SUMMARY

"Irrational confidence" and "fake it 'till you make it" are not bad but rather limiting advice.

Build your own value and the confidence that comes from knowing how motherfucking good you are is far better than any Jedi mind tricks.

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INTRODUCTION

Two lines of thought that I find on TRP (and even among the ECs) that are rather disturbing are to “fake it until you make it” and to engage in “irrational confidence”. It is not bad advice for scoring ONSs but to plate for any extended period – or heaven knows go for FWB or LTR status – it is the wrong way to things.

“CONFIDENCE”

We can agree on the phrase that “confidence matters” but the underlying problem is saying what “confidence” is. Here is Merriam Webster:

a feeling or belief that you can do something well or succeed at something

To make my point, I have to contrast the two definitions of “self-confidence: from Dictionary.com :

1) realistic confidence in one's own judgment, ability, power, etc. (my emphasis)

2) excessive or inflated confidence in one's own judgment, ability, etc.

This is The Red Pill and we are all about being realistic.

THE “CREEPY/FLIRTY” DIVIDE

A quality man can say the most ridiculous things to a woman and she will hamster it as being “flirty” while a lower quality man might – for saying the objectively same words – find himself staring down the barrel of a criminal charge. “Confidence” itself has nothing to do with it. Some smelly neck beard can be confident as all fuck and he will get laughed out just as hard.

ALPHA: “Traits” versus “Behaviours”

If you have been here for more than 10 minutes , then you have read the side bar and the glossary.

Alpha – Socially dominant. Somebody who displays high value, or traits that are sexually attractive to women. Alpha can refer to a man who exhibits alpha behaviors (more alpha tendencies than beta), but usually used to describe individual behaviors themselves. (my emphasis)

Anyone who has studied logic and such understands the problem of causality and that there is no necessary cause to any correlation.

Wrap your head around this: Alpha males behave the way they do because they can get away with it. Their behaviors are a function of their underlying traits and the way women react to them.

“KNOW THYSELF”

Right out of The Matrix and 2500 years of wisdom ,but the error is in focusing only on your potential powers (which is generally a good thing) but overlooking your foibles, weaknesses and such.

A man's GOT to know his limitations.

-Dirty Harry

In context, this comment is dripping with sarcasm, but let’s face it: you are not Dirty Harry. Perhaps Inspector Callahan could walk into any situation and dominate but you are still on the path, not at the terminus. . .and you have a long way to go.

FAKE IT ‘TILL YOU MAKE IT

I have not had a full blown discussion about this, but is there any difference from simply being a “poser”?

If you are building confidence without building something to be confident about then you are not swallowing the red pill, you are drinking snake oil.

Women are dumb but they are not stupid. If you fake it, you might get the bang, but at one point the jig is up and you lost that girl as a plate /FWB/LTR because she now clues into what sort of a loser you are.

“IRRATIONAL” CONFIDENCE: Not really

IF - and this is a big “if” – you choose “confidence” it will be a rational decision, not irrational. Do you want to fuck this girl tonight, and yet knowing that she won’t put up with your bullshit? Then it is rational to having this “irrational” confidence.

However, if you want a high quality woman to be in your life, she will smell your nonsense after one or two bangs and if cannot deliver the quality that you posed as, she will next you.

YMMV and “sexual strategy is immoral” and such but understand that fakery and abject irrationality are only short-term strategies.

Either way, the choice should be rational, because you are a man.

THE BOTTOM LINE

Self Improvement.

Lift, read, make money. Study the masters, follow them, accomplish something in life, and then be “confident”. Develop “traits” and then enjoy the benefits of alpha “behaviours”.