I have a sister, she is with 10 years older than me, smart, has a master's degree. We are the same in terms of education. But ever since I've known her, she is extremely bitter, and time confirmed that it's getting any better..

One thing that surprises me is that every advice or help I got from her was either incorrect or misguided. I can't put my finger on it, but I feel as if she intentionally wants to sabotage me. I couldn't use anything from her. I never experienced this from anyone else my entire life. And when I say every advice, I mean it: every single advice; small things, big things.. same deal. At first, one might say she might not know any better, but.. she can't be. It's either deliberate, or .. I don't usually ask women for advice but, she's my only sibling, and she's also older.

And for more details, she always did the opposite of what our parents wanted. I followed in their footsteps, and listened to them, and strived to be like them, but she.. she did it her own way. I think maybe this is the reason for the hate. But whatever she did, it disrespected them; from mundane to monumental actions. It's like she tried to control, and change the people in her path, especially our parents, and me.

I can't even talk to her anymore without getting a sense of anger from her. And it's genuine anger, not something temporary, for example bodily pain.

Are all female siblings like this or I'm just the only one with this situation?

I chose to post this here because everywhere else, people seem to take her side, without even reading the context.

If anyone would like to share their thoughts, experiences, it would be appreciated.

Thank you for reading.