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I think you might be autistic.
/r/askMRP30/05/22 04:08 AM
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This reads like a woman wrote it and is bitching about her husband. You are not leading. You are not the captain in your house. Is this normal? No. However, it’s not much different than what we see a lot around here. My advice is you have a lot of work to do. You’re lying to yourself if you think you are leading.
/r/askMRP26/05/22 08:17 PM
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This was way more than OP deserved. If OP (or anyone else in a similar boat) doesn't "get it" after reading this the cause is hopeless. Nice breakdown and you can't spell it out any clearer than that.
/r/askMRP13/04/22 05:43 PM
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3 days a week is minimum. The floor. Do no less than this type of rule. It won't get you to where you want to be based on your stats. All of the guys that come into my gym and lift 3 days a week and walk out come back in the next time looking the exact same as before. It is pretty much bare minimum maintenance. You won't turn any heads unless you started with an already awesome physique and foundation. Look around at the guys at the gym that are stacked and ripped. Watch what they do. Watch thei…
/r/askMRP07/04/22 11:21 PM
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What was the point of all of this text? This is paragraph after paragraph of excuses. You get what you deserve. Start figuring out how to stop making excuses and get some actual shit done. I'm probably wasting my time. If after 14 months that hasn't clicked I don't think you will ever get it to be honest. If Planet Fitness sucks (which it does) go somewhere else. My gym offers child care which is perfect for your toddler. No excuses faggot. Go down each and every one of your complaining excuse r…
/r/askMRP04/03/22 11:51 PM
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At 30% body fat I guarantee the maid fantasy wasn’t coming OP’s way. Her only fantasy was dreaming of cleaning off the Twinkie and Ding Dong wrappers from his desk in hopes he stops eating like a fat ass and perhaps sucks just a little bit less than he currently does.
/r/askMRP12/02/22 04:36 AM
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You can try trolling us again sometime, but this was definitely written by a female.
/r/askMRP31/01/22 02:29 AM
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I don’t really know your backstory. She could simply be a bitch. She might also be acting out because it gets her what she wants or how she wants you to behave. You have all the tools in here to change that dynamic. Just be prepared for it to get much worse before it gets better. Also, be prepared for it to get so bad that it might not ever get better. She will go ape shit nuclear if the button she continually presses stops working. We talk about using her as a sparing partner. It may work out f…
/r/askMRP25/01/22 03:35 PM
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It sounds like you are trying to hard. While no one really wants to STFU and come off autistic. It is really your ego that is hurting here. Validation is what you are seeking and pissed off about. We is she valuing something else over me. At the end of the day, I would argue almost every chump that's passed through MRP was really after validation than sex. Why am I high SMV, hot, fit, rich, smart, whatever and not getting what I want with her? What you need is a little more IDGAF than anything. …
/r/askMRP24/01/22 07:44 PM
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When I Say Anything I Feel Guilty
/r/askMRP24/01/22 07:23 PM
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Better yet, you should build this into a PowerPoint with some killer Excel charts and graphs of ratios and the percent improvement she will see in her life. She will be so wet by the time you are done explaining and reasoning with her.
/r/askMRP14/01/22 07:23 PM
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Obese diabetics are warned all the time that if they don't lose weight they will lose their feet. And, all the time, obese diabetics are having their feet amputated. You would think the threat of losing a part of your body would be enough motivation to lose weight. But, some people just don't get it or ever change their habits regardless of motivation. Brad Pitt (or insert whoever Chad you want here) could walk up to a 300lb hambeast of a girl and say that if she can drop down to 120-130lbs he w…
/r/askMRP14/01/22 06:51 PM
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PE is 100% mental. Ask me how I know. Take /u/ImpatientZen 's advice. Just have fun fucking. I would bust way too quickly when I put so much pressure on sex. If you've been hyping up that one thing you wanted to do all day and finally get there you're fucked. Just live in the moment and roll with those animalistic instincts. I couldn't last very long when I first started MRP. Keep building abundance, just have fun, and you will find that eventually you bust when your damn good and ready to bust.…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/21 10:43 PM
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I don't post here much lately. Had a few minutes to spare and decided to drop in. You need to slow your roll. You are trying to do too much. Back when I came here it was one month for each year she has known you. That puts you at almost a year before you should be approaching a main event. If you are getting into as many arguments and fights as this are you are definitely not STFU. Find ways to disengage. You don't need to wilt, but full frontal combat is rarely the best way to go. She will have…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/21 10:24 PM
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It's been ages since I've posted. Not sure if I will even log back in to check comments. Dusted off the old Reddit login just to poke my head in. First off, you shouldn't be trying to control this many people. You can influence people at best. The direct approach never works. Everyone is too defensive to be receptive. Listen to this Jocko podcast which explains why the indirect approach is always better than being direct. However, you might not be ready for it. The fact that you want to "win" va…
/r/askMRP09/12/21 03:52 AM
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See my edit to my original comment. I'm done here. Thanks for playing.
/r/askMRP16/10/20 07:25 PM
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Please start over. Do not pass Go. Do not collect $200. Start the fuck over. You are a complete mess. I've withdrawn attention in the house several times before and it doesn't make a difference. No shit? It only works if she values your attention. Just slow down, work on yourself. That is why STFU is so important. Because no amount of verbal jui jitsu is going to make any difference when you are where you are. Just stop. Work on yourself. Take care of your baby instead of treating it like a godd…
/r/askMRP16/10/20 07:14 PM
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Pressure flipping is an excellent tool. To practice, just start rephrasing things into a question back to them. It seems a little weird when you first start doing it, but it immediately puts you in the driver seat of a conversation. Most people naturally answer questions directly. Also, most people never really recognize what you are doing because it is such a subtle technique. For me, it was a game changer and made the other techniques like fogging etc. easier. But yeah, /u/arm_candy has a poin…
/r/askMRP12/10/20 01:04 AM
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I figured this would be how you would respond. Re-read your very own post. Your very own words. How your wife reacts to your usage, the way you act, cope, the fact that you felt you would be a better father sober, etc. You can claim there are no negative affects and you can bullshit me all you want. I'm just an anonymous internet stranger. Just don't bullshit yourself. I can see your simply not ready. Many aren't. Good luck man.
/r/askMRP01/10/20 04:03 AM
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Nice try. This was definitely written by a woman. This post and your post history give it away.
/r/askMRP01/10/20 03:45 AM
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Be honest, the marijuana does affect you. You are dependent on it for coping with life. It is hard to lift heavy shit when you need a crutch to stand on. You can't ever be your best self on it. It affects more of your life than you know. You can try to convince me otherwise and justify with who knows what excuse. Just like all the other fuckers on here that are convinced that their video game addiction or whatever doesn't affect them either. If you were to not bullshit yourself and be honest you…
/r/askMRP01/10/20 03:36 AM
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Lookup covert contracts, niceguys, and butthurt. After that you should probably lookup dumbass too. It should give you some answers if you really want to know.
/r/askMRP01/10/20 03:30 AM
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Cool, but as /u/selectairline said as his short answer. Who gives a fuck? That's why the question is stupid. It is just a waste of time. If you were overhearing a bunch of girls in a group chatting and saying "Did you totally hear what Danica said?" while making their disgusted valley girl face. It is the same thing. But, we aren't women or a bunch of hens. So, who gives a fuck? Worry about you.
/r/askMRP30/09/20 04:53 PM
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This is a stupid question, but I feel like wasting my time today. It is all about SMV. Danica Patrick was never a 10 and her SMV decreases each and every day as she ages. However, you could argue that her SMV is still quite high. Or, at least higher than most other 38 year old women in the general population. Will she ever be able to pull another Aaron Rodgers at 38? Hell no. Will Danica Patrick still be able to pull in a higher quality male out of the general population, yes. Why? Her SMV is hi…
/r/askMRP30/09/20 04:08 PM
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she hasn’t lost the weight she’s been wanting to lose ever since we met. This might be my favorite. What the hell were you expecting? You married an overweight girl, who has always been overweight, and magically think she is going get super lean and sexy because your "married"???
/r/askMRP29/09/20 10:53 PM
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The marriage should complement your mission. It should not BE the mission. You want a companion for the ride/journey to make it enjoyable. She is there for the good company, the help around the house, the sex. She should improve your life not distract or take away from it. She is an accessory or complement to the mission. I recently got a Dodge Challenger Hellcat. Love that car. However, my life's mission is not the car. Nor was I working just to buy the car. The car simply makes my ride/journey…
/r/askMRP28/09/20 04:01 AM
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https://bmurphyledger.files.wordpress.com/2013/10/linc.jpg
/r/askMRP28/09/20 03:44 AM
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This would be super easy if you knew you could pull another girl without any issue. At 6’4” and 160lbs you are skeletal. I was 6’0” 150lbs only about 5 years ago. Trust me. Life is different at 6’0” 190lbs and I’m still not where I want to be. Hit the gym, lift hard, and eat a lot. I used to think I couldn’t put on muscle. Nope. Hitting the gym 5-6 days a week hard for the next 2-3 years will fix more shit in your life than you ever thought possible. You should be 200lbs in 2-3 years. The gym sh…
/r/askMRP06/09/20 03:40 PM
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You don't want to tell her and come off as weak, uncertain, scared, etc. So, you are contemplating just sweeping this under the rug which you realize sounds like a bitch move. The other alternative, in your mind, is breaking down like a little girl in front of her which is also a bitch move. Formulate a plan and a vision for the future. It takes the uncertainty out of the picture, conveys confidence, and that you aren't clueless. That is really all you need to do. If you are confident then she w…
/r/askMRP01/09/20 12:02 AM
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When you willingly hand over your balls to the MIL you need to ask permission to have her take them out of her purse.
/r/askMRP27/08/20 03:06 PM
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Wow! I can't believe that happened. What a bitch! But, guess who the bitch is OP?
/r/askMRP27/08/20 03:05 PM
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It's like she's testing me.
/r/askMRP26/08/20 07:08 PM
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”I’m her first boyfriend” Let that sink in. Meaning, she is 19 and will likely have at least a few boyfriends in her life. She is testing the waters. It’s just your turn bro. You have other options right?
/r/askMRP22/08/20 07:45 PM
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Four weeks postpartum? This is a comfort test you dumbass. Since you post way too many stupid questions here I'm not investing any more of my time to hold your hand and walk you through this situation. Use the sidebar and your brain to guide you. Yes, you are correct, don't do this over text.
/r/askMRP17/08/20 06:58 PM
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But did you hear what Sally said behind her back in the lunchroom at work? The nerve of that bitch!
/r/askMRP10/08/20 04:37 AM
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Here is some more advice. Believe it or not, I have been there. In fact, I still have tendency to get into a work first mindset. I can put my nose to the grindstone with the best of them. I have plenty of years as a beta plowhorse. I can work,... hard. No doubt about it. However, all work and no play makes justpickanyusername a dull boy. You seem to be doing all of this MRP "work" (lifting, keto, loading rock) as if there is some magical payoff in the end. True, there are some good things that w…
/r/askMRP05/08/20 04:23 PM
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You sound fun.
/r/askMRP04/08/20 04:57 AM
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Wow thank you for the dynamite kind sir.
/r/askMRP29/07/20 04:46 PM
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This is a long process my friend. At 24 years of marriage you likely have about 24 months ahead of you of "doing it right" before you get to where you want to be. Don't ignore the advice of doing this for you. There are no magic tricks here. There isn't some perfect phrase you can say or some quick thing you can do. What we do in here is transform you into an attractive male. The only real relation this has to your wife is that she more than likely likes attractive males. Since you will hopefull…
/r/askMRP29/07/20 04:39 AM
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Generally speaking, would you ask your boss or the CEO of the company to go get you a drink? Would you ask a subordinate? Without getting into all of the weird one off scenarios where the above wouldn't apply and going with the 99% of the time when it does, does that make you the boss or the subordinate? It may be a "mild" shit test, but she is still checking to make sure she still has pull in the house and that you are obedient. Once you start recognizing the shit tests for what they are your e…
/r/askMRP24/06/20 07:30 PM
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Read the divorce advice section on the sidebar. If you don't know what a sidebar is, use your computer and not your phone to browse Reddit.
/r/askMRP24/06/20 04:10 AM
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Just start talking and being friendly. No real end game in mind. Just to chat. That means talking to bros, women, old people, whatever. As far as hobbies, I would go back and remember what you used to do before becoming a faggot. For me, I started doing some of the things I would do in high school. For example, I would play basketball for 2-3 hours a day. I loved it. Getting back out and playing pickup with some guys was awesome. I realized that I still love basketball and that I still have a pa…
/r/askMRP19/06/20 08:29 PM
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Well, you’re self aware enough to know that you are a weak skinny fat faggot, but not smart enough to know that unless your game is masterful and tight as shit it won’t matter. Also, I should clarify that MRP fixes the man. We don’t give a shit about your wife. She either comes along for the ride or not. You didn’t read a guarantee anywhere on this subreddit that she would come around and suddenly turn incredibly hot and latch onto your cock 24/7 with her mouth. You imagined that one on your own…
/r/askMRP14/06/20 04:14 AM
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Oh no! What on earth would an attractive 36 year old man with popping muscles do to find another woman? He probably wouldn't be able to find one as old and wise as his current 36 year old wife. He would probably only be able to find those less mature 20 something year old women to replace her with. What a shame. Sorry mate.
/r/askMRP28/05/20 07:52 PM
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Well, I’ve done my fair share of stupid things dieting and lifting in the last few years. Oddly enough, the more I have done both I have come to find out that what is typically preached here is what is actually effective and is what most consistently works. I can also see that nothing I will say will likely sway your opinion right now as you’ve convinced yourself it will give you the results you want. Good luck and I hope you make it far enough along to learn, recalibrate, and get better.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/20 03:56 AM
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Plan is to dry fast for first 48 hours min. and then continue with a water only fast until I hit 7 days. Be realistic and don't be stupid. This is short-term pain, with the possibility of death (albeit probably not after 7 days), with no lasting long-term gain. This is a journey. If it were just as simple as fasting for 7 days to get a great body everyone would have one. I do promote Intermittent Fasting. It isn't all that hard, it is sustainable, it won't literally kill you, and it is actually …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/20 06:24 PM
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Yes, society needs sanitation workers, people to flip burgers, and stock the shelves at the grocery store. It is vital to a functioning society. So, the question is, do you want to cleanup shit? Or, do you want something more? Being in the top 20% is there for those that want it. There are plenty perfectly content flipping burgers. Are you? If so, great. We don’t give a shit about the other 80% nor should we. Yes, that is their choice whether they know it or not. For those that want more they ha…
/r/askMRP27/04/20 02:56 AM
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Acta non verba
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/20 03:56 PM
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Sounds like a troll.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/20 05:09 AM
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I have some flash card ideas for you: I’m a faggot I haven’t accomplished or changed shit Two weeks is nothing What are my lifts? Do I have any friends? DREAD? Stop even mentioning “Dark Souls” because it’s gay Stop posting on marriedredpill and use askMRP for my naive posts Understand what hysterical bonding is and means STFU Read more so I don’t sound retarded when I post That should get you started. Your welcome
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/20 07:35 PM
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There is a difference between creepy and sexy. Same lines, but a different outcome. Since your wife doesn't regularly fuck you these are all creepy as hell. No wonder she gets mad at you rather than giggly and flirty. I'm glad that it amuses you and that you DGAF anymore, but there comes a point where you just need to stop and do something different. I don't understand you.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/20 10:43 PM
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Yeah, an Ivy League guy would have known those numbers would have outed him. Unless you’re telling me this guy isn’t Ivy League either. Wait, people can just post and say whatever the fuck they want on the internet?
/r/askMRP13/03/20 12:19 PM
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My question is why are you surprised that a smoker is smoking?
/r/askMRP04/03/20 01:52 PM
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Cool that you went backdoor on your wife for the first time. Not cool that you didn’t recognize based on her actions and the readings here that you weren’t the first one in there. She is wanting the freedom to have Chad fuck her in the ass and get a piece of your promotion. Her opening of another orifice to you was just trying to tie you down and to placate you into looking the other way to her actions. It wasn’t because she thinks you are all alpha now. The ILYBINILWY speech is usually the nail…
/r/askMRP04/03/20 01:49 PM
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If they are difficult to deal with, switch jobs and find a better environment. You can sometimes influence people, but you can’t control them. It may or may not be worth the mental energy in your situation to try and make it work. That is entirely up to you. You sound fairly far down in the pecking order. One reason why I personally don’t like the really large corporate environment.
/r/askMRP17/02/20 10:43 PM
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It is only on the Married Redpill subreddit, not askMRP. https://old.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/
/r/askMRP07/02/20 03:57 PM
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To be fair, it looks like OP wanted to crash and burn on purpose. He is just a too much of a pussy to pull the plug and end it on his own. Decided ~2 months ago to pursue cheating. Not surprising given my age (+ low N count) She doesnt care about me, it's just a business arrangement, so why should I care about her. Plan to cheat and tell her. He also not only wants to fuck his wife's friend, but her sister too. My wife's sister is kind of cute. She may be 40 but she turns me on. She is not tradi…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/20 03:17 PM
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TIL that chocolates, flowers, foot rubs, posting a video of you squatting (make sure her friends and siblings see it), lifting her off her feet, and parading around in nothing but your underwear works. You might need to bite her hand first or be retarded for full effect though.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/20 05:11 PM
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Not sure I’m pulling for you here. Usually, I want to side with the man. You have not acted at all like one. I think she made the right decision to kick your ass to the curb and take control of the family. Shape up or you will never see your kids much. We nor she can motivate you to wake the fuck up. You just sound like you are lazy. You get what you deserve. Ideally, you get your head on straight and be there for your kids. Right now, it’s probably best where things are at. Your move.
/r/askMRP03/02/20 03:43 AM
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I haven't completely narrowed down what red is into. But I think I have it down to either butt stuff or ass play. I wish he would just mention it more and be more explicit. Then I would know which of the two it really is.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/20 04:20 PM
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but you're missing a photo holding a piece of paper that says "roast me" with a shit-faced grin.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/20 12:09 AM
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Let me explain it to you because you are obviously not getting it. See, when you state your question so plainly it does makes no sense. That is why you have to step back and really work at it. You need to write a wall of text in between both statements filled with all kinds of mental gymnastics to arrive at a such an opposing conclusion. You have to create some distance between the statements to hide the absurdity. And that is how you make stupid decisions and feel good about it. It really isn't…
/r/askMRP21/01/20 06:29 PM
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Hey! It took OP over a year to hamster that scenario out of his ass. He really worked hard on convincing himself he is living life by his own rules. Show some respect.
/r/askMRP21/01/20 03:31 PM
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Instead of “you’re just laying there” you say “flip over” or “push back into me” or “suck my cock”. One phrase starts a meltdown and the other gives her tingles. Most women, when properly aroused and attracted to you, like the direct commands. One is directly stating to her what you want and the other just tells her you are dissatisfied without giving her any idea of what you want. Which one is leading in the bedroom and which one is bitching in the bedroom?
/r/askMRP17/01/20 01:57 PM
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Karen? Is that you?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/20 08:06 PM
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Frame is not some magical set of mind tricks and skills to get her to bend to your will. Frame is the world as you see it through your own personal lens. She is either going to go with her friend or not. There really isn’t much you can do about it other than being a man of value and playing what little cards we have, those being time and attention. “Holding frame” as you put it has more to do with how you respond than getting her to stay and go when you want. If she goes with a friend, what does…
/r/askMRP12/01/20 07:50 PM
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You will actually grow into it. When I first started eating more I felt so full and hardly had an appetite to eat anything more. You need to muscle it down anyways and make sure you are eating everything you need to each day. Couple that with lifting and you will grow. I was always skinny in grade school growing up and into my thirties. It can be done. Lift heavy and eat big. They say these things for a reason. Good luck man. It will take a 2-3 years, but it will be worth it. Don't skip gym days…
/r/askMRP10/01/20 10:03 PM
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MyFitnessPal app. You don't need a food scale. It will give you the macros for whatever your eating. It is close enough.
/r/askMRP10/01/20 09:03 PM
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You need some muscles. I was once upon a time 6'0" @ 150lbs. I was a bean pole. You are two inches taller than me and about the same weight I was. She should be distracted by your muscles and not your freckles that look like chocolate chips. It can be done. The day I started lifting I was 150.0 lbs even. Five years later I just now surpassed 200 lbs. I also haven't missed very many days in the gym in those five years and I have eaten well. Even still, I have made a ton of lifting and dieting mis…
/r/askMRP08/01/20 07:20 PM
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I’m in decent shape. I workout at least twice a week. She’s not ugly Sounds like you are both in "decent" shape, not ugly, and your SMV's are aligned. So, what's the problem? I'm awaiting your delusional reply that you are a 9 or 10 and get that from working out twice a week. Take an honest look in the mirror at yourself and you will have your answer.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/20 05:03 PM
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Running MAP on peri menopausal or menopausal women Your title tells me all I need to know. You have made your wife your mission. That's not how it works fucktard. Go back to the beginning and start over.
/r/askMRP06/01/20 04:55 PM
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Set some boundaries offline with her first. I agree that correcting and reprimanding her shouldn’t typically happen in front of the kids. Yes, you are the final word in the home, but you can’t cut off the hands of your first officer by usurping her authority when she disciplines while you are away. Exception being if/when she steps out of line in front of the kids she will be exposing herself to being corrected in front of them. As long as these are clear you really shouldn’t have a ton of pushb…
/r/askMRP04/01/20 02:41 AM
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Why don’t you take a step back? You don’t sound like you want to separate, so don’t do something you are not ready for. General rule of thumb is add a month for each year you have known her to make a full turnaround with MRP. So, in your case about 15 months. You haven’t had time to even begin applying some of the things you have read here. It is a process for you and for her. Tap the brakes. Who cares if it looks like you pulled a 180? Own it and make a better decision once your head is screwed…
/r/askMRP02/01/20 02:45 AM
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For cardio after lifting... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IWu9o5zrj3g
/r/askMRP31/12/19 06:55 PM
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It is 100% in your head. Yeah, I’m sure there are some medical cases out there, but seeing where you are in your journey I doubt that is the case and not all that unusual from what we see here. When I started three years ago I had similar issues. I don’t think it was quite as severe as letting it fly during foreplay and I was never a two pump chump. But, I consider premature ejaculation finishing before you want to and I could never hold it as long as I wanted. The further along I got in my jour…
/r/askMRP28/12/19 08:13 PM
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You should lurk here more often. Otherwise, posts like this will go completely over your head.
/r/askMRP28/12/19 01:16 AM
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You should measure yourself to Richard Simmons.
/r/askMRP23/12/19 04:52 PM
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Well, regardless, stay the course. She can howl and rage and it really shouldn’t matter. She will either accept the new you or she won’t. As long as you will no longer accept the old you is what matters. This is for you, not for her. Don’t tell her it is to make yourself more attractive to her. It is to make yourself more attractive in general to anyone. She just has the first shot with the new you.
/r/askMRP21/12/19 06:05 PM
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There are way more giant fucking losers around here than I anticipated. If he is content with being miserable in a marriage than I suppose ignorance is bliss? Knowing what I know I simply can’t live life ignorant and content simply as a passenger. Life is what you make of it.
/r/askMRP21/12/19 06:01 PM
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My go to in the beginning was agree and amplify. If she corrects you on something just act totally retarded. If you are putting on soccer cleats on your 10 year old and she inserts herself, tell her “oh, thank you. I was struggling with these. A few minutes ago I had the shoe laces strangled around his neck. Good thing you pointed me in the right direction. Wink.” She will likely get huffy or call you an asshole. Repeat this a few more times and she will likely stop inserting quite so frequently…
/r/askMRP21/12/19 05:04 PM
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Sounds like she may be projecting. DB for three years. You sure she hasn’t been cheating on you? Kind of seems like she wants the puppy dead if everything truly is as you’ve described.
/r/askMRP21/12/19 04:54 PM
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Logic seems sound. Let’s go ahead and cut off my nose to spite my face.
/r/askMRP21/12/19 04:43 PM
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I guess I didn’t realize the faggotry ran so deep in askMRP. It kind of has always been the dumpster fire of MRP, but I’m shocked to see all of the upvotes and this to be the top comment here. In case anyone is wondering, this is bad advice. It is very defeatist and incongruent with MRP. Don’t stay in a miserable situation as if you have no control. You are not a passenger in life, but the driver. Otherwise, you will be taken places you don’t want to go. Your balls are the keys to your own car. …
/r/askMRP21/12/19 03:57 PM
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Remember fellas, SHE CHEATED. I don’t care how much of a faggot OP has been. Yes, it sucks and the pocketbook may take a hit. Where’s the abundance? You can find someone else and always make more money. Nah, let’s just be miserable for the next 15 years. You get what you deserve OP.
/r/askMRP21/12/19 05:24 AM
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The program calls for 2 power days and 3 hypertrophy days. I combined the last 3 hypertrophy days into 2. I pull a couple of things out to condense it to two days and rotate them back in the following week while still hitting each muscle group. I just don't hit every accessory exercise weekly, but I make sure to keep the more core lifts in there. I only messed with the accessory stuff. It was too much for me without a recovery day between the power and hypertrophy days.
/r/askMRP20/12/19 07:13 PM
2

Agreed. I did really well on it in the beginning and saw some really good results. Then, it was like hitting a brick wall. It just isn't sustainable long-term.
/r/askMRP20/12/19 07:07 PM
2

It is called PHAT. It is a Layne Norton program. There are probably a lot of similarities. The overall concept is to keep both sides from plateauing. If you are plateauing on strength, you likely don't have enough muscle and need some hypertrophy to assist. If you are plateauing on hypertrophy, your body has adapted and you need some more strength to be able to breakthrough. I did the Arnold Blueprint as well for about 6 months. It had some similarities to PHAT, but the workout duration and volu…
/r/askMRP20/12/19 06:52 PM
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Seeing how you are a n00b, I would just stick with a plan. I don't run 5x5 anymore, but it is a good beginners program. I've wasted a lot of time creating my own ideal plan. Stick with what works. Sure, I have adapted some plans slightly, but I don't venture too far off of the principles and setup of the plan. Don't try getting too cute with anything. At least, not yet. I personally like the plans have a little bit of strength and hypertrophy built into them. The one I run now is power Mon & Tue…
/r/askMRP20/12/19 05:56 PM
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I think this is the most relevant question, why? It feels like a big ass covert contract to me as well. OP seems to be taking the approach of "how do I become a better plow-horse for everyone" rather than properly unfucking himself first. You can't be an oak unless you have a balance of alpha and beta. I doubt he has much alpha to begin with so there is nothing to build with anyways. OP is trying to skip a step. It doesn't work. Sidebar and lift. Still the best book for building an oak.
/r/askMRP18/12/19 07:16 PM
4

This is all I use. You do need to do something, but I have a hard time having a routine for my face that is more involved than my wife's. Just clean your face and then use something like this. There are others, but I like this one because it barely smells like anything, it is affordable, is easy to find, and checks the major boxes for stuff you should be applying to your face to protect it. I only want my cologne to be fragrant, not a billion scents from deodorants, lotions, hair products, etc. …
/r/askMRP17/12/19 04:46 PM
1

Not a tripod, but certainly so versed in game that he was able to do what he could do. Just like a really good looking dude without game or status can pull in girls or an ugly rich billionaire that can get women. Those are the extremes of each “leg”. If you have all three you are set. I’m not personally a fan, but Leonardo DiCaprio would be a good example. Good looking, game, and status. His weakness is probably muscle. If he could rip off his shirt in movies and have women gasp he would be maxi…
/r/askMRP14/12/19 11:04 PM
6

Lookup Grigori Rasputin. It's not always about looks. By all accounts this dude was ugly, yet he banged nearly everyone of importance in Russia. Looks, game, status. It is a tripod. If you have only one or two of these things you aren't stable. You have looks. You have status/money. You are lacking game ie: feelz. That's what she was getting from this other dude.
/r/askMRP14/12/19 12:12 AM
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"And /u/merrill1400, with his feet ice cold in the comments, stood puzzling and puzzling, how could it be so? It came without negotiations. It came without demands. It came without packages, boxes or bags. And he puzzled and puzzled 'till his puzzler was sore. Then the /u/merrill1400 thought of something he hadn't before. What if attraction, he thought, doesn't come from a roar? What if attraction, perhaps, means a little bit more?"
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/19 11:37 PM
6

She cried because every unhappy wife is a rape is a rape victim. https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3fpefe/every_unhappy_wife_is_a_rape_victim/
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/19 07:23 PM
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If someone younger, hotter, nicer with similar interests came my way I know I'd never look back. You're answering your own question. Why don't you have a line of younger, hotter, nicer women with similar interests lined up? Wait, you can't get them to line up? Oh, I see the problem now. Lift and sidebar, faggot.
/r/askMRP10/12/19 11:25 PM
2

Ouch. Those links were painfully telling of OP. I mean who’s wife goes ivory instead of white on the dress? That’s just unbelievably infuriating.
/r/askMRP10/12/19 05:39 AM
2

They are fake. When something just feels off it’s usually because it is.
/r/askMRP05/12/19 02:18 AM
2

Feels like a troll here. We talk about a lot of things here, but dick size is rarely the reason this would occur. You need the sidebar far more than you can use an extra inch on your dick. Sucks she’s gone. You were blindsided. Now figure out why so it doesn’t happen again. And if it does, you won’t be blindsided or option less like this time.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/19 04:20 AM
2

If you are climbing a mountain does it make sense to take a step back for every step up? Just commit to a steady bulk. Once complete, cut. If you want to know what works follow what traditional body builders have been doing for years. Eat, sleep, and lift like they do and you will be fine. There really aren’t shortcuts. I’ve spun my wheels before trying to bulk and cut all at the same time. You just stay in neutral for the most part.
/r/askMRP26/11/19 09:20 PM
2

Ah yes, the the age old advice given in WISNWYFTMYFGISASM (When I Say No With Your Family To Make You Feel Guilty Into Staying Another Six Months). I love that book.
/r/askMRP20/11/19 04:22 PM
3

I made the mistake of looking up images of degloving a couple of years ago. It’s been a silicone ring for me ever since. Too many chances for injury with a gold ring on your finger. I don’t wear my gold one at all anymore even outside the gym.
/r/askMRP15/11/19 04:47 AM
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You just need to have your shit more together. If you don’t, you will always have one running lose since you only have two arms. Honestly, it isn’t too much different once you’ve had a couple of kids. Your time gets divided up differently and you just need to be a little bit more on top of things. Other than that they are kids. You are the parent and leader. Don’t let the inmates run the asylum and you should be fine.
/r/askMRP30/10/19 02:24 AM
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Start your own group. Find out where people go that have similar interests as you. Hint: they will likely be at the same places you are doing the same things you enjoy. Go to the next Jordan Peterson Con or whatever, network, and start it up. Prop up a website, subreddit, Facebook page, or something else and make it happen. It might be a small niche, but you might find some others to join with you. Don’t wait for others to do this stuff for you. It is perfectly okay to take knowledge from others…
/r/askMRP20/10/19 02:27 AM
1

Tough call and completely up to you. The only problem with fighting in court is you are doing it on their terms essentially. That is their wheelhouse and they know how to manipulate the system in their favor. You are going into the ring with a prize fighter. They have way deeper pockets than you. So, they can drag this battle out forever. Longer than you can afford to continue fighting. Their playbook is simple. Fight you in court until your pockets run dry and you literally are looking at bankr…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/19 08:14 PM
1

So, when is the release date for the johneyapocalypse movie?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/19 12:19 PM
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A man without any water in the middle of the desert is likely going to only think about only one thing, ... water. When you have plenty of water to drink you won’t think about it as much.
/r/askMRP16/10/19 02:30 PM
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You will realize that once the validation goes away that you can last as long as you want during sex. When I was all up in my and her head about this stuff I couldn’t last more than two minutes doggystyle. Once I finally got the validation seeking out of the way sex just became fun and I could have my way with her and not cum. You have a ways to go. All the tools are in the sidebar. The problem is making your wife cum vaginally is a stupid goal and likely just to stroke your ego. Once you have c…
/r/askMRP13/10/19 05:37 AM
2

Don’t cut. I made this mistake over and over again. I was skinny fat too. You need mass. Bulk and make it as clean as possible. Abs on a skinny guy are like tits on a fat chick. Once you actually have some muscle and strength then by all means cut.
/r/askMRP11/10/19 08:39 PM
1

Something tells me your conversations typically go a little bit like this. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-4EDhdAHrOg It's not about the nail. Stop trying to fix her. Just comfort her and then go lift heavy shit.
/r/askMRP10/10/19 11:44 PM
1

Just make sure your mission isn’t about her or improving yourself so that she will fuck you. Right now you are in the Dancing Monkey Improvement Program. From everything I know about you it would be hard to convince me that this hasn’t been the case. Everything you are doing is giving her way too much attention for what she is offering you. The juice just ain’t worth the squeeze. You do you, but she may not come around bro.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/19 05:03 PM
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It all depends on if she is fucking you. I know you have had a few victories here and there with her, but I don’t get the vibe that you are banging her regularly. I think it all comes off as thirsty and needy when she continually denies you and you keep coming back to stick your head back in the meat grinder. We talk about outcome independence and not getting butthurt, but at some point you stop giving attention to people that reject you. Not because you are butthurt, but because you can easily …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/19 01:39 PM
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Not sure how I handled it. I haven't been following you with OYS lately to be honest. It has been probably 5-6 months, but I do know your backstory and history before that. Just not the latest in your journey. If she is fucking you fairly regularly you handled everything just fine. If she is not fucking you on the regular just about everything you did is just plain creepy. It's sort of that dynamic where Chad can say a really stupid joke and get giggles from the ladies, but when some pasty fat s…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/19 09:07 PM
2

Your "other" option is stupid. It probably sounds great in your head, but it won't work. Do you really want to live in a marriage like that? Do you think she will? Even if she agrees it is not sustainable. She would only "agree" for as long as she can figure out a better option. Cheating doesn't kill the marriage. Trust kills the marriage. You cannot trust her. No amount of rules and restrictions will ever restore that. Your decision needs to come down to whether you think you can ever her trust…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/19 06:09 PM
1

K
/r/askMRP27/09/19 09:12 PM
2

The overall goal should be to OYS and build yourself in a way you can be self-sufficient. The reality is we will all need a spot from time to time. All the assholes that keep coming around here in MRP are either spotting for someone else or getting the kick in the ass to straighten themselves out. Humans are social creatures and don’t do well completely on their own. We need associations. Otherwise, you end up like the guy on the movie Castaway talking to a volleyball named “Wilson.”
/r/askMRP27/09/19 06:24 PM
4

Did you ever figure out what to shave?
/r/askMRP19/09/19 02:17 AM
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Just remove the word spiritual and you have your answer. If you are religious, then you should care about your family. YOU should be gathering everyone together in the family for prayer etc.
/r/askMRP18/09/19 05:08 AM
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I'm not as anti-marriage as some others on here. From a pure sexual strategy standpoint it puts you at a great disadvantage. However, we all have choices to make and there is give and take when making decisions. I choose to remain married. But, I am no longer Pollyanna about what my reality is anymore. You aren't even married yet and seem to be going into this disadvantaged. How in the hell do you think slapping a ring on it will improve anything? Dating and the engagement is for vetting. You lo…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 04:40 PM
1

