Be Calm, Be "Cool," Be Strong

Ishouldbedoingkegels · 2016-05-03T02:01:55+00:00

hey thanks for this post i think its pretty good.

theultimatewarriors · 2016-05-03T05:47:48+00:00

I think Cool is so hard to pin down because there's no value to point to about it. Being cool is leaving space for awesome shit to happen.

Let me explain that using a reference from the Tao. Why is a house valuable? If I took all the wood that makes the house, and threw it down on the ground in a pile, it wouldn't be as valuable as the house, but it technically would be all the ingredients for the house. So the thing we actually like about the house is the space it gives for things to happen. Being cool is kinda like that. You aren't doing something, you are the person who is able to have space to allow things to happen and direct it. You aren't trying, you're flowing. You don't do cool, you pull back and give space to guide things to happen.

SuccessRebel · 2016-05-03T08:22:18+00:00

Good Post! Basically describing the core red pill man

TheRealHendricks · 2016-05-03T07:01:14+00:00

I have found myself in this position, not bragging or anything, just a realization of what I needed to do for others. I am attractive, 6', and knowledgeable. I know this is pure fate, and I am always thankful for that. Social norms is a big point, and the main reason you can be "cool." At a young age I detested what made people "cool" and the status/ego that came along with it. It is for this reason I surround myself with people that bring me joy, and likewise are fun to be around. This came out to be a very diverse group, with many who are still working on their "game" per se. Being the ringleader (glue as OP fantastically called it) brings many things with it. When we go out, they look to me for guidance. Much of my going to the bars/party is spent helping my boys with whatever they need. The first always being to break the ice. Having a wingman is really a great tool to use, as it's easier for one group to approach another (cuz lets be honest, they're there for the same reason).

A few things I notice and to play on:

Whenever entering a new setting, observe observe observe. Get a feel for the situation, see what girls have boyf, in groups etc. If a girl isnt interested in you, she wont hold eye-contact or wont look at you twice.
Don't show your motive, this entails not being too excited/thrilled when talking to them. It starts as a simple convo, feeling each other out. Keep your cards in your pocket.
Don't try too hard. This goes with what /u/theultimatewarriors was saying. "cool" things will just naturally happen. Go into each setting with the mindset that you're just there to have fun, because thats what you're suppose to do right? Everything else will come after.
Being calm is always the way to go. When I drink, the craziness naturally comes out, but not caring is what will bring the "coolness" TO you. If fun things always happen to occur around you, people will gravitate to that.
It's not so much about saying the RIGHT things (the counterpart is making sure she doesnt fuck up just like you're trying to do) as it about NOT saying the wrong things. Let her talk, make it about her, ask questions, take a genuine interest in what she has to say, and if she's interested, it will go from their.
It doesn't have to happen NOW, if you meet someone, have the convo but then find a time when one of your friends catches you or somethign andgo back to them and have fun (she will notice this.)
OP alluded to this: let words and actions come naturally. Most groups of guys are fighting for a piece of the attention, but she will notice the one who's letting everyone else give their pitch first and merely hanging out/having a good time.

I could go on but its late and I'm up early :P Will fix grammar/structure later

Title	Be Calm, Be "Cool," Be Strong
Author	PragmaticRedTruth
Upvotes	49
Comments	5
Date	May 2, 2016 6:11 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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