hi, lets get this out of the way yes i am finishing my militery service as we speak. no i am not a godly mosculer US marines core beast.

i am a tanker, a gunner infact. i am actually overweight at 185 cm tall 90kg. my expirience in the militery has shaped me alot, not the combat, i didnt do any fighting. i didnt fire a snigle bullet at anyone. i am talking about man to man relationships. bro-hood if you will. and genral life advice.

now the most impotrent thing i want you to understand, if you understand anything at all is that YOU ARE NOT what you think you are capble of. get that ingrained in your head. you might think you can do a 20 run mile all by yourself, that dosnt matter you might think you will break after 2miles, that dosnt matter ether. YOU ARE NOT what you think you can do.

however, you ARE what you constently do. if you run 2miles every time, thats what you are, no more, no less. you can hit a moving target 3 kilometers awey? thats what youa are. you didnt sleep with a women for 2 years? THATS WHAT YOU ARE.

2 point. DO NOT APOLOGISE! yes im seroius. DO NOT APOLOGISE! no to women you accidentily pushed over. not to old people, not to your family. NEVER say sorry, if these people are importent to you DO SOMTHIN DIFFRENT! being sorry is an easy way to take responsabily without doing somthing to amend what you did. again, only do this for people to care about. every one else DOSNT MATTER. like. AT ALL.

third point do not stop improving yourself. that is where most people fall short... its easy to be a jerk, its easy to just say you adopted a mantality, but the test of true soldiers is the day to day struggles, sure in times of crysis humans get 200% of what they thought they can do... just read stories from ww1 and what whent on there, perfect example. there. but the key to buld rome isnt in the aqusition of metirials. its the builders and architects. culture and sciences. the army is just there to protect it.

understand this.

now for my issues, and where i am lacking and need help.

i will divide it into serval issues to keep it simple

1.excercise, i am having a problem rationalising excersiing yet still being told to love myself like i am... like, is there any bigger BS in the world? its not that i insecre, infact most of the guys say i have been a role model for them. and the new people beg me to stay. but my only rational for excercising is inpressing others. not man, fuck what they think about how i look. its women that i want to impress.

2.routins, i have ADHD, i take my pills, i do meditation, i get shit down. but getting out of the army can be tough. for me an external stracture was all i ever realy knew. from school to pre militery to militery. thats all i know. some tips tricks and seggestions would very much be appriciated.

  1. social life, i have been living with 6 peopole in the same room for 3 years. before the army i was prrety much no social life guy. most people say find hobies and go to meetings and such, but that dosnt happen where i live. any ideas?

  2. seX lIFe/mEetiNg WoMen, no sex life at all, no dating life, no expirience at all. i guess you will say to go out and meet people.. but thats like so wierd from where i am standing.