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[–]Triadis3 10 points11 points12 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Trying to use logic, reason. Yeah that works everytime.
Don't do anything heavy over email/text.
Plus - Massive loss of frame, she has you composing long paragraphs about your "needs". Hard No. Do not send this butthurt novel.
Go silent. She owes you nothing, and you reacting this way shows massive investment in her. Grow a pair.
[–]MagicGainbow8 points9 points10 points 10 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Silence is more effective, leave the ball in her court, don't contact her until she contacts you.
Start shopping for a replacement.
[–]Peezy666[S] -1 points0 points1 point 10 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
In the past she's responded to me putting my foot down in a well timed manner as long as I executed it right. My only concern is will silence let her really know why im freezing her out? And if she messages, how much silence is enough before I reinitiate contact?
[–]MagicGainbow0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
My only concern is will silence let her really know why im freezing her out?
It will.
And if she messages, how much silence is enough before I reinitiate contact?
You break the silence IF she messages.
Also that big dump of text sounds is a bigger frame breaker.
Be less invested my child.
[–]Peezy666[S] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Lol I suppose it is. I lost the frame with the insecurity showing I guess I'm desperate to get it back. Don't know how to pull it off.
[–]MagicGainbow0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don't know how to pull it off.
I just told you, maintain radio silence and go shopping for her replacement - you may find someone you like even more.
[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon7 points8 points9 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That is SO FUCKING LAME (apart from the deathbed / pussy pic bit, I liked that).
You don't communicate this shit to women because it simply does not work.
You just sound lame and butthurt.
Here's what you do.... you GET MORE OPTIONS. Treat the relationship as over. Flirt with more women. Run dread if you like, but primarily you assume it's over and behave accordingly. She might come back, she might not, but doesn't matter - you get on with YOUR life... for YOU.
[–]forcevacum2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You didn't tell us how you screwed up in the first place, so fuck you op, I thought this was going to be something productive
Going out for 7 months. How long were you plating her before hand? Your ltr should come with a price and it sounds like you handed out.
If you send that message, or anything like it you're a lame bitch who does not understand rp game.
From the sounds of the story that you didn't elaborate on you need to work on inner game.
[–]gantgui 2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago* (4 children) | Copy Link
Youre message is similar to a few i got from woman who i was slowly starting to ghost lmao.
How the fuck does the thought of this being a good idea even come through your mind?
As much as your message says you dont give a shit. The lenght of and emotion in it shows other wise. Basic redpill action over words. Whenever a girl goes distant 1. Shes losing interest in you , gaining interest in someone else.2. You pissed her off and shes" punishing" u. Go no contact.
[–]Peezy666[S] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Yeah I know its one or the other but not sure which. She's coming over today and in person there's no problem, she's affectionate, talks about the future and fucks my brains out. But she leaves and goes blunt on messenger which is different to how she used to act even last week. All came about since I messaged her about (I totally cringe saying this I knew straight away I messed up) her not being consistent in putting effort in. Bottom line is she's the most switched on game playing girl I know, shit tests constantly and exploits even the smallest weakness so ive been solid throughout except for the odd recoverable wobble but im only human. This time im struggling to shift the power dynamic back and recapture the frame. Silence seems like my only option but she'll still contact me so it won't have a massive lingering effect. Its not that she won't contact me but when she does its void of affection, she swerves any sexualised talk and disappears mid convo. I don't know if silence alone will kickstart her back up.
[–]Peezy666[S] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
You think 7 months of solid interaction will go in my favour against one monumental fuck up? I recovered quickly and dialed it back. If I lost 5 notches in doing it I'd say I regained 2 and a half in the 24hrs after. Surely if im generally solid and she's into me she'll take it in context.
[–]gantgui 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
It is a major fuck up, her pussy was slowly getting dryer for you already( hence her distancing herself) now you obviously didnt make it wetter sending that. What did she respond? Not saying its over but no contact as of now. No liking pictures viewing snapchat stories your a ghost from now until she reaches out. Silence always works since time makes you forget the bad and remember the good. Right now you PUSHED way to much now its time to PULL the fuck back. Most important thing for a girl is attrntion when shes not giving you what you want you remove your attention. Simple as that. You could manage an entire relationship with learning when to give and remove attrntion
Btw stock fucking texting snapchatting wtf your doing with her. This issue wouldnt be here to start with. Logistics mostly when texting.
[–]Peezy666[S] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I don't do any of that liking stuff etc.. anyhow but yeah we message a lot as our circumstances were kinda difficult in the beginning and we could only meet once a week for a while. I guess we've just got in that habit of messing about on messenger taking the piss and having a laugh. I didn't send the above message if that's what you mean. I sent one about a week ago voicing insecurity and revealing a chink in an otherwise almost flawless armour. She responded immediately in slight distancing behaviour but still met up, everything fine in person, she arranges times and offers dates, fucks like a whore, affectionate, reacts to soft dread (jealously mainly). She ticks all the boxes in person but online she's just went cold. Then I thought is she testing me? Seeing how I take the behaviour flip? Do I just carry on and match her affection like for like but slightly under hers? If I knew why she was doing it for sure then I'd have a better idea on how best to approach. Don't think im a constant douche, I know it would seem that way given my fuck up but this girl is an 8 and a half by anyones standard, she's a pole dancer and has a tonne of guys drooling to fuck her but she's banging me because ive played this by the book as best I could for months on end. I slipped up and then confusion hit me as I recoiled from the mistake, my mind went blank on what to do so I thought I'd ask, that's all.
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