Why are you getting married again?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/19 04:07 PM
3

So do we. Ball’s in your court brother.
/r/askMRP14/09/19 08:01 PM
1

Eat
/r/askMRP16/08/19 03:25 PM
2

Dear diary... Did you have a question?
/r/askMRP07/08/19 03:42 AM
12

Covert contract much?
/r/askMRP31/07/19 10:18 PM
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Do you care to pass it? You don’t seem to be interested in fucking this woman. Why the hell are you trying to pass her shit tests? While we are on topic, I was at the grocery store and an old lady, probably mid 90’s, with a oxygen mask drove up in one of those electric carts behind me. So, I totally flexed while we were waiting so she could see my muscles and I pulled out my best alpha lines. Do you think she’s down to bang? What’s your end game here?
/r/askMRP31/07/19 09:31 PM
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So, you're saying the internet doesn't count as a second opinion? Pfft
/r/askMRP24/07/19 10:07 PM
5

Lifting is your cure here. I was once not too long ago 6'0" @ 150lbs. After lifting, I am now a solid 190lbs. My body language is a lot different now. I'm still shooting for adding another 10-20lbs of muscle. It doesn't matter if your skinny or fat right now. Start lifting. It is 80% of the battle here.
/r/askMRP11/07/19 05:50 PM
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Well, I can see why you want to meet with a self confidence coach. You don’t even have enough confidence to know what talk about with the self confidence coach. Try this. Use your own brain to make decisions. This dude may be cool. He also might suck. But, why don’t you make that call. Take the good and leave the bad. I’ve read the entire sidebar and many other RP related books not on the sidebar. I don’t think I have followed any one of them 100% as gospel, but I have taken the good from each o…
/r/askMRP11/07/19 02:00 PM
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Why do you fear divorce? For the kids? It sounds like you are already doing all the parenting anyways. By all accounts she is essentially useless as a parent. Is it because she is the breadwinner?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/19 02:15 AM
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So, I haven't been here for a while. I just read your OYS and the flair you have been tagged with fits. I don't know much of your history, but based off of what I read. I don't believe the situation is as bad as Babysitter makes it out to be. Yes, it is that bad. Your babysitter is right. Your wife is a wreck. Apparently, you either are too or have no spine. Locking herself in her room and calling you back from the gym and the babysitter to handle the situation is wrong on so many levels. If she…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 04:20 PM
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Something tells me your wife probably isn’t as bad as a mom as you think and this is just you hamstering out a reason to dislike her more. The running into a wall thing? I would totally let my kids run into the wall. How else are they going to learn to be cautious. Jumping off a roof and other way more dangerous things I will stop them and have a talk. A lot of the stuff that is happening is from shitty leadership. The “junk funk” she gives the kids is probably because she doesn’t know any bette…
/r/askMRP30/06/19 10:27 PM
5

Full force? You seem to be lying to yourself there. Nothing about your post indicates you have gone into red pill full force. Don’t confuse Rambo as the same thing as going full force. You can go full force and not go Rambo no problem as long as you are calibrated. Gym is the biggest indicator. You can go all out in the gym. Honestly, as hard as lifting can be sometimes it is really the easiest step here. It’s just you against heavy weight and gravity. It is predictable and measurable. It doesn’…
/r/askMRP15/06/19 03:42 PM
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This one was an eye opening read for me once upon a time. I will leave it here for someone reading this and wanting to understand this dynamic better. Women will do anything and everything in their power to not be direct. When they are direct it is typically the end of the line for them.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/19 09:36 PM
7

At 190lbs she didn’t find Chad at the concert. She still may have fucked someone no doubt, but it would have to be a Cletus or something.
/r/askMRP12/06/19 03:27 AM
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You can’t address it. You have to accept that reality and have the best possible influence you can while she is with you. Your daughter is going to live in two different households with two different dynamics and examples. She is smart and will realize what works in life and what doesn’t. Give her the example she will want to follow. Control what you can control.
/r/askMRP11/06/19 01:51 PM
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Is she the first officer or just some peon below deck? Ultimately, yes, you are the captain. Her complaint might not be that she wanted control (though it might be) rather she wanted to be involved. A wise CEO will usually check in with his CFO when dealing with a fairly large amount of money. He can over rule the CFO, but it may be good to hear a different perspective. I go to my number two at work for perspective. I often overrule him, but he has good ideas and I want his opinion. Is she a val…
/r/askMRP07/06/19 04:28 AM
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wet kinky bareback sex with a first date who’s name I didn’t even know (met with screennames), who’s now blowing up my DM calling me daddy and sending nudes to the extent that its literally been annoying me at work. Sounds like you stuck your dick in crazy. Congrats?
/r/TheRedPill03/06/19 10:11 PM
7

You talk about all of the book you have picked up and read. Have you picked up a bar? We get shit for chanting "LIFT motherfucker, LIFT!" all the time, but there is a very good reason why it is a cornerstone of RP. Lifting is hard. Lifting strengthens you physically and mentally. Lifting gives you confidence. When you are confident you don't fear silly female emotions. Plus, lifting makes you sexy.
/r/askMRP28/05/19 06:18 PM
5

I can’t speak for everyone here, but I think we usually are not harsh. We are just honest.
/r/askMRP22/05/19 10:58 PM
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We didn’t save anything and you have accomplished nothing. All you have realized, finally, is that your wife is a cheating whore. I don’t see anything in your post or history that indicates YOU have changed. See you in 1-3 years when your next wife or LTR is cheating on you. Or, put in the work, change yourself, and become a better man. Glad you are at least moving on.
/r/askMRP22/05/19 04:54 PM
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I feel bad. Like I’m doing wrong and everyone around me is suffering for it So, you feel guilty? You realize there is a sidebar book for that. You sound like a really nice guy. Be your own judge.
/r/askMRP20/05/19 05:53 PM
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It's you and you aren't dealing with a crazy chick, but a woman. However, I still think you are better off cutting your losses, working on yourself, and then trying again. Expectations aren't the problem. Sure, have expectations, but when they aren't met you walk. That will either get her to meet your expectations or you move on to someone else. It seems silly to try and make an apple turn into an orange. Go find an orange. Here is why you are needy and whiny. Women don't give a fuck about how h…
/r/askMRP20/05/19 05:26 PM
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You've been around here way too long to be asking these questions. You should already know the answers. You are whiny and needy. You want a mommy and she doesn't want to be a grown man's mommy. Plus, at 9 months in with this kind of drama (even if you are partly to blame) is a red flag. If memory serves me correct you run gear and are jacked. Get some self-confidence and get back out there and find a replacement. Did the tren shrink your balls or something? Stop being a pussy.
/r/askMRP20/05/19 04:52 PM
1

Or smack it on the ass
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/19 02:24 PM
2

So, your standing there after work, newly promoted and holding your black belt with a phenomenally chiseled chest busting out of your gi. Now what?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 11:02 PM
2

I agree with all of that. I think my overall point is that after 20 years together change is likely to occur slower in many cases. OP has approached or is approaching peak SMV. Sort of like newbie gains at the gym. Once they are gone you can still improve, but change is slower and more difficult. If people are fluid you could almost say that their viscosity changes over time. Rather than quickly filling a container like pure water it may fill a container more slowly as it gets contaminated over …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 10:55 PM
1

What are you chasing?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 04:43 PM
7

I think in theory this is true, but in practice it is unlikely. Maybe I am just splitting hairs but we are talking about all walls here. So, in theory, let's say you truly become Chad Thundercock and are SMV 10. You are perfect in every way. Game, looks, money, power, etc. You are the god of Chads. Yes, all walls will come down for you. In reality and in practice, you are not ever going to achieve a status of a perfect 10. You aren't ever going to get there. You may even hit a 9 with SMV at some…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 03:56 PM
1

Explain.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 03:28 PM
1

Read Reach180’s OYS post. He is a sexy beast and he gets noticed. His wife knows.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 01:08 AM
19

Boundaries, expectations, and wants. I have been somewhat fascinated by this dynamic. You mention your wife has some boundaries that have been put up. It looks like you are wanting to pull some of those down. Some have come down in recent years, but not all of them. I don't know if it really matters what those are as you didn't specify. I have seen guys in here wanting to get the wife to do anal or a threesome or whatever. It doesn't really matter what the boundary is as this varies. I'm just fa…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/19 12:15 AM
1

Sounds like you have more of a problem with setting appropriate boundaries and then enforcing them. This is a balance of figuring out what you can control and what you cannot. If you set an unenforceable boundary you are setting yourself up to look weak and to not be taken seriously. For example: I have made a condition that she attend Ok. And if she doesn't? Can you enforce this? How? Setting boundaries that get walked on is a sure fire way to look weak and invite more boundary breaking. Look. …
/r/askMRP14/05/19 05:25 PM
2

Are you really even asking that question? Fuck man.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/19 05:03 PM
1

Great... Now I’m going to have that song stuck in my head for a month. Good song though.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/19 04:58 AM
3

You sound like quite the victim. Circumstances this and out of my control that. Who the hell is running your life? You feel emasculated not by anything she is doing, but the fact that you are just getting tossed in the storm wherever it sends you. Start making decisions for you and leading your family. It might be too late between you and your wife, but honestly she is right. You should be farther along in your career by now. Why aren’t you? You are behind the curve, but are you ever going to ge…
/r/askMRP12/05/19 02:27 AM
10

I just broken record and say something like “I understand your frustration and why you are upset but I won’t be apologizing nor do I think I did anything wrong”. Not sure how you think this is not DEERing already. You could get away with just the first 4 words of that example above. Even that can be too much at times. There comes a point that when she persists you raise an eyebrow and give her the look of “really?” without even saying a word. Now, a lot of this advice isn’t going to be worth a d…
/r/askMRP08/05/19 08:22 PM
1

Your poor wife.
/r/askMRP08/05/19 05:53 PM
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Imagine you are in a large building with many hallways, doors, and levels. On the other side of each door there is any number of experiences. Some doors look more appealing than others on the outside leading you to believe that something awesome is on the other side. However, certain doors are locked and others are not. The doors in this particular building will only open based on your attractiveness. However, you don't get to decide your attractiveness. The door does. So, you find yourself in t…
/r/askMRP02/05/19 04:53 PM
23

When you are in an LTR or marriage it is perfectly acceptable to say “Hey, I’m going out with my guy friends Friday night.” You aren’t asking permission nor are you checking in with mommy. You are providing a courtesy that your services will be unavailable for a brief period of time. This courtesy isn’t necessarily required, but if you are a decent captain, the crew will know when the captain isn’t on the boat anymore and what to do while he is gone. The crew doesn’t get to pick where the captai…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/19 02:06 AM
7

Leading her to orgasm is part of being a well rounded man. If your not giving your woman orgasms on the regular there is something wrong. Now, this shouldn’t be your sole focus or goal with sex. And you are correct, ultimately this is her responsibility. But, if you aren’t leading this aspect of sex in the bedroom you are missing out on a whole new level of devotion from your woman.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/19 10:27 PM
3

For me, it was well after. There were improvements around this time, but I think I was still uptight after not having as much sex as I wanted for the last few years despite improvements. It was about when I started hitting my MRP stride per se. It was post main event and a few months into having things going how I wanted them to with her settled into my frame. Once the sex had returned and there was more abundance the pressure was lifted. Honestly, I think the pressure was lifted off of my wife …
/r/askMRP23/04/19 09:00 PM
5

Are women capable of this? Yes. Are all women like this? No. You my friend have zero confidence. That's your problem just by glancing at your post history. Confidence is found in many places. I personally find it most abundant under a heavy bar. Get to the gym faggot. Get fit and then you won't have time for a woman like this because there are many others out there that are far better. Oh, and if you have this haircut, it has been known to cause ED as pointed out by SBIII here.
/r/askMRP22/04/19 10:38 PM
17

I consider premature ejaculation to mean ejaculating before you want to. Some will try to specify a certain number of minutes before they classify it as PE. For me, if you weren’t ready it is PE. I had this problem as long as I can remember as well. Especially, when I wasn’t getting as much sex as I wanted. Funny thing happened though. About a year in to MRP, when I stopped worrying over every tiny detail and things started to feel more natural to me it stopped. Sex just became fun and I could m…
/r/askMRP21/04/19 02:44 PM
23

Wife’s My negative traits are rubbing off on oldest daughter (11) and I have to now find a way to counteract it to avoid my daughter ending up a clone of the emotional wreck that is my wife myself. This post is all about you not your wife. You do seem to understand this on some level from your post which is good. You are 5-10" and 230lbs. From that, I know that your wife is fat and your daughter is fat. Why? Because that is the environment you have created. You can be the example here. Kids are …
/r/askMRP19/04/19 09:13 PM
1

Something tells me OP is autistic just maybe not for the example I am giving. When my wife and I are out and about I will usually open the car door for her (yeah, I still do it). On my way back around the car to the driver’s door my wife almost without fail will hit the electronic door lock. Now, OP would take this as a sign of disrespect and pry open the door and lecture his wife while he jumps up and down like a little toddler who doesn’t get his way. I just hit the unlock on the key fob and g…
/r/askMRP12/04/19 01:59 PM
5

You're retarded. By the way, did you ever figure out what was on that oak leaf?
/r/askMRP08/04/19 10:57 PM
3

For some reason while reading this the Walking Contradiction by Green Day song started playing in my head. Your words and your actions don’t line up. You say you aren’t insecure, yet you act insecure. She smells it and so do I. You will never get anywhere here if you can’t even be honest with yourself.
/r/askMRP05/04/19 05:06 AM
3

Ah yes, the monkey branching improvement swinging dancing program when she feels guilty and not nice anymore.
/r/askMRP02/04/19 08:13 PM
1

She’s testing your frame to see if you are truly serious about all of this. Don’t give a shit. Go find something else fun to do. You have other hobbies, friends, and fun things to do without her right? Right now, she is not worth your time. Take care of yourself and the kids. Work the levels of DREAD. She is either going to come along at some point or you will eventually realize you can do better than a cold bitch who literally slaps you in the face and puts out a few times a year. That decision…
/r/askMRP31/03/19 03:53 PM
9

It’s less about her and more about you. Can she easily be replaced? If so, why do you care what she does? She will just be one in a million of willing women. Find someone younger, hotter, and tighter and move on with your high SMV. You can only control you.
/r/askMRP31/03/19 02:03 PM
2

MIL needs to go. You need to grow some balls and take control of the house. You have zero control and direction here.
/r/askMRP31/03/19 05:27 AM
4

Can you imagine a relationship where you are an alpha and still struggle for sex with your wife or do you think that is impossible? Looks like we have found our unicorn.
/r/askMRP30/03/19 12:16 AM
5

Without assessing someone's alpha or betaness You are missing the entire point. This is exactly what she will be assessing when you approach her for sex. It is also the exact reason why you aren't getting any. It sounds like you haven't read anything or picked up a weight yet. You are looking for a cheat code. There is none. You actually have to build yourself into a man that women want to fuck. That can take some time, but the resources are here. Since your wife is a woman, there is a high prob…
/r/askMRP29/03/19 11:48 PM
10

6’1” 235 (I got fucking fat). Your fault. I haven’t lifted in 2 years Your fault again. I’ve half ass read NMMNG and TWOTSM a year or so ago You get out of this what you put in. ...with me becoming a drunk captain We've all been there at some point. I thought my latest LTR was a unicorn and broke all the rules to nail her down Stupid, but now you are learning. I understand this is me being a little bitch seeking validation Unattractive. Don't. I understand that all of this is my fault and I let …
/r/askMRP29/03/19 05:09 PM
2

Here your play. You relocate and do your thing. Some say to not be strung along by her. I would say don’t burn any bridges, but still relocate and keep her on the string. If she decides a month or two down the road to follow she knows where to find you. You always maintain control. Regardless, you need to treat it as the nail in the coffin and move on.
/r/askMRP27/03/19 09:18 PM
3

Thoughts? Sounds like she’s playing chess and you’re playing checkers.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/19 03:50 AM
3

1000 times this.
/r/askMRP25/03/19 02:46 AM
2

K
/r/askMRP22/03/19 06:40 PM
5

Women branch swing and have orbiters for a reason. She wants to swing off of this branch, but she hasn't secured the next branch yet. She has already decided to swing and will string him along until she finally lets go. Even still, girls will keep at orbiter at the right distance indefinitely if the orbiter is stupid enough to play the game. She is just keeping him around just in case he gets his act together and just in case she can't find anything better.
/r/askMRP22/03/19 06:21 PM
3

You’ve climbed Mt Everest. You’ve been higher than most anyone else and lived to tell the tale. Everest is certainly an amazing feat, but there is a whole wide world below it that has some amazing adventures in it as well. Everest is just a part of the journey and not the destination.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/19 03:19 AM
15

It doesn't matter who you gave your balls to (wife or mother). It is up to you to take them back. It's called manning up and not being a pussy. Same rules apply with frame and handling your mother, wife, LTR, 13 year old daughter, whoever. Your just not trying to fuck you mom. Your not trying to fuck your mom are you?
/r/askMRP19/03/19 12:40 AM
3

Have my upvote. This is the first Mr Ed. reference I have seen around these parts.
/r/askMRP16/03/19 07:09 PM
53

And this is a problem? I will offer you my congratulations. DREAD achieved. Nice work. In this scenario, you STFU and do nothing different. DREAD is the healthy undercurrent in the relationship. It doesn’t mean you are cheating or that you will cheat. But, it is always in the back of her mind, “what if some 20 year old hot chick puts some moves on my man while he is away?” It’s competition anxiety and it pushes her to wrap her lips around your cock to “remind” you she is still there. You are wis…
/r/askMRP16/03/19 02:35 PM
6

I use the above to see if I have my shit together, in her eyes. Since you are familiar with Excel, setup Conditional Formatting for proper color coding. As soon as your metrics drop even a little bit into the orange area start doing more chores to brighten your wife's mood. Happy wife happy life am I right?
/r/askMRP11/03/19 07:27 PM
23

You give too many fucks.
/r/askMRP04/03/19 09:32 PM
5

Okay, /u/rocknrollchuck put in more effort than you in his comment and I agree with his assessment. She has probably be contemplating leaving for quite some time. A few weeks of good doesn’t negate the 3 years of bad and the Rambo moments. Now that you are becoming “more difficult” as you are executing your MAP she is realizing that the juice just ain’t worth the squeeze. You need to have a decent baseline of attractive behaviors before going all hardcore MRP. Yes, a dominant man is attractive a…
/r/askMRP27/02/19 01:54 AM
3

What about the last couple of months or years? What brought you to MRP in the first place? What were your issues then? Now? I get it that women are not the most rational creatures in the world and see the world thru an emotional lens. I have seen them flip out for something smaller than your response. But, there is usually something else underneath it all causing this emotional response from her. Not really sure what "fucked up around blowjobs and Rambo'd" really means in this context. If you wa…
/r/askMRP27/02/19 12:22 AM
3

So, you really think she is moving into the guest bedroom because of the texting incident? Most sane people don't throw the "I can do better than you" and move bedrooms because of your AA'd "girlfriends" response. What are you not telling us? Be honest or fuck off.
/r/askMRP27/02/19 12:09 AM
1

There have been a number of posts about this dynamic here over the years. You can look them up yourself. While I would caution getting into the crosshairs and walking into the henhouse here I bet you have been a pussy and haven’t stood up to your own mother. It’s okay. I was the same way once and had similar problems. She will cross boundaries and manipulate all kinds of shit with your wife behind your back. After all, she’s wiped your ass and feels entitled. You need to shut that shit down with…
/r/askMRP23/02/19 01:41 AM
3

Shouldn’t you be on Day 1 instead of Day 0? You haven’t left the starting blocks yet.
/r/askMRP21/02/19 01:44 PM
2

It's a useful lens to see the world I think you may have said it, but RP isn't like a railroad track that takes you to a specific destination. It more like training wheels and you decide where you want to go once you know how to ride. It was a good analogy. Saying that RP theory is 100% correct is obviously giving RP a little too much credit. But, it has proven useful.
/r/askMRP20/02/19 04:38 PM
18

I think you are getting all turned around in your head about what the red pill is and what it means to your life. Red pill is a sexual strategy. It has been proven time and time again to be 100% correct. I don’t argue against or refute any of the core teachings. However, your own choices make up your own life strategy. From a pure maximizing your sexual options standpoint? Yes, an LTR would be unwise. It is limiting your choices. So, from a straight up RP perspective it is frowned upon because i…
/r/askMRP20/02/19 03:25 AM
16

How did you guys ramp up new sex stuff? She didn’t tell you no the next day. She just said she was surprised. Keep pushing the envelope.
/r/askMRP17/02/19 02:15 AM
1

and leaned over towards me to make a kiss face but didnt actually kiss me, it was her allowing me to come in to kiss her. She said she had lip shit on so blah blah blah... It was actually the fact that my wife stopped kissing me that actually woke me the fuck up. In a way, I'm grateful for it because otherwise I would still be lost and struggling. It took a slap in the face and a punch in the gut to make some dramatic changes. I'm about two years in. I started off with my wife avoiding kissing m…
/r/askMRP14/02/19 11:43 PM
8

So, then why the concern?
/r/askMRP13/02/19 02:44 AM
3

My wife would do the same thing. I also agree with being on the same team with a united front. However, this needs to be addressed. It will cause a shit storm when you tackle it, but it will be worth it 6-12 months down the road. I made a comment on it recently about my experience tackling this exact problem. https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/aphf42/just_starting_out/eg8dp58/
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/19 12:05 AM
5

Does she add value? That is really the only question to ask.
/r/askMRP12/02/19 04:13 PM
20

My wife had depression and anxiety when I first started out. I, like you, didn't necessarily want to make it worse. But, here is the deal. Why is your wife anxious? In hindsight and in looking back from my journey here, mine was anxious because she felt like she was shouldering the load (probably was). Why was my wife bitchy at the kids? She felt like she needed to be the enforcer to compensate for my lack of tough discipline. I rationalized that I didn't want to be hard on the kids and pile on …
/r/askMRP11/02/19 04:26 PM
5

Totally normal
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/19 07:17 PM
3

Hard to know without more back story. A heavy hand is fine when warranted. If I looked thru past emails/texts when I was getting started I probably have something similar to what your wife wrote somewhere in there and more than one. I would worry about you trying to do too much and become all RP in a few days. It is a process and your wife who knows you the best will take the longest to come around. The faster you go the more fake and disingenuous it will appear. You write with the tone of someo…
/r/askMRP29/01/19 04:18 AM
7

Send this over to /r/AskReddit or /r/legaladvice. Not sure how any of this relates to being married or red pill.
/r/askMRP27/01/19 06:25 AM
2

You remember/u/weakandsensitive as the FNG being called a faggot? You sure you’re thinking of the same dude? I mean, me and Abe Lincoln go back a ways too, but that is different.
/r/askMRP26/01/19 04:56 AM
3

Am I overthinking this? Yes. I think I could find a coffee shop to go to and work from, but she knows that I like my home office area and it would be odd if I started doing that. Okay? Who cares? You or her? It seems like it would show lack of frame because I'm being transparent that I'm removing myself the situation and I'm putting myself in a suboptimal work environment. Even if I show no emotion and STFU as I'm leaving it still seems obvious. Your are so far up her ass that you can't see all …
/r/askMRP26/01/19 12:16 AM
1

Also realize that you will get no credit for doing it and shouldn’t go show mommy all the stuff you do. It is a thankless, but necessary job. It will come back around in the form of an awesome life.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 06:18 PM
1

It’s all about elevating your SMV. Why would you limit your potential? Yes, looking good is a requirement. But why not be the guy who looks good AND is ripped? So, a good looking guy walks into a room. The girls acknowledge and might think he looks pretty good and continue doing what they were doing. A good looking and ripped guy walks into the room and the girls will start fidgeting and squirming in their seats and will start casting glances and fuck me eyes over to him. Who do you want to be? …
/r/askMRP21/01/19 06:13 PM
6

Don’t respond to the email. She can bring it back up later in person if she wants. Never try to handle that type of stuff over text, email, or whatever. Face to face. As far as it being a test? It sounds more like a first officer telling the captain the ship is in disarray. Women are a mirror of our leadership. Take it as an indication that you don’t have your shit together yet. Learn from it and get a better handle on this stuff in the future. There is a difference between the shit that needs t…
/r/askMRP21/01/19 05:13 PM
2

This is written like a woman. Fuck your feelings. Get some goals and achieve results. It just may fix your fragile feelings.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/19 05:00 PM
1

You again? I thought I explained to you what STFU is. Stop arguing, explaining your thoughts, relating your logical position, mentioning your intentions, or whatever the hell else you want to call it. You sound like a dick. But, not the good kind. The emotionally autistic kind. Maybe you should get the same genetic test done to see what the hell is wrong with you and why you can't STFU.
/r/askMRP16/01/19 03:21 PM
3

Yes, you are in her frame as evidenced by her and your behavior. I think you have identified that though which is a good first step. I understand the overall concepts of frame, but what suggestions do you have about applying them tactically? Give less fucks.
/r/askMRP10/01/19 12:05 AM
12

Use the force Luke.
/r/askMRP08/01/19 11:30 PM
13

maybe you can get a retarded post by... Stoney. I appreciate the retarded post and good to see something from you after the suspension even if it is by proxy. Also confirms that /u/weakandsensitive really does care.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/19 07:33 PM
3

Watch what they do not what they say.
/r/askMRP07/01/19 02:10 PM
26

I always love the posters that say “I said this. Then, I said that. After which, I explained such and such. Finally, I STFU.” Ummm... that’s not STFU. Go do something else for a while. Gaming your wife is important, but too many dudes start circling their wives and it just turns them off. Go off and do your cool hobby. Stay flirty, but have an alternative other than her for a while.
/r/askMRP06/01/19 03:32 PM
7

Me and /u/red-sfpplus don't always see eye to eye, but you are very naive to dismiss his points throughout this post because they appear dead on to me and I agree with everything he has posted in this thread. He painted a very realistic picture of your challenges in the next two years in another comment and you are only fooling yourself if you think not signing marriage paperwork is protecting you in some way. You can tie that rope around your neck, but if you don't call it a noose it can't kill…
/r/askMRP03/01/19 09:00 PM
12

GF: Get back in your box! OP: Yes, ma'am.
/r/askMRP02/01/19 06:21 PM
1

Is your post history fact or fiction? You post here about your “wife” and in AmITheAsshole about your GF. Which is it? Respect wise it shouldn’t matter, but it does affect your ease of resolution to the problem at hand. If some of the shit I have read is the same person there is one simple solution to your problems. The cool thing is that it requires her to do absolutely nothing and for you to simply kick her to the curb. Problem solved. Just find your balls man. My goodness.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/19 01:55 AM
3

Eat whole foods and look up bodybuilding diets. The general consensus is pretty similar across the board. Clean proteins, complex carbs, healthy fats etc. Don't waver from these core foods much. Too many people convince themselves the Doritos or soda that they drink doesn't count because they ate a salad for lunch. The Doritos and soda don't count when you ate perfectly clean for an entire week. It is a process, but as a general rule, if you want to bulk eat at a surplus. If you want to lose fat…
/r/askMRP27/12/18 10:23 PM
3

I have actually been thinking a little about this before this post was written. I seem to have dialed in a number of other things fairly well using MRP principles, but I think this is glaring weakness that I have. Essentially, the E and the I of DEVI. As a fellow recovering autist, I have a theory that I simply don't engage in this behavior enough even outside of the bedroom. It sort of gets into that right brain/left brain kind of thing. Since I lean autist, I theorize that my right side is und…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/18 09:55 PM
3

I would look into how finasteride (Propecia) interacts with testosterone. It may be saving your hair, but destroying your testosterone.
/r/askMRP21/12/18 12:09 AM
3

Why?
/r/askMRP18/12/18 06:43 PM
7

Sort of the like Mormon version of this one
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/18 12:09 AM
7

I get losing some of your income to support/alimony, but you should have the attitude that you will thrive regardless. Nothing wrong with a little planning and forward thinking, but it should never move to a paralysis by analysis. The stay plan is the go plan (unless your hamster gets in the way).
/r/askMRP30/11/18 10:14 PM
6

Asking for a friend right?
/r/askMRP30/11/18 08:06 PM
28

I was once like you when I first got here. I once thought that I could change my wife by having her read a book with instructions on how I wanted her to act. I even purchased The Surrendered Wife the book you mention here. I never gave it to her and I am glad I didn't. The book itself is fine to be honest. There is a lot my wife could learn from it. The biggest problem is that it doesn't fix the biggest problem of all. YOU!!! To be a true RP man you need to be able to lead your woman. If you can…
/r/askMRP30/11/18 05:02 PM
1

"Joey, have you ever been... in a Turkish prison?"
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/18 11:59 PM
10

Made me chuckle, thanks for the laugh. He wasn't joking.
/r/askMRP28/11/18 06:35 PM
15

”...but I think I’m fucked.” Well, I sure hope so because it’s about time. It’s been 5 long years man. If you divorce it wasn’t because of this incident. It was because of the five years preceding it. Own it.
/r/askMRP28/11/18 01:44 AM
1

I don't remember your complete backstory, so I'm not sure if this is relevant to you or not. I suffered from a similar thing. I believe this is 100% mental. In looking back, my problem was mostly abundance. It was almost as if my body panicked like it wasn't going to see a vagina again for a while (which may have been true). As I progressed and moved forward in MRP and gained more and more confidence this problem went away. It is now rare I get sent over the top before I am ready. Personally, I …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/18 05:16 PM
20

TLDR; I'm fat, old, ugly and unfuckable. I quit!
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/18 06:58 PM
3

Sounds like a solid first year. Year two gets even better if you don't let your foot off of the gas. Push the envelope even more.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/18 11:40 PM
1

Wait, you pretty much have a deadbedroom and are still getting married to this woman? Because she will all of the sudden become super sexual after marriage right?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/18 06:29 PM
1

I can vary my time by hours literally 8pm to midnight and she will stay up on fingering her phone until the minute I head upstairs and then she takes +30 minutes longer than me to get in the bed Head upstairs at 9:00 or 9:30PM. She is likely just waiting on you. Do your own thing and let her follow which it seems like she is doing anyways. Don't blame your lack of sleep or not getting sex early enough at night on her.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/18 06:28 PM
3

One of my pet peeves is wasting my time. When I decide to lift, I make sure that my time isn’t wasted. Why in the hell would I want to wake up at 5AM everyday to not see any difference in my strength and physique? If I am dedicating that much time I damn well better be getting results. Same goes when I am on a cut. If I am cutting and working my ass off in the gym, why would I want to eat a couple of ice cream sandwiches at night? I would just be spinning my wheels and erasing all of my hard wor…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/18 05:39 PM
6

Your post is so clueless that it hurts to read it. Yup. OP has absolutely no clue what it takes to be 6ft 195lbs at 11% BF. There is a reason only a small percentage of the population can achieve this. Like top 1% small. You can play cornerback in the NFL with a body like that.
/r/askMRP19/11/18 06:50 PM
5

A mirror
/r/askMRP19/11/18 06:35 PM
12

Laugh at her accusation. Or even better, amplify it. The more outlandish your comment the better because it puts a spotlight on the absurdity of her accusation. She is acting like a little girl. Treat her just like one. Since you are new, she will flip out. She is used to you walking on eggshells during her period and avoiding anything that will upset her. So, when she inevitably flips her lid you can do this. Here’s a coping mechanism for you. Do you see your front door? Go open it. Then walk o…
/r/askMRP17/11/18 04:42 PM
1

Sounds like some co-dependency issues here. Consider it a red flag being raised. Regardless, if you have learned nothing here (which seems to be the case), you cannot fall into her frame and react to her emotions and whims. You do you. If you feel it is excessive then it is and act accordingly. You don't sound like you have read the sidebar. There are no shortcuts here. Sidebar (NMMNG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, and the others) and lift.
/r/askMRP16/11/18 03:36 PM
9

Read more about DREAD and comfort. There is a balance. I am a big believer that there should always be an undercurrent of DREAD in the relationship. Overall, there should be an understanding that as long as she is a good girl your time and attention will be available. If she starts slacking in the girlfriend department you have many other attractive options available to you.
/r/askMRP13/11/18 06:53 PM
10

Your spidey sense is already tingling and trying to tell you the right answer here. You should listen to it.
/r/askMRP13/11/18 06:35 PM
3

Keep researching keto and maybe look at some other ones out there. My point is not to just "try reducing some stuff". It is the equivalent of going to the gym and wandering around and just lifting random shit with no real plan. It doesn't work in the gym and dieting without a plan doesn't work in the kitchen either.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/18 06:00 PM
3

Diet. What are you doing for diet? Avoiding fast food isn't good enough. It may help you drop 10-15lbs, but you need to drop more than that. I used to think that avoiding Doritos and Taco Bell was eating "clean" too. Then, I used to think counting calories and matching up macros was eating healthy as well as long as the math seemed to work. A clean diet is a lean protein (steak, chicken, fish), healthy fats (eggs, cottage cheese, avocados), and complex carbohydrates (brown rice, yams, oatmeal, e…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/18 04:13 PM
3

Or even ashwaghandha pills. Ain’t that right Jimmy?
/r/askMRP13/11/18 04:49 AM
7

Want advice? Look up what a DEER is in TRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/18 12:47 AM
2

Get defensive much? How does that venison taste?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/18 03:09 PM
2

Your rules are retarded. I get not airing your dirty laundry in public, but your wife having an outlet to let of steam is a good thing. Long story short, you are an insecure faggot that wants to control your wife. You need counseling not her.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/18 03:07 PM
6

Look mommy. Mommy look! Over here! Mommy! Mommy? No, that doesn’t work. She can stiff it out from a mile a way too. Just be awesome. The passive dread will do its own magic.
/r/askMRP08/11/18 05:29 AM
6

she is completely aware of that and have had frank conversations on "If that's shit that you want to do, next". What's the problem then? Sounds like you don't want to enforce your own boundary and are looking for a way out.
/r/askMRP07/11/18 09:32 PM
4

Age 25, 5'11", 260lbs. You are too fat. You already know this. Your T likely is low. However, your T is probably low most likely due to the fact that you are fat. Drop the weight by getting on a fucking diet and lifting daily. Meal prepping works wonders. This is the recipe for feeling better. Yes, you are going to feel shitty for a few months as your body acclimates to the changes and the heavy lifting. Once you drop the weight your T will likely go up. At age 25 I would be hesitant to get on T…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 07:09 PM
5

I think watching some people self-destruct has merit. We have a ton of success stories here, but we also have plenty of dudes hang themselves with their own stupidity. We can learn much from both. Folks, don't be like /u/jimmyjohncocks. Here is your example of what not to do and it has zero to do with ashwandha pills.
/r/askMRP06/11/18 06:52 PM
7

