ignore the coming comments against online dating. Many of us met our husbands online and anyone who has dated recently knows it's ubiquitous at this point, if you're out of college. That being said, if you are in school, don't pass up the many chances you have to meet like minded men your age organically. You'll never have them again. As for profiles, I think the best advice is to keep it brief and positive. Keep in mind that your profile is one of many and no one wants to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/19 06:33 PM |
| 13 | I'm currently the opposite of a Red Pill Woman but I'm very interested in knowing more.Do you not feel disrespected? Why does modern feminism not appeal to you? Don't you want to protect yourself and your family too, and have a say in your life/relationship? I think you'll find that few of us actually call ourselves "Red Pill Women." I know I don't. The ideas presented here are part of a toolkit and I take what works for me and leave some of it on the table. There are occasionally posts that rub me the wrong way. Do I ever feel disrespected? Not any more than most married women I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/19 03:19 PM |
| 2 | Where can I meet high quality guys in nyc ?I definitely agree. The goal is to go on a lot of dates to increase your chances of finding someone and apps are a great way to do that, but you have to develop reasonable expectations and in some cases, a thick skin. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/19 12:51 PM |
| 2 | Where can I meet high quality guys in nyc ?Anything that requires you fill out more than a short bio is naturally going to give more insight into what someone wants. After following this sub for so long, I've come to the conclusion that the popularity of apps is regional. In some places, hinge is great. In others, Bumble is the way to go. I think the problem with Tinder is that it emphasizes appearance more than information. There are people who want to hook up on all of them, but they tend to provide more information indicating that, su… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/19 12:50 PM |
| 4 | What do you get for someone who doesn’t want anything?I make these every year and have since 2010. They really are amazing, especially in a time when no one prints off photos. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/19 04:06 PM |
| 2 | Where can I meet high quality guys in nyc ?I wasn't bashing Tinder or online dating. I met my husband on an online dating app and frequently champion it as a modern option. I was simply saying that if she's having poor luck with that app to attempt another, instead of giving up entirely. There actually are much better apps for serious dating, because they better highlight the factors you've listed, like education and jobs, as opposed to focusing solely on photos and a short bio. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/19 04:05 PM |
| 7 | What do you get for someone who doesn’t want anything?I'm a librarian. I hate when people buy me books. I can get them for free from work. The gift to give the person who wants for nothing is something consumable. If he has a favorite liquor or candy, get him that. If he has a favorite restaurant, get him a gift card or make reservations. If he has a favorite band or sports team, buy him tickets. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/19 12:54 PM |
| 9 | Where can I meet high quality guys in nyc ?It's strange that Tinder seems to the be the first step for so many, when it's a notorious hookup app. I'd suggest you give another app a try, one with more focus on actually dating. Beyond that, try meetup.com to meet people in your area. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/19 12:48 PM |
| 13 | Tis the Season!Christmas is my favorite time of year. My husband has been so sweet to watch one Christmas movie or episode literally every single day all month. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/19 05:40 PM |
| 5 | Worrying that it’s too late?Well, I think you might need to start with accepting his flaws, which include a low sex drive. You can't change him and if that's a dealbreaker, that's not completely unreasonable of you. If not, you definitely need to work on accepting that he just isn't as interested in sex and deal with your insecurities independently. If he's "hmmm"ing in response to your vows to improve, stop telling him that and start showing him. If it is too late, it's worth considering that 27 is not too old to start ov… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/19 09:03 PM |
| 6 | My (26F) boyfriend (32M) has performance issuesIf you're here, expressing your disappointment and frustration, then yes, I think naive might be the correct term. This is not something that gets better over time, without action, especially if it's "always" been this way. Consider the problem as it is and decide if it's something you can live with forever, because it might not resolve itself... and definitely won't if he's unresponsive. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/19 09:19 PM |
| 3 | Purse dog husbandsAgreed. My husband goes shopping with me if it's for something that effects him and he'll want an opinion on, like Christmas presents for our families or groceries for us to eat, because he's a grownup and those things don't automatically fall to me, when we both work 40 hours a week. Yeah, I buy my bras and dresses alone, but him being a part of our family makes him a partner, not an accessory. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/19 10:11 PM |
| 16 | How to have a healthy marriage, when partner grew up parents in a toxic marriage?I second this. My parents were awful to each other. My mother got fat and dressed like an 8-year-old to fit in better with her children. She was socially awkward and annoying. She'd fly into fits of rage. I know never to do those things now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/19 03:03 PM |
| 3 | Top tips and adviceI work in a very liberal field and hearing all the stories of my coworkers and friends blue pill husband makes me so grateful for my guy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/19 03:00 PM |
| 15 | Top tips and adviceMy husband and I see the most success with splitting duties, instead of taking turns. There's no debate over who gets to do the laundry this week, because the laundry is my thing. There's no debate over the dishes, because they're his thing. This cuts way down on arguments. We have joint accounts, but I was paying the bills for the first couple of years. I worked at a computer and it just made sense, because I had the time to schedule everything. After a while, though I got so tired of my husban… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/19 07:09 PM |
| 12 | Is this all in my [21F] head or something else [22M]?He has told you, in numerous ways, that you are not long term for him. Don't waste your time chasing him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/19 05:01 PM |
| 18 | Married women, what has surprised you the most about your husband since you married?He puts his shoes right by the door instead of the shoe bin I think he does this to make a point a male lives here. I have a mat for shoes just inside the door. He puts his boots next to it. It's like the memes of dogs lying next to the new memory foam bed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/19 10:45 PM |
| 18 | Married women, what has surprised you the most about your husband since you married?That surprised me too! I'm neat and he's clean. I make it look clean, by picking up clutter and organizing and he makes it actually clean, by wiping things down. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/19 08:58 PM |
| 7 | Married women, what has surprised you the most about your husband since you married?He works for the city, as a supervisor in manual labor. He's lost his ring before, even though I'd been asking him to wear the rubber one, and luckily found it. He's pretty good about sticking to the rubber one now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/19 08:56 PM |
| 37 | Married women, what has surprised you the most about your husband since you married?I'm a lucky gal. He's my favorite. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/19 04:50 PM |
| 114 | Married women, what has surprised you the most about your husband since you married?How much of a natural leader/alpha he is... sometimes too much. He doesn't mean to be so pushy, but we've both admitted that if I were any more submissive, he'd steamroll me. I'm actually really happy with this "flaw", considering the opposite is a very beta man who needs to be lead. I don't usually have to ask my husband to do his share and rarely feel like I'm nagging, because he's so assertive and accountable. The depth of his faith. When we met, he never really went to church, as he felt the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/19 04:25 PM |
| 3 | How can I stop getting so excited each time I meet a guy I likeYA is young adult. They can just be really enjoyable and addictive escapism. It was just an example of a distracting hobby to be obsessed with. In response to wanting to be with someone, I'd suggest dating more actively. Keep putting yourself out there and talking to new men. Meet quickly and talk to one or two at a time, so as not to get too invested, until you're sure it's going somewhere. Remember, there's not necessarily anything wrong with you if someone isn't interested. You're just not th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/19 04:07 AM |
| 10 | How can I stop getting so excited each time I meet a guy I likeI wasn't suggesting she read to "gain" anything, rather to take her mind off these men. I'm a librarian and plenty of adults read YA novels for fun. There are a ton of really engaging series with multiple volumes and they're usually written at the same reading level as adult novels. The reason more people don't read for fun is usually because they feel like they have to read something "heavier." I don't know why that's any more ridiculous than watching Supernatural, a CW fantasy series directed … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/19 04:02 AM |
| 5 | How can I stop getting so excited each time I meet a guy I likeFind new obsessions! Read a YA novel series or take up writing or crochet. Binge watch Supernatural. There are like 15 seasons! Now's the time to enjoy those things on your own terms, anyway. It would also probably help to get off social media, if part of the reason you want to be attached is because of all those wedding photos you've been saying. Deleting my social media makes the top five lists of healthiest things I've ever done for myself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/19 03:39 AM |
| 6 | The Consequences of PornographyI actually completely expected this response to the porn discussion, because it happens any time it comes up, here. If one person says they and their spouse don't participate, there is always some defensive porn watcher claiming that they're controlling fanatics. While I understand the reasons to come out against it, I can't comprehend that level of support for porn. I see no substantial benefits and its champions baffle me. I also thought, at one time, that everyone watched porn, myself include… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/19 05:07 PM |
| 8 | The Consequences of PornographyParents act like that's a ridiculous statement, but I know more teens than most and plenty of them don't have cell phones. They're consistently the happier and healthier ones, too. Now if I could just get their parents to stop posting about their children's private lives... | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/19 04:17 PM |
| 7 | The Consequences of PornographyI think insisting you won't date a man who watches porn is a little impractical, because most single people watch porn and how exactly do you screen for that? I also think it's fair for an individual or couple to look at the statistics and the industry and decide together that they won't have a part in it. As for fanatics, I'd say it's more disturbing to me how defensive people get of their porn habits, than it is to come out against something that's proven to have such a negative effect on soci… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/19 04:03 PM |
| 3 | It is proven -logically- that feminism collapses into meaninglessness/absurdity/nonsense -like all viewsI just can't claim a label that can't be consistently defined. Feminism is the equality of men and women in society, the right to make choices for my own life? Yes. Feminism is misandry and the claim that I chose a caregiving field because I was brainwashed by the patriarchy? Nope. Until there's a consensus, I choose no label. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/19 02:41 PM |
| 10 | The Consequences of PornographyI didn't tell him to do anything. Many people here have the same mutual arrangement. It's such a blue pill claim to insist my husband is just lying to me, because he's incapable of holding up his end of the bargain or defending his choices. He'd be just as upset if I watched porn, which I haven't, since we made that deal. He has very strong feelings about the harmfulness of pornography. As for destroying lives, yes, it absolutely does. It's a predatory industry that harms the men and women in it… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/19 02:24 PM |
| 23 | The Consequences of PornographyI'm a teen librarian, meaning I work with teens and media and I've been saying many of these things for years and getting scoffs and condescending "oh, you'll understand when you have kids" comments in response. Now, it seems, people are finally starting to see that this is a real problem, as young men and women are struggling with porn addictions and the primary consequence is personal relationships. When my husband and I were dating, I told him that he could do whatever he wished as a sexual o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/19 04:59 AM |
| 2 | Thoughts on this subreddit?One post actually referred to married women as "cumbucket slaves." I'm all for women doing their own thing, but that's disgusting and offensive. I can't imagine making that kind of comment about such a huge segment of the female population and still daring to claim you empower women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/19 09:42 PM |
| 3 | Thoughts on this subreddit?I actually don't use this username for anything but RPW for this reason. A few years ago, a woman reported she'd bought a wedding dress on Reddit, only to have the seller refuse to complete the sale after seeing her presence on RP subs. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/19 09:23 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on this subreddit?There will always be a dissenting view, and in this case subreddit. This is just the latest one. They won't die alone, though. Nursing homes are full of other single women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/19 08:56 PM |
| 3 | What is one thing you've learnt on RPW that changed your life for the better?My husband does have a bachelor's degree and while it's helping him in his current line of work, he only has it because his parents have that 80s/90s mindset that college is the only path to success. He loves to be outdoors and fix things, though, so technical school really would have served him better. I had to have a master's to be a librarian and it was worth it, because I love my job, have a family friendly schedule and make really good money. That's not the only way, though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/19 07:18 PM |
| 6 | Outfit ideas , anxiety.I love A-line dresses with leggings this time of year. Librarians sort of embrace the nerdy, so mine have dachshunds in Santa hats on them, but solid colors work, as well. Pair with stylish boots and you're comfortable, warm, and cute. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/19 07:01 PM |
| 10 | What is one thing you've learnt on RPW that changed your life for the better?I think it's worth considering individual circumstances and personality traits. A man with a technical degree can be intellectually curious and funny and just like working with his hands. He's also likely to make really good money and have a lot of stability in his career. I would have considered a man like that, regardless of my master's degree. Making sweeping "no, never" statements should really be reserved for the big things, like whether or not they want children or their religion or worldv… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/19 12:50 PM |
| 18 | What is one thing you've learnt on RPW that changed your life for the better?At 24, I said no redheads under 6' tall. A full head of hair was required and men with beards need not apply. My 5'7.5" husband looks great with his red beard and checks all of the way more important boxes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/19 12:04 AM |
| 14 | What is one thing you've learnt on RPW that changed your life for the better?That was a statement of general knowledge, not to be directed at you, OP. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/19 11:59 PM |
| 90 | What is one thing you've learnt on RPW that changed your life for the better?Your time and resources on the dating market are finite. Get over your insistence that he must be over 6' tall, when you're 5'5". Go out with the guy with the receding hairline or no master's degree or the facial hair you don't love, because you're dating actual humans, not cardboard cutouts. You will run out of desirable options if you don't give real people a chance. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/19 10:55 PM |
| 5 | Do you agree with the red pill sentiment that most if not all women will generally cheat given the opportunity? Is that your experience?When we watched The Matrix, I (ironically) was yelling "BLUE PILL" the whole time. Why would I trade the good I know for the potential devil I don't? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/19 05:32 PM |
| 5 | Do you agree with the red pill sentiment that most if not all women will generally cheat given the opportunity? Is that your experience?I always joke with my husband that I'll never cheat, because I hear it means I have to touch another man. Ew. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/19 12:59 PM |
| 8 | Why have a hairstyle your husband hates?If I did something I wasn't aware he wouldn't like, but he didn't, he'd be honest about it, but not unkind. The above was for doing something spiteful. He's also been pretty vocal about what he does and doesn't like, so that's unlikely. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/19 07:52 PM |
| 27 | Why have a hairstyle your husband hates?No joke, if I got a hairstyle I knew my husband would hate, and he knew that, he'd be an unapologetic asshole about it, until I changed it. There would be no walking on eggshells, trying to convince me he liked it. I'd ask how I looked and he'd say "Great, except for your hair." Without a doubt, that is how that would go down and I think that's a reasonable response to spiteful behavior. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/19 06:58 PM |
| 5 | What are your best solutions to late replies?This relationship isn't really RPW, as a casual long distance thing, so I'm not sure RPW principles apply here. If it bothers you, stop telling him it's okay and continue the conversation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/19 03:46 PM |
| 1 | How do you keep a positive mindset when thinking of the future of a relationship?I met my husband at 27. I'm really glad that I enjoyed those years to myself. When I get frustrated with living with a gross boy or never getting pineapple pizza, I have those memories... the good and the bad, to set me straight. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/19 01:31 PM |
| 29 | Book Recommendations?My favorite recommendation will always be Marry Him: the Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough, by Lori Gottlieb. It's great for single women in their twenties, written by a forty-something who wished she'd known these things at 27. It's less about settling and more about being realistic about your options, while you're young enough to benefit from it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/19 06:45 PM |
| 28 | I hate this regret so muchAt 27, I'd only been with one person, in literally every sense. It was kind of awkward, when my husband and I started getting physical. I think you're seeing virgin status through rose colored glasses. Regardless, two isn't that high of a number, nor is three, counting the new boyfriend. As long as you didn't rack up double digits, I really think you're overemphasizing this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/19 04:47 PM |
| 7 | My boyfriend(22) wants to move home and in an apartment with me(20)This is a terrible idea. I'm not a huge fan of cohabitation for many reasons, but in this case, it seems doubly bad, because neither of you is in a stable enough position to be on a lease together and the relationship itself isn't even stable. Journalism? What is he going to do with that? Get a master's degree? Because I'm a librarian and every one of my librarian coworkers went to grad school after getting a degree like that (art history, feminism, journalism). It's fine that you're still figur… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/19 02:16 PM |
