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We do not align with that garbage. Those men are idiots. We align with traditional, hard working, RESPECTFUL men.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/26 03:09 PM
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I mean it’s funny and totally how my brain is speaking at times, but realistically, no- it’s not good. It’s mind games, it’s passive aggressive, it’s “two wrongs don’t make a right”. It relays on negativity, judgement of character, intimidation, and fear, all of which develop negatively on both the giver and receiver. It’s damaging to your relationship, there’s no benefit. It won’t get him to open up, it’ll hinder communication further between you both. Bullying in and of itself can cause depres…
/r/RedPillWives29/11/25 03:25 PM
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Your husband isn’t a man of good faith or value. He’s turned his wife into a sex slave. That’s appalling, a great sin, lust, he’s following the devil and forcing you to too. This is not a marriage red pill or surrendering will resolve because this is an abusive one sided marriage where all respect for you has gone out the window. Cheater too ofc. I don’t see any value in this man besides that he provides for you financially. But you’re his slave, so he’s paying to keep his sex slave. My only adv…
/r/RedPillWives22/11/25 01:24 PM
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He picked a 20 year old because women over the age of 30 wouldn’t play his manipulative abusive controlling game. You’re drained and confused because he’s trying to train you into being his submissive useless wife that doesn’t talk back to him, and that’s SCARY. I say this as a woman with traditional gender roles who is a stay at home. This is not how good men talk or treat women.
/r/RedPillWives28/10/25 01:58 PM
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It’s not bullshit, because I know for myself it worked first hand. Marriage =/= Love. Since my advice worked for me, it can absolutely work for someone else, humans aren’t robots, they’re enigmas. So of course there is ALWAYS a risk you can lose everything, that always a possibility with anything in life. This is again why in this subreddit especially, we encourage vetting and vetting very very seriously. If I hadn’t properly vetted my man, the wait would have been a “play stupid games, win stup…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/25 01:47 PM
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He wanted the joys and benefits of a relationship without the actual complete commitment. I doubt he really realized he’s been using you. Probably doesn’t have hard conversations with himself about what he actually wants in life and if he can’t do that with himself he can’t communicate that with a partner and therefor strung you along.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/24 03:01 PM
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Think you’ve got a lot of confidence building to do. Too much of your self worth is wrapped up in him and that’s not conducive to a successful relationship. My grandma always said, it’s not two 50% people coming together to become 100%, it’s about two 100% people coming together to become 200%. Sounds like you’ve been trying to force this man into your “perfect partner” box for far too long and he just won’t fit. He has traits you can’t ignore and he makes you feel unsafe and insecure. Like the …
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/24 01:42 PM
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Big fat NOPE.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/24 01:12 PM
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You have entirely different outlooks in life, even if all your goals are aligned, sometimes that can work wonderfully, sometimes it won’t. Regardless, this is who he is. So if you’re happy to be a never ending cheerleader for not you and him, without expecting the same energy reciprocated then by all means go for it! However if you find you’ll become exhausted and worn out by his constant pessimism then that’s fine too and you can break up. Really it’s about what you want in a partner and what n…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/24 07:27 PM
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buying a home, and selling it next week can make plenty of financial sense depending on the market and mortgage. Insane to let him talk you out of such a good personal financial move for yourself. Keep your standards the way they are.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/24 01:50 AM
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I mean harem animes are pretty whatever, I love a lot of anime’s like that and some of them aren’t even super hyper sexualized. I agree with the other commentor that you cannot change someone and if he doesn’t show the initiative and self discipline on his own accord he’s will NOT change just to marry you. Harsh reality, he needs to change for himself without your mothering, or it’ll only ever be temporary.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/24 09:19 PM
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love this answer, think context matters. Lots of women love to read smut but they’re still very respectable women. I consider it just a form of smut, which lots of people also consider art. if it’s not too bothersome to Op, I think your compromise is an awesome suggestion. He can enjoy the hobby but for the respect of his partner, keep it private.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/24 09:16 PM
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That’s obviously what he’s found that works to keep the peace with his family. 1000% a moment in which you should be following his lead.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/24 02:55 PM
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Has he gotten you anything before? then something like “babe I LOVE this item so much, it makes me so happy that you got it for me, thank you again” I find anytime I am hardcore in vocalizing my appreciation for the gifts, he tends to want to get me more things. I was so enthusiastic about my birthday gift this year that this week he surprised me with a random gift (my favourite scented candle) just because he said he loved how happy I’ve been with my birthday gift (a game). I once again lathere…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/24 12:52 AM
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sure financially that makes sense but I think there’s far too much you’re apprehensive about that currently from what you’ve said here, the risks outweigh the rewards
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/24 12:41 AM
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You always HAVE TO work, in some capacity, or then you just want to be a trophy, spoiled. there’s a massive difference between being a spoiled trophy wife and a stay at home wife that’s a homemaker.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/24 03:46 PM
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My husband ensured I was well taken care of before marriage with the unspoken condition that I continue to better my own skills and achieve my own financial goals alongside those of our combined goals and his independent goals. Part and parcel in him taking care of me is ensuring I’m a practical, capable, fiscally responsible woman in my own right, because you truly never know what could happen and he knows for example if his father died, there’s so much his mother wouldn’t be able to achieve on…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/24 03:43 PM
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You do understand women get breast reductions so they don’t have BACK problems? It’s not always cosmetic dumbass.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/24 01:39 PM
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FWIW your body type and skin colour is exactly what my buddy looks for in a woman. He loves curvy woman with melanin. He’s a catch too, great job, dog with great training, his own home, a good cook, very social, loves God. So there are men out there that desire you. It’s more now about becoming the best healthiest version of yourself. Lots a great workout and lifestyle advice here, just find the simplest ways to integrate everything into your lifestyle slowly, don’t hardcore force yourself to cu…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/24 12:32 PM
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Absolutely. I actually think all the time about how much I wish the people I love, could experiance love the way I do with my husband. He’s my best friend, truly my other half, gets all my jokes and makes jokes just for me to laugh, he’s charming and he’s obsessed with me as much as I am with him. We spend our sundays just us two together every week and we always go on tangents about how we live eachother more everyday and we can’t believe it, after 12 years? How can it even be possible to love …
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/24 04:47 PM
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I never said you were wrong I just said you were jumping to crazy conclusions. Just like you’re doing here again, please remind yourself of the rules here.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/24 01:58 AM
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okay chill out Pearl you’re jumping to so many manosphere conclusions
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/24 08:46 PM
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You said 1 year so give it that one year and in the interim plan your departure in case that’s the outcome.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/24 08:44 PM
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You still need hard skills to back yourself up incase anything happens, like if your husband died, or got sick? how would you pay your bills? You need to have some skills that can get you income. So you need to continue to focus on that first and foremost. It’s a great goal but don’t be naive about it. Life experience and work experience is valuable for women too. For example I have an education in tv and film, worked in tv for years (think hgtv) and I now have significantly more skills that I h…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/24 12:10 PM
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I still have a skillset that offers me a career beyond my husband. I’m a professional photographer with a background in working in TV (reality shows think hgtv). My skills never go away if I keep up to date on tech. Im also university educated. I work with my husband too but if he abandoned me I’d have enough in my bank account to afford our rent (property is in my name not his as he moved into my place). So between the property, having a good financial cushion and keeping my hard skills up to d…
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/24 11:46 AM
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I bet if your boyfriend was supportive and understanding before he will continue to do so now. Obviously he’ll be disappointed, you are too after all! Sometimes life throws us curveballs and we have to make due. Hopefully you can find some work arounds, maybe you’ll start learning the landlords schedule and find you actually have X days a week to see him. Don’t fret too much, just focus on finding work around solutions.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/24 01:44 PM
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I don’t think you should expect anyone to text daily.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/24 11:47 AM
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You’re literally fine 6 isn’t a big deal. Stop watching that type of content, surely it’s made by the men’s redpill community or the sprinkle sprinkle types and it’s NOT content made for you. You behave like a respectable woman now, you get your partners now, you’ve got standards and goals now. Everyone has a past and majority of millennials and gen z will not have low low body counts because our generations were raised in hookup culture. You were a wild girl, I was a wild girl. I found the love…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/24 08:40 PM
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Get your ducks in order. If you say no he’s going to do it anyways he doesn’t respect you even slightly if he puts his sexual desires above his commitment to the marriage. I’m sorry you married this loser.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/24 11:59 AM
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Do you two tackle projects together often or are the tasks usually always divided between you both?
/r/RedPillWives07/05/24 06:08 PM
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those are the things you should be talking to him about honestly, you’re deep enough in that it’s more then appropriate, it’s overdue.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/24 12:41 PM
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“You always look at the woman across the room. And you think, “The woman across the room is so confident, and so put together, and so on.” But that woman is looking at you. And for her, you are the woman across the room. Everybody’s the same. It’s just a big waste of time to be insecure.” -Diane von Furstenberg, Designer & Fashion Icon
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/24 07:21 PM
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where did you find this general consensus? Porn usage can be healthy, (also depending on the source of the porn, ie consenting adult entertainers who are paid). If he’s not watching it when you’re together it’s because he’s got you. Is he telling you he’s consuming porn? are you snooping? assuming? how have you come to this conclusion exactly?
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/24 08:07 PM
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you should wear gloves while washing dishes too! The process is very damaging to your skin and will age your hands crazy fast
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/24 06:43 PM
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My nails are never done, check r/longnaturalnails, you’d be amazed at what just a file can do. I use my hands a lot so they break often and when I do I just keep them even, just get a small brush (or old toothbrush) to use to clean under your nails when you wash your hands and jojoba oil if you’re feelin fancy! Don’t use nail polish, just keep it really simple :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/24 09:43 PM
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that’s a really thoughtful suggestion on his part of taking that inicitive to show his commitment by introducing your families, sounds like a sweetheart! Definitely bring him a Souvenir from where your from too, like a magnet or shot glass if he drinks or something cute that your hometown is known for. Handmade, I actually just made my husband a keychain out of clay for his upcoming birthday, I spent a while on it and I know he’ll adore it and it’s a small thing he can keep on him all the time f…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/24 08:11 PM
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if he’s this bad at prioritizing you now it’s not likely to change
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/24 07:44 PM
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“he doesn’t spoil me” lists off that he pays for dates, buys you gifts here and there, buys you flowers, brings you food. That’s a lot of kindness you’ve shoved into the “doesn’t spoil me” category. Why would he want to do more for you if you’re so ungrateful for what he already does? Why on earth would he pay your bills if you don’t live together? You sound like you want to be pampered, which is fine but it’s an unrealistic expectation here.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/24 02:13 PM
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He cried because he knew what this meant. He’s not in the right place to commit to a relationship like you want. He’s only 24 so that’s totally fine but you have other more immediate goals and you need to move on. Lack of conversation can be put into the same category as disinterested. If he’s disinterested in the conversations then the actions aren’t even on his mind.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/24 01:44 PM
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Sounds like you’re over reacting and it also sounds like you’re ungrateful.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/24 12:55 PM
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OP it sounds like you’re having a horrible time with horomones, which can lead to depression, first and foremost I would talk to a doctor. Second, gratitude journal. Now i’ve been in your position, somewhat still am as I moved to the city I’m in for my husband but I hate it here. I hate the type of people here, I hate the amenities or lack thereof, I hate a lot about this place. To my deepest core. This is my husbands hometown and he’s very successful here and moving anywhere else atm would be a…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/24 02:29 PM
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How old are you?
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/24 01:39 PM
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You’re attracted to him already so chemistry and sexual attraction can grow, though it’s not guaranteed. Some people need a deeper connection before a sexual attraction begins. arhat being said if you find yourself getting unmotivated and disinterested then absolutely pump the brakes and move on. 4 Dates? If it’s going well give it a couple more and reflect on how you feel then.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/24 12:16 AM
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good, women need women’s only spaces.
/r/RedPillWives12/04/24 11:24 PM
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Dude you should feel weird because this is WEIRD. My husband knows enough about my past but talking to him about the details of that benefits nobody. Girl, I’ve slept with 4 other men besides my husband and a real man who isn’t insecure isn’t going to ask about those men because why would he want to know that??? He knows the basics like who and when in my life. Sharing former details about former partners or dates is weird. Stop doing it. Just shut up about them. As for him feeling insecure? Kee…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/24 01:07 PM
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i like that a lot
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/24 01:40 AM
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glad you’re feeling excited again about someone OP after your past experiences! Always good to hear. Have fun improving things!
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/24 01:38 PM
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I always say “Happy Wife Happy Life” is accurate but it DOESN’T mean that at the cost of a husband sacrificing his well being. Happiness needs to come FROM the wife. We are responsible for our own happiness, our own actions, our own emotions. When we are stable and happy everyone else, especially our men, experience the residual benefits. Feels good being a team doesn’t it? Feels good not having to control everything? Feels good not to nag and just trust? Keep up the good work and give yourself …
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/24 01:31 PM
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Oh located festivals can be free and a fun thing to do! Keep your eye on local events OP, like I’m going to a Beer & Taco festival with my husband soon.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/24 12:52 PM
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see! he loves it, he gave you more, keep that up.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/24 12:50 PM
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He like cooking? Cook a meal with him or bake and decorate cookies! You can prepare the cookies and bring a bunch of colours of icing and make them together. Do you drink? You could pick out a couple bottles of wine and get some sketchbooks and try and draw each other while you’re drunk. Do you surprise him with sexy outfits? You can initiate by provoking him by showing off little hints that you’re wearing something very sexy under. You don’t need money, you need to be creative! Sounds like you …
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/24 12:49 PM
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Goals should be that the kids are independent free thinkers who have a good moral understanding of right and wrong and the ability to make thought out decisions that will keep them safe and allow them to be successful.
/r/RedPillWives08/04/24 12:42 PM
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lowkey my husband loves when I wear an oodie (the hoodie dress thing) he says it makes me extra soft and squeezable and I’m like a tiny surprise under it. I always have to laugh when he hits on me when I’m wearing it, it’s such a goofy cozy thing and he finds it sexy??? love that man.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/24 10:42 AM
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how old are you? teenager? absolutely adult? too soon
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/24 07:14 PM
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Driven, kind, respectful, provider, protector, supportive, takes good care of themself, not controlling but leading, humble, etc. Similar things to what we say to do to make ourselves higher value. Just generally very respectable human (inherently male) traits.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/24 12:45 PM
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I mean if it’s that hard for you to spot the red flags then by all means but men who consume rp content are pretty obvious because they usually tell you they do and if they don’t the warning signs are usually all standard- controlling, unfair and unequal standards, lack of decorum, to name a few
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/24 01:28 AM
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If this MARRIED man is texting you this? He’s horny, he’s lonely, he’s disrespectful and he’s a coward. He’s not a good man if he doesn’t even have the manhood to be honest with his wife and not message his ex behind her back. THAT is how he treats his WIFE. You should tell your partner about this interaction or you’re just as disrespectful.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/24 07:04 PM
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Also OP side note, if you’re comparing yourself to the friends or other women of a man you’ve gone on TWO dates with? You need to be working on your self esteem, that should NEVER rock you.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/24 02:21 AM
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a big thing we encourage here is for women to NOT consume male RP content, it is not for us, and it is not for the normal high value man.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/24 02:20 AM
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You dated a man nearly double your age and are shocked he had the emotional capacity of a teenage boy? that he’s playing the field and wants an image of a woman but isn’t man enough to have one? pikachu face We encourage vetting for a reason. You can be a flawless 10/10 perfect woman and STILL end up with a loser. Men want women, it’s not deeper than that, so you need to find the men that not only WANT women, but deserve one. Also the “red pillers” you’re talking about are not the women here, we…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/24 02:18 AM
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I’m not perfect and I fight with him from time to time, humans can only handle so much. I try and keep myself busy, channel my energy into tasks. I respond with “okay, whatever you think” like Laura Doyle suggest and that’s very helpful for me because I often HAVE to respond. “Yep” “okay” “i hear you” “understood” are single words i’ll use when I want to reply but don’t want to say more than I know I should. Just find your phrases that don’t dismiss him but they provide a boundary for you. Just …
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/24 12:29 PM
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I relate to the sensory issue, rubbing my hands on most skin gives me the ick, then put cream on my hands and also rubbing it on skin makes me very uncomfortable. However I will do it! I cannot allow my beautiful man to have scaly skin, he doesn’t deserve to be itchy from the dryness or have his shoulders hurt from straining at the computer all day. I just want to point out how happy YOU sound, you’re looking and feeling better, being a more proactive mother, setting an even better example, you …
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/24 10:52 PM
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Stop seeing someone who isn’t willing to commit.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/24 11:46 AM
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My husband just went to go get me a frosty from wendy’s because I said I was craving a dessert after our rushed dinner because we spent all day packing.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/24 10:07 PM
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Of course it is! That’s the entire intention, so that you apologize and change to fit his ideals and he doesn’t have to do anything. No respect for you.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/24 03:36 PM
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It’s called Love Bombing and you clocked it correctly. A term where people use being overly affectionate and loving as a terms of manipulation and control. Obviously people can be overly romantic but combine it with his “expectations” where he has trouble controlling his emotions and needs to have full control over your movements (ie, getting mad at slow reply to texting or double standards), this I would consider Love Bombing. He floods you with all this good happy emotions but then when it com…
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/24 01:28 PM
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it’s not even from pickup culture. Even women suggest going to places like coffee shops first for that exact same reasoning.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/24 12:03 PM
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Your values are just as important in a relationship! It’s fine to make compromises but don’t steam roll yourself :) good luck
/r/RedPillWives30/03/24 12:21 PM
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Right, and we do support women of traditional marriages for example some Nigerian women are happy to be apart of a multiple wives situation. Difference is they come from that culture as well and nobody is forcing a belief system on them that they clearly find great distress in. American culture is so far off from those cultures that it’ll be nearly impossible for you to ever get your mind in a good place and you’re likely to always feel some kind of negative way about this. If you yourself were …
/r/RedPillWives29/03/24 02:45 PM
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are you actually for real? what do you think the women in this subreddit condone? sure as fuck not this.
/r/RedPillWives29/03/24 12:33 PM
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it really is the small things
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/24 05:41 PM
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So he works from home everyday as he runs our business out of it. Basically, unless I’m working on a task with him, I leave him alone for the most part. I do however, have a morning coffee with him, so that’s a nice 15minutes for both of us to enjoy. Then I’ll just every few hours pop in with a new drink or snack and just give him a quick shoulder massage and some head kisses and leave again. He comes out of his working cave if he needs anything more from me. I also make myself very useful so he…
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/24 05:40 PM
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Start cleaning a 1x1ft square of space everyday, watch cleaning tiktokers like aurikatariina, just start to add cleaning focused moments in your day to day. Slowly you’ll find systems, like I can’t do dishes without watching content, I would literally be full of anxiety without it while doing them. Small things like buying a soap that you love the smell of, and slowly learning little things to make your space nourish you. Baby steps OP, your heart is in the right place, little girls yearn for th…
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/24 02:20 AM
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she seems the ideal step parent, I don’t think OP wants to be the same
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/24 08:07 PM
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Oh another suggestion, I openly will say to my husband “I am overwhelmed and bitter, I am processing it, can you hug me”. it tells him what he needs to know so he can decide how he’ll deal with the situation and information and that the only thing I need from him is a hug. (actually phrasing is more like “i’m being a grumpy little bitch and I’m cranky as fuck, hug me damnit) but in a light tone. Not super deep but it does reduce my anger, tells him that it’s not his fault i’m behaving that way a…
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/24 07:49 PM
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So that’s helpful context, you’re overwhelmed and your default seems to go become bitter. I always say in my head “no malice, same page, he loves me, give grace.” i’m also a Christian so I’m big on the phrase “let go and let God” at the end of that mantra too. I love mantras because my brain is always trying to kill my positivity. Correcting negative thinking is important. We are never malicious towards eachother, so I remind myself if he’s irritating me or annoying me or pushing me towards the …
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/24 07:46 PM
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but like, does your exs partner get jealous over your ex showing those kids attention? I’m guessing not based on how it seems to be working well for you! The word “attention” has me thinking OP needs to be her mans one and only relationship focus.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/24 07:29 PM
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Your lifestyle goals will clash heavily with those of a parent. While you’re right that older men with children can be a good sign as it shows he’s capable of caring for someone other than himself however, if he is a good man, he will always prioritize those children over himself AND any partner. Therefore it’ll be inevitable for conflict to arise. You might be better off seeking a man even slightly older, a man in his 40s-50s would have teen or grown children and that’s more workable but overal…
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/24 07:27 PM
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Have you ever approached a man? They really like it you know. That’s how I met my husband.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/24 01:55 PM
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I had all these things but only a bodycount of 4. Guess whose been happily married to the love of her life for over a decade living her SAH dreams and feeling amazing about myself? This gal! You’re never too late to change who you are. Just change a bit day by day and one day you’ll be a woman YOU value and in exchange a woman a man can value. Stay away from Men’s RP content and any manosphere or sprinkle girls. Stick to building healthy concrete habits and think for yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/24 11:41 PM
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You can literally ghost him, when I was an influencer the amount of weird men who would relentlessly message me was insane, a few of them still message my account and I have t posted anything in three years! Avoid dating men online or even befriending them honestly, there’s enough men in the real world.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/24 06:05 PM
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1,000,000% you can be with a man who has any form of income, with finances and income it’s all about his capability to balance those things wisely, and continue growing. As long as he meets the goals within your relationship decided between the two of you, then that’s a good man. In fact, many of us pick men who start out low earning and with time, hard work and a good woman behind them they end up being high earners. But no, we do not define a high value man based on his income. It can be a fac…
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/24 10:00 PM
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Very valuable insight. My husband was definitely the small stable investments build the pyramid type, it seemed unimpressive at first but he’s now developed himself into someone so financially impressive I keep counting my blessings. His Personal financial goals are a huge factor here for women to look at when vetting.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/24 01:00 AM
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Yes, red flag. By all means lots of women are married to men with wandering eyes, for some men it’s just a visual enjoyment, like looking at cars. What you need to know is what kind of a woman you are. Are you comfortable with this? You said no, you set a boundary and then he followed more models. That’s blatant disrespect, he confirmed what you wanted and actively did the opposite. That’s more of an issue than looking at women, it’s that he doesn’t value your boundaries or respect you. That’s w…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/24 05:42 PM
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Wear the dress for yourself, not for him. I’m sure you have plenty of outfits for him.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/24 12:33 PM
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Exactly! You know in your gut what’s safe and what isn’t, you’re asking all the right questions, keep following that intuition :)
/r/RedPillWomen29/02/24 01:35 PM
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Of course he would be upset, even a creep will be offended if you call them a creep! Of course the creep isn’t “like the other boys” and doesn’t “date through reddit”. As a woman, you NEED to follow those gut feelings, if it EVER feels weird or off about someone you are entirely justified to cut contact with them. You do not owe anyone your time, your words, your attention, your emotions, your energy. (excluding your married husband and your children). You are entirely justified feeling uncomfor…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/24 10:28 PM
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No that’s a massive red flag right off the jump 🚩 fucking weirdo trying to pick up a freshly adult girl through reddit when he’s 30, bro if you’re reading this post get a life and I’m all for age gap relationships but they need to have a lot of contributing factors majority of the time it’s a skewed and unbalanced dynamic This one sounds toxic
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/24 10:14 PM
5