Never thought it would come to this. Well, I think many of us here thought it would come to this. The fact that you didn't see it coming is quite telling. You have been nothing but a fuck up your entire time on here despite our best efforts to make you self-aware and get you to course correct.
/r/askMRP06/11/18 06:48 PM
3

I actually think watching some of these fuckers self-destruct has value. The newbies that are smart can calibrate their changes better when they see the opposite side of the coin.
/r/askMRP06/11/18 06:45 PM
1

You are absolutely right about counseling. But, how in the hell is swapping recordings after a week of analyzing going to help communication? You need WISNIFG desperately. STFU is an amazingly underutilized tool, but at some point you need to learn how to communicate face-to-face and in real-time. Communicating to your wife shouldn't require a counselor. She is likely only suggesting it because you suck at it. If things keep getting out of hand when you talk then your STFU and WISNIFG skills suc…
/r/askMRP05/11/18 04:35 PM
4

she doesn't think I can communicate I stated that I would listen and not respond and would record everything she said. Then I would respond a week later after I have listened and analyzed what she said. I told her she could record herself on the computer or her phone and transfer it to me. She is right. You don't know how to communicate. I have more to tell you, but I am in the middle of recording it. After I have analyzed it for a week to determine whether my voice inflections and tone are up t…
/r/askMRP05/11/18 03:53 PM
9

What kind of ship are you navigating? Are you flying a bomber with a large crew or a single person fighter jet? They are flown very differently. Many times a woman doesn’t necessarily want to dictate what the mission is per se, but wants to be included in it. You seem to be flying solo here. How does your crew fit in? Figure that out and things will likely smooth over.
/r/askMRP04/11/18 05:00 AM
5

Suppress emotion, no. Be in control of emotion, yes. If you have to use words like I was “overcome” or “overwhelmed” with emotion you allowed emotion to overpower you. Hence showing weakness. Learn how to channel emotion and stay in control. Yes, you are going to feel and experience emotion, but don’t let it control your actions or decisions. That is not masculine and is the opposite. Women are the ones that ride the waves of emotion. Men are the rocks that break the waves. That is the point of …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/18 02:14 PM
1

Amen. Act like you’ve been there before, Derrick. Crying doesn’t display confidence.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/18 02:01 PM
13

Extreme Ownership or anything Jocko Willink.
/r/askMRP30/10/18 10:54 PM
24

part of my long-term plan if my wife doesn't respond naturally to the changes I've made/am making is to try for some sort of marriage and/or sex counseling before I insist on divorce from my wife. Why? Let's say you succeed with your logic based approach to resolve her "hang ups". Do you really think she will have genuine desire for you as a result? You cannot negotiate attraction. It is either there or it is not. Two things. Decide whether you really are attractive or not. If not, you suck, lif…
/r/askMRP29/10/18 09:53 PM
15

Short Answer? You're not attractive enough and/or she is too comfy in the relationship. Raise your SMV. Lift, clean yourself up, become more social, the list goes on and on and the sidebar is full of what to do. Also, you need to be somewhere on the DREAD ladder to give her the motivation to suck your dick before someone else does. There should always be an undercurrent of DREAD even in a healthy relationship. It keeps everyone on their best behavior.
/r/askMRP26/10/18 09:49 PM
12

This is just sour grapes. You are screaming at reality because it doesn't fit into your fantasy of what it should be. Women are women. You don't bring home a dog as a pet and then get mad when it doesn't act like a cat do you? Find another outlet. Your wife was not designed to meet this need for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/18 06:46 PM
24

I think this example illustrates my point better than anything I wrote above.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/18 06:19 PM
1

You must be a Raiders fan.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/18 05:23 PM
4

I think you may have taken this too far or maybe I wrote it a little too harsh. Sure, we are going to crack. It doesn't matter what pill you have swallowed. We are human. Just know the potential costs and how it is perceived by those you lead and women. Best if they never see it. Your woman will respect vulnerability to a small degree. It shows you are human and not a robot.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/18 05:14 PM
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Nothing wrong with shedding a tear, it is the fact he is lying about it is why people are "loosing respect" You sure about that? If General Patton is crying on the beaches of Normandy you don't think he loses respect? So, he can do it, just not lie about doing it. Beyond that, clearly you have never let your E2 get a little to high on cycle. Crying is a side effect of getting big. lol I will have to take your word on that one.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/18 05:10 PM
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I love the honesty and self-reflection in the OYS. Good work. I think you are on much better footing now regardless of whether the relationship improves or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/18 09:39 PM
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Notes to self are exactly that. You posted because you want an MRP pat on the back that you did a good job. Here's a biscuit. Good boy. Happy now?
/r/askMRP23/10/18 03:17 PM
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Yet, I still posted something.
/r/askMRP23/10/18 01:56 PM
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They are comfort tests, not shit tests. She wants to know if she should keep chasing to get on the train or whether the seat is no longer available. Keep on the gas everywhere else and give her a hug when she does this.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/18 05:33 AM
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I don’t think captain in the mornings is the problem. It is being captain in general that is the problem. The problem was evident in the mornings based off of what you posted. She is filling the vacuum left by the void of your leadership. Not a sidebar book, but read Extreme Ownership once you get thru the big three.
/r/askMRP19/10/18 03:49 AM
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/mrpfordummies /mrpforretards
/r/askMRP18/10/18 11:59 PM
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I don't see you problem as a pass fail here, but a fail in the big picture. Using the captain and first officer dynamic, who is the captain in the mornings in your house? If you think it is you, then ask yourself, would the first officer be giving orders to her captain? There is nothing wrong with having your wife take on getting the kids ready for school. But, the dynamic here is clearly with you not in the lead and in charge. You don't necessarily need to be the one running around getting ever…
/r/askMRP18/10/18 11:14 PM
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Who the hell is upvoting this shit? Where does it tell you to be butt hurt, DEER, and bitch at your wife? Congrats, apparently you have RHAM (Right-hand Abundance Mentality) going pretty strong for you. Good use of Amused Masturby. I bet that instills all kinds of dread. You appear to be quite the authority on this particular question though. OP, if you want a deadbedroom and don’t like sex then listen to the advice of this motherfucker.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/18 07:15 PM
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Sounds more like Nice Guy rage than true alpha behavior. You have been at this for 2+ years and this is the best you can do?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/18 03:55 PM
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Your job is to protect the family and the home. So, when you aren't there you have to protect them from the dangerous things inside. This is all you had to do as a father and a leader. https://www.amazon.com/Safety-1st-Child-Proof-Covers/dp/B00068O22S?th=1 That way your wife can go to the bathroom for 5 minutes every so often. Your wife didn't fail for leaving for 5 minutes. You did.
/r/askMRP17/10/18 09:17 PM
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Seems a little hypocritical for Reddit to push so hard for "net neutrality" and then create fast lanes and slow lanes on their own website. Per Reddit CEO Steve Huffman (aka spez): “If we don’t have net neutrality protections that enforce tenets of fairness online, you give internet service providers the ability to choose winners and losers.” You can argue what an internet service provider is, but it isn't hard to see the hypocrisy here.
/r/TheRedPill15/10/18 04:31 PM
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Give less fucks. Live in your frame. Everything outside of it is amusing. She either provides value or she doesn’t. If you are a high value man with options she won’t disrespect you for fear of you exercising your plentiful and many options. Judging by your short account age and post 26 days ago you are still a beta bitch and are butt hurt because she hurt your precious ego. Read the fucking sidebar and put in the work.
/r/askMRP15/10/18 02:20 AM
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Good job on the NGAF. It will be your biggest take away from all of this whether your wife comes around or not. After 4 and nearly 5 years of not coming around I am skeptical she ever will. But, I will bet the more you rock the boat with her and go this direction you may finally see her become sexual again. When she can’t control you she may fall back to the only card she has to play. Sex. If she never plays it, then she never thought you were worth it. You just may awaken something in her. For …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/18 11:10 PM
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If she is breaking boundaries and you are still standing around complaining about her breaking boundaries then you never had boundaries to begin with. All you had were empty threats and meaningless words. If it truly is a boundary enforce it. Realize what is enforceable and what is not. You are all bark and no bite and she knows this.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/18 02:34 PM
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The fact that this is still bothering you means she is right. If you truly were masculine you wouldn’t give two shits about that comment and would have known how to make her tingle by your response or lack thereof depending on the scenario. Good. Use it as fuel. You now know you are a faggot. What are you going to do about it? Hint: lift, sidebar, and STFU.
/r/askMRP08/10/18 02:29 PM
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Well, telling her “no sex in October” was a really butt hurt way of going about it. The sex moratorium recommended in NMMNG is less about her and more about you. I don’t like telling your wife about a moratorium. I do see some benefit for some guys just giving up for a little while. Too many dudes here read MMSLP and start gaming their wife and getting all clingy and cringey uncomfortable with them. When you are unattractive this is a huge turn off. This is why she is saying friends first. She h…
/r/askMRP06/10/18 02:30 PM
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Ding ding ding ding ding. We have a winner! Yes, she is simply trying to get a reaction out of you. It is no different than the pouty little 4 year old girl with her arms folded. Do you jump up and down when a 4 year old asks you to? Treat this the exact same way. More than likely, when she realizes it doesn’t have an effect on you she will escalate and amplify her attempts. Finally, if you don’t cave she will spill and spit out all of her emotions that were pent up the last few days or week in …
/r/askMRP06/10/18 02:17 PM
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Sounds like my wife about 2 years ago. The good news is you have more control than you think. Yes, it is true your wife may not play along. But, many of the times she will and is craving someone that will call out her bullshit yet be there for her when she needs the support. If you're not all in then I say, no it can't be done. If you are done being a pussy then, yes.
/r/askMRP03/10/18 10:47 PM
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We always say watch what they do and not what they say. She is saying she may want to work things out, but what she is doing is living like she were single. It appears she wants to be single.
/r/askMRP02/10/18 07:41 PM
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If you are only 4 months in and this shit is happening you may look back at it as a blessing. You can pick up the pieces and move on. Why did she leave? You mention finding RP and other things, but I have a hard time believing that becoming a beta caused her to leave 3 months after getting married. What aren't you telling us? You will deny it, but I wouldn't be surprised if her "friends house" is a potential branch swing. I don't care if her parents are pastors. She may be trying to make sure sh…
/r/askMRP02/10/18 07:04 PM
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It's things like this... I've always liked to live on the countryside Okay, why aren't you living in the countryside? Queue, bullshit work excuse, bullshit family this excuse, bullshit that excuse. I'm not saying that is your mission to live out in the countryside. But if it were, you would know how to make it happen right? Life is happening to you. You are not living it for yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/18 06:37 PM
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This seems relevant to your situation. https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3fpefe/every_unhappy_wife_is_a_rape_victim/ In other words, you need to keep improving and increase your SMV and attractiveness. There is more to this than what I can type in a comment. The good news is there is a sidebar that has it all there for you. Chad can get away with the quickies while pushing her head down that she will thank you for afterwards. Chaz Bono cannot.
/r/askMRP01/10/18 10:13 PM
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Not sure why all the hate on this post. Good luck red. And I will echo don’t delete your posts and comments. To much wisdom to let waste.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/18 03:27 AM
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ultimately she will just say "You're just being annoying" And then her pussy will dry up and shrivel so much and so tightly that you will see her keel over, wince, and say "ouch!". Being more annoying than her is not attractive. In fact, it's unattractive. Coming down to her level is not attractive. In fact, it's unattractive. Engaging with her from your own frame or not engaging at all shows you are above the annoying pestering talk. Think of a little kid tugging on your shirt to get your atten…
/r/askMRP27/09/18 06:40 PM
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It may be a matter of semantics, but for clarity this is a "kill the puppy" scenario and not a "main event". And in this case, she killed it not you. You never got far enough along for a true main event. As far as how to move forward? You haven't internalized a damn thing and have been larping this whole process if you don't know what to do now. You should have been living your own life on your own terms for a while now. At least since swallowing. There really should be little difference between…
/r/askMRP26/09/18 09:30 PM
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saw a creep of 0.2% BF per day and resisted freaking out Don't worry about whatever method you are using what it is saying from day to day. I will often use a handheld impedance body fat monitor. I don't use it because it is the most accurate method out there, but I do use it on occasion simply to keep tabs on my percentage and make sure things seem to be trending in the direction that I want. The same with the scale. If you measure daily, you will see +/-2lbs fluctuation and +/-1% BF fluctuatio…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/18 09:21 PM
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I then said, “what are you going to do, eat me?” And laughed. This was funny. The knife and the divorce situation is not. Good luck bro.
/r/askMRP25/09/18 04:16 PM
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I'll say it. It was stupid. Mostly for the predicament you now find yourself in that you are woefully unprepared to handle. It has nothing to do on whether you think cheating is right or wrong. It has everything to do with whether you could handle the consequences or not. You obviously can't. Dread Level 6: Begin to study pickup artistry. Before you do anything stupid, use your newfound knowledge about the stages of seduction and pickup artistry on your wife. Give it some time and apply this kno…
/r/askMRP24/09/18 05:35 PM
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Bertha and Bessie didn’t answer their phone and Shamu was taking a bath.
/r/askMRP23/09/18 03:11 PM
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What do YOU think? Be your own judge. Not your wife and not the internet. If she is not supportive take the kids with you or send them somewhere else while you do BJJ. Don't let her sabotage it. Enroll the kids into BJJ too. Depending on the gym, some have youth classes on one side and the adult classes on the other so you can do it at the same time.
/r/askMRP21/09/18 07:02 PM
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In reading your post history there is no way you are getting married anyways. So, why even ask the question?
/r/askMRP21/09/18 04:54 PM
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If you can afford a cell phone you can afford a gym membership. If you have a hard time getting away in the evenings lift in the mornings before work. There are plenty of skinny and fat people at the gym I go to. There are also people who are ripped. Nobody gives a shit. In fact, I actually have respect for the ones that come in weak or overweight, but are consistent and you can see them change over time and get stronger. It's the ones I see once every week or two that haven't changed a bit that…
/r/askMRP21/09/18 03:32 PM
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Living with an eternal child AWALT. Women are like children, so if you like women then this is your future regardless of whether you stay or not. Some are better behaved than others though.
/r/askMRP20/09/18 05:33 PM
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Living with an eternal child AWALT. Women are like children, so if you like women then this is your future regardless of whether you stay or not. Some are better behaved than others though.
/r/askMRP20/09/18 05:32 PM
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Does it matter? If I tell you yes will it make you stay? If I tell you no will you divorce? She can follow along if she chooses. You can move on if you choose. You will likely find success stories with those who have stayed and those who have left. The only real promise here is that you will come out ahead either way. You will either exit a bad marriage or rekindle it with a happier more submissive woman.
/r/askMRP20/09/18 05:20 PM
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Is she breastfeeding? If so, that will do it. While lactating her hormones actually shut down her reproductive cycle. Meaning no periods. I think this is nature's way of birth control. You can't run away from a saber-toothed tiger while pregnant and holding a 4 month old baby. This would explain the lack of enthusiasm and wetness. Lactating produces prolactin. That is the same hormone that your body releases when you ejaculate and makes your boner go away. Essentially, she is in a long-term refr…
/r/askMRP20/09/18 03:55 PM
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I would lead here again. Really it is yours and her only shot. Tell her we are going to be healthy and not have health issues when we get older. Throw away all of the shit in the house. Meal prep. Go to Amazon and pick these up. Put yourself and her on a strict diet and an exercise regime. The good news is you will drop even further down from 17% and she will start shedding the pounds as well. She might call you insensitive dick, but do you really care? Your wife can't weigh more than you do. Wh…
/r/askMRP20/09/18 03:41 PM
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Is your wife overweight? If you were carrying an extra 100 pounds it is likely she was was carrying some extra baggage too. Couples tend to mirror each other in fitness and lifestyle. The good news is this works the other way too. Lead the entire family into a healthier lifestyle. Encourage her femininity and to exercise and eat well. It is important to you and let her know that. In the end, you can’t force any of this and it is her choice. It is up to you how much effort you want to dedicate to…
/r/askMRP20/09/18 02:07 AM
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I can't help but read this post here and the "I'm a unicorn one" from ImSteveMcqueen from a few months ago and see some similarities. Don't get me wrong. ImSteveMcqueen is a loser of epic proportions and has some legendary retard status within MRP. OP has really embraced RP and is maximizing his attractiveness and is now slaying strange that ImSteveMcqueen only dreams of. But, I just can't help but see some similarities between the two. OP is just not retarded like our favorite gay unicorn, but …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/18 08:51 AM
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Both. You build attraction and employ dominance. "I want you to swallow my cum"
/r/askMRP18/09/18 05:14 PM
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Physical. Haven’t made the gym as much as I want. Deload again this past wk. Starting to love lifting again just need to make time in the morning rather than saying I’ll do it in the evening and then running out of steam. For me, gym comes first because if I tried doing it later in the day it wouldn't happen as often. I wake up at 5AM every weekday to lift. Nothing can get in the way of making it to the gym except lame ass excuses. Go everyday even if you don't want to. I would say about 80% of …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 04:08 PM
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You sound like you have the financial means to help out your friend. Zach sounds like a douche. He was divorced five years ago? Since then you have been letting him stay rent free AND you give him money for his car, food, and expenses? Why? Because Zach is a lazy ass uneducated drunk? Try paying his tuition next time. I'm all for helping a brother out, but 5 fucking years? Sorry, your friend is a loser. Being an uneducated drunk is a choice. What has your friend done with this gracious gift you …
/r/askMRP17/09/18 09:20 PM
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WTF??? Most of this came off passive aggressive and super cringey to me. You felt the need to text her? Keep texting to logistics for now because your text game sucks. Don’t try to discuss or resolve problems over it. I read the last kiss emoji (after a 3 hour delay mind you) as “I’m not going to encourage my little dip shit of a husband to sexualize this convo and this kiss emoji will shut this shit down.” Send. I’m glad your dental hygiene is on point and your teeth have been thoroughly flosse…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/18 03:50 PM
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she kept saying let’s just stay here That's because she wanted to fuck your roomate dipshit. They were probably eyeballing each other the whole damn time, but you were too busy being the court jester to notice. So much communication is non-verbal. She was already getting wet before he moved over to her when you left. That's why he was able to start making out with her so quickly when you exited.
/r/askTRP14/09/18 11:35 PM
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Like saying we are all jealous because you re talking to girls on the internet all day long Besides we both know that OP is training to be a cage fighter
/r/askMRP14/09/18 04:16 PM
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Either way you do it is fine. Some will say cut and then bulk. Others will say bulk and then cut. Just stick with one until it is time to switch. I would recommend getting sub 15%. You likely won’t be where you want to be at 15%, but you are in this long-term. Once you are 15% you likely won’t look like some awesome beast, but bulk up regardless for a few months after that. You must always be eating clean though even during a bulk. If you haven’t bulked before you will find it difficult to actua…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/18 02:11 PM
1

Answer the following: Do you want a female friend? Yes or No
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/18 12:06 AM
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Yes, you should definitely live your life based off of your wife’s reactions and the opinions of anonymous internet strangers.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/18 11:37 PM
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Your lifts are always going to suffer while cutting. Keep lifting heavy because you need to keep pushing hard so that you don't lose muscle, but you are not going to see advancements until you start eating at a surplus and begin a bulk. That is just kind of the reality when you are in a calorie deficit. Keep pushing though. You will just see better gains once you start eating at a surplus.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/18 10:48 PM
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Yves Saint Laurent l'Homme I have the Yves Saint Laurent La Nuit and I love it. It is supposedly an evening scent hence the La Nuit, but it is office safe in my opinion and I wear it all the time. It is currently my favorite, but I agree there are some scents that just don't fit while others can walk the line. I also like Sauvage, but so do a lot of other people apparently. Demand is high right now and it is going for $115+ for a 3.4 oz bottle. I just can't seem to part with that amount of money…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/18 10:36 PM
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Get at least 4 or 5 go to fragrances. When you keep putting the same thing on over and over again your nose will just tune it out. Some scents are good for the office and others are good for a night out. You should have a mix.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/18 10:02 PM
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Excellent write up. I got into this about 6 months ago after trying every single deodorant fragrance imaginable along with different body wash combinations. In the end, I settled with the cheap unscented $1.98 Arm & Hammer deodorant/antiperspirant you can pick up from any Walmart and using a high quality fragrance. When buying on Amazon make sure the seller is actually Amazon.com. There are a lot of fakes and knockoffs out there. I have had good luck with FragranceNet.com. They sell tester bottl…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/18 10:01 PM
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I was never a two pump chump. But, I have found that abundance and breaking down barriers in the bedroom is what will fix this. It's not your dick. It's in your head. I almost always came before I was ready to stop and lasted only 5 or 10 minutes tops. Pre-MRP, when the sex was sparse, I got overly excited about being inside a vagina and couldn't seem to control it. When you have abundance and truly DGAF you can go for as long as you want and finish when you are ready. Quick fix? There is none. …
/r/askMRP13/09/18 03:36 PM
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Scoops of protein are great, but I have learned to never skimp on whole foods as a source of protein. I eat a ton of eggs and cottage cheese in addition to meat. Just because it adds up on a food calculator and hits certain macros doesn’t mean it is going to as helpful as the real deal. I’ve learned that protein bars and more than half the shit they sell in health stores are terrible for you. They are okay in a pinch, but don’t rely on them too heavily for your macros. If I remember correctly yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 09:14 PM
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The issue I am having now is that when I express myself whine, particularly a complaint, my wife gets upset and then I feel guilty for expressing myself whining. Last week I went hiking and due to a bridge having collapsed I had to take my shoes off and walk in a river. I accidentally smashed my foot on a rock and with a good attitude like a little girl expressed whined how it hurt. My wife told me that it wouldn’t have happened if I watched where I was going. I'm not sure you realize how far yo…
/r/askMRP07/09/18 04:46 PM
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Nothing real earth shattering here. I do a protein shake right after lifting. It includes whey protein, greek yogurt, oats, peanut butter, kale, and a banana. So, it is a mix of carbs and protein to refuel and start the muscle rebuilding process. Then just eat clean the rest of the day. Try to reduce carbs the later in the day it gets and pack those in earlier. My comment mostly meant, don't hit the gym and walk out and head to work sipping on green tea or something. You need to take care of you…
/r/askMRP06/09/18 09:30 PM
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Careful. With comments like that you might wet his panties and he will want to suck your cock. https://www.reddit.com/r/askgaybros/comments/99r48l/ive_never_had_sex_with_a_man_but_want_to/ OP has a fascination with rails errr getting railed...
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/18 05:39 PM
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Lift before you go to work and eat to recover. Stop being a pussy. Marathoner? Forget those icky muscles, chicks totally dig that starvation look.
/r/askMRP06/09/18 04:41 PM
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5 mins rest is way too long IMO. I know that's what the program says to do, but that is because you are trying to complete the next lift successfully. That's what I never liked about 5x5. I was my strongest when I was doing a 5-3-1 program right after I did 5x5. But, I still didn't like it. My biggest issue was the kind of physique it was building. It will give you a thicker physique like the dudes on a strongman competition that toss VW Beetles over walls. Those dudes are some of the strongest …
/r/askMRP06/09/18 03:59 PM
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I found that lifting 3 days per week doesn't work for me. I lift 5 days a week and rotate between muscle groups as to not overwork any particular area. At 21% bodyfat you can likely use all the help you can get and getting an extra calorie burn might be just what you need. I think you are not working out frequently enough and hard enough. I think the recommended breaks in 5x5 are too long. Get on a program with 45-60 breaks between lifts. You should be breathing heavy and sweating when lifting. …
/r/askMRP06/09/18 03:38 PM
1

So, what part of not having sex in the last 4 years doesn’t say “I can’t have sex with you anymore”? I get that you are trying to see if there is anything to salvage here before pulling the plug. What I think you fail to realize is that it is already over. What level of sex do you hope to ever achieve with this woman? Once a month starfish? I bet if you finally said you were going to divorce her she could say to you “FoxShitNasty83, I’m sorry I’ve been such a cunt. I will fuck you like a pornsta…
/r/askMRP06/09/18 02:21 PM
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And it's emblematic of a larger issue: the kids need attention, our finances need attention, I need attention, etc. Which is emblematic of the even larger issue. There is a huge lack of leadership in the house. I need attention Re-read this 10 times. If you don't get nauseous then something is wrong and you haven't swallowed a damn thing. Take care of your own damn needs. Don't be needy. It's unattractive. You said it yourself. It's like "make sure your own mask is secure before attempting to as…
/r/askMRP05/09/18 03:31 PM
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I see no problem with burying the damn thing or sticking to your guns by not burying it at all. I would probably not want it in my fridge though. In the end, it needs to be what you want to do. As far as the clutter... I have explained to her... Yeah, that's not going to do it. Sounds like rationalizing and using logic with a woman. Good luck with that. Sidebar 20% complete. Not going to do it either. Most of us go thru the sidebar multiple times. So, add an extra zero to the end of that percent…
/r/askMRP30/08/18 05:31 PM
2

He may still be a douchebag, but at least not that kind of douchebag.
/r/askMRP27/08/18 11:59 PM
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This dude is super short and likes to set up "bible study" meets. I'm not even exaggerating but I'm sure I have this dude beat in every category and a lot higher in SMV. You are probably overestimating your SMV. Based off of your own description you are an underemployed, overweight, short-tempered, lazy, computer game playing, easy to piss-off faggot. That is not very attractive. You may have a lot of attractive qualities, but there is two sides to the saying "Be attractive, don't be unattractiv…
/r/askMRP27/08/18 11:57 PM
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Her script here was to come up with a concocted reason to move in with you and lock you down. After 2.5 years she wanted full commitment and to cement her position. This last bit of her “ending it” is a Hail Mary on her part. If you are worth a damn she will crack and come back. If not, then you have dodged a bullet because she was seeking you as a provider more than anything. As others have said, resist the urge to reach out. Ghost her and move on. She may come around eventually, but you have a…
/r/askMRP25/08/18 04:44 AM
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Hell yeah!
/r/askMRP25/08/18 02:22 AM
0

what steps would you recommend to help be less introverted? Hmmm... let's see... So for the past two years, my "to improve on" metrics in my performance review have boiled down to being an introvert in one form or another. "Tends to be quiet in meetings, would like to see him more engaged" Maybe you should be more engaged and less quiet in meetings "would like to see him engage with other disciplines" Engage with other disciplines then would be a good start "needs to expand his network" etc. The…
/r/askMRP23/08/18 09:50 PM
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Nope. He gave you gave you a spot on assessment with solid advice to help you get out of this cycle you are in. Unfortunately, you are too blind to see it over your screaming IDGAF at anything that might point out some flaws you may have. You are utterly hopeless. All the red pill has done for you is a slight increase in game and attractiveness. Have fun spinning your wheels in life. Alright, I’m done playing captain save a bro. You can fuck off.
/r/askMRP22/08/18 05:21 AM
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lifting redpilling for 3 months I let myself go fat lazy full beta Could have fucked an hb8 20 something last night Go ahead and fuck that hb8. She either not going to fuck you or she is not an 8. Does not compute.
/r/askMRP19/08/18 11:52 PM
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My take is this. By judging what you wrote in /r/relationship_advice a few days ago in your only other post. You are unhappy with your situation. You want to fuck other women. So, you are asking the internet to tell you its okay to burn it all down. Tell me what I should do because I can't make a decision. If it makes you feel better, I give you permission to do whatever you want. The problem is you don't even know what that is. Judging by what I read in the relationship post you are scared of y…
/r/askMRP17/08/18 11:43 PM
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Your original post was asking about killing the puppy. I'm sorry, but the puppy is already dead. Serving papers is just a formality at this point. Unfortunately, Chad will be around your daughter. Then probably another Chad and then another. You can't control this. You can only accept it. You can just be the best damn dad to your daughter possible and influence her in the time you have with her. Kids are smart. She will see you for who you truly are and the other Chads for who they are. Likewise…
/r/askMRP17/08/18 05:04 PM
1

Killing small animals can get messy. Better to let the wife handle it.
/r/askMRP14/08/18 04:08 PM
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You realize you are talking in circles. You are getting pretty good advice and then come back with "Oh, but this problem with the crush is just too hard. Anything else would be easier." I guess you are just a helpless and hopeless victim. Either fucking drop it from your mind or move the fuck on without her if it is bothering you too much. None of this in between passive shit.
/r/askMRP14/08/18 03:58 PM
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Does one of them die when you get divorced?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/18 01:16 AM
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First off, why do they have to be "couple friends"? If only there were a sidebar book that talked about how to win friends and influence people.
/r/askMRP13/08/18 03:57 PM
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Maybe you can get your sister to get you and your wife back on better speaking terms. Why are you trying to get your sister and mom speaking again? Not your circus, not your monkeys. Control what you can control and stay in your lane. Oh wait, you want to be able to ride in on your trusty steed and save the day right?
/r/askMRP09/08/18 11:07 PM
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Should I bother telling the wife that I'm on the market or just wait until I have actual information to share. In the vein of STFU and not telling people my goals and just working the problem, it seems like I should just keep it to myself for now. Pretty sure I just answered my own question, but any community input is welcome. You already know the answer. Bring her in the loop when you have a legitimate job offer you are planning to accept. I can't think of any advantages and only disadvantages …
/r/askMRP06/08/18 07:10 PM
3

Bob Villa is so sexy.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/18 03:24 PM
3

You get the sex you deserve. I once thought it was my wife’s vanilla nature that was the problem. It was my failure to lead in the bedroom that was truly the problem. I wouldn’t have dreamed of pulling my wife’s hair before TRP. Last time we had sex I drug her over to the edge of the bed and was pounding her hard. I reached underneath and grabbed a handful of it and gave it a pretty good tug. I was partly waiting for her to say something. The only thing she said came after I had finished and she…
/r/askMRP06/08/18 01:38 AM
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I didn’t threaten her with divorce, but I can see how she thinks that. So, what exactly does saying “Hey Honey, I’m speaking with a divorce lawyer” really mean then? It sounds like threatening divorce to me. Sounds like you don’t even understand your own words and actions let alone hers.
/r/askMRP03/08/18 12:38 PM
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Changing a diaper can get tricky Apparently, so can trying to game your wife if you use lines like that. Those lines were terrible.
/r/askMRP02/08/18 09:28 PM
1

Couldn't help but think of this Jim Gaffigan bit on French water. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ECg0vZt-s-E And yet, I still buy it...
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/18 04:10 PM
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You know how you say you would rather sleep/do something else than have sex with someone that is not attracted to you. Well, she would rather sleep/do something else than have sex with someone she is not attracted to. Edit: The point being, you can’t demand enthusiasm until you are worth it. Right now, you are asking five star pricing for one, two, or maybe three star accommodations.
/r/askMRP01/08/18 01:46 PM
2

This seems more like a blue pill beta embarking on a red pill journey only to arrive at a purple pill destination. It appears to me that things are only "good" for you right now because your wife felt the effects of the ultimate level of dread. You have spent the last year basking in the glow that the discovery of your cheating has brought to the relationship and are now seeing the hysterical bonding from your wife that has ensued. Whether it will last is dependent on whether you have truly chan…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/18 11:12 PM
2

So, you think she was slutting it up while out with her family? You don’t sound very fun.
/r/askMRP29/07/18 05:30 AM
5

This is Pulitzer Prize worthy.
/r/askMRP23/07/18 04:29 AM
1

Aren't most lifeguards at public pools 16-17 years old?
/r/askMRP20/07/18 03:43 PM
1

Embrace the discomfort. It is likely going to get worse until it gets better. This was a difficult phase for me in my journey. Honestly, it was probably the hardest part. There were a number of uncontrollable crying fits etc. for about 3-5 months. Talking about how I have changed and I am different. I think this is a good thing. She needs to know that something has snapped within you. A switch has been flipped and that what was once acceptable is no longer going to be okay. She will fight this a…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/18 03:38 PM
1

They don’t work.
/r/askMRP20/07/18 02:01 PM
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i stated that living a no sex marriage is unacceptable to me and she needs to get her health checked. Then I STFU and left. I am totally okay with you being overt at this point. It has been 4 years since you have been with this woman. Usually words are ineffective. That's why the mantra is Acta non verba. She sends you a wall of hamster text. It ranges from excuses, rationalizations, and accusations of you looking elsewhere. You STFU. Great. Then, this... No change sex wise but im ok with it. WT…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/18 12:11 AM
2

Self-deprecating humor is not attractive.
/r/askMRP18/07/18 05:47 PM
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Holy shit! Good catch. I just read his first Reddit post. She just gave OP sex to string him along to keep the cuckoldry going a little bit longer. Context is everything with this situation. OP likely doesn't see what she is doing and will undoubtedly keep rooting thru the garbage though.
/r/askMRP18/07/18 04:15 PM
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Indeed
/r/askMRP18/07/18 03:26 AM
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I think you like talking about yourself just fine.
/r/askMRP17/07/18 03:31 PM
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I’d like to bring this up with her that she needs to drop this and this is an instance of her holding on to something that is harmful to the relationship. No. Just no. Talking about it will never fix the problem. Why? Because attraction is your problem. Women still fuck attractive assholes. So, her being pissed at you is not a major roadblock. It's you level of attraction. Attraction with a woman is physical and psychological. Lift and grooming for the physical. Sidebar for the psychological.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 05:51 PM
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You're not attractive. I lift weights seriously Cool! I’m a big dude Awesome I make good money Great! I do all my own house projects and shit like that Sweet! I need to quit being walked on. Oops! This. Yes, you may have some attractive traits, but your unattractive traits are outweighing your good ones. Clingey validation seeking behavior from mommy is unattractive. I'm sure there are others you are over looking as well. If I make brownies out of high quality ingredients but then take a shit in…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/18 04:48 PM
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Not sure why this was downvoted. If anyone has been following OP’s post history this should be the top comment.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 02:04 PM
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Follow and track a real body building program rather than a bunch of random pull-ups and kettlebell swings. Unless you have been diagnosed with an actual disease you are likely not eating enough. It is simple math to grow. Eat more calories than you consume. Then push yourself a little bit further each time you lift. I once thought like you. I have put on 30+ lbs in the last three years. Initially, I had to force down food to eat at a surplus. There is only one unicorn that I am aware of in askM…
/r/askMRP16/07/18 04:14 AM
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I think your fiancé is right to reconsider marriage with you.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 03:30 AM
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Correction. I intended to say negative inquiry. I have amended my original comment. Regardless, the technique is the same.
/r/askMRP15/07/18 01:46 PM
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I had the exact same thought. People don’t record conversations unless they want someone else to hear it. She’s building and chronicling a case. Whether it is to a judge or to her girlfriends about how awful OP is.
/r/askMRP14/07/18 08:35 PM
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OP, in case you didn’t catch what he said here I will elaborate a little bit further because this is the right approach. Sometimes I will grab a treat for later on my way home. I will often get from my wife something like “You were out shopping and not coming home while I was here with these ornery kids!?” I repeat almost verbatim what cholomite wrote. “You don’t want any ice cream?” She usually will say “Well, I didn’t say I didn’t want any...” If she continues pushing for an explanation all yo…
/r/askMRP14/07/18 08:23 PM
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The Mayor is partially the Mayor because he isn’t affected by trivial shit This tells me you already know the answer. Maybe you are posting here hoping we have some magical way to make it not be so hard? In the end, having a DNGAF attitude will help. Stop caring so damn much. It's okay to get passionate. Don't become a robot. But, drama with coworkers should be amusing because you are above it. Short fuse in traffic? Laugh at the absurdity of some of the drivers out there. Hell, get a dashcam an…
/r/askMRP13/07/18 05:02 PM
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Couple days ago I posted about the fiance blowing off a meeting appointment you setup with a florist. Did you go with tulips or the hydrangeas? What are your colors for the wedding going to be? Wasn't watching the royal wedding just magical? You sure you're not gay? Does she know yet?
/r/askMRP12/07/18 06:10 PM
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You’re choosing picking flowers as a potential hill you want to die on?
/r/askMRP11/07/18 02:46 AM
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No, it’s like taking a shit, not wiping your ass, and waiting for her to wipe it for you. If you fuck up, own it. If there is something that needs to be done to right the wrong, do it. If an apology is warranted, give it. I think we are in agreement up to this point. If you have “fixed” everything that needs to be “fixed” and apologized you are done. Whether she accepts it or not is all on her and not in your control. Any resentment or emotions that she harbors are her own feelz, not your proble…
/r/askMRP11/07/18 02:41 AM
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Definitely include that in the list of shit to apologize for Make sure you include "your balls" in that list. This advice is way to supplicating and pedestalizing. I am sorry that I have been [insert your words], will you please forgive me? You state your apology, leave it right there, and move on. Why would you seek her forgiveness and her approval of your apology? It is really irrelevant, outside of frame, and out of your control. Don't leave that last statement seeking forgiveness hanging. Is…
/r/askMRP10/07/18 11:08 PM
3

