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I went the career building route in my 20s. Has paid off immensely.
/r/TheRedPill23/09/16 02:25 AM
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Build it and they will come. You simultaneously learn your purpose and how your purpose influences things in your life.
/r/TheRedPill23/09/16 02:09 AM
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AM will come from within after convincing yourself through proof of principle. Talk to other women. Women of all shapes and sizes. Talk to them everywhere you are about anything you can muster up at the time. It’s not about flirting (don’t do that), it’s about becoming so comfortable around others (in particular women) that the idea of getting another one becomes trivial. When you get to this point, losing someone (a LTR for example) is not scary.
/r/askTRP23/09/16 01:55 AM
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As a few have mentioned, this too will fade over time. It’s a continuum. Eventually you will realize everything is as it is and you find great comfort in making your own way through it. There is a great parable about the scorpion and the frog. It is only nature.
/r/askTRP23/09/16 12:55 AM
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Marry or dont, if you don't treat marriage like an investment that must give a return, you'll be just fine marrying in this day and age. Be smart about it in the best way you can, vet her for as long as you deem necessary, protect your assets prior, etc. The big problem I see with younger people marrying is that the level of expectation and entitlement in a marriage doesn't align with reality. In by gone days, we had laws and strong societal pressure to stay together, but most of that ended by t…
/r/TheRedPill14/07/16 01:25 PM
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I've always seen this behavior as innately human. Group settings induce least common denominator behavior and establishment of a common dialogue that all relate to. I've found decent success in engaging in this light-heartedly and then latching onto a piece for directing the conversation to something more productive and stimulating (plus it's generally in my favor what the convo is).
/r/TheRedPill10/03/16 03:38 AM
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I constantly remind myself of this. It's way too easy to get carried away on the self-improvement journey. The top is lonely. While you will meet many up there, they all share the same sentiment from the journey. I've been actively trying to not only make my climb to the top as linear as possible, but to take time and explore the mountainside more.
/r/TheRedPill10/03/16 03:32 AM
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This is the problem with today's society in general. You don't FIND quality women, you MAKE them. They must be taught. While having a blank mould doesn't hurt, some bullshit fantasy list doesn't help. Once you actually experience abundance in your life, you will look back on this list of yours and hopefully laugh.
/r/TheRedPill10/03/16 03:28 AM
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There are no lessons to be learned here. In the divorce market, one must only be better than the current. Divorced women are something similar to a wounded animal. You never know if you'll get a kitten or a lion. Have fun spinning divorcees, take them out, don't take them out, pay for their meals, don't pay for their meals, whatever really. Couching this fact and justifying your behavior because "happiness says so" is terrible advice. If you like divorcees or breaking up a marriage, so be it, we…
/r/TheRedPill10/03/16 02:59 AM
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Any woman and I mean ANY woman that rants about a man's shortcomings or lack of certain traits deserves none other than amused mastery and a good dicking to bring her back to reality. It's just that simple.
/r/TheRedPill22/01/16 06:02 AM
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When you cross the threshold of 30, the world will suddenly become vastly different. This is provided you stayed single. By the time women near their 30s, the hype surrounding them is no longer powerful enough to keep them propped up. I know it's hard, but focus on the long game - that being yourself. At the end of the day, if everything and everyone is taken away from you, what is left? - yourself It's really an inverse principle, but becoming selfish, confident, assertive and generally selecti…
/r/askTRP22/01/16 05:45 AM
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Men > Women > Children > Puppies* (> = love).
/r/TheRedPill22/01/16 05:29 AM
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The western world (the US) needs to regain its way of life. The problem with a melting pot country is just that, too much diversity. Diversity necessitates tolerance, and tolerance breeds apathy. The practice in America of acceptance is bull shit. Without going into a rant, suffice to say, this is our land and those that come here need to respect our way of life. It's a rotten shame that the majority of our people have become so apathetic and lazy to what's going on that many would not recognize…
/r/TheRedPill03/01/16 05:04 PM
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Never ask a fish how to catch fish. Women advertise using these selling points for lack of other options. As always, avoid these women at all costs. It doesn't take much to appease a man, however; debt, entitlement, competition and being well traveled (read: well used) certainly aren't any of them.
