Summary: Dread game is a result of what happens as you increase your SMV, not a method you effectively apply.

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When I was first learning about the red pill a few years ago, I saw dread game as a nice set of techniques to apply in order to increase the odds of a girl wanting me or staying with me. When dating a girl, I'd try to subtly imply I had other options. I'd maybe casually flirt with another girl in front of the girl I was dating (always with plausible deniability).

It was minor-level manipulation that had little actual real value at the time, and in retrospect may in the long term have hurt me. I say that because it contained the inherent underlying assumption that "I have to take an action to keep my girl with me, and that means that she wouldn't want to be with me naturally." Many people here, even popular submitters and old-timers, may disagree with that, but at least for me that's been my experience.

My point is, while I thought I understood, I didn't really get what TRP was about. And I never would truly get it until I experienced the effort and results of increasing my SMV. I take TRP to be about increasing your sexual market value to be the top 1% of men, not to emulate the top 1% of men.

I was previously using dread game as a method. And it was a mildly, if at all, successful method.

But while I definitely have a long way to go (the value of humbleness is to avoid complacency), my physical looks have improved since then.

Now, I see dread game as more of an effect of an increased SMV. It's a metric telling me if I've reached the levels of SMV I want.

Here's an example. You're out at a local pub with a couple plates, and a girl comes up to you and compliments you and asks for your number. Or you're at the grocery with your wife, and because of your demeanor and physical attributes, a lot of other women are looking at you with that sense of hunger in their eyes which show that they haven't been fucked right in 11.6 years.

In such situations, the only efforts you took were the long term efforts of building your sexual market value to high levels. And by sexual market value, in acute situations such as these, it simply means physical fitness, grooming, and swagger. As such, you applied no "method" to try to flirt with these girls in front of your wife/plate/girlfriend/friend-with-whatever-the-fuck. You didn't have to, which makes the effect that much more pronounced. If your girl sees you try and succeed, great, whatever. But if your girl sees you just be there and succeed, it adds credibility to the result.

Now, if you've been seeing the girl you're with (the one who notices the attention you are garnering from other girls) for a while, I've found one of two things will happen. And the result of what happens to me is my own form of test, to determine the quality of girl you're with.

a) She acts possessive. She acts accusatory. This stems from insecurity, and demonstrates a lack of respect towards you. That is an immediate red flag for me.

b) She wakes up and starts to appreciate you more. It's completely natural for the "honeymoon phase" to diminish over time, and these little events cause her to really remember to appreciate you and not take you for granted. That gives her a plus one in my book. And as an added bonus, the sex you have that night will be that desperate kind of crazy sex which only happens after you get attention from another girl.

These events are polarizing, and rarely if ever neutral non-events.

Girls are social creatures. They define their value in part by the social status of the man they're with. Instead of all the idiots inserting a subtle sense of whineyness and frustration that girls are "only valuing you for your social status", take it as a positive. She appreciates you and is proud to be with a man that other woman want. Let her enjoy the status of being with you (trigger elating your narcissism).

Weak dread game is a method; something you try to perform (albeit subtly) to elicit a certain reaction. Strong dread game isn't a game at all. It's a result of abundance. It's a result of increasing your SMV. I view dread game as just something that happens after your SMV reaches a certain point. It's a result, a side effect. It's just one of the mechanisms we at TRP notice which keeps girls together with high SMV guys. It's intrinsically related to branch swinging, and simply reminds them that your branch is highly valued. And sometimes the dynamic between you two needs those little booster shots of dread, which happen naturally.

Lessons learned:

  • Dread game is what happens after you increase your SMV to a high enough level

  • Trying to implement dread explicitly is a waste of your time and demonstrates subtle weakness.

  • Be a man that the girl you're with for the moment is proud to show off, and embrace that they are social creatures.

  • Judge your girl by how she reacts to moments of dread: possessive and insecure, versus appreciative and hungry.