I met a HB8 Brazillian through Ok Cupid and hit it off right away. I have been seeing her consistently for over a month since she moved to my area for an au pair job, and decided to escalate and make her my LTR this past weekend.

Last weekend I wanted to lay the ground rules and we agreed to not have contact with any girls and guys outside of our relationship. I kept my dating apps to match with girls to have leads in the event of things going south.

On monday, I matched with an HB9 who claimed she was Columbian and looked like a thicker Kylie Jenner. My bio mentions that I'm a tech guy buy day and hired muscle by night (software sales and bouncer). She makes a comment analogizing me to Batman and we start going back and forth to the point where I ask when she's free, although I had every intention of ghosting her to keep her on the back burner in the event things ended with the Brazillian.

The very next morning I get screenshots from my HB8 of my conversation with the other girl, and tells me to never speak to her again and it was over. She blocked my cell phone and all social media. I eventually get a hold of her through my other line and tell her that I'm deeply sorry, and promise to focus my attention on her and not any other girl. I also ask her to meet me for just 10 minutes and if she decided she didn't want me anymore I would leave her alone for good. She said no multiple times, but I assured her she would regret turning me away, and eventually agreed to meet.

Fast forward to that night, I pick her up from her host family's house and she is cross armed, not looking at me, with her hand in front of her mouth, probably waiting for the right time to drop the final bomb on me. I go in for a kiss and she yells at me to get off of her and she only wanted to tell me in person it was over. I continue to caress her leg and smirk, and she looks at me very confused as if I should have yielded to her request. We get to my house and she goes on about how she cannot trust me anymore and we are no longer together. I calmly told her that was not an option and I would not quit on her like that because I am a fighter and do what it takes to win her trust again. After playing a tennis match and refusing her statements that we were no longer together I sense her body loosening up and I go in for a kiss, and we end up fucking passionately in my living room. To this day she has become more and more attached.

I found out later that the girl who messaged me was not Columbian, but my girlfriend's friend from Brazil, who she had message me to see if I would bite.

I do not condone messaging other girls while in a LTR and I am aware I was completely in the wrong. This experience has confirmed my belief that if a woman is attracted to you, and you are the strong, unmoving rock who makes the decisions while keeping frame, there is no limit to what she will do for you, even if it means going against her own ideals to keep you.

TL;DR: Failed a shit test, got dumped, held frame, and got her back.