/r/TheRedPill03/01/16 03:23 AM
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It's all context dependent. You want to give the impression that you've see it all and heard it all before when interacting with women (even if you are too young to have had all the necessary life experiences yet). Essentially, you treat her comments coming from a place of maturity. You understand that she is acting childish trying out these lines on you, but you offer an aire of mastery surrounding her. You let her try these type of lines out on you and you either don't respond and reframe the …
/r/askTRP03/01/16 12:35 AM
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This is not a shit test, but a major comfort test. As evident by your behavior, she is struggling to feel comforted in your relationship. This is your GF, not a plate. A push-pull relationship filled with doses of alpha and beta behaviors are what is required to maintain a successful relationship. You can do a couple of things, but first and foremost, ask yourself if you even want this woman in your life. After all, you let her there. To get mad when she makes fun of you is not an insult to her,…
/r/askTRP02/01/16 08:14 PM
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As per your example: Her comment was a test of your frame. She replied with an off-hand comment meant to test your sense of self. Your response was fine, but couched in irritation as evident by your slightly snarky reply (in a pseudo intelligent manner). When a woman says things like this to you, you have two pretty good options: Don't respond at all Amused mastery
/r/askTRP02/01/16 08:08 PM
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Not to rain on your parade, but your post reeks of FOMO and butt hurt. Sometimes people really take everything here literally and end up buying into a different reality that doesn't exist either. Everything you do in life, every choice you make... The principles here have intended results, but also unexpected consequences. For example, forgoing marriage in your 20s to attain personal goals, self interests and to build up yourself into a better man are excellent interests to have, however; neglec…
/r/TheRedPill02/01/16 07:45 PM
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I see this is a work in progress, so I'll reserve strong commentary for others in the community. Suffice to say, you're rambling and your logic is deeply flawed.
/r/TheRedPill22/12/15 02:59 AM
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The underlying principle of the 48 Laws of Power is that there are certain actions that can lead to certain outcomes and through observing them, one may increase their chances of obtaining power (as rooted in the basis of observation). The point of the laws is not self misrepresentation, but a strategy to ascertain influence over people. These laws are amoral.
/r/askTRP22/12/15 02:41 AM
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The Iron - Henry Rollins
/r/TheRedPill22/12/15 02:17 AM
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"If you build it, they will come." Focus on building your best self and all this will come as a byproduct. No need to deconstruct anything.
/r/TheRedPill22/12/15 02:10 AM
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In a way, feminism may be the great Earth cleanse of our time gentleman.
/r/TheRedPill01/10/15 12:16 AM
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What I'm curious about it what happens when one of these surgeries goes wrong or the child decides later he/she was pushed into making a choice by their parents/friends/relatives, etc and is no longer happy being the opposite sex? This is the problem with America today. Nobody under 18 can be held accountable for anything, however; either are the adults in their lives.
/r/TheRedPill30/09/15 11:59 PM
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I don't think women (as a collective whole) understand what must be sacrificed to have the "independence" in life afforded to men. It's certainly not glitz and glam to work long hours, be beaten down day in and day out to excel at our careers/jobs, expected to stay physical fit and mental sharp, provide for a family etc. The list goes on. Funny I haven't met a single women yet that defines independence this way... Oh well, it's 2015. The year anyone can define anything according to their own def…
/r/TheRedPill16/09/15 01:06 AM
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The saddest part of it all: if women would learn to shut their mouths more, most women would be provided a very comfortable life with little effort.
/r/TheRedPill16/09/15 12:53 AM
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There will always be weeds, however; if we look to yesteryears, they were by and far small and essentially non-existent. I think a lot of these movements and isms are a direct product of gluttony and ease of living. Men must constantly be tested and their skills must be honed to stay sharp. We've collectively gotten weak as a society. Men need problems to solve, things to build, places to conquer and causes to get behind (mental/physical/potentially geographical). Previous generations of men did…
/r/TheRedPill13/09/15 05:18 PM
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This is a great answer both in this situation and life as well. Self-explanation and justification is rooted in feelings of personal inferiority. If men en mass would get over this hill, the world would be a very different place.
