I have found that there is a big difference between always getting what you want (pro tip: it never happens) and being able to control the narrative irrespective of how things work out.

I imagine a lot of us here are putting in the work to better ourselves, but are still fundamentally attached to getting specific outcomes. Clarity in goals is fine as long as it is balanced with a healthy detachment. An outcome independence if you will. It's not admitting defeat or a surrender necessarily, rather a healthy reminder that when things don't go as planned and when you lose specific control, you can always control the narrative.

Girl you're seeing becomes distant? The blue pill goes home and laments, assumes everything was his fault and spends his time trying to win her back. The purple pill recognizes his part in the failure and cuts off contact, hits the gym and doubles his efforts, reads up a ton of material and tells himself "never again".

The red pill, however, flips the script, is reminded of a woman's sexual strategy, chuckles at the matter and makes the woman he is no longer sleeping with part of his social circle. He shows her he is unaffected by her choices. He introduces her to his friends and she introduces him to hers. He does this again and again because he knows it will happen again and again, he lives in abundance and controls the narrative.

Didn't get the promotion at the office? The blue pill gets defensive with his employer and persists on reminding him how much he deserves it or how hard he has worked. The purple pill vows to work harder, work smarter, the recognition and promotion is now his mission, and he works tirelessly next quarter to get it.

The red pill flips the script. He gets creative with his role and does not wait for permission to rock the boat. He recognizes that these setbacks are part of the journey and continues to provide exceptional value. He befriends the company's leaders and rockstars, shows receptionists the same respect he does to VPs, and is suddenly asked to participate on increasingly difficult projects. He doesn't need the damn title because he doesn't believe in labels.

Change your definition of success. Try and see the world from a different perspective: the one you want to see it from. The one where you control the narrative. Powerful successful men never hesitate because their story is clear, it is their story to write. The material here is great, but it will not be useful to you until you experience it and calibrate it to fit your needs.

Stop trying to fit in and please, stop labeling things as good or bad, as absolute success or failure. Do your thing, experience the range, and fucking own it.