Almost a year ago now, I read several comments for the first time on "Reddit proper" that referenced The Red Pill. Some called it hateful, some called it bitter, some called it delusional, and all agreed that it was vile. A negative first impression, certainly. But I have always held a philosophy to actively seek out and listen to all viewpoints and to never turn down a chance to see the world from a different perspective, no matter how much I consider that perspective to disagree with my own.

And so I stepped into The Red Pill for the first time with the full expectation that I would find much to disagree with. On some points, I did. On many others, I couldn't help agree. I quickly found that The Red Pill had reaffirmed one of the most basic tenets of my personal philosophy for me; that there is no belief which does not hold at least some truth, and there is something to be learned from every ideology. Before long I was engrossed, and everything began to click. But this 'revelation' had to begin somewhere, and for me it was in Rollo's The Second Set of Books , which I found through The Red Pill Antibiotic Nuke.

Rollo's article itself is characteristically great, but when I had first begun my journey through TRP, the flash of insight and understanding that hit me like a hardball did not from that article itself. It came from a comment that I only by chance happened to scroll down and read. In the spirit of sharing and discourse that has brought me to love this community, I want to submit an easily unnoticed tidbit written by a man named 'Andy' that left me lying awake at night for hours on the night I read it. This comment hit a chord with me for personal reasons, and I still value it for the way it opened my eyes. Without hyperbole, this comment was the first thing that opened my mind to a subreddit that would become an important part of my world view and personal motivation. And now I offer it to you, Red Pill, to build upon or tear apart at your discretion.

All below written by Andy, Jan 14 2014

There are parallel educational tracks for boys and girls that are separate and very unequal. Girls, are told formally and informally through their school, society, and their families,that they can ignore the very same rules that apply to boys. The concepts of honor, honesty and responsibility for your actions are stressed to boys only, to keep them moral and productive.

These same concepts are treated as optional at best for girls. Boys are expected to limit their options to what is good for society. Girls are told anything that gets them what they want is fair game. There a few unspoken assumptions that are responsible for the differences we see between what is expected of boys and of girls.

  1. Civilization demands that someone do the hard work of keeping it going. This requires qualities such as discipline, reliability, dependability, honor and courage.
  2. Society doesn’t require that both sexes do this, as long as at least one of them is.
  3. Men have been stuck with this responsibility, and women have happily avoided it.
  4. Society continues to indoctrinate males that they must have these qualities and to accept the responsibility for running civilization. Society also continues to indoctrinate females that they don’t need to have these qualities, and should be free to concentrate only on their desires and wants.
  5. In spite of the unfairness of this arrangement, and the freedom that only women enjoy (as their participation in the furthering of civilization is strictly voluntary), society still cannot resist the urge to further advantage women and dis-empower men.

Here’s a brief list of some of the qualities that make civilization possible. Below each quality is a description of how each quality is taught to boys versus how it is presented to girls.

Honor Boys are told to value that which is gained through hard work and playing by the rules. For boys only, taking advantage of someone else, or winning by not obeying the rules is looked down upon, and it invalidates the win completely. For girls, honor isn’t something to strive for. All that IS important is that they get what they want. And the easiest way to do this is to not be limited by any ideal. This is probably the foundation of girls’ emphasis on making decisions based on whether it can get them what they want rather than whether it is moral. The ends justify any means. For boys, honor is intended to limit their choices and potential actions. Girls are aware that they can appeal boy’ sense of honor when required. For example, girls may ask for some sort of handicap in a competition, or may continue to request another chance until she wins. When only one person follows the rules in a game or a sport, the other is considered to a cheat. Unfortunately, when that other has no sense of honor, labeling her as a cheat has no power to change her behavior.

Honesty Any guess which sex is told that manipulation is a completely acceptable, and in fact, a necessary method for getting what she wants? No wonder this is such a lonely word.

Accountability/Facing the Music When boys get in trouble, one of the non-negotiable parts of their subsequent disciplining is that they offer an unqualified admission of guilt, Usually this occurs in two parts – admitting what they did, and then explaining back to those in authority why it was wrong. Usually, no rationalization is accepted. Also, their punishment is not necessarily lessened as a reward for coming clean. In other words, boys are forced to accept and admit the truth, even when this is a bad negotiating position for them. Also, they are expected not to make excuses, but just to take whatever punishment they get without complaint. Contrast this to a girl’s expectation not to be held accountable for anything. She never has to admit a truth, even to herself. You can see this expectation in their word choices, such as beginning an explanation of something she did that she knows you won’t like with “Now, don’t get mad…”. Girls explain rather than confess, and the purpose her explaining is to make her feel better, not to accept blame and punishment. In rare circumstances when you hold a girl to account for her actions, she usually expresses shock or anger – “why are you being so mean?”. Holding a girl to account for anything makes YOU the one with the problem. Didn’t you get the message?

Self-Reliance Girls are encouraged to have an “always a victim” mentality. Other people (boys) owe her something because of this. Every new demand women make of the government will be couched in these terms. The idea that she should take the initiative and make the effort to get what she wants, and do it independently of government or men, is not considered.

Maturity Only women have the option of never growing up. A woman can generally get her wants and needs met by drafting a man or the government to meet them. Her draft pick also serves as her buffer against the hard realities of life. Not having to face reality means no growth on any level. This won’t make her a helpful or useful partner for anyone, but it frees up a lot of time for her to do other things. Those other things generally do not include becoming independent, engaging in self-examination, or showing appreciation.

Equality Isn’t a concept of equality that benefits only one of the sexes distorting the meaning of the word? Yes, and that doesn’t bother women. Any existing advantages that men have must be removed, while any existing advantages that women have must be protected. But the inequality inherent in women’s re-defining of “equality” is just the beginning. There are all sorts of ways women start out with an advantage – affirmative action, changing the rules or lowering the standards, or by requesting to be judged on a scale that doesn’t take quantifiable results into account. Unfortunately, this means that girls are never forced to acknowledge boys are better than they are at anything. If women are convinced that they can “compete” against men, they take this as proof that they are, not just the equal of men, but really, their superior. After all, they bested men at their own game. Even if they had to change the rules, give themselves a head start, and keep playing until they won. Equality to women is a tool to get what they want rather than an ideal state of things. In fact, once they hamstring men using Equality, they are free to engage in rigged “competitions” with men, where the men have every inherent disadvantage but none of their natural advantages. Inflating girls sense of themselves through these rigged games leads to the unearned, but very real (to them) sense that women are better than men, and what’s worse, a very disrespectful attitude toward men. For all their talk about equality, women never want to compete with men on equal terms. Even the most competitive women would prefer a rigged game to a fair one. And you can see why, it offers a sense of accomplishment and the enjoyment of winning with none of the actual work. Or accomplishment. Or winning.