/r/askTRP13/09/15 03:29 PM
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First thing to do is remove your head from your ass. After that, slap yourself in the face really hard and take a cold shower. When you're done, lurk moar here and read. Lastly, judging by your post you don't want to/have the capability of being a dad so I highly suggest you wise the fuck up. -signed your internet dad
/r/askTRP13/09/15 03:23 PM
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I think Mitchell hit the nail on the head by drawing parallels with individualism. Historically, group bonds were what kept populations alive. There was no room for individualism, as that would get you killed in nature (and eventually early societies as well). When common societal/biological gains are pushed aside for individual successes, it polarizes and incentivizes groups. What we are seeing today are groups of weeds (feminism, individualism, mass consumerism, etc.) that have been able to gr…
/r/TheRedPill13/09/15 03:13 PM
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You got it my man. The passage you quoted is exactly about this. In your case - when a man relays his problems to a woman, she has no ability to respond to this in the manner the man is expecting (her emotional capacity is shallow). In times of struggle, find a good buddy, a good pet and/or cold beer and get it all off your chest. In the event you must share struggles with your woman, use it in an advantageous way by telling her about your well thought out solution. If you express to her and sho…
/r/askTRP12/09/15 09:47 PM
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Focus less on how you got here and more on what you're going to do with the new information for your future. The human brain has a terrible tendency to focus on positive past experiences in a nostalgic way and dwell heavily on negative experiences. Both of these hardwired survival traits impede progress for your future self. You have the necessary information that can change your life in such a positive way, you'll wonder how you ever thought the other way once you journey down the path awhile. …
/r/askTRP06/09/15 03:48 PM
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Who cares what women do to get their tuition paid, to get awesome vacations, etc? - Let them. The only reason this is a 'problem' in today's society is because most men are willing to put up with dating/LTRing/marrying those types of women because they are weak of mind and character. Instead of complaining about this, ignore it. Be a top man. Work hard, strive to better yourself everyday and rise above. Let these 'emancipated, independent' women have their moment. It won't take more than a gener…
/r/TheRedPill06/09/15 03:37 PM
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The first thing you need to do is have a conversation with her regarding your relationship expectations. Being a detective in your own relationship will only serve to cause you anguish. Tell her you don't appreciate her ex's friends still in her life, etc. and listen to her response. If she is unwilling to submit to your requests (reasonably and to mostly your satisfaction), let her go. Plenty of women in this world that won't yank your chain. Part of an RP lifestyle mandates you eject leeches f…
/r/askTRP05/09/15 05:27 PM
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So, how can I determine whether I am the best guy that a woman has ever dated and fucked? She will continue to hang around and treat you well. If you focus more on making yourself the best possible man you can be, the rest will fall into place. Worry less about others and more about yourself and what makes you happy. Also, how can I tell if a woman is an Alpha Widow? She is excessively attention-seeking. Constantly seeking higher emotions. Victim mentality with regards to past BFs, relationships…
/r/askTRP05/09/15 05:02 PM
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My family background is rich with men in the same position you are. My unsolicited advice: certifications in the short-term (such as HVAC, plumbing, electrical (journeyman) -- both residential and commercial) and a degree looking forward longer-term. If you can swing it, night school at the local technical college to earn a degree in construction/project management. Once you get out of long laborious hours, you're set. The physical part is hard on the body long-term, but managers have room for g…
/r/TheRedPill22/07/15 03:25 AM
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In this day and age: valuable (unfortunately.. Or fortunately?) You will be labeled all kinds of negative things for going off the grid. Bucking the herd has always been cause for speculation and whispers so use it to your advantage. The average person today is totally self absorbed, narcissistic and of weak ego. Record users in FB/Instagram/Twitter etc. confirm this. Use them like tools. Maintain a small presence in the platforms common to most, selectively and precisely manage the things you c…
/r/askTRP21/07/15 01:23 PM
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Always remember that you are the average of the 5 closest friends you keep. Just as you would a woman, your friends must be vetted by you before entering your world and you must actively manage their places in your life. You should give no extra thought to how long they've been around or because you grew up together. All of your friends, both past and present, must meet your benchmarks and expectations or they get the boot. As you continue to progress to the top, I can assure you the last thing …
/r/askTRP21/07/15 01:15 PM
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Ideally three suits to cover all occasions: black, navy and charcoal/gray. In a pinch, black or charcoal will cover most if not all events just fine. Avoid the chain stores (Jos. A. Bank, Men's Warehouse, etc.) as their cuts are boxy and the fabric is low quality. Have it tailored. Remember, not all tailors are alike. Generally speaking, price is proportional to the tailor's competence. A bespoke tailor will cost, but it will be done right. If you wear a suit 1-2 times per year, no need to go ov…
/r/TheRedPill17/07/15 01:23 AM
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The easiest way to get over someone is to get under another.
/r/askTRP17/07/15 01:11 AM
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Start with one. The women are the same. What you are doing by plating is not offering exclusivity like in an LTR. You meet them, do fun things, have no-strings-attached sex and when they no longer fit your needs, find a new one. Same as always, just don't commit to anything. You will find that by doing this (plating), you will get into the mindset of leading and maintaining excitement. Now, when you are tired from work, or too lazy to be bothered, etc. you don't have to see them. They will only …
/r/TheRedPill07/07/15 06:30 PM
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But I loved to pamper my GFs, I love to cook, I love to go out of my way to show how much I loved them, etc, etc... all for what? First order of business: Ask yourself why you like to do this? You are deriving internal pleasure from an external source you cannot control. This is fine and dandy until that external source goes away. When you do things from the inside out, you are in full control of your emotions and life. I want a family, I want a wife and 2-3 kids and that whole shindig. I do not…
/r/TheRedPill07/07/15 01:38 PM
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There is no such thing as a mutually-loving relationship. The man in the relationship is solely responsible for this principle. If he is sacrificially completing this task well, his partner will return her gratitude in the form of unwavering respect.
