Just broke a long dry spell with this new plate.  Despite good of reference experience, I was mentally committed to my first and last borderline but became chronically depressed and lost all my momentum with the breakup.  Took me about a year to recover a baseline effective single mindset and 3 months to get back to where I was before we started seeing each other.   As a bit of background I’m a very good looking guy, 6’1”, beard, 200 lbs and pretty lean.  A year after the breakup, I’m at school right now and have a boat load of potential plates checking me out and gossiping about me but something prevented me from plating them.  Scarcity.  Despite great past reference experience for some time I’ll confess I was a “Good looking loser”.  I used to be a guy who "gets it” but in my dry spell I forgot.  I was scared of rejection and started enjoying rejecting and being dismissive to chicks who wanted me in exchange for what I really wanted which was to hook up.  I cared too much about my reputation and the embarrassment of potential rejection in such a small academic program.  Dismissive-Avoidance will always be a dimension of my game but it worked against me brutally.  I wasn’t getting rejected at all but wasn’t succeeding either. 

I was on swipe apps and went on dates but it didn’t click like it did a year ago when I was getting laid on first dates regularly.  During my dry spell I was going on dates and getting blown out on kiss closes.  But yesterday I established man to woman and sexual talk pre-date, truly assumed success rather than pumping myself up, played it cool and broke the streak with sopping wet kinky bareback sex with a first date who’s name I didn’t even know (met with screennames), who’s now blowing up my DM calling me daddy and sending nudes to the extent that its literally been annoying me at work. I may never have to initiate if I hold frame here.    

Got another well prepped meet up already dtf on text for Wednesday but this has been a preface to my reflection on the mental shift this has occurred:

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  1. Success with women is the only way to truly escape scarcity mindsets and oneitis.  You can go on and on about affirmations, "working on inner game”, reading theory, approaching more, or reflecting on abundance but all these efforts are minuscule in comparison to a good fuck.  Go fuck 10 other women is totally true.  After yesterday I’m regaining this frequency of energy that's effective with women.  It's like a 6th sense in which you communicate abundance in a totally subconscious way that no one can explain.  It's like a car that drives it self and you realize you’ve been pressing the break and steering all wrong. It’s intuitive.  You don’t have to think and at this point you SHOULD NOT think about theory.  Just keep the energy snowballing and project it at girls.  If you have to which you may, think about fucking your last plate while talking to a new girl.
  2. Assume every girl is all girls.  Now let's say you get a yourself a plate or two.  Now assume every girl is part of the collective entity you are approaching with this sexually calibrated energy.  Don’t dry lines in the sand, make assumptions and judgments or establish limited beliefs. Approach every woman the same as a continuation of the last and a part of a whole.
  3. Anyone can lose momentum, abundance, frame and inner game.  Success with women is a constant upkeep and just because you look like Brad Pitt, have good SMV with money, looks or status doesn’t mean you can’t loose your mojo and become a guy who doesn’t "get it”.  There are guys who “get it” without LMS who kill it with women because they have the 6th sense from recent and upcoming positive reference experiences.  
  4. There's an enormous difference between no plates, and one or more plates lead to more plates.  Even having one active plate is arguably “scarcity”, but all the mindfulness techniques to align yourself with an abundance mindset is mental gobblygoop in comparison to getting out there and swinging until you score even if your scarcity mindset has you batting 0.087.  A run scored is a streak begun.  Slumps and hot streaks happen in baseball for a reason.