I get the Dread Game, it works!

Chances are that we've all been on the receiving end of one form or another or Dread Game, some oneitis are indeed the product of Dread Game played by a woman, knowingly or otherwise.

But we've also seen toxic relationships (friends, acquaintances, family members) where the Dread Game at the end not only backfired but was also detrimental. I come from the classic PUA school that believes in "Leave them better then you found them", so as a relatively new RP I am wrestling with this: how do I maintain control of my life and my interactions with my plates, use Dread Game, and yet not being toxic to her and actually - once things are over - "leave her better then I found her"?

Any thoughts? Examples?