| 4 | How do you keep yourself looking presentable?Get an easy hairstyle. Mine is long, my natural shade of brunette, and I have Zooey Deschanel bangs, which I learned to cut from YouTube. I do have really easy hair, but on my worst day, all I have to do is straighten and spray the bangs and I'm fine. Since it's long, it can also go in messy bun or a sporty ponytail, like my husband likes. Not having too much of a mom cut can make a big difference. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/19 04:46 AM |
| 4 | Should women be asking men out?You keep asking about settings to meet men, which is a different question, but I think it's important to clarify that you should be open to meeting men in multiple ways. Date online and talk guys up in class. Ask a cute guy if you can sit with him at a coffee shop. Regardless of whether or not you ask them out, be approachable (lose the earbuds) and friendly. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/19 05:31 PM |
| 3 | Should women be asking men out?I thought this as well. I hate that argument. It's 2019! Well, in 1995, people shouted the current year as well and women were largely miserable while trying to do it all Carrie Bradshaw style. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/19 01:52 PM |
| 15 | Securing a relationshipAll relationships do not start out as sexual ones. The ones that do, likely won't last. The best way to weed out men who only want sex, is to insist on getting to know each other without sex on the table. Don't put yourself in situations where it's possible. Go to street festivals or to see movies or a nice brewery tour. The time limit varies, as to how long to withhold and is naturally impacted by your sexual experience, but if you don't offer it and it's all he wants, he'll walk and your numbe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/19 01:48 PM |
| 27 | How do you keep a positive mindset when thinking of the future of a relationship?I would suggest thinking about your single days as limited, because they likely are, whether things work out with this guy or not. You'll eventually be married and have to wait to watch TV shows with him or order the pizza you both like and compromise on the Christmas decorations. Then, one day, you'll have kids screaming in your ear and tearing up your house. This time of life is valuable, too. Enjoy it. Learn a hobby from YouTube. Binge watch a show no man would ever enjoy. Buy something frivo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/19 04:43 AM |
| 4 | Should women be asking men out?No, no, no. Depending on your situation, online dating might actually be your best option. I meant, if you're dating online, the rules change. Don't be hesitant about sending the first message or moving it offline. If you're meeting organically, say at a friend's party, let him ask, because the guy who does want to go out with you, but won't ask is probably a bit too beta. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/19 12:29 AM |
| 4 | Should women be asking men out?If you're dating online, go ahead and initiate. Otherwise I'd generally suggest avoiding it, if you want a take charge guy. Edited to add: This is extremely regional. You're going to get a different experience in rural Nebraska than in San Francisco. In the South and Midwest (US), especially outside of a big city, it's still generally accepted that if a man wants to go out, he'll say so. It comes off much more forward than it would in, say, Austin. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/12/19 11:51 PM |
| 6 | I feel like I don't have enough time.I think I had worse luck on paid apps. You could never tell who had also paid and could actually read and respond to your messages and it was all the same people on the free apps. I do think OP could be choosier with the apps, themselves, though and do a little reseach into what the hookup apps are in her area and avoid those. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/19 05:46 PM |
| 4 | I feel like I don't have enough time.You said you kept talking to this guy, because he was attractive, which hints that you might be emphasizing the wrong things. Dating apps are just a vehicle to meet people and considering literally everyone is on them now, it's ridiculous to blame them for the fact that you're not meeting quality men. It doesn't sound like you're dating in your league, which based on what you've said is understandable, because you're not really at a point in life to find a quality guy. So change that. Get a job.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/19 05:05 PM |
| 12 | Discussion about (why we generally don't recommend dating) red pilled men?Natural dread is very different than deliberately implementing it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/19 08:27 PM |
| 3 | How do you know when "boys" become "Men"?I'd give the obligatory "lol" and such, but I didn't display a lot of interest. We only went on a couple of dates, before I decided he wasn't for me, so it didn't go on long, but the clinginess was off putting. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/19 08:26 PM |
| 12 | Discussion about (why we generally don't recommend dating) red pilled men?Dread is an RP term, referencing the feeling you have when you realize your partner has other options. For example, you're at a wedding and a bridesmaid is visibly eyeing your boyfriend. The difference is whether or not your boyfriend is encouraging it and sometimes posters on TRP really stress deliberately causing this feeling, often by just openly flirting with other girls, so you'll be at your best to keep his attention. Regardless of gender, that's pretty crappy in a committed relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/19 07:20 PM |
| 2 | How do you know when "boys" become "Men"?I dated an air traffic controller once. He worked an hour and then would be off for an hour, so he'd literally text me every other hour. It drove me crazy. Dude. I have a life! When I met my husband, we'd text casually between dates, because he was in oil and on a week and off a week. We might talk on the phone once or twice, as we got serious. Early on, though, we'd go days without texting each other and it was great. We'd have so much more to talk about when we did talk. You're still early to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/19 06:37 PM |
| 38 | Discussion about (why we generally don't recommend dating) red pilled men?Personally, my problem with dating or marrying an RP man lies not only in his possible resentment toward women, but the common approach of manipulation. RPW is about self-improvement. We focus on bettering ourselves, to better our relationships. What I've seen on RP posts, even Married RP, might focus on self-betterment, but it's usually in a "she can get on board or jump ship" type of way, because things have just gotten that bad. Often, it delves into manipulation tactics, like really obvious … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/19 04:31 PM |
| 4 | Can a RPW be single forever?I honestly recommend the book Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough, by Lori Gottlieb. I read it about six months before I met my husband, because of the provocative title, assuming it would be ridiculous. She actually had some great points, though, about reconciling the fair requirements with the unfair ones. My measure, personally, was will this matter when the baby has a fever at 2 am? His desire for family and sense of responsibility? Absolutely. His height? Absolutely not. I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/19 04:19 AM |
| 29 | Can a RPW be single forever?I once told a friend that I'd rather be single for the rest of my life than be with the wrong person again. He told me, quite honestly, "That's fine, as long as you mean it, because you might end up alone." What he meant was that my standards were high and if I wasn't willing to compromise on some of the less meaningful requirements (height, hairline, career), I might not find anyone. He was right. My must-haves were unreasonable at the time and when I reconsidered them, I realized there were a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/19 08:03 AM |
| 10 | TL;DR online dating feedback neededI don't understand what you're asking, here. I met my husband online. Many of us did. It's officially the most popular way people meet. You still don't seem to be asking an actual question. Between these two guys, I'd drop both. They sound unstable. As far as representation goes, take it offline as soon as you feel safe and you have less to worry about, in regards to accuracy. I'm a Catholic librarian, so my husband assumed I'd be quiet, liberal, and have a really reserved sense of humor. None o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/19 08:16 PM |
| 6 | Do men prefer the '' Cool Girl"My favorite color is pink glitter. I love The Sims and romance novels and I'm terrible at sports. I'm a librarian who wears A-line dresses and flats daily. I'm as basic as they come and my husband loves me, because he knows it's genuine. I don't think you have to be the "cool" girl. You just have to be a real girl. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/19 08:09 PM |
| 5 | Boyfriend moved 700 miles away, what would you do?You're 19 and spouses don't only meet in college. In fact, online dating is now the number one way people meet. You're going to be fine. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/11/19 10:58 PM |
| 3 | Slut shaming v slut advocating - Camille PagliaI was watching Riverdale (I'm a teen librarian and admittedly have a soft spot for teen shows) and the heartthrob asks if he can kiss a girl. Have you ever been asked to be kissed?!? It's the most awkward thing ever. I'm more inclined to feel obligated by the asking than the going for it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/11/19 01:05 AM |
| 7 | What shall we do with the drunken captain?Ugh. Abusers who act abused are totally a thing. I once found my ex's dating profile. "I'm still recovering from a divorce that left me homeless, jobless, and penniless." Excusing the fact that it had been three years, how, exactly, does a divorce leave you jobless? The divorce was a direct result of his refusal to work, as were the homelessness and poverty. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/19 05:15 PM |
| 8 | Slut shaming v slut advocating - Camille PagliaTeaching bad people not to be bad isn't a new concept. Bad people will always exist. There will always be people who take advantage and want to hurt you. You are responsible for you and your own safety. For me, that means I can wear my cute dresses and flats in my job as a suburban/rural librarian, without much concern. For my coworkers in the city, however, they might get more unfavorable comments. It depends on your threshold and your situation, but our refusal to teach girls how to judge thos… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/19 05:11 PM |
| 8 | Thoughtful but slightly expensive first gift for my (24m) boyfriend (27m)Buy the $80 gift. You're overthinking this. He's clearly invested and he'll appreciate the thought. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/19 06:35 PM |
| 1 | What do you think is up with men who speak about their wives as soon as you meet them but also flirt with you?I wouldn't be comfortable with my husband buying women drinks, so I certainly wouldn't be comfortable with continued contact. The men you're speaking of are, at the very least, toying with the idea of an affair. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/19 12:49 AM |
| 14 | What do you think is up with men who speak about their wives as soon as you meet them but also flirt with you?Oh, I'm terrible at recognizing flirting. My husband was horrified when I once told some random guy in a video store where I worked. He was just being friendly! | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/19 03:46 PM |
| 51 | What do you think is up with men who speak about their wives as soon as you meet them but also flirt with you?My husband is the most charismatic person in every room. With men, he's seen as the good ol' boy and with women, it usually comes across as flirting, especially since that kind of confidence is so attractive. It doesn't bother me, because I'm not even sure he's conscious of it, but you may just be dealing with extremely social men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/19 03:09 PM |
| 25 | How to approach the topic of wanting to start a family soon?You say "my man." Should a marriage talk come first? | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/19 05:17 PM |
| 8 | Why do men want to marry some women but not others ? Not the book.This is an excellent answer. The difference between the girl you date and the girl you marry is common values and life goals. You can have fun with anybody, but the list of people you can have a successful marriage with is a lot lower. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/19 11:52 AM |
| 9 | Is being a mother one of the most gratifying things for a woman?I agree. I think we can be oversensitive about questions that are more often than not, just attempts to show interest in our lives. When I was single, my aunts always asked if I was dating anyone, and I never understood why this was such a rude question. Now that I'm married, they ask when I'm having babies. They're just making conversation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/19 07:51 PM |
| 14 | Is being a mother one of the most gratifying things for a woman?Some people become parents for the wrong reasons. They want little social media props and push them past each stage to one they deem more interesting, then when the kids get to that stage, their parents are over it, because they've already posted that story. They're bored and impatient for the kids to leave before their 13th birthdays. My brother told me last Christmas that he's ready for the kids ro be grown. They're 5 and 9. Being a parent isn't about you, it's about your family and the misera… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/19 04:01 PM |
| 35 | [ADVICE] My(28F) friend(29F) is extremely negativeRemember when you were a teenager and adults told you that you are the company you keep? This never stops being true. You can't fix your friend, but you can reasonably consider whether or not this friendship is a good idea for your well-being. When I had loud, obnoxious party girls as friends, I was gossipy and bitchy and obnoxious too. This will start to impact your personality. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/19 07:59 PM |
| 6 | Why to avoid the Female Dating Strategy subThere's a reason it's called a "dating strategy." The goal is dates, not healthy marriages, and those are going to fizzle a lot faster than they think. These woman are going to empowered in a one-bedroom apartment, with a Netflix subscription, when they're 40. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/19 11:57 PM |
| 8 | What to do when guy is bringing up marriage/kids early on in dating/relationship?? I feel confused.I have told myself it is not to open a conversation on marriage because guys just don't do that. Three months is a good time to start discussing these things, especially for a man with 11 years on you. Stop deflecting and have the conversations, so you can figure out how compatible you are. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/19 12:32 PM |
| 2 | Are men really attracted to a woman’s job?Oh, I actually totally agree. I feel like it's probably less about her work and more about the reasons behind it and their implications for their lives together... but all of that can be worded as a reason it is relevant that OP can or can't work full time, especially if he's concerned with finanices. I just think it's misleading that we always default to claim that men just don't care about employment/educational background when most men have some requirement for both. In OP's case, not being a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/19 01:41 AM |
| 4 | Are men really attracted to a woman’s job?OP says her boyfriend seems discontent with her work schedule, not her physical attraction. OP, as the first commenter stated, you might be projecting. He may really not care, but it's worth considering that many men do care about employment/educational background, for a variety of reasons. If this is, indeed, the case for your guy, maybe there are other ways you can make up for it... but maybe you also need to consider how this will impact your relationship long term. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/19 01:23 AM |
| 3 | Are men really attracted to a woman’s job?I understand capitalization. Physical attraction isn't the only kind of attraction, though, and OP clearly wasn't referencing it. Of course a man doesn't get hard hearing about a woman's occupation. The clerk behind the counter at the gas station can be a physical 10, however, and still be a whopping no to a high value man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/19 11:59 PM |
| 9 | Are men really attracted to a woman’s job?Guys turned off by a woman with low ambition/earning potential/passion for her work/societal status is a much higher number. I didn't go into detail as to why they care, but plenty do for reasons completely unrelated to wanting to date a powerful woman. To claim the overwhelming majority don't care at all is just incredibly misleading. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/19 11:27 PM |
| 6 | How to survive the pulling away phaseThere's a ton of advice on this sub about increasing your value, so I won't reinvent the wheel, but in regards to improving your expectations, I'd suggest you read Marry Him: the Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough. Provocative title, really practical advice about what's actually out there and what you risk passing it up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/19 10:01 PM |
| 5 | Common ground with in-lawsI'm a suburban librarian. I hate the city almost as much as I hate camping. My in-laws are rural cattle ranchers and we have almost nothing in common. It was tough at first, but as time has gone by, I've realized that we don't have to have anything in common to be a functional family. We just have to be pleasant to each other. My MIL has some really dated views of gender roles and doesn't understand why my husband does any housework, even though we both work full time. I let my husband fight tha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/19 09:26 PM |
| 34 | How to survive the pulling away phaseI've been reading your comments and it honestly reads like you might be dating out of your league. If these guys are all amazing, high value men, then they may only be looking for sex and pulling away when they realize that's not in the cards... which is okay, because you don't want to be that girl for them anyway! I'd suggest you be realistic with yourself about what you bring to the table and what you can expect. If you can't secure commitment, it's likely because he isn't interested in commit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/19 09:18 PM |
| 18 | Are men really attracted to a woman’s job?Some do. Some don't. It sounds like your boyfriend is part of the former and that's worth considering, if it's not something you can change long term. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/19 05:10 PM |
| 7 | How did you cope with being oblivious when the signs were all theAre you asking for his opinion here? I know we always talk about bringing him the problem, but if you're doing that for things you don't actually want his advice on, it defeats the purpose. I'd suggest, in the future, being a bit choosier about when you ask for his opinion, and being ready and willing to do as he suggests. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/19 12:37 PM |
| 1 | Having a hard time dealing with the red pill (male)This going to get deleted. You're going through your anger phase. It's normal. It's not for here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/19 01:36 AM |
| 4 | How do you ladies feel about the female dating strategy sub?It's actually pretty amusing to read their dating strategies. "Don't approach. Just stare at him, imagining him making the first move." I want to watch this with popcorn. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/19 02:24 PM |
| 11 | TRP Men after break-up go back to spinning plates, what should I, as a woman, do?Nun mode just means you're not having relationships or sex and are working on yourself. It shouldn't be hard to start | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/19 12:26 PM |
| 9 | How do you ladies feel about the female dating strategy sub?The RPW truths we always talk about really negate a female version of TRP, simply because women lose SMV as they get older, as opposed to men, who gain it. Those women can talk all they want about female empowerment, but dating sucks. It's just a means to an end and, for women, the best ending is a strong marriage, which becomes more unlikely as time passes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/19 12:24 PM |