What did it tell you?
/r/askMRP10/07/18 06:02 PM
1

I am thinking of joining an Axe throwing league... tons of hot broads do league axe throwing as well. No shit? I would have seriously never guessed. I would have figured this appealed more to the Chuck Norris/Grizzly Adams type of demographic. Anyways, sounds kind of cool. Sort of like darts, but with axes.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/18 06:00 PM
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Sex has always been unsatisfying, but no now it just sucks. It doesn't sound like things were ever that good prior. Why are you still with her? What are you expecting? Leave her and you will be forced to address this other problem you have. My social life kinda sucks and I never really go anywhere at night. Or, die sexless and alone. I don't really care. Just stop whining and do something. Figure out what you want, determine what it takes to get there, and then do it.
/r/askMRP10/07/18 05:38 PM
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Thanks, I have a feeling I know who you were. Your comment opened my eyes to what was possible in a similar situation. I still have lot's of room to improve, but it has been fun to throw something new into the mix in the bedroom every couple of months. She has been very receptive thus far, but it is something I have had to do incrementally. I simply can't go from 0-60 all at once. Things aren't perfect, but way better than they were before and still improving.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/18 10:37 PM
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First off, there is no guarantee that she will follow. In an LTR/marriage, there needs to be sufficient dread as well as comfort. If you appear to be checking out and looking elsewhere she might check out as well feeling that keeping you around is hopeless. So, the dread needs to be present, but also the feeling that if she does her part she will be included in what you have planned. This gets or keeps her motivated (usually). She resents the fact that I am so fit while she is still a fatass and…
/r/askMRP06/07/18 10:20 PM
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I can't decide which is more retarded. You pretending to post for "your friend". Or, if you have actually have a friend that requested that you post this to Reddit.
/r/askMRP06/07/18 05:49 PM
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Remember, he is "posting for a friend". Wink
/r/askMRP06/07/18 05:46 PM
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I can't believe i'm married to someone that thinks it's OK to rip up books. You think that this is the problem. The real problem is this... I have raised the topic multiple times and conveyed my views on the matter. Sounds more like an underling raising a concern with a superior to me. This is your problem. You are not the captain of your ship despite what you might think. Maybe try a PowerPoint next time though. It just may convince her.
/r/askMRP06/07/18 05:39 PM
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Honestly, I’m really pulling for the guy. I thought it sounded odd that the boldest comment of them all is coming from someone that hasn’t been laid in 4 years. Hopefully, he can stop LARPing soon and apply that same bravado to his own life. I can see what has been getting under /u/johneyapocalypse ‘s skin lately. Just fucking act and quit talking.
/r/askMRP06/07/18 02:04 AM
9

Wait. Have you fucked your wife yet?
/r/askMRP05/07/18 01:57 PM
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As I am a complete beginner, my plan is to groove the basic compound movement patterns with lighter weights for a month and then start slowly increasing the weight. I don't currently run 5x5 StrongLifts, but it is a good starting program for a reason. You start with the bar and work up each time until you reach failure. Then you deload and try breaking thru the plateau. If you aren't following a specific program I highly recommend getting on one. Don't just walk into the gym and push a bunch of …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 10:09 PM
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I am no Adonis, but I will say that as my physique has improved and the dread has been raised the blow job roadblock has been lowered. I remember about 2 years ago I came on her body (which I rarely if ever did). She recoiled like I just squirted venomous poison all over her and threw somewhat of a tantrum about it. For women, yes we have a past that they remember, but they are all too willing to rewrite history if it fits their current perception of you. This sometimes works in your favor if th…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 08:18 PM
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I agree that her behavior deserves to be rewarded and that should help maintain momentum. We are going to be getting away just the two of us later this month. We will be spending some money on this, but the overnight trip will be in the $250-400 range for the two of us rather than the $5-6k range for the full family vacation across the country.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 08:05 PM
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Question: If my form sucks (I'm not getting past parallel now), I should not move up on weight and instead work on form, rather than going up in weight when I hit all 5x5, right? Correct. If you keep going up higher in weight without having good form your just asking for all kinds of muscle imbalances and having one of your vertebrae shoot out of your back under a heavy load that it really can't handle. If you haven't been lifting in recent years, you may find that it is less about strength and …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 06:10 PM
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Sounds like a high quality woman to me. Guarantee you OP is doing this for "her". We will see if he takes your advice. Not sure there is much to salvage from a woman that has barely fucked him for 18 years all while getting railed by strange.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 04:50 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 175lbs, 12%BF, Married 14yrs, 4 kids Captain Cut is ongoing. This is probably the first week I have really noticed anything. I am down about 1% since starting 4 weeks ago. This is the lowest I have ever been. With only 4 weeks left I highly doubt I will end up as chiseled as I would have hoped. But, I think it will be an overall success since I will have put on muscle and dropped bodyfat. I would be partly tempted to keep cutting longer, but I am going to try and be smart about this…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 04:24 PM
1

Damn! That is depressing.
/r/askMRP02/07/18 09:44 PM
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I'm not yet the captain of the family in the way I'd like to be. This is why you are feeling guilty. It is that nagging feeling inside telling you that you are a faggot. Good. Fix it. Take control of your home. You have the resources you need already, just not the balls. any advice for a skinny guy with a high metabolism trying to gain muscle? Yes, eat big and lift heavy. How do I know? Because I was a skinny guy with a high metabolism too. I have to eat about 2 hours apart throughout the day. Y…
/r/askMRP02/07/18 03:31 PM
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The longer I have been doing this the more I have realized that there really is only one rule. Be attractive, don't be unattractive. Everything else in TRP/MRP, sidebar, etc. are just ways to increase attractiveness and decrease unattractive traits and behaviors.
/r/askMRP29/06/18 04:23 PM
1

Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink. It is not an official sidebar book. It is written towards business leaders, but it can be easily applied to captaining your ship at home. Many here in MRP have read it. Probably the fourth most helpful book I have read in the last couple of years right behind the main three sidebar books.
/r/askMRP29/06/18 02:08 PM
2

Or a troll. I can't help but think that this is on the other end of the keyboard.
/r/askMRP28/06/18 06:30 PM
3

Children with dynamite
/r/askMRP28/06/18 04:35 PM
1

My advice might be the opposite of what others might give here. I recommend just doing everything. Not what you feel is your "fair share" or whatever bullshit. You pick up the slack. Not to be her plow horse, but to slowly remove your dependence on her. The thing is you can't control her. If she is really such a lazy cunt, then go clean the house yourself. Get the chores done yourself. All of them. If you can't handle them all then hire some of them out. It's your fucking house so take care of i…
/r/askMRP28/06/18 03:45 PM
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I gave you good direction in your OYS post. Your best course of action is to IGNORE and move on. In fact, quit trying to pursue anything with her. She just isn't that into you. Find a new woman. There is nothing to salvage with her. You can't punish somebody by taking away your attention if she doesn't want your attention to begin with. It's like when my toddler throws a fit and says that he won't eat his ice cream because he is mad because he wants ice cream AND candy. Uh, okay. Let me go dump …
/r/askMRP27/06/18 09:50 PM
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Your whole relationship section just sounded really needy and cringey. From what I can tell there is nothing tethering you to this woman other than you have a history together. So, why all the investment in someone that is clearly not that into you?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/18 10:41 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 177lbs, 12.5%BF, Married 14yrs, 4 kids Captain Still in my cutting phase. This is week 4. I did much better nutritionally this last week. The impedence monitor shows a slight drop in BF% down to 12.5%. My lifts seem to be maintaining and I was actually able to advance to a new set of dumbbells on my bench despite my cut. I have also been hitting the pull up numbers consistently in my routine. I have been wearing a weight belt when doing dips. Damn this is tough. I love it though. It…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/18 07:30 PM
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I think you are in negative numbers as far as dread is concerned. Even faggot betas will get some duty sex now and again. Women know the need for maintenance sex. You have instilled zero dread regardless of what level you think you have reached. Your wife isn’t stupid. She knows your need for sex. And.... she hasn’t given you anything for four fucking years? She doesn’t give a shit about you. Maybe because you are not worth it. Maybe because she is fucking someone else. Maybe she is just a cunt.…
/r/askMRP24/06/18 09:19 PM
2

Where are you at in the levels of dread? If you don’t go all the way like weakandsensitive suggests you at the very least should consider practicing catch and release. It will give you a better idea of how attractive you really are and what kind of women you can pull.
/r/askMRP24/06/18 04:31 PM
1

To get them wet, make sure your mission statement is concise. Sixty percent of the time, it works every time.
/r/askMRP22/06/18 11:49 PM
2

That's all it took to rattle your cage? You sound fun.
/r/askMRP20/06/18 04:40 PM
1

This still seems overly complex. "Hey honey, I got raise" Done. If you want to go with the PowerPoint, flowchart, and Pivot Table approach be my guest. Pass 3: “Let’s schedule a meeting to find out” (This is my choice as she hates when I do this) Gee, I wonder why? If I were your boss I would seriously consider taking back your raise.
/r/askMRP20/06/18 04:03 PM
1

Fortunately, I have presented many times and early on in my career. The rest of the senior management team here makes comments about how cool and calm I always seem when presenting. I have been working on this proposed concept for nearly a year. I know it inside and out and I have all the confidence in the world it will go well. I present to the Board regularly as it is, so it is nothing all that new to me. This project just means a little bit more to me than the others I have proposed in the pa…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/18 10:16 PM
1

Have you ever tried posting a Gannt chart to Reddit? Last time it took me nearly 8 hours AND three revisions to get the formatting just right. Don't even get me started on Pivot Tables.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/18 09:57 PM
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I'm still struggling with what a lot of you are saying to not do bullshit tasks like getting a drink, grabbing something etc. However, the main time she asks for anything lately is when she is breastfeeding our son. I think this is one where some discretion needs to be used. You certainly don't want to get walked on which women will try to do to you. If my wife asks me to do something that she can easily do herself I draw a line. However, if something is too heavy, up too high, or something she …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/18 04:21 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 178lbs, 13%BF, Married 14yrs, 4 kids Captain Second week of cutting is in the books. I did well at the gym, but completely failed with diet. This is actually somewhat rare for me, but a failure nonetheless. I'm not sure if I lost anything over the course of the week. I guess the fact that I didn't put on any weight may be a positive. I am back at it for week three. The extra junk at night is what killed me. We had a number of social gatherings last week and that is what tipped my ca…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/18 03:52 PM
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Why do you want to date her? Read up more on branch swinging. To me it sounds like she is swinging right now. The “we can still date” is code for if my next branch breaks during my swing you will be there to catch me and take me back right? At this point, as hard as it may be, I would just cut off the branch completely. If she wants a relationship she will need to be the one to jump through hoops to get back to you. Not the other way around.
/r/askMRP19/06/18 02:11 PM
2

I still think you are missing the point here. My mistake question was referring back to the original point of origin of your little tussle. She asked you for a beer that you didn't get for her. Plain and simple. Yes, you fucked up later, but let's roll back to the genesis of this little spat. Did you do something wrong? Did you cross a line? Did you make a mistake? Says who? Her? YOU get to decide what is right and wrong (see frame/world view). YOU get to be your own point of origin (be your own…
/r/askMRP19/06/18 12:00 AM
2

Did you make a mistake?
/r/askMRP18/06/18 10:58 PM
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If you don't get what he just spelled out to you then you haven't learned a damn thing from the sidebar. He just took the time to give you play-by-play rock solid advice of your whole interaction. And in case you were wondering, it was all spot on and the right course of action. Looks like all your girl has to do is put on her best frowny face and act unhappy to get her way. If you are too slow to comply then I'll bet she folds her arms, stamps her feet, and gives you that look. In the end, you …
/r/askMRP18/06/18 09:24 PM
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Dear online diary, I have done some stuff. Things got bad and then I did some more stuff. My wife is now is on another floor of the house. I sometimes get emotional about shit. Also, I tend to write vague thoughts about some things and some stuff. WTF are you asking OP? Be more specific.
/r/askMRP18/06/18 01:29 AM
2

Translation. You don't think you can do any better.
/r/askMRP15/06/18 06:46 PM
3

Hey! Aren't you supposed to be lifting right now? Move some heavy iron around. It will remind you that she is just a little girl.
/r/askMRP14/06/18 11:31 PM
3

Same playbook applies here as always. Amused mastery and agree and amplify are great tools. Don't DEER. However, you mentioned in a past post that she has caught you cheating three times. So, you are going to have to lay some comfort on her that you are going to keep her around despite your occasional shenanigans. I doubt she likes the fact that you have cheated, but I think she is more concerned that she will be completely replaced by someone else than she is concerned your cock is in another g…
/r/askMRP14/06/18 10:47 PM
1

Get to sub 80kg for the firs time in my life. Damn! You must have been born one heavy ass baby. Your poor mother...
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/18 03:37 PM
2

I can’t imagine what you would have done if she had called you a poopie head.
/r/askMRP14/06/18 01:58 PM
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Excommunication won’t happen anyways. Two witnesses are required and that is not possible for her accusation. So, you are right there are no worries there.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/18 04:46 AM
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It's pretty nuclear and a bad sign when rape allegations are thrown out. It could be a hail mary that she is throwing to try and get you back in line, but even if it is there are some red flags with her judgement if that is the case. It looks like a kill the puppy scenario to me as well which you have already identified. It seems she is trying to paint you into a corner so that you finally strangle the fucker because she doesn't want to do it herself. Telling you to leave, the rape allegations, …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/18 11:50 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 179lbs, 13%BF, Married 14yrs, 4 kids Captain I finished my first week of cutting. I've never enjoyed cutting, but so far this has been tolerable. I think spacing out my meals and eating real whole foods will help a lot. My diet is nearly identical as before except for the reduction in carbs. Workouts are different and call for running 1-2 miles 3-4 times per week. I used to run, but it is not something I particularly enjoy. I'm going to stick with it though since the program has bee…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/18 04:25 PM
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I should not be trying to manipulate or seek change her behaviour You said it yourself and already know the answer, so why are you asking? The real answer is you have to actually really become the type of person that she would willingly want to do things for.
/r/askMRP11/06/18 11:57 PM
3

Oh, not that one...
/r/askMRP10/06/18 09:23 PM
3

Your spidey sense has been tingling for a while. Don’t root through the garbage and be a good dad to your daughter. You know what to do.
/r/askMRP10/06/18 06:00 PM
1

I’ve done Body Beast and 5x5 SL’s. While Body Beast isn’t awful it is certainly limited. Squatting with dumbbells is just plain awkward. Go with 5x5 to get up to speed and then switch to something else. Ironically, what I run now, Arnold Blueprint, has a lot of similarities to Body Beast, but doesn’t have the limitations.
/r/askMRP08/06/18 06:13 AM
3

you off. just to piss bottom to top write this from I’m going to
/r/askMRP08/06/18 03:01 AM
3

WISNoFapIFG?
/r/askMRP06/06/18 09:28 PM
2

There are two kinds of monkeys at the zoo. There are the lonely loser ones masturbating in the corner all alone. Then, there is the alpha of the group fucking all of the other chimpanzees. Which monkey are you?
/r/askMRP06/06/18 08:38 PM
1

The reason I ask was to point out that your progress will be hindered until you are at peace with this. This is the outcome independence you should be striving for. Your future may be with her if she decides to come along or it may be with someone else. She needs to know that you have options and that she can be easily replaced if you choose. Once you have followed the sidebar and raised your SMV significantly whether you stay or go is your call and will depend on how much value she provides. It…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/18 06:36 PM
1

One question. How okay are you with leaving your wife?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/18 05:38 PM
2

She then goes on about all the stuff she has to do and how anxious she is blah blah blah. I think you handled this convo just fine with the broken record. But, I have one thing for you to consider just to make sure there isn't anything you are overlooking. If we view our women as reflections of our leadership and she is saying she is anxious and overwhelmed, there could be something actually wrong here. I know you mentioned later that you feel your leadership is strong. This may very well be the…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/18 03:45 PM
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Since discovering MRP, I've developed an attitude of "I'll do it my way, who cares if she likes it or not" and this has served me well in some regards...but on this issue, she was right and we both knew it, I'd look like a fool if I disregarded good feedback from my capable F.O. Good recognition here. Being a good captain doesn't always mean the ideas come from you. Once you have established yourself as the captain, everyone knows the ultimate decision lies with you for the direction of the ship…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/18 06:57 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 182lbs, 13%BF, Married 14yrs, 4 kids Captain Completed the bulk. It was an 8 week bulk and I put on about 12lbs total. My BF% increased from 12.5% to 13% which doesn't seem too bad to me. At about 1.5lbs per week I think I did pretty well here as some fat gain is inevitable. Even though the BF% went up slightly I don't think it was visually all that noticeable and I would argue that I look better now than I did prior to starting with the added mass. I am hopeful that my cut will car…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/18 04:44 PM
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Won’t f*** because married not enough tingles. Fixed that for you. If you are hot enough, have enough game, have enough whatever she will fuck you. Yes, this is a moving average that varies for each woman, but meet the threshold and being married doesn't matter. You were intriguing enough to her to escalate to where you did, but in the end you couldn't jump the last hurdle so she shut it down. PS - Also, don't call it "catch and release" if it is not. If you want to fuck other women great, but I…
/r/askMRP04/06/18 11:57 PM
1

So, he's a gay unicorn?
/r/askMRP04/06/18 08:38 PM
3

I read mostly about what your mom wants, what your dad wants, what your wife wants, but very little about what you want. The little I did read about what you want came off as you just mostly wanting to avoid confrontation. I get it. I found myself in a very very similar situation preMRP. It’s hard to tell the woman that’s wiped your ass and spanked your bottom to fuck off. Also, hard to tell your wife when you are still finding your balls how things are going to work. In the end, YOU need to be …
/r/askMRP03/06/18 11:05 PM
3

There's always castration...
/r/askMRP01/06/18 03:30 PM
2

I told her to stop trying to blame me for things that are not my fault. If you want to really dissect this interaction I think this is where you messed up. Agree and amplify would have been better in my opinion. Rather than getting defensive it points out the absurdity of her accusation. "It finally worked! I've been setting that stroller finger trap for a few months now. Bwahahahah! (fake evil laugh)" I'm am completely okay with you tossing her the keys and saying what you did. One piece of adv…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/18 08:51 PM
2

You need to be a man with options. Once you have options you will realize that you don’t need to put up with her shit because Stacy and Amber will happily suck your cock. Spin plates. Sometimes they get wobbly and break. Get another plate. That’s how you deal with this cycle.
/r/askMRP31/05/18 02:27 AM
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Are you prepared for the shit storm that will ensue after you say no? Because it most definitely will come and without the right tools you will either cave like a bitch or you will come off looking like a toddler screaming that he doesn't want macaroni for dinner. Also, make sure you don't focus on the little stuff. Yes, she owns the decisions including dinner. If that is the battleground you choose to fight on more power to you. Just make sure you are picking the correct battles. She is not the…
/r/askMRP30/05/18 05:27 PM
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But when I say no I just feel so guilty
/r/askMRP30/05/18 04:16 PM
2

I will try to condense as much as possible. I have always been skinny. Like super skinny. I wrestled at the lowest weight class in school and was never in fear of not making weight. I started "working out" doing P90x3 about 3 years ago. I stepped on a scale and I was 150lbs even and probably +20% BF. I was skinny fat. That eventually progressed into lifting solely with dumbbells for a year or so. Then, this last year with the advice of this forum, I have been doing either 5x5 SL or a more tradit…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/18 10:47 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 180lbs, 12.75%BF, Married 14yrs, 4 kids Captain Final week of the first 8 weeks of my program. I will be starting an 8 week cut next week. I really enjoyed the first 4 weeks of this program, but the last 4 which were different than the first four have grown a little mundane. A lot of the same target reps and weights. I was able to progress throughout the 4 weeks and raise the weights which is good, but I think I enjoyed the variety of the first 4 weeks. I'm sticking with the program…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/18 07:25 PM
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Faggot!!! /u/MrChadThundercock somehow forget to say it this time and it is so deserved.
/r/askMRP28/05/18 05:07 PM
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I’m also having trouble with agree and amplify. My wife wanted to me to agree to her having sex with another guy. So, I agreed and then amplified by inviting over three more dudes. Am I doing this right?
/r/askMRP28/05/18 04:57 PM
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My girl is telling me to fuck her and fuck her hard. What should I do?
/r/askMRP27/05/18 04:01 AM
1

Hmmm... it looks like everyone that called you a pussy or a faggot for your bullshit got downvoted once. I wonder who could have done that OP? Weak.
/r/askMRP25/05/18 07:48 PM
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I know you say that you are leading, but you are suffering all of the symptoms of someone failing to lead in the home assuming you have a competent first officer. Hence a lot of her anxiety. I would do some introspection here and see where you may be falling short. I can’t show you where this might be with such a short post, but I have some advice from reading between the lines. Hard to lead while your playing video games for 4 hours on end. I know you used that as an example, but it sounds like…
/r/askMRP24/05/18 08:23 PM
1

I am doing the Arnold Blueprint. It is probably about twice the duration of the workouts I was doing before. The intensity is higher and there is simply just more volume in the sets. The first few weeks were really challenging, but I think I have settled into it a little better now. I also always ate cleanish before, but I feel like I am pretty dialed in now. I personally really don't mind eating the same stuff everyday. I make a protein smoothie with whey, oatmeal, nonfat greek yogurt, peanut b…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/18 01:56 PM
1

Get a lawyer. Seriously. I know you say you can't afford it. You can't afford not to in this case. Yes, it will set you back financially a year or two, but it will be well worth the investment. Stop negotiating anything with her. Based off of what you wrote it sounds like she will manipulate you and eat you for lunch. Seeing that you have been the caretaker you have an extremely strong position and you should be calling the shots here as you should have a ton of leverage. She will always have ri…
/r/askMRP22/05/18 06:57 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 180lbs, 12.75%BF, Married 14yrs, 4 kids Captain Lifting has been very good as of late. I am approaching the last week of my bulk. I don't think I have really put on hardly any fat. I am up almost 10lbs and the impedance device only shows a .25%BF increase. This is somewhat new territory for me and tells me that I am likely doing it right this time around. Past bulks I would put on muscle, get stronger, but also get fat. Much more volume, duration, going heavy at times, and focusing …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/18 05:34 PM
3

This is terrible advice. Hand your balls to your wife. What could go wrong?
/r/askMRP18/05/18 09:36 PM
1

I am fat, ... The anger is making me just want to leave, and find someone who truly desires me. Who is hotter in your opinion? This girl or this girl. Who would you truly desire? Both women have similar net worth and both are relatively famous. Are you worth being desired?
/r/askMRP18/05/18 09:24 PM
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Change is uncomfortable. Prior to MRP I thought I was the shit. At least, that is what my ego was telling me. The sidebar helped me step back and uncover my many blind spots and pointed out that I wasn't truly being honest with myself. If you are willing to put in the time and effort to rebuild yourself from the ground up you can be successful. The tools to rebuild are here.
/r/askMRP18/05/18 06:57 PM
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So far, everything you have ever posted here has been a cringey butthurt victim puke. You are way too sensitive and have fragile ego. Crush that and then you might actually be able to pull this whole MRP thing off. Right now, I don't think you are the type that "gets it". Prove me wrong. Don't believe me? Go read your last post. Oh wait, that was deleted. That was the post that talked about your other account that you deleted. The one that had the post about your Dear Diary with poems to your wi…
/r/askMRP18/05/18 05:31 PM
2

Avoid pleated pants. They haven't fit well since well... this. Try everything on before you buy. Don't just assume a brand and size you've used and liked in the past will automatically work.
/r/askMRP18/05/18 04:47 PM
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Overall, the same rules apply with Mormon women because AWALT. However, Mormon girls are indoctrinated with the belief that they are on a pedestal ever since YW's, so there are some things that need to be handled a little bit differently here. Mormon women are of the belief that you will be worthy and 100% faithful for time and all eternity. So to her, this is just a phase and you will eventually get back into your box once she clamps down tightly on the sex you are being drip fed. She flat out …
/r/askMRP16/05/18 07:31 PM
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if you make a sub-optimal financial decision or two, Dave Ramsey doesn't come collect your soul. This is funny. I agree with what you are saying. I am about 2 months away from a 5-6 year journey paying off over $200k in debt. Once I am out of debt (everything except the house), I need to put some distance between going back into debt. At that point, making an upgrade to something I really want will make more sense. A higher mortgage (within reason) doesn't scare me too much. Homes are typically …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/18 04:27 PM
5

Steve, I am also convinced that you are a unicorn high functioning retard.
/r/askMRP15/05/18 05:47 PM
1

36yrs, 6'0", 179lbs, 12.75%BF, Married 14yrs, 4 kids Captain Everything still seems to be cruising along with the new lifting program. I am thoroughly exhausted after each workout. My volume has increased each time and I am sure to either push for more weight or more reps in all of my lifts. So far, I have been able to increase this every time and I have yet to hit a day when I was unable to exceed my prior workout. I am still putting on muscle. For the most part, my BF% has stayed static althou…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/18 04:46 PM
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Nice breakdown and reading between the lines. On the surface it looks like a feminist article shitting on men and calling on feminist sympathy. The truth is, and what MRP points out to us, that in the bluest relationships many times the first officer has a valid gripe with the leadership on the ship. The first officer is exhausted from being captain and making every fucking decision, no longer wants to be captain, never wanted to be captain, but can't trust her drunk ass husband/captain to lead …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/18 06:30 PM
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I agreed to counseling because I thought it would help. Here is one thing that I have learned. I've talked to you in the past. We are mormon as well and I at one point came across Dr Fife's stuff about a month or two before I discovered MRP. I actually really like what she does, but we have never gone thru her courses. I mentioned them to my wife, but she balked. Here was my problem and my failed thinking pre-RP and where I think you may be stuck. I wanted Dr Fife to fix our problems. I wanted D…
/r/askMRP14/05/18 04:02 PM
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Be in the /r/marriedredpill subreddit, touch the three little dots up in the top right of your screen, go to Community Info.
/r/askMRP14/05/18 04:19 AM
2

Why does this post feel like Napoleon Dynamite talking about his hot girlfriend model?
/r/askMRP13/05/18 10:20 PM
2

This is why you really need to STFU. Most of this is more successful when you let her hamster run. When you tell her everything it changes how you play the game. You wouldn’t walk up as the quarterback and tell the defense everything you are going to do and how you are going to do it. You are practically seeking validation of your progress with her by telling her all of this.
/r/askMRP13/05/18 03:26 AM
1

STDs skyrocketing with seniors
/r/askMRP11/05/18 03:46 PM
4

This reads like it is just another note in your phone about your wife's hot sister and you mourning your dog. Is this an extension of your secret diary or do you actually have a question?
/r/askMRP09/05/18 10:21 PM
1

I'm not sure you understood what he meant. You have three explanations to explain that discrepancy in sizing. 1) You wear them like Steve Urkel (which you have confirmed not to be the case so that's definitely not it) 2) This which is the vanity sizing that Rian references that manufacturers use to make stupid Americans who are in denial not feel so fat. 3) You have a severe case of muffin top to make room for those extra 6 or 7 inches that sit right above your waist line. I vote #2
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/18 04:27 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 178lbs, 12.5%BF, Married 14yrs, 4 kids Captain Week 5 of the Arnold Blueprint. I am really liking the results of this program. I am on a bulk. I have put on about 8lbs in the last 5 weeks, but my bodyfat hasn't really budged and I can swear I have taken a little off of my midsection. I never measured, but the fat has gone down there. Even though I have done StrongLifts and some other programs my body is really responding to the increased volume and intensity. I imagine this will lev…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/18 11:16 PM
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So let's review. Most of the problems in your life are due to your nose and teeth. It has affected your work, relationships, and career opportunities. You are not where you want to be today because of them. You did have braces at one point in time, but your mean ol' "parents didn't bother forcing (you) to wear a retainer". So, now your parents are to blame as well. Great, anything or anyone else you want to blame for your poor confidence? I would undoubtedly be a better man once I was comfortabl…
/r/askMRP01/05/18 04:19 PM
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Cool chart. But, it doesn't mean shit. It's kind of like just talking, but using Excel. Acta no verba. I'm not going to pick apart your chart. I don't know your past history with lifting, former collegiate athlete, nutrition, drive, determination. I would say that putting on 47lbs of muscle would put you in rare company without anabolics especially since much of that time you will be in a caloric deficit. Focus on shorter term goals to start with. Just get thru StrongLifts to begin with and tryi…
/r/askMRP27/04/18 05:55 PM
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i told her I'm going to get a gym membership and I start talking to my wife. I tell her of course i care i calmy but firmly said so i said "in order.. then (I) simply said "okay" Too much talking. STFU. Moral of the story, go get a gym membership. Go ahead. It's okay. Do it. Don't "talk" about it anymore.
/r/askMRP26/04/18 05:19 PM
2

Speaking of the 80's. Did anyone else ever have this watch besides me? Super Mario watch I had when I was 9 years old. Brings back memories. Damn, I was alpha a fuck back then.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/18 04:14 PM
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I haven't seen him before. I like the style. Some of the Art of Manliness stuff is a little too formal for me for day-to-day wear and is out of place in the part of the country I am in. Plus, it sometimes comes off as "trying too hard" in my opinion. I personally prefer this guy's look. Just glancing through his feed I need to do a better job of switching up belts and shoes.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/18 12:17 AM
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The 80's called and want your GShock back. I agree with all of your other advice on watches though. I can't stand the digital Casio style watches. They look out of place to me in any scenario except maybe Back to the Future.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/18 10:24 PM
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I have had really good luck with CK polos. They work well with an athletic build and are some of the best fitting shirts I own. However, even with those you have to try every shirt on before you buy it.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/18 09:13 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 175lbs, 12.5%BF, Married 14yrs, 4 kids Captain Week 3 of the Arnold Blueprint. There has been good and bad with this workout. So far, I can't complain about the results even though it is very early on. I am eating at a surplus and I have already started putting on weight and muscle. The workouts are grueling and pretty intense. I like the challenge though. There is some variation week to week. Whether it is high volume lower weight, 5x6's, lower volume higher weight, or even somethi…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/18 05:02 PM
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Looked at your history and from what I can tell you have wanted out of the relationship for a while. Cool, whatevs. The Facebook thing is just your hamster justifying your way out that makes you still feel good inside. In the end, I don't really care whether you stay, go, cheat, make her your cuckqueen your words not mine just 9 days ago, or any other combination of scenarios. I am just here to point out that you're just bullshitting yourself. I guarantee that /u/JoATMoN9 is spot on in his asses…
/r/askMRP20/04/18 11:54 PM
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Sounds like you are a pussy and you are deep in her frame. That's why you resent her. she starts acting a bit of a cunt... But it just puts me back in the frame of disliking her. You diagnosed it yourself right here. She can't put you in any frame of mind unless you allow her to. She has quite a bit of control over you and your emotional state don't you think? If you don't want to live resentful then go find your balls (hint: they are in her purse).
/r/askMRP20/04/18 05:36 PM
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If your on a desktop browser it is over here in /r/marriedredpill ---> On mobile, it is up at the top right of your screen in the three little dots under Community Info within /r/marriedrepill. You have a lot of reading to do.
/r/askMRP20/04/18 04:37 PM
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This is complete bullshit. Yes there are cheat codes. Just ask Harvey Weinstein and all the other fat asses with money and power. The dynamic between Harvey Weinstein and his women was closer to the dynamic between Jabba the Hut and Princess Leia. Sure, he used his power to get them to fuck him, but he was never going to get her "best" this way. Yes, the pure coercion thru power dynamic exists. Whether it is a "cheat code" I suppose is up for debate. I personally would prefer a woman that doesn'…
/r/askMRP19/04/18 07:26 PM
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She was likely ovulating and just horny. You happened to be available. I wouldn't put too much stock into 5 days being able to undo 12 years of faggotry. There are no cheat codes at 26.5% BF.
/r/askMRP19/04/18 04:35 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 175lbs, 12.5%BF, Married 14yrs, 4 kids Captain I'm on week 2 of the Arnold Blueprint. The first week I admittedly took it easy. I have been working out for the last few years daily, but there was a weird sort of perfect storm where I tweaked my back which sidelined me for about a week, then I nearly severed off my finger the following week and I had to take two weeks off to let the stiches heal, and then after that finally got better I picked up a virus. So, during that month I had …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 06:34 PM
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Backdrop: RP for a year/two. Sex once a week or less - never more. That does not compute
/r/askMRP16/04/18 05:44 PM
1

They should really create a sidebar for that stuff huh?
/r/askMRP16/04/18 05:21 PM
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There is a very interesting post on /POF I am trying to comprehend how you found any worthwhile information in that article.
/r/askMRP13/04/18 10:04 PM
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I've been working with her in her condition for the past 4 years, etc. What did that consist of? Running yourself ragged around the house to care for everything? Walking on eggshells because you knew she was fragile and didn't want to send her off into a long depressive episode by saying or doing the wrong thing? How has that worked out for you? Yes, she has some responsibility here. But, so do you with the boundaries (or lack of) that you have set. What is her motivation to change? Rock the boa…
/r/askMRP11/04/18 07:21 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 175lbs, 12.5%BF, Married 14yrs, 4 kids Captain I started the Arnold Blueprint this week and I am upping my calories. It is a lot of volume and the workouts are long. I think this is likely only something I can keep up for only a couple of months at a time because they are so taxing. I am going to try and get enough rest and recovery in as this is one of my problems. The other problem is not getting quite enough volume in during the workouts. I was able to increase my intensity over …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/18 03:23 PM
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Your spidey sense has been tingling for a while now.
/r/askMRP09/04/18 04:02 PM
1