machismo will always exist, blind confidence doesn’t require anything to back it up, men being men.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/24 11:47 PM
15

Really depends on the arguement, what it’s about, what started it and how it ended. Generically, I just improve the world around him while I stay quiet. I run my mouth, that’s what I do, bad trait, but good when I’m happy. So STFU is great for me. I will refresh his water, clean the room around him, make myself productive. Me shutting up and working to improve our lives shows him immediate corrective action. I simply shut up and occupy myself. That being said he doesn’t hold onto his anger very …
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/24 02:17 PM
19

Just based on how you’ve written this, Guy 1 is the better option and you even compare guy 2 to guy 1, meaning there’s something about Guy 1 you consider better overall even if something is drawing you towards Guy 2
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/24 02:13 AM
3

You’re going to have your heart broken a second time, this isn’t going to last
/r/RedPillWives17/02/24 06:38 PM
1

How old are you both?
/r/RedPillWives16/02/24 02:44 PM
5

What i find is interesting in a lot of black culture, take Nigerian for example, conservative values follow along heavily with how women from that culture operate, they’re powerful figureheads in their families who are well respected and yet they’re just mothers and wives. If it makes you feel any better I’m white/asian and I get the same bullshit.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/24 01:17 PM
1

You either make a move or this is the lame dance you dance forever. My husband is my leader but I was the first one to make a move, I asked HIM out. I only had to do that once in over a decade. Just needed a push to start.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/24 02:47 PM
1

Then maybe like I said to the other girl, if you’re constantly improving yourself, keep a friendly demeanour and are an interesting and valuable person on your own- then maybe you just haven’t met the right person yet! Sometimes just with all the small things in attraction and compatibility, lifestyle, it just takes some time to find the right person to gel with. Keep putting yourself out there, continue vetting and hopefully you’ll find someone when God intends!
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/24 03:47 PM
1

Women talking to women is very different than men talking to women in a women’s subreddit.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/24 03:44 PM
6

There you go, get to the root of the issue! It’s your relationship is lacking quality time, the problem isn’t the friend or hearing about him. Have you tried planning a date? What do you have to do in your free time without him? Do you have friends?
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/24 03:43 PM
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Then you’re still doing things right! Sometimes it really comes down to “you just haven’t met the right person yet”. It’s great you’re looking to find more communities and the thing is they don’t need to have men involved because you can meet men through other women! Friends of a friend are a great old fashioned way of meeting people. Just keep socializing. if you think you’re a 5, but you’ve been getting a 7, you’re probably a 7 is my guess. Men are less harsh with the number game I find. As fa…
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/24 03:38 PM
1

men should like women not girls
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/24 02:55 PM
1

not even attention for guys The amount of girls I stopped bei by friends with because they were bitter I’m skinny. Just them watching me try something on at the mall and loving it and then not having the same experiance would result in “you need curves to fill that out” passive aggressive style comments. No men involved.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/24 02:53 PM
1

She’s self loathing, it’s easy to say you’re mean and awful when you’re bitter about your best-friend being everything you want to be. Just keep building her up as a good friend would do. You can’t prevent her from comparing herself to you. That being said, you sound like a good influence on her so it’s not persay a bad thing she just needs to get the self hatred in check. That’s not something you can do but you can bring it up to her as something she can chew on.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/24 02:49 PM
2

You shouldn’t be anything but happy for him. So figure yourself out.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/24 02:45 PM
4

how fun are you? That’s just the question that pops into my head. If you’re working on appearance and you sound like a catch. That’s where I’m stumped, maybe you’re coming across stiff or something.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/24 02:43 PM
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That’s great you know what you want, all those things are very accessible in a partner, obviously nobody is perfect but what you’re looking for is good. How are your homemaking skills? How good of a cook are you? I hate the specific term “looks maxing” but it’s basically (without getting sick with it), about doing all the things you can to maximize your best features and appearance. Where do you feel you are lacking there? You say you’re only a 7, what made you decide that? What kind of communit…
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/24 02:40 PM
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well that’s what you need to focus on clearly- you hate yourself. In the words of RuPaul Charles “If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you going to love somebody else” Get your shit together.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/24 02:27 PM
4

He’s not captain material
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/24 02:28 PM
3

what is a sprinkle sprinkle type?
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/24 02:28 PM
1

I like LoeppskyLife, Delilah while a devout Christian doesn’t force it down anyone’s throat. I think she’s a great example of a feminine and respectable mother and woman, especially as she reduces her kids being in her videos as they get older. I also like Emily Faith, she does a lot of DIY but she’s a mother as well and is very graceful. Elin Esser, not sure if she’s a mother but she has incredible content for living simply and being grateful. Hopewell Heights, mom of 4 on a homestead. I loved …
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/24 02:18 PM
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The date comment is the only one that’s justified, the others, small puddle of water after he did an act of service? got you flowers but OH NO LIFE IS OVER because they’re not the right kind. Those you need to get over, that’s immature. You need to work on your gratitude, you’re not entitled to flowers or spotless counters, those are bonuses, so learn to appreciate them. Also if you want him to clean YOUR way, do it with him, along side. Can’t force someone to clean to your standards no matter h…
/r/RedPillWives06/02/24 02:17 PM
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Part, I’m assuming is because for years now black women are told they are lesser than and the most undesirable even to black men. So I think a lot of black women have a hard time thinking they’re doing it “right”
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/24 02:46 PM
2

Exactly!! The best women have so much DEPTH to them, that it shines through even as we lose our physical beauty and ultimately that shows through no matter what you look like.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/24 02:38 PM
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Not using him like that, more like using him as an emotional escape and an emotional crutch
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/24 07:35 PM
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What are YOU doing to improve your situation? Aside from using him to escape it?
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/24 01:36 PM
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I’ve always looked to older graceful women as the ideal. Good men won’t leave the love of thier life, mother of thier children, because of aging looks. They just don’t, so the men who do think that way are NOT ideal partners from the get go. Looking to older women both online in media and in person, there’s lots to learn from. They have personalities that last far beyond looks and with the standards you listed, you keep yourself in shape even late into life. We all age and will get “less attract…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/24 12:46 PM
2

I do family and newborn photography and make things that I sell through local vendors
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/24 05:54 AM
2

My mom does this with her husband but literally because of his snoring. Despite tons of medical intervention it’s HORRENDOUS, so she sleeps at the other end of the house, bonus though because now she has two closets.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 05:53 PM
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Good morning, hope you’re coming to a more concrete decision and investing in a better life for yourself.
/r/RedPillWives27/01/24 03:20 PM
2

I wonder how many men struggle with Valentine’s day because it feels like a competition and a test for them. Pretty disheartening. I’m with you, that the day should just be focused on quality time. Also love the story of endurance from you and your husband, must have been such a trying time for you guys. Congratulations on all four!
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/24 02:56 PM
1

I always love Valentine’s day but as a way to showcase my love, not specifically to receive it. So I’m never disappointed because my goal is to make everyone else feel loved! You radiate the good energy that day and I find you get love in return. That being said, he always gets me flowers. Usually potted too because I love keeping them for my garden in the spring. I always bake him something special, cookies, cake, pie, etc. Just find something cool on pinterest and make it valentinesy.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/24 02:54 PM
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wow you literally have zero personal accountability and instead of taking all the valid advice here you’re once again going to blame and find fault in strangers rather than yourself. You’re the least ladylike person in this chat.
/r/RedPillWives27/01/24 02:37 PM
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I’m not, I offered you my opinion, which you asked for. By all means finding faults in the comments of internet strangers instead of fixing your actual ones.
/r/RedPillWives27/01/24 02:32 AM
2

It’s so weird to me that you think you’re making a point here
/r/RedPillWives27/01/24 02:22 AM
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Is it because I used a swear word? Femininity doesn’t forbid me from using words, but go off. If that’s what you’re picking out from my comments. You stay with him because it’s easier for you, it’s half-assed. Staying with him because that’s what HE wants, is still YOUR choice, you don’t leave because you benefit from this and his pain and probelm is easy to sweep under the rug when you’re still getting what you want. But now you’re not getting what you want and he’s weak again in your eyes. You…
/r/RedPillWives27/01/24 01:41 AM
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you don’t need to be strong per-say just be selfish again like you have been
/r/RedPillWives27/01/24 12:22 AM
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at no point in your post did you sound like you cared nor have ever cared about his emotional well being or what he wants in the relationship. Your decisions as you’ve listed here are all selfish to the core. Which I will add is FINE, just not when you’re dragging around someone.
/r/RedPillWives27/01/24 12:19 AM
4

Why are you continuing to abuse this man so desperate to be with you? Just leave for fucks sake.
/r/RedPillWives27/01/24 12:17 AM
5

He’s part of the contributing factor to you driving to see him, more traditionally he’d travel to see you so by paying for your expense he’s trying to accommodate for not being the one to travel. By you accepting his money it encourages him to feel better about not doing that gesture for you in the first place. Feels guilty and wants to make things easier for you. Always consider intent behind why he’s giving you money, and use it with respect. He wants a partnership if he’s looking to contribut…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/24 08:28 PM
1

I already look young for my age but this subreddit has me getting carded, such helpful advice who knew I needed snail mucus
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/24 03:50 AM
9

good for you, always seek someone who respects you and elevates you
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/24 03:11 AM
9

Stable job isn’t important depending on work ethic. How he decides to spend his time and work towards goals and income is what matters, how he gains his stability doesn’t have to be through a stable job persay.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/24 03:10 AM
4

Sunk cost fallacy, that’s what you’re doing
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 08:05 PM
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just wild to ask for a threesome while your wife is pregnant
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/24 06:53 AM
12

He doesn’t sound like a partner. He sounds like he has zero consideration for you. also he thinks you just need to hit your children more, that’s…… a thought alright
/r/RedPillWives17/01/24 03:00 PM
2

Totally!! My husband loves listening to me talk but everyone has a limit no matter how wonderfully funny interesting and charismatic I am 😂
/r/RedPillWives13/01/24 05:49 PM
8

I always ask myself “is this a mountain or molehill?” and decide if that’s the battle I want to pick. Otherwise, he can have the upper hand. So what if I’m right? So what if my opinion is better? So what if he fucks up and should have listened to me? The outcome of shutting up is never as bad as you think it is. There’s PLENTY of opportunities to hold a position, share your opinion or input, PLENTY. He will ask if you respect him too. Just pick your battles. Also find an outlet if you just want …
/r/RedPillWives12/01/24 06:23 PM
8

he absolutely does not seem to love you as much as you love him
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/24 02:17 PM
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OP if you’re looking to be a redpillwoman then we firmly believe there is no room from our men for behaviour like this. You’ve set your bar too low and don’t think you’re worth enough to be firm with this. Increase your mental strength and make some firm decisions. Good men, good people are not sketchy like this.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/24 02:39 PM
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jfc what are his redeeming qualities exactly?
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/24 02:37 PM
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I don’t think you KNOW he actually doesn’t want to be with her. Looking in her windows wondering about her life while also jerking off to videos of her at least once a quarter- that’s pretty ducked up. You’re a rebound. Hard and fast.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/24 02:36 PM
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Are you actually attracted to him? Sure doesn’t sound like you are.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 02:09 PM
4

Realistically you have two options: Change your timeline to suit his Break up and find a new partner as you have only so much time and you haven’t been with him that long at all There is more risk but that’s why you go to your doctor and have this conversation with them, figure out your options. what ages did the women in your family conceive? Obviously every pregnancy is different but it’s better to have a clearer idea of what your body is likely to do and that in turn will make your decision e…
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/24 02:25 PM
3

Cutting your losses before you even talk about it seems premature, the amount of time to meet a partner and have kids may take significantly longer and if not you could be settling for someone you know less. Have the hard conversations, say the hard truths, learn and go from there
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/24 03:11 AM
11

He’s not a HVM if he’s got a serious drug addiction. only one who can save an addict is themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 03:17 PM
19

I think a good handful are trolls and rejects from the manosphere
/r/RedPillWives22/12/23 01:13 PM
11