| 4 | What are some homemaking skills one can start cultivating while still sharing apartment with someone else?There are hobbies and such that you could cultivate that won't get in her way, such as crochet or knitting (super cheap and there are tons of YouTube videos) or perhaps even gardening. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/19 05:50 PM |
| 1 | Why am I so obsessed with people’s replies?I met my husband on a dating app, as well and I agree. For many people's circumstances, online dating can be a great option, but refusing to message first and trying to text for too long are the most common mistakes I see. It's no wonder if a woman struggles to meet someone in either case. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/19 11:58 AM |
| 2 | Why am I so obsessed with people’s replies?All great advice. Plenty of women here have met their spouses online, OP, but there's definitely a right and a wrong way to go about it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/19 02:45 AM |
| 5 | Why would you ladies even want to cater to a modern man?What an odd picture... My husband actually does drive a farm truck and I've watched him castrate baby bulls (spoiler alert: don't look in the bucket!), but there are all kinds of men out there and all kinds of family models. If this isn't your toolbox, I hope you find one that works for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/19 02:42 AM |
| 7 | Why am I so obsessed with people’s replies?Message more people. You're not going to be everyone's type and it's okay if they realize that early. It'll just save you both time, so send several messages and take it offline as soon as you feel safe doing so. Online dating is an introduction. It isn't for forming relationships. Do that in person. As for not becoming obsessive, find another obsession. Crochet or start a blog or a new book series. Have your own passions. They'll make you a more interesting date, at the very least. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/19 11:51 PM |
| 1 | How to overcome fear of increasing NCOUNTYou can, but you're at a much greater risk of him viewing it as a fling, instead of something that could be serious. Overall, it's really up to you how you use the tools in the RPW toolbox. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/19 03:38 PM |
| 6 | He wants an equal relationship with a working wife, I want to be a doting wife/SAHM: are we doomed?If you do decide to venture out again, this needs to be initial vetting. Make it clear from the beginning that you'd like to stay home when you have a family, so you're not in the same position in six months. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/19 12:31 PM |
| 2 | LTR decided that he wants a break (maybe break-up) - what to do?It's different ways of manipulating the same facts to fulfill different goals, i.e. sleeping with as many women as possible vs. marrying a high value man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/19 03:14 AM |
| 10 | Anyone know where to find “How to Help Your Husband Get Ahead” by Dorothy Carnegie?Source: librarian Most libraries offer an inter library loan service, where they'll borrow books on your behalf, from other library systems or universities. This is going to be your best bet, if you don't want to shell out the funds. It might take a couple of weeks, but if you have a halfway decent library near you, you should be able to get it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/19 12:57 AM |
| 14 | LTR decided that he wants a break (maybe break-up) - what to do?There's a reason we don't really advise dating men who read TRP. They might acknowledge the same truths, but they have very different goals. If you want a lasting relationship, seek a good man with both alpha and beta traits. As for this guy, he's told you he doesn't want to be with you. Accept it at face value and vet better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/19 08:10 PM |
| 23 | Advice about sex in my marriage> He can’t see why I would be frustrated by that and he said I have too many expectations and I should take what I can get. He gets frustrated because I don’t tell him what I want sexually - but seriously this is it. Having sex more than twice a month with an enthusiastic partner... he seems to think I have too high expectations and should just be content with the sex we do have. It's strange to me that this exact same story with a gender swap is met with derisive comments about Star Fish Sex, b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/19 09:41 PM |
| 1 | Would it be hypocritical want to be with a virgin, not being a virgin myself?I know I have talked to men who “prefer women with experience” but I think I just have a fear of having a high “body count” or becoming promiscuous. Most men, who aren't extremely religious, don't actually want to date virgins. Being a virgin is a little daunting, as it comes with the implication that you're expecting marriage, not just commitment. There's also an eventual question of sexual desire and interest. My husband, a religious man, has openly admitted that, while he appreciated my n-cou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/19 08:24 PM |
| 11 | How to overcome fear of increasing NCOUNT> alphas don’t really wait for sex This isn't true. Sure, they're not going to wait until engagement, especially when you're not a virgin, but it's not unreasonable to expect an alpha guy, especially one with just the right balance of beta traits, to wait until you've established a relationship. You're 27. Six is not that bad. This sub can provide a great toolbox, but that's all it is. Don't over read and panic. > I was thinking that now that I already had 6 partners in the past I don’t have muc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/19 08:00 PM |
| 4 | Would it be hypocritical want to be with a virgin, not being a virgin myself?> I feel hypocritical though because I didn’t save myself. I'd say that's an accurate description, honestly. Unless you're dating in very religious circles, I don't think you'll find a virgin, but I guess it depends on age. You also have to consider that anyone who values their own virginity will value yours... which you no longer claim. I'd suggest you look for someone like yourself, with a low number and who takes sex seriously. That's totally doable. As you get older, sexual inexperience is n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/19 07:30 PM |
| 8 | What di you do if you need a RPW reminder?Marry a man who will call you on your shit, so bad habits can't become ingrained. Seriously, I know waaaaay too many doormats, my brother being one of them, and I always find myself thinking "If I did that, that would be one helluva fight." | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/19 12:35 PM |
| 15 | About to leave my husband for the new manHe's not destroying your life. You are. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/19 08:57 PM |
| 31 | ConendrumThis sub loves to mention the risk of problems for a woman conceiving past 35, but no one ever mentions the increase in autism when a man is older. You should research this and be aware of all the possibilities. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/19 04:50 PM |
| 13 | About to leave my husband for the new manHe can literally hire out everything you've mentioned. Good luck hiring someone for the role of husband, when all this falls through and you're 10 years older than the last time you were single. Your husband, of course, will just be 10 years more successful and wiser. He'll be quite the catch. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/19 03:19 PM |
| 10 | I'm recently single and feeling overwhelmedYou're not only allowed some recovery time after a relationship, you need it. Women who have to be in a relationship all the time usually end up vetting poorly and find themselves in less than desirable relationships and situations. Follow your instinct on this one. If a man you might like to date shows interest, simply tell him you like him as well, but you're not ready to date yet. If he presses, he's probably not a great prospect anyway. As for the men who annoy you, you owe them nothing but … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/19 10:18 AM |
| 2 | What is the RPW stance on porn use in a marriage / LTR?We're without porn and social media and I think it's made our marriage much stronger. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/19 01:46 AM |
| 3 | What is the RPW stance on porn use in a marriage / LTR?To my knowledge, there is not an official RPW stance. I think the most important thing is to agree and abide by the agreement, whether that's watching it less than X amount or only watching it together or doing whatever you want as long as it's kept private... or not watching it at all. My husband and I have an agreement that neither of us will look at porn. It's just not worth the risk to the marriage. We have moral objections, but it's more about the practical issues, like mental and physical … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/19 11:08 PM |
| 3 | Happily married women, what are your love stories?We met on a dating app. I was 27 and he was 30. I worked two jobs. He was in oil. We lived an hour apart. We'd have never met otherwise. He'd messaged first, months earlier, but for whatever reason, I didn't see it. I messaged him and we texted for less than a week, before I suggested we meet. The last guy had looked very different from his picture, so I was eager to move things offline. I suggested coffee (low commitment and low cost) and he insisted on sushi for lunch. There was no Disney movi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/19 02:41 PM |
| 1 | My best friend is lying to meThird party advice from people on the internet isn't reliable. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/19 12:03 AM |
| 4 | Feminine coat suggestions?I second a peacoat, especially one that flairs a little at the waist. I have two Liz Claiborne ones I love, one in light pink and one in black. They're both really feminine, but the black one is more appropriate for more serious settings (i.e. funerals). | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/19 11:06 PM |
| 8 | Emotional outburstsWhether you can afford it or not, you need therapy. Look into free anger management courses in your area and if you can't find anything, look for books on it. Take the recommendations to heart. It honestly sounds like you may have some serious hereditary mental conditions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/19 10:04 PM |
| 3 | Should I let my bf know I’m reading the Surrendered WifeI'm actually a librarian. If she's near a strong system, she can likely download it in audio or ebook, through Libby as well. In mine, you can even request they purchase it for you and you'll be first on the list. No need to even risk him seeing it, OP. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/19 05:33 AM |
| 23 | I don't really care about appreciation ...I'm an Acts of Service gal. He never has to thank me for always keeping up with the laundry (my chore), if he stays on top of the dishes (his chore). I don't need praise for doing what I'm supposed to do and fortunately for me, neither does he. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/19 04:37 PM |
| 23 | Should I let my bf know I’m reading the Surrendered WifeGet this book on your own. Save his credits for less pointed reading. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/19 11:57 AM |
| 5 | How does one approach a guy she finds attractive on dating app?You're definitely overthinking and investing too much in one profile. Send out several messages to several guys. If you send 10, 3 may respond, not because you're not a catch, but because different guys put in different levels of effort or are looking for different things or their grandpa just died it literally anything. Don't take it personally. As for what to write "Hi, there. I noticed in your pictures that you like skiing. I love to ski! Do you enjoy any other sports?" The message itself con… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/19 12:33 PM |
| 12 | I'm clumsy, absent minded, and "behind" compared to other women my age(28). Boyfriend gets upset at my lack of common sense.I very much felt that, while OP is behind, her boyfriend sound unreasonable. Sure, wash your hands before touching food, but my husband would rarely expect me to grab the right tool the first time and he'd never get mad at me for failing to do so. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/19 03:25 AM |
| 15 | For women who work in an office, do the women there get along well?Contrary to popular belief, librarians have a lot of work to do, so my coworkers and I really don't have much time for toxicity. It's a female lead field, but the professionals all get along fairly well. The greatest tension I've seen has been among those who just consider their position to be a job, like the circulation clerks. Passionate people tend to have more important things to focus on. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/19 08:13 PM |
| 2 | How to manage a seemingly sudden libido difference?Well, for one, I'd stop logging sex in the app, if you're not trying to get pregnant. That's a needless reminder. However, based on what you've said, the time may have come to just ask him about this. You don't have to be accusatory or cruel, but I think it's fair to say something along the lines of "I've noticed we don't get to be together as much as we did before we moved in together and I'm wondering if I'm doing something wrong." The answer might be something you didn't know about and it mig… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/19 04:29 PM |
| 12 | How to manage a seemingly sudden libido difference?Without animosity, I'm going to say that you're being really self-absorbed about this. I understand assuming you're the problem, but if things were great until now, it's likely there are other things going on in his life that are stressing him out. You're right in thinking you shouldn't point fingers, but perhaps you should investigate, without considering your own sex life first. For example, instead of saying "We don't have sex as much these days and it's really bothering me" ask "Is there any… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/19 12:39 PM |
| 31 | How do you deal with RBF(Resting Bitch Face)? 19FYour resting face isn't the only problem, though putting effort into making it more pleasant is a good idea, not just for relationships, but professionally and just interacting with the world in general. Smile at people, often. It'll feel weird at first, but you'll generally be perceived as friendlier and they'll be friendlier in response. As for the weight, you're aware that it's an issue and what it means, so I'll just tell you to work what you have better. Buy nice clothes that fit well and f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/19 05:30 PM |
| 10 | Paying for a man> i have know so many married couples where the woman earns more and pays more, but the husband cheats. It's a leap to equate these two. My husband paid for everything while we were dating, in part for the sake of chivalry, but also because I was working two jobs with no benefits, until right after we got engaged and he made bank in oil. Now, he's left oil, so he can be home more and I make more money, because I have a master's degree. We have a joint account and don't discuss who makes more, be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/19 02:29 PM |
| 12 | Scared to settle. Is love enough?You're feeling very unsettled in this relationship at 21. How are you going to feel at 31? Sometimes you just can't shake that feeling that something is missing and while your reasons aren't red flags, they do speak to an issue of incompatibility, mostly the uneven intellectual footing. My husband and I debate current issues all the time. I could never be with someone who wasn't intellectually stimulating... but I know plenty of women who can. I think you really need to consider how you're going… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/19 12:35 PM |
| 18 | Frustrated about the college hookup sceneThat comment stuck out for me too and maybe she won't be able to land a guy like him for anything more than casual sex. That doesn't make casual sex a better idea. Men will fuck anyone, OP. If you want a relationship, you'll have to date within your league. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/19 12:10 PM |
| 1 | Should women pursue men?Nope. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/19 09:16 PM |
| 32 | Can't stay in a relationship, always thinking I can find betterPerhaps it would benefit you to see a therapist. This level of commitment phobia isn't really normal. That being said, maybe it would comfort you to know that the butterflies always fade. I love my husband more than anything, but the excitement of the new relationship is long gone. Keep in mind that the next guy will fade into normalcy as well. If you don't want a relationship, you don't have to have one... and it sounds like maybe you don't. If you're certain you want marriage, though, you real… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/19 02:57 AM |
| 9 | Should women pursue men?My husband messaged me months before I messaged him and I never responded. Based on the timeline, I was either talking to someone or was off dating. If I hadn't messaged him, he wouldn't have tried again. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/19 08:09 PM |
| 88 | Should women pursue men?I think one of the reasons women struggle with online dating is because they take the "dating" part a bit too literally. You're not dating anyone yet. You're just connecting with people who want to meet. It's really very different and messaging first is not a masculine move, especially since men have so little luck getting women to respond to them. I'd suggest a short message saying hi and asking a question about something on his profile to show you read it and give him something to say. Then me… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/19 05:04 PM |
| 11 | What are some nice gestures you do for your man that says "I love you"?I buy him little gifts, like the gummy turtles he likes or a Monster drink. I made him a prize ribbon at work, the other day, that said "Best husband ever." He won't wear it or anything, but it made him smile. I put dinner in the crockpot, while he's at work, as a surprise when he gets home. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/19 02:35 AM |
| 3 | Why am I struggling so much in life?Well, you get what give. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/19 07:39 PM |
| 3 | Why am I struggling so much in life?Leaving the country seems like a strong reaction to Resting Bitch Face. You say your mom starts arguments, but have you tried heeding her advice and generally putting on a friendlier demeanor? Being unapproachable won't only cause problems in your relationships, but your career as well. I would suggest you genuinely try to smile more and appear more approachable, such as by not looking at your phone or wearing headphones in public. Get better at small talk, as well. I understand that it seems st… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/19 06:59 PM |
| 8 | 6 years trying to change and be submissive and nothing turns out. I need help…..I can relate. I'm a pretty assertive and direct person, but my husband is three times the alpha of most men. I never have to worry about steamrolling him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/19 02:24 PM |
| 4 | If you had the opportunity to go back to your early 20s, what would you do differently?I deleted all of it a couple of years ago and I feel so much better. I feel like I have more free time, like I'm more in the moment, less stressed. It was totally worth it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 05:54 PM |
| 4 | My first visit to the fertility clinic after having mycoplasma for 5 months from my scumbag ex. Seeing if my tubes are scarred. Has anyone went?I'm so sorry you're going through this. I remember sitting in the doctor's office after my divorce, telling her to just test me for everything, because who knows. > She's probably thing what a low life. I'm sure she's heard worse. > I don't even have a partner right now but I don't see a reason to have one if I don't have a child. You're borrowing trouble. This may not be the case. 15% is really low. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 04:35 PM |
| 2 | How to be irreplaceable aka bring valueYou give such great examples! Communication is probably one of the earliest ways to show value, by being responsive, but not coming on too strongly. My husband immediately messaged me after our first date, as in a few hours later, to tell me he had a great time and would like to see me again before he returned to the rig. When he was at work for long stretches (a week at a time), we'd text, but not excessively, so it was clear we both had lives and other investments. She hated snowboarding and I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 04:30 PM |