Most of your post history sounds like questions that would be asked at a teenage girls slumber party. I can't wait for your next post where we play "would you rather...?"
/r/askMRP09/04/18 03:45 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 175lbs, 12.5%BF, Married 14yrs, 4 kids Captain I'm finally back in the gym. I tweaked my pectoral (or rib, not totally sure) about 3 weeks ago. The only thing I could really do was run to keep in shape. Once that started healing I nearly chopped off the tip of my finger. The stiches are out now and my grip is mostly back. It is good enough that I have returned to lifting. It has only been two days, but it feels good. I have had to drop 5lbs on some of my lifts which sucks, but I sho…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 04:56 PM
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So, you are going to stay at home all day to expand your social circle. When everybody is working during the day how is that going to help? Change the word months to weeks and I can get on board with the idea.
/r/askMRP17/03/18 05:51 AM
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Axe bodyspray has that effect apparently.
/r/askMRP15/03/18 05:21 PM
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Reading your post history made me cringe. I think guys that come here misinterpret IOI's far too often. Yes, you can be handsome and attractive, but this accounts for very little with women. Try catch and release if you really want to know without cheating. Even then, there is logistics and LMR that you have to conquer to truly know if she would fuck you. You can tell nothing by a simple IOI other than she might not tell you to fuck off if you spoke to her. You probably had a booger hanging out …
/r/askMRP15/03/18 04:47 PM
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I hope you're not serious and I'm being trolled. It is possible this won't happen again for 3-4 months, so I don't want to fuck this up. Work on abundance. That will take time. Tonight she has asked for sex, and the only thing that comes to mind that will allow me to maintain frame is to deny her. You've already fucked up if you want to deny her. Don't make this harder than it needs to be. Fuck your wife hard tonight. My toddler gets mad if I turn on a light switch or push a button that he wante…
/r/askMRP13/03/18 09:18 PM
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I too have realized the dangers of deadlifting at low reps. I was previously on a program that had me doing over the course of 4 weeks starting with sets of 5 reps the first week, sets of 4 the next, sets of 3 the third, and then 8 rep sets the final week. Maybe it is my age, but there is just too damn much that can go wrong when throwing on so much weight and then lifting it off of the ground. At 3 reps, I was lifting a lot of weight, but one wrong move and your toast. 8 reps seems like the swe…
/r/askMRP13/03/18 06:54 PM
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I registered for (guitar) classes last week (awesome!) Looking forward to the first class today. I'm currently in preparation to get a new job after I lost last one I had last year. I am prioritizing this. Difficult, as I am also trying to captain the ship.........I need to move fast, because when living with my in-laws is impossible to be the captain (I cannot be sexual with my wife with them around, plus my MIL's continuous bitching... anyways). So the idea is to start applying next month. You…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 05:45 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 175lbs, 12.5%BF, Married 14yrs, 4 kids Captain I can't seem to catch a break in the gym. Saturday I nearly cut off my finger doing yard work. I was able to get everything sewed back up, but I can't be gripping a barbell or dumbbell for a while. I guess it will just give me more time for my chest to heal which is still surprisingly sore and it will be two weeks tomorrow when I noticed it hurting. I did start meal prepping to further lock down my diet. I grilled up a few pounds of chi…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 05:32 PM
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Jump up and down next time when you ask for a BJ. If that doesn’t work, fall on the floor and kick and scream with everything you’ve got. First off, you never “ask” for a BJ. Second, you aren’t anywhere close to being worthy of a BJ. You have work to do.
/r/askMRP09/03/18 02:24 AM
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My only thoughts go back to the Captain and First Officer dynamic as Athol Kay explains it. I think sometimes some people in MRP go overboard here. There are guys that will go off and buy a house without their wife because they DGAF and post on askMRP about it because their wife flipped out and they can’t figure out why. In some relationships, when the man has truly owned his shit for years, he may actually have the trust of his wife to do something like this. For the rest of us, who arrived her…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 03:26 AM
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Whoa. This is your third OYS and you just told your wife you are wondering whether you are compatible anymore? I think that 5% BF you recently lost all came from your brain. See this recent post for reference https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/82875i/cut_the_shit/ STFU and just get to work. Once you are below 15% BF and truly have your shit together then you can evaluate whether she is worth it or not. You talk too much. Nothing was alpha about what you told her either. told her I'm not ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 06:08 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 175lbs, 12.5%BF, Married 14yrs, 4 kids Captain It seemed like I went months and months without any interruption in my lifting routines or schedule. A month or so ago I tweaked my back. That is healed and back on track and then last week I tweaked something underneath my left pectoral. I noticed it the following morning after basketball, but I don't recall anything specifically that would have done it. I did square up someone that was driving to the basket and took a shoulder to the …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 04:01 PM
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Speaking of Corey. This is probably old news for most here, but what the hell happened? https://www.mumslounge.com.au/lifestyle/latest-news/party-boy-corey-worthington-weds-in-bali/ I realize that he was simply used as an example and not a role model of RP by any means (as he isn't necessarily RP aware). But, I kind of find it disappointing that he wedded to a land whale. Come on Corey!!! Sort of reminds me of the time when I found out about Milli Vanilli. Stay on your game brothers.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/18 10:25 PM
2

Paterno had a different philosophy on 5 year old boys.
/r/askMRP28/02/18 04:47 PM
2

http://www.espn.com/blog/arizona-cardinals/post/_/id/19124/bruce-arians-coaching-philosophy-comes-from-bear-bryant
/r/askMRP28/02/18 04:46 PM
2

Coach 'em hard and hug 'em later. -Bear Bryant (Alabama Crimson Tide)
/r/askMRP28/02/18 04:41 PM
1