A cold day in hell would be the day he even considers that
/r/RedPillWives22/12/23 01:12 PM
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Good on ya, and who knows, by making your opinion firm and moving on in the direction towards a life with children, he may change his mind, but that’s in Gods hands so just keep prioritizing the goal of a family for yourself :)
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/23 06:54 PM
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it’s not shocking a 37 year old man is content with his life and has decided not to have children. Has nothing to do with you or netting his feminine ideals, outside of wanting kids it sounds like you are ideal, so that’s not the issue. The issue is getting too invested before ensuring your vital life goals align, medical, kids, family, financial and religion. While women might usually turn that leaf, because it’s in our nature to have children for the most part, it’s not for men. A soulmate can…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/23 02:04 PM
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yep, isn’t it shocking how intolerable people are and how not inclusive they actually are? Don’t even take a moment to do research and just lump us in with other ideologies they don’t like. Bigotry really. I’ve been banned from some pretty ludacris subreddits for talking here.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/23 02:16 PM
7

totally reasonable! Everything is subjective to each unique couple, there’s moments in my story that rpw preach and there’s moments people would gasp that I made my decisions. My husband and I started as college students so everything was split down the middle. After college (same education) I got luckier than him with a better job opportunity. So I paid for majority while I made more money, he saved and lived with his parents. I moved out and lived on my own. He got a great job and I got a bett…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/23 06:26 PM
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As a 5’4” 118lb woman, I literally don’t understand your excuses here, gain some muscle
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/23 07:12 PM
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Ask him his opinion! What colours does he like, patterns, simple things. Build up a mood board in your head of what he likes to wear. Note everything he usually wears, what does he lean to the most? what does he gravitate towards? Then, what do you find attractive on a man? Consider that too because he’ll want his woman to like looking at him. Your intimidated but if he’s entrusting you with this then he already believes you know what he’ll look good in. Buy a new shirt, test the waters “babe I …
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/23 02:56 PM
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Sounds like you already know what to do, it she literally wants to be you when she grows up I have no clue how you could be better influence outside of continuing to be your amazing role model self! Just show her how strong and smart and capable women can be through your actions, she probably watches your every move. As long as you’re following his lead with his family and boundaries then keep maintaining the relationships like you have been. MIL loved you, niece loves you, SIL has her own probl…
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/23 01:57 PM
3

Unfortunately usually irreversible, there was the odd one that would stay friends after I yelled at him (in highschool), but to this day I don’t really speak to him. I will point out his girlfriend didn’t like him being friends with me, so that further showed his wandering affection towards me. Some people no matter what just can’t turn off those emotions towards people and they aren’t good friends anymore. So yeah, usually irreversible.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/23 01:33 PM
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That’s kinda how I assumed the dynamic was from your end, which makes sense as I’ve made the same mistake and wondered why my guy friends kept catching feelings, it’s because the dynamic wasn’t conducive to that kind of a relationship! Once I learned how men operated I’ve been able to have much better and more respectful and transparent friendships with them!
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/23 12:14 AM
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I think his isn’t a male/female dynamic as it’s more of you ignoring blatant signs from this guy for years. YEARS. You kept a set of rose tinted glasses on through your entire relationship with him entirely ignoring every red flag he shot up. My best friend is male and we’ve never had any weirdness to our dynamic, he’s also bestfriends with my husband. Unless you understand men, you cannot be friends with them. Or you miss obvious signs like you did, ones even your own mother noticed. Keep makin…
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/23 03:28 PM
3

Should ask r/skincareaddiction they’ll have plenty of experience and opinions Truly drinking water/tea more at the most basic level will make you more hydrated thus improving skin but idk about the deeper questions you seem to have
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/23 06:52 PM
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Exactly why I said she needs to do what’s healthy for HER body. Being 5’4” and 51kg may be healthy on my body but other women who have different bone structures or carry their weight differently will not be healthy. Like OP said, if she loses weight her bones start poking through, different body structure. I was just pointing out that these blanket statements of “5’4” and 50kg isn’t healthy” are blatantly incorrect.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/23 02:23 PM
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/r/RedPillWomen23/08/23 01:33 PM
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I’m 5’4” 51kg and I’m doctor approved healthy and good for pregnancy. This is misinformation. I’m sorry for what happened to your health! Also agree that OP should only do what’s medically healthy for HER body.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/23 01:31 PM
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Your value shouldn’t be dictated by 5kg
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/23 01:29 PM
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First of all? Stop talking about other women’s bodies as if you know everything. I’m 5’4” 51kg and I’m peak health, my doctor has approved of getting pregnant even. You can’t blame women because your husband finds them attractive. Get that out of your head and don’t tear down other women to build yourself up. Full stop. My husband doesn’t understand My husband doesn’t get it My husband knows less than I do Do you hear yourself?? I think the issue is less of your body and more about your sexy app…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/23 01:27 PM
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Update: I’m obsessed. Always tons of cheese with eggs in this house!! Even my picky picky eater of a man loved them, was skeptical when he saw the panko but it was a hit!!
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/23 12:51 PM
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what’s your height?? I’m 5’4” 118lb (51kg) and I am considered extremely small and very skinny in America/Canada (canadians are also statiscally bigger than americans too) This sounds pretty unhealthy if a request
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/23 01:19 AM
2

Cherry Cheesecake Egg Rolls in the air fryer
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/23 01:18 AM
2

Sounds pretty incompatible tbh, autism aside he seems to be love bombing if he’s rushing you past your comfort level. Since it’s so early on, I think you can pull back and create some distance and go from there. He’s absolutely not your last chance and you need to work on bettering that mindset of yours and think more highly of yourself, or work towards thinking more highly of yourself. Do not marry him or have children with him hoping he’ll change. Never expect someone to change.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/23 01:16 AM
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She seems to run by “Happy Wife Happy Life” but in a self-providing way. I love it. She focuses on self development and empowerment and relqutinishing control. Stoicism specifically geared for women.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/23 01:14 AM
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https://openlibrary.org/books/OL7927106M/Surrendered_Single You can use this website, I use it for a lot of books. Alternative you can use google books, but that’ll remove some pages: https://books.google.ws/books?id=MR-nY9tz_-gC&printsec=frontcover#v=onepage&q&f=false
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/23 01:11 AM
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will be trying this panko cream egg tomorrow morning 😍 OP is already making a good move by asking other women because this is always a great way to learn more about food, you just gave me a hot tip and I’m excited to try it! So much of cooking is trying and learning
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/23 01:01 AM
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Youtube: Babish! (his cookware is of lukewarm quality, don’t buy) but his youtube channel is great. Josh Weismann, I like his older videos. SavorEasy has the simplest bread recipes. Website: Meals for Two is a great website for small portion receipts so you can try things out without worrying about making a huge batch you won’t like. Books: Literally go to your library or thrift shop and just pick books that you’re drawn to! It’s a great opportunity to try new cuisines and get inspiration withou…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/23 12:58 AM
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Double the age gap, age gaps aren’t always the problem but this is DOUBLE her age, that’s a huge red flag, then it blends into “sir” which is only something you don’t use in context with men in your immediate life, it’s typically reserved for more distant men, strangers, extended family, seniors/superiors. In a relationship where you should be equals (in respect, not in terms of roles) this is another red flag. The fact that he won’t relent on it, is obsessively controlling as you cannot dictate…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/23 12:35 AM
2

even if they were trans, wouldn’t they want to be identifying as she/her anyways?!? like at that point it’s offensive even to a trans woman 😭
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 02:35 PM
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all because they’re a woman who wants to be with a woman who has a vagina 😭 people are deranged! I’m the same way, no issues with what anyone wants to be in their personal life, but the moment you take a shot at naturally born women or try to say you fully understand our experience? A jokester.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 02:32 PM
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Yes! My friend got asked her pronouns and she has PCOS so some facial hair and she fully crumpled inward emotionally afterwards. She was even wearing a dress! She still struggles now from that comment, always asking if something makes her look manly. So angry such a stupid comment could destroy a woman’s whole self esteem because some loser thought they were being woke and kind to her.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 02:26 PM
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Right?? Some of the obscure things people twist their mouths to say. Blaire White is my fave trans commentator, she points out so much of that crazy shit, been watching her since 2015 and I probably align the most politically with her views.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 02:24 PM
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there’s a video by the CUT maybe, Odd Man Out Feminist edition and (aba and preach had a good take) but basically the trans man (FTM) and the gay man, steam rolled over the born woman who literally just said she’s had a hard time speaking up in male dominated spaces. It’s shocking how they can’t see how diving and stupid they sound.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 02:05 PM
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this is super similar to what I made a comment about, watching my friends (one who is seeing a divorce lawyer today) behave the way they did and how the men responded, it was depressing. Then I looked at my aunt and uncle, happily married still 40 years later, cheesy couple, happy grown kids, entered thier grandparent era. She’s been a homemaker the entire time, he runs a company (that employs a lot of family actually) and they host a lot of the best family events. They’re living proof. So I sta…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 02:02 PM
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a couple of things: I’m bisexual, and the LGBTQ+ community here ostracized me and other bi folk during an event and it was a “wtf isn’t this canada” moment, the alphabet politics destroyed that community Cost of living, I watched as it became impossible to live the dream life and I had to make hard and fast decisions to protect myself, within this process I learned it’s better for me to be supported by (and work with) my husband in his company, we eliminated a car, the “strong independent woman …
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 01:56 PM
1

Sounds like you equally have great sexual desire for eachother, the fact that it’s not a huge pull for you outside of when you’re together says it’s the specific person that you’re both drawn to. That’s a beautiful connection! The regret can come from past teachings of what sex should mean to you. I’m the main initiator in my relationship, felt strange because I too was taught men were the ones to approach. In a modern society men are actually taught to be far more avoidant of putting pressure o…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/23 04:17 PM
2

I mean start by not referring to yourself as one You’re not less capable of love or bonding what the fuck have you been reading?????
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/23 01:32 PM
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easy way to talk to strangers: compliments! I throw compliments out like candy and it’s really started some awesome conversations. Nails are always easy to comment on, women who have pretty nails lowkey want someone to notice. Makeup, the outfit, I’ve complimented people’s vibe, or how good looking of a couple two people are. I compliment dogs walking by and the owners light up and usually go with “you can pet them” and it starts a convo. Told my grocery store girl how she always looks incredibl…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/23 01:26 PM
2