| 1 | How to be irreplaceable aka bring valueI didn't look that closely, but online dating definitely favors women. My husband had some terrible stories. It was just all that was readily available to him, since he worked in oil and lived in a rural area. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 04:22 PM |
| 2 | How to be irreplaceable aka bring value> That's a dissonant take, since every post with oneitis on the main sub always has "She's not yours, it's just your turn" as the top comment. RPW quite frequently suggests women avoid the main sub, since the goals of the two are openly and admittedly completely different. I'm not referencing the main sub. I'm referencing this one and that's a pretty standard comment, often from men who frequent TRP, in fact. > You're also the first one to raise the notion of weight, so be encouraged to reflect … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 04:05 PM |
| 1 | How to be irreplaceable aka bring valueI checked the post history and they're a first time poster on RPW, so at this point, I'm kind of taking this as advice from a visitor who just stumbled upon us. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 03:52 PM |
| 1 | How to be irreplaceable aka bring valueI provided an anecdote for an anecdote, correct. Here are several to your one, if you're interested: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/an3ycb/share_your_online_dating_success_story/ I never suggested OP "substitute," rather supplement. Online dating profiles are designed to meet people who want to find a date, yes. I didn't ignore that point, because it wasn't a point, but a definition of online dating. No, you can't solely vet based on a profile and that's why you should be meeting… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 03:24 PM |
| 1 | How to be irreplaceable aka bring valueOn your first few dates, what are some ways your gal demonstrated these traits? | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 12:45 PM |
| 7 | How to be irreplaceable aka bring valueYour rant is unrelated to my post. OP asked about early dating strategies, not long term marriage strategies. Could my husband leave me? Sure, but he obviously found me "irreplaceable" enough to marry in the first place and that was OP's question. I never said marriage was a sure thing. The word choice and emphasis were OP's, hence the quotations. I simply chose to stay on topic rather than debate semantics, since her idea is clear. Her somewhat hyperbolic phrasing doesn't change the fact that s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 12:31 PM |
| 1 | How to be irreplaceable aka bring valueYour story is anecdotal. We have a lot more anecdotal online dating success stories on here. For some people, dating options are limited and refusing to date online is a bad idea. I'm sorry you had a bad experience, but that doesn't make online dating a bad idea across the board. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 12:26 PM |
| 7 | Is it too late for me to become a good wife?I know a lot of very traditional people who have "don't ask don't tell" arrangements. Literally, there's an agreement that everything before they met stays in the past. That's your best bet here, to be able to tell a man "I was pretty wild" and have him respond in kind, with an agreement not to discuss it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 03:29 AM |
| 6 | How to be irreplaceable aka bring valueIt comes on really strong when it doesn't come up organically. You're a total stranger on that first date. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 01:28 AM |
| 23 | If you had the opportunity to go back to your early 20s, what would you do differently?I'd make different friends, mostly. I wouldn't be as catty. I'd use social media less and generally make better use of my time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 01:27 AM |
| 6 | Advice on next step in 4 month relationshipI'm glad things are going so well, but it's been four months. It's not reasonable to expect this level of commitment from him yet and I wouldn't hint at it. My husband and I lived over an hour apart for the first year and only then did we begin to discuss marriage. We got engaged about six months later and then we moved in together. Give it time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 01:27 AM |
| 2 | How to be irreplaceable aka bring valueI mean that because it was a first or second date, it was obviously just hypothetical and not a hint at when I wanted him to marry ME or vice versa. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 01:22 AM |
| 13 | How to be irreplaceable aka bring valueI always knew by date three, whether or not there was any connection. You can usually bring up "important questions" organically. For example, on our first real date, my husband mentioned a friend of his who was getting married and how the couple had been together since college. I mentioned a friend who was still waiting for a ring and they'd lived together three years. This very naturally lead to a discussion of what our timelines were, loosely, which wasn't too threatening, since it was waaaay… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/19 11:28 PM |
| 56 | How to be irreplaceable aka bring valueIrreplaceable seems like an unrealistic goal for dating. I'd say I'm "irreplaceable" to my husband, but until we were engaged, I don't think I could have made that claim. If you're looking to "lock down" a good guy, you might simply need to work on your exposure to them. Date. A lot. There are so many good men who could be marriage material and if you're not meeting them because you're being overly picky or you're refusing to date online or you're too shy to join a church group, then you're wast… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/19 07:27 PM |
| 28 | "Valentine's Day Kills Marriages" - ApparentlyWe order a pizza for Valentine's Day, make cookies, trade $10 gifts, watch a horror movie and have sex. That's it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/10/19 05:37 PM |
| 5 | Do you think that women should lie about their age on dating sites?I remember talking to a man in an app the day before my 27th birthday. He asked me why my age kept changing from 26 to 27. I told him, honestly, that I didn't know, but I assumed it had to do with my birthday. He stopped talking to me and I'm certain he felt like I was lying to him. No one appreciates a lie. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/19 09:00 PM |
| 15 | Do you think that women should lie about their age on dating sites?No one should lie on dating apps. There's literally no excuse for men or women. People choose their dating parameters and it's not right to take that from them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/19 05:34 PM |
| 3 | Doormat vs. wgtowAssertiveness and politeness are not mutually exclusive. You can absolutely tell a man "No, thank you. I'm not drinking right now," with a sweet smile. I remember when my husband and I had been dating for a few months and went to the fair for the first time. A man was selling leather conditioner and was being quite aggressive about trying it out on my leather purse. I stood my ground and told him "No. Thank you. I'm not doing that." I said it repeatedly and he pushed harder each time, before fin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/19 03:33 PM |
| 24 | Any experiences on hypergamy as a virgin?> I want to marry a provider and live as a kept woman. We've been seeing a lot of this lately and it's a really bold statement. A good man is a whole person with feelings, goals, dreams, likes and dislikes. I understand wanting to be with someone successful, but you really need to flesh out your vetting parameters, because most successful men will be incredibly turned off by the idea that this is your number one requirement. So my advice is to develop some additional standards, such as the type … | /r/RedPillWives | 28/09/19 06:32 PM |
| 6 | More info on Nun Mode?It's a strange thing to have left out, considering it's the core concept. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/19 04:49 PM |
| 14 | Partner is ignoring me?He expressed it as a form of punishment. Adults in healthy relationships don't "punish" each other. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/19 04:47 PM |
| 3 | What is the ideal woman according to red pill ideology?I'm assuming they mean a ho phase. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/19 10:13 PM |
| 12 | What is the ideal woman according to red pill ideology?At 27, I had 1. My SIL was a virgin on her wedding day at 24. My sister is 25 and a virgin. We live in the South, a heavily Christian area. I think you're right that it can really vary by location, but I personally never struggled to keep my number low. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/19 04:14 PM |
| 7 | What is the ideal woman according to red pill ideology?My wife had a N-count of 12-15, and that became an issue before we got married. I was ultimately cool with it, and it doesn't bother me much now, but she was my 7th! Exactly. This was a reality you could get past, but it wasn't an ideal. My n-count at 27 was one. I never had trouble keeping it low. I'm not suggesting it's the norm, but I don't think "less than five" is just unobtainable, especially when we're specifically discussing aspirations. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/19 02:38 PM |
| 7 | What is the ideal woman according to red pill ideology?I'm not the one who started the discussion. She asked for ideals. We could go on for pages about possible exceptions, not only for n-count, but age and divorce and weight and potential disabilities or emotional disorders. Less than 5 sexual partners was hardly an unreachable goal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/19 02:36 PM |
| 12 | What is the ideal woman according to red pill ideology?We're specifically discussing ideals, not acceptable realities. I know mileage varies culturally and regionally, but 5 is often mentioned as a cap in TRP. Ideally a woman wouldn't be single by 30 anyway and never went through an "h-phase." I know plenty of women between 25 and 30 who meet this expectation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/19 12:03 PM |
| 4 | What is the ideal woman according to red pill ideology?I'd say I usually see it stated as a max, so over 22, perhaps. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/19 03:22 AM |
| 17 | What is the ideal woman according to red pill ideology?I know that a “perfect” archetype or blue print does exist because I’ve noticed that the closer a woman is to a certain ideal, the more she is indeed considered “beautiful”, and that a lot of what is considered attractive or beautiful have things in common. There simply can't be a perfect archetype, because tastes, goals, and worldviews vary. For instance: What does she look like? I could never take a man in a sweater vest seriously. My husband, however, wears rodeo vests and cowboy hats and man… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/19 03:15 AM |
| 3 | Engagement Ring ShoppingThree months salary has always sounded ludicrous to me. Based on his income, I'd recommend the 7k-10k range for the engagement right and wedding band and 10k still seems really high for jewelry. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/19 04:54 PM |
| 9 | Bagging a Rich ManI respectfully disagree with this method. Because....what's keeping a man from leaving you years down the road? Character. Love. You're right and I think vetting with his bank account as the primary consideration is a terrible strategy, because there's no proof a rich man won't do exactly the same thing. Meeting a good man who has the tools to become successful and serving as his rock while he makes it, seems like a better strategy than being a trophy wife right of the gate. To be clear, I am gi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/19 04:37 PM |
| 20 | Taking the Effort to Dress More Feminine WORKS!I started wearing dresses years ago and I get so much more respect from all genders and ages. I also work with teens, so I like sending the message that you can dress up, even if everyone else is wearing jeans. I do it for myself. It feels good and really, dresses are pretty danged comfortable. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/19 04:32 PM |
| 9 | Bagging a Rich ManWhat are the odds, though, that the second or third wife has any staying power? Men who are going to upgrade are going to upgrade. Middle income guys do that. Honestly, everything we've both said just kind of outlines why this isn't a wonderful goal. Wealth says nothing of loyalty or fidelity. If that's what's first on the list, then it will always be more fragile than if OP placed deeper characteristics a little higher. Focusing on who he is, more than what he has, will always be a better vetti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/19 03:35 PM |
| 11 | Bagging a Rich ManMy point was that rich men have a lot more options and building him up over the years is likelier to earn a more stable place in his life than requiring a six figure income in your dating prospects from day one. That's much likelier to make OP look like a gold digger, which was one of her concerns. The best way to encourage and support anyone is when they need the most encouragement and support, not when they've already arrived. I didn't claim a guarantee. There are no guarantees. Some of them w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/19 01:22 PM |
| 7 | boyfriend troubleI meant more like 25, not 45. The issues you highlight are pretty standard for 22-year-old men. I'm not sure how you define "get along with," but trust seems pretty important. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/19 04:38 AM |
| 13 | boyfriend troubleYou don't trust him and it doesn't seem like you should. It doesn't sound like you can get past these things. Consider cutting your losses and dating guys a little older. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/19 04:17 AM |
| 14 | Bagging a Rich ManI actually had the opposite problem. My husband made big money in oil when we met... but I grew up with a hardworking blue collar dad and he was never home. I begged my husband to leave and start a new profession, one that will never have the same payout. OP needs to prepare for a lot of lonely nights, which suck a lot more when the baby is sick. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/19 04:02 AM |
| 43 | Bagging a Rich ManI know a lot of women, married to very successful men, who have played the role you describe. None of them married a "rich" man. They married a man with the tools to become a rich man. A rich man doesn't need your loyalty and encouragement, because he's already made it. You offer nothing he can't get from literally any woman. You're essentially disposable to a rich man, because you're not getting hotter or younger and you've done nothing to earn his devotion. The woman who marries the general ha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/19 03:54 AM |
| 13 | Is it possible to overcome abuse without seeing a therapist?After years of physical abuse by my mother, in addition to some terrible therapy sessions and far too high a dosage of antidepressants, I married at 19. My ex-husband set my house on fire, killing all of my pets, stole from me, refused to work, abused my new dog, and raped me. Due to a lack of funds and time, when I was working two jobs and attending grad school, therapy wasn't an option. I went back to church and took a lot of time to feel safe and recover. I reconnected with family and friends… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/19 12:37 AM |
| 5 | Guy Just Trying to Hook Up? Should I Cancel?I disagree with all the people claiming his behavior is excusable, because he's not invested. I had plenty of men put in more effort than this for a first date, let alone a second one, my husband being one of them. If he wants a relationship, he'll make the effort. If he doesn't, do you really want to take on the job of convincing him? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/19 11:56 AM |
| 6 | How to break back into dating after Nun Mode?I'd start by blocking this guy. Then I'd suggest you start going out in groups, doing things where you can start talking to men organically, in a non-threatening way, maybe even cultivate some male friendships. When you're ready, try dating again, but as another commenter stated, you don't have to do it now, just because it's been one year. As for the disgust? I never liked the idea of even kissing someone I didn't know. I was so hesitant that my husband didn't kiss me until the 6th date. I have… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/19 01:28 PM |
| 10 | What do you owe a man you just started dating?I've always felt we over exaggerate these things. If someone meets someone online, talks for three days, has a date, and one person decides it's just not for them, I don't feel like they owe them anything. It was literally a first meet. Yet, we title it ghosting and act like it's this cruel thing to just move along. In your scenario, I would typically say five dates at least warrants a text message, but he's apparently not interested either! It sounds like you both feel obligated. Just move on b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/19 12:39 AM |
| 30 | When a LTR isn't worth saving / how much should I sacrifice for him? / Are these actually red flags or not?I could see him being a great father one day. It doesn't sound like he can, though, considering he claims he can barely plan a week in advance. At 26, he should be able to picture the future, if he's in a committed relationship. It's hard, because for every concern I have about his potential red flags, I can see the problem from his perspective. Love goggles will do that to you. Also, I haven't dated since I was 19 - and I know it's very hard to find a man willing to settle down in the way we ha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/19 06:02 PM |
| 3 | The too perfect gentleman-(No escalation or physical intimacy is leaving me very confused)In your original post, it does sound like more of a focus on getting laid than what you've said here. If what you need is hand holding and cuddling, and he's not offering it, I'd suggest you initiate. However, do so with the understanding that some people don't find this kind of touch important, and he may not be into it. If touchy feely intimacy is what makes you feel loved, I think it's fair to keep looking. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/19 12:57 PM |
| 2 | How to start wearing heels (again)?It doesn't really bother him, but I find it disorienting. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/19 10:13 PM |
| 52 | How to start wearing heels (again)?I hate heels. They're pretty, but they're just too uncomfortable for me and they make me appear taller than my husband. I stick to flats, with my pretty dresses and they still look nice. So, that's an option, if you decide, however: > I don't want to get the "Oooh you look nice -- where are you off to tonight? This is a bad reason not to wear heels. If you keep it up for two weeks, they'll eventually stop commenting. Do whatever you want. I promise no one's paying as much attention to you as you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/19 02:28 PM |
| 3 | How to be a better person?It is. I have many friends who aren't particularly funny and they're wonderful people. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/19 12:32 PM |
| 3 | Am I being unfair?It's her choice what age she dates and if she wants to eliminate everyone outside that age bracket, so be it, just as the reverse is true for a man, regardless of reasoning. Should he also he allowed to lie about employment, smoking status, and religion, so more women will see his profile? That's a terrible justification. No one here would ever claim it was reasonable or respectful to potential dates, for a woman to claim she was 35, when she's 45, even if her child-bearing days were behind her.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/19 10:36 PM |
| 6 | Am I being unfair?50 is a great description for anyone who has the lifespan of a 50-year-old. You're talking about 10 fewer years of health. She can see that he looks good for his age, without him lying about it. Someone can lose weight. He cannot get 10 years younger, 10 years further from erectile disfunction, or greater cancer risks. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/19 05:33 PM |
| 33 | How to be a better person?Be nicer. It sounds simple, but it's actually very difficult for some women to cultivate a kinder personality, especially in their twenties, when women in modern society are very competitive and antagonistic. Keep in mind that, of the things you can be, funny is like the 5th most important, behind kind, hardworking, intelligent, and loyal. There's so much emphasis on humor in the media we consume, that it's easy to hear the laugh track in our heads and forget that Chandler Bing was kind of an as… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/19 02:33 PM |