/r/TheRedPill07/07/15 01:13 PM
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Just as you exercise your body, you need to build a strong mind as well. I'd recommend you check out stoicism. Literature from this will teach you how to develop better self-control and mental fortitude. Get your hands on some work from Cicero, Seneca the Young and Marcus Aurelius. A DNGAF attitude is not something that can be faked easily for long periods of time. When people shit test you, overcoming it is simple once you learn to stop biting the bait hook they are dangling in from of you.
/r/askTRP06/07/15 01:07 PM
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You have zero status in high school aside from popularity. Material possessions are at a minimum and few if any are "status" worthy. College is no different. You're making excuses. I urge you to focus on the big picture of your life (hint: women play a very tiny part). Young men need to focus on themselves first and worry about bedding a woman a lot less. When you get older you will understand this or hate yourself for not having done it. Women come and go. You're putting the cart before the hor…
/r/askTRP26/06/15 05:25 PM
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The beauty of the future is that it's your own personal blank slate. Focus less on what you've done and more on what you're going to do. The load gets lighter when you stop carrying around the baggage of yesteryear. I recommend a nice schedule of school, gym and heavy doses of flirting with women. Your batting average will increase after you've seen a good number of pitches.
/r/askTRP26/06/15 04:10 PM
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You are at a great advantage with regards to having had these early experiences compared to those that haven't. High school and college is easy. The real world outside of those two environments is how it truly is. Take pride in the fact that you are now armed with the necessary knowledge (+ experience to solidify it in your brain) to harness the world for the taking. Life is not linear. RP knowledge is the beginning of your learning and also the end of it. Once you have the tools, apply them. Ho…
/r/askTRP26/06/15 04:03 PM
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My prescription: minimal effort, escalation and some amused mastery. If you're just looking to plate - bartenders, hostesses, waitresses, baristas, etc. are generally a huge waste of time and seeking other women would be far easier.
/r/askTRP25/06/15 02:05 AM
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Your hamstering a bit here guy. Whether you choose to plate, date, co-habitate, mate, leave it to marriage 2.0 fate, etc. Value yourself first above all and everything else will take care of itself.
/r/TheRedPill25/06/15 01:53 AM
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I mirror your sentiments. It's going to get worse before it gets better. There is massive societal breakdown that needs to see full completion.
/r/TheRedPill25/06/15 01:38 AM
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My thought is that most of today's youth generation is failing to take up the teachings of Christianity. With a decline in new followers and little hope for future recruitment, the Pope is trying a progressive approach to appeal to the new masses that hardly care about morals or nuclear families. Just a giant marketing scheme.
/r/TheRedPill24/06/15 10:20 PM
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The service industry is hard to break into for plating (but not impossible). The females in the group (waitresses, bartenders, etc.) are highly guarded by supplicating beta male coworkers and tough guy alpha-types. "It's a take care of your own" type lifestyle and job. You will need an "in" to the circle which will require her or some other employee to invite you to one of the many after parties post-bar close. Once you get the in, find out the leaders and befriend them. This will insure you sta…
/r/askTRP24/06/15 01:40 PM
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Adopt an abundance mentality Stop projecting your insecurities Find a women who values your time
/r/askTRP24/06/15 01:29 PM
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There is no timetable, however; once you realize the benefits of the knowledge outweigh the hurt they may have caused you in the past, you soon accelerate to the payoff.
/r/askTRP22/06/15 01:29 PM
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Because hypergamy says so. Women are looking to simultaneously maximize short term mating and long term provisioning. If a women is in a relationship with a: Beta - she will seek to find an alpha on the side or to branch swing when one is available. She will seek this unknowingly (natural instinct to maximize) and rationalize it as feelings. Alpha - she will seek to lock him in to provisioning as her wall approaches. When the short term rewards of mating with an alpha wear down, she must either …
/r/askTRP22/06/15 01:25 PM
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What all should seek to do is align their internal idealism with their external reality and all will be well. Happiness is nothing more than harmony and resonance with one's current place and can include any number of biological, ecological and social constructs. Edited for grammar
/r/TheRedPill22/06/15 01:07 PM
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There is no such thing as an RP job. Your best option is to get a job/career you enjoy putting time and effort into.
/r/askTRP18/06/15 11:56 AM
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"Hang out," but don't date/LTR Engage as many of her friends as possible for potentials later Only see her when your energy is high and mood is right Take her places 18-21 year old women don't usually go where you have hook ups (i.e. cool dive where you know the bartender). This will keep your novelty high. This age range is a lot of fun, but can become tiresome. Ride the wave and swim back out before it hits the shore.