You didn’t build your self esteem enough if one failed date is resulting in your completely crumbling. I encourage nun mode. We as women are NOT measured by the amount of men attracted to us and not by our failed dates. In the words of rupaul “if you can’t love yourself how in the hell are you going to love anybody else” if people read that you don’t like yourself, then why would they be encouraged to like you? You NEED to work on your confidence. If you keep working on yourself, you’ll attract …
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/23 01:19 PM
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Horses are a great avenue to meeting others! I owned a pony for nearly a decade and I met a lot. of my good female friends at barns, competitions etc. You can volunteer if you’ve got time at children’s riding camps, that’s how I met one of the girls, we were both counsellors! That’s part of the self exploration too, pushing yourself to try something new, or do something intimidating that you really want to. Camping/hiking is great too! There’s lots of groups for solo female travellers where you …
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/23 02:22 PM
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I’ve just turned 30 this year but I agree your twenties are hard! You should use your 20s as a time for a few things: self exploration: try and fail and try again at all kinds of new hobbies and skills. In my twenties I learned to sew, learned how to REALLY clean and cook, I learned how to mosaic, aquascape, garden, I took stunt driving lessons, travelling, putting myself in uncomfortable positions to learn more about myself. Get to know what you like and don’t like. mental health: Due to past t…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/23 01:48 PM
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don’t always like Benjis take but he’s 100% on the mark with this one!
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/23 01:42 PM
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You’re so sweet thank you! I always call getting married “the cherry ontop”, should be the added joy you bring to an already loving and committed relationship!
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/23 12:37 PM
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nothing is stopping you from creating your own business at home on your timeline! OR NOT! I run my own business (remote client work) from home which allows me to pursue being a stay at home mom. Since I’ve been raised very “independent woman who don’t need no man” and career heavy all through my twenties it was hard to settle into stay at home life, so I created myself my own job.keeps me busy and motivates me on my own terms. It’ll allow me all the freedom and control of being solely a sahm onc…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/23 12:17 PM
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guy seems weirdly insecure lots of guys will say ignorant things, learn from it, note it, look for men who don’t share the behaviour. Guy clearly also was looking to have sex with you if he got all hype about you not being a virgin.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/23 12:41 PM
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Celebrities/Household names =/=HVM Anyone who is a famous athlete, influencer, policy maker, celebrity, etc shouldn’t be looked at to as the goal. Your thinking is pretty nationalist, which is fine, but you only need ONE man, and he doesn’t have to be famous. I’m from a western country so totally different perspective but all of our athletes end up marrying internationally, it’s just how the world rolls now. I think you’re hyper focused on wealth and status, which sure can add to someone’s value…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/23 02:31 PM
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That’s not the point, the point is you clearly made him the second choice, stopped communicating with him entirely. Your relationship (in terms of knowing someone) doesn’t just hit pause when you decide you don’t want to date them, this man knows you as a woman who is a branch swinger, looking for the next best man to come along. You said no to him and then said “nvm jk, i’ll date you now!” that’s so disrespectful and men survive off respect. how could you be so dense as to not know how that’ll …
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/23 07:52 PM
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This is a YOU problem. He was entirely transparent with you and that shows his respect for you. a stop hamstering, go on a walk, do your hair, workout if she has such a “nice body” clearly you don’t think highly of your own, so work on loving your own body in this moment.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/23 03:38 PM
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I’m a fall hard and fast kinda gal. I fell for him probably the moment I met him. I told him I loved him very early on, got “I know” as a response. We spent every moment of everyday from the day we met together, and the longest I’ve gone without him now is 4 days. We had an undeniable connection from the jump. I think part of his draw was that unlike other men, he was hard to impress. I was used to men basically fawning over me from the start and he told me he “wanted to make sure I was the righ…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/23 01:49 PM
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that’s very boxed thinking, not every couple is “doing everything that a married couple would do” at two years
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/23 10:04 PM
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I wasn’t talking about financially stable for a wedding, I’m talking in terms of being prepared to start a family, have a place for that family. I’m very team courthouse or elopement!
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/23 03:49 AM
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100000%
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 11:54 PM
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someone posted here the other day that if she wasn’t committed to after 8 years she was leaving by 25 and when she turned 25 and no ring, she walked.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 11:16 PM
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Absolutely, I remember being very emotional when he hadn’t proposed 2, 5, 6 years down the line, but then you have a choice to either stay or leave. As I said to another woman, if he’s making actionable tangible steps towards a committed life, (owning property or putting financials towards a combined life, talking about children, etc) it’s an ongoing and open conversation, then I think there doesn’t have to be a dead fast timeline. If he’s the RIGHT man, the one you want to be with for life, and…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 11:14 PM
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That absolutely does! As long as he’s making tangible steps to prove he’s committed I think timelines can be heavily adjusted. Important part is you’re both working towards the same objective, a happy, stable and fulfilled life together. Marriage is a part of that and when it’s meant to happen it will. That’s what happens in stable long term committed relationships!
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 11:11 PM
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Yep, need the beauty to extend beyond the surface for it to have any longevity.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 11:07 PM
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Maybe but my partner waited a long time before proposing because like most men he wanted to be financially stable. We’ve been together 11 years. I’d rather never be married and be with what I consider the best man on the entire planet than be married to anyone else. I think while this is a good general rule of thumb, commitment is more than just a ring on your finger and legally binding documents, and if within 2 years you’ve not developed a depthy and deep relationship, why propose? because of …
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 02:50 PM
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I like your list better, actually realistic.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 12:52 PM
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Vaush?
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 12:36 PM
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No offence to OP but after the ages and “7months” I fully laughed. This is how 20 year olds think though
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/23 12:06 PM
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Yes! If you matched, especially via a service that’s intended on matching people who are alike, you just need more confidence. Treat yourself to some self love and care. Both physical and mental, like hair care and positive affirmations.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/23 04:55 AM
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I would say yes and no. Yes, because that’s the easiest way to attract men right? visually. No, because in terms of longevity and partnership, I think attraction is subjective and not indicative of overall value. One of my bestfriend’s his wife is an absolute rockstar. Great cook, incredible mother, super supportive, he had cancer and she stayed by his side, she’s the kindest person, so selfless, so graceful, educated and I think women should aspire to be like her. However, she is unfortunately …
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/23 04:46 AM
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Yes, I’d say I’m a high 8. I’ve got very proportional features, tiny frame but hourglass, long dark hair, pouty lips. If I put on a dress and go literally anywhere I will get a comment, be it from men or women, it’s always a compliment. I’m alternative too, so I was surprised even after all my tattoos how many people look my way. I used to be an influencer of sorts and routinely would have people comment about my looks, despite my content not being about me. Strangers seem to approach me more th…
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/23 04:25 AM
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You’re absolutely right!! learning to dress for your specific body type is so important
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/23 03:18 AM
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Nails are subjective to the man, mine likes longer but neutral colours. He wants head stritches. I opt for gel as they’re much more natural and you can play around with designs. Almond shape I see men tend to like more. Long enough for stritches, short enough you come across low maintenance, good high quality care, meaning not waiting to get refills and not ruining them. dropping the napkin can be as simple as asking him what time it is with a flirty smile or as straight up as telling him he’s h…
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/23 02:12 AM
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I remember a tiktok once that a man said “are boobs at all not boobs enough?” and it’s a good reminder that there is a man out there that considers your boobs enough. In less crude terms, everyone has someone. Take time to learn your body, wear sexy underwear, a secret to yourself. Buy something that makes you feel beautiful, no one will know about it but you and you need to be the only one for a while that you look to for physical confirmation. I took a look at your profile like some others did…
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/23 01:59 AM
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Sometimes things hurt our feelings, if you’re not making a man earn your body then you’re making it easy, that’s just how it is. You need to work on bringing up your internal value. If you’re giving yourself away because you’re trying to play thier game then you’re going to lose, that’s just how it is. As a woman, you have very powerful assets that you need to protect, your backbone, your body, including your mental and physical health. Quick pleasure isnt worth it. I’m not judging you the way y…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/23 06:39 PM
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but then you proceed to have sex with them…..? Make it make sense
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/23 01:18 PM
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Firm boundaries are incredibly feminine. Who told you a backbone is for men? Who told you, that your voice has to be quieter? Who told you you had to play their game in order to find a man? I flat out said “we are not having sex” to my now partner of 11 years. He was caught off gaurd, but was entirely respectful. That showed me immediately the kind of man he is- and that I am entirely within my rights to be woo’d. Build your confidence, say NO. Practice NUN MODE until you can figure yourself out…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/23 01:17 PM
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he’s a pedophile and predator. There’s no mental health issue beyond that he’s completely sick in the head. His poor children. I’m so sorry you went through this OP.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/23 11:55 AM
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I’m going to take a shot and say they’re attracted to your friends because they’re coming across as confident, I think you just need to work on building yourself up emotionally. If you’re in shape, have good hair and skin, and dress to attract the men you want then I’m thinking it’s confidence.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/23 11:46 PM
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This!! My man and I have been together since college and while some years were difficult (for both of us) to be where we are now in our 30s is incredible. I encouraged him and let him pave his own way and now he runs his own company and every single month it’s doubling in profits. I can’t deny that when we were starving artists in our mid twenties I was scared our life wouldn’t ever come together. Always bit my tongue and supported him. I had to trust I picked the right man. When it came to my w…
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/23 01:08 PM
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Men need to feel like they’re truly earning and contributing to their own success. Passion like this will never override success and accolades.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/23 01:01 PM
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Deleting instagram, no guy friends. YOURE 17!!!!!!!!! Girl this is an abusive relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/23 12:39 PM
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Tracking your location and getting upset when it’s off is controlling, that’s not appropriate and that’s not an asperger’s thing either. It’s just bad. You don’t need to give him more respect when he has none for you.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/23 12:38 PM
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Just discuss the parts of it you like but as the others said, don’t use the term or direct him to the content. It’s not for men looking to commit long term to one woman. Talk to him about family dynamics, financial dynamics. Talk about the parts you like, leading, the role you want to play, what your goals for a family are, what your expectations are for your marriage. You can have frank and honest conversations, you NEED to have these conversations before that of getting engaged. Ask questions,…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/23 01:07 AM
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Honestly yell it louder for the people in back 👏🏻 My man is wonderfully masculine but he can kiki with me about Drag Race the same way my queer friends can. He understands womens issues that matter to me, as Canadians, we care deeply for aboriginal issues which are classically put as a “left/liberal issue”, pro cannabis, etc. It’s always interesting seeing my female friends shocked at how a masculine man knows who Michelle Visage is and can also fix their lawn mower and love God. I think modern …
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/23 12:38 AM
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If you are a man and you are here Posts & Comments RPW is the women’s space in the RP network. We recognize that men have unique insights. The men who can provide the most valuable advice are: older, married and long time participants in the RP community. Everyone else should focus his time on TRP. You, I guarantee, are not older than me, you’re absolutely not as regular to this subreddit as I am. You speak with a moral authority that you do not have. You do not have a place to speak to women th…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/23 01:07 PM
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I don’t need respect from men who don’t even respect the subreddit enough to read the rules.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/23 04:30 PM
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Thank you again for the video, I also watched God is Grey’s take and I think hers is much better. Creator from the video you linked me is wrong about this subreddit. Full stop. I want to just say this here for anyone else who watches that video. We are not here to become the women of the red pill men. We consistently advise to NOT abe with RPM as their goal isn’t to become loving committed husbands and fathers. Our philosophy’s are incredibly different. The only thing we agree on is that Men & W…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/23 03:03 PM
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so a grifter, as long as her personal opinions don’t bleed into videos I see why she’s so popular as those messages are great but yeah people really be selling off their opinions for money from certain groups and that’s extra shitty
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/23 02:32 PM
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Appreciate the receipt, I’ll do my research and form my own opinion. Always good to hear these things.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/23 02:16 PM
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The charges have literally been building, dumbass. Go read a book tater tot and leave the WOMENS subreddit.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/23 02:06 PM
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no not really,she doesn’t even talk about social or political issues.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/23 02:05 PM
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where’s the evidence of this? I’ve watched all her videos and follow her on IG. If you’re saying this simply because her husband is a cop…?
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/23 02:04 PM
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he’s on house arrest
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/23 01:28 AM
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MrsMidwest is a fave of mine
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/23 06:17 PM
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He’s a convicted sex trafficker. Why is anyone still seeking advice from people with mindsets like his. Him and those who want to be like him are utter trash.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/23 06:16 PM
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If you’re not comfortable and he’s only your boyfriend not your husband or fiancé, don’t do what you’re not comfortable with. You’re a high value woman right? Make decisions that continue to make you one. I personally am happy to take these photos and am not concerned he’ll ever show them or pos them anywhere. That being said we’re 11 years in. How long have you been together?
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/23 12:11 PM
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Weirdo weirdo weirdo
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/23 11:40 AM
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I don’t know him but it sounds like you’re just a place holder. A man who wants to marry you makes it clear.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/23 12:47 PM
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Congratulations for getting out of that relationship OP and rebuilding your self worth! I know that mustn’t have been easy. I haven’t been in one but I’ve helped my best friend get out of one. Small steps to improving her self worth was big. Just fixing herself exactly the food she wanted to eat, without worrying. Buying a dress for the first time (her ex wouldn’t let her wear them), and spending one night a week doing a “Me Night” she calls them. Where she does something, could be a face mask, …
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/23 07:59 PM
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You came to this sub crying about why older men approach you, I told you a fact about the reality of this world we live in. They approach you because older men will approach younger women no matter what, ugly, pretty, doesn’t matter. Check your feelings. A response like yours shows how naive you are, learn to handle yourself better.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/23 07:09 PM
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Old men always hit on younger women, the sky is blue and water is wet.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/23 11:33 AM
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unless this girl is actually a danger to her, recording her would be weird and karen like imo
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/23 01:22 PM
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I’m agreeing with this, clearly she’s a fly and he swats her away anytime she’s near, before OP even came into the picture likely. She needs to stfu and work on why she’s insecure. What threat is this woman really??? none, so why does she feel threatened?
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/23 01:21 PM
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Try Harder???? What does he genuinely expect you to do when this woman wants to claim your partner as her territory, and he allows it. I can’t imagine my man being so disrespectful to me that he prioritizes another woman’s feelings before mine, the only women who should have priority in his life other than me are his mother and sister. You need to put your foot down and follow through with action.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/23 01:27 PM
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clearly you haven’t watched much of their content, clearly you’re not a woman either by your disgusting language
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/23 05:55 PM
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Mine did because that’s where I met him, we share the same level of drive and passion for what he has now turned into a business, because I’ve got the same education as him he considers me a vital part of his business and favourite person to bounce his work ideas off of. Most women don’t get the privilege of being so involved in their man’s working life, I did, because of the college I went to. I would say generally, it depends on the man, If say most men don’t care but many men do want certain …
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/23 12:33 AM
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Also your man went Low Value extremely quick. No good, high value man would speak so disrespectfully of women.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/23 12:49 PM
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Show him Aba and Preach
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/23 12:47 PM
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Couldn’t agree more! Super level headed thinker too she’s awesome
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/23 12:35 PM
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Michelle McDaniels is a personal trainer and former body builder, she has a facebook group with lots of advice and routines. Worth checking out.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/23 12:49 PM
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You need to work on breaking your train of thought. Every time you look at another couple start talking to yourself about something entirely different. You have to be incredibly persistent with your positive inner voice, you have to be hard on yourself and tell yourself “that’s bullshit, I’m fine” even if you think you’re not. Once your brain starts actively thinking more positively you can start breaking down deeper issues and possibly try therapy again.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/23 11:52 AM
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To me sounds like you’re fixated on the person you “know” her to be but people are fluid and hobbies interest personalities change, not thinking she’ll achieve what she’s trying to sounds judgemental, just because she’s not going about life the same way you think is the best for her doesn’t mean she’s not going to meet the man of her dreams and have kids after medical school. People are dynamic, friendships are dynamic. If she treats you and others with respect, if she’s still kind and fun to be…
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/23 06:08 PM
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So very true, a high value man has enough critical thinking to divide himself from the single man or perpetually online ideas. A true High Value man can enter any space, learn from it and better himself afterwards without allowing those a spaces to dictate who he is, because he decides that.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/23 01:44 PM
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It needs to be posted somewhere already because this sub does NOT recommend TRP men for RPW, we recommend only High Value (HV) men, typically these men wouldn’t subscribe to “the red pill”.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/23 03:25 PM
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Nah, not true, maybe for some but blanket statements are silly imo. My husband (11 years strong) took his time deciding if I was “worth it”, he didn’t tell me he loved me until 8 months in! He said it was sooner but he was absolutely not a love at first sight guy the way I was for him. Connection at first sight, attraction at first sight absolutely, but for some people Love is something that takes time and experiences.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/23 05:30 PM
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you’re over compensating from the sounds of it, doing wifely duties as a girlfriend is wrong and you’re tossing your value out too early on. That’s just stupid. Why would a relationship ever progress if you give them everything they want before they give you what you want? You’re being a doormat, not a rpw. RPW isn’t working for you because you’re not following it correctly it sounds more like you’re following Mens RP. Why are you still talking to exes, ever? Close those doors permanently when t…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/23 12:05 PM
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I’ve not heard of her but I enjoy MrsMidwest, she doesn’t post as often since her second child which is to be expected but her content is lovely, very open ended so fits a lot of lifestyles
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/23 12:19 PM
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I love seeing someone with a similar plan as my husband and I! I also do the credit card and talk about over $50 purchases. I hope ours continues to work successfully when we have kids like it sounds it does for your family!
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/23 04:03 PM
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No kids yet, husband owns his own business. Essentially I have a credit card that I use and he runs all the financials. I don’t need to discuss groceries or household products with him unless it’s over $50 then it’s just a matter of transparency and letting him know in advance that say, I’m buying a new mop this week or something. He trusts that I know how to effectively stretch every dollar so he has no worries about how I’ll spend it. Personal goods, I keep a running list of the things I need …
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/23 04:00 PM
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also to add, “a reckoning for men” sounds wildly incel like.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/23 02:04 PM
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Definitely one of those, it’s not you it’s him, moments.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/23 02:01 PM
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I will scream this until I am blue in the face, WOMEN OF VALUE DO NOT SUBSCRIBE TO THE MALE REDPILL BS. That stuff is for single men looking to get wet, not men looking to raise a family. Grow a spine OP, you can’t seriously be having these conversations.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/23 06:53 PM
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it’s disrespectful and pathetic of him, women of high value do not even entertain conversations like this. He’s not a man of value he’s a man of many weaknesses.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/23 06:51 PM
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so your husband wants to cheat on you and turn you into a female cuck? while you’re PREGNANT? Like someone else said if this isn’t a troll you need to seriously just fucking leave this loser of a “husband”. A husband is a COMMITTED man.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/23 01:31 AM
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You can know more and be a leader in plenty of areas that suit you and YOUR relationship. You may find a man that knows nothing about say mechanics and you know a ton, a good masculine man would take time to learn from you but you need to be able to teach those things on a feminine manor, that’s it. Think of the Captain and First Mate metaphor used here often, He is captain and the captain is unable to work a part of the ship (life) or isn’t usually in control of that aspect of the ship, then th…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/23 03:41 PM
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Femininity is so deep, you’re absolutely right and that’s what we try to encourage here. A feminine woman can be anything she wants to be, I’ve fixed countless things on my car, I’ve rebuilt an entire kitchen, I’ve raced snowmobiles. Femininity like others have said isn’t decided by hobbies or skill sets but more of mannerisms, relationships and communication styles. :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/23 03:35 PM
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Incel ideology?!? I’m cackling, some people really are so stupid they can’t even read the side bar.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/23 04:33 PM
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I don’t need to defend myself against men that don’t even respect this subreddits rules.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/23 01:34 AM
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That’s absolutely not true. People in GENERAL don’t need unsolicited advice. It’s not a male/female issue.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/23 12:08 AM
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Telling us “how it is” means nothing if you’re not MY man. I don’t need random or even male friends giving me advice on how I should be as a woman. Absolutely not.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/23 01:43 PM
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Wow is this a joke???????
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/23 04:30 PM
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No. Absolutely do not fulfill these requests. He wants far too much for what he doesn’t provide in return.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/23 04:29 PM
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He wants wife duties while you’re still a girlfriend that’s a no-go. If he wants you cleaning his home you should be living there. Tidying up and doing a bit more when you’re over is more than enough. You’re not to cater to him until he proves himself to be permanent. I see no reason to change this behaviour. cook for him when you’re together if he loves that, irs clearly an east way to his heart. As for dressing up, just do it??????? I don’t understand why you’d dress up for work but not for hi…
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/23 04:28 PM
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I’m the same age as OP and I’d be APPALLED if my man had the audacity
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/23 08:32 PM
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Nothing, but you want to be with a man you trust in a relationship you feel secure in. Sometimes men will buy what they want instead of work for it, they don’t appreciate the housewife work and expect it, because you’re there to look good and do what you’re supposed to do. With a man you trust, a Captain, there is no fear of that so any spoiling or trophy style behaviour he wants is done out of love and commitment and not done just to ensure he has the pretty wife and the pretty life. i think li…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 01:12 AM
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Some of my best friends are my polar opposites. The one I spend most of the time with has a house I hate (so much so that I deep cleaned everything) think is ugly, she wears frumpy clothes. However, she’s intelligent, she knows so much about math and science and has really helped me improve my homemade cleaners, stretch my dollar further when we go shopping together. She’s well travelled, she’s an immigrant and her home country is so different to here and she has taught me so much just from the …
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/23 01:04 PM
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also adding that men only really start settling down on average around the age of 30. The only men you’re missing out on are the ones that want a TON of kids, as just biologically speaking we (i’m also 29) don’t have as much time to make as many kids. So unless you want like 4+ kids your age shouldn’t be an issue.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/23 07:33 PM
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They truly do not usually gift a flying fuck what you do for a living. As long as your job doesn’t prevent your from being available and attentive, you could be an NBA star, a mechanic, or a florist and it all means the same. Men like passion, if you’re a passionate woman with a job she loves that doesn’t impede her ability to make a relationship a priority then be whatever you want to be!!
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/23 07:30 PM
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It’s because our current climate has taught us “strong independent women don’t need no man” followed by “anything they can do we can do too, and sometimes better” it’s these mentalities, which are the same old mentalities of “women need to be xyz” women need to have masculine characteristics now, they need to be sharks in the workforce, loud powerful voices, solely independent. These are the same closed mindsets that think women have a choice, until it comes submitting to a man. They also tech u…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/23 12:55 AM
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it’s because red pill for men is VERY different than it is to us, but people who avoid critically thinking or choose ignorance and won’t take that extra step to look at what red pill women offer and how we are not the same “red pill”. Reality is red pill was derived from the Matrix, it’s a pill indicating reality. Nothing crazy but “red pilled” has a general correlation to the Male Red Pill which is absolutely different than that of the Female Red Pill.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/23 07:00 PM
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Feminism has its place :) on levels like voting and healthcare is great. It’s the excessive hate all men, men owe us, women need to be xyz. It’s boxing, and isn’t needed the way it was previously. Glad you’ve found advice here that improves YOUR individual life, that’s what we like to see. Happy, confident, high value women showcasing their best selves as a compliment to men, not an opposition.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/23 06:57 PM
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sometimes people use the internet for validation and attention, seems to be the case with him if he’s ghosted. Probably likes playing the white knight. Sounds exhausting.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/23 08:12 PM
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If you’re feeling empty you need something else in your life for you, some kind of hobby or activity! What do you do for fun outside of your relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/23 11:54 AM
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PS! Even work out attire can be very feminine! Think about your body shape, colours that keep you bright and energetic looking.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/23 12:57 AM
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Workout leggings, comfy sweater that can be tied at your waist if it’s cooler out, comfortable top, avoid deep cleavage if you can. Comfortable shoes. To be feminine on a hike is not complaining about discomfort from clothing, keeping a good spirit even if something goes wrong and keeping yourself well prepared and maybe him also! I wear a small fanny pack and keep snacks in it, bandaids and a compass and it’s small enough it doesn’t bother me and I can clip my water bottle on the side. That way…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/23 12:56 AM
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That’s totally fair to feel that way, it was selfish of him. Now i would consider being selfish yourself and deciding if this is really it
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/23 12:21 AM
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You can have strong views on monogamy, but upholding those views and living a monogamous life is entirely different. He has respect for the concept of monogamy but not the reality of it.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/23 05:33 PM
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You’re a place holder, do with that information what you will. Truly committed men wouldn’t consider this let alone bring it up for discussion. You’re young, consider this a good time to end the relationship. He wants something different out of life than a relationship with only you.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/23 05:32 PM
2