| 3 | How to stop being scared of ending up alone?You need to go back to your therapist. The internet cannot solve this problem for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/19 02:29 PM |
| 6 | Am I being unfair?The same argument could be said for any lie. If a woman lies about being divorced or deliberately misleads someone as to her weight, because they wouldn't otherwise give her a chance, is it okay? OP chooses her dating parameters, just like men choose theirs. He deliberately took that from her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/19 11:04 AM |
| 7 | Am I being unfair?I'll preface this by saying anyone who lies about their weight deserves the awkward date and no contact that follows... but you can lose weight or misjudge how much you still look like that photo. You don't forget your age and can't get younger. That will always be a flat out, deliberate lie, which is pretty reasonably not "nothing big." | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/19 03:42 AM |
| 7 | Am I being unfair?This is a really big lie and any really big lie is a red flag, whether it's about being divorced or having a kid or his job. This is extremely disrespectful of him. The argument that you wouldn't have met him otherwise is literally the exact argument women make when they bait and switch guys by posting thinner/more flattering photos. It's your choice what age men you date and he deliberately took that from you. I would immediately break it off. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/19 03:32 AM |
| 3 | Is No One Monogamous Anymore?I think anyone who is genuinely poly, is probably pretty upfront about it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/19 02:43 AM |
| 26 | How to stop being scared of ending up alone?You're not going to like this response, but hear me out: nun-mode... hard. You're newly twenty, not twenty-nine and 10 months. You have plenty of time to get your head on straight... because from what I'm reading, it's really not. You're acting erratically and desperately and you're clinging to anyone who comes along and that is absolutely not the frame of mind you want to be in, when you get in a committed relationship. That is an excellent way to end up with a loser or an abusive psychopath...… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/19 02:39 AM |
| 6 | Is chemistry due to large SMV difference?This idea is just as silly as love at first sight. People become mutually infatuated all the time. It doesn't mean anyone is out of anyone else's league, just that they're really susceptible to having a relationship right now. True chemistry is an acknowledgement of potential physical attraction, but also conversational and emotional. You feel like you can talk to this person and enjoy being around them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/19 12:30 PM |
| 4 | Can’t find a man, living in a feminist cityEveryone plays games early on. It's not manipulative. It's feeling out a stranger. What you're talking about is actually super awkward in most cases. "Hi. You're really cute and I'd like to get to know you better." "Um... I'd just like to get some cottage cheese." | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/19 12:24 PM |
| 22 | Is No One Monogamous Anymore?I generally think this is just trendy, right now, the way BDSM was for awhile. That's not to say that no one genuinely appreciates this lifestyle, just that I'd guess it's fewer than claim to, today. Your newest guy likely isn't polyamorous. He just likes sleeping with multiple women. Polyamory implies a true relationship with multiple people, a group relationship even, and most people find the one commitment exhausting enough. That being said, no, this is not the norm. Most people, at a point i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/19 12:20 PM |
| 9 | Nun mode vs the wallIf you want children for sure and he does not, I would keep looking. There are so many people out there with whom you could be compatible and this is a pretty reasonable deal breaker. That doesn't mean you shouldn't go on the date, though! That first date can be a great way to cut your teeth on the whole dating thing, in general, whether there's a future or not. It's worth noting, at 29, that you'll find online dating to be your primary source for meeting men, depending on your location. Look fo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/19 05:21 PM |
| 21 | Nun mode vs the wallWe never stop growing, nor should we. If you're excited about this guy, I'd say it's safe to leave the convent. You don't need to settle, but you do need to be realistic about the boys you can bring to the yard. As long as you're doing that, I think it's fair to keep improving, while also looking for love. I wouldn't waste more time at 29. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/19 12:33 PM |
| 1 | RPW reaching out to non-RP womenRight, but an additional 10 years can go a long way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/19 03:03 PM |
| 4 | Would it be a good idea to date someone who is attracted to you overall and likes almost everything about you physically, except a defining facial feature?The first time I met my husband, I thought his eyes were too close together. Now he's just my husband and I think he's super handsome. I don't know what the facial feature is, but these things eventually settle and it's just how they look. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/19 03:00 AM |
| 48 | Has anyone here thought that they would never get married but ended up getting married?I got divorced at 23 and, in the South, everyone else is sharing photos of engagement rings and ultrasounds at that point in life. I thought it was all over for me and I'd never have the nuclear family I wanted. I had really low self-esteem and was massively overweight. Over the next couple of years, though, I lost about 110 pounds and learned to do my makeup and started wearing cute dresses. I did go through a period of about two years, where I wasn't sure I ever wanted to get married again. It… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/19 02:58 AM |
| 1 | Is preselection (and the opposite) true?I don't care either way, if other women want him. If anything, I find it vaguely amusing, because I know their efforts are entirely pointless. I don't think I'd have turned away a man, because his ex cheated. If it's a repeat issue, he has bad judgment, but sometimes people suck and that's not his fault. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/19 02:51 AM |
| 5 | RPW reaching out to non-RP womenIt's hard to accept that women have to make this choice so young, when men have more time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/19 05:29 PM |
| 4 | RPW reaching out to non-RP womenI'm not sure what RP men you're quoting, but spinning plates is heavily encouraged in TRP, until a man finds a woman with whom he wants to settle down, if he does. Yes, they should be careful about doing so, but I'm not sure it's the norm to suggest that men "refrain from casual sex." I mean, the phrase "spinning plates" exists for a reason and a single visit to the TRP sub contradicts this claim. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/19 04:37 PM |
| 5 | RPW reaching out to non-RP womenDifferent people can react differently to the same facts. For example, let's say the facts say that women are born rich and become poor, because they're as hot and fertile and low baggage as they'll ever be at about 24. One woman can use this to get all the validation and praise she wants. She'll sleep with different men, date the hottest guys, use betas for their resources, cause drama with other women, as she proves she can steal their boyfriends, etc. In the meantime, she'll rack up her sexua… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/19 04:35 PM |
| 27 | Might be a superficial questionMy husband is only two inches taller than I am. I remember being slightly disappointed that he wasn't taller, but I literally never think about it anymore. I promise it will mean absolutely nothing to you when the baby is sick at 2am. It's funny because this is something women turn men down for all the time and I'm glad for it, because it meant my husband was still available. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/19 02:37 PM |
| 10 | RPW reaching out to non-RP womenIt's not about values. It's about acknowledging the same truths and working to get the best outcome for yourself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/19 09:17 AM |
| 23 | Is this a red flag?Don't tell him something is his decision, unless you're comfortable with both outcomes. It's actually pretty gracious of him to apologize, considering he chose an option you deemed acceptable. It's been three months. It's not his responsibility to handle dinner without actually being asked. Even after five years, you're not going to feel "cherished" every second of every day. This is an absolutely ridiculous expectation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/19 09:14 AM |
| 7 | Major Help Needed to Become More Feminine/TraditionalI'm questioning the authority you have to comment in this particular female space. There are some reliable male RP commenters here, but they have established accounts and have been participating in their own subs for years, before coming here and lecturing the women folk. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/19 04:21 AM |
| 11 | How did you meet your boyfriend/husband?Online dating. He messaged once and I apparently ignored him. I never remembered, but I'm guessing I was talking to someone else. I messaged him about six months later. We talked for less than a week, realized we had the fundamentals in common, and met in person. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/19 01:12 AM |
| 7 | Major Help Needed to Become More Feminine/TraditionalYou just said you married someone without kids, so obviously it didn't work out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/19 11:59 PM |
| 9 | Major Help Needed to Become More Feminine/TraditionalRP heavily warns men against marriage, which is why we frequently advise women avoid men who are familiar with it, on this sub. It's also literally exactly what you've said in every comment, that you'd never be able to reconcile her with her past. You went on and on about it and even conceded that she wouldn't want someone "as RP as" you, yet your account is 14 days old. You aren't exactly an authority. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/19 11:51 PM |
| 7 | Major Help Needed to Become More Feminine/TraditionalReading the comments, I'd suggest you avoid any men familiar with RP theory. They're not generally looking for commitment and the few who are won't be able to move past their dealbreakers. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/19 11:02 PM |
| 64 | What are your favorite physical appearance pro tips?If you're going for sexy classy, choose between three: tight, low cut, or short. If you're tight on bottom, always go loose on top and vice versa. Personally, I don't wear lipstick or eye shadow unless it's a special occasion. Lighter makeup makes me look more youthful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/19 04:11 PM |
| 4 | What Is Your Ideal 'Timeline' For A Romantic Relationship?My husband kissed me for the first time on our 6th date. We met online, so he felt like a stranger, and I was heavily telegraphing my inexperience, so he waited. That night, we made out and I took off my shirt, but it didn't go any further. After two more dates, he told me he had gone to the doctor and discovered he had HPV, so I scheduled the first Gardasil shot for myself, since I definitely didn't have it. Since I was paying out of pocket for the vaccine (around $800), we limited our sexual a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/19 03:59 PM |
| 22 | Why is it hard for some women to be feminine ? Shouldn't it come naturally ?I think our personal models impact this the most. My mother was a nurse and wore scrubs every day. She wasn't allowed nail polish or much jewelry. Unsurprisingly, the lack of necessity for feminine attire at work bled into her personal life and she was just generally frumpy. It was a learning experience and an effort in unselfconsciousness to start wearing dresses and makeup. Even then, I had to concede that some things, like heels and complicated hairstyles, just weren't for me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/19 12:27 PM |
| 3 | What does Girl Game look like OUTSIDE a relationship?I have a high value man. I literally paid for myself once before I got a ring. I did plenty of nice things for him, but I was working two jobs and struggling, so they weren't financial. He was in oil and at a place where he was ready to support a wife. He also doesn't spend time on RP subs. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/19 10:05 PM |
| 18 | Will losing 30 kilos (66 pounds) in 3 months cause loose skin?Consult a doctor. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/19 01:14 PM |
| 1 | STFU in PracticeHis boss is an idiot. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/19 02:38 PM |
| 3 | Undoing Mom's InfluenceExplanations are great, as long as they're backing up actions. Put your thoughts into practice for a few months and then talk about it with him, so it doesn't come across as an excuse. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/19 12:34 PM |
| 1 | Looking for advice, found partner browsing Gone Wild?Porn is about a fantasy that you can't realistically fulfill with your partner. He looks at that stuff, because it's likely not something he'd actually want to do with you. Fantasy isn't reality. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/19 12:15 AM |
| 2 | Looking for advice, found partner browsing Gone Wild?My husband and I have an open tech agreement. He can look at my search history (spoiler alert: calorie info and cat photos) and I can read his texts (pretty much texts from me). Neither of us really do, but there's no fear if he Googles something on my phone or I use his computer. That's how I know that he honors the agreement we have not to look at porn, because we feel it's an unnecessary risk to the marriage. All that being said, we've had this agreement since we got engaged. Before that, we … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/19 10:35 PM |
| 17 | Feeling stuck and slightly guilty> So in June I basically said I wanted to be married before moving to Germany and he seemingly agreed, but last weekend he opened out more and confessed that he was feeling scared about the idea of a marriage so soon. Neither of you are wrong for how you feel. I might concede that living together during engagement would be okay, but moving to another country is a huge commitment. If things go south, you're across the planet, assuming you're in the west. > Is this compromise still too pushy? I ju… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/19 06:34 PM |
| 12 | What dating advice would you give to your younger self after discovering TRP?I definitely agree that the kind of media you watch can make a big difference. It's easy to get lost in the Strong Independent Woman ideology and lost touch with reality. If you can compartmentalize and recognize what is and is not real, go for it, but learn to recognize with the rom-coms are altering your expectations of men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/19 06:30 PM |
| 17 | What dating advice would you give to your younger self after discovering TRP?Luckily for me, I never took their advice and still had an n-count of one, when I met my husband at 27. They're all single moms now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/19 06:06 PM |
| 22 | What's the one thing you disagree regarding TRPW theory?Yes, yes, yes. Being able to support yourself and your family is a must. I'd say we should focus more on doing it in a fiscally responsible way, than not doing it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/19 05:26 PM |
| 56 | What's the one thing you disagree regarding TRPW theory?I totally agree. My husband has told me, point blank, that he wouldn't have dated me, had I not had a bachelor's degree. His family is very successful and his parents still have that 90s viewpoint that college is a must, so while he'd take a waitress home, he wouldn't have married her. From what he's told me, his years of "fun" were spent with women totally different from me, women to whom he'd have never committed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/19 02:34 PM |
| 64 | What dating advice would you give to your younger self after discovering TRP?Your friends are sluts and it hasn't worked out for them. They only encourage the same behavior in you, because misery loves company. Get new friends. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/19 02:17 PM |
| 7 | What's the one thing you disagree regarding TRPW theory?This is my general thought on the subject. "If you're already living together, why not?" isn't as compelling of a reason to marry as "I want to be with this person, always." Living together makes breaking up a lot more difficult, so I was always an "all or none" gal. It worked for my husband and I. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/19 02:13 PM |
| 38 | What's the one thing you disagree regarding TRPW theory?I disagree that relationships are as formulaic as we sometimes portray them. For example, I married a very alpha man and we go toe-to-toe a lot more than I imagine this sub would condone. If we didn't, though, we both know that he would steamroll me. Sometimes I have to remind him that he is not the only grownup in this marriage, at a level of insistence he will actually hear, despite what Laura Doyle might advise. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/19 02:08 PM |
| 60 | Yes, men do prefer blondesMen prefer attractive women and women are most attractive when they dress for the body they were born with, including their skintone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/19 12:32 AM |
| 4 | Advice needed for my sister in her new marriageYou're sharing this information third party. If your sister wants advice or help, she needs to be asking for it herself. Sure, what you describe is abusive and crazy, but you're also not actually in the relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/19 04:26 AM |
| 4 | Should I move on or try reclaim this on / off again flirtationship as something serious?I think it's fair to go no contact, at this point. You want different things and you need to move forward. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/19 08:55 PM |
| 9 | Should I move on or try reclaim this on / off again flirtationship as something serious?He told you how he feels. He's clearly open to FWB, but that's all. Think about all the great guys who are ready for an LTR, who you're missing the chance to meet while you're hung up on this guy. You'll never be this young and hot and baggage free. Don't waste your time on this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/19 05:36 PM |
| 14 | For College GirlsThis advice could not possibly be more specific to your own personal experience. I'm glad it worked for you, but it translates poorly. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/19 11:43 PM |
| 9 | How Big of a Misstep is This?How old are you? How prevalent are house parties in his life? His friend got a new place and celebrated, while you were visiting your aunt? That I'd almost get. It was the weekend and another guy from high school had a party? Nope. This is pretty basic relationship, stuff, honoring a mutual agreement. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/19 03:10 AM |
| 17 | How do you determine commitment?Verbal affirmation is the only way to determine commitment. If he hasn't said it, it's not there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/19 05:24 PM |
| 3 | HomeschoolingI agree with this. Some of my homeschool teens at work have some blind spots, but they're no more serious than the ones my public school kids have. There are right and wrong ways to do both. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/19 02:26 AM |
| 5 | Boyfriend having a lot of girlfriends - when is it a bad sign?I'd call his combination of behaviors a red flag, since he's showing less interest in a long distance relationship, has a high n-count, and only really mentions women at work. Individually, I'd say you could excuse these behaviors, but they're not a good sign together. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/19 04:02 AM |
| 14 | HomeschoolingI'm a teen librarian and we have a huge homeschool following. I literally have like 18 kids a week in my homeschool programs. Many of them attend the same co ops, art, and athletics classes, too, because their parents met through the library and they've all teamed up. I definitely recommend seeing what your library offers. Most of my kids met through story time as littles. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/19 03:59 AM |