/r/askTRP16/06/15 01:43 PM
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There are plenty of good answers here. A word of caution-- nexting immediate family who provide no value to you will instantly put you in RP hard mode. You will fully realize the gravity of your decision as you turn to the world for guidance (it won't come easy or free). This is the fastest way to figure out how tough of an individual you are. Be prepared for this or think twice about cutting your father out over his lack of traits you are now learning about.
/r/askTRP16/06/15 01:28 PM
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I suggest checking out Mr. Money Mustache: My advice-- Start a Roth IRA Penny stocks are tricky as liquidity can be very hard to come by and more often then not, you end up with stocks that have no value and are stuck in a no bid state. Making money with money is a grind. It doesn't happen overnight and it's not exciting in the least. Put your money on auto-pilot and let it grow. Continue to add to it incrementally and forget out it. When you get older, you will thank yourself. Compounding inter…
/r/askTRP15/06/15 01:16 PM
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Good update. Always great to hear about the positive side to things. When you have time, reflect on this. Think of buying the car as a metaphor for your relationship. You have the power to make your GF feel this way with or without a new shiny car. As always, keep up the good work brother.
/r/askTRP15/06/15 01:02 PM
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Your GF was a casual smoker before you met her. You knew this going into the LTR. Ask yourself if her casual smoking is that bothersome to you. If it is, I suggest a soft next because of the long challenge you have ahead of yourself. IMO, you acted a bit like a child by taking the cigarette out of her mouth. Tell her you don't want her to smoke and then say no more. You can give her X number of opportunities to fail this (if you choose) and if she keeps defying your wishes, let her go. Far easie…
/r/askTRP15/06/15 12:54 PM
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Your edits make you sound bitter and it lends to your age as well. Your job as a scientist each and every day is to advance your career and your field's collective knowledge through dedication to research, teaching and service. Focus on this. As a RP man, worrying about B.S. such as why we shouldn't hire women in science is childish and a waste of time. Women are emotional creatures and you should know this. Focus on finding the best individuals (both in and out of the lab) if/when you get your …
/r/askTRP12/06/15 04:54 PM
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You generally screen candidates based upon (ordered by importance): Years of research experience Published papers/writing samples LORs from PIs that directly interacted with students on a personal/professional level GRE/GPA Choice of major
/r/askTRP12/06/15 03:58 PM
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Your wife is reacting to your new 'persona.' This is completely expected and will eventually come as a welcomed challenge once you have a full grasp of the information here. The key here is to hold your frame. Agree and amplify when she sends you those types of articles. Your wife is the most responsible teenager in the room. You cannot react in an inflammatory manner, after all, she's predisposed to do it. Have fun with it.
/r/askTRP11/06/15 01:23 PM
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Whether or not it has anything to do with indoctrination, always look at it from the plus side. As a man, you possess these traits, you've been given a body capable of withstanding what the world throws at you and you have the logical faculties to achieve something that at least 50% of the population cannot/doesn't care to do.
/r/TheRedPill11/06/15 01:06 PM
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Don't shit where you eat.
/r/askTRP10/06/15 01:37 PM
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Get rid of your one-itis. She isn't special. Other men are not your competition. You are your own competition. Stop worry about other men "stealing" your GF or how your SMV is perceived by others. That's precisely what men with an SMV of 1 do. Plus, she was never yours to begin with. You are simply Mr. Now. It's up to you whether you continue to be her Mr. Now or let her go. As for your concerns, I'd usually recommend to stop wasting your time on women like this, but this will be a great learnin…
/r/askTRP10/06/15 01:27 PM
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I can personally attest to this. Over the course of six months I PR'd nearly weekly using 5X5s and was able to get to the coveted 2 plate bench press in this time as well. When you get bored of the 5X5s, pyramids work well too. Offers nice variety I've found.
/r/askTRP09/06/15 02:35 PM
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If you don't have anything constructive to say, just sit there and listen. Interject when you have something of value to add. You may be feeling the need to say something (or be funny) intentionally as a subconscious way to release your situational stress. It's common for people to spout off things at random as a natural mechanism to deflect attention, however; this process generally leads to increased attention. A good conversational tip is to not just be a participant, but a facilitator. Try a…
/r/askTRP09/06/15 02:30 PM
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Treat your LTR just as you would a plate (abundance mentality), but make sure to sprinkle in some emotion/caring/nuturing (beta traits). Your LTR will say and do all kinds of things you don't like over the course of your relationship. As the captain, it's your mission to steer the ship; that is all. If she no longer behaves according to the rules of your ship, you find a new 2nd in command.
/r/askTRP09/06/15 02:16 PM
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You don't find good girls. You make them.
/r/TheRedPill09/06/15 12:38 PM
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It's a learning process, not a change all. You're working against a very large social nurturing aspect that has deep roots. Keeping pulling those weeds my friend, the fruit will come.
