Backstory

I can remember in my teens going out to the mall to check out hot girls. I wanted them, they knew it, and I could tell they loved the attention. The problem was that I was too much of a bitch to do anything about it. I realized quickly that something was wrong.

I learned that checking out her ass, boobs, or any part of her body was "creepy". I was imagining hooking up with these girls; I was treating them like "pieces of meat"; I wasn't treating them like human beings. I had to stop this.

First I practiced not getting caught. Then I learned to avoid checking them out. It got to the point where I would not even look unless I thought she was already interested. I rarely found girls who displayed interest before me, and when I did, I didn't know what to do.

I lived this pathetic existence for years until I came across The Red Pill and started learning from the manosphere.

Turning It Around

"Congruence is an alignment in your thoughts, words, and actions." - RSDTyler

The concept of congruence was a catalyst that revived my sexuality. Something was wrong before, but it wasn't my desires, it was my lack of congruence; my actions didn't align with what I wanted. Once I realized this and did something about it things started to turn around. Female attraction returned to my life because I decided to show girls that I was attracted to them. Instead of staring from a distance I actively improved my approach game.

Learn From My Mistakes

It has been an uphill battle. I've had to unlearn a lot of bad habits, but I work on it every day.

Forget worrying about being a creep or whether or not you are "objectifying" a girl. The key is to embrace your desires, stop being a bitch and do something about it.

See a fine ass? Check it out.

She's got a nice rack? Don't be afraid to look.

Make eye contact and give her a little smirk. Did you get a smile back? Go over and talk to her. Better yet, go talk to her either way.

Be congruent with your desires and act on them. Be a fucking man and go after what you want, don't sit back like a little bitch and hope she'll fall into your lap, she never will.