| 2 | The importance of being accepted by partner’s parents- grandiose or small?Having a similar situation with my own mother, I can tell you that resolving this sort of thing is very painful and can take a long time to settle. If you're game for working that out with him, I guess that's alright, but it's not going to be resolved overnight and it may work itself out in a way that you're uncomfortable supporting. Personally, I'd want to know where everyone stood before commitment... but everyone has their challenges, so the answer is going to be found in the details. | /r/RedPillWives | 30/08/19 12:31 AM |
| 1 | The importance of being accepted by partner’s parents- grandiose or small?Yes. I couldn't really tell what OP is saying about the current state of his relationship with his parents. I think this probably needs to be resolved soon, before committing. | /r/RedPillWives | 30/08/19 12:29 AM |
| 16 | How to prepare for pregnancy?Librarian here! I've extensively researched pregnancy guides and the one I most recommend is The Mayo Clinic Guide to a Healthy Pregnancy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/19 10:46 PM |
| 3 | Awkward place between career and stay-at-home-motherhoodWe all have to make choices. This is no different than choosing marriage over single life or one career over another. You're always going to be saying no to one thing (career), when you say yes to another (SAHM). The sooner you own it and stop looking in other people's windows, the happier you'll be... and I say this as a woman who never plans to be a SAHM, but still wants kids. You don't have to answer to anyone but yourself and your family. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/19 10:43 PM |
| 12 | I never get approached by men, like my sister does. How can i improve my situation?Attention from randos isn't exactly a great personal achievement, especially if you're the kind of girl who goes home with strangers. If you want a relationship, Girls Night Out is absolutely not the way to get it. If you just want validation, you should probably reconsider that as a personal goal and maybe take some time for yourself. Men will take anyone home. Strive to be the one they introduce to mom... or stay single until you're ready for that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/19 06:23 PM |
| 11 | Ideal living situation prior to marriageI loved living alone and now that I'm married, I'm so glad I got that experience. I know it's tough to afford in some parts of the country, but if it's an option, I'd highly recommend it while you're able. I had so much fun listening to bad pop music and binge watching Vampire Diaries and reading all night. I can't do those things as much now. Eventually, you'll live with your own family and it'll feel like you never get time alone. Enjoy every stage of life while it's happening. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/19 04:20 PM |
| 7 | The importance of being accepted by partner’s parents- grandiose or small?It doesn't sound like he wants to be close with his parents. If that's okay with you, I wouldn't consider it a red flag, assuming he has other functioning and healthy relationships in his life. My husband has never met my mother and if I have my way, he never will. He's always been very respectful of the fact that this is my decision and he doesn't really get a say. If he'd been judgy about this one messed up relationship, we wouldn't be together. Sometimes grownup relationships are complicated … | /r/RedPillWives | 29/08/19 01:54 PM |
| 10 | After going back and forth he wants to talk in person..good or bad sign?I think he's being totally honest with you, in that you're the right girl and it's the wrong time. If you wait around hoping the time will eventually be right, though, you'll be missing a lot of opportunities to meet men who are available now... and this guy may never be available... or when he is, he may still want a 24-year-old and five years might have passed, making you no longer the right girl. Just chalk this up to incompatibility and refuse to meet, when you've already settled it. Nothing… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/19 06:43 PM |
| 6 | Boyfriend studies PUA> I found him watching PUA videos about how to pick up women. This is indeed a red flag for anyone who claims to be in a committed relationship, especially at 36. Really, most men should be over this phase, by this point in their lives. That's not to say that a 36-year-old can't have casual sex, but that it's a little pathetic that he's researching how-to guides. > He also was watching porn when I was there (I thought he was sleeping so I was reading a book in another room). I won't delve into m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/19 07:38 PM |
| 1 | Who are your favorite fictional RPW?Rory is exactly how Rory would turn out. I kind of loved that horrible ending. Lol. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/19 06:32 PM |
| 1 | Who are your favorite fictional RPW?Ugh. Team Rogan all the way. He was perfect for her. He was my favorite. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/19 06:32 PM |
| 7 | My bestfriend (28/F) just got married to her bf of 5 years. This was another wakeup call to live my personal values. What do you think of my values?Then that's great for you, but it's still not likely. RPW is about acknowledging the truth and that's what people are telling you. Maybe you'll find someone within your faith who has also strayed and wants to right their path, but you've also expressed some extremely anti-sex sentiments, so it's not even so much about an unwillingness before marriage. From what you've said here, it sounds like you're not interested in sex at all and finding a man who's game for that is going to be very difficult… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/19 06:31 PM |
| 6 | My bestfriend (28/F) just got married to her bf of 5 years. This was another wakeup call to live my personal values. What do you think of my values?You literally asked what people thought of your "values" and this is the only one you listed. The thoughts you're getting are that you're not a virgin, so this is unrealistic at best and hypocritical at worst. You asked and you're responding with hostility. This is the RPW answer. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/19 05:31 PM |
| 6 | [Discussion] Feminism & RedPillWomenPersonally, I refuse to identify myself by a term that means so many different things to different people. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/19 09:21 PM |
| 11 | My bestfriend (28/F) just got married to her bf of 5 years. This was another wakeup call to live my personal values. What do you think of my values?It's unrealistic to wait until marriage, when you're no longer a virgin. Most men won't wait for what someone else got without waiting. This is a risk in the modern world. Wait for commitment and trust. Use protection always. 42k is a lot of money in many places. Consider relocating. Hair loss is unfortunate and it seems you're treating it, so try to carefully style your hair in the meantime. As for being fat, dress for your body type and start working out and eating right. If you're not sure ab… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/19 06:11 PM |
| 18 | My (F25) Partner's (M26) Father Diagnosed with CancerBe there the way he needs you, not the way you want to be needed and not the way you would need him. That could mean letting him cry or leaving him alone or letting him lose himself in some project. Just pay attention to what he needs and avoid projecting. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/19 01:48 AM |
| 3 | I feel some type of wayGoogle literally lists it as a synonym. "submissive, yielding, unresisting, obedient, compliant, tame, biddable, tractable, acquiescent, deferential, weak, timid, frightened, spineless, spiritless, unprotesting, like a lamb to the slaughter;" OP needs to stand up for herself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/19 06:48 PM |
| 2 | Organising / SchedulingMy husband is actually super chill about reminders. He knows he forgets, so he actually asks for Honey Do lists and for me to remind him about things. Sometimes I'll see my work pals on Tuesday nights and if I'm planning to go, I'll give him a heads up a few days before and then the day before... because otherwise he'll forget. I think nagging is more of an issue of tone. You're allowed to politely remind him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/08/19 03:43 PM |
| 71 | I feel some type of wayRPW/traditional values is not an excuse to be a doormat. You're not Edith Bunker. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/19 11:04 PM |
| 23 | My bf (34) broke up with me (28) over text, did I sabotage the relationship?It doesn't sound like he's in a place to get invested in a relationship and he knows that. Yes, your response was inappropriate, but he doesn't speak respectfully to you either. Furthermore, you have no time together and that doesn't seem to be changing. Find someone who has a job that doesn't make him miserable. Literally, consider that a must. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/19 05:54 PM |
| 3 | ProposalBecause you're suggesting something that goes against their beliefs and goals. Why not find a man who wants the same things you want, instead of changing one who doesn't? | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/19 12:32 PM |
| 6 | Waiting Until MarriageI mean, there is no magic moment, but I guess when I'd met his family and friends and he'd said "I love you." When I'd leave his house to go home, knowing I wouldn't see him until he got off his rig a week later and I cried. To some degree, it's also an equation. What boxes does he check for you, but also you for him? Is he someone you want to marry? Are you someone he would want to marry? There just isn't a Big Moment... and honestly, it's not the end of the world if you have a good, strong, he… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/19 08:57 PM |
| 34 | ProposalRegardless of anyone's complicated explanation on this, if a man wants to marry you, he'll ask. That's still a common social norm. If he hasn't asked, it's because he doesn't want to marry you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/19 08:35 PM |
| 19 | Waiting Until MarriageI think your reasons to wait are valid, but that waiting until marriage is extreme... and even unreasonable when you're not religious. The pool of men willing to wait until marriage to experience this level of intimacy with their partner is already tiny, but the non-religious pool? I'd say it's almost non-existent. The good news is, you don't have to operate in extremes. You can wait a good long time to share this with a man, but still not wait until marriage. You're going to get a lot of commen… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/19 08:28 PM |
| 15 | Women who broke up with their LTRs of 2 years+, do you still think about him? If so, what kind of thoughts?Sometimes I check the court dockets to see if he's in prison yet. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/19 11:58 PM |
| 7 | Can someone help me understand men's "pull away" need?This is something that happens in romance novels, not healthy relationships where two people trust each other. Do you not feel like he's invested generally, or is it just this? Because this is just another word for drama. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/19 11:54 PM |
| 3 | Questions on guys' behaviours on dating appsAgreed. I got plenty of "hey," sometimes from guys who seemed decent, but were clearly making a shotgun effort by sending out dozens of low-effort messages. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/19 06:36 PM |
| 5 | Questions on guys' behaviours on dating appsWe want casual sex, it's a matter of if we can get it or not That's such an unfair over generalization. Some men are actually over that phase in life and are seeking a committed relationship. I have a 26-year-old friend who is getting really tired of the number of women who don't put in any effort to form a relationship, too... and he's a catch. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/19 04:54 PM |
| 5 | Questions on guys' behaviours on dating apps> These guys are an instant left swipe from me. Your life is literally the easiest thing to write about. If he can't be bothered to type up a sentence or 2 about himself, he's not putting much effort in to finding a (serious) date and is most likely looking for a hookup. This was always an eye roll for me, as well. Why are you even bothering to make a profile, if you're not going to put down something. > The thing is, you can't possibly know if someone is being honest from one line of a profile.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/19 04:53 PM |
| 3 | Questions on guys' behaviours on dating appsMine was actually on a different platform. He'd messaged on OKCupid and I messaged him on PoF. He remembered me, but I never remembered him. I'm just glad I sent that first message, because he wouldn't have sent another. :D | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/19 04:49 PM |
| 1 | Sad, crying everyday after the weddingIt just sounds like the most awkward time ever. I'd rather read a romance novel and be alone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/19 04:19 PM |
| 3 | Questions on guys' behaviours on dating appsIt's still a waste of time not to put real effort into it, which includes starting the conversation. Why not? It's literally a couple of minutes worth of effort, max. I met my husband online and apparently he'd sent me a message a few months earlier, when I must have been off dating or possibly talking to someone and I don't remember seeing it. I never responded, but messaged him a few months later. If I hadn't, it would have been a definite missed opportunity. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/19 04:17 PM |
| 2 | Dax Shepard Wasn't Sure He Wanted to be with Kristen BellA lot of people also relate to depression and substance abuse. I can see that, but I also think it's a heavily romanticized outcome. For the most part, if you date a former addict with depression, you're going to be facing relapses and unemployment stretches, along with the financial hardships that accompany them. This a hard life and if you're a sweet, cute, awesome girl, you should probably keep looking. If they were RP, what would they have done? Both figured their stuff out, been more health… | /r/RedPillWives | 20/08/19 03:41 PM |
| 2 | Dax Shepard Wasn't Sure He Wanted to be with Kristen BellFor instance, who said it was "that hard?" I'm actually not referencing your video, so much as them as a couple and their social media presence, but also people like them: #relationshipgoals celebrities. They often open every discussion with talking about how hard marriage is and maybe it is for them, because of their lifestyle, but the average marriage shouldn't be such a challenge. However, I doubt it's the only thing they talk about, the biggest thing in their life, or that if you knew them a… | /r/RedPillWives | 20/08/19 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Sad, crying everyday after the weddingThis is one reason one-night-stands sounded so unappealing to me. There's definitely a learning curve, no matter who you are, because different people like different things. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/19 03:32 PM |
| 2 | What’s making relationships harder? (In your opinion)I think the assumption that everyone is doing it is more widespread, to be clear. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/19 12:30 PM |
| 18 | Questions on guys' behaviours on dating appsYou have to message people first. I get so tired of reading the advice not to do so, because that's the point of online dating and so many men are ignored for their opening messages so often, that many of them stop sending them. I mean, Bumble is popular and requires you to send the first message. Get to talking and get to meeting. It's a shame Tinder is all you've got, not because of it's reputation, but because of the limited information it requires, so you'll have to find these things out the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/19 12:27 PM |
| 3 | Dax Shepard Wasn't Sure He Wanted to be with Kristen BellI mean, I honestly think all actors are playing a character, even when they're not, so we really have no idea about their actual personalities, but it still seems odd to me that this is the couple so many look up to. | /r/RedPillWives | 19/08/19 09:40 PM |
| 2 | Dax Shepard Wasn't Sure He Wanted to be with Kristen BellOh, there are entire Buzzfeed articles about how perfect they are together. It's bizarre. | /r/RedPillWives | 19/08/19 06:31 PM |
| 6 | Dax Shepard Wasn't Sure He Wanted to be with Kristen BellOpposites attract, certainly, but I just don't find this iteration healthy. I'm a Suburbs Girl married to a Country Boy and it's all well and good, but Perpetual Screw Up meets Girl with Savior Complex? I just don't get why they're so many people's relationship goals couple. | /r/RedPillWives | 19/08/19 06:22 PM |
| 4 | Sad, crying everyday after the weddingWe definitely came into it with really high expectations bc we waited so long and thought it would be just like the movies. I think I was even guiltier of this, because I knew he was experienced and then it was just... okay. It even kind of hurt the first time. It gets better. It all gets better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/19 04:29 PM |
| 2 | What’s making relationships harder? (In your opinion)> Hookups are a given now and men have come to expect them. If men can hookup with a bunch of women constantly, wouldn't it be quite a bit harder to actually get one in a relationship. I think this is true... until a man wants a long-term relationship, which many do still desire. So, yes, he can easily have his fun, but when he's ready to settle down, he'll still be looking for the woman who puts a little more thought into her bed partners. > all your friends are single and having fun on tinder.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/19 04:23 PM |
| 1 | Who are your favorite fictional RPW?I loved the ending. Someone who has everything handed to her absolutely turns out to be an entitled screw up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/19 04:07 PM |
| 6 | Dax Shepard Wasn't Sure He Wanted to be with Kristen BellI've read articles about this couple and they constantly talk about how hard marriage is, a talking point I find a little tedious in general. It might be different for them, because they're actors and they're in the spotlight, but I don't think marriage should ever be that hard. For every day people, if their marriage is so hard, they probably vetted poorly. Perhaps their experience just doesn't translate well to Average Joes, but this video sort of just makes me think that the reason might be t… | /r/RedPillWives | 19/08/19 04:06 PM |
| 2 | Social Media UseIt has, indeed, taken years for my family to realize that I won't see their Facebook post, but they've finally adapted now that they've realized I'm not returning. They send screencaps and mostly, the people who care make an effort and the ones who don't don't matter. I only suggested deleting, because it seems to be causing a lot of drama for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/19 04:29 AM |
| 13 | What’s making relationships harder? (In your opinion)Promiscuity and the assumption that everyone is doing it have always been a societal issue, but I do think it's more widespread today, which makes relationships harder when you're dating and certainly in high school. I remember my friends shaming me for being inexperienced, but if I said one word about their legion of men, I was a jerk. I was 27, so I can only imagine how much more pervasive it is at 17. That's all the more reason I advise teens to wait until they're out of high school to have s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/19 04:26 AM |
| 14 | Sad, crying everyday after the weddingI am definitely not a hunter, though I'm not against it. His hunting trips are a great excuse for me to binge watch all five terrible Twilight movies and eat snack foods for dinner. Buzz now gets to wear a sparkly pink Santa hat one month out of the year, as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/19 04:21 AM |
| 21 | Sad, crying everyday after the weddingI named him Buzz... and the fish Rex. They're still gross. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/19 02:47 AM |
| 1 | Who are your favorite fictional RPW?It's so strange to love the show and hate the main characters, but I felt the same way. Poor Max. I hoped he found better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/19 01:37 AM |
| 16 | Social Media UseI actually deleted all social media, other than my anonymous blog and this Reddit, because of these issues. You don't have to have a presence online and I find it simpler to live without one. I spend more time with my husband, now that I'm not constantly being messaged by people I don't even know anymore. I find I'm less stressed by arguments with women from high school. I don't feel like I'm working all the time because of the work-related groups. Furthermore, I want children and I don't want t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/19 01:36 AM |