/r/askTRP05/06/15 02:24 PM
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Think of anger like a tool you can wield. Tools are emotionless and for a specific purpose. But at what point does it stop being a servant, and at what point does it start becoming the master? When you let it. How can you identify this and act in time to mitigate it? Instead of the default reactionary responding, try anticipatory approaches. Continuously identify things that make you angry and learn to recognize the signs. It's futile to avoid things that make you angry, but if you prepare appro…
/r/askTRP05/06/15 02:21 PM
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You answered your own question. The person who cares the least has the most power in a relationship/arrangement. Be that person next time.
/r/askTRP05/06/15 02:06 PM
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In your career, this is very important. It's not what you know, but who you know. Work smarter, not harder. The only word of caution I can give is to not overdue it with regards to physical appearance. If you're wearing a suit everyday to a job that requires jeans and a button down this will only serve to draw attention to yourself and paint you in a negative light. Law 24 - arrange to be noticed.
/r/TheRedPill05/06/15 01:59 PM
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He did you a favor. Nobody should ever own a White Sox cap.
/r/TheRedPill03/06/15 05:00 PM
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The funny part about this whole debacle is how feminism will be tossed upside down in the long run because of this. Despite the drugs and surgeries, he (/she) will continue to age like fine wine. He (/she) will have more defined muscle and facial features, look better in high end fashion clothing (because of his body type), have a stronger physical presence, etc. I'll be laughing even more when women realize Caitlyn is a even larger idol that cannot be obtained no matter how hard women try. Once…
/r/TheRedPill03/06/15 01:33 PM
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This concept is really key in all facets of life. It reminds me of Alfred Hitchcock movies; i.e. never show the actual murder scene. Let people's imaginations fill in the gaps. It's far more effective than explaining it in subjective detail.
/r/TheRedPill03/06/15 01:23 PM
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I agree. Anytime you give special interest groups an inch, expect they take a mile. I find it alarming that holding a rational, objective view of the world and operating in that fashion is becoming a faux pas these days.
/r/TheRedPill03/06/15 01:15 PM
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Check out r/marriedredpill. Many of the concepts that apply in marriage can be extended to/amended for LTRs.
/r/askTRP03/06/15 12:57 PM
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In the context of sexual relations, a RP man pleases himself in whatever way he sees fit. With general sexual prowess and enthusiasm for the task at hand (sex), the by-product of his selfishness equates to a partner well satisfied. The take away is that Nice Guys and beta men generally feel the need to please. Their sexual satisfaction relies on that of their partner's pleasure. If she doesn't get off, they've done bad. It's fine for a man's routine to favor a women's pleasure, just make sure th…
/r/TheRedPill02/06/15 01:36 PM
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You got into a relationship with a single mom at 18 who was physically unavailable (most likely emotionally frail). You bought her numerous gifts and showered her with affection, yet cheated on her multiple times. You have feelings of one-itis for a girl long gone years ago. You still feel bad about it... no shit, anyone would. Your biggest mistake was being an asshat. Now and in the future: Choose better relationships Don't LTR a partner you plan on cheating on Observe the 2/3 golden rule in yo…
/r/TheRedPill02/06/15 01:23 PM
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I like the idea of adding it. Your article is very important with regards to a RP man in a LTR or married and if a man desires children.
/r/TheRedPill01/06/15 06:53 PM
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This has nothing to do with 'this' society. If you choose to one day enter a LTR/marriage 2.0 or move beyond plating, this will become true for you as well. The duty to give love freely and without expectation stems from man's place in a relationship. Believe it or not, having a good/great women in your life requires lots of investment and effort on your part. You will never get out what you put in. If you align yourself with the information provided here, you will understand how to more aptly d…
/r/TheRedPill01/06/15 06:36 PM
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The flow of love trickles down from man. When a woman 'loves' a man or a child 'loves' their mom, the reciprocal love that is returned is in the form of honor and respect. A woman will never be able to equally return a man’s love for her. Women and children instinctively expect love and care from their partner/parent. When those expectations of love are met, women and children reciprocate in alternate forms often mistaken for love.
/r/TheRedPill01/06/15 06:29 PM
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Great post. Always a nice refresher: Men > Women > Children > Puppies* (> = love). As men, we are the source of all love. It is our duty to give it freely without expectation or return. Love is a feeling reserved for those who receive it. When a woman tells you she loves you, what she is conveying are feelings of security and comfort. *Get a dog if you want unconditional love.