Also realize that while her behavior is very predictable, so is yours. There is a lot of truth in what you just said and the second really insightful comment I've received today. Over the last few weeks I have repeatedly told myself that I will eventually be having sex. That I would prefer it be with my wife, but that nonetheless I will be having sex and I am 100% confident in my ability to do so. I don't think that is necessarily a bad mentality to maintain in your back pocket, but you are righ…
/r/askMRP28/02/18 12:18 AM
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That was insanely insightful. Thank you. I didn't recognize your username and wasn't expecting something so well thought out. I got to the end of your comment and was like who the hell is this? That was fantastic and the waves crashing on the rock is a great analogy. Not sure who you were on here before, but since you are MRP Approved with an account that has existed for 13 days this isn't your first time posting. Whoever you are/were thank you.
/r/askMRP27/02/18 05:14 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 175lbs, 12.5%BF, Married 14yrs, 4 kids Captain I am enjoying the more challenging workouts. I went 3/4 weight on the deadlift. All went well, but I don't completely trust that muscle in my back. I tried my best to maintain proper form and ensure I wasn't compensating, leaning, or doing anything stupid that would get me injured again. I think it will take some time to trust this enough to start attacking progressive overload again. I had zero pain which was good. I am still continuin…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/18 04:19 PM
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To be flat out honest, I think this is hormonal and her hashimotos at work. I have tracked her cycle for some time now. The first 2 weeks are usually very normal. It is the last two weeks where she will always crash if it is going to happen. There is also a chance that she had a covert contract that I was going to behave different after she started providing more sex. When I didn't, she gave up and crashed. I failed here by not providing enough comfort. I have changed in the last year and I need…
/r/askMRP27/02/18 04:00 PM
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I'll own the initiating sex thing. There is still some work that I need to do there. I truly haven't felt like it much the last 4 weeks which is odd for me. I will say that I have not mastered overcoming LMR with her very well. Our sex has increased over the last year as I have applied the principles of MRP, but I would still say my initiation and game need work. I have managed to not get butthurt when turned down, but if I am being honest I am not always pushing as hard as I should.
/r/askMRP27/02/18 03:53 PM
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Honestly, I don’t find her typically to be all that manipulative on a conscious level. She is still manipulative, but I think this is just naturally part of being a woman. The speed in which the massive sobs etc stopped was quite noticeable. Maybe I’m just hamstering here, but I think she isn’t consciously manipulating me, but she is going back to her playbook that she has used her whole life and doesn’t even recognize what it is that she is doing. Little girls learn early in life the power of t…
/r/askMRP27/02/18 02:38 AM
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I’ve had the exact same thoughts. I kind of have been reserving that for a main event scenario though. Essentially, if you don’t think I’m living up to what I promised at marriage you are free to go and pursue that with someone else.
/r/askMRP27/02/18 02:30 AM
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It sounds like your wife is pretty much into you. I question that quite often. She and I were both virgins, so there never was Chad's cock inside of her. But, there were other guys that she dated that may have provided more "tingles" than I. So, even if she never rode the CC she may have settled on me as more of a beta provider than ever an alpha since I fit the longer-term strategy she had for a family. I think her behavior typically reflects that I am a sperm donor, plow horse, and a paycheck …
/r/askMRP26/02/18 11:35 PM
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Regarding autism or any form of Asperger's. It wasn't to be taken literally. Just my tendency to go full retard from time to time.
/r/askMRP26/02/18 11:06 PM
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I have to agree with you here. Just look at romance novel covers. Publishers will lose money if they don't put the right physique on the cover. If you look closely you will see a pattern and that most male bodies are similar in size and aeshtetics. Some women like bigger, some like smaller, but there is a sweet spot here. https://www.amazon.com/s/ref=lp_17_nr_n_7?fst=as%3Aoff&rh=n%3A283155%2Cn%3A%211000%2Cn%3A17%2Cn%3A10141&bbn=17&ie=UTF8&qid=1519684745&rnid=17
/r/askMRP26/02/18 10:44 PM
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I think I did fail here. I typically do cuddle, but I didn't go above and beyond to provide comfort or reward her. If I were going to associate her action of increased sex with increased comfort I dropped the ball here. I bet I will probably have another crack at it, but I won't get many more mulligans. Assuming I get another period of increased sex I will need to make sure I make that positive association for her. I may need to flip thru MMSLP again regarding this.
/r/askMRP26/02/18 07:19 PM
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I've actually read that book about 6 months ago. Well, I read "The Empowered Wife" which is apparently a newer revised version of that book with a new title. I wanted to know what was in it if I ever recommended it. I never gave it to my wife. It may be time to recommend it.
/r/askMRP26/02/18 06:43 PM
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Also consider how fast your dread has increased. While it's generally known that she is behind you as she works to catch up how far have you exceeded her in this regard? I'm not sure if I have ever really though of it that way. I think I have just been focused on self-improvement and raising my SMV that I haven't really adjusted it to her at all. Since I haven't done catch and release, it is really hard to truly gauge where you are at. I might just be a poser and look good, but have zero game. T…
/r/askMRP26/02/18 06:34 PM
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This is what I ultimately decided on and for exactly those reasons. She did end up coming to me with snot bubbles etc. a day or two ago feeling abandoned since I was playing basketball a night or two a week for an hour and a half per night. As you can see, a little bit of distance goes a long way with her. There is some truth in the comfort she was seeking since I haven’t given her much lately when I have been around. But, the giving up basketball is a full on shit test which ain’t happening. Lo…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/18 02:33 PM
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Being passive-aggressive doesn't work. yes I’m finding these things still slightly bother me Yup. Kill your ego.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/18 12:21 AM
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36yrs, 6'0", 172lbs, 12.5%BF, Married 14yrs, 4 kids Captain I eased into deadlifts this morning after I pulled it a couple of weeks ago. I actually felt pretty good this morning, but figured I should ease into it. I cut the weight about in half and just made sure I could get thru the motions pain free. I might go 3/4 weight next week and then see how that goes before jumping back in full weight. I have been able to increase the volume in my workouts which has helped immensly. I think my previous…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 07:00 PM
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Conquering challenges Stress relief Building confidence Overall health Many other reasons besides looking hawt I was skinny as a rail when I got married. My wife liked me “just the way I was” and told me “I didn’t need muscles”. Now that I have a little muscle guess who likes feeling up my biceps? Chicks dig muscles period. Watch what they do and not what they say. It’s pretty universal that guys like ass and titties and girls like muscles.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 03:47 AM
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My concerns 1) that you are doing all of this improvement as one massive covert contract 2) she is a dried up well, lost cause, and she checked out long ago and 3) you don't seem very fun.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 08:48 PM
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How does she fit into your mission? You seem to be leading separate lives. There should be value provided on both sides for this to work. I fail to see the value you provide for her and likewise I fail to see the value she provides for you. DREAD does not mean "always be gone, distant, and unavailable". DREAD is an unspoken knowledge that she knows that she can be replaced at a moments notice. There are a number of factors that go into this that I won't get into here. I worry that you feel DREAD…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 05:57 PM
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I will look into this as lower back pain has always been something that will pop up with me. I think 90% of this is my posture. I have done some things to fix that and it has helped. My lower back hasn't been an issue for months as long as I keep on it. I just need to be smarter in the gym. I typically have a longer rest between deadlifting days. But, I switched up my routine and moved it from Fridays to Tuesdays because it made more sense with my other movements. The Monday before I also introd…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 11:57 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 170lbs, 12.5%BF, Married 14yrs, 4 kids Captain I skipped squats and bent over rows last week. I tweaked a muscle in my back while doing deadlifts last time. I was hopeful that 7 days off would do the trick. I can move around fine and I am relatively pain free, but I can tell that I would just tweak it again if I tried to lift heavy since I can feel that muscle anytime I do a movement similar to a deadlift. It sucks to have to lay off lifting and just wait. So, I have tried to fill i…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 09:46 PM
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When you start rocking the boat the surrounding water gets choppy. Don't worry about it. This is not uncommon and I went through the same thing. Most all of us have. In the end, the kids need a dad that is leading the household. Avoid collateral damage as much as possible, especially with the kids, but if having some tension in the house for a few months is what it takes so be it.
/r/askMRP07/02/18 12:08 AM
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My wife is super jealous as well. For me, a little bit of dread goes a long way. When I go to the gym her hamster tells her that I am curling gym bunnies with each arm while I am there. I really don't socialize at the gym. That is sort of my fortress of solitude. But, it is not a bad thing to just let her hamster run on this. Dread is not to indicate to her that she has already been replaced. If you take it too far and she feels she has already lost she will jump ship. So, a little bit of comfor…
/r/askMRP06/02/18 11:04 PM
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I am confident and don't take shit but you previously said... Ok so she told me I couldn't have the trainer I wanted because she is a woman You sure about that? Sounds like mommy got mad and you got a timeout. Did she make you sit in the naughty corner too? One of the scariest things for a lifelong beta to do is to tell their wife to essentially fuck off while you go and do your own thing because it is what you want to do. This is called a shit test. You are trying to get out of the comfortable …
/r/askMRP06/02/18 10:30 PM
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It might just be me, but this reads like a girl wrote it.
/r/askMRP06/02/18 10:05 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 170lbs, 12.5%BF, Married 14yrs, 4 kids Captain Just started a somewhat new routine since I am done cutting and starting another bulk. I am still doing the main lifts as normal, but I have added additional work. I realized a while ago that I take too much time to actually hit the gym floor in the morning. I wake up at 5AM and I have found that I simply can't wake up any earlier and be successful. However, I found that I take a little too much time mixing a pre-workout drink that cont…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 04:56 PM
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If you have just downloaded Clue it may take a while to pick up on trends. I've run mine for years and was doing it even before finding anything red pill. Also, my wife was all over the place in the beginning. This was probably more due to the changes I was making and how she was reacting to those changes which overpowered anything related to her cycle. Just keep tracking for now and you may pick up on some trends. At the end of the day, you will still need to handle comfort and shit tests the s…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/18 05:00 PM
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Do you track her cycle? Early on, when things were the worst between us, her moods were very tied to where she was in her cycle. As things have improved, her moods are much more stable throughout the month. I still find the information valuable and it takes me seconds to mark key events in the Clue app.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/18 03:55 PM
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Here's my advice for the week. https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/33gnx1/married_man_from_rdeadbedrooms_gets_fed_up/ You need to rock the boat. She can either slow the rocking of the boat down by sucking your cock or you will continue to rock it until she is thrown overboard.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 11:00 PM
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I would honestly say I am mostly bulking. Some guys on here are former marines or D1 college athletes. I never had a physique like that ever in my life. So, for me it is less about trimming some fat and revealing my muscles. I am having to build everything. I was about as skinny as they come. I started at 150lbs this even three years ago. If I reach a low BF% at 190-200 pounds I will consider running at more of a maintenance. For now, I still need size. I was about 192 before my cut. I was stron…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 08:39 PM
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I have a MAP for that and everything is on target short-term and long-term. I think I really just need to trust that plan and keep on task to alleviate my fears of slipping back into betadom. You’re right. If you have a mission that is maintained and focused everything else should fall into place. I may need to rework my OYS format. The last few times I have put it together it felt a little bit like a waste of time. I committed to a year of OYS to keep myself on target. I need to incorporate my …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 06:43 PM
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I believe it is working. Every time I drop after a bulk I am 5-10lbs heavier and more muscular than when I started. I started really skinny though. I am up about 30lbs from a few years ago and I still have plenty of room to grow. I just think less dramatic swings would be a better way to go and maintaining clean eating throughout. I did the GOMAD thing when I first started. It’s stupid looking back, but it did give me some immediate strength and confidence to keep lifting.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 06:35 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 170lbs, 12.25%BF, Married 14yrs, 4 kids Lifting This is definitely my last week of cutting. I don't think I can do it much longer and the returns are diminishing. The cut has gone longer than anticipated. My plan is to go on a short bulk to build back up some muscle and strength and then go at another brief cut in about 8-12 weeks. Many of the programs I have seen seem to put everything into 90-120 day cycles. I have been going more like 12 months bulk and 3 months cut. I think that…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 03:51 PM
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Mommy, where are my gloves? She is giving you shit because your house has been so neglected that it has mildew on the walls. Then, when you want to fix it, you can't even get started without asking mommy where your own equipment is. That doesn't sound like someone owning his shit. You should make sure every project from now on doesn't require you asking her for a single thing to complete it. If you want to involve the crew that is fine. But, it will be you delegating the assignments and not aski…
/r/askMRP27/01/18 09:09 PM
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AWALT - All wrestlers are like that I would stick to the sidebar for discovering red pill truths. Although, there was that one episode of He-Man...
/r/askMRP26/01/18 06:54 PM
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I just watched this yesterday. As I was watching him respond to her questions it was like a WISNIFG transcript. He was brilliant.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/18 06:22 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 170lbs, 12.5%BF, Married 14yrs, 4 kids Lifting I have been able to increase my calories burned during each workout. I have maintained the same lifting routine, but with shortened rest. It was tough for the first week or two, but my body has now adapted. I have also been running a HIIT circuit at the end of my workouts. My heartrate is raised pretty high during this time which is what I am after. I have found that I love the kettlebell for this. It is still heavy, but there is a litt…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 03:52 PM
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You’re not attractive. Raise your SMV if you want results.
/r/askMRP21/01/18 11:14 PM
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Keep running in that hamster wheel.
/r/askMRP16/01/18 10:57 PM
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I'm fairly positive you are a troll, but if you are not this is my advice. We have gone back and forth before. Unfortunately, you seem to enjoy going around in circles. So, you are in the desert. You have been here for many years. You are dehydrated and are looking for water. There are a number of water wells in the area, but some require a little effort over unknown roads to travel to. There is one particular well nearby that has given you water some 20 years ago. However, in the last 3 years i…
/r/askMRP16/01/18 10:46 PM
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This is probably more psychological than I am qualified to help with. There is a history between you two. One of both cheating and of being a drunk captain. Of all the women on the planet, she will be in the top 5% in terms of difficulty to convince of your changes. Something was triggered when you said that. What that was is beyond me. In the end, she isn't attracted enough to you to look past any of those triggers. RP theory teaches that a determined woman will crawl over broken glass to fuck …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 07:31 PM
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God that phat ass makes me so hard I have two thoughts. The dirtiest and nastiest of talk is generally more widely accepted in the throws of passion. I don't consider what you said to be all that dirty, but if look at a sliding scale between tame and nasty it may have been too far of a jump for her to make. She wasn't all wet yet when you accelerated too fast and you snapped the rope. The second is a possible misunderstanding. You said "phat". She heard "FAT". Not typically what you call a girl …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 05:56 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 171lbs, 13.0%BF, Married 14yrs, 4 kids Lifting Itching to change up my routine a bit. I'm not going to do anything drastic, but I feel that I have plateued a little bit. I can complete my workout with little to no issues, but I seem to have stalled in adding more weight. Time to switch some things around. Leadership Been working hard on getting even better at this. In order to keep improving I will need to push beyond simply "having and opinion". That was great advice for a newbie, …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 05:40 PM
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OP, this is spot on advice. Don't be distracted by the solid gold response with writing those steps on the whiteboard. That is brilliant and honestly the best way to go even though some will question whether your frame can handle her response yet. But, the rest of the of the reply is money, so don't let the other advice get lost in the shuffle.
/r/askMRP16/01/18 05:23 PM
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Evolutionarily speaking, women do this naturally and subconsciously to ensure that their man stays strong. It’s the female way to ensure their continued protection from a masculine man and to keep him from turning into a pussy that the next saber toothed tiger will devour along with her and her offspring. She’s just doing her job. We all got here because we weren’t doing ours. She wants to be in a masculine frame. She is just prodding you to fucking build it.
/r/askMRP15/01/18 07:26 PM
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Dad, I am gonna get you better. And then I'm going to beat you to death!
/r/askMRP12/01/18 03:35 PM
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As far as polos, I have had good luck with CK polos. They are more form fitting and come off like a good fitting t-shirt or v-neck, but with a collar. Works well in the office without trying too hard. There are probably other brands that work too, but I have found these to work really well and they can be found nearly anywhere. Every other polo I've had fits like shit.
/r/askMRP12/01/18 03:29 PM
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+1 Love Bro Science
/r/askMRP12/01/18 03:27 PM
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You realize that in your post there is a lot of "I said this" and then STFU. Then "I said this" and then I STFU. No, just STFU. Most of the time there are no verbal words required. Smirk and move on for now. There will come a time when you can say things, but it ain't now brother. So, when I started MRP, my wife would not even kiss me. It was actually the wake up call I needed to find this place. I started hitting the sidebar and read about 10 second kisses and being flirtatious etc. I tried doi…
/r/askMRP10/01/18 03:31 PM
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"No. I set everything up in the front." You have to start keeping these comments to yourself. What good do they do? Did you want mommy to give you a pat on the back for being such a good boy? Just STFU and go on about your day. If you have to talk about and call attention to all the things you are doing then you are doing it wrong. This was a hard one for me to learn, but it works. Remember, be attractive, don't be unattractive. Even if you did 99% of the work, stating it like you did above make…
/r/askMRP10/01/18 01:30 AM
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36yrs, 6'0", 173lbs, 13.0%BF, Married 13yrs, 4 kids Lifting Still driving the weight down and working on shedding my excess abdominal fat. I have always been skinny and have put on 30lbs in the last 3 years which is mostly muscle. The extra muscle is great, but it still is not enough for me to be satisfied. I would love another 15-20lbs which is still doable in my opinion albeit harder to put on the more I have been lifting. No more newbie gains. I need to get my excess fat down after running su…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 04:26 PM
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First off, it's your ship. You run it as tight or as loose as you would like as long as you are the captain and leading appropriately. However, I would like to stop reinforcing nice guy behavior where I would do all of the work while she watches TV. I get the fear of being walked over especially after being the nice guy for many years. Drop the ego and the covert contract and just take care of it. If she watches TV while you take care of the house, lift, dress better, take her pussy off of the p…
/r/askMRP03/01/18 04:00 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 174lbs, 13.5%BF, Married 13yrs, 4 kids Lifting I had to make an adjustment to the bodyfat calculation. I am using the little handheld Omron unit you can pick up on Amazon. I already know that this thing is not 100% accurate, but I thought it should give me a baseline and increment up or down accurately. I discovered that after it dropped below 12% that all of the sudden the results started going haywire and would vary every time I took a reading. I then started holding the unit with…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/18 06:44 PM
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Get one on your forehead that says "Faggot".
/r/askMRP22/12/17 06:39 PM
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I would give you a response, but unfortunately I just stepped into The Melting Pot. It could be a while.
/r/askMRP21/12/17 09:59 PM
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In reading your OYS history I can't see how this is much of a surprise to you. She seems to provide little value to you and, by all appearances and despite any improvements you have made, you seem to provide little value to her. Whether it is true or not she is convinced you are cheating on her and has believed that for quite some time. In her mind, what does she have to lose at this point? Hence open marriage discussion, etc. I agree that the flags are blazing red right now. My understanding is…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 11:50 PM
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"Kids, Mom is having an anger problem again. We're not gonna talk to her until she calms down, I'm taking you guys out for a walk to the park." I really don't want to get the kids involved in this. That's unfair to them and it feels a little too passive aggressive for my liking or my style for that matter. If she acts up enough that it warrants happening in front of the kids then so be it. At that point, the kids should probably witness that mom's behavior is unacceptable and dad has boundaries …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 08:26 PM
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Historically were you just as likely to be angry as she was with the kids? Maybe an instance of the old patterns sticking around and just a function of taking time. Honestly, no. I was always way too passive and have been the quiet more even tempered parent. Usually, when I do raise my voice it carries a hell of a lot more weight since I only do it when it is warranted. In the past, I would sit there like a deer in the headlights and watch what was going on and was too scared to rock the boat an…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 06:23 PM
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I gave you enough shit last week about lifting and I like your ownership and changes here. Have an upvote.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 05:27 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 174lbs, 11.5%BF, Married 13yrs, 4 kids Lifting The increased pace during my workouts has been a good thing. I feel that I am conditioning myself a little bit better than I was previously. I was probably resting too long between sets. I need to probably keep this approach going. I'm not turning my workouts into a cardio session, but I started noticing that even though my lifts were strenuous previously I wasn't breaking as much of a sweat as I was before. There are a lot of really st…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 04:59 PM
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Question: I feel like I have improved and I have my mission in life, but I am excluding my wife. For some reason, she's, bored, disinterested and feels, well, how do I put it, ... "excluded". What do I do? Answer: You suck at leading, having fun with her, and including her in your mission. You also likely aren't a cool as you think you are.
/r/askMRP18/12/17 11:02 PM
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If you get the vibration just right on the digeridoo it literally gives women tingles. It should be digeridoo + lift + sidebar as far as I’m concerned.
/r/askMRP16/12/17 07:15 PM
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My biggest fear with this is that counseling takes you out of the captain’s chair and puts someone else in there. They might be able to solve some immediate issues, but I think long term it usurps your authority. Next time a big issue arises amongst the crew on the ship your wife will want to go speak to the captain about it for a resolution. The problem is that the captain is not you.
/r/askMRP14/12/17 02:20 PM
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BF: ~26.7% (new scale) | Target: 20% Weight: 147 lbs | Target: 155 lbs (add 10 lbs muscle) You need to make sure you are eating and lifting properly. I see you are only 4 weeks in with SL 5x5, but I would expect your lifts to be a little bit higher by now. Take a step back and make sure you have this dialed in as not having a decent physique will greatly hamper your results. There is a little more to getting results than just picking up and putting down heavy objects. I'm no math genius, but to …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/17 07:06 PM
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I can certainly switch back to lifting heavy, but I'd always thought DOMS = muscles are growing. Is that not the case? It can be an indicator. It signifies damage of the muscle due to exercise. But, no, it does not necessarily mean hypertrophy or muscle growth in a one equals the other relationship. Your muscles can repair themselves without actually growing. Ethiopian marathon runners get sore legs. Their muscles adapt with increased endurance, not size. The human body is quite the chameleon an…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/17 09:11 PM
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Pilates is hard too. But it is a workout that girls flock to. I could sweat my ass off in a pilates class and be shaking like an old man trying to hold those poses. At the end of the day, I will be exhausted, sweaty, but I also won't be building any new muscle. Keep up with the 30lb KB squats longer and then maybe you can post some sexy thigh gap pictures on Instagram.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/17 07:20 PM
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I want to be in and out, so I get in, follow the plan, and leave. You are going to the gym, yes. You are lifting some stuff, yes. You are not pushing yourself hard enough. You can disagree if you want to, but the results don't lie. Every fucking time you walk into the gym you need to be doing better or more. This means increased weight, decreased rest between, or more reps of the same weight. You never walk out without doing one of those things. 8x8 sets of hamstring curls; the weight was pretty…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/17 06:03 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 174lbs, 11.5%BF, Married 13yrs, 4 kids Lifting Tweaked my workout slightly this week. I am having a hard time finding time to do a good cardio session regularly. I get up at 5AM and have an hour to workout. I am just going to find ways to raise my heart rate during that hour more than I have before. I watched one of the ripped and well built trainers in the gym do his personal workout. He attacked the weights. It was good for me to watch how he did it as it showed me I was breaking …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/17 04:44 PM
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Just grab her ass during the hug. You will know instantly if it is more than a professional hug.
/r/askMRP08/12/17 08:59 PM
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Rome wasn't built in a day. Build a MAP that identifies attainable goals for the next 12 months. I can't tell you to not be horny. But, I had great success by not focusing on sex for a period of time. I didn't go into monk mode, but I sort of stopped pursuing it with my wife for a month or two. It allowed me to step back and really see that sex was controlling my life and almost every decision that I was making. It allowed me to unfuck myself and see what I was doing that was wrong. There were t…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/17 06:43 PM
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Good thing you used your throwaway. That was intense.
/r/askMRP07/12/17 05:07 PM
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I wasn't going to be the father of her children. I married a girl from a Mormon family too. Kids and family are going to be a big deal with her. Whether she is currently actively going to church or not she is still likely still going to be influenced by her family and others to have a family at some point. She is sizing you up for this role. I think she may actually be physically attracted to you, but it sounds like you have just been spinning your wheels for ten years. She was hoping you would …
/r/askMRP07/12/17 04:24 PM
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Start from the beginning with the readings on the sidebar to the right. If you are on a phone hit the three little dots in the top right corner and go to Community Info. It's all there. I would focus on building a life away from your wife and beginning to introduce DREAD. You are chasing her too hard. She has no motivation to change because there is zero fear or DREAD of you replacing her. You can learn about that here, but I would stick with the plan that has worked for everyone else here and g…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/17 08:47 PM
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Not Giving a Fuck
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/17 06:57 PM
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Sounds like definite nice guy tendencies in your past some of which you are still displaying. I feel like I have this massive grocery list of things to do now in order for me to become a MAN , get respect and get what I want for MY LIFE ! You don't do any of this for anybody but yourself. You don't do it for your wife, your boss, your grandma, whoever. You become a man because that is simply who you are. You don't do it for respect or any other form of external validation. That is nice guy stuff…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/17 06:46 PM
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So, what is missing? What are you not telling us? 5x's in the last 3 years? What happened 3 years ago? What's your history? What is keeping you in a dead relationship?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/17 05:39 PM
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What you need is all in the sidebar. It looks like you have started on it which is good, but I'm not sure if you are all in yet. It looks like you are looking for a cheat code to trick your wife into having sex with you and get out of your deadbedroom. There are no cheat codes here, only hard work. The good news is that the work will pay off at some point. Do you lift? Do you dress well? Do you look good with your shirt off? Do other women respond positively to you? These things are all attainab…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/17 04:27 PM
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I played with the neck the following evening. At that point, we were face to face lying on our sides. I had one hand firmly gripping her arm so that it couldn't move it and then my other hand was mostly on her shoulder to start. I used this grip as leverage to push her down onto me which she enjoyed the forcefulness of. I started moving the hand over to where I was grabbing the neck with my thumb over her throat. I didn't really squeeze at all or put much pressure down. I think she would have th…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/17 04:06 PM
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Maybe it is just a big ass covert contract- If I self improve, some girl is going to jump on my dick. I'd prefer my wife Do you have other options? Or at the very least does your wife know that you would not have a hard time finding other options to replace her? Does she feel any DREAD at all? She's not putting out because she knows she doesn't need to. Isn't MRP just a sexual strategy and that's what its all about? Yes, but take your wife's pussy off of that pedestal. That's the wrong sexual st…
/r/askMRP06/12/17 12:10 AM
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Are you doing MRP for her or for you? You will probably argue it is for you, but I think you have one big deep down covert contract going on here. You are thinking that if I attain a certain level of awesome, my wife will jump on my dick and suck my balls. If you do this right, yes, some girl will happily jump on your dick and suck your balls. It may or may not be your wife. She might be your first choice, but she can sense that it is all an act if you are doing it specifically for her. You didn…
/r/askMRP05/12/17 11:28 PM
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You can't control her. But, you can become awesome, ripped, successful, live the life you want which is the kind of man other girls would want to be with. If she is semi-intelligent, she will realize that. First, she doesn't want to lose what she now has in you. And second, she will realize that she needs to up her game to compete with all of the pussies orbiting you now. Many times she will come with you on the ride, but there is no MRP guarantee that she will.
/r/askMRP05/12/17 06:54 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 176lbs, 11.75%BF, Married 13yrs, 4 kids Lifting Decided to roll with another 4 weeks of the cut. I will definitely stop at that point regardless of where I am at and get back to at least a good maintenance plan to let everything settle back in. Not much of a drop in BF% this week, but still trending down. I question the accuracy of my readings. I have been going off of the handheld Omron unit you can pick up on Amazon. It may not give me a real accurate number, but I would think tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 06:15 PM
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Yup, and then a few days later you will notice her feeling up your muscles. Girls like muscles. Ignore her and keep lifting because you want to. It's a shit test and likely everyone here who all of the sudden started lifting got the same test in some form or another. Now, she may not be into the dudes on those strongman competitions tossing VW Beetles around. I think most women don't realize how difficult it is to build and maintain muscle. That is why most of them are afraid to pick up a weight…
/r/askMRP03/12/17 05:21 AM
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I think asking her to read The Empowered Wife is too much like dudes trying to Red Knight their friends. It doesn't really work. At one point, I was intrigued with that book and possibly giving it to my wife to read. I purchased it and read thru it because I wanted to know what I would be recommending. I have nothing against the book. It would do wonders for her honestly. However, I personally decided that I would not ask my wife to read it and that I need to lead her into those behaviors myself…
/r/askMRP30/11/17 07:50 PM
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Rambo wants to say fuck you I’m not doing the dishes again ever. You sure you're not butthurt? Yes, you were played. The good news is that you realize that now. You are starting to understand the game. So, you have recently read some really good books and think you know strategy better and how to read a defense properly. You walked up to the line of scrimmage last night and surveyed the field to make your move thinking touchdown. As soon as the ball was snapped everything started happening so fa…
/r/askMRP30/11/17 05:59 PM
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If anything I found some value in this. My wife has been getting blood work done as the doctors suspect some possible issues with her thyroid not producing enough hormones. I believe her T was at 9 from the blood work which is low. They are talking about a form of TRT with her as treatment, but there is some more treatment that they are going to do before they go this route, but it is on the list if other things don't work. I would love to have a little more testosterone in her to put her in the…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/17 10:26 PM
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When we say don't be a "drunk captain" it is typically spoken as a metaphor. Don't LITERALLY continue to be a drunk captain. Drinking a six pack of IPA every night and smoking weed to hide from myself the basic fact that I was a cubicle slave, a drone chasing someone else's dream. You recognized it with weed. Why not with alcohol? The actual substance is different, but the reasons are the same. I realize, though it only took me 25 years of being an almost daily stoner drinker, that weed alcohol …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/17 05:08 PM
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I think it is mostly the abs. I have been exercising and/or lifting for nearly 3 years. It started as P90x the first year and then evolved into lifting dumbbells on a bench the second year. It wasn't until I discovered RP that I finally decided to get into a real gym and doing the more traditional barbell work with deads, squats, presses, etc. The day I started P90x 3 years ago I weighed 150lbs even on the scale. I have been on seemingly an eternal bulk for 3 years. The good thing is that I have…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 09:20 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 178lbs, 12%BF, Married 13yrs, 4 kids Lifting Debating on whether this should be the final week of my cut. I have dropped about 3% BF in the last 8 weeks. I am starting to feel a little depleted though. I am tempted to take a break for a month or two and then see if I can get down to 10% in a subsequent cut. Or, I could probably go another 4 weeks and try to get under 11% and approach 10%. I need to think about this some more. I don't want to start eating away at muscle, but at the e…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 06:35 PM
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Now I see that Edgar Allan Poe's writings could have been so much better if his bird called people faggots.
/r/askMRP27/11/17 04:35 PM
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You realize that you can actually say the words "I love you too". If you need permission from the internet I will give it to you. There is a balance with this stuff. The one extreme is writing gushy love notes and poems and leaving them all over the place everyday vomiting I love you everywhere. That is needy and unattractive. Don't. Then there is your hardcore Chad that would never utter the words "I love you" and is there just to pump and dump which is her fear. She doesn't want either extreme…
/r/askMRP22/11/17 04:38 PM
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Add that to your MAP then. How will you get your fitness coaching practice started? Make a plan whether that is to start a YouTube channel, Instagram, creating a website with custom workouts/diet/coaching. Whatever it is figure it out and get the ball rolling. Have a vision and go for it. Creating useful apps. Cool! Now you need to learn how to program. How are you going to do that? What is your plan? Short-term you might be able to make more money fitness coaching. Long-term you will likely mak…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/17 07:14 PM
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I would hate to see you drop lower than 2000 calories because that feels too low for someone your size. Your body will start doing some funny things if it thinks it is starving. Regardless, your body can't create energy from magic. So, it has to be coming from either food, fat, or muscle. You have to burn more energy than you consume. Our body types are admittedly different. I am 6'0" and currently around 178lbs. I am cutting on 2400 calories a day which is more than you are eating and I have ta…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/17 06:55 PM
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/u/teh_shitowner already gave you good advice. Since you are young I will reiterate it. It is good that you are starting to get into the workforce. $10.25 an hour seems pretty cool right now, but pretty soon that won't come even close to cutting it. What are your plans for increasing your worth? I'm not talking about getting $13 an hour. To put this in perspective, if you are making over $100k per year you are closer to $50 an hour. Are you learning a trade, skill, starting a business, going to …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/17 05:51 PM
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Still trying to figure out my diet, I have cut out 99% of refined sugar and grains. Stilll at a plateu though. I am not discouraged even though it is a bit frustrating since I am staying at or under my recommended calorie intake. Need to do some more research. No research necessary. It always comes down to calories. Your diet sounds clean which is good. Make sure you still have enough protein to maintain muscle, but you should be around 500 calories below maintenance to lose weight. That total c…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/17 05:31 PM
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So, your advice from Bobfreestuff was to... Do not bring it up to her. And then last night... I brought that up with her. Dumbass. I want to "talk about something" and she doesn't You have been at this too long to think talking will solve anything. You're just digging your own grave with all of the talking. Make sure you rub her feet next time and stare into her eyes. It will go much better. Dumbass. I persisted, trying to logically explain my view Yes, because women are the less emotional and m…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/17 05:12 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 178lbs, 12.25%BF, Married 13yrs, 4 kids Lifting Starting week 7 of my cut. I'm down nearly 3% in BF. I have lost a little bit of strength. I had to bail on my last rep of squats this morning, but that was at my previous PR for weight. I don't believe it is anything beyond what would be expected, but I haven't really done many cuts. The first time I tried a year or so ago it was a total fail. This time it has gone much better. I am not insanely hungry from starving myself and I am al…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/17 04:16 PM
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how do i feel safe? And then you answered it yourself a few lines later. the only two times in my life when i felt somewhat safe and finally at ease was when i was training for strength and being at 200 lbs / 6 ft Get back in the gym and get back to 200lbs. There are lots of reasons why lifting is so important. Confidence is one of them and this confidence can spread to all areas of your life.
/r/askMRP20/11/17 11:52 PM
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This has managed to get the attention of some randoms while out and about so i decided the let her know. You are still seeking mommy's approval here whether you are aware of it or not. I doubt she was really impressed by you telling her. She has to see it with her own eyes to believe it. You can get all flirty at your work party if you want. But, if one paragraph is any indication she will chew you up and spit you out. You don't have the frame to handle her if she gets upset. Read more, lift mor…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/17 11:59 PM
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Podcast link in case you missed it. http://www.1170kfaq.com/shows/pat-campbell/pat-campbell-podcast/rollo-tomassi-author-of-the-rational-male-red-pills-everyone-on-men-women
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/17 06:40 PM
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I wouldn't dismiss this advice quite so quickly. I would always enjoy playing COD for 20-30 minutes a night. I justified it because the matches were around 10 minutes tops and I could dive in and play 2-3 rounds. Wife would usually spend time on Facebook while I played. I swallowed the pill in March of this year. I have maybe played 4 hours of video games since then up until now. It honestly wasn't even a conscious choice at first. There just simply wasn't time. I realized over the summer that I…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/17 04:17 PM
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I think she was right. You are a wuss if this is getting under your skin so much.
/r/askMRP16/11/17 10:43 PM
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It's like telling someone with 2 broken legs to run a marathon and suck it up. I for one have mad respect for those dudes completing marathons on one leg and in wheelchairs. Yes, you may not be able to run at full speed on two legs anymore, but there is always a way to get across the finish line.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/17 08:04 PM
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I would just use the calculator as a starting point. Your body composition and metabolism will be different and unique. If you feel too depleted you may need to up the calories. If you feel fine and aren't losing any weight then you can drop a couple hundred calories. I haven't found a calculator yet that is accurate for me. It does provide a good starting point. Just listen to your body and measure your progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/17 03:29 PM
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Your calories seem too low. I realize that you are wanting to go after weight loss hard, but this seems excessive and dangerous. I am 6'0" about 180lbs and am currently cutting as well. I am at about 2450 calories a day. I was at 15% BF about 6 weeks ago and just crossed under 13% today. I tried cutting with 1600 calories once and I almost withered away. You only need to be in a deficit of 500 calories of your daily maintenance. Anything beyond that is asking for trouble, weird side effects, or …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/17 09:21 PM
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The comments about fitness. They are shit tests. Just ignore her or AA and keep lifting. Oh, and lift heavier. Figure out how to make this work with the physical limitations that you have.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/17 07:19 PM
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Yes. Here's your tip. Get off your ass and do something about it. You feel this way because you have allowed it.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/17 08:28 PM
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Why don't you just ask mommy for more play time? Seriously though, it shouldn't make any difference whether you are single or married. It is your life and your mission. Figure it out and go do it. Who are you waiting on to give you permission to do what you want?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/17 07:40 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 180lbs, 13%BF, Married 13yrs, 4 kids Lifting Starting to see a small drop in strength. This was expected due to the cut. It has been minimal thus far. I don't have much longer to go on my cut, so I should be fine. I am down about 2% BF since I started about 6 weeks ago. I would like to think 12% would show ripped abs. It does on some people, but not me. Since I still need to work on building muscle mass this is not the case. I think I would need to reach 10% or below to see any true…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/17 04:40 PM
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How you tell him will determine how he receives the message. If you make it seem like you are getting in the way of their relationship he will become what he feels is the noble knight traveling over mountain and sea to wed his true love against all odds. Sit him down as his friend and define all of the red flags that you see and what to look for. Urge him to at least not make a commitment until he has visited her and stayed with her a while. Honestly, he sounds pretty desperate. He probably thin…
/r/askMRP14/11/17 04:01 PM
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Just also note that those 30lbs will not be all muscle. 30lbs of pure muscle in 6-12 months is only attainable on steroids. Otherwise, everyone would workout really hard for 6-12 months and be huge. If you are somewhat new to lifting you could probably do 15-18lbs in that time. If you are already fairly muscular you are looking more at 8-12lbs of pure muscle in 6-12 months. Point being, 30lbs is attainable in that time, but only about half of it will be muscle. You will have to cut to trim fat a…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/17 03:17 PM
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Not sure how long you have been trying to bulk. But, based on your stats you really haven't changed weight since August. When I started lifting three years ago I also weighed 150lbs even. But, I am taller than you and 150lbs at 6'0" is skinny. I was skinny and soft. I now weigh 180lbs. Bulking is not that hard and a hell of a lot more fun than cutting. Though I will say that there were times when I simply did not want to eat anymore for the day and I was muscling down food to hit my calorie goal…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/17 09:33 PM
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Why aren't you eating as a family? Kids can't wait until after 6pm to eat? That is prime leading time and a good chance to hear from your kids/wife, for them to be heard, and to talk about the successes and failures of their days. Unless you are King Arthur and your table is round you should sit at the head of it with your wife by your side.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/17 05:06 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 181.5lbs, 13.25%BF, Married 13yrs, 4 kids Lifting Entering week 5 of a cut. So far, so good. I would like to give it another 3-4 weeks and see where I end up. Slight chance I can hit 12%BF. I am nowhere near where I want to be. But, I have seen some pretty good gains since starting 3 years ago. I was a skinny fat 150lbs and I am a much more lean and have probably put on more than 30lbs of muscle in that time. Even though I was at 150lbs, I was at a much higher BF% than I am now. I w…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/17 04:44 PM
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OP, /u/BobbyPeru answered this best. NNMNG has everything you need to answer this question. No harm in rereading. I've been through all of them several times and you will pick up something new every time.
/r/askMRP05/11/17 02:19 AM
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Others have given you similar answers. I'm up at 5AM. The rest of the house doesn't wake up until 6:30. That's plenty of time to lift. I feel like shit every morning rolling out of bed. Yet, at 6:30 when I come rolling back to the house after the gym I feel great and one thousand times better than I did before I started lifting a few years ago.. You just have to do it.
/r/askMRP04/11/17 08:20 PM
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So, this is the part where we start taking sides for GLO or TFA again?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/17 11:05 PM
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Hey! That sub had a very respectable three day run. I can't imagine why it failed. It wasn't like it was the blind leading the blind or anything. Thems were real alphas.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/17 04:30 PM
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This whole discussion and back and forth feels too much like the stupid /r/RealAlpha debate a couple of weeks ago. So, we learned that Rollo and TFA don't look like the superheroes we pictured in our minds. Haven't we already learned by now that looks play only a minor part in female attraction and frame is everything?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/17 02:01 PM
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In my opinion you are not a lurker if you are putting in the work with the sidebar and are lifting. There is a ton of work that can be done before you open your mouth for the first time trying to apply any of this stuff. You are a lurker if you read a few Reddit threads, think you have found some magical shortcut to life, don't do anything for months, and start asking for the Cliff's Notes version from others here because you are too lazy to discover it in the material yourself.
/r/askMRP01/11/17 08:53 PM
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she = 46 times her = 36 times You are all up in her frame. You had a big ordeal that you felt warranted telling the internet about when it was just her repeating a story? WTF?
/r/askMRP01/11/17 04:57 PM
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The official MRP ratio is 7.248
/r/askMRP31/10/17 06:50 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 183.5lbs, 13.5%BF, Married 13yrs, 4 kids Lifting I am about 3 and a half weeks into a cut. I will go another 3-4 weeks and then stop. So far, everything has been going well. I upped my calories a bit as I think I was a little too low. Still loosing weight. I started swinging the kettlebell again. I sort of forget how effective swinging that little cannonball is. My heart is pounding like crazy and I am sucking in a ton of air. I have been doing a small little three round circuit wit…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/17 03:54 PM
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How good is memory? Can you do this all in your head? It looks bad if you have to ask mommy what the schedule is that day. Share a calendar on your phones. Pick from the 100's of apps that can do this. You will know what is going on at all times and she will still check with you before scheduling and can be the one to punch the information in 95% of the time. In other words, she can still play secretary but you aren't in the dark. You stay in control without having to manage every item.
/r/askMRP27/10/17 07:23 PM
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it's been a while since we've fucked so i'm probably overthinking this. Yup. You're butt hurt and acting like a whiny bitch. Be fun. Sex is fun.
/r/askMRP27/10/17 05:06 PM
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You know your limits. If you've struggled for that long, "healthy" might be abstaining completely for a little bit longer. Especially, if it has been that addictive and disruptive to your life. This may be black and white for you whereas it is a gray area for some others.
/r/askMRP27/10/17 03:23 AM
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Started running but damn it hurts. Do you have a good pair of running shoes? This made a huge difference for me. I thought my shoes were fine, but then I did some research and bought some nice running shoes. It was night and day how my feet and ankles felt after running.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/17 03:40 PM
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I've started doing BCAA before I lift a few months ago. I lift early in the morning fasting. I think it has helped. I haven't started doing it all day though. I usually have enough protein that I would like to think there are enough BCAA there from my diet. 1g per pound is what I have heard as well and what I stick to.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/17 02:54 AM
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31st Week MRP Fixed it for you. If you haven't been lifting and haven't read MMSLP (ie: the sidebar) then you haven't started. You've just been lurking. Once you have started lifting consistently and started putting in the work you can start the clock.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/17 12:06 AM
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Ego much?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 10:43 PM
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I would explain why you are wrong here, but /u/JDRoedell already explained it perfectly and this was your response. So, I won't waste my time. Seriously, do some more research if you don't believe us. I'll personally go with the advice of those that aren't at 28% BF and lift more than 1 day a week though. Just sayin'
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 06:53 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 185lbs, 13.5%BF, Married 13yrs, 4 kids Lifting This is still going well. I am into week 3 again and trying to lift the same amount I did last month to maintain muscle. Diet is on point, but I realized I was a hundred or two hundred calories too low and adjusted. Fat is melting off and BF% is dropping. I am trying like hell to maintain muscle. I think by lifting heavy and not overdoing it I will be fine. Also, the last time a year or so ago I did a cut I cut out a lot of foods I shou…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 03:53 PM