This is abuse.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/23 05:18 PM
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That’s awesome! Now work on saying those things to him while he’s doing things using those skills. Husband carried something heavy inside? Thanks babe you’re so strong, couldn’t do it without you. He comes and fixes a problem? Wow! I would have never thought of that, my man is a genius!
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/23 12:54 PM
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sidebar on mobile is hard to find, go to the main subreddit page, click the … and then go down to Community Info and it’s there
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/23 12:51 PM
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James, sir….? Never seen that subreddit oml how many relationship subs are there!
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/23 12:50 PM
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I’d also like to mention that being a Red Pill Woman while for most intent is a partner, a lot of it also is for women looking to become better individuals, and more self confident. Red Pill Women like others said embrace the enate differences between Men and Women and how those can work in harmony. Red Pill Women value personal appearance, physical health, intelligence/critical thinking, skill building, temperament, and emotional maturity. Something EVERY woman should be investing in. We talk a…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/23 12:47 PM
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I’ve seen it happen to a good chunk my own male friends. They went from complete fuck boys in their early mid twenties and now at 30 they’ve really got their act together and Id happily set a lot of them up with hvw now. whereas in my twenties I’d do everything possible to keep my girlfriends away from them. Now they’ve got solid careers, life experiences, and something to work for, before life was just the thrill, now they’re seeking true substance.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/23 08:34 PM
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OP if you don’t mind me asking, how old are youV
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 01:18 PM
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I agree as someone with hooded eyes. However my mom has since gotten hers worked on as through age they started to droop and no skincare/health care could fix it for her. She looks very similar to prior to the droop, but I still look like her spitting image. the person spewing about “plastic surgery is a lie” is uneducated on the subject clearly. Minor cosmetic procedures won’t drastically change your appearance. My mom looks like my mom. She looks like me. I’d also note my mom has a breast augm…
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/23 01:16 PM
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Hard reminder: the male red pill is EXTREMELY different than the female red pill.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/23 05:54 PM
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I try to keep a positive demeanour during these conversations because I think men are taught that usually the women checking where you are or in on you are needy or controlling or untrusting.I go extra sweet. If my husband responded with “idk when it’ll be home” then we’d agree on a time frame in which he make a decision to return home or stay out with the likelihood of not coming home until the am. We always lean to 12am. at 12 he tells me if he’s coming home or he tells me if he’s staying out.…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/23 01:10 AM
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if he’s apologized just l would just let him know a text goes a long way so you’re not worried he’s died. My husband occasionally will stay out later than anticipated but he’ll send me a text (a gif is our go-to) to let me know he’s good. Sometimes he’ll even pop me a text from another phone if his died but he’s really going above and beyond there. Plug his phone in for him before he goes out on nights like this so he’s safely charged and can call a cab or you or whatever he needs.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/23 12:43 AM
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Darling Andrew Tate is a convicted felon for human trafficking, if that’s who he considers a strong male role model you’ve got much deeper issues. You’re too young for this.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/23 11:48 PM
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that’s beyond controlling, I have great relationships with male friends, work out regularly and am still a wonderfully feminine wife to my husband. I cannot even begin to imagine him trying to control me like that or even suggesting those controlling of boundaries.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/23 11:46 PM
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truly marking us as “women’s who are slaves to men and have 1950s mindsets” despite that being that farthest from the truth
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/23 04:46 PM
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it wasn’t referring to this community.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/23 06:01 AM
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A “red pill man” is not ideal. They’re taught women are disposable and how to chase to get laid and served, not how to be respectable men who have happy marriages and healthy lives. He’s lame, even the bowling alley date left him on read because she even knows he’s lame. Men of substance don’t behave so maliciously.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/23 11:23 PM
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she has one for single women and those not yet married so she’s got good advice for all!
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/23 02:30 PM
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rising your face is something i do to calm my emotions too, use it as an opportunity to reflect in silence, listen to the water and collect yourself. it’s okay to be sensitive you just need to know when to apply it. Start to work on building up resilience, what did you experience when you were younger that previously allowed you to have control over your emotions better? try and figure that out and reapply.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/23 03:41 PM
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He’s probably exhausted and even a slight when you’re fully drained emotionally and physically can be enough to really upset you, like it did for him. for example i’ve been spending everyday since new years cleaning our home deeply, my husband proceeded to state how dirty something was (i was in the middle of cleaning something else, it got pushed aside and i KNEW i wanted that cleaned sooner) but his comment just destroyed my confidence that day, felt so unappreciated. That however was complete…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/23 05:25 AM
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he’s not just financially unstable, he’s push to start, zero drive. These people don’t change even for themselves let alone someone else.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/22 02:04 PM
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Refusal to see the real world? If you see it that deeply I can only suggest therapy.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/21 11:45 PM
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I do both but he has no interest unfortunately
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/21 03:22 PM
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I’ll check him out and make my own opinion on his teachings :) thanks for the resource suggestion! I don’t think religion plays too deeply into him. He wasn’t raised Christian, he converted for me and he’s not a huge participant in it. Very new to the teachings of God but he’s enjoying it. Very casual Christian.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/21 03:17 PM
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No worries! Yeah our situation won’t be changing until at least June 14th, lockdown wise. That’s a great idea a game night seems fun. I’m not worried about how engaged he is with me but I wonder if the quality of that engagement has something to do with it. I’ll make a themed drink night, he loves those. I know he wanted to do a Jurassic park marathon so I’ll try and fit that into the schedule, a lil Netflix and chill. We built a Fort at the beginning of the pandemic and that was great for insti…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/21 03:14 PM
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Thanks for showing me this I needed the laugh and the lesson 😂
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/21 03:08 PM
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Another suggested a picnic too and it’s actually a really good idea despite how stressed out it makes me (I think that’s my issue from not having gone out in a year) and Im going to plan a solo picnic. I’m going to go find a good book and try and make a day of it.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/21 03:06 PM
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I used to hike but since nothing is open all the normal people have flooded the parks and trails so it’s too dangerous for me to go now. I’ve suggested a picnic and he doesn’t want to, and I guess I could do that by myself but it’d be really depressing. I’ll do it though, I’ll do anything. Maybe even if I just went for an hour long drive or something every other day that could help? Just so he has space to breathe I don’t talk to him from 8-6pm because he’s working or when he’s on the porch swin…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/21 03:04 PM
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I’ve always been sick, born sick. Nothing that effected day to day life until the pandemic thankfully! I have a severely compromised immune system ontop of some other fun stuff. I can’t visit my family sadly because my mom works in a nursing home and my little brother works as an essential worker so they put me at risk until they’re fully vaccinated and I am too. His dad is fully vaccinated and works from home so that’s really the only person he can visit.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/21 02:57 PM
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I’m glad you get this, that’s exactly how he operates. He said he knows and he’ll try to initiate but that conversation was a month ago. We’re christians but I don’t think religion plays a part. If anything maybe I could actually use our faith to broach the topic. I agree! It feels almost cruel despite knowing there’s no malice on his end. To get all worked up only to be left hanging. I’ve been starting to detach and got a little scared which is why I posted here. I feel like if I stop it’ll be …
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/21 02:50 PM
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Yeah, this is probably it and the worst part is I can’t do anything about that. I’m high risk so until I’m vaccinated I have to stay home and he works from home and we aren’t allowed to go visit Anyone or go anywhere :( so aside from pushing him to go see his dad once a week I’m not sure what I can do other than ride it out until we can have time apart. I bet if he wanted to grocery shop he could do that to go out because we’re allowed to go there (I usually order groceries since it’s my respons…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/21 02:42 PM
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In the shower is my only logical conclusion if he is getting a release. Anything else would be a guess in the wind. He literally has zero possibility for cheating.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/21 02:41 PM
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We’re locked down still here so we can’t go anywhere :( I’ve suggest a picnic but he didn’t want to. We’re both very very touchy which is part of why I’m frustrated and confused. I try to even plan for times like before bed or in the morning or I offer him to join my showers. I really appreciate all this advice. I’ll keep applying, I’m thinking it’s now just a combination of being stuck inside and being stuck together. Need some absence to keep those hearts fonder.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/21 02:38 PM
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You’re probably right. I just don’t know how to offer him that, I’m high risk so I can’t leave the home and he doesn’t seem to want to. I suggest he goes and visits his parents and he’ll get a beer with his dad like once a month. I also don’t bother him from 8-6 because I consider them office hours. I try to keep myself busy in other rooms but like I said very small apartment (under 600sqft) so I think just my presence carries. Any ideas on how maybe I can navigate this?
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/21 02:35 PM
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Couldn’t be either. Apartment is too small, I considered mastuebation but his showers are the only time he spends alone and they’re so fast I can’t imagine he even has the time! I’m hoping he’s at least doing it in the shower honestly. Cheating is physically impossible as he’s not left the apartment on his own since the pandemic. I don’t think he’s releasing AT ALL, and that’s part of my concern.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/21 01:40 PM
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I’m direct with men always. The moment you make me uncomfortable or feel disrespected any and all chances of me being polite are out of the window. Real men don’t behave this way. You need to be FIRM, doesn’t matter particularly what you say but you need to be firm.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/21 01:31 PM
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Seems like your a diamond in the rough to him. He saw something in you so desirable he looked past anything you deem undesirable. You show self accountability and you show the willingness to improve yourself. That’s attractive, that speaks volumes.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/21 01:28 PM
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I never said it was bad to be either of those things. I just don't think it need to be softened up to be all "he cares deeply for your emotions so told you the truth yadda yadda" that means nothing at the end of it all. He's leaving her to fuck to her people, plain and simple.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/20 06:43 PM
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He's not RP, he's just selfish and horny, honestly, pretty TRP. Red-pilled men understand the rules of TRP but they do not abide by it. It's not a bible. A real man follows his own compass, not the rules of internet strangers looking to bang cindy.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/20 10:30 PM
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Preface by saying this is a bunch of thoughts slammed together, maybe you can get something out of it. Yes I did! That's very important to me. I wanted to basically look at the guy, and want to take all his clothes off. I still do, 7 years later. So I'm glad I didn't settle for that because sexual attraction is very important to me and now that I have it, It would have been a very lack-luster, maybe even miserable life without it. We started college and I saw him across the class from me and lit…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/20 05:53 PM
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Your problem isn't age, it's type. I met my guy in college and he stood out because he has different priorities (ie. money and long-term success, not interested in casual sex). I also have a few guy friends who were the same, and yes, I do have some that are still nearly 27, that are still fucking and chucking. You need to work on your skills at vetting.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/20 04:26 PM
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It was a weird breakup, since it wasn't done because of problems but rather indifference. That's exactly where I was at, I didn't want him to touch me, not because he was bad or anything, it just wasn't the hands I wanted on my body anymore. I knew at that moment it was a deeper issue that I allowed, so I broke up with him.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/20 04:05 PM
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Oh of course, I was just saying I know a man, and had loved a man, who is exactly the type of man you're talking about. Women would probably look past in him in some cases, my own girlfriends would ask "why him" because he has good values, he was smart, funny, caring, attentive. He's was a catch. There's just that weird grey-area where you have to decide for yourself, are you passing up a good man because of superficial X reason? Or are you settling on a decent man because you know he's a safe c…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/20 03:38 PM
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I almost settled, was with a good guy for 4 years, but he never revved my engine really, he's a very handsome guy, just I suppose not my type. I just looked past it, because he was and as far as I know, still is a good man. Just not for me. Unfortunately, he dated a very horrible girl after me and I'm not sure he'll treat women as gently as he did me and that's a shame. While I don't daydream of us being in love anymore, odd times I do find myself thinking "I hope he found himself a woman who ap…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/20 03:02 PM
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Interesting how using your freewill and dabbling in other subreddits means you're no longer worthy of thier mom group. Hysterical. r/fuckyoukaren in a nutshell.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/20 09:55 PM
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ew,he's one gross guy
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/20 07:04 PM
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If you're concerned, just talk about them! Learn WHY he feels the way he does and that will allow you the room to decide if it's worth being concerned about. Though I feel he'd have to be fairly extreme if you feel concern about it.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/20 08:04 PM
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When we come to a standstill over a topic, we "Agree to disagree but I understand your perspective." For us, as long as we understand each other, it doesn't matter if we disagree on the topic. Obviously ensure you're aligned in the important, affect your life, kind of ways but the rest is just politics, literally and figuratively.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/20 08:02 PM
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Hybrid. You should ALWAYS hybrid. I don't agree with the mindset of "dress to impress him". Of course, you want him to be attracted to you, but he's with a WOMAN, not a mannequin. So you find the balance between the things you know he finds attractive, and the sense of style that you feel good in. 9/10 times, the hybrid is perfect. So he likes sweats? Wear your best booty hugging yoga pants. No make-up makeup looks exist for a reason and they're awesome. OR, think lip tint and tinted lip balm to…
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/19 05:25 PM
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Yes and yes. I was raised upper middle class. I wanted for nothing. He was raised in lower class. He didn't know how to want, he knew how to get by. End of the day, we share all the same values and it's the mindset that makes the man. His mindset is driven and self-motivated. Therefore, I have no concerns of being lower-class, and even if I was, I would make due because the value he brings to my life outweighs the financial benefits of being a higher class. What I do really love that he learned …
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/19 03:50 PM
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When they ask a question with the intent to shame - go all out with the confiedence. The hair situation? "Absolutely!" and a big smile. The "unlike women like me" I would just echo the stupid part, "yes, women like you." and smile. your sister is a separate battle. Someone once taught me, it's hard to insult someone who is smiling at you. The idea is - make it known you heard them, make it clear you're not going to give them a second thought, and finally, smile - make it known you're better than…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/19 09:55 PM
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For the first time ever, my family is doing a 1 gift each rule and we all made practical suggestions. (My brother is getting our mom glass straws, I'm relacing her disgustingly calcified water kettle for example). I requested ONLY a framed butterfly or a plant. My brother only wants either a giftcard to buy books for his kindle. My guy and I, we're off the gift-giving in a sense. We just buy ourselves, something we both need/want together. We bought a green velvet cover for our couch and I'm in …
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/19 06:39 PM
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I need advice fort handling the stress. My family makes me want to die because of all the drama that comes along with it. Our Christmas with each other & his family is always perfect, but mine is a nightmare just due to stress. If anyone has tips for this, very welcome. For at home, we're budgeting, so because our tree was fake and pathetic, we worked together to attach it to the window and make a half tree that's much lusher. Then We got into onesies and decorated, he made hot chocolate (he has…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/19 06:31 PM
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Second Surrendered wife. It made me a better me.
/r/RedPillWives18/12/19 07:24 PM
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So happy for you! You should get Canadian citizenship, it's nicer here :)
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/19 04:28 PM
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wow serious bullet dodged
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/19 02:38 PM
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guessing you're downvotted because of being so specific but lowkey this seems like a cute outfit
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/19 10:23 PM
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This is exactly why every woman should own a little black dress. Then you pair it with cute shoes, bag and accessories per the season. With accessories, in the words of Coco Chanel - always take off one thing before leaving. Winter, however, anything that looks a bit flowy. My go-to outfits are usually knee-high black boots, tights, a skirt, a cute top and a cozy cardigan (in this scenerio, I'd swap the top/cardi combo for a really pretty long-leave dress shirt you can tuck into the skirt (show …
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/19 08:30 PM
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Sure it can! Plenty of rust-covering metal paints. And for laminate/formica you just sand it down first, prime it twice, paint it, top coat it. Use a water-based paint, not latex. Laminate paint or interior acrylic would be my suggestion! Alternatively - stick and peel laminate. OR omg I'm swirling with ideas now. WALLPAPER - give it a funky pattern, seal it up.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/19 06:01 PM
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You should just paint the table, I loved all the rest of this.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/19 02:30 PM
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Thank you, stopping my hamster before it gets up to full-speed.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/19 08:35 PM
2

I've just never NOT been unemployed. I was just making ends/payments meet with my job so I'm sort of freaking out. His income is good, but he reduced his hours so he could work on his business, so his income actually isn't much more than our bills as well. I can't have this debt hanging over me either, so I'd prefer to find work I can do from home to keep myself as a cost-zero (so either I'm paying everything to make ends meet or I'm bringing in money) I just don't want to burden him financially…
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/19 07:40 PM
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If you decide not to abort this mission, your deciding point is BEFORE sex.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/19 09:53 PM
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idk girl, I'm hearing alarm bells. Doesn't do anything for himself (no personal drive) Was handed a business basically very rich but hasn't spent money on you very shady ​ OH SHIT OKAY I JUST FINISHED POINT 5 - HE'S WAITING TO FUCK YOU BEFORE DETERMINING IF YOU'RE "WORTH IT" Fckboi playbook 101. ABORT MISSION ABORT ABORT ABORT
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/19 09:52 PM
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Could be phrasing, it's a pick-and-choose kind of subreddit, it's about what tools and mindsets you find benefit the life you're trying to create. Every person is in some way affected by what we perceive we SHOULD look like, instead of embracing what we actually look like and building on it.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/19 03:01 AM
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as someone with 34A's, your chest size is literally meaningless, there are COUNTLESS quality men interested in our chest size. It's about how you hold it, not the cup size. So take that nonsense off your plate because all your doing is adding to your insecurities and fixating on something that's irrelevant. Same with your face, learn to work with what you have and get over it.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/19 07:30 PM
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They want substance, not just looks. Hence why Trophy wives get cheated on more
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/19 07:28 PM
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IM TEARING UP, SO HAPPY FOR YOU BOTH!! Freshly cleaned house, such good energy hahaha he really sounds like he timed it out PERFECTLY
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/19 03:16 PM
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I don't think it's a red flag personally. He's 44, not 24 or 34. He knows what he liked in a partner and what he didn't like, it's easy to drop dates like flies after that.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/19 09:31 PM
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If he already said in August that's what he wants then he's probably honest. First, this time of the year is often busy finacially, family wise, seasonally (if you're somewhere cold). It's busy, not really a common time for people to propose. He's 44, that's worth considering as well, he's not looking for something quick, he's looking for something long-lasting and that would take more time to consider, espeically if he's recovering from a failed marriage. I'd suggest you Bring it up after the h…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/19 09:29 PM
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Yeah it could totally mean he's a beta cuck I'm saying lying about cheating is much worse than being truthful about cheating. Not 'lying is worse than cheating'. I think you're misunderstanding me. His lying about cheating is a much more serious character flaw than just being a cheat
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/19 10:14 PM
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Tone always matters. It could have been what pushed him to make the choice to lie, some people will lie if someone comes at them with a "you're already in trouble" tone. So that's why I asked. However, since OP's tone was no-accusatory, there's no reason for a knee-jerk reaction to lie.
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/19 10:03 PM
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Extreme political stances are a major red flag imo as well.
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/19 08:40 PM
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wowza, then you handled yourself fine. He said all that - with just a "why" that's extremely telling. He's without a doubt lying. You shouldn't be insecure then, don't allow this to drag you down, it shows his quality as a man, not yours as a woman. Honestly, I can't imagine my so doing this, so I can't really come up with much in terms of solutions. Hopefully, someone else can offer more valuable advice. Really I think it comes down to him likely just being immature. I'd discuss it again, let h…
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/19 08:00 PM
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Yeah no, that's spank bank material, no man saves nude photos on his phone as a joke, girl - come on now. I wonder how you approached that, in terms of tone and wording, that resulted in him lying to you and then trying to turn the tables. By all means, work on your body, you should always be watching what you eat, that's how you develop healthy habits. You don't need to be skinny or tear her down to make yourself feel better. You just need to feel better about your own body. Unfollow her ffs, t…
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/19 06:07 PM
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Ending the friendship was the unfortunate part of all this, because the boss was a third party, however, they were a RELATED party, so the request of ending the friendship is fair. Her doing it only after sneaking behind his back again is unacceptable.
/r/RedPillWives07/11/19 10:23 PM
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Yep, they're self-sufficient men, they solve their own problems. When they come to us, they don't need us solving their problems, they need us to remind them they're amazing men who are fully capable of handling anything. Then, make them forget the problem!
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/19 02:36 PM
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Example: My boyfriend has been commenting on how he can't take much more of the women at his work screaming at each other and being so mentally exhausting. I simply said "Oh yeah, I can totally see how that's draining. It would be for anyone! You're incredibly strong-willed that you've endured it so long. You'll definitely be able to work through his, but tonight, let's just ensure you destress!" I validated his feelings of negativity, I reminded him he's capable of handling it, and I allowed hi…
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/19 10:14 PM
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Offer comfort that won't cause him to feel like he 'ruined the mood.' What did you say in response to him calling you beautiful? Comment on the fact that he speaks highly of others, tell him you admire that about him. It'll likely boost his desire to do the same for you, since you've shown you're receptive. He's introduced you to his parents, he buys you food, he likes you. That's obvious. He opens up to you because he feels vulnerable enough to, that's a sign you made him happy and he trusts yo…
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/19 10:11 PM
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Yeah so stfu about that then. That's ENTIRELY your insecurities, his friends probably like you just fine, it takes a while to get to know people. For the first 3 or so years I considered my boyfriend's friends, HIS friends, there was always a weird vibe that I knew if we broke up, I'd never see them again. Anyways, 7 years in, and I can guarantee they'd still be my friends in the event of a breakup, because they're good people. Your boyfriends friends are probably good people and you're letting …
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/19 02:35 PM
1