/r/TheRedPill01/06/15 04:36 PM
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at what point do I stop delaying my gratification and start giving myself the credit for where I am in my life and just start enjoying some of this shit. You are self-sabotaging based upon lack of external validation. Eliminating this inner pang will free you from your negative thinking. If you can filter out all the noise from the external, you can then begin to acknowledge the internal which has always been there. The hardest part to understand is that there is no prize at the top of the mount…
/r/askTRP01/06/15 01:45 PM
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If you ever feel a moment of weakness, find a good buddy to lean on. Buy him a beer and ask him to listen. Opening up to woman is indirectly proportional to your value in her eyes.
/r/askTRP01/06/15 01:31 PM
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In a roundabout way you should thank the guy. If your girl is thinking twice about you and suffering from wandering eye, he has done you a big favor.
/r/askTRP01/06/15 01:24 PM
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It has nothing to do with women. It has everything to do with not being properly educated on financial matters.
/r/TheRedPill01/06/15 01:03 PM
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I plated a number of these types during my early 20s as well-- artist crowd, baristas, band groupies, hipster girls, boutique retail chicks, etc. Good times indeed. Pro-tip: If you can ever meet a girl's mom, do it. Even if you're just plating her. Be the cool guy "she's hanging out with" and soak up how they speak to each other. Interject every now and then and see if you can get a few stories out of mom. If she starts talking about how carefree her single days were, boom - you're set. Easiest …
/r/TheRedPill28/05/15 09:01 PM
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Here's an idea-- Go cold turkey. Don't call her again. She will get plenty of adventure and it won't cost you a dime.
/r/askTRP28/05/15 06:12 PM
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I thought I was in good shape with my life. I'm well-educated, successful in my career, financially well off, in good physical shape, stylish, etc. I don't know exactly where I fall along the "alpha-beta spectrum" (if there is one -- one thing I'm skeptical of is dichotomies like this), but I've never had problem with women. Do you want to know a way to demonstrate all of this to her, but more importantly to yourself? Do you want to find out where on the spectrum you lie? Here's want you do. Hav…
/r/askTRP28/05/15 06:06 PM
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Mr. Wolfers, an economist at the University of Michigan, suggests couples in the 2000s and on marry "to find [their] soul mate, rather than a good homemaker or a good earner.”(http://www.nytimes.com/2014/12/02/upshot/the-divorce-surge-is-over-but-the-myth-lives-on.html?_r=0&abt=0002&abg=0) What he and most of the blue-pilled U.S. nation doesn't realize is that marrying for love is a terrible idea; with it being conditional and all... Dr. Bill Doherty at the University of Minnesota-- "2/3 of divo…
/r/TheRedPill28/05/15 05:41 PM
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Ah, she's just mad she can't get a man to stay around more than a few rolls in the hay.
/r/TheRedPill28/05/15 05:21 PM
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Some thoughts of mine on the article: The system makes it clear that women are the oppressed class and men are the privileged class, always and forever. Women need our resources and support while men only need restraint and emasculation. Women are like children. Treat them as the most grown up kid in the room and statements like this will make you laugh and swell with youthful man pride. Women are tough and willing to do anything men can do. Willing to and actually doing are two different things…
/r/TheRedPill27/05/15 02:20 PM
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How would you handle such a scenario if it were you in his position? --Lions don't concern themselves with the actions of sheep Tell your friend to stop being bothered by it and grow a pair. Get him in the gym, eating right, reading TRP literature and bettering himself as a man in his career, education, etc. Stop worrying about thirsty dudes.
/r/askTRP27/05/15 02:00 PM
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20 years of pot smoking puts you roughly in your 30s (unless you started later in life). I am not here to preach about the negatives or positives of drug use, but if you can cut it out; do it. You will save time, money and health. The detriment to your career, life and relationships following a legal conviction could seriously sideline your achievements and future potential. Being in the driver's seat of your life requires maximum effort and is no easy task. Inhibiting yourself on your journey o…
/r/askTRP27/05/15 01:40 PM
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Kudos on the excellent superb analogy.
/r/askTRP20/05/15 06:53 PM
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Step 1: Tell GF you have to go out to the store. Step 2: Leave to go to the 'store'. Step 3: Never come back. Step 4: Recover your manhood and get your life back on track.
/r/askTRP20/05/15 06:50 PM
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"A key that can open many locks is called a master key, but a lock that can be opened by many keys is a shitty lock."
/r/TheRedPill20/05/15 11:33 AM
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"How long will people continue to avoid any cognitive dissonance over the hypocrisy and paradox of the current state of affairs?" forever They have since the dawn of time. Each generation faces its own issues. What has remained consistent since the dawn of time is the lifetime personal and spiritual rewards a man can earn if he seeks what he desires, nurtures and lifts the lives of those around him, leads with integrity and honor, works hard and refuses to be beat down by the game of life. Smart…
/r/TheRedPill20/05/15 01:12 AM
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One thing I don't see talked about here much is what happens in an alpha leadership role once illness/death occurs. For each person or thing an alpha brings into his life, that is another life/thing that needs taking care of, nurturing, love, guidance, etc. Those at the lower rungs (women and children) count on that positive energy flow to keep them going. When the captain conks out, it leaves the rest of the herd stunned and frozen.