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I feel pretty "in charge" at home now and pretty entrenched in the captain's chair. The first 3-4 months were pretty rough. I think it was sort of the FO is busy on the deck with the crew and all of the sudden the drunk captain sobers up and starts barking out orders. It took her a while to submit. She mentioned about 2 or 3 months ago that she has accepted the new dynamics of the relationship. As a result, she defers to me on decisions and I have lightened up. I have to be careful I don't relax…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/17 10:55 PM
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Probably, that's the woman's playbook. The man's playbook is over here --->
/r/askMRP18/10/17 08:40 PM
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I'm going to sort of give you two answers here. First off, you are 27, you are likely as ready as you will ever be to have a child. The truth is that you are never fully ready. You just get in there, man up, and be the best damn dad you can be. That kid will teach you things about life and yourself that you never would have known otherwise. I like kids and I am grateful for the ones I have and that I didn't put it off too long. That is my old wise man advice to not put off kids in order to wait …
/r/askMRP18/10/17 07:25 PM
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You sound like a girl with all that hamstering to be honest. That is some weird logic. Why are you even here? There has to be a reason. If you were told that the first and one of the most important steps to achieving your goal is to lift wouldn't that make you want to do it? Apparently, you don't want any results and are content to waste your time. Probably why you found your way here in the first place since this is likely a common theme in other areas over your life. Take a deep look at yourse…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/17 03:15 AM
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What is your plan for lifting? Failing to plan is planning to fail. You just have to do it. I have been in your shoes. I was 150lbs three years ago and I am now about 190lbs. I am much happier with lifting and the benefits are numerous. There is a reason why it is a number one recommendation here. Follow it and in a year or so you will understand why. It is also a good escape if you are in a dry spell with the wife and sticking with no fap. That energy gets channeled into pushing iron and not in…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/17 12:07 AM
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Bigger issues however and feelz talks I find myself trying to logic with her and getting frustrated. I've been there and sometimes still go there like a retard. As a man, it is hard to hear something that sounds so illogical and stupid and not try to correct it. One thing I have learned in the last few months is to just let her talk and if you say anything at all it is more of a sympathetic "Damn, that sucks", "Really? That's crazy", "She said that? What a bitch.", type of responses. She wants t…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 03:56 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 189lbs, 14.5%BF, Married 13yrs, 4 kids Lifting Commitment to the gym has been good for years now. I have made it a part of my life and I am pretty proud of that. I always try to make sure that I am pushing myself there as well. A couple of years ago I found myself just doing the same routine over and over and not progressing. It is easy to do this. Those workouts were still hard. I still broke a sweat. But, I didn't progress any. Since then, I have been a lot more aware of tracking …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 03:49 PM
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Oh shit! She uses emojis? Flags don't get any redder. She lies over stupid shit because you make up stupid rules. Are you sure your mature enough for an LTR?
/r/askMRP17/10/17 02:59 AM
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Honestly, I am on the same side of the fence with you with the cheating and lying. My problem is that you are placing one as more "red pill" or "alpha" over the other and pushing this opinion the way that you are. The labeling is irrelevant to what the red pill means to sexual dynamics. The sexual dynamics exist regardless of what morality you apply to it. That is what is meant by it being amoral. If your morals help stroke your ego the way you want them and help you feel more alpha then by all …
/r/askMRP15/10/17 07:55 PM
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I guess we have /u/redpillrobby on one side actively advocating cheating and you on the other actively denouncing it. The truth is it is simply your opinions and neither of them have anything to do with red pill and understanding sexual dynamics. You are welcome to share with the community your thoughts and reasons for your positions, but neither is more "red pill" than the other. Take what you want from all of this information. I have my own moral compass that I go by and everyone else here has…
/r/askMRP15/10/17 06:34 PM
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I'd be surprised if he didn't have some other condition causing it OP is fat and not lifting heavy.
/r/askMRP12/10/17 10:33 PM
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You seem surprisingly sensitive about this. Yeah, such bad advice from /u/SteelSharpensSteel. Why in the hell would better diet, sleep, exercise be good for anyone? I mean, you wouldn't want to provide your body with the necessary building blocks to produce testosterone right? Fucking with hormones is no joke. Supplementing with testosterone is life altering. Your body will cease to produce it naturally for the rest of your life. There really is no stopping once you start or else you are really …
/r/askMRP12/10/17 09:56 PM
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It's a 4 week cycle. Weeks 1-3 are for strength. Primary lift each day is four sets at low reps (3-5) and ramping up the weight progressively across the first 3 weeks for bench, squats, deadlift, etc. Week 4 is hypertrophy oriented and the same primary lifts are done in the 10-12 rep range with a lower weight due to the volume. Supplemental work is also done after the main lifts each day for things like curls, lateral raises, incline flys, etc. I do a different main lift each day and different s…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/17 08:55 PM
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First off, thanks for reply. This isn't the first time you have taken an interest in my lifting which I appreciate. Does the bulk/cut thing work for you, or are you in new territory? Now that I have a better diet I believe it does. When I first started lifting 3 years ago almost to the day I was at 150lbs. I was determined to put on weight and drank whole milk and ate cheeseburgers. It worked, but I predictably put on a lot of fat. I eat very clean now and bulk as clean as possible. According to…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/17 06:58 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 193lbs (+.5), 15%BF, Married 13yrs, 4 kids Lifting Finished about a five month bulk. Started with 5x5 and then transitioned into something different that I liked better. Up about 18lbs in total. I was hoping to get to 195lbs and fell 2lbs short. Starting to go on a cut. Keeping with the same lifting routine except I am adding some more cardio and ab work to the mix. Introducing a calorie deficit for the first time in a while. I did a cut about a year ago and didn't do it correctly. …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/17 05:26 PM
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I think you are in denial and at the very least should at least entertain the possibility that something is going on here between them. Too many red flags.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 10:29 PM
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Calvin Klein versions with the elastic-ish band around the sleeves. I found one at Costco and it fits perfect. Tapered around the waist and the sleeves are tight around the bicep without looking obnoxious. They don't have them anymore at the Costco near me. So, I went into a Calvin Klein outlet nearby. All they had were their "body fit" versions. I honestly looked good in them, but they would be inappropriate for an office setting. They were a little too form fitting. I think their standard polo…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/17 03:17 PM
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Thoroughly amused by these.
/r/askMRP03/10/17 11:09 PM
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look up Valsalva. Learn how to do it right instead of accidentally. Yeah, I think I know how to do it properly now. I think I just got lucky I didn't black out before learning more about it. Accidentally is a pretty good description of how I was doing it.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/17 08:51 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 192lbs (+1.5), 15%BF (+.25), Married 13yrs, 4 kids Lifting Finished up my heaviest week in my program. Set new PR's in every major movement except for the bench press. In fact, it got worse from last month. I actually think this was because of poor nutrition the day before. I didn't eat enough the day before and I workout fasting early in the morning. I believe I was just depleted. I completed my warm up sets and was spent before I went for the heaviest lift. Was supposed to lift 3 …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/17 04:10 PM
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I needed to read this. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/17 03:51 PM
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Congrats on no longer being an unemployed loser. Unfortunately, I can only take away the unemployed part since you haven't done anything yet. Do you have it in you? After 4 months with no job you should have been through the sidebar 5 times and should have started seeing results from 4 months of lifting. Oh wait, you didn't do any of that. any discrete advice My advice is not discrete. Stop being a faggot and grow up.
/r/askMRP29/09/17 03:44 PM
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Just remember that you taking your balls back will almost always piss her off. It's okay though. You have at least a year or more of work more or less ahead of you. Shifting the marriage dynamics that she worked hard to establish takes time. The good news is it usually gets better. If it doesn't, you will be in good shape moving forward and there was nothing there of value anyways for you.
/r/askMRP29/09/17 12:25 PM
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Do you ever have trouble remembering your username? I would be like typing it in to login and then be like, "did I type in 10 g's or 11 g's?"
/r/askMRP28/09/17 10:54 PM
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Just joined the 1000lbs+ stronglift 5x5 club Do people not understand what the 1000lb club is? A month ago you benched 190lbs and squatted 245lbs. Unless you deadlifted 565lbs, which is impossible based on your bench and squat, you didn't accomplish shit. If you start adding OH press and bent over row, then shit, I joined that club a long time ago and it isn't very exclusive either. It is your three main lifts added up. Bench, Squat, and Deadlift. This is extremely difficult and can typically on…
/r/askMRP26/09/17 11:50 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 190.5lbs (+1), 14.75%BF, Married 13yrs, 4 kids Lifting Some good and some bad. I tried to hit a PR on my bench. Didn't even come close. I did better last month. I've been using dumbbells for BP. In my heaviest week last month I was to do 3 reps x 2 with my heaviest weight. I was able to complete the first set, but failed after the first rep on the final set. Yesterday, I couldn't even get up the first rep. I'm just going to chalk this up as a bad day at the gym. Everything else went…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/17 04:59 PM
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wife inadvertently interupts with a look of "Oops!" Did your wife know not to interrupt? If not, how is this her fault? Sounds like she didn't know what the hell you were even doing. There was no boundary here that she was crossing. It didn't exist. Next time you do this with the kids let her know you are taking 15 minutes with the kids to meditate and to either join in or not interrupt until the 15 minutes are up. Butt Hurt or Issue? You do sound a little too butt hurt here. Time to do some sel…
/r/askMRP25/09/17 11:16 PM
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This funny because my wife has pulled some of this same stuff. Except she hasn't gone as far as pulling an ultimatum. I actually just keep some scruff more than anything as I personally don't like the full beard myself. I look better with more of a David Beckham length facial hair. She doesn't like how it scratches her when kissing. She hasn't mentioned anything about oral. I get the fact that it doesn't feel good and can kind of rub her raw and irritate her skin. What I find amusing though is w…
/r/askMRP22/09/17 03:32 PM
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Personal trainer is best. If you can't afford one then use Youtube. Work out in front of a mirror and don't fool yourself into thinking you are doing it right. Do it right and follow a program. The only real way to learn is just by doing it too. The first 90 days will be the roughest and the first two weeks you will be sore as hell. Don't worry about anyone else in the gym. There are all kinds of shapes and sizes in the one I go to. If you are even in there at 5AM in the morning and not sleeping…
/r/askMRP21/09/17 05:25 PM
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Why and what would the tests look like? Usually after sex she's just in a silent glow and doesn't talk at all. I would expect some sort of ASD potentially because she might feel like a bad girl. Until she becomes accustomed to it she might feel dirty. She might start trying to convince you that either you or she shouldn't like it and stop. You just stay in your frame and essentially project an attitude to her of the following: "say what you want, but I like it, I know you like it, and I'm going …
/r/askMRP21/09/17 05:31 AM
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Wife does have access to my phone. I use the app and I log in and out every time within the app. Except for those times that I forget... On a desktop it's Incognito. The sidebar books I use are encrypted PDF's I created and are stored within iBooks labeled SGM or MMSLP etc. If she found them she could Google the acronyms, but probably wouldn't think anything of them. I have 5 Love Languages, Men are from Mars, and His Needs Her Needs still in there from before swallowing the pill. They are good …
/r/askMRP21/09/17 01:51 AM
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9 years of marriage and never once, although I can't say I've pushed the issue. She made it clear early on: "I will never." 13 years here and wife said the same thing at one point. Don't believe what she says, but what she does. That's why the this comment is how she really feels about it. I was shocked because licking her inner thigh makes her go bonkers. She does want it. Her brain is telling her she shouldn't and she needs you to help break that down. She has a clear and openly communicated m…
/r/askMRP20/09/17 11:43 PM
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Yeah, I've dropped any expectation of oral years ago Fellow conservative Christian with as prude and sexually inexperienced wife as any here. Has your wife ever performed oral on you? This is not a humble brag because my blowjob count is the extraordinarily high number of two. Both happened in the last 30 days, but I have RP to thank for it. I'm no RP expert, but my wife had never done oral before in her life. What worked for me was to just start going down on her more frequently with no expecta…
/r/askMRP20/09/17 10:50 PM
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Instead I accepted IV drip sex once a month or less for all of our marriage. Even during our first year of marriage it was once every 3 or 4 weeks with me fapping to keep my needs met. My wife and I were both raised religious and virgins until marriage. However, we fucked like rabbits in the first year. Over time the frequency and enthusiasm dwindled after kids and every other beta faggot reason we read here. But, I always knew that some passion and history was there somewhere. I'm not sure what…
/r/askMRP19/09/17 05:54 PM
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As far as bulking, your diet sounds good. You simply need to eat more of it. Three years ago I weighed 150lbs even. I'm now half a pound shy of 190lbs. I have also plateaued a number of times with weight gain throughout the last 3 years. It always comes down to calories. You simply need to be eating more and lifting heavy which you already appear to be doing. I would add another 300-500 calories. You should start seeing the weight come on. It will mostly be muscle, but fat will be added as well.…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/17 03:55 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 189.5lbs (+.5), 14.75%BF, Married 13yrs, 4 kids Lifting Into the second week which is the one right before I go with 3 reps and try to lift as heavy as possible. I am optimistic I will complete my sets on my main lifts this time around. Last month I failed on the last set of four on everything but the deadlift. I'm feeling stronger this time around so we will see. Starting to shift my focus to prepare for a brief cut. I am probably only going to go 4-6 weeks. I need to firm up the m…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/17 03:44 PM
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Financially this isn't the time to do it, but I would love a hobby car. Something from the muscle car era. I want to completely rebuild one from the inside out.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 06:11 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 189lbs (+1.5), 14.75%BF (+.25%), Married 13yrs, 4 kids Lifting Finished up my second round on this program. I have been pretty consistently putting on about 1lbs per week. This week shows 1.5lbs, but last week was .5lbs. I am just thinking it took a little while for the scale to catch up. Weight fluctuates 2-3 pounds depending on when I have eaten etc. Everything went well. I am back into week 1 again and I am going to repeat the same weights on a few of the main lifts to try and co…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 03:54 PM
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Glad I'm not the only one that had a hard time making sense out of those numbers.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 01:59 PM
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I’ve turned this one over in my head for a week and can’t come up with anything witty and I think I might need another swift kick in the ass from you guys. ie: I'm not ready. Also, I don't think you necessarily need anything witty especially if that hasn't been your past personality. You just need to own it.
/r/askMRP11/09/17 08:51 PM
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she gives a standard shit test about being so early You: "Yup, I don't like being late (opens car door and starts to get out). C'mon let's go." Fight the passive aggressive comment urge like hell. We all want to do it sometimes, but it's a waste of time and what fucked you over for the night.
/r/askMRP11/09/17 06:39 PM
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Had I known a tiny fraction of her past, I would certainly not have. If living with her as she is doesn't get better, I'm going to chose to be without her Not to get all Dr Phil on you, but she hasn't opened up this side to you for this reason. She knows this is the truth and is exactly why she kept it from you. This is your challenge more than anything and this likely goes back to the way you behaved when you first met and it is how she perceives you. I get there are a lot of red flags here and…
/r/askMRP11/09/17 06:32 PM
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Big step in the right direction, but a long road still ahead. Regardless, I bet it was nice to see some results. Use it as motivation to improve even further, hit the gym harder, and lead even better. Her hamster has been going crazy lately. Make sure she can feel comfortable in making the right choice in a strong alpha leader and someone who gives her comfort as well. She is still evaluating whether you are worth or not.
/r/askMRP11/09/17 05:06 AM
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Yes. It's called the sidebar and is a major recommendation here. You made a post 88 days ago that stated you were 6'1" and over three bills. Guess what your next homework assignment is? Start lifting.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/17 04:51 PM
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Have you ever tried playing a board game without reading all of the instructions? Kind of hard isn't it? Even the first time thru the game it doesn't always make sense until you've seen it played out to the end. Read the entire sidebar before you start implementing this stuff. STFU and observe for a while. It will save you a lot of trouble.
/r/askMRP09/09/17 02:26 PM
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I purchased them pre-MRP. Agree that it was try-hard beta. Each receipt had "covert contract" written all over it. I haven't purchased anything since swallowing and don't intend to. I think what bothered me was the fact that she threw them in the trash. Oh well, in seeing the responses here I have already let it go. It's not worth it and I can see that confronting is a total waste of time and will only make things worse. I suppose you can never know for sure, but I don't really suspect Chad here…
/r/askMRP08/09/17 06:13 PM
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Yes. The office even has a neat little frame with it displayed in the office. It is legit. They just focus on hormonal imbalances. Well, after they do the voodoo... TBH I was skeptical at first. I also haven't fully bought into it either, but I am willing to have her roll with it for a while. Consistently, her mood swings have followed her cycle to a "t". First two weeks happy go lucky. Last two weeks a total mess. There is likely some truth to the hormonal imbalances as progesterone is the pred…
/r/askMRP08/09/17 06:03 PM
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It's a regular doctor. They just offer hormone treatments etc.
/r/askMRP08/09/17 05:49 PM
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Is she 15? Most responsible teenager in the house.
/r/askMRP08/09/17 05:08 PM
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I do agree with you about just telling her to do things. It has been one of the biggest RP revelations to me. I have read SGM, but admittedly this was in the first month of swallowing and I was in no position to try about 90% of what was in there. I really do think I am a lot further down the road and should have more success with it now. I think finding it in the trash threw me off a bit. I have been wanting to keep pushing boundaries. Years ago she mentioned getting a vibrator. She never could…
/r/askMRP08/09/17 05:01 PM
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Purchasing her lingerie is negotiating desire and setting a covert contract (If I buy this, you will wear it for me). This. The good news is that I haven't bought any since coming here and discovering MRP. Maybe I should take this a symbolic gesture of throwing all those covert contracts in the trash. All those were purchased before I knew anything RP.
/r/askMRP08/09/17 04:53 PM
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I have to take a 10-15 minute nap at lunch in the car most weekdays.
/r/askMRP08/09/17 04:25 PM
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It's funny, but the day you stop giving a shit about her and whether or not she wears lingerie is the day she will start wearing lingerie. Damn. And the funny thing is I thought I was just about there. I am up to DL5. I have feel like my SMV is higher than when I started. Wife keeps talking about me and the other "girls" at the gym and has been feeling dread. I honestly didn't give a damn about the lingerie for the last 8 months when I found all this stuff and she brought them out twice last mon…
/r/askMRP08/09/17 04:06 PM
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This is far more true than I care to admit and really good advice. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/17 03:30 PM
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Is she trying to bring me in to her frame? No. You are doing this all by yourself. Seriously? You're hamstering over whether she drinks a smoothie or not?
/r/askMRP06/09/17 10:52 PM
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I AM SHITTY Yes and am working on changing alot of things Really? Like what? but i just dont know how much of all this i am responsible for. All of it You've got to get your shit together. Is your plan to rely on OT to barely scrape by the rest of your life? Even that isn't cutting it financially. What's the long-term plan that doesn't involve her passing a test to bail you out. Are you going to keep drinking at your buddy's pass out on his couch and hope your MIL takes care of your job? If your…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/17 06:50 PM
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Why is everything you say sexual? Short answer: You are still creepy in her eyes. Long answer: This is normal and is a little shit test. However, I will say that in my opinion this is something that you ramp up over time and is more effective once you have raised your SMV and she starts to notice the new SMV level. Right now you are just creepy when you say it. It is easier to say sexual things when you are sexy. Just ease into this. If it makes you feel any better I went thru the same thing whe…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/17 09:35 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 187.5lbs (+.5), 14.5%BF (+.5%), Married 13yrs, 4 kids Lifting Last week was the heaviest and lowest rep week in my lifting schedule. Dissappointed I wasn't able to fully make the jump on all of the weights. Hit failure on the last two reps of my squats. I also couldn't finish the set on the bench press. The good news is that I was able to do some reps and that this was the heaviest I have lifted before. So, not a success in that I completed the full range of reps. But, a success in …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/17 04:02 PM
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Remember in MRP we want supreme alpha AND beta traits. It is a well rounded balance that is ideal. Most of us are appalled at anything blue because it reminds us of who we were and we avoid it like the plague. Chad gets pussy, but doesn't stand a chance in an LTR. Beta Billy can be the footstool in an LTR forever, but he never gets pussy. We focus on the alpha aspects a lot because it is typically what we lack. Beta traits are necessary too though.
/r/askMRP03/09/17 03:12 PM
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Understanding this dynamic yourself and leading her to be the woman you want, yes. Explaining this to her, no. Why do you want her to act and think like a dude? Do you not want her to be a girl? Are you gay?
/r/askMRP01/09/17 09:28 PM
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You probably needed to raise your calories slightly. If you were that hungry your body was essentially starving. If you do a heavy lifting session and burn 400-500 calories you will need to compensate by eating 400-500 calories more. Typically, 500 calories below what you use daily is a good target. This is simple burn more than you put in. That is essentially what you are doing with a pure diet, but you won't see the thousands of benefits you will get with lifting. In my opinion, lifting is alm…
/r/askMRP01/09/17 03:29 PM
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So when are you going to start?
/r/askMRP31/08/17 08:12 PM
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Stay off of deadbedrooms. It's depressing. I am currently on an off cycle Something tells me this you lying to yourself. A "recovery week" is one thing and is quite healthy after 2-3 months of heavy training. But, I think you just aren't lifting and calling it an "off cycle". Stop lying to yourself. If you are ever going to make improvements you are going to have to look long and hard at yourself and get really uncomfortable with what you find. Get to work. You ain't shit yet.
/r/askMRP31/08/17 06:27 PM
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Do you truly believe she is asexual? If yes, do you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody like that? I can care less about cameras and whatever. You should be a nice guy and wait patiently for 3 fucking years. I bet she will be dripping wet when she comes back and is shocked to see that you actually waited.
/r/askMRP30/08/17 06:56 PM
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Ugh...are you just hoping we will give you a different answer than the conclusion you have already arrived at? Our sex life has died out. Red flag She is currently too busy to give me much attention Your not worth it to her We don't have kids. Clean break. This is a positive in my opinion. Her libido doesn't exist. She has a libido, just not for you There is a large discrepancy to the tune of +250k me -250k her. Not even sure if you are beta bucks let alone alpha fucks if she still doesn't give …
/r/askMRP30/08/17 06:37 PM
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Put in the time. It may take a while, but it is worth it. Before MRP I had already started lifting, but I didn't know anything about the red pill. 6'0" and 150lbs the day I started not quite 3 years ago. Skinny fat. Never had a blow job in 13 years of marriage. Crazy no? Who wouldn't want that lanky soft unkempt body of mine? She's my wife. She should just automatically want to right? Been at this MRP thing for 7-8 months now in addition to the prior years of lifting. I am now closer to 190lbs w…
/r/askMRP30/08/17 03:40 PM
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Agreed. I've read it once. Problem was I was in no position to really act on much of it. Now with my wife being way more submissive and sweet I think it fits the bill.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 04:48 PM
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Looks like Braden must have found his dad's Reddit login again. Dammit Braden!
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 04:47 PM
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I do agree with you on this. As a general rule for just about anything in life, simple is almost always going to be better. I also agree that mini-lectures lose their effectiveness the longer they go on and the more often they happen. In an ideal scenario, my boundaries will be clear and will have been established beforehand. If she attempts to cross one of them a simple sentence should suffice. As I repaint the lines and move the goal posts there may be a tendency to get more wordy. I agree thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 04:17 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 187lbs (+1), 14.5%BF (+.5%), Married 13yrs, 4 kids Lifting Starting week 3 of my second round in this program. I have continued to put on weight. This is the part of the workout schedule where I load the heaviest weights and lower down to 4 sets of 3 reps. Hit failure on the last two reps of bench and hit failure on the last two reps of squats. The good news is that I was at least able to move the weight for a number of reps which is a personal best. However, I can't scratch this we…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 04:11 PM
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She's not your girlfriend anymore. Read your last few posts this week.
/r/askMRP29/08/17 02:04 AM
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Flat out disagree. This was laying boundaries here. I brought up the issue initially that caused the meltdown and I controlled the narrative here. Simple communication and laying down expectations is not DEERing. This was all done from my frame and not hers. I have certainly had my fair share with years of DEERing in this relationship, but this was not it. Even if I am guilty of doing it briefly a time or two in the conversation we had upstairs it was very minimal and not a part of the overall n…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/17 06:23 PM
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How serious have you been in your relationship? Be honest. If you have always been serious a 180 into cocky asshole will be unauthentic. Be fun. Keep at it and slowly ramp it up.
/r/askMRP28/08/17 03:52 PM
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I havent done much reading on dread yet i'm very new to this like i said, so just looking to see if dread is the case, or if she had a legit reason to be pissed and i missed something. Was this you trying to instill dread or blowing the shit out of your relationship? If you had read the sidebar you would know the answer to this. Why don't you try to understand the material before opening your stupid mouth. Sometimes we get guys in here that take STFU to the extreme, become mutes, and start wonde…
/r/askMRP28/08/17 03:46 PM
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Pre-MRP, I thought I was a really good dad. I was involved with my kids. I played with them. I fed them. I read to them. I got them ready and put them to bed. Unfortunately, my wife was always anxious and on edge. There was a ton of negativity to the point where I wondered why the hell she even wanted kids. Answer? It was me. In this case, it is also you. The difference? Who is calling the shots? Who is deciding when the kids should go to bed and wake up? Where should they be going to school? Wh…
/r/askMRP27/08/17 11:39 PM
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Still not much sex... She was even okay with me seeing someone on the side for sex! You need to be introduced to Chad. It sounds like your wife has already met him.
/r/askMRP27/08/17 08:23 PM
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STFU works when you don't know what the hell you're doing and are still working through figuring out WISNIFG. At some point, you will need to communicate effectively. "This is a pointless discussion, I'm not gong to entertain you" Slow down there turbo. How high is your SMV at this point? Are you lifting? At 4 weeks it is likely that it isn't much higher than before and even if it is higher the lag time for her to notice hasn't caught up. Congratulations, you read some books and swallowed a figu…
/r/askMRP27/08/17 06:29 PM
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She keeps saying that there is this ONE THING that she is always waiting for me to do or get. It's man the fuck up. Edit: We are wanting it too.
/r/askMRP25/08/17 05:21 PM
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This post was quite compact, concise, direct, and speaks to a specific question that pops up here often. Is it sidebar worthy? In all honesty, probably not. It doesn't delve into theory and doesn't really provide a foundation to MRP principles. I liked how direct it was to address a common theme here and think that it will just get lost in the shuffle over time and forgotten which is a shame.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 05:02 PM
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I read Rollo's article just now as well. Of course, his is well written and dives a little deeper into commitment. However, I like how you spelled this out for everyone here on MRP. I kind of think something like this on the sidebar would be helpful for all the idiots that come here asking for permission to cheat or open up the marriage rather than doing the heavy lifting to improve their lives and relationships.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 04:06 PM
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Texts can be misinterpreted too easily. Yes, speaking can bring about emotion. But, you are in your frame right? Don't let your emotions get the better of you. That is weak and unattractive. Congrats on the baby BTW.
/r/askMRP25/08/17 03:37 AM
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No. It means that in no way does this situation involve the MIL. MIL's love to get involved and start power struggles. You simply don't engage. It takes away her power in relationship.
/r/askMRP25/08/17 03:34 AM
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Don't communicate with your MIL about this. Pick up the phone and call your wife. Deal directly with her. Your MIL would love to get in the middle of this (they always do). Don't let her. Take her out of the communication circle. It doesn't involve her anyways.
/r/askMRP25/08/17 01:46 AM
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How do I approach this with potentially interested women without being dishonest to anyone (including myself)? Uh... be honest.
/r/askMRP24/08/17 10:27 PM
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Briefly read your post history. It is highly likely if not certain that your wife is cheating on you. Look through the sidebar -----> There are answers and tools in there to help you. It will explain how you got to where you are now. I have my opinion on whether to salvage your marriage or not, but it is not my life.
/r/askMRP24/08/17 05:42 PM
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Short answer: She doesn't think your attractive or worth it. Long answer: I am currently running my MAP and I am about 6 months into this whole thing. We have been married for 13 years and I never have had a blow job in my entire marriage. Well, until last night. You are not leading in the bedroom. This won't happen overnight. Not sure if I can give you any concrete tips and tricks on how to make this happen for you other than sidebar. You need to be attractive and allow her to feel comfortable …
/r/askMRP24/08/17 05:02 PM
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About your not moving and walking around each other thing. First off, good in that you are no longer afraid of her emotions. Not walking around on eggshells is a key first step to your journey. However, although you should never be afraid to be a dick or be perceived as a dick, don't actually go out of your way to be a dick. It just makes you a dick and isn't attractive. Yes, you don't need to jump out of the way here for her highness, but you also don't need to become a big massive immovable el…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 04:35 PM
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is how she discerns if you are alpha or not Not sure OP is even good beta. That's when you're really fucked.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/17 02:46 AM
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Since you obviously don't know. Sit down with your wife tonight and talk to her about what is stressing her. There may be legitimate issues here because she feels like she is filling in the gaps. Then again, it may just be all feelz. Right now, you don't know and judging by what you have said the gap is you. MRP doesn't mean don't communicate. It is a tool and sometimes it is necessary. At one year in you shouldn't be using STFU as much as you are. Take charge of the situation. Figure out why yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 08:57 PM
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I don't think you should initiate with the boys lying there. That was almost a guaranteed hard no and probably explains why she felt more comfortable getting closer to you. But, you need to create scenarios where she is pushing her ass into you more. Start gaming her AND closing. Fear is unattractive. Don't be stupid about it, but I would err on the side of boldness more often than not. Check your ego at the door before you initiate and kick butt hurt to the curb.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 07:22 PM
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Can't argue with that. As much progress as I feel I have made I am not fully there yet. What keeps me motivated is that I know I can never go back to the way things were before.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 07:02 PM
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she quickly resorts back to her your slob-style of household management Fixed it for you My wife has high anxiety Lack of leadership. She feels that she is in charge of too much. Women hate being in charge. It gives them anxiety. Take a deep look at this aspect of your relationship. Watching kids here and there is not leadership. Are you really leading at home? At this point, I know for sure it's allure of Chad Thundercock that's making her want to attend this festival. She's tired of you being …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 06:06 PM
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If you are truly committed you can probably make it work with your wife looking over your shoulder. There are a number here that their wives know about "fight club". It does present a few problems though. If she has a good understanding of what MRP is she shouldn't have a problem with it. She will get a more fit, strong, masculine man that takes care of shit, is responsible, and supports her. Not sure how many women would turn down those qualities.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 05:50 PM
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discobulus_ gave you some good advice right here. I need time. Yes, I would caution you to avoid going what we call Red Pill Rambo. MRP is process and typically can't be rushed. The wheels for this kayak trip have been set in motion years ago. Whether it is innocent or is a double date there is nothing you can really do at this point. Let it play out, dive into the reading, and just sit back and observe until you fully understand the concepts here. You will have a strong desire to consume the si…
/r/askMRP22/08/17 04:50 PM
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You do you, but if your wife isn't getting anything somewhere else she is probably sexually frustrated too and wondering why you won't just man the fuck up and rail her. Maybe not, she might still have her guard up and will cock block you. I realize that this has been a big power play for her in the past and she has given some hard no's in the past, but what the hell are you afraid of? The worst she can do is say no. If you are being awesome and not butthurt she will start feeling guilty for bei…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 04:27 PM
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What the hell? Your username is essentially "I won't divorce you today" and your wife reads your OYS posts and this sub. She gives you a blow job if you get your fat ass in the gym and lose weight and post a minimal effort OYS here? There has to be more to your origin story than this. Did your wife find this sub or did you? Or, are you just trolling? What are you doing here?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 04:13 PM
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36yrs, 6'0", 186lbs, 14%BF, Married 13yrs, 4 kids Lifting Starting week 2 of my second round in this program. Up another pound from last week. Funny how eating can almost begin to be a chore. It is fuel right now to me. My biggest change is eating 5 hard boiled eggs in the morning when I arrive to work. I have also been eating an extra banana and some more after dinner. So far, I have increased in weight. My lifts have been improving and my BF percentage has stayed relatively unchanged. Last rea…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 04:03 PM
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I think you still need another kick in the ass.
/r/askMRP18/08/17 11:40 PM
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Here. This is from NMMNG in case you missed it... The Victim Triangle Rather than helping Nice Guys meet their needs, covert contracts and caretaking only lead to frustration and resentment. When this frustration and resentment builds long enough, it often spills out in some not so pretty ways. Giving to get creates a cycle of craziness called the victim triangle. The victim triangle consists of three predictable sequences: 1) The Nice Guy gives to others hoping to get something in return. 2) Wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 10:40 PM
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Great post. I know others have mentioned it before, but Extreme Ownership was a pretty awesome read and has some similarities to the speech above. It is primarily written and geared towards leadership in business, but the concepts translate perfectly to relationships and family. It was one of my favorite reads in the last year.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 05:19 PM
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You know your own situation. I think the point is that you need to have lots of other worthwhile things that you could be doing. If you never go to bars or lift at night it would look butthurt if you got up and left the house. Go work on a project in the garage, in the office, practice an instrument, or do something else productive. The point is to not be bothered by her turning you down and showing her that you have better things to do than sit there and watch TV with her. If she wants your com…
/r/askMRP16/08/17 11:38 PM
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Sorry, you are still "creepy". She isn't attracted to you very much right now. It's okay. I've been there. In the past, my flirting would be responded with a "you don't talk to your wife like that!" If she were attracted to you the response would be more positive unless you really really suck at flirting. Where are you in the levels of Dread? Lifting? If you take off your shirt do you look sexy?
/r/askMRP16/08/17 11:31 PM
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"that's my problem I'll worry about that I'm working on myself and it's none of your business" Yeah, I think I like her more than you OP. You are trying to convince her with words and logic that this is at least partly her fault and that she won't let you lead and whatever puke you've been spilling to her. I'm on her side that this is the other way around. Maybe you are dyslexic and understood it to read "Be unattractive. Don't be attractive." with the way you are acting and emoting all over the…
/r/askMRP16/08/17 07:28 PM
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I have been skinny my entire life. Well, until I went skinny fat. About 2 1/2 years ago I weighed 150lbs even. Today I weigh 185lbs. Muscle is possible. I just didn't know what I was doing in high school and I didn't eat correctly. Yes, there are hard gainers and differing metabolisms, but the way to gain muscle is the same for everyone. Lift heavy and eat big. I am a hard gainer and have to will myself to eat. I still have a ways to go and more muscle to build to be satisfied. I started with li…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 12:28 PM
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Old babysitter hb7 came to kids bday party - she is off to college in the fall. She was flirting hard with me. A sister in law who I gamed a couple of weeks ago felt my bicep "Gaming" the just out of high school babysitter and SIL at your kids bday party? WTF?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 08:58 PM
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Past statistics have shown that in the U.S. 50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second, and 73% of third marriages end in divorce. Most people are convinced that the spouse is at fault when they probably need to do some soul searching. This sub will show you where you suck and what you have done to contribute to the deadbedroom. Most people in deadbedrooms think "my spouse should have sex with me because I am their spouse and I love them". What they don't realize is that they have become a fa…
/r/askMRP15/08/17 05:20 PM
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36yo, 6' 0", 185lbs, 14%BF, Married 13yrs, 4 kids Lifting For a while I didn't think there was much going on as far as putting on muscle. I was lifting 5 days a week with heavy compound lifts. I was eating at a surplus. But, I didn't really notice anything even after the 3rd week of the 4 week program I am on. I am pretty sure I didn't put on 2lbs last week, but that is what the scale is has been showing consistently for the last few days. I am guessing that it just wasn't showing up for some re…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 04:33 PM
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The shit tests aren't a bad thing. It means she has renewed interest in you. Embrace them. She has maybe just now realized that you have a brand new frame and are starting to become more attractive. She is banging on your frame to see how strong it is and to find any weaknesses. This is to determine whether you are worth fucking. She might also be testing to see whether she made a mistake with you during those 10 minutes. Sex seems to be a big power play with her and she might have some regret g…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 03:40 PM
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Don't flirt via text. At least yet anyway. Your in person game needs to be solid before doing this. Deadbedroom to any form of sexting is not a natural transition. I think you are doing fine and you seem to grasp the overall concepts here. You're off to a good start. You stood up for yourself and took a reasonable stance in not being an errand boy for someone you don't even really know. Move on and stop hamstering about this one little shit test of many to come. Keep reading and lift like crazy.
/r/askMRP14/08/17 08:58 PM
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I have been waiting for that "talk" for a while now I didn't point this out in my other reply. But, if you read this back again. Who is leading who? Who is in charge of the narrative here? You are passively waiting for things to happen. Waiting for her to do things so you can react. Go out and make things happen for you. I think in a way you are waiting for the good results of MRP to just kind of "come to you". This is very passive. It is good to not get butt hurt and all, but you can't just bec…
/r/askMRP14/08/17 05:42 PM
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Let's illustrate. She has her frame and you spend most of your time in it. You spend too much time in her frame hamstering with OPSEC and worrying about potential confrontations. You go out and do something manly, don't respond to texts, come back home, take charge and fuck her. Hmmmm, sounds alpha to me and she responds appropriately. She was probably laying there afterwards hamstering what the hell happened and how you pulled that off and how she went along with it. You became Neo for a moment…
/r/askMRP14/08/17 05:29 PM
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Don't hamster about it and keep working on you as before. Why now did she decide to fuck after 9 months? There is probably no scenario that you were probably not going to ask this question after 9 months of nothing. So, it doesn't really matter why or how it happened. Stop hamstering, keep initiating, don't get butt hurt, and keep working towards being awesome. Oh, and congrats, BTW. I really do hope this is a turning point for you and something to build on for the future. I think I was actually…
/r/askMRP14/08/17 05:12 PM
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I have been at this about 6 months thus far. I agree that a little Rambo is acceptable or even necessary at different stages of MRP. I have reached DL 5 at this point in my journey and have reached a much higher level of SMV than when I first started. It is noticeable now. I have also shown that I am not afraid to rock the boat anymore or walk on eggshells and have started asserting leadership. At this point in my journey and where things are at, it feels appropriate to apply a little more press…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/17 05:25 PM
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Can you pick up your wife and have your way with her? If not, she's either too fat or you're not strong enough. Lift.
/r/askMRP10/08/17 02:18 AM
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You mean you read some pages in a book and now people aren't doing exactly what you want them to do? First off, WISNIFG is a toolset. It helps you not get walked on and plowed over. It allows you to assertively handle confrontations and situations to give you the best possible outcome. Second, it may take some time to get better at using the tools. So, I wouldn't expect to start hitting home runs with this stuff right away. As far as your particular example, a lease is a legally binding contract…
/r/askMRP09/08/17 05:03 PM
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Planning on running in my neighborhood then getting into lifting more as I drop some weight. Don't put off lifting. Maybe you won't be able to do all of the movements and lifts that you want to at the beginning, but don't put this off another day. Muscle consumes calories and lifting is super efficient at burning off fat. It will only help you burn off your excess fat faster. By all means go running, but go running in addition to lifting. I have committed to lifting for the rest of my life. I am…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 04:03 PM
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If you don't know where you are going, any road will get you there. - Cheshire Cat What is your vision? What do you want out of life? Figure it out, make a plan, execute it, and evaluate your progress. The sidebar is a toolbox. What do you want to build? Also, feel free to become an observer while you are still learning. But, don't stay an observer and be forever on the sidelines. Just work your way into it. Lift in the meantime. When you are strong physically it is easier to be strong mentally.
/r/askMRP08/08/17 06:49 PM
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how do I know I'm staying true north with all of this? I think this is the question that you need to step back and try to answer. No one else here can answer it for you. Right now you are moving for the sake of moving, but without any direction. What brought you here in the first place? Most people don't just turn their worlds upside down unless they come to a point where they realize what they were doing before doesn't work. Figure out what you want out of life. If MRP can help you get there gr…
/r/askMRP08/08/17 06:40 PM
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I like the simplicity on the sub. It is very male.
/r/askMRP08/08/17 05:20 PM
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My advice. I think you are just flailing and swinging your arms hoping that one of these strategies will work. Take a break for a while. I think you understand a lot of the red pill concepts, but not how to apply them. Become an observer for a while. If things go in the direction of your blue pill beta self for a few things so be it. Re-evaluate afterwards how you could have handled it differently. The way you AA or use AM will be different than way I do it. Just slow down for a while, take a br…
/r/askMRP08/08/17 04:26 PM
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For now... Once she knows she can sleep around and you will take her back she can carry your balls in her purse. If she leaves you for six months and "separates" it's not cheating right? Wait in a year or two, she will find a few more cocks she wants to ride, leave for six months because you just won't "commit" and she doesn't like your "terms". Then she will come back to you begging you to take her back. Rinse and repeat. Your terms?
/r/askMRP08/08/17 04:18 PM
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36 yrs old, 13 yrs married, 4 kids, 6'0" 183lbs 14% BF Fitness I am now in the last week of 4 week program that I started. So far so good. Week 3 was low reps with heavy weight. I set PR's in everything which is encouraging. I added some more calories and hard boiled eggs to my diet to try and add some bulk. Everything seems to be on the right track here. I think lifting is also just a trial of patience. Results are slow and take time. I usually will get impatient and start thinking I should jus…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/17 04:07 PM
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My question is should I get back with her if it's on my own terms? 2 months ago you asked... Should I get back with my LTR? What are you hoping to hear different this time?
/r/askMRP08/08/17 03:27 PM
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Go to school AND get a job. You have no kids, so it shouldn't be hard to get this done. Double up on credits too to finish faster. She resents you because you have no drive and vision. You are 36. Time to grow up.
/r/askMRP08/08/17 03:22 PM
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Dear Rambo, I saw the curtain was getting nasty and threw it in the wash. ... she asks why I felt the need to do that Then I remembered TRP ... and what came out was ... "go fist yourself." ... she pulled me right into an argument Thanks everyone for blazing and recording the path. I'm glad you are happy (since apparently that was your point of the post), but I think you are completely missing the concepts here. Love, Sidebar
/r/askMRP07/08/17 08:29 PM
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Dealing with it while at work should be very rare. If it ever happens, it should be because the child is being so out of line that it warrants it. Not because your wife warrants it. Your wife should handle things while you are gone. With that said, she is your first officer. If your boys are walking all over the first officer while the captain is on shore conducting business then they better have a reckoning when the captain is back on the ship. There should be hell to pay. Forced apologies to t…
/r/askMRP07/08/17 04:49 PM
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Soooooo, I've been watching a lot of Phineas and Ferb with the kids lately. If Doofenshmirtz were a real character I'm pretty sure he would have typed up what you were about to send. Sounds pretty much like a monologue directed towards Perry the platypus or something. Anyways, just build yourself a nice "SMV-in-a-tor" and you might stand a chance. Oh, and don't install a self-destruct button (wink).
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/17 04:11 AM
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I do believe recognizing that this is a slippery slope is valid. You walked a tight rope and got to the other side safely. There is valid concern for the future though. What could easily happen is that your LTR will get her feelings hurt in a similar situation. However, in this new hypothetical scenario, she is in the wrong and you don't have her back. She goes and lights a fire, jumps into the burning building, and then screeches at you to come rescue her. Now you have a burning building on you…
/r/askMRP03/08/17 07:26 PM
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Sounds like you nailed it. Not sure what your friend's problems were. Maybe jealously? I don't know. Sometimes some people can only feel good about themselves by trying to knock those around them down a peg or two. Maybe you just have too much going for you for their liking. Guys can be bitches sometimes too. Also proud of your LTR for standing up for herself. Your friends were dicks to her and by extension dicks to you. Nice work.
/r/askMRP03/08/17 06:51 PM
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I have a newfound appreciation for Shakespeare. One of the best posts I've seen in quite some time. The beta/alpha/hypergamy dynamic has always existed. But, it is amazing to see how blinded we are to feminism as a whole and how things have changed.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/17 06:05 PM
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It's just a good old fashioned shit test. She wants to see what kind of a man she is with. Respond with AA, AM, or whatever tool you would like. You chose AM from what I can tell. my girl chimes in with "oh, yeah, cheers to whatever it is we're celebrating" ...and I can't help but burst out laughing at her. Like, da fuck? So I laugh at her, thank my friends for the congrats, and move on with my night. It's your ego that is bothering you. As long as it didn't show in the moment or throughout that…
/r/askMRP03/08/17 04:20 PM
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https://pics.me.me/what-a-weird-way-to-spell-fat-and-single-feminist-21643577.png
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/17 04:07 PM
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Seriously? Your guilty because you don't recognize the day with a gift that isn't even the same month you got married in? She's probably grateful you finally forgot. That's overkill dude.
/r/askMRP01/08/17 06:33 PM
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I felt the need to buy/give her a gift every month I feel like a damn Reddit bot or something. See the origin of the word "anniversary". It's "annual". There feel better? The Latin root word ann and its variant enn both mean “year.” These roots are the word origin of various English vocabulary words, including anniversary and centennial. The roots ann and enn are easily remembered through the words anniversary, which is the turning of another “year.” http://membean.com/wrotds/ann-year Edit: BTW.…
