So in the last couple years I dated my last bf, I lost a lot of weight and otherwise made a lot of steps to be more feminine and attractive. I got a whole new wardrobe and a bunch of stuff. Coming out the other end of the relationship I just left, it's like sharks smelling blood in the water. I've had several men show interest in only a few weeks.

My problem is that, some of these men I value, others annoy me, but I'm not really ready for a new relationship regardless of any of that. I've tried communicating this, but a few guys haven't been receptive. And I'm flattered, after a lifetime of being overlooked I very much am, especially because I'm going through a hard time, but I don't know how to handle this situation with Grace.

Ideally I want to communicate to some men I'm not interested, and others I am but that I'm not ready yet. What is the best way to go about this?