self note - the woman, the alpha, the beta. everybody kind of wins and everybody kind of loses based on what they want. alpha - (+) gets more woman to have sex with him. (-) cant always get the women who have sex with him settle down as women are suspicious of him because of AF/BB. if he buckles down and starts behaving beta they again lose interest in him and leave him. (+) comparatively easy for him to get some of the women he sleeps with him to settle down as long as they are lower SMV. ( ? ) woman - ( + ) gets to sleep with alphas and utilize her SMV values during young phase. ( + ) easily gets betas for provisioning provided she compromises a bit. ( - ) cannot get the alphas she actually had relations with to commit and even if some do, her insecurity will have the best of her. ( cause of immense frustration and longing - specially in today's world the burden of compromise is heavy) ( - ) cannot open up to the betas about her true nature and feelings for fear of reprisal. forced to live a dual and duplicitous lifestyle. ( again a strain on women conditioned with modern values of openness and honesty, this is her attempt at open hypergamy ) beta - ( + ) finally gets a woman more experienced than him to love and care for him. ( + ) experiences the best sex he is capable of experiencing till that point, though he realizes that the passion subsides. ( + ) gets to live his romantic ideal atleast for a short while. ( gets to live in his idealized world ) ( - ) lives in fear of mate guarding for his years of living as beta when he saw alphas steal away his girl. needs his girl to constantly reassure him. ( - ) constantly battles with his idealized romantic outcome as sometimes his wife is more and more disinterested in him. ( - ) gets to have children and his wife nurture them as part of her natural maternal instincts. ( cuckholding is probably prevented by DNA analysis and printing these days ) ( + ) gets his wife to genuinely love and invest in him. she will actually look after him if he gets trashed in a car accident. gets genuine investment from the girl in a shared future.