/r/askMRP01/08/17 06:26 PM
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About the laundry, just let it go and don't get butt hurt and resentful about it. I pretty much do my laundry now. Pretend like you are single. You would be washing and folding your laundry if you were. She doesn't want to be your mom. It is unattractive. If you come home and the house is dirty and it is important to you that it is clean. Start cleaning it. Don't say a word. Don't pout and get all moody and grumble while you do it. Just clean the house. It's your damn house, so yes it is your jo…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/17 05:30 PM
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36 yrs, Married 13 yrs, 4 kids, 6’0’, 183lbs, 14%BF Lifting I am in Week 3 of a new program I recently started. So far, so good. Everything is based of percentages of my estimated one rep max. Week 1 is relatively light with 5 reps of a main compound lift each day followed by supplemental work. Week 2 increases the weight to a certain percentage of the 1RM lowering the reps to 4. I am now in Week 3 which is only 3 reps, but the highest percentage of 1RM. Monday was the bench press and I set a ne…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/17 05:05 PM
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She can't. He already has an 18 year old model on it. That's his league now.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/17 07:55 PM
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I think this puts you officially in the troll category.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/17 07:39 PM
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my "league" now is 18 year old models This was all I could think of from Napoleon Dynamite. My girlfriend from Oklahoma. http://images.complex.com/complex/image/upload/c_limit,w_680/fl_lossy,pg_1,q_auto/njrlrgrvnxa9ndmow3q1.jpg
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/17 07:37 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/6mi80f/giving_a_fuck/
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/17 07:30 PM
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I'm currently plating one of her cousins actually Sure it's not your own cousin? That might be what we are working with here because you seem to be your own worst enemy. If you are done with your wife then make it happen. If that is not true, then why are you sabotaging everything? I hope at the very least it knocked a bit off her confidence and increased dread Way to cut off your nose to spite your face. Pretty sure that's not how dread works. Back to the original question, this is really just …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/17 07:25 PM
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The Red Pill is a tough one to swallow. All of us here pretty much had a breaking point that allowed us to be receptive to the truths that RP theory teaches. I would venture to guess that the vast majority of us had a dead bedroom or something at least resembling it though there are a number of other valid reasons for swallowing. Not everyone wants to hear that you suck. That it is your fault. That you're a pussy and a faggot and you need to take back your balls from your wife. Especially, when …
/r/askMRP28/07/17 03:48 PM
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Most responsible teenager of the house. When I first got into this stuff I thought that anyone who said that was just being an ass. Now that I have had my eyes opened it makes more sense and helps me clearly see what is going on and to not get roped into the drama of an emotional teenager. It is kind of like reasoning with a toddler. My third child spoke crazy well at a really young age. I remember trying to explain something to her once and she just wasn't getting it. She was 2, but talked like…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 07:06 PM
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36 yrs, 13 yrs married, 4 kids, 6' 0", 182lbs, 14% BF Lifting has not ever been a problem. I was lifting a couple years before finding MRP. I have put on about 30+ lbs since starting. Changed up the routine a little bit from after going through 12 weeks of 5x5. I am in the second week and enjoying it. I have upped my calories and protein intake. I am hoping to pack on some more muscle in this program. I would like to get up to 190+lbs with minimal fat gain. I have been eating well and trying to …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 04:24 PM
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IMO, if you can't handle getting busted yet, you shouldn't be playing the game.
/r/askMRP24/07/17 10:50 PM
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They just don't make pedestals like they used to. The newer pedestal models are just unstable and wobbly. But, the pedestals made about 40 years ago are just perfect for putting a pussy on.
/r/askMRP24/07/17 03:45 AM
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The stopping sex for six months thing is dumb. I get why he put it in there. There are some of us that have our wives pussy on a golden pedestal in its own dedicated room with spotlights shining on it as it rotates and glimmers on a turntable maintaining our undivided attention. At least, that was me before I became aware of my faggotry. I think stopping butt hurt for six months can be just as effective. It is just an ego/validation thing that NMMNG is trying to crush. Also, not like on month se…
/r/askMRP21/07/17 04:43 PM
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36, Married 13 yrs, 6'0", 180lbs, 14%, ~5 months into MRP The Good Just started a new lifting program this week. It brings a lot of what 5x5 brings to the table with compound lifts, but also works other muscles more thoroughly. Moving from lifting 3 days a week to 5 days a week. I am always awake at 5AM in the morning anyways and lifted 5x's a week for about 2 years prior. It was until starting 5x5 that I went to 3x's a week. Since I am focusing on different muscle groups each day I feel confide…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/17 04:04 PM
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TLDR; A lesson on how to sabotage yourself at every turn and alienate a perfectly willing wife that is down to fuck by being butthurt about meaningless things and showing her you are just a pussy and not a man.
/r/askMRP17/07/17 03:29 PM
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Your just hurt. Also, all women bitch to some degree. More so when we suck. It is how we handle it that matters. It's not that you have a shitty boat. It's how you are leading it. If you are a good captain, she will gladly work under your lead, so that she can relax and dance with you on deck of that shitty boat at night under the stars. As long as she feels tingles and led she doesn't care about the shape and condition of the boat. This isn't about your career situation or premature ejaculation…
/r/askMRP16/07/17 05:34 AM
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Keeping along with the analogy, she wants to be with a captain that has a plan and a vision for navigating the treacherous seas. Whether you have a plan or not, she either doesn't know it or doesn't have confidence you will pull it off. You said she mentioned that to you because you have some "insecurities" about those things. Good captains don't have insecurities. They do, but she shouldn't know that. Your frame is weak with poor leadership to go with it. Right now, she feels like she is in tre…
/r/askMRP15/07/17 11:25 PM
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Boo hoo. So, you and your first mate are on your ship. You couldn't afford a nice boat and had to take a dead end job captaining a shitty boat. There is some hope that you will get a better boat sometime down the road, but it is hard to say when. Your first mate is doing what she can given the circumstances, but the ship is falling apart and things aren't ideal. She's out working and looking forward to dinner that evening after a long days work. When she finally gets ready to eat she comes to th…
/r/askMRP15/07/17 11:06 PM
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We deny the passions and we grow in holiness. We don't go maximizing our sexual urges. Though there are many reasons for our being here on Earth, there are two primary purposes that come to mind. First, is to receive a body. One that has urges, passions, thirsts, and hungers etc. You can call this human nature or in RP theory the "the time before writing." We are responsible for mastering those passions and desires. I interpret this as to being in control of ourselves or self-mastery. However, w…
/r/RPChristians14/07/17 09:37 PM
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I've got the plan squared away. It is essentially David Kingsbury's workout that he used for Hugh Jackman in getting ready for Wolverine. It is 95% the workout below. I just finished yesterday creating an easy to use log and spreadsheet to track on my phone at the gym. http://www.muscleandfitness.com/workouts/workout-routines/4-week-wolverine-training-plan It starts each workout with compound lifts in the low 3-5 rep range, but then there are about 4-5 other lifts depending on the day (chest, ar…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/17 08:50 PM
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You are correct to be cautious here. Reminds me a little of how poorly I handled a similar issue between my wife and mom when we were first married 13 years ago. I got too deep and ended up becoming a go between. I had no frame and just ended up taking bullets from two women I had not learned how to stand up to yet. You definitely don't want to do that. With that said, I feel that you do have some responsibility to own part of this. You will look weak to her if you do nothing. But, that doesn't …
/r/askMRP13/07/17 11:57 PM
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Your friends are being dicks. Your LTR was genuinely being nice by all accounts. If this happens again, you need to call your dick-headed friends out on it and right away with proper frame. If they don't shape up, they were never really your friends to begin with. They were just dickheads in your friends clothing. Ultimately, it is their choice to at least be amicable to her or not. You cannot control that and they may turn on you. If you are the king at a banquet and your queen tries to say som…
/r/askMRP13/07/17 08:57 PM
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Also, when do you guys find time to read books you don't want the wife to see? I use my phone and either use iBooks, the Kindle app, or the Nook app. If you have a family Amazon account and don't want your wife to see just setup another Amazon account specifically for this stuff. I'm up to Level 5 of Dread Game If you were using Tinder you were well beyond Level 5. I've only been around for 4-5 months here and it seems like there is always some MRPer every 1-2 weeks that starts grabbing chicks p…
/r/askMRP13/07/17 03:53 PM
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I think working full time would help her respect me more since she'll be able to have empathy for what I go through Umm, that's not how women work. Also, covert contract? If I do all this and she does all that, then I will be loved and respected.
/r/askMRP13/07/17 03:07 AM
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Assuming your not just trolling us. Did they literally wake you up to tell you that she ripped her panties? Would you have ever noticed if they never told you? Meaning did they have to go out of their way to tell you what happened? That sounds to me like everyone around you colluding and getting on the same page to tell you the "story" of what happened because the truth wasn't what they thought you would want to hear. You'll never know the truth though. Why wouldn't she just come home and change…
/r/askMRP12/07/17 09:58 PM
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Soooo, of all these red flags I mentioned which one do you think is the most red?
/r/askMRP12/07/17 09:21 PM
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Agreed. It's always good to write some of this stuff out. It helps my shortcomings come to the surface.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 03:01 AM
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Well, I think you have a solid approach from what I can see. Personally, I would have bailed long ago in your situation especially without kids. Not that divorce should be taken lightly. Make yourself awesome. Honestly, there is nothing at home for you. Double up at the gym. Morning and evenings. Get you BF% down even more, get sexy, and get confident with the ability to pull other girls in whether you choose to or not. She can choose to stick with the new improved you or you will be balls deep …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/17 06:49 PM
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How long has the sex been dead? I see you have only been married for about a year, but together much longer. What is the reason for the dead bedroom? The baby issue, just your overall attraction, or something else? One year seems pretty fast to go from attractive enough to marry to I don't want to have sex with you anymore. Even for a drunk captain beta.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/17 06:09 PM
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Women are stupid about babies and logic is not really their thing. In my situation, we have four kids right now. I came to MRP basically over a similar issue, but in that she wants baby number five. I handled it crappy as I was doing everything wrong and as a beta. /u/JDRoedell is absolutely right. No sex and wanting a kid is not compatible. This is her trying to leverage you into this for who knows how many reasons. I am not against kids, but I would make damn sure that you have corrected this …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/17 05:29 PM
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Went on vacation with the kids last week. I had a really good time with them. The wife has been a little sulky as of late. I didn't let that slow me down and had an awesome time. I would be lying if her attitude didn't piss me off a little. I realize that I am still in her frame a little too much if this is still happening. Fortunately, I have avoided acting butt hurt for a few months now. So, I guess that is a positive. Going to change up my gym routine. I have an idea of what I want to do, but…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/17 04:42 PM
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Deadbedroom, wife checked out, a dude keeps telling her I love you, and she keeps responding in kind. What do think was happening in the deadbedroom period? They still say I love you? That's not how friends speak. Hey your looking hot. The proximity has made things difficult to keep this at a physical affair. This was never just emotional. She cheated on you. Her not trusting you? How about you not trusting her?
/r/askMRP11/07/17 05:53 AM
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She also released a new edition of "First Kill All the Marriage Counselors" with a more palatable title for giving to wives. Not sure I am actively pushing this on my wife, but under the right circumstances I might bring it up. https://www.amazon.com/Empowered-Wife-Surprising-Attracting-Husband%C2%92s/dp/1944648380
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/17 06:51 PM
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Out of town this last week and didn't have a chance to post. Going to keep the formatting simple as this is probably admittedly a half assed post anyways. This last week feels like I am right back where I started. Wife is all emotional again about me shutting down child number five. This feels like my biggest hurdle with MRP. Starting to question whether she will ever get past this. I haven't even tried initiating with her for well over a week. She has been pretty cold and I haven't even wanted …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/17 10:48 PM
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ease into it slower? Yes. Not everything is a shit test. Sometimes your wife needs help. There is a difference between can you help me get this food prepped we are under a time crunch and we are both sitting on the couch can you fetch me some water peasant boy. I suggest reading more. Just start identifying shit tests, but don't try to pass them, yet. Once you are familiar then go for it. If it bothers you waiting then dive into the reading deeper and get thru the prerequisites faster. Edit: Als…
/r/askMRP04/07/17 08:48 PM
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Your wife's life has revolved around pumping out your kids and she is getting bored being the adult and main parent A baby will spice things up between you This is a possibility, but what has been brought to my attention previously by others is what if I am just a sperm donor to her and a paycheck to her mommy feelz? In other words, there is or never was attraction much attraction. Maybe it's denial, but I don't believe so. However, I have my eyes wide open now. If that's the case, then that fee…
/r/askMRP04/07/17 12:09 AM
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I believe that there is some truth to this. I do think she has been so mommy focused for so long that when she sees that road coming to an end she is panicking and trying to push it further down the road. Only way to do that is reset the clock with a newborn. I do think she is legit depressed right now, but I think it is a storm of emotions more than anything permanent or clinical. I have known her for quite some time and I don't think there is anything medically or clinically wrong with her. Ju…
/r/askMRP03/07/17 08:47 PM
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I kind of agree that the sulking is sort of a hail mary on her part. The "can't you see what you are doing to me?" type of approach to maybe get me to change my mind. I haven't caved even one bit to it. But yet, I do know she needs some comfort. I guess I am probably on the right track unless I get some different comments from others. I just don't want to apply comfort and have her think the hail mary is having any affect.
/r/askMRP03/07/17 05:51 PM
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Does your wife have anything else going on that she does besides raising the kids? Not really, which is part of the problem. She has mentioned that all she ever really wanted to do was to be a mom. Which I have known all along. She mentioned this outright about a week or two ago. I pretty much replied that I knew that, that she will always be mom, that her self worth is not dictated on her being a mom, and that at some point in her life she would need to figure out what she wanted to do post lit…
/r/askMRP03/07/17 05:47 PM
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Some of us, when we figure out how we have been manipulated and controlled etc. and permitted all of this garbage to happen to ourselves, start to get pissed off. Angry at ourselves. Angry at our wives. We learn strategies in the books on the sidebar and have likely been dealing with problems in the marriage for quite some time. There is a tendency to want to fix everything all at once. This comes off abrupt and angry by those around us (mostly our wives). So, Rambo in the movie gets kind of tha…
/r/askMRP30/06/17 10:10 PM
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RP theory delves heavily into attraction very much in a biological level. I am no biologist, but when a woman is pregnant or nursing her hormones are in a completely different state than they normally are. Physically, her body is not trying to create more babies. As a protective measure to keep her from being overwhelmed with offspring, mother nature literally stops her cycle (in most cases when nursing) making it impossible to procreate. When she ceases, it signals her body that the child is su…
/r/askMRP30/06/17 09:03 PM
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Is she breastfeeding?
/r/askMRP30/06/17 05:26 PM
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It is the main idea of the post. You just want it to be about the celebrity crush and not about you. You are a drunk high captain. You can't lead in such a state. You suck and she knows it. Hence her behavior. But, do you know that you suck yet?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/17 03:28 PM
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I did the same thing with calendaring a few months ago after starting MRP. I have had good success with just using our smartphones. There are plenty of apps that can do this for you, but we just use iCloud calendar to keep a family calendar and it is always in sync with both of us. In the past, I would use statements like "Well, I've got to check with the boss before I commit to anything" when talking to other people about setting something up. I used to think that I was being cute and funny to …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 06:16 PM
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I sort of knew I was wasting my time commenting to you anyways. Had some time to kill. I'm glad to see you actually do know the definition of rape. Now, reread this entire post from the beginning. Was force ever mentioned? Not until you brought up "rape". Since I now know you do know the definition please use it appropriately when you write your sentences. We're not talking about rape. I have better things to do now so this will be it for me here.
/r/askMRP28/06/17 02:13 PM
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Also, while we're at it. Make sure you understand the words "hate" and "bigot" mean too. I can tell by your use of the word rape you throw those ones around all the time too.
/r/askMRP28/06/17 02:05 PM
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Please understand what the word "rape" means before you use it again. Last night, I was legit tired. Wife actually started to initiate which only happens this time of the month. I didn't really want sex and could have easily slept instead, but she did. So, we had sex anyways because I like to meet her needs as I hope she would mine as well. Was I raped? I didn't want sex. You have an awfully selfish view of relationships. No wonder your husband came looking for help.
/r/askMRP28/06/17 02:00 PM
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I've given you some lengthy responses already and this is probably longer than it should be. You have barely been on MRP and have already asked a lot of questions. I will be kinder than most of the other people here, but this is the appropriate answer. Sidebar Read through the material. When you have legitimate questions we can help, but there are no shortcuts. If you try acting red pill without understanding what it is you will screw it up. So don't. Read. Understand. Internalize Don't worry if…
/r/askMRP28/06/17 04:51 AM
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You sure she's spending all that time at work?
/r/askMRP27/06/17 08:56 PM
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You sound smart and you appear to have connected the dots quite well. I think you just don't like the picture it gave you when you finished tracing them. So, you wrote to Reddit asking us to convince you otherwise.
/r/askMRP27/06/17 08:55 PM
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I feel like I have read almost everything, but I haven't read that yet. So much still to learn and still so many sources of knowledge. I will definitely look into that as I start adding new moves.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/17 07:30 PM
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I am starting at the ground floor in creating my own slut. However, it has been so eye opening how important it is to push through and always be escalating. Always. Whether this be escalating while gaming your wife to escalating and introducing new things in the bedroom. She has likely been begging for this indirectly for years, but as you point out has always maintained plausible deniability and anti-slut defense. She won't go there, so that is why I need to take her there. Wife just put oral o…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/17 07:08 PM
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Here is the link I'm referring to. 12 Steps of Dread Game - Personally, I wouldn't worry too much about this yet. Plus, you may not even need to go here outside your marriage. A little may go a long way. At least, that has been my case thus far. Prior to MRP, I was, in my mind, very noble. I would rarely talk to someone of the opposite sex even at church about anything other than logistics. I did this out of respect to my wife and avoid any hints that I was somehow unfaithful. I would never setu…
/r/askMRP27/06/17 06:24 PM
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35 yrs, 6’0”, 180 lbs, 14%, Married 13 yrs Physical Lifting progress has been steady. Body has seen great improvements since doing 5x5. I don’t think I look particularly bigger, but leaner and my core is stronger. Previously, I was doing just various dumbbell workouts and working smaller muscle groups. Though I would go to failure I just wasn’t sweating and feeling like I wasn’t getting a complete workout. Compound movements such as squats and deadlift have been wonderful. My body has responded …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/17 06:07 PM
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My temptation will be to change everything overnight, implementing every new tactic the very next day after reading about it. At least you recognize it and can be aware of it. I had my eyes opened pretty early on with this. I was reading MMSLP and started "testing out" some of the ideas. They all got thrown right back in my face. Many of the things you see in those books do not work until you have at least started to become more attractive. You can change somewhat quickly. It takes her a while t…
/r/askMRP27/06/17 04:27 PM
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You didn't lose points by doing this, but a kiss and smile is pretty meh in the fun category. Yes, you didn't do it all butthurt, but you didn't really accomplish anything. I mean be happy. Have fun. Do things alone. Do things with her. Tease her. Just lighten up. Wake up tomorrow and don't sulk. Talk to her normally. Don't be a drag. Show her you are going to have a good day regardless of her mood. Don't rub it in her face or go out of your way to show her how fun you are. Just be natural and f…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 06:50 PM
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When your wife is sulking do you want to fuck her? When she is pouty and all mad at you do you want to be around her? Hell no! She feels the same way when you do it. Come home happy. Talk to her like nothing is wrong. Have fun. Be fun. If this makes her more pissed, don't get rattled and still have a good night doing other things. This is what MRP is about. Just as she is unattractive doing those things so are you when you do them. Don't be unattractive no matter what she does. She does not cont…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 04:22 PM
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Devout Christian here myself. I think it is probably split 50/50 here on who is Christian and who is not. So far, I have found nothing in here that is incompatible with Christian views. If anything, it helps explain a lot of verses, men's roles, and relational dynamics that simply aren't taught anymore. The last few steps of Dread are about the only thing that approaches a Christian red line in my opinion. But honestly, if things aren't improving by that point, that is where you will need to be …
/r/askMRP26/06/17 03:53 PM
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I'm scared of getting caught You do you... But, you may need to make sure you are okay with making that jump. If you start looking at those apps, even if you aren't looking for something sexual, you might as well be cheating. It won't be viewed any other way by her. This is going nuclear on your relationship. Seems abrupt for your first post don't you think? If you are just after pussy go for it. However, to me this sounds like you are trying to bypass/shortcut what MRP is all about. Or, you sti…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/17 09:32 PM
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This right here is primarily what brought me to MRP. I went a year waffling back and forth on this with my wife. She began to resent me, withheld affection, stopped saying "I love you", etc. because she wanted more kids and I didn't. But, I was too afraid to crush her because I was a nice guy. Also, I was so nice that it took me a while to even figure out what I wanted. To be 100% honest, this may not be a shit test in a traditional RP sense. Meaning she isn't trying to find out whether you are …
/r/askMRP23/06/17 06:17 PM
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Correct me if I'm wrong, but I am understanding your question of how to spot and identify your own weaknesses? If so, I would say that your wife is a reflection of your leadership (or lack of it). There is usually a lot of talk on here about not entering a woman's frame and/or being all consumed with her. This is a fine line because you can easily start focusing on fixing her and not you. You are the only one you can fix. So, just make sure you are aware of the difference here. However, when tal…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/17 07:45 PM
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And our second rule as well... Seems kind of important...
/r/askMRP20/06/17 09:19 PM
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Drunk captain is a figurative term here, but there is a reason why it is used. It can be applied quite literally in many cases. I personally don't drink and there are probably many on here that do and can handle it just fine. I've personally managed to screw up while being sober for the last 13 years. You have identified it as a problem and something you needed to fix. Based off of what you stated, 40 days needs to turn into forever in my opinion. The last thing you want to do is make a year's w…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/17 06:52 PM
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35 yrs old, 6'0" 179lbs, 14%, 4 kids, Married 13 yrs The Good Continuing to see strength gains in lifting. Only been on 5x5 for about 2 months. Looks like I am approaching my max on squats as it has been difficult getting up the last five. Should see failure soon. Also, I am questioning whether 5x5 is exactly for me. I have seen huge increases in strength, but nothing thus far in size. At least nothing visually noticeable. If anything I have trimmed some belly fat with it. I am about 14% body fa…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/17 02:10 PM
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I would caution on masturbating both publicly and privately. You need that drive and anger to fix your life. Secondly, the AMOG doesn't masturbate. The beta chimpanzees in the corner are the ones wanking it. It's not attractive or Alpha. Other than that keep at it. I would caution on setting the most hardest of boundaries until you have established frame and physical attractiveness. You need to be the prize before you can get into hardcore boundaries and changes. Start hitting singles and double…
/r/askMRP19/06/17 09:09 PM
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Honestly, I think she is/was manipulating you with tears. She wants you to feel bad for not inviting her. Next time, just be honest. "Family drama. It wasn't a good time." If that's how you feel just make it known. I didn't see anything above that should really hurt her feelings. If she gets her feelings hurt or is sad because she isn't spending time with you that is her problem. It sounds harsh, but trust me, she is happier in the long run this way. It shows you have conviction and a backbone t…
/r/askMRP19/06/17 08:31 PM
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Look inward and ask yourself, did you want her to be there before or after the tears started? Meaning, did you really want her there with your family? Or, do you now feel like you should have had her there with you because she is sad now? If you preferred to just be there without her for whatever reason and now you changed your mind because she is sad this is manipulation. Conversely, if you kept meaning to invite her and wanted her to be there and you didn't do it. Then, yes, you fucked up beca…
/r/askMRP19/06/17 06:54 PM
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You know what I have noticed. I don't think I was ever crazy Alpha. I must have had a little in me in order to get married. My wife cried a lot during our first year of marriage. It really got to me. So, I started changing myself and entering her frame. She stopped crying as much since there was nothing left to manipulate. She had me trained like a good little lap dog. Problem is my relationship and sex sucked. Wife has cried more in the last 4 months than she has in the past 5-7 years combined.…
/r/askMRP19/06/17 06:32 PM
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So, maybe it can be like the training wheels for us new guys to keep our balance at the beginning? Any longer than that it will become more of a crutch and just restrict your movement. In other words, frame should be able to handle any emotional shit storm that gets thrown at it regardless of cycle. This seems to make sense. Getting too deep into her emotions/cycle seems to be shifting too much power to her.
/r/askMRP19/06/17 05:42 PM
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I can definitely relate to a hold your ground approach. I feel like I just did this last weekend. I felt like I handled it well, but it is kind of frustrating when you feel you have to stop making forward progress, dig in, weather the storm, before you start getting the ball rolling again. I agree there should be another way, but maybe this is how the process starts when we are trying to get things going for us new guys. Plus, it might be all I am capable of at the moment. Hopefully, in time I w…
/r/askMRP19/06/17 05:34 PM
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I think this is definitely where we should end up in our MRP journey. How were you prior to finding MRP? We all arrive for different reasons. I will say most are here because of lack of sex or a failing relationship. For others, sex was never an issue and there were other reasons they found their way here. Just curious to see if this was something you had established in your relationship early on or just had it develop as part of the MRP process?
/r/askMRP19/06/17 05:31 PM
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I think /u/anythinginc nailed it. It sounds like you are damn near the finish line. What you are missing is a little of the IDGAF attitude. I dont verbally engauge it becomes a tit for tat. I'm not saying go out and stir up shit just for the hell of it, but you can't walk on eggshells all the time. This is you living in her frame and it makes you weak. Your passive dread has not been any dread at all. Maybe she does realize you have options, but she thinks you are too pussy to do anything about.…
/r/askMRP16/06/17 08:47 PM
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Remember that women don't focus too much on the physical. It is important, but there are plenty of attractive betas not getting any. Not sure where I read it in the sidebar, but an example was given of when you meet a girl. She may be chubby and not physically sexy. But, damn! The way she talks to you, makes eye contact, smiles, moves, flirts, and carries herself you just know she would be amazing between the sheets. She just drips sex appeal and confidence. That is more of the way women view se…
/r/askMRP16/06/17 05:53 PM
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Are you attractive yet after 2+ weeks? Doubtful... I sort of had a different issue that brought me to MRP. I was physically attractive and fit, but I was a beta pussy. I read MMSLP in the beginning and started thinking I need to start flirting with my wife. She was "sick" (yeah right) for like a month and we hadn't even kissed. I texted (this is stupid by the way, don't text) after she was feeling better. "Hey, are we gonna kiss tonight?". Her reply was vague and non-commital. Flirtingly, I repl…
/r/askMRP16/06/17 05:35 PM
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Obviously, you haven't been thru the sidebar yet. If you want a real answer, your question should read something like: Hey guys, I was reading (insert book from the sidebar) about comfort tests and I had a question about "x"? Read the whole damn sidebar before you do anything stupid. You need to understand the entire RP concept and have the necessary tools to do this stuff correctly. Otherwise, you either go Rambo on your wife/LTR or you end up like the dude on Rambo that can't shoot worth shit …
/r/askMRP16/06/17 04:15 PM
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Just be playful and not too condescending. Rambo is stepping things up too soon. She needs time to catch up. For example, I never really slapped my wife's ass much. Been doing it about 2 months now. She now will slap back, playfully kick, etc. It took some time to do this slowly, but it is fun.
/r/askMRP16/06/17 04:06 AM
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I'm not saying there isn't value in RPW, but that seems too close to talking about fight club. Pretty easy for her to connect the dots to TRP and MRP and then your fucked. We saw what happens when a wife realizes her husband is on MRP a day or two ago. It wasn't pretty. So, just make sure you tell her you are the "alpha male" when you hand RPW over to her. Alternatively, as captain, reading Doyles' books yourself and then trying to lead your wife into those principles could have value. For examp…
/r/askMRP16/06/17 01:52 AM
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This has also been a big revelation to me. I am admittedly still processing this particular aspect of TRP. As "equals" in my prior BP fantasy world, I would expect her to behave and act very similarly to me. Responsible and rational etc. Then, I kept reading on MRP about thinking of her as the "most responsible teenager in the house". At first I thought, "Damn! What a dickheaded way to think about your wife!" I started reading various anecdotes from others on here about the subject. Then, I star…
/r/askMRP15/06/17 11:32 PM
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I'm sure you've heard the phrase man up to your mistakes? If you are wrong about something, acknowledge it and move on. That is what men do and MRP advocates you act like a man. It doesn't mean lose frame, breakdown, submit, and be punished by whoever is pointing out the fault because you are such a bad boy for doing whatever. It is looking at the issue brought up and saying, "Yup, I screwed that one up", learning from it, and then moving on with life. You own it. You know?... just like your shi…
/r/askMRP15/06/17 09:30 PM
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There are kids starving in India and men with thier shit together and dry dicks. Ha ha!!! Yeah!!! Like me!!! I'm pretty sure there should be a PSA about this.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/17 03:02 AM
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Wasn't he the granny panties guy? No way to ever know for sure now, but I bet you're right it was him. He was posting only a few days ago, now everything is suddenly deleted, and about the same time his wife is posting about him on Reddit.
/r/askMRP13/06/17 06:27 PM
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if you think finding a secret BJ door is the way to go, by all means. I liked this line and it made me chuckle. I am not thinking I am going to find some magic secret recipe and do anything and everything around getting a blow job without directly going after a blow job. Yes, that would be a covert contract and would only end badly. You are right. If I want a blow job I just need to make it known and make it happen. I think acta non verba would be best here as well. So, if she is kissing my ches…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 04:31 PM
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Since we are having very regular sex since getting the MRP ball moving I feel I can take my time on this. It think it would be disingenuous to be a suppressed schlub sexually for 13 years and then all of the sudden start demanding blow jobs from her when it was never in the repertoire before. I need to give her the opportunity to catch up before I start pushing overtly into this. Don't want to go bedroom Rambo. Seems like pushing too soon in an area where she is vulnerable could probably do more…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 03:55 PM
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The Good 6’0” 180lbs ~14%. Too skinny for my liking, but gaining 30lbs in 2 ½ years isn’t too bad. Would love to shake off the 14% BF, but I think right now bulking has been and still will be my primary goal. Stomach is actually reasonably flat which just gives me a “fit or in shape” look. Not the look of a bodybuilder or someone you would look at and say that dude lifts weights. There is just zero definition at 14%. Though I have been lifting prior to MRP this is my first time through 5x5. I am…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 02:14 PM
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But instead of trying to train lead her i'm taking the approach of doing it myself. I fixed it for you. Leading is hard, uncomfortable, but very masculine. Get working on it.
/r/askMRP11/06/17 07:09 PM
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You need to provide some more context. How long have you been at this? Are you lifting and raising your own attraction? Are you fun and flirty? As captain, yes, ultimately you are in charge of the ship. However, that doesn't mean micromanaging. Only do that when necessary. Delegation, training, and oversight are also your friends. It's hard to know where you fall in this. MRP is a long process for most and not a quick fix. I don't know if you have gone Rambo or not, but the transition should be …
/r/askMRP11/06/17 05:54 PM
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Killing your ego and losing the butthurt is one of the hardest parts of MRP. Your ego says she can't treat me like that and get away with it!!! Now there is still a certain level of respect we need to maintain as men, but we also need to just have a cool calm confidence where we can ignore such attacks on our frame because WDGAF and know our value. That's what is sexy to a woman. Just be awesome. Easy right?
/r/askMRP08/06/17 04:24 PM
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If she dresses like that, then I'll do this. If she ignores me, then I'll do such an such. If she does "x", then I'll do "y". Who sounds in control here? You are in her frame. Go because you want to have fun. She needs to enter your frame, yes. And yes, you don't want to reward bad behavior. But, I think that rule doesn't apply or carry as much weight when you are acting shitty as well. If you are being awesome and she's acting shitty. That's when you don't tolerate it. That's also when you have…
/r/askMRP08/06/17 04:13 PM
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She's just flirting and messing with you. That's a good thing. I am a techie as well and when I talk geek my wife would do similar. Tech is not her thing. I don't see this as disrespect. You got butthurt over 8 gigs because you wanted to flex your techie muscles. So, if my wife started talking about this new mascara (pick any topic) and why it can handle 8 eyelashes at once to my sister with me standing there I would say "Oooo, 8 lashes." AA and move on with your explanation. "Yes, that's 8 fuck…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/17 03:35 PM
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Comfort. You realize that chicks cheat on Chad too? The dynamics in this scenario work a little differently than what we typically see here in MRP. The girl shuts down and checks out because she feels she can't ever satisfy Chad. She finds a beta that understands and listens to her and makes them feel all warm and fuzzy. If the beta plays his cards right he ends up with his dick inside her before all is said and done. If he is not a complete man it will never work long term. Be her oak. You've g…
/r/askMRP08/06/17 03:19 PM
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Yes. Most of us are married and discovered MRP once we realized our relationships sucked. Then we opened our eyes and realized it's our fault. Out of respect to our wives and the fact that we screwed everything up we are working on repairing ourselves and the relationship. Hence, many of us are married. If I could start all over with a clean slate I would start with proper frame and would avoid the BP pitfalls of a LTR or marriage. I could avoid the need to undo years of faggotry. There is a lot…
/r/askMRP08/06/17 03:17 AM
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So, you came to MRP because she doesn't put dishes away? Something tells me you need to be focusing on the bigger issues. You are getting into the tiny details of your relationship. You have bigger fish to fry in my opinion. Personally, I know it bothers you right now, but it is a stupid argument and hard to defend as others have pointed out. I suggest you start making strides in other areas and stop worrying about the damn dishes. If you can manage to establish frame in other areas, it is possi…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 04:33 PM
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Stop turning this into a game of tit for tat. I was in a similar situation like you with the whole "I love you" and texting thing and who was going to say it or text first. You really need to start the IDGAF attitude with outcome independence. At 7 months of a dead bedroom I can't imagine how you have held this together so long. Don't go all Rambo, but don't go all Bambi either. I get that you have a past with cheating that I didn't have, but it won't get better if you are both digging trenches …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 04:15 PM
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This. Women always want to shift responsibility and the guilt of cheating. By you giving her permission to sleep over she can now say "it just happened" and that it's your fault because you weren't man enough to not let me go and put me in that situation. Honestly, I think I would have a problem with this whole situation even if it wasn't an overnight deal. But, that's just me. Men and women aren't ever "just" friends. There is always one of them that wants to fuck the other. Sometimes it's the …
/r/askMRP07/06/17 02:00 PM
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Sometimes we get so determined to not get walked over anymore that we get into this take no prisoners mode where we start blowing shit up and confronting EVERYTHING. She knows who you are and who you have been. If you make the turnaround too quickly it doesn't come off as genuine. One month for each level of DREAD. It makes the transition change from her thinking "He's acting like a total dick all of the sudden!" to instead "Hmmm... there's something different about him. He's a little edgy now a…
/r/askMRP06/06/17 09:53 PM
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STFU is good advice. Treat this time as training or a boot camp of sorts. You are now fully aware of a war that threatens everything about you and you are itching to get into the battle and claim victory. Problem is that without proper fitness and training you will likely get shot which will either kill you, set you back unnecessarily, or nuke an otherwise salvageable relationship with your own stupidity. Think of it this way. You were likely a beta bitch for years prior to discovering MRP like …
/r/askMRP06/06/17 08:55 PM
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Hopefully, it didn't come off with such a defeatist attitude on my part. I mention it because she will likely poke at my resolve on occasion to see if I'm weak. That's just a shit test and there really isn't any way to get women to stop them. I just know this will be a recurring one. Knowing this beforehand gives helps me not get caught off guard and to address it. The tests will likely get less frequent over time, but I can see us being grandparents someday and have her go off about how we shou…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 01:56 PM
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I have some thoughts on RP theory and some observations from this last week. I have taken some flak on occasion for posting “about my wife”. I see how this can be taken the wrong way by others here and I realize this is a fine line where you find yourself in her frame and not yours. So, when I write I want to point out that when I am dissecting her behavior I believe it is like looking into a mirror. In other words, if she is acting shitty it is because I have either allowed it or deserve it. Th…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 01:01 PM
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I guess that is still what I am trying to feel out with what pre-MRP me used to do and what fits into the MRP way of thinking and the discoveries that I've made. There appears to be a fine line here and I do think I get the point ReddJive is trying to make. If I am going at this with the soul purpose of fixing her, making her happy, her, her, her, her, etc. then it is probably not going to work out so well. In other words, doing everything in her frame as the dutiful servant boy. However, I am s…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/17 03:26 PM
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I do need to work on the emotional tampon thing. I screwed this up pre-MRP years ago stating that I wanted to know all of her thoughts and emotions. In my opinion, I feel that I need to be at the top of her list for important decisions/problems etc. not necessarily by order of who she goes to, but by importance. But, just because I am number one should not make me the one and only outlet that she has. Some girlfriends would do wonders in my opinion for this. There are several she could use, but …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 09:49 PM
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Body 32, 6'0" 176, 14% BF. I think I actually lost weight this last week which is not my goal. I was chaperoning my oldest daughter for a trip she had. We were eating cafeteria style. I still think I ate pretty well and clean based on the circumstances, but I think I get more calories when I am at home. My post-workout shake is 1000 clean calories alone. I was able to find a gym nearby and completed my workout Wed and Fri which I felt pretty good about. Usually, I don't workout when I am traveli…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 04:19 PM
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Yeah, I just about screwed this one up. Good thing he was the first to comment and with the right answer. Maybe a lesson in how texts can be misread. When she said And don't tell me I'm over reacting. It comes off a little bitchy. Others here were able to see the context of the situation as a genuine cry for help. Had a really good talk with her where I felt like I handled things well. It also confirmed that this was a comfort test and she needed an oak. Hindsight being 20/20, I probably should …
/r/askMRP27/05/17 08:29 PM
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Great advice. We already had our phone conversation. Fortunately, it went pretty much as you recommended and it ended really well with her upbeat and positive. We new guys have tendency to go autistic. I'd like to think that I don't act like some of the others on here and then get reminded that I'm not there yet. We sometimes forget the beta comfort because we are trying so hard to up the alpha. Good reminder that both are necessary. At least I managed to get some things right whereas before I w…
/r/askMRP27/05/17 05:22 PM
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Good call. I already talked to her parents who are maybe 10 minutes away. She didn't want to get them sick which is why she didn't ask. Their my in laws so I don't care if they get sick, ha ha. Just kidding. They are actually pretty cool 90% of the time.
/r/askMRP27/05/17 04:56 PM
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I gave her a call, but reached her voicemail. When she is at home she rarely has her phone on her. I still plan on staying here until tomorrow as planned unless she can convince me otherwise. Their awards ceremony is tonight and she has been working on this for months. But, you are right I do need to talk to her and provide comfort.
/r/askMRP27/05/17 03:55 PM
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So, I'm new to RP You haven't done enough to make yourself more attractive. You were brought to RP for a reason. It just takes time to build up your attraction. When you touch her this is who she thinks is touching her. Hence, the piece of meat comment. If you were her TV or movie crush I guarantee she would let him do all kinds of things to her. If you're thinking she should fuck me because I'm committed, nice, treat her well, etc. it will typically not work. You should be thinking she should f…
/r/askMRP27/05/17 11:34 AM
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Agree. Failing to own up to a failure is well, failure and bad leadership. However, if she is being a cunt that needs to stop regardless of whether you failed cleaning the counters or not. It is a sure sign she lacks respect. But, your putting a stop to it holds a lot more weight with her if you are owning your shit. You should already have some respect built up. Just as attraction can't be negotiated neither can respect be demanded. These are earned. Both approaches are necessary assuming it wa…
/r/askMRP26/05/17 12:05 PM
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What brought you to MRP was likely a lack of affection/intimacy. This was something that probably took months to years to settle into. At this point you are not attractive to her. All of the sudden acting all dominant does make you creepy. Don't worry, that's where I started too. Put in the work and lift like your life depends on it because it does. Also, don't be afraid to internalize some of this stuff a little bit more before jumping into it. Make sure you know the playbook before you try to …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/17 02:04 AM
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There is a really good book called Extreme Ownership that I have read after it was mentioned here. It talks about how there are no bad teams, only bad leaders. The book gives some examples of this and why it is true. Hard to hear that said to you or to read it and have it hit close to home. You need to reevaluate your leadership, make changes, and then move forward.
/r/askMRP24/05/17 06:11 PM
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This is my first OYS post. I have only one other previous post questioning whether I had turned into Rambo. I officially swallowed at the end of February. The sidebar material couldn’t have spelled out any better what was happening to me. NMMNG was a big eye opener to covert contracts etc. I have been plowing through the sidebar as well as reading some other really awesome books that I have seen mentioned here. Extreme Ownership was one. Even though it is written to apply to business it can easi…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 03:11 PM
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Of course it is going to be hard. Life's hard and then you die. What do you want us to say? MRP is red pill on "hard mode". If it's normal that it's an uphill struggle every step of the way, I can accept that. Yes, it will be. You will just be better equipped and stronger to continue uphill with these strategies with hopefully someone awesome by your side to share the journey with.
/r/askMRP19/05/17 11:41 PM
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Find your passion. You have no direction. You can't be enthusiastic about things you don't want to do. So, what do you want? You need to take a hard look at your MAP and make some changes. My excuse is kids, 1 here and 1 coming right up Is your wife pregnant? That is like quantum physics in MRP. All the normal physics equations breakdown during pregnancy/postpartum and doesn't work. RP theory doesn't have an answer for pregnant women yet. Just keep that thought in the back of your mind as a poss…
/r/askMRP19/05/17 08:55 PM
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She would have sex in a heartbeat with some ripped guy You likely will never be a celebrity, but why can't you be the ripped guy? That is achievable by hard work and dedication. Date your wife. This is part of gaming her. She wants to ride a "safe" roller coaster of emotions. She just wants to feel.
/r/askMRP19/05/17 03:35 PM
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Don't worry about 3 pounds. You probably just needed to piss and take a big shit. There's your 3 pounds. Stick with it and watch it over the course of weeks and months for trends. The process is excruciatingly slow, but worth it. There is a reason why not everyone is ripped. It's hard and requires a ton of dedication.
/r/askMRP15/05/17 06:14 PM
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First off, sorry for your loss of your child. That's going to be tough on anybody. Sounds like you have made it past the worst of it though. My advice is to always learn from your past. In MRP we learn that she is attracted to Chad and that's who she wants to fuck. But, someone who is all Chad all the time is also a total dick. She will get tired of putting up even with Chad over time and will leave him. Hence the reason they seek beta comfort. The ideal is somewhere in the middle. You need to b…
/r/askMRP09/05/17 05:26 PM
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You sound lost still. You may just need to chill and think about everything that you have read some more. It sounds like your eyes have been opened, but your still too groggy and you still have all of that junk in your eyes after waking up and can't see clearly yet. Not wise to start trying to knock down targets if you can't see what your shooting at. Keep lifting since you need that regardless of anything else you will need to do in the future. It is as foundational as anything else you will fi…
/r/askMRP08/05/17 03:52 PM
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/r/askMRP08/05/17 03:31 PM
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When I first started MRP my wife would give of body language to avoid even a hug. This doesn't happen anymore now that I am further down the road, but she might still do it if she is purposely trying to act cold to me. If I walk in and she is seething, at the very least she might just acknowledge me and lean in with a shoulder for a half-assed hug. Here's what has worked for me while she is cooking or busy when I come in. Take the spoon out of her hand gently, but forcefully and set it down. Put…
/r/askMRP03/05/17 05:55 PM
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I am certainly no expert in this, so take my comments for what they are worth. I had no intention of commenting for quite some time, but I have some thoughts based on some mistakes that I have made in my early journey that may be helpful. I swallowed only about 3 months ago. It wasn't until after my wife had been sick for about 3 weeks with some nasty sore throat/cough that everything finally hit me and it all made sense. We didn't kiss for those 3 weeks because I didn't want to get sick. When s…
/r/askMRP24/04/17 04:10 PM
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I will have to think about this. It has crossed my mind earlier, but I read too many posts about guys telling their girl about the red pill, all the things they were going to be doing, and how awesome it was going to be. It seems like it really sabotages the game plan if she thinks you are following a script and it is not real change. Which in all honesty RP does advocate real change, leadership, manning up, owning your shit, or whatever you want to call it. I do think there can be some value if…
/r/askMRP05/04/17 05:15 PM
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Good to know where I stand and how far I have to go. Patience young grasshopper I suppose.
/r/askMRP05/04/17 05:01 PM
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I really do think the gym is for me and not her. The dumbbell routine I have been using has brought me to a certain point, but it really can't take me any further. I need a bench, barbell, and a squat rack to take things where I want to go and to keep bulking up. I do see your point about being careful about doing things within her frame. If I do things with the intent of how it will affect her then you are right I am in her frame. Probably will be for a little while until I get my skis pointed …
/r/askMRP05/04/17 04:42 PM
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She actually looks really good. 4 kids and she weighs about 115lbs. Not really in shape though with nothing really tight and firm. I'm still down with it though. She could use a good routine and she would probably feel a whole lot better about herself getting in shape. She mentioned joining the same gym in the summer a while ago to workout and get the kids out of her hair. So, I think she will hop on board with me. I will probably still workout at 5AM though which