Today I wanted to write something about compassion and why it matters so much especially to us in this sub.

This post is mainly for those of you who are in the anger phase and don’t seem to understand why things are the way they are.

This is for those of you who are still feeling guilt, shame or blame for actions of the past. For that crush you had that turned into oneitis and yourself into a, well, you name it. You may be angry at some lady who cheated on you or did the most horrible things. I hear you.

For these reasons you’re in this sub swallowing the red pill but still you’re stuck in your past. And let me tell you, if you don’t get over your past, you can learn all the game that you want, get laid every day for a year, that shit will come up sooner or later, as soon as your ego-inflated new situation will crumble. And it always does.

I want you to think of everyone of us as a computer with a built-in operating system. The operating system always works at its best and is responsible for the wellbeing of the entire system. The operating system always makes decision based on the instructions (from the inside) and the data (from the outside) available in one particular moment.

You see that there are 2 variables to this equation. Instructions and data.

The point is that if the instructions are written in a certain way, with the same data from outside the same result will occur. And the behavior determining the result is always chosen in the “perceived” best interest of the computer. Perception is always the key to understanding human behavior. For example the same situation may be perceived as dangerous or neutral by two different persons with 2 different operating systems (namely belief system).

About you: You swallowed the red pill and you changed drastically the instructions, bravo. Before doing so you were working with flawed instructions. What you did seemed to be a good idea at that time.

Pat yourself on the shoulder for having had the guts to look into yourself and reprogram the operating system. Rest assured that the next time, since the instructions are different, with the same data available the output will be different.

Have compassion for the guy who had flawed instructions. That guy didn’t know any better. He just did what he thought was the best thing to do in that particular moment. You can’t change the outcome but you can change the way you look at that outcome. This is the only way you can really forgive yourself. By understanding that what you did was, again, perceived to be the best option available at the moment.

And if you still want to get laid like a rock star go ahead, as long as it is not a way to cope with or release that anger but, instead, it truly makes you happy and fulfilled as a man.

About women: Same principle applies. Women are programmed with a certain set of instructions and it makes no sense, logically, to being upset about their behavior or angry at them for what they do. This is how they are programmed. Accept it and have compassion for them, once again, because in every single moment of their life they are just doing what they think is the best for them, according to the external data available and their operating system.

In closure: Compassion is the key to let go of all the baggage you have coming from your past. Looking inside of yourself will give you the precise answers of why you’re doing what you’re doing now and why you feel the way you feel. You have no right to judge other people. The only right and duty you have is to take full responsibility of your own programming, of your actions and, ultimately, of your results.

In order to choose the new operating system you need to be aware first of the outcome that you want.

The Red Pill gives you a certain outcome. Is The Red Pill the right operating system for you?

The Red Pill is a new operating system. The Red Pill, once installed, gives you a certain outcome. Is The Red Pill the right operating system for you? Which is the outcome that you want? Are you here just to blurt your hate? Are you here just to seek validation for your field reports? Are you here to shame other Blue Pill guys because they don’t know any better? What is that you want to create?

Anything is fine, just become aware of it. Don’t focus on what you want to avoid for the future, focus instead on what you want to create. Then you’ll have a choice.