I have been thinking about this topic for a long time but have yet to properly formulate what it is I wanted to say, until today!

While driving with one of my plates I realized something about frame that I couldn't explain before. I am able, when focused, to completely 'manipulate' her ability to formulate any understanding within the context of the conversation we are having.

To further explain what I mean, imagine the last time you walked your way into a shit test. Specifically one in which you handled yourself quite well. Were you aware of what you were doing, or was it a subconscious reaction?

Subconsciously you may have for told what action needed to be taken, and in my eyes you have exercised your frame and you probably wont learn anything from this writing.

If you had to do it consciously then you are on the right path towards training yourself to always maintain frame.

I call this training the force. Nerdy I know but hear me out.

When I first found out about frame I realized that I already had some of the knowledge ingrained in me from my experiences. Holding frame originally wasn't something I felt I needed to work on (with women specifically). I was wrong.

I call it using the force because I noticed that I don't use it all the time. I get lazy and will lose frame around certain people I am either super comfortable with, or people I just don't care to put any energy towards.

This is a mistake. It is lazy and I am concerned that there might be others who are getting lazy like I am.

Holding frame (just like the force) needs to be exercised. Just like any other part of the body it constantly needs to be worked on in order to grow AND MAINTAIN. Just as Luke had to train to use the force, you to have to train to hold frame. In. All. Circumstances.

[This is of course under the assumption that you are trying to be the best version of yourself.](www.youtube.com/watch?v=q4mF9iLAlFc) (fuck the big editor)

Exercising the force should be your prerogative whenever possible, once mastered you can essentially become a silver tongue and make your way through life guiding the people around you to do your bidding. With less and less energy being used by you, it begins to become a part of who you are.

First gain the muscle, then tone it.

May the force be with you.