Could you expand on that?
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/19 01:53 AM
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Exactly. That's why the "pay gap" is bullshit scare tactics based on nothing other than total income, not location, not field, not hours, not education, not skills, etc.
/r/RedPillWives28/10/19 08:51 PM
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Most studies have shown - no, they don't care at all. That being said, it's a person by person basis so of course there are men out there who care, there are men out there specifically looking for a career woman and will gauge them based on their career. Depends on what you want in a man. Do you want to live in a house where you're both working? or one where you're staying home? Or even a third option - do you want a stay-at-home partner? Do you want a partner to work WITH? Those questions will …
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/19 06:29 PM
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absolutely, they're not called MILFs for nothing!
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/19 09:19 PM
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I don't think she gives off a milf vibe entirely, too intimidating, I think in her case, it's the power/energy she gives off.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/19 07:14 PM
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Agreed, I know a dildo would never replace a good d, so how could I expect to please someone who likes having two of them during sex?
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/19 04:54 PM
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No, and as a bisexual hypocrite myself, I just don't want it. I wish I could explain in a rational way, honestly, it just makes me sound like a bit of an asshole. I also have zero desire to peg, or see pegging, so I'd be lacking as a partner for a bisexual man.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/19 04:50 PM
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I'm glad you asked. They ABSOLUTELY matter to men. Things like your hair, skin, teeth, muscle, body (even moreso if you both want children), health, those all effect the men in our lives. If a man can see a woman takes care of herself in long-term lasting ways, he can get a better idea of how she'll take care and maintain herself (himself and future children) as she ages. ​ edit to add an example: My co-worker, a very handsome and successful man in his mid-thirties, went on a whole spiel about M…
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/19 02:09 PM
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Definitely recommend checking out r/curlyhair if you haven't! Also ask other women what qualities they admire. I for example, dream of having curly hair. My partner has it and I spend far too much time day dreaming about our future kids having these tiny ginger curls UGH SO CUTE! That's exactly right, you can't change everything so a lot of it is learning to love what you have and even if you don't love it, know how to work it. I don't love my chest size either (34A). It's a huge insecurity and …
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 08:55 PM
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First, your English is wonderful, never apologize for it again. Never apologize for LEARNING a skill at your own pace. You said you're trying your best, that's all anyone could ever expect of someone learning a new language. You need to feel good about yourself in terms of well being and not beauty. That's how I flipped my switch, obviously, every day is an uphill battle against insecurities but it's absolutely do-able. I was also relentlessly bullied, 'hamster' because of my teeth, insults abou…
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/19 08:38 PM
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I'd start with 10lb!
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/19 06:56 PM
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absolutely, sometimes I'll even toss it into the laundry basket for added weight when I'm going up and down the stairs.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/19 06:44 PM
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A kettle bell will be your new bestfriend
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/19 06:37 PM
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You're disrespectful, read the rules.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 04:40 PM
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Of course, but the hurt is self-inflicted
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 03:42 PM
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You still had the choice to leave or cheat and you chose to cheat.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 03:30 PM
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You don't make yourself love someone, that's not what love is. Look, If you truly love Gabe, then you absolutely need to leave and try to be with him. You leave, because that's fair to your husband. Don't you want someone to feel the way about him the way you feel about Gabe? If you care about him, that's the least you could do. Leave him so he has an opportunity to find true love. Leave him because that's the right thing to do and you KNOW it. So leave your husband (in the meantime, get your du…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 03:23 PM
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He's plated you until he can decide if you're worth the sacrifice of his beliefs. I think he may be keeping you as a place holder. That being said, you shouldn't be waiting around for someone so on the fence. Gotta make a decision, he's dragging this on too long bercause he doesn't want to lose your comfort.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 02:41 PM
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SDA Seventh-day Adventist Church
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 02:35 PM
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Also sounds like OP's getting more attention than before. There's lots of advice on this sub for deflecting men you'\re not interested in in a way that's respectful and protects you. I'd recommend searching more topics like that as well OP! I find being sweet but very firm is the best method for me.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 02:34 PM
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Oh no. We completely support someone who has an innocent crush, those can be worked on. OP is in a full-blown emotional affair, she leagues out of the waters you were swimming in. Maybe that's what sparked this, but selfishness and active decision making is what continued it.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 02:30 PM
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Yes, you love what he offers you, you don't actually love him the way he deserves to be loved, and you have no respect for him, that's been proven through your actions. You're a horrible wife. You're only a teammate, you're not a wife. He deserves better and now you're just using him because you're scared of being poor and alone, like you DESERVE to be. Sounds like you're just going to ignore our advice AGAIN. Divorce him, or at least tell him so he can divorce you.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 02:26 PM
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It's HIS mother, not OP's. HE needs to set boundaries, not OP.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 02:01 PM
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OP: "I don't want to make my husband miserable" ALSO OP: BRB WHILE I EMOTIONALLY CHEAT FOR A YEAR AND THEN CONTEMPLATE DITCHING HIM ALL WHILE PLAYING THE WOE IS ME CARD Wow, you're brutal. Obviously divorce your husband no matter what. You're a horrible wife to him now and you don't deserve his luxuries. That's not worth ANYONE'S time. You're selfish if you stay with him for your security, conscious and comfort. You're an incredibly selfish woman. Good luck with the new guy, but remember, if he'…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 01:54 PM
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Exactly!! Submission =/= Have No Respect For You
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 01:47 PM
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All I have to say is - EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW. What a slimy dude, he is actually sending chills up my back with how fucking creepy and manipulative and GROSS he is. He was actively looking for a loophole and invaded your privacy. You need to nope out of this relationship, or whatever it is now. He's a massive walking red flag.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/19 01:43 PM
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being plated is a completely regretful situation, that can really damage your self esteem and with an N6, that's not a number you want to keep increasing without good reason. "Testing the waters" wouldn't be a good suggestion for OP imo.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/19 04:58 PM
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You shouldn't get angered by women calling their partners what they WANT to call them. These women are making a choice for themselves and you shouldn't so so bitter about that. I love calling my partner Captain because he leads the way (to our dream life), EVEN THOUGH I make the majority of the decisions in day to day life. I just look to him for guidance, because I trust him and respect his view on my part in our relationship, as I'm sure he does mine. The First Mate is responsible for EVERYTHI…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/19 04:41 PM
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It literally says in the book not to. You gonna disregard the book that quickly?
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/19 07:51 PM
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Yeah he used you as a rebound, you haven't "lost the love of your life" because he wasn't the love of your life, he's just the love of your life - as it stands now. (and honestly calling him that seems a bit much to begin with, you were literally never together). Hate to break it to you, but this wasn't love. This was comfort. That being said, 27 isn't hitting the wall, you've got a good few years to find someone. Also - you don't stay friends with people you fucked if you want to find someone e…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/19 06:29 PM
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You've got a shit view of what the person above was explaining. A pedestal doesn't mean he ignores your bad behaviour. IT JUST MEANS HE THINKS THE WORLD OF YOU. Doesn't mean he doesn't empathize, understand and isn't honest with you. It doesn't at any point mean coddle, pamper, disregard or ignore your faults. It just means he sees you like a glass HALF FULL not HALF EMPTY. These things GO IN TANDEM not separately! Girl, you need to go into nun mode, you're completely out of whack with your pers…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/19 06:27 PM
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Evaluating what I need and proceeding to do whatever I can to figure it out on my own. Be it exercise, medication, just breathing, asking for help, relaxing myself, etc. If I'm anxious or irritable, I try to reduce those as best to my ability for example.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/19 01:51 PM
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So it's game over, due to circumstance, not a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/19 09:05 PM
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Jump ship before he pushes you off.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/19 08:20 PM
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Aww, thank you!!
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/19 08:17 PM
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It's wild how the simplest of concepts and behaviour escapes so many
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/19 02:35 PM
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glad to be of service!!
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/19 08:16 PM
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Thank you so much! We make a really good team for sure.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/19 08:15 PM
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Excuse me, but "mental illness" does not need quotes. I mean, you're completely wrong, mine is literally due to brain trauma. All the rest is wonderful in addition to proper coping mechanisms, medication and therapy.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/19 08:14 PM
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If anything we're the COMPLETE opposite of a doormat.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/19 08:11 PM
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Yess, so so much!
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/19 04:44 PM
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Thank you for reading!
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/19 04:44 PM
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JUST - BRAVO. Will attend the classes. This is definitely something I feel comfortable sending my girlfriends if they were to ask.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/19 03:53 PM
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100% depends on where you live. You wanna leave a dog outside in the baking sun in california? Even with a dog house that's a horrible idea.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/19 02:46 PM
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You're allowed to throw used batteries directly in the garbage in fact that's the suggested way to dispose of them. Cooking Oil Keep a jar under the sink to pour into. Learn every tool in your house. Go through his tool box (with permission) and google each thing, learn how to use it. Make yourself self-sufficient. Pretend every new thing you encounter is a Rubix cube, sure it's daunting and confusing at first, but 100% solvable if you just take the time to figure it out. Hell, learn how to caul…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/19 02:39 PM
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Honestly my style has only solidified over the past 3 years and I'm nearing 27. So you're on pace, don't stress too much just focus on buying what you want to feel good in. Consider this option - NAMING your "signature" style. Mine is "Kindergarten teacher in the garden with a splash of sass" (because I'm the opposite, Resting Friendly Face and I need a bit more intimidation in my look) and just think to myself, "Is this how I want to come off?" when I put on an outfit, and I feel good in it, do…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/19 08:47 PM
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I think maybe it’s the way I carry myself? That's absolutely your answer. You need to change how you look and feel about yourself. You're working on the weight, that's amazing, keep it up, because you're right - bigger girls can get themselves a 10, it's all a matter of how they carry themselves. So what else have you listed? Confidence? That's HUGE, they've proven that the #1 thing that effects how people feel about someone on a first impression is confidence. You can have low self-esteem and s…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/19 06:13 PM
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I'd like to echo this, my partner had no girlfriend prior to me - because he knew exactly what he wanted and didn't want. He didn't need to date, go through a break-up or sleep around to know what he wanted in a relationship. Sure, he's had a few learning curves that would have been better managed HAD he had more experience prior, but he was paitence, self-assessing and critical of anything he didn't understand and would work on his own time to figure it out. That makes all his "lack of experien…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/19 07:28 PM
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You really said that very very well, better than I could. It's almost like that thread attracts more losers wanting to get laid than it does attract GENUINELY red-pilled men who are trying to improve themselves and achieve vetting better women. I think TRP was good in motive and base, and then the incels wanting to become Chad's decided that is where they will hang-out and shit-talk all (redpill included) women.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/19 05:54 PM
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Sounds like incompatibility to me
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/19 01:10 PM
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Can I push as to what it is that he's thinking about exactly? Is he a heavily involved man of faith and you just aren't as much?
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/19 09:26 PM
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So figure out how to get that timeline sorted and go from there.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/19 08:55 PM
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until decided otherwise So is there a timeline for this? Yes or no? because if not... girl, wtf.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/19 04:42 PM
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Man if he can't pick up on my body language, I'm not taking it further, not my job to educate him! If he doesn't take an opportunity that's practically set in his lap, then I've lost my lustre for the dude.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/19 01:19 PM
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partner told me to "wtf leave me alone, stop that" while laughing and pushing me out of his office as a response to the vigorous slurping and lip licking
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/19 01:18 PM
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Yes, many times. "I want to go on a date" followed by direct eye contact has pretty much always worked for me, in fact, that's what I got my current (soon to be fiance) with. I think it works because: It's clear and direct - shows them this woman knows what she wants It still allows them the decision of asking and making that move complete (dominance)
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 09:12 PM
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absolutely! a lot of red-pilled men are more network-focused than socially focused.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 09:03 PM
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Nope, just your taste in men it seems - reevaluate.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 09:00 PM
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It's like in mario party how you can give someone an extra star at the beginning of the game, but no one does that or ele you'd be considered a loser and worse at the game than everyone else and you needed help in order to even compete let alone win. Ms Monopoloy straight up is telling women they're not as good. Hard pass.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/19 08:34 PM
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Well you're 15, so you won't be hot or rop dead gorgeous until you're an adult, so relax on that front, enjoy the cute stage and embrace it. It's feminine, and it's good. Don't let your cuteness be taken for naivety and don't play it up, just stay cute. I was "cute" until maybe 23 or so, I'm only 26 now and only recently have I noticed I am objectively hot. Never do on-and-off relationships, make that a rule for yourself, they're toxic, each and every single one of them. You're not too young to …
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/19 08:29 PM
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I'm bipolar, went from 0-The Woman of His (and my) Dreams. It's a long and hard battle, but it's doable. One tip, is everytime you feel like you're failing, just remind yourself you're still trying. Anyways, what's your treatment history timeline like? Get back on that waiting list obviously. Set money aside every month for proper therapy. Consider it a life or death fund. Have you been on any medication? How about CBD to start? Learn the basics of CBT and then try and see someone to teach you t…
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/19 02:15 PM
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Wake-up and move the car (we're on a waitlist for a parking space, so I have to move the car by 8am every morning), then we make coffee and he catches up on the stocks news while I water all the plants and brush the two cats. Excluding Tuesday & Thursdays when we get up an hour earlier to go play tennis together and then go to the market to buy fresh lunch supplies. (He loves these little trips to the store otherwise I'd be doing them post-work myself). He'll pack the lunches and refill any empt…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/19 07:17 PM
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Can we also point out that you earn points for yourself too with your analysis of the beautiful woman! That's such an insightful way to approach that situation and instead of allowing it to make you insecure (like you may have been previously) you instead used it as a way to motivate yourself ! BRAVO!!!
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/19 08:16 PM
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I agree with this, just, in this case, it seemed like it was something he wanted her to do as a way to participate further with his friends. Probably wasn't the right hill to die on with this. I seriously think she's jumping the gun by saying he doesn't respect enough her because of this.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/19 08:11 PM
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Pottery! I've met a lot of awesome women in pottery classes. You can go to a professional studio, or there are drink n spin nights, or there are just fun quick 1hr sessions at other studios. I did an 8 week course and learned so much fun and made a really good friend!
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/19 07:45 PM
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Yep, my boyfriend's family is very much 'could care less' about birthdays. He literally almost forgot his own birthday one year. In my family? It's your birthday WEEK (a big family, also 7 siblings, think it was a way to make each kid feel extra special in our very busy household). Gotta find that balance!
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/19 07:48 PM
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Girl you're on SUCH a good personal track. Your life sounds a bit clustered if anything but that'll go away once you get settled on your 2020 program. Surely moving in with your SO will allow you to pay more towards the loans each month as well. I think as long as you play smart with your money, you'll be on track for what you seem to want. (if you can, start putting aside 10-15% of your income to pay towards your loans).
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/19 02:36 PM
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I'm not your woman to toy with.
/r/RedPillWives01/08/19 06:15 PM
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Congratulations beautiful lady! You deserve all the happiness after all that hard work! Keep up being amazing :)
/r/RedPillWives01/08/19 04:06 PM
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what's that supposed to mean?
/r/RedPillWives31/07/19 06:12 PM
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wow wow wow! LOVE ALL OF THIS! We're actually just outside of Toronto so that makes her even better! Thanks for taking the time to find me examples :) I'll scour her shop! A few of those really stand out, I want yellow gold so looks like that'll be a custom one! Which is totally fine by me :)
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/19 02:07 PM
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Oh for sure moissanite is an amazing option! Thankfully the diamonds hopefully will be smaller additions and hopefully that alone will make it more affordable (since they're tiny we can risk lower clarity too so that should help!) my bestfriend's ring is black moissanite since she wanted a black diamond but didn't want anyone selling a kidney haha.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/19 02:05 PM
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Thank you! He's the only one carrying on the family name, so I know his culture is very important to him!
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/19 02:01 PM
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ghost peppers in one jar one time, never again (jk that's probably mean)
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/19 07:17 PM
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He said no budget and that made me so queezy haha. Thankfully all the ones I've fallen in love with are around the $3-4k range, (primarily because I want semi-precious as the main stone). I definitely care about craftmanship a lot more than say, clarity. I'd be happy with a VS2! My husband told me the ring shopping experience made him love me more because it showed him that I wasn't greedy. I've loved this too! He actually was shocked I didn't want something 10K+! I was shocked he thought my pri…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/19 07:14 PM
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Awh that's so lovely! I wanted a green stone because I'm a may baby (diamonds, classic plus - he's April) but I don't like true emeralds, so a tinted Saphire works for me! PLUS, since he's Irish and I hate claddagh rings, Green stones are the next best thing for tradition! I'd love if he picked it, but he keeps saying he doesn't want to. I even suggested he goes with his mom or sister since they both 100% know what I'd like but he's very adamant he wants me to choose it, and who am I to say no t…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/19 07:04 PM
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Quoted from an old post We meal plan together (with Wednesday being "Wildcard Wednesday" where I get to make WHATEVER I WANT) and haven't had a single issue regarding any homemade meals. His palate has expanded INSANELY and he's starting to get excited about Wednesday more than grilled chicken/rice/broccoli Mondays. He no longer says/does anything that feels discouraging/insulting of my cooking and I'm not forcing him to eat things he doesn't like. So another win-win. So I did wildcard Wednesday…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/19 05:32 PM
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Breakup. Mismatched. Please don't date someone who would prefer you don't assume the best in people. Not to mention, you can be strongly political and still not be annoying about it.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/19 03:17 PM
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You really nailed a lot of the questions. It's about two 100% people becoming 200%. Not a 50% woman looking for a man to fill the other 50%.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/19 03:04 PM
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How do you manage to avoid being desperate while remaining in love? Self-respect. When is the right time to sleep with a guy? I've heard that some men pretend to commit, only to be able to get laid. How can you tell that he truly loves you, and not just your body? That he won't tell you that you are "not his type" after a few months of sleeping with you? Really depends on you and the guy. Practice and holding out. Sex is your tool, use it wisely. Get yourself off in private if you can't control …
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/19 03:02 PM
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Which is a totally normal part of the process. Of course the second is scary, it means living a life of risk without any control over it (aside the control from choosing to stay with him). I remember the first time I relinquished vaccuuming to him, our house got REALLY dusty and then all of a sudden - he's the king of the Dyson. I stopped planning dates and after 4 months of painfully nothing, silently crying to myself while I would do the laundry or something alone because I desperately wanted …
/r/RedPillWives29/07/19 08:37 PM
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So maybe that's what I need to work on first. I've got to let go of the anger and resentment somehow. This should be your #1 focus going forward. Obviously, do all the other suggestions in stride but you've hit the nail on the head. You're angry and resentful, which results in a disrespectful view of him. Change your mindset, forgive him for what he cannot change if you're able to and move forward. I can almost guarantee you you'll see improvement if you tackle that aspect. Oh and it's not somet…
/r/RedPillWives29/07/19 05:38 PM
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His personality is animated, but that can be draining for me That alone tells me list it.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/19 05:51 PM
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is there maybe something at this work that's triggering him? His stonewalling behaviour isn't a Captain response.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/19 06:59 PM
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Time limits on feelings? that's so messed up and unhealthy.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/19 06:59 PM
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Just since they're buzzing in your head: Was it really his fault? Yes absolutely. You know he had plenty of self-control, what he did were choices. Nothing you did is deserving of that kind of behaviour. What could I have done better? Nothing. Some may say you could have left sooner, but the reality is nothing you could have done would have changed him. Was I too much like a rabbit, teasing the fox with such easy prey? Possibly, I'd say you were a bit meek in your original post, but you're still…
/r/RedPillWives04/07/19 06:43 PM
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remember, it's garbage CAN not garbage CANNOT.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/19 07:37 PM
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Wow, major personal steps! Love how you channelled your energy into making him feel better instead of dwelling on why you felt crabby. Note taken!
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/19 07:37 PM
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he basically says that I "just have to say it" Well RING A DING DING. So you either a) say the word. Which is not the ideal situation you want but will deliver the outcome you are seeking - ie. marriage and cohabitation or b) leave him, because you don't want to settle for option A. I don't completely agree with all the women here saying you're more into marriage than HIM. I think you're just at the limit of what you can handle. My question, how was he raised in terms of this? Strongly tradition…
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/19 07:31 PM
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If you dig the hawaiian burgers I just commented my recipe for a burger and it's got a similar vibe :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/19 06:58 PM
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Recent Success (and now a household favourite). The Canadian Tire Burger. "The Works" Resturant burger dupe (Canadian). A sweet & spicy cheesy burger Angus beef burgers (I prefer homemade, but storebought are fine, extra garlic if homemade). Spicy Thai Chili Sauce Slice of Brie Pineapple Ring Slice brioche bun Here's an example of what it looks like, the only photo of the resturant's version I could find online.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/19 06:53 PM
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hard-body, ie. what they are on a scale of 1-10.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/19 04:49 PM
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A lower-HB mutual friend too.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/19 04:20 PM
1

