[An old post I've long-since unpublished but certainly has a home here. Enjoy!]

The conversation almost always goes like this when you tell someone that everything a person does stems from a foundation of sexual strategy: they listen patiently, provide the socially customary nods of understanding, and then say something like, "well, okay, but not everything..."

This certainly seems like it could be the case; it almost feels reductionist on some level to think that men and women are constantly being guided through their choices and actions by some invisible force emanating from their genitalia, silently screaming at them to just get it the fuck in like a pack of dogs in heat.  That there must be a special designation, or a degree of intellectual sophistication, which separates the human animal from his more primitive underlings.

And this is certainly true; the human animal is civilized. We are conscious of a wider-span of potential emotions, and are gifted with the ability to fulfill more significant goals than simply eating and fucking. We can shape our consciousness with language, and vocabulary, and with language comes access to higher level thinking.

It's a lot like when you were a kid in kindergarten, at the beginning of the school year, with all your school supplies. You mom could have gotten you the boring eight pack of Crayolas, but you wanted the big box of sixty-four; you know, the kind that comes with the crayon sharpener. So instead of just "red" and "blue," you had a whole variety of different shades of the same color to pick from, and lucky you, right?

No, stupid, they're all still crayons.

While it seems like we're entirely different and inherently superior to the wild dogs, roaming vacant lots, searching for a bitch in heat, looking to quench their basic range of animalistic desires- the metaphorical eight pack of crayons- we really aren't very different, even if we have a wider variety of colors to choose from.

If anything, our greater range of emotions will mostly result in creating a deeper need for coddling when all we really want is sex. And even if all the tools are there for the human to transcend their biological imperative to mate and reproduce, to be more than just snarling animals, our biological imperative will supersede all else.

Understanding the gender differences in sexual strategy is important in coming to grips with the idea that everything a person does acts toward fulfilling that strategy.

Rarely is the young man born a stud. While the natural alpha male isn't a myth, they're in the genetic minority. These men are able to unconsciously tap into the characteristics that women find sexually attractive: the risk-taker with a careless attitude toward authority and consequence.

The natural alpha male is a man who exists without the need for female emotional validation.

A needless man signals a superior man, and women are intrinsically drawn to a superior man.

For every man who doesn't have his middle school teacher swooning over him and sending naked selfies, one must take a less linear route to becoming sexually successful.

You start by trial-and-error, keeping the tidbits of code that work and discarding what doesn't; constantly, unconsciously, scanning all aspects of your behavior to understand what creates successful attraction and advancement, or what causes a setback or a total protonic reversal... that's bad.

Female attraction is a careful dance, led by the man, and learning the proper pace and cadence of this dance takes time. Ultimately, some men will pick-up on this and become sexually successful and some will not and remain sexually invisible.

It's so fucking simple that it almost seems boring. Hapless boys who can't get laid fade into obscurity.

The End.

It must be the same for women, right?

Sigh.

Women who aren't sexually successful take whatever skill they possess and try to redefine attraction.

The world is constructed so that the majority of women are sexually successful, with the idea that they'd happily reproduce with a quality mate, and therefore western civilization won't die a slow and agonizing death...

Female sexuality strategy is through selection, with higher quality women receiving maximum ability to be selective. Once the target is chosen, their sexual strategy unconsciously becomes manipulative in order to obtain commitment.

Even within the landscape of promiscuity this strategy can be successful... only it's usually not with their intended target, forcing them to settle for someone they... like a lot less.

Watch this practice play-out in real time as a woman will cycle through increasingly dishonest, MySpace angled selfies on dating sites until the goal of attracting interest from high-value men is reached.

A woman is biologically gifted the majority of her sexual buying power. While she can add to her market value, and thus her ability to be selective, she can't exactly shine shit. A sexually excluded woman will not be able to create market value for herself- she can read books, learn to be funny, do cool art work, take cooking classes... all sorts of stuff that would make her an interesting person to talk to, while adding absolutely nothing to her sexual market value.

And unlike her Cheeto-soaked male counterpart, the sexually excluded woman will not go quietly into the night  playing video games and jacking off to Star Wars porn; she's angry, feels slighted, and is bent on destruction. If nothing she does can bring her even a modicum of sexual success, her sexual strategy transforms into an attempt to change the world around her... or destroy it while trying.

KTP