M(30) recovering nice guy and trying to rewrite myself with TRP thinking. I was in relationship 4 years but g/f dumped me because of me being typical nice guy. In first I was mad as hell but now I am thankful for that because if she wouldn't dump me I would never be able to find this subreddit what opened my eyes.

Story is that she still is living together with me after a year of break up. Because she don't have any place to go, she is unemployed, she doesn't have any income and we are living in not our home country. I told her she can stay while she will get a job, but problem is that she isn't looking for job hard as I would like to. Fact is that it's very hard to get any job in this town. 2 months ago I told her that if she in next 3 months won't be able to find a job then I will take different actions. One month left but I am still not yet fully decided what to do.

Question what bother me for a while - should I kick her out from house or keep her?

Let's look on the positive side of keeping her: * she is minding and rising our 4 years old daughter, I don't need to pay for Childminder

  • I have lots of free time. Because if she goes, child will stay with me because she isn't capable to support her financially. I know if the daughter will stay with her then I will have to pay maintenance but it will be far away from enough to pay all bills etc if she are going to live on her own without any income.

  • She is very good cooker. Lunch and dinner always is served when I come home.

  • She cleans the house.

  • She is my guinea pig where I can practice my new TRP and some of PUA knowledge and see how it is working.

And the negative side would be that I will have to do all above mentioned things what would take lots of my free time what I am now spending in self improvement, studying TRP and my hobbies.

I am not ready for new relationships and won't be in near future as I want to self improve myself and enjoy my life fully - travel, do my hobbies etc. There is no place of woman in my life at the moment.

As I am improving myself and acquiring new knowledge, I become more Alpha, dominant, woman won't control me anymore, I am not doormat anymore and I am getting good with shit tests. Our relationship are better as they ever been. I am happy with myself and she seems to be happy getting shitty attitude from me. But still I don't think we will ever be together again or even if I want it. If she will start to beg me for that then I will think about it, but I will not offer it (I did it at the beginning of year but it was refused).

She is not getting any cent from me. She didn't buy any new dress or haven't been to hairdresser, but still is able maintain good looks. She chose that life herself.

I know it will not last very long and maybe I should enjoy it while I can and focus on things what I want to do and enjoy to do and not on cooking, cleaning, fighting with daughter to go the bed etc. But from other side it doesn't feel right. We are done with relationship and we should move on. I would like to keep contact with her as less as possible.

What is TRP opinion? Should I choose easy way and let her stay for now, or take hard way and become single dad, if I will be able to get it to work that way.