So proud of you both! Congrautlations!
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/19 04:19 PM
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Illegal discrimination from employers is very real and very often hard to prove, with such a high demand for jobs in Toronto and the competition, it's pretty common that if two people are equally qualified, they'll choose the "better looking" person.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/19 01:26 PM
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'Going on the hunt' is going to sound bad to someone who already assumes you're sexist. It's a perfectly fine turn of phrase. Look for women who are willing to adapt, women to pay attention to their own behaviour, women who want more value from sex. These are traits you can easily weed out through conversation. I think the library is a great place, girls who tend to play games (like actually play) tend to be less on the feminist boat as well. So hobby gaming is an option. What kind of things are…
/r/RedPillWives04/06/19 06:20 PM
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I don't mind paying more if it's higher quality! I love silk, so I'll check them out! I bought the 1996 dress from Reformation last year (but didn't really browse) so I should really give them a better look-through!
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/19 07:51 PM
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Hmm, that's really tricky. Need to find something stimulating. Honestly, I'd try anything from sudoku to tennis. How's the sex life? Maybe a change in there can make him feel refreshed. Sounds like he needs to really "let go" for a bit each day. So you're right, maybe it's less about him getting back to himself and moreso him not having enough time to even feel like he's breathing right. Is his diet and everything still okay? Is he still sleeping well? Is there anything he does at home that you …
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/19 08:27 PM
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I meant in comparison to the US, which is nearly 10% higher. We also have a lot more incentive programs here, programs for children within the school systems and laws restricting certain foods (like supersizing within fast food resturants). The culture is different. I wasn't "thinking highly of myself" and at no point did I say the words "statistics" or "facts", just generalizing. Calm down. Everyone knows America is a fatter country than Canada.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/19 08:20 PM
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Depends on which way you drive! Windsor is 4 hours south of Toronto and still Ontario!
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/19 02:51 PM
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Why does it need to be calming and relaxing? That's not the type of thing to reignite the passion in someone.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/19 01:39 PM
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Great, so sunk cost fallacy, that's exactly what you described.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/19 01:38 PM
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You know you can do that without wasting all your time on a man who doesn't see you as his endgame? Staying with him, no matter how good, prevents you from opportunities to meet other people and learn as an individual.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/19 01:36 PM
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yeah so comparably I'm from Toronto, our country first and foremost doesn't have an obesity epidemic but most women in this metropolitan are relatively in shape. They could be anywhere from size 2-14 but they're not fat, because they can't be if they want to survive a career world in Toronto. If you travel a few hours south to where my family is from, the people are more "relaxed" about fitness.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/19 01:27 PM
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Rule of thumb - sizes are decided by BRAND not by bodies. Remember that when you think "oh but I was a size 4 normally but here I'm a size 6 wtf!". There is ZERO consistency and NO industry standard. Shop for your body, not for your "size".
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/19 01:24 PM
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No you should suggest that!! Just more like "I wanted to get better at Tennis, would you play with me this weekend?" things like that. It's actually EXACTLY how I got my guy into playing tennis. Now we play two-three times a week and it's been a really fun and energizing thing for us to do. He's a photographer so it actually inspired him to try light painting photography and now he's busy doing that. Sometimes you just have to get the ball rolling. If he shoots down tennis really hard, just try …
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/19 01:22 PM
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He needs something that motivates him to fill his time. He's basically twiddling is thumbs until his job starts and that's only going to make an ambitious man feel like he's got nothing going for him. Think about some hobbies he could get into, nothing too time consuming or expensive, just something that makes him feel like he's accomplishing something.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/19 09:11 PM
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Hard Body 8.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/19 02:03 PM
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Yep exactly.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/19 02:02 PM
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There is a great speech called "make your bed" by Admiral McRaven that you should watch.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/19 07:58 PM
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For what it's worth. Invest in products you enjoy using, buy the cute dish gloves if that makes it more enjoyable! It's a game changer.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/19 07:57 PM
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I loved him the moment he rejected my sexual advances (bp at the time) and "wanted to make sure I was worth it". I'm HB8 so I've never experienced that before. I was amazed by his assertiveness and self-assurance. It captured me more than his charisma did. He was a man like no other, still is. He's made me a better woman, the woman I wanted to be.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/19 06:20 PM
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This! Maybe he is RP and knows he's only looking for fun, maybe he'll go into it, realizing he's not getting laid and then find he wants to keep seeing you. Or he doesn't. Either way, a horny dude =/= red flag. One date isn't a waste of time if you learn more about yourself in the process. Stick to YOUR moral guns and go from there.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/19 04:34 PM
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Giving an ultimatum, in my opinion, means you've given up on steering your own life.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/19 06:02 PM
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okay but it's not about being "fine" it's about finding your IDEAL.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/19 03:33 PM
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those are things to put feelers out for! determine that, then check the timelines and you'll be much more sure!
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/19 03:22 PM
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College sweethearts, I was 19, he was 18. He asked to save me a seat in class, and he rejected my bluepill mentalities. I couldn't understand him and I was engulfed in who this man was/is. I kept pursuing him. He kept me along and started pushing away other women. I knew he wanted me, but he didn't want a relationship, so he rejected any sexual advances because he called me "the committed type". When another guy started seeking my attention he VERY QUICKLY asserted himself. We've been together f…
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/19 07:33 PM
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This makes me glad I took the risk of kissing my boyfriend first (a no no usually!). He's the same type, felt like if I didn't do something we'd be in a weird limbo forever! We're only 26 so this has me really excited!
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/19 07:29 PM
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It does! My friend lives in Minnesota so she is actually wonderful in ordering them for me and then shipping them to me but she's out travelling for the next year!
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/19 01:51 PM
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Absolutely, if you need any help along the way my inbox is always open!
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 08:48 PM
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Time to start telling thme. "Find a use for this within one week or it's gone". Kono Mari your home. Unless your husband has a resonable attachment to the shoe cabinet, and unless you can find a way to repurpose it say - by the end of may. Then it needs to go. Set a 30 day limit on items that don't "have a home". I think if you curated YOUR home more, instead of bending to whatever anyone else pushes on you. You'll find a lot more selnse of self, comfort and relaxation in your space. Only YOU an…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 07:02 PM
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This is great to hear, you sound like you've got a sense of renewal restored! You must feel a lot more grounded being more on the same page as your hubby too. That's got to feel good! You've got some really solid goals with so much consideration for yourself and your family. You got this OP!!!
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 06:59 PM
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That's not a tradition, that's called "hoarding". You're welcome to be the black sheep of that tradition, in fact, I'd recommend it. To each their own of course, but I don't think it's a valuable bed if it's too big for the small space you're stuck in for a few more years.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 06:42 PM
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Okay well, then you should talk to them about it. That's a completely unreasonable gift. They need to either help you find a storage solution or allow you to sell it. In which case I would say toss the tiny bed and get a smaller seating option. You two can snuggle in your actual bed for movies/tv and then you'd have more space below to host guests. Chairs > Couch
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 06:35 PM
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"I can see that being a great idea, I'm sure you'd love a new camera and computer and it would help! Unfortunately, right now our debt needs to take priority. How about instead we budget in a way for you to be able to afford the camera/computer while still being able to pay off our debts.Plus, you've been slayin' it lately on the gram, so it's not like it's urgent! Sure it won't be right away but it would be eventually and in the meantime we'd take some stress off our combined plate too. If we p…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 04:49 PM
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He told you straight up. That's enough to make your decision. Gives you a whole year to get a man & a green card if that's truly what you want, or you can head back to the UK after your visa is up. However, you're not getting married before your visa is over and if he doesn't want to get married until 30 then you're not compatible and are wasting your time. Cut your loses. Oh, and for what it's worth. It's not about you not being marriage material. Plenty of men are like him, which makes THEM no…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 04:46 PM
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In our house, if we want money to go into our social media busniesses (He's a photographer and I'm an influencer) then we must make that money FROM our social media. He wants a new lens? He has to make enough using the old one to buy it. I want that new item everyone's been tagging? I have to make enough sponsorship money to get it. Could be something to consider bringing up. If the initial costs of the 'business' have been paid, then if he wants to 'upgrade' he needs to be profiting. The issue …
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 04:39 PM
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His plan is to live apart instead of being a provider? wow. Alright. Good luck then. I can only suggest you take complete control in as many ways as you can, because he clearly doesn't care enough to do it.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 04:36 PM
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And your parents pay your bills do they? Are you planning on keeping it until you die? What do they expect you to do if you moved to a different country? You're an adult, it's your home. Take control of it. What solutions have you tried so far? I know small things can help make the space feel better. Do you have art/ A small stainglass in a window can cast a lot of colour into a small space too. Do you have a small spot to take calm in? Building up is a great solution, mount the TV or computer o…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 04:28 PM
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thank you!! Took me a while to really define it but it feels so right haha
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 04:27 PM
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Wish threadup worked for Canadians! I'm so envious of that app and poshmark and the likes.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 04:26 PM
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He can turn the forms in, you can fill them out and ensure it's all correct. You should have taken over the moment he screwed up the second time. Your job was to take the wheel when he couldn't steer. What's stopping you from doing the paperwork for the insurance? He can sign it and send it in. Your husband is really slacking, I don't see how he's red pilled aside from the "traditional" set-up. He doesn't have great character if he does not have any accountability. If he's literally about to let…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 04:24 PM
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He was trying to wheel you, not woo you. Thank you, next.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 02:02 PM
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Yep. If he's THAT focused on the past, I'd be very concerned. Obv don't go mackin' around town, but it's pretty irrelevant.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 02:01 PM
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Then you get rid of it! You can find alternative seating. How about opting for a murphy bed? That'll open up your space upstairs. Give you at least some breathing room. It would be an additional task 2x each day to consider, however.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 01:58 PM
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No no, don't inconvenience yourself! A doodle layout could work too. Just wanted to give it mulling over! I used to work in interior design/staging so I thought maybe I could visualize the space. But seriously, don't worry about it!
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 01:56 PM
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Is that couch/bed your main bed? or is it an additional piece?
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 01:56 PM
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"You've got to try and learn everything yourself first." It helped me become really self-driven and independent. My fiance's mother never had him learn anything beyond academics (and his hobbies). So there has been more than one opportunity where I was able to really be helpful to him! I love figuring out how things work, how to break stuff down and figure it out again. I've been able to run our home smoothly without crying to him to help fix the kitchen sink (because I could!). He thinks it's s…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 01:53 PM
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can you post photos without doxxing? It may just be a case of the wrong furniture in the wrong places because I live in 65m² (which yes, does make a big difference) I found that by swapping out certain furniture can really help manage things.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 01:36 PM
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Why on earth do you need a study when you've got nowhere to eat a meal? It's not about your house, it's about how manage it.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 01:31 PM
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No, I'm not interested in bright, so that works perfectly for me! Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 01:27 PM
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Thank you! I'll take a day trip into the next town over and check that out! :)
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/19 06:03 PM
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Unfortunately, most Amazon dresses don't ship to Canada :( I'll definitely check old navy out tonight!
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/19 04:47 PM
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Honestly is the best policy. Pretty simple.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/19 03:28 PM
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I shave my arms, I don't like my dark hair. Got bullied for it as a kid, so I just feel really not okay with hair on my arms. BUT if you do - it's going to be a daily thing and once you decide too, it's a long time before you can revert back.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/19 03:09 PM
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"I wanted to let you know that I suffer from a medical condition clled Hyperphagia (explain), I am however in treatment and have it under control. I just wanted you to know so there is nothing between us or in case you happen to see me struggle with it." Say this after getting treatment and finding a workable plan that keeps it under control. Turn the self-guilt into motivation to find solutions to the condition. Once you're on a workable plan, it'll be easier to talk to him, because then you're…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/19 02:47 PM
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It's obvious what you need to do. Stay in nun mode and work on your self-esteem. How you're currently feeling/treating yourself is not red-pill. Trust me that you've got plenty of recovery time. Every day is a new day, you decide what to do with it. You're absolutely not damaged and need to get out of that mindset. The only "damage" you cause is going to be related to your lack of confidence.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/19 01:25 PM
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college is ther PERFECT time to start meeting people, if anything, your time just hasn't come yet. 19 is so young. I broke up with my highschool boyfriend at 21. I did a year of nun mode and ended up meeting 3 different guys, got to know them, ultimately ended up with my current fiance.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/19 09:22 PM
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Absolutely! While it's wonderful to learn about relationships while you're young, a lot of young girls tend to rush into finding a boyfriend a lot of the time due to peer pressure. It's formative growing years and it's not wise to mingle your growing stages with trying to balance out someone elses. Don't get me wrong, I appreciated my highschool boyfriend, but I wish I had more time to make friends, learn about myself, talk to other guys, learn more about what I like and dislike in men's charact…
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/19 09:20 PM
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My cousin lives there. He just tells people "I live in the other Portland" instead of just Portland.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/19 09:05 PM
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I'm not the OP. I think people almost always mean THAT Portland haha. I'm just from Alberta previously so it peaked my interest. I was going to say, Alberta would be a good weekend trip tho! 15hr drive or something like that.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/19 08:43 PM
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Only issue I see could be that you over-earn him (so watch for men with weak egos, he needs to be able to appreciate a working woman) or that your female friends could taint your opinions. Overall, you seem driven enough personally (based on your own hobbies and drive to seek outside perspectives) and detached enough from the bluepill. It's really a matter of mindset, I want to have a hard working, masculine, and professional husband. I want him to be in charge. I want to be submissive. I'm look…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/19 08:36 PM
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My mom got herself a RP relationship after being single for years at the age of 54. If she can do it, you sure can. The only concern is the wall but you've easily got 3 more years before then. It all comes down to strengthening your mindset, self-esteem and appearance. Stop sitting in the passenger seat in the ride of your life, take the wheel baby!
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/19 08:26 PM
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Hard FOMO
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/19 08:20 PM
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Is Alberta a place in portland or do you straight up mean the province?
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/19 08:18 PM
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My vetting is solid and I honestly would have been alpha widowed years ago had I not changed my lifestyle, he's a hard 9 and puts up with no bullshit. I'm so proud of myself and the man I'm with. We see eye to eye on what we want.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/19 03:58 PM
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Exactly. To me, being at home is far more valuable to me than being able to have more income. If we have more than enough together, then we think it's better that one person is home creating MORE value overall. I'm a sad, absent, selfish and I'd even say, aggresive (in the sense of I got after what I want relentlessly, as in, I will climb to the top until I can't anymore) career woman. But I'm naturally a happy, calm and nurturing person at my core. I'm more myself as a homemaker, I'd be more va…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/19 03:43 PM
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EXACTLY!!
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/19 03:35 PM
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Hi! Nice to hear there are other ladies in this city who feel the same. My thoughts exactly! We plant to move up to the Huron County to buy a home anyways so Toronto income + Huron living = comfy! Me working just seems like it would make our life sadder because money isn't really an issue for him.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/19 03:18 PM
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Thank you, I really appreciate this reassurance.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/19 03:16 PM
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It's very "glass by the sink"