| 72 | Sad, crying everyday after the weddingI didn't marry as a Christian virgin, but I did wait eight months to have sex with my husband, my second partner, after abstaining for six years. I'm gonna be honest. The sex was meh, at first. It was sweet, at best, awkward at worst... and he was far from inexperienced. He just hadn't been with anyone in a couple of years, after getting over the bar scene. I had all these romance novel sex scenes in my head and he wasn't able to fulfill those expectations, because it takes a bit for a man to ge… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/19 01:26 AM |
| 35 | RPW who went from jobless and support-less to being financially and familial secure, what's your journey?I got divorced at 23, from an absolute sociopath. I was in my first year of grad school, substitute teaching and working for minimum wage as a rec aide at the community center. I weighed about 270 pounds when I'd finally had enough and told him I'd call the police on his warrant if he didn't go. I spent the next few months drinking myself into a horrible depression, because I couldn't file for divorce until I'd filed my taxes or I'd mess up my financial aid. Life generally sucked. Once the divor… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/19 06:51 PM |
| 5 | Having trouble respecting my husband. Any advice would be appreciated.Wasting more time with him is literally the worst idea ever. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/19 12:35 PM |
| 4 | Who are your favorite fictional RPW?She screeched too much for me. She's literally the reason I couldn't get into the show. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/19 12:33 PM |
| 1 | Who are your favorite fictional RPW?I love it, but I also love to critique it and goodness they had white people problems if I ever heard them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/19 12:32 PM |
| 18 | Who are your favorite fictional RPW?Emily Gilmore. She was fierce and outspoken and still ran a successful household and managed to respect her husband. Lorelai was an ungrateful brat. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/19 03:17 AM |
| 8 | Having trouble respecting my husband. Any advice would be appreciated.I left after four years and I was actually married. It's the best decision I ever made. This post made me want to go hug my husband and tell him how wonderful he is, because this was my first marriage. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/19 03:10 PM |
| 14 | How long does it usually take to move on after a relationship and be able to fall in love again?> the mere idea of dating/being intimate/in a relationship with someone else makes me want to throw up You shouldn't be in an intimate relationship without commitment. Don't sleep with him before he's your boyfriend. Someone mentioned the term alpha widowed, but I'd suggest avoiding that research. It's often a self-fulfilling prophecy to think that he was so perfect, he ruined all other men for you, when you're 19 and you weren't even in a relationship. Give it a few more months and then just st… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/08/19 03:05 PM |
| 2 | What Are Your Interior Decorating Tips?I hate that they take up the entire open space, where you could play with the dogs/kids instead. We use end tables. | /r/RedPillWives | 17/08/19 03:00 PM |
| 6 | What Are Your Interior Decorating Tips?My husband has gotten really good about acknowledging that I'm not going to do anything he hates, when it comes to the details, so we just hammer out the big stuff. He'll choose a color and I'll choose a shade, for instance. | /r/RedPillWives | 16/08/19 08:14 PM |
| 5 | What Are Your Interior Decorating Tips?My husband is not like most husbands. He has an opinion on everything. When we got engaged and I wanted to start planning our bedroom decor, we got in the biggest fight over a pillow. True story. Decorating was a real challenge for the longest time, because where he likes leather and dead animals, I like bright colors and pink glitter. That's a pretty big discrepancy that seems to be unique to the suburban librarian/Southern cattle rancher pairing. I didn't want our home to look like no man's ev… | /r/RedPillWives | 16/08/19 07:01 PM |
| 3 | Nun mode at 34?On that harsh by vaild note, check out the book Marry Him: the Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/19 06:52 PM |
| 9 | What r u guy"s view on Incels?I don't feel sorry for people who can change, but won't. Just like the Health at Every Size girls, who get pissed that men don't think they're sexy in that two-piece, Incels are entitled and whiney. I was once a divorcee who weighed 270 pounds at 5'6". You know what I did? I dieted and exercised and lost over 100 pounds. Learned to dress and apply makeup. I went to grad school and got a great job that will work well with a family. Now I'm married to a great man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/19 12:37 PM |
| 10 | Nun mode at 34?> Do you think I can benefit on nun mode focusing on getting fit again and learning new skills? Everyone can benefit from this. Too many women never take time to themselves. > My goal is to be a mother and a wife , I know I’m a bit old and I can’t afford to waste more time being single. You are a bit old, where I'm from, to be spending a lot of time single. It sounds as though, based on your assessment, perhaps you're a bit old where you're from, as well. Take three months. Work out. Eat right. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/19 12:31 AM |
| 1 | Friend is being judgemental of my relationshipYou do seem to be moving kind of fast. It's okay to slow things down a little in your relationship. Don't let your faith make you too eager to commit. That being said, your friend does seem to be kind of jealous. It sounds like you have fundamentally different values and beliefs. It's okay to outgrow each other. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/19 12:27 AM |
| 8 | What are some career suggestions?I don't think this field is for you. You say you're behind in math and worried about science and literally everything you mention will require a lot of it. However, if this is what you really want, I'd suggest getting some kind of lower level position, working in the field, as an office assistant, for instance. This will give you an in to what the job is really like and it's something you can do part time while working toward your basics, because it doesn't sound like you're going to pass that p… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/19 12:23 AM |
| 1 | What doe she want? Should I ask?He's on the rebound. You are, at best, his silver medal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/19 12:18 AM |
| 7 | Are there actually decent guys on dating apps? Tips on vetting?I'd recommend doing a reverse search to avoid this totally valid problem. Search for you and see what the profiles look like, so you know how to stand out. I'd recommend this for both men and women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/19 02:06 AM |
| 1 | The Busy Mommy: Things Not to DoI feel like leaving the door open to chat is an entirely different problem. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/19 03:37 AM |
| 2 | Any characters or celebrities that are red pill women?Well, I agree that that show is, at best, a cautionary tale. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/19 08:12 PM |
| 1 | Stay at home or stay at job?I work with teenagers in the US. The are, indeed, less independent. Maybe that's why I assumed you had to be from another country. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/19 08:09 PM |
| 3 | Getting Out There/Meeting a Man -- What else do I need to do? [28F]I loved that book and I'm pretty sure I was the one who brought it to RPW. I read it about six months before I met my husband on a dating app. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/19 03:31 AM |
| 12 | Getting Out There/Meeting a Man -- What else do I need to do? [28F]No one wants to meet the love of their life online. They'd all prefer the Meet Cute, but you will literally only tell the How We Met story one time per person you meet, at most. I think it's great you're going out there and meeting people, but I promise you a good chunk of those people have a presence on online dating sites, too. I honestly feel that anyone who's seriously looking for love in 2019 should be doing both, especially if they're not having more luck dating organically. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/19 12:05 AM |
| 2 | Stay at home or stay at job?At age of 16 I was living on my own, without parents, 4 hours drive from home time, I travelled alone to China and South Korea without any company. In my country legal age is 15 years old. I met my husband in real life when I was 17. I honestly read your original post and thought "Oh, this must be a different culture." Not everyone thought predator, if that makes you feel better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/19 07:18 PM |
| 1 | Stay at home or stay at job?This is not either/or. You can work part time, pursue some kind of certificate or degree, and not be exhausted. You don't have to keep this job and you don't have to work full time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/19 07:11 PM |
| 7 | Is he interested or just wants sex?!OP, my husband was 30/31 when he waited 8 months to have sex with me, because I was extremely inexperienced and wanted to get the Gardasil shot. You're not wrong in wanting to wait for commitment. That's absolutely the best approach and if he's not cool with that, that's his problem. That said, no guy is going to be cool with being stopped as he's rolling on a condom. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/19 02:42 PM |
| 14 | Is he interested or just wants sex?!I feel like she knew he liked her... but then she let things get to putting on a condom before pulling back and those are some pretty mixed signals, at best. Many guys would feel teased or used, at worst. I'm a big advocate of the fact that men have self control and are capable of waiting for the right girl. She's certainly not obligated to have sex with him, but if she's gonna put on the brakes, it needs to happen a lot earlier in the evening. I would have felt humiliated if I were him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/19 02:39 PM |
| 7 | My Boyfriend Isn't Excited for My BirthdayMy husband told me this verbatim: "Birthdays are for children." He did, however, humor me when I wanted to make a big deal out of mine. He even let me do something big for his, which ultimately brought him around to enjoying birthdays, as an adult. He now actually looks forward to his, but he definitely grew up in a household were birthdays were for children and even then, not a big deal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/19 02:34 PM |
| 13 | 22 Year Old Female looking for direction and general life advicePeople are going to tell you school doesn't matter, that your SO doesn't really care, so I'll just go ahead tell you that what you're doing is wise. An educated man, such as a pharmacist, often wants an educated woman on his arm, especially if she doesn't come with a lot of student loans. Kudos to you for remaining financially responsible while pursuing your goals! | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/19 10:48 AM |
| 3 | Any characters or celebrities that are red pill women?Charlotte also only gets serious about finding a husband post 30, and even then turns down anyone who doesn't fit her perfect image. Charlotte is literally the desperate post wall chick who doesn't know her worth. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/19 07:18 PM |
| 20 | Meeting a married man?Furthermore, good men are going to have trouble respecting anyone who'd slept with a married man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/19 07:15 PM |
| 7 | Shutting down sex while vettingThe most guaranteed way to avoid sex is to avoid any situation in which you'll be able to have sex. Don't invite him up to your apartment. Don't go over to his place to watch a movie. Go to street fairs, the park, the zoo, church, an outdoor concert... Do things together, ask questions, talk, pay attention to his actions. Get to know him before you put yourself into a situation where things can advance physically. I don't know how long you want to wait, but any man looking for a serious relation… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/19 08:15 PM |
| 12 | How important was your husband's income or financial stability in the relationship?My husband was in oil when we met, a lucrative industry that's pretty common where we live. It's so common in fact that much of my family is in oil and my father is also in a lucrative blue collar position. It sounds awesome in theory, but my dad was gone all the time. He missed everything... just like my brother is missing everything and my cousin's husband misses everything. Spoiled oil wives who complain about being the only parent are a dime a dozen. While I admired (and required) a strong w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/19 09:29 PM |
| 8 | Essential skills for women?Try crochet! It's super cheap and easier than knitting, in my opinion. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/19 05:02 PM |
| 4 | Picking out rings! Would love suggestions!How can I make him MORE picky? I'd love to have a brand of peanut butter/cheese/lunch meat he WON'T eat. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/19 04:23 PM |
| 45 | Should I continue talking to this lust-filled man?He's creepy and potentially dangerous. If you want to date online, use apps, meet quickly, and vet well. Stay out of chat rooms. It's not 1999. I'll add that conservative Christian men aren't "furious" when you tell them you don't want to have sex on your first meeting... mostly because they don't ask. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/19 02:42 PM |
| 14 | Should I interfere with my sister's future marriage to "save" her fiancé?I feel like this has to be a bad example. You're not even relaying a very extreme story. Your sister specifically asked you not to text her fiance unless there was an emergency, as she was giving you his number, which may not have been all her idea. He may be a very private person and not want you texting him. You literally immediately turn around and text him. This sounds like fairly normal sibling fighting and like he probably told her you were texting him, so there's no way he didn't know her… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/19 12:12 PM |
| 4 | I am too old for a "boyfriend", I thinkIt's a pretty universally accepted title, one that suggests monogamy and commitment in a way a "friend" doesn't. It's not like she's being trendy and calling him her bae. If anything, the immature move is the bragging, but I think it's unfair to judge someone for using such a general term. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/19 05:10 AM |
| 3 | Do short girls have higher SMV?It's ridiculous regardless. This is so not going to matter when the baby has a 103 fever or your dad dies or you get fired. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/19 02:16 PM |
| 2 | How to be okay with him providing?Maybe it's because I'm tired, but I'm not getting this. What do you mean? Anyway, our reasons for living together before we get married are fairly similar- we just want to make sure we're compatible in that sense. My point is that if you need to live together to make sure you're compatible long term, that hesitancy is just as applicable to the commitment that is this financial entwining, as it is to marriage. What if you can't handle living together, but you've quit your full time job and he's s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/19 11:39 AM |
| 15 | How to be okay with him providing?How can I possibly be okay with him providing at that level? It just strikes me as something spouses would do for each other, but not a boyfriend for his girl? That's because it is something a spouse would do, not a boyfriend or girlfriend. I respect your choice to live together before marriage, even though it's not usually what I recommend, but this seems to be contradictory to literally every reason I've ever read for cohabitating prior to marriage. What are your reasons for having to live tog… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/19 03:27 AM |
| 6 | How and When to Pick between 2 GuysIn online dating, the first meet doesn't count quite as much as a traditional first date. You're basically just verifying the facts you shared in your profile, seeing if you can carry on a conversation, finding out if you even want a real date. I honestly think that one of these guys will shine more, over the next couple of weeks, or one will just clearly weed himself out. That usually happens. You want a firm answer, so I'll give you one. I'd say about the fourth date is the point when you star… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/19 02:37 AM |
| 1 | What do you guys think about sororities?I really appreciate the positive response from someone who has been in a sorority. I understand the knee-jerk reaction to say no, but I've heard some really good things, even though there's no parallel universe where I'd have joined one. I feel like many of the stereotypes are based on hyperbolic depictions in TV shows and movies. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/19 12:30 AM |
| 2 | Is shutting tfu the right thing to do in this case?What difference is a few months going to make? If he's changed his mind, he's changed his mind and he's doing you a favor by being honest about it. Furthermore, you're doing you a favor by checking in, but only if you listen to what he's telling you. You're 31. If you want marriage and kids, don't waste any more time with someone who doesn't. This is not an issue of STFU. It's an issue of compatibility. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/19 12:26 AM |
| 23 | What do you guys think about sororities?I avoid large groups of random samples of women like the plague, so sorority life sounds like a circle of Hell to me. That being said, I've met people who had really positive experiences. A cousin of mine loved her sorority and never felt pressured in any negative way. It even opened up numerous career opportunities for her, landing her a job right out of college. My sister even joined a non-residential sorority, which was basically a really tight-knit club with no hazing. She made good friends … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/19 08:57 PM |
| 13 | Do short girls have higher SMV?Definitely. Women are way too demanding of height in men. Less than 15% of the population is over 6' and it's still a popular must-have. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/19 06:00 PM |
| 1 | How to stop resenting boyfriend's past with his ex? He put in more effort for her than for me..I initiate contact first most of the time, and always have to ask him for more calls, texts, etc. I found out that he put in much more for his ex girlfriend! It's gonna hurt to read this, but it sounds like he's just not as into you as he was her. That doesn't mean either of you are doing anything wrong, but this relationship seems one-sided. If he's on summer break and not making time for you, it's because he doesn't want to spend time with you. It doesn't seem healthy for you, either, consider… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/19 03:44 PM |
| 12 | Who are your friends?There's a subset of RPW that will go on long diatribes about your husband not being your best friend and I think that's a load of crap. My husband is totally my best friend. That doesn't mean we gossip about periods and unicorns, but it does mean that he's the one I enjoy being around the most. He's the funniest and the funnest and we have a lot in common, from television shows to worldviews. He's a great conversationalist and we have some epic board game battles. Aside from him, as I've gotten … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/19 03:33 PM |
| 36 | My husband wants to divorce me a week before our anniversaryYou guys sound like endless, insufferable, drama. If he's asking for a divorce, I'd imagine he's done, but it wouldn't hurt to suggest a trial separation (with strict guidelines as to what this means) and counseling, both marital and individual. | /r/RedPillWives | 15/07/19 02:57 PM |
| 1 | What do you use for birth control?My doctor was weirdly aggressive about not removing it within a year, but it may be a question for the benefits person at work, instead. | /r/RedPillWives | 15/07/19 02:50 PM |
| 3 | When to have sex with college boyfriend?I think most people who wait do so for religious reasons, so the gamble is worth it to them. But yes, I have met people who've waited, only to realize they're not compatible. It's not something I recommend outside of strict religious beliefs. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/19 12:25 PM |
| 7 | Is it possible that some ladies just can't adopt RPW techniques in their daily life?I wish I had a head for science and math. I adore my husband. He's my best friend and we have a ton in common... but he's a math and science guy and sometimes I feel a little insecure because I'm more likely to come home from work covered in Modge Podge (true story) than have anything to say about the latest scientific breakthrough. My point? There are all kinds of women. Literally nothing you've said is anti-RPW. You can be a math and science gal and have a traditional relationship with a math … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/19 01:12 AM |
