Helping people around me is a if part of my social life because it's one if the few reasons I'm hanging out with friends and not getting rachet on booze pot and blow all night.

It's little things, I took my coworker to the DMV today, I'll help friends foof their car or even clean house. It asked Good conversation, driving is always fun, gets you moving etc and you get one in one time with people which is a huge part of being a close friend with someone and really knowing when they are OK or not.

Of course this takes time and people have to climb the ranks of your social life.

Especially with women, how do I not become a beta orbiter or become someone she uses and nothing more?

Is this even possible or does this fall under AWALT?