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 09:07 PM
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"Could you please remember to rinse the sink when you spit? I'd really appreciate it, would make cleaning the bathroom much easier for me!"
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 09:05 PM
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Absolutely not chastising all women. I could see after re-reading how that comes across. I may have had my female friend group in mind, they're actively shaming my best friend for being a SAH. They're very vocal about how pathetic they think it is. They talk about it as if being a SAH is giving up ALL you independence, ALL your financial security. That's what I meant when I said "risky". I don't think it's an issue that people find it risky, at all. I'm coming from a place where specific people …
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 08:57 PM
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Man I wish someone told me the first one. Really look back and miss out on not having learned about myself as a woman, rushing to date the first guy who told me I was pretty, not learning enough skills or adventuring enough. Now I want kids of my own and I think about how I don't want them to experiance the same thing. Don't rush to leave highschool. Don't rush to graduate. Don't rush to have a boyfriend. Don't rush to have sex. Just take life at YOUR pace, not the pace it's dragging you along a…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 08:44 PM
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It's similar to what Ben Shapiro likes to talk about. If culture around sex changes, then statistics and relationships will too. I think birth control is vital for many many many women. I also think there are a lot of women taking it who should NOT be because of how it affects them specifically. Myself for example, I got off it because it caused issues for me (tried several brands of oral, ring and IUDs). It just couldn't mix with my other medication without making me really irritable. My bestrf…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 08:40 PM
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"Providing" is what's deep-rooted in men. Not "breadwinning". If he can still provide significantly for your family whereas you cannot - then he's got his masculinity in check. He could be a stay-at-home dad and you can still be very RP, as long as he feels he's providing for his family, then you'll be golden. You can still be the breadwinner and he can still be the Captian.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 08:36 PM
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I would say, follow the general flow but don't apply someone else's specific advise to YOUR situation. That just doesn't make sense.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 08:34 PM
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What was his gesture? Because what he did was pretty lame. Don't put too much weight on his sweet nothing comments. Actions are louder than words. Also search up the term "softboy" it's like a fuckboy but they go for the emotional stuff too. Still puts you in the plate position.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 08:25 PM
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Yes of course. Very important. Like I said I'm an artist /graphic designer so thankfully my work is all skill/portfolio/network based. Age/experience don't matter as much as the outcome. That being said, I have no plans of ever NOT making some kind of money. I genuinely enjoy working for my man or myself. Prior to this job, I was self-employed (ended up needing serious dental work so picked up the job to pay it all and finish up my student loans sooner). I will also be signing a prenup to ensure…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/19 08:20 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/9kl2j8/glossary_of_terms_and_acronyms/ Alpha Widow - A woman (typically but not necessarily post-wall) who has been abandoned by an Alpha male. No matter how great her new man is, she will perceive him as failing to meet the standard of the alpha she was previously associated with. Due to hypergamy, a woman cannot date backwards, once she gets say, a male 8, she cannot date below a male 8 and be happy with him. If she does, she is just using said ma…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/19 08:34 PM
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I don't have curly hair, but I will say a nice velvet or silk scrunchy in curly hair just as a low-pony (think 90's) has been making a comeback lately and it's so effortless! Looks really nice with dresses and such. Also silk scarves in general tied into hair can be a really simple way to style. Just youtube "silk scarf hairstyles"
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/19 08:30 PM
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I wasn't hit with any kind of baby fever until 24. Had zero interest in even holding my friends' kids, even less interest in photos of them. Seriously expected to never want kids. I'm 26 now and I almost cry sometimes from how badly I want to be a mom and how cute kids can be. A huge jump start to that feeling for me was finding a man who carried strong values and when I saw him playing with his niece, my heart skipped. I wanted kids with him. Things change all the time, never cement yourself in…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/19 09:23 PM
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thank you! I'll give it a try :)
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/19 01:25 PM
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wonderful explanation! Guess it really comes down to a person-to-person basis. I don't fear rejection, so I'd happily drop hints, but I can imagine many other women who are the opposite.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/19 03:32 PM
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The Panera Bread broccoli soup is one of my go-tos! Haha, Bless your soul. Thank you I will haha I asked the tims subreddit too, hopefully someone can just send me a photo of the label
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/19 06:43 PM
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Two birds one stone! Awesome, happy to suggest!
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/19 04:28 PM
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Anything you'd use lemon rind for you can substitute with lemon balm! You could add it in sauces or salad dressings. Add it to shortbread cookies for faint lemon taste. You could also dry it out and make a mixed herb spice with it. I also really like adding a few sprigs in with my mint iced tea!
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/19 04:03 PM
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We once did a different country every week! One week, it was all Thai dishes. The next it was all Greek. Could be fun!
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/19 04:02 PM
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Can we ask for help on a recipe? Because I need tips on Broccoli soup, please! If you're Canadian - think Tim Hortons. My man LOVES that soup. Could drink it by the litre. He really loves my broccoi soup too, but it's 100% not the same. I've tried a few copycat receipes with no luck. I typically use sharp cheddar and a bit of parm. However, mine is always less viscous, more creamy. Tims' seems like it doesn't even have cheese in it it's so liquid. I'd love any tricks for the soup anyone has! We …
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/19 04:01 PM
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Both of those options still appeal to an alpha male. The thought of a woman who WANTS him to talk to her is motivating and confidence building. Doing it on their own is self-driven and independent - yes, but there are benefits to both methods. Both of them require HIM to make the overall decision of approaching. And like another user said, depending on the location the culture around men approaching women has changed so it's "easily" inviting if you just drop subtle hints. Either work, I guess i…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/19 03:54 PM
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I also suggest getting involved in something that has men in it that you admire. For example, my bestfriend really admires men who work with trucks. So she got a job working at a big-rig shop as a receptionist. Ended up falling in love with the foreman. They've been together for 10 years and she's now a SAHM. He's a take no shit kind of man. He's wonderful. He treats me like a sister. Stand up man. Like men who work with kids? Vollunteer in a hospital. Like men connected to god? Check the church…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/19 03:51 PM
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Oh he is!!!! I tell him everyday how lucky I am to have him! Also do it - SOLID investment haha
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 08:26 PM
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You're absolutely correct and having your in-laws approve would be a simple way to show him - via people he respects - that it's more than acceptable. It's a beautiful dress. Even for Korean standards, I think he's a bit tight on the idea.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/19 05:09 PM
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Look at ya'll, building up each other's confidence! Heartwarming
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/19 03:54 PM
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I go all out. I've got my bath bombs, oils, tub tray, book list (kindle). I shuffle a bunch of plants in there so I feel like I'm in a little tropical oasis. A glass of wine and some music (or a podcast/youtube video). My man loves it too for some reason (me enjoying them). He likes to see what colour I'm picking and he'll buy me a "bath time wine" once in a while as a surprise. He'll pop his head into the room and tell me how cute I am. He's even brought me snacks (fruit usually) a couple times…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/19 03:15 PM
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You can put your foot down here, you know that right? Your husband is controlling in this aspect. Worst case - leggings, tights and biker shorts.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/19 03:10 PM
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You did wonderfully. Don't judge his responses based on length. Telling you about this means significantly more than any reponses like "lmao" or "yeah". You're probably hamstering about it now. You did fine. He's positive and if he comes to talk to you again, you know it was absolutely the right response. I also agree with u/katemarie_d. If you're always focused on being the best possible woman you can be, to yourself and to others, you should be OK. RP is not a how-to book, it's more of a lifes…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/19 02:29 PM
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I'm not wrong. I never said it wasn't racist. Of fucking course it is! What place in the world ISNT? Racism is alive and well in every facet of every country. I just said it's pale in comparison to practically every other nation. And for the record - it's just racism. Not "silent racism". It doesn't need a special title just because it isn't outspoken. It's as dumb as the concept of reverse racism. Racism is racism. It's plain and simple.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/19 02:30 PM
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Look for personal drive. Anyone who wants to become better for themselves on a day to day basis will have the potential to be a longterm partner. My man is ALWAYS working on a goal of some kind, whether work-related, personal or family. He's never NOT working towards a goal.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/19 02:14 PM
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It's really not that racist of a country, maybe leave your bubble. I can almost guarantee every other country is more racist than ours. I will agree, our Natives get it worse than ANY other race in Canada. Don't waste your time on guys like that. There are people who genuinely appreciate your race and culture so just sweep him under the rug like the rest of the dirt. You ruined absolutely nothing but his false persona. He's actual trash. Stop letting yourself feel put down by TRASH.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/19 05:27 PM
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As in "you should have dumped him yesterday"
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/19 04:49 PM
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We're not a zoo to do research. Check out the sidebar if you're genuinely curious.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/19 04:41 PM
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..i did it all so my man would have the desire to one day marry me. Part of your problem right here. What were you doing for yourself? What behaviours were your improving on for yourself? How in this horrible downtime, have you been making yourself a better woman FOR YOURSELF? However, I agree with the other commentators. I was at the breaking point you were at. I had a productive conversation with my S/O and as you'll see in my posting history - I'm getting engaged soon. Difference? My man didn…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/19 09:25 PM
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Yep. I'm an anxious person so I need to release my energy. Vs my man who is usually calm as a cucumber likes doing things that energize him more.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/19 09:20 PM
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Exactly! Look for proven track records, look for his desire to learn and strengthen himself, his boundaries with his mother and how far she pushes them. All of it matters.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/19 06:17 PM
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AlexandrasGirlyTalk is a really good channel for learning to become more feminine.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/19 04:35 PM
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love your spirit but don't waste your breath on the people who don't even deserve your attention!
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/19 04:01 PM
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I'm going to step away from the norm. Though I would agree with the majority. My boyfriend is that kind of man. His family has always been really poor and there is a long history of problems within the family. His mother - she's a SAH. I fully believe the reason she does all of this for them is because she literally doesn't know how to live without making their lives easier. She's told me she does all of this stuff because she doesn' want them to have to think about "the small stuff", ie. she wa…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/19 03:42 PM
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I always like the advice of you and your hubby when he sneaks in to lurk haha. I wish more people would recognize the value of the tag system.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/19 09:12 PM
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moissanite He's actually Irish so it'll be an emerald to follow through with their culture! :) (a compromise because I honestly really hate the Claddagh rings)
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 04:47 PM
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Thank you!! I'm so extremely proud, of him, myself and us! Can't believe we're finally at this point!!
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/19 01:26 PM
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I love his dad so freaking much, I love seeing how similar they are. Really tells me a lot about the man he's been raised to be!
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/19 01:26 PM
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Thank you so much!!
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/19 01:25 PM
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Thank you! ♥
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/19 01:25 PM
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Thank you so much! I look forward to sharing that update haha. It's been a long and trying journey but it's nice to feel like myself and feel completely in control of my life. I'm so genuinely happy.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/19 01:25 PM
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Agreed! If there wasn't so much drama at my school surrounding him I might have drifted on bluepilled forever. After that huge hassle where he was berated, I started watching his content and removing myself from certain social groups. I love it, I've got friends with different opinions on everything but they're all level headed people for the most part. He really showcased to me what a mature, rational person who takes time to think can do for themselves and society. Agreed, you can't agree with…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/19 01:24 PM
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Yep! I'm not about to break the bank he built. He gave me a price of $3,000 which is more than I was looking at anyways!
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/19 01:20 PM
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Thank you! I thought so too. May give some newcomers some insight into what's possible!
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/19 08:49 PM
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Are you still having sex?
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/19 05:02 PM
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Hahaha "don't encourage her", he sounds really funny
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/19 07:27 PM
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He is! I always look at him and think how happy I am that my boyfriend is his son. They have so much in common, it's like seeing how he'll age haha. His grandpa looks exactly the same too. Three generations of strong, handsome men. It's going to be a good family to grow into! His mom is a SAH too and she's taught me so much!
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/19 07:25 PM
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Maybe skip those test drives tho ;)
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/19 07:13 PM
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I aspire to be like you.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/19 06:50 PM
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My boyfriend's father said to him last night "Why haven't you married her already?!" With a lot of vigour. I'm so excited to be that man's daughter in law hahaha
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/19 06:48 PM
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Teeth are huge. My teeth are a bit crooked (can't be fixed without cracking my palette in half, so I'm okay with them being crooked for now), but just ensuring they're white and flossed has made such a difference. the compliments about your smile feel contagious
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/19 09:53 PM
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Yes, currently. He carved out specific times when he could devot attention to me. I get him for a bit in the mornings after he gets ready for the day and I get him during his free time. Not demanded, he offered, I accepted. I ensure my schedule was the flexible one, so I could work around his busy chaotic one. I made it easier for him to see me. Snacks, make yourself a "soft landing place", try not to focus on talking about his business you want to be a mini escape. Keep your little problems ent…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/19 09:33 PM
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But how is he supposed to know what boundaries are okay and not okay with his wife if she's not openly telling him it makes her uneasy? He's not a flipping mind reader.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/18 08:19 PM
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His co-worker isn't a parent herself, she's not the right kind of person to "bond" with OP's husband over their decision to have children.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/18 07:35 PM
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Tell him you'd prefer if he keeps the discussion of child rearing out of his work conversations.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/18 10:06 PM
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Black/blue can be difficult to grow out. A main thing for me. My skin is neutral but pulls more towards the cool tones. I was actually thinking of doing it the other way around haha, because I'm honestly more apprehensive about the bangs than the colour because I'm stuck with the bangs until they grow out, colour can change. Maybe I'll try that!
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/18 09:32 PM
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Considering he had no fucking clue what the BIG TIDDY MOTH GF meme was that I showed him, I'd say that's a hard no. But valuable suggestion none the less haha
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/18 09:30 PM
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I don't really want to waste money on a wig. I suppose I could go to the wig store in the mall and try one on there.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/18 08:25 PM
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Yep, he's making excuses for literally no reason. I don't doubt that he loves you, he just doesn't prioritize you when it matters. he told me, that I should have told him if I wanted to talk That's true, you should tell him when you want to talk because he cannot read your mind. However in this case, it's your birthday, but shouldn't have to request a happy birthday from your partner. I just dont know if hes just such a child that he needs to be told what to do, or if he's just so comfortable wi…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/18 05:45 PM
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A redpill man would never ever act like this on your birthday, unless it genuinely slipped his mind because he was busy. This? This is pathetic. He's not willing to put even a bit of effort towards your birthday. The "Happy Birthday" text was felt more like a "so I don't forget" text than an actual happy birthday. He's not worthy relationship material if he can't even care about your birthday.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/18 05:28 PM
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r/polyamory is probably a better place to ask
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/18 04:27 PM
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it is pointless making my teeth look white and beautiful because they are so crooked It IS worth it. I'm not able to get braces (they'd have to crack my entire jaw), so my teeth are crooked and I've got bunny teeth to match. Very self conscious hand-over-mouth type of laugher. Whiteness matters. I get compliments on my smile all the time, because I smile a lot now (no more covering your mouth!) and my teeth are super white. So it's always "Your smile is so contagious!" or "wow your teeth are so …
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/18 05:26 PM
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He bought me a pack of mars bars because I had a weird week. I had extra socks and a new toothbrush for him when we went away to my brother's for the weekend (he LOVES fresh socks).
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/18 08:15 PM
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