/r/TheRedPill20/05/15 12:42 AM
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The hardest part with morality aside: all human relationships are built upon value; both perceived and demonstrated. Your relationships will only be as good as the value you consistently bring to the table.
/r/TheRedPill19/05/15 07:24 PM
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One thing at a time my friend. Rome was not built in a day. Before you make an decisions on anything, you need to have a talk with yourself first. Identify a strategy(ies) to achieve the things you want now and into the future. Career goals (Teach? Climb the ladder in finance? Make more money? Save money for retiring early?, etc.) Relationship goals (Marry her v2.0? LTR? dump her?) You've managed the first step: Identify the problem. Get to thinking up solutions. Nobody is going to hand you the …
/r/askTRP19/05/15 05:57 PM
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First off, congrats on the achievements thus far. You've come a hell of a long way and I'm sure that makes your family proud. I believe you have answered your own question -- "I see myself as insecure." You may be compensating. What I've found works well in these situations and life in general is to see other men as your brothers and not your competition. Every time you get the urge to throw out a quick jab at someone, stop and think of something you can tell that guy that's positive to build hi…
/r/askTRP17/05/15 10:26 PM
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My first thought: Is this a troll post? For a kid who's just 18, you sure have a whole lot of ideals, set plans and entitled thoughts for the little you have done with your life to date. Your reality: You are just about to graduate high school (arguably the easiest educational level everyone is the US must achieve) to become a productive citizen and you have a barely passing GPA. You have preconceived notions of what type of work is for you and what's beneath you. You want to travel and work, bu…
/r/becomeaman17/05/15 10:01 PM
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How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. 1) Pick something and make a goal to work towards it. 2) When you make satisfactory progress and the wheels are moving, roll that energy into a 3) second parallel goal. 1) "I don't have any friends" and would like some. Your new mission is to work on a few social skills to make a friend. 2) Once you have a friend, invest some effort into maintaining the relationship while simultaneously using that new energy to 3) get another friend into your circl…
/r/askTRP17/05/15 04:10 PM
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Don't work to please your boss; work to please yourself and in return you shall reap the benefit of a job well done twice over.
/r/askTRP17/05/15 03:11 PM
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Think of your GF as an energizer bunny. All women want things happening all the time. Go go go. They want returns on all their emotional investments, they want things, they want everything. GF showers you with love, gifts and attention. You like it at first, but it becomes annoying because of the effort required to keep her appeased (she will demand you return what she gives - all women do). Read up on the term covert contract. You lash out at her because she is annoying and clingy (your reactio…
/r/askTRP
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It's one thing to maintain your current approach when plating women, however; this doesn't work well in LTRs. You will need to split your efforts and toe the line between alpha and beta traits. Additionally, you say your attraction is dwindling because of her. You need to base your desire for her on your own actions. Do not rely on her [lack of effort] to fuel your attraction. The only constant in a relationship is you. You lead, she follows. Your woman is a direct reflection of you. If she's bo…
/r/askTRP
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Are women more emotional creatures than men or are they emotionless? Being an emotional creature and possessing emotional capacity are two different things. The excerpt you quote is regarding the latter. So they just decide what makes sense in the now as a last resort? Women are plenty capable of making rational, well-thought decisions just as men. However; possessing moral agency is required in order to do this. Situations that require a large degree of moral agency are most times difficult, st…
/r/askTRP
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This would be a comfort test. Women need drama in their lives. They are fueled by emotions. Sans real drama, they will manufacture it to get the feels. An LTR is a push-pull dynamic. She is testing you to see if you love her still and care about her. This is the time when you embrace her, show her some caring masculinity and assure her all will be well. This will happen often if you err too much on the alpha side. If you err too much on the beta side, expect more shit testing instead of comfort …
/r/askTRP
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Outside of bucket list items: decide early if you'd like to have a job or career. Your 20s are a key time to build a career. Many people recommend you live up your 20s-30s (which is all fine and dandy), but chances are those that spent a decade traveling/partying/not perfecting their craft are not entertaining Mid-career promotions and securing a place in the top of their career. Something to consider... It is very difficult to do both. I am not suggesting to not have fun, but what you choose in…
/r/askTRP
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[door test] (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qyj2VNVB8qk)
/r/TheRedPill
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It's best to move on. What's in the past is in the past. As you vet women in the future for plating/relationships, her mother is always a great reference. Rare instances aside, most women resemble their mothers. This is who they received guidance from and their very first impressions of what being a "good" woman means.
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