I was standing in my wood shop last night, working on a project I've been having some issues with (hand-cutting a bunch of dovetail joints) struggling to get my craftsmanship as tight as possible. I realized in that moment the disparity between how I might present myself on the various woodworking forums I frequent and what my actual ability looks like. Not that I'm out there talking myself up too much, but I'll certainly talk the talk like I know what I'm doing. Academically, yes I do know quite a lot. But in practice, my stuff still comes out a little wonky sometimes. There's still so much work to do before I can say I truly have my shit together, and I could be doing more than I am now to get there.

We kick around a lot of terms here on /r/theredpill and other subs and across the manosphere. Hold frame, agree and amplify, lift, alpha/beta, Game, etc etc. We talk a lot. But I think that most, if not all of it boils down to one prevailing concept:

Be Undeniable.

With everything I do and everything I want to become, I set a goal. And no matter what I'm striving toward, the one question I use to check my progress is "am I undeniable?" Can it be said that I'm not strong enough, holding frame enough, working hard enough? If any aspect of me can really truly be called into question, then I'm not there yet and I really shouldn't act like I am. I think "fake it till you make it" does have merit, however, "work it till you are it" is far more important.

Look at any part of yourself where you think you're the shit. Is that an undeniable fact? Have you lifted enough so that you look amazing from all angles? Do you know some woman or man out there who could break your frame? Have you yet run out of fucks to give? No? Then there's still work to do. You can be denied. Nobody should be saying no to you. You are the one with a salvo of "no's" locked and loaded, not the other way around. Your awesomeness should be so powerful, any "no" given to you should come wrapped in an apology.

Think of the absolute most top dog alpha you've ever seen. The subject of the "Cubic vs Diamond" post from yesterday is an awesome illustration (though maybe not so great a time for the OP). Everything about that guy seems fantastically undeniable. His DGAF is more DGAF than anyone else's. The things he's good at, he's way better at than everyone else in the room (or if not, it doesn't matter because DGAF.) He's (I'm deducing) better looking than every man and woman in the room, and he takes what he wants, whenever, wherever. It sounds like the OP of the story has his own shit pretty decently together, but his alpha roommate made him completely invisible nonetheless. That is an extreme example of un-deniability in action, but it provides a great endgame to strive toward.

It may be damned impossible for most to gain that man's level of gravity, but as the saying goes, "shoot for the stars, land on the moon." (I'd rather land on Mars or something, but okay.) Be the kind of man people go out of their way to say yes to. Do the work, be honest with yourself, and do even more work. After all, in dealings with women, with work, with society in general, you are the prize, and that fact should be totally undeniable.