| 3 | How can I be less crabby with my partner?I mean, my advice to this general situation is that he's not as great as she claims he his, just because he's good looking. He's immature and disinterested and she should move on... but she specifically said she wouldn't do that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/19 02:31 PM |
| 3 | Is my RMV low?It's awesome that your number is low, you have a way to support yourself, and you're fit. You're 26, so I'd say that's going to be the biggest consideration. You're not old... but time is moving and you'll wake up one day and realize you're post wall, so I'd recommend you start dating, putting yourself out there to meet good men, and get very realistic about what's out there, quickly. I read Marry Him: the Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough around your age and I met my husband soon after. Lor… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/19 02:23 PM |
| 6 | When to have sex with college boyfriend?I'd recommend you wait until your long distance situation is over, and have a committed relationship, so that if things fizzle on either end, you haven't invested so much. There is no golden rule on how long you should or shouldn't wait. People will tell you a "real man" or alpha won't wait past X number of months... and they're wrong. My husband was 31, had had his one night stands, and respected that sex was a big enough deal to me to wait a while. He has several very alpha friends who waited … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/19 01:57 AM |
| 13 | I have all I ever wanted but I’m not happyIf you think this is normal, you need to be single for a bit and maybe look into what makes a healthy relationship. There all kinds of relationship set-ups, including stay-at-home mom, stay-at-home dad, two-income households with children, two-income households without children, homesteaders, work from home... the list goes on and different things work for different people, but earning your keep through housework and sex, while being ignored by a man more than twice your age, is an undoubtedly u… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/19 10:40 PM |
| 27 | I have all I ever wanted but I’m not happyWow. This guy has it made: a teenager who will give him sex, cook and clean for him, and doesn't complain when he completely ignores her, because she doesn't have to work. Do you really want to be that girl? If not, then you don't have all you ever wanted. Leave. Find someone within five years of you, who wants a girlfriend, not a maid who sleeps with him. Also, it's super creepy that someone nearing 40 is having sex with someone who can barely vote. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/19 09:15 PM |
| 32 | Married women, if you were feeling insecure over your looks would you find it inappropriate to post a full-length picture online for validation?I generally consider this kind of desperate, but it's pretty commonplace. I mean, why else do women post selfies on social media? Personally, I have no social media and have found that, over time, keeping my praise to genuine sources, like my husband and coworkers, has made me more confident and less anxious. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/19 09:11 PM |
| 3 | What do you use for birth control?Nuvaring gave me bladder problems that are just now going away after three years. Only my urologist would acknowledge the correlation. It was so painful and frustrating. My only luck was with an IUD, Mirena, which was wonderful and mostly got rid of my periods. Sadly, you can't get these unless you plan to keep them for awhile, so when we do have kids, we'll likely use fertility tracking between pregnancies. | /r/RedPillWives | 13/07/19 09:07 PM |
| 29 | How can I be less crabby with my partner?How is most of it your fault? You say you're immature and yes, to some extent the cry for attention does read that way, but he's the one acting like... well, a 22-year-old male. You don't want to break up with him to find someone more mature (older), so your only option seems to be to ride this wave and wait for him to mature on his own. I'd suggest getting hobbies that don't include him, things you can do when he's on a video game binge. Crochet or sew or read. Write a blog. Something just for … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/19 12:35 PM |
| 15 | Transitioning from "his girl" to "his girlfriend".Ugh. Don't go about it this way. "Strategic" is just another word for manipulative. You've been together for three months. That's long enough to have a conversation about what this means. It's okay to tell him "So, I'm not seeing anyone but you these days. I really like being with you, but I'd like to make sure we're on the same page." Be direct, before he drops you for losing interest, because I guarantee that's how your game playing is coming across. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/19 12:30 PM |
| 3 | Hey women . What are your opinions on polygamous relationship ? Where man have multiple wifes at the same time ,4 to be specific , they do not work just stay at home raise children and take care of the husband and the household . Will you accepted it and why ?... or he just thinks he is. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/19 11:04 PM |
| 6 | Is there an equivalent of "Poosy Paradise" for RPW? What is the best environment for finding a husband/long term partner?She was, indeed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/19 09:59 PM |
| 25 | Is there an equivalent of "Poosy Paradise" for RPW? What is the best environment for finding a husband/long term partner?I'd say moving away from the coasts generally gives you less competition and more family-oriented guys. Wherever you are though, there are good, marriage-minded men, if you're willing to give them a chance. I'd suggest choosing 3-4 genuine deal breakers and dating everyone who doesn't fit one of them, but tries. For example: Religion X Gainfully employed Not a mountain troll, physically Wants a family Everything else is a moot point, whether it's that he plays video games, likes anime, you think… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/19 09:21 PM |
| 4 | Any advice from homeschooling/home educating mum's?I'm a teen librarian and I have a huge home school group, many of whom have been coming to the library since they were babies. See what your library offers. Look for co-ops in your area and research some of the social/educational holes that home schooled kids often have. For example, my teens have more trouble moderating their voices, dressing appropriately for public, and using fine motor skills than some of their public school counterparts. As for the marriage, it's actually awesome that your … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/19 05:40 PM |
| 60 | how would you advise your younger self?It's a marathon, not a sprint. One bad year, five bad years, you can always improve yourself and your life. The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago. The second best time is now. Also, your friends criticize your innocence, because they feel bad for being sluts. Get better friends. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/19 04:19 AM |
| 7 | I'm 25, but should I wait to date?Don't wait. If you dress and apply makeup well, men won't notice these things as much as you think. There's absolutely no reason not to try. If I'd waited until I had full time work, instead of dating while I was working two jobs, I might still be single. Don't miss any opportunities. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/19 04:16 AM |
| 2 | STFU in PracticeI'd add "Will this change the outcome?" He took a wrong turn and now you're going to be late. Will mentioning it change that? Can he turn around or is he now on the wrong turnpike? Second one? STFU. You'll be late either way and you won't be fighting. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/07/19 01:12 AM |
| 19 | STFU in PracticeI think women find their way here and don't familiarize themselves with the concepts before internalizing what they think they've learned. I honestly don't think I've ever read STFU advice in response to big ticket problems, but it's oversimplified enough in discussion that it's not surprising it's applied that way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/19 11:31 PM |
| 8 | STFU in PracticeI agree, but I also think these are vetting strategies. If he's not like this out of the box, you don't get to nag him until he changes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/19 08:07 PM |
| 33 | How to handle the pre-engagement period?You don't have the ring or his last name yet. You could still fuck this up. It sounds harsh, but your post reads as if you think you've got a guarantee and are now obsessing about appearances. Don't let on that this is bothering you, because it's not flattering and if you obsess over it, you might delay his plans. Get off social media. Take a break from thumbing through engagement, wedding, and ultrasound photos and work on improving yourself, because even when you do have the ring and the last … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/19 10:54 PM |
| 5 | Is it weird/unladylike to read a book at a bar?It baffles my husband how I can read anywhere I go... and I still agree that this comes off as an attention ploy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/19 04:27 PM |
| 18 | Nice women always finish last, Who agrees?You can stand up for yourself without being a bitch. Kindness and self respect are not mutually exclusive. I'm kind and respectful to my husband, but that doesn't mean he gets to steamroll me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/19 04:25 PM |
| 5 | Men “toughing it out”, being the strong oneWe had a bed bug problem at work (librarian) last summer and I'm TERRIFIED of getting them, now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/19 04:21 PM |
| 1 | Men “toughing it out”, being the strong oneI know you can also use many of these things secondhand, too. I've just had a few friends really invest in this, only to realize they hate it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/19 01:57 PM |
| 6 | Going your own way with foodHis lead does not extend to what you eat. He seems okay with you doing this, so just do it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/19 01:56 PM |
| 5 | How to celebrate a birthday when it’s tied to a tragic memoryIt's great that you asked and that you realize your love of celebrating isn't more important than his feelings. I recommend cooking his favorite dinner or ordering in and watching a movie of his choosing. Definitely low key, maybe read the room and decide if sex is welcome. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/19 01:55 PM |
| 17 | Guy I met on first date didn't post photos/tell me how fat he isUgh. I've been on this date and it sucks. He lies and somehow you end up feeling like an asshole. I'm glad you were polite, apparently more polite than he was with the orgasm talk, but you don't owe him anything beyond that. You don't owe any First Meet anything beyond basic deceny. Next time, don't wait so long to meet. Once you know he's not looking for a hookup and you feel you can safely do so, take the relationship offline. Anyone who wants to wait more than a few days to a week is either h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/19 01:52 PM |
| 7 | Is it weird/unladylike to read a book at a bar?As a librarian, I read pretty much everywhere. I always have my Kindle in my purse and would be more crushed to lose it than my phone, so I'm definitely in the "Yay books!" camp. That being said, I think this is something that we women might think looks one way, but it really looks another. Reading often makes someone appear unapproachable, so if you're going for male attention, I'm not sure you'll get it. Depending on the atmosphere, I'd definitely say you risk looking either disinterested in y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/19 01:41 PM |
| 5 | Is it weird/unladylike to read a book at a bar?The library is also pretty danged loud in the summertime. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/19 01:26 PM |
| 19 | Men “toughing it out”, being the strong oneHonestly, it sounds like this was a very healthy moment for you guys. He got to vent and you got to listen and realize that maybe you need to lean on someone else for a little while. I think you're right not to coddle him and cause him to regret opening up to you, as well. Fights happen, but if you're resolving issues, they're really quite beneficial. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/19 01:23 PM |
| 13 | Men “toughing it out”, being the strong oneI agree with reducing expenses, not even just for now, but with a new baby, in general. Really research cloth diapering before making that commitment, though. It's expensive upfront and a lot of people bail on it, once they realize what it entails. Also, thrift stores can be great, but they can also lead to bed bugs, especially in the summer, a much more stressful and expensive problem. Put a call out to family and friends that you'd love any hand-me-downs when the baby outgrows all those newbor… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/19 01:19 PM |
| 2 | Scarlet O'Hara and a Message About BeautyI agree that charm can detract from a big nose or a weak chin or a BMI of 26 (insert gasp here)... but nothing makes up for being a bitch. Your point is valid. I just think we often mention Scarlett O'Hara as a role model that she isn't. I'm just disagreeing with the example. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/19 06:09 PM |
| 2 | Scarlet O'Hara and a Message About BeautyExactly... and Scarlett was generally unable to keep a man or even a friend. Melanie, however, had everyone she ever met devoted to her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/19 05:57 PM |
| 5 | Scarlet O'Hara and a Message About BeautyScarlett might be a good role model in resilience and appearance, but aside from that, she's a selfish asshole. The main reason Rhett likes her is that he admires her self-serving nature. Except for her parents, the only person she loves is Ashley and even then, it's just a version of his character she's crafted, an ideal she ignores everyone to chase. I love the book, but Scarlett is a dick through most of it. Though I do agree that charm and poise go a long way, I don't think Scarlett is the r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/19 05:12 PM |
| 12 | What are your thoughts on non-monogamy (polyamory, open relationships)?I feel like, in an effort to be inclusive and tolerant, we gloss over the very real struggles people have in these relationships. I had a friend in high school, who married her high school boyfriend and decided 10 years later to be polyamorous. He acted game for it, but I never truly believed he was invested. Now they're divorced, so I guess I was right. Perhaps it's different if everyone agrees going in, but it's hard for me to believe it ever works. It's hard enough to make a marriage with two… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/19 02:38 PM |
| 7 | Can a woman fake her virginity?I'd only had one partner at 28... and that was six years prior. I could've faked it, judging by my husband stopping because it was so... snug? So, I'm going to go with yes, just to answer your question... but it's a really bad idea to lie about this... like phenomenally bad. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/19 01:07 AM |
| 4 | Discussion: forgiving a cheaterYes. I can. No. It's not. He made a commitment. Whether or not I could forgive it, it is 100% his fault that he broke that commitment, just as it's 100% my fault if I do, regardless of how neglectful he might be, how soft his middle might have gotten, or how meek he acts. Scratching your own itch is always an option. So is divorce. Then it doesn't matter who scratches whom. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/19 09:33 PM |
| 18 | Best way/place for a 25F to meet worthwhile men?I understand the hesitation with online dating, especially with an earlier bad experience, but I think the ubiquity of it is one of the reasons you're struggling to meet men organically. Whether or not you're on the apps, they've really changed the way men and women socialize. For example, a man who might have approached you at the gym 10 years ago, now feels like he's bothering you. There's almost an assumption that if you want to date, you'll be available on whatever app is popular in your reg… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/19 08:26 AM |
| 3 | Thought Experiment: Emotional CheatingEvery couple should guard against cheating, of any kind, from day one. My husband and I both avoid social media, so there's zero danger of reconnecting with that hottie from high school. He's in a Male dominated field and I'm in a female dominated field. We also have an open tech agreement. He can read through anything in my phone or internet search history (spoiler alert: it's all romance novel recommendations and beagle puppy photos) and vice versa (bitcoin research and Ben Shapiro podcasts). … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/19 02:42 AM |
| 5 | Discussion: forgiving a cheaterI asked my grandmother once, if she knew then, what she knows now, would she have divorced. She said no, because she had no idea how lonely life would be. I was a 23-year-old divorcee. I have no rose colored glasses as to how life would be if I were divorced, let alone how it would be if I were a single mom. It doesn't nullify the answers of the women who couldn't stay, but I love my husband. In fifteen years, I'd rather be with a less faithful version of him, than be a single mom at 45. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/19 02:33 AM |
| 3 | Discussion: forgiving a cheaterI think discretion is often the most important agreement, as well. It's less about trust and fidelity and more about not humiliating them or flaunting it. It's certainly not something I understand. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/07/19 07:50 PM |
| 8 | Discussion: forgiving a cheaterI think the reasons men and women cheat are valid, but I don't think that says anything about the capacity for their partners to forgive them. Just because a man cheats for a physical reason, doesn't mean a woman is more okay with it. I know many women who'd basically feel like he risked his marriage to scratch an itch and that's even worse. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/07/19 03:30 PM |
| 28 | Discussion: forgiving a cheaterDating: Never. If he can't be faithful when things are easy, walk. You have no commitment or reason to stay. If you don't want to be cheated on in marriage, don't tolerate it while dating. Scenarios where I could get past it in marriage? A one time thing. There's a boys trip to Vegas that goes bad. It's a tough year after his dad dies and his brother goes to prison, so he does something stupid, looking for some kind of emotional escape. A brief fling. He gets too close to a coworker, some fun is… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/07/19 02:50 PM |
| 2 | Why do women, including myself, enjoy being feminine?Vanity. I was fat for five years. People look right through fat people. They notice a woman who puts in effort. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/19 05:43 PM |
| 3 | 32 F getting older and need tips on how to realistically date - any advice welcomedI actually totally agree with this. Standards are different away from the coasts. Everyone is mentioning your BMI like 25 is the danger zone, but in the South, this is more like 30 depending on you carry and dress it. The fact that you're not a single mom will take you far, too. I'd consider whether or not you want to be a step-parent, because as was mentioned, almost everyone paired up in high school and had kids young. If you relocate to the middle or Southern part of the country, though, you'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/19 05:41 PM |
| 3 | Mommy issuesMy husband has never met my mother. She was physically and mentally abusive and has never taken responsibility for it, so I cut contact five years ago. My husband and I don't need that drama in our lives and my children won't have it in their lives either. How does this effect my personal relationships? I'm constantly working to improve myself, unsure of what a good woman is supposed to be, looking for mothering figures wherever I might find them. I second guess everything I do, in an effort not… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/07/19 05:25 PM |
| 2 | Share the most important advice you have from personal experience re: "qualifying your buyer"This is the real RPW response. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/19 11:47 PM |
| 2 | How Do I Build On This?Good for you! I do not miss it, but I'm glad I did it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/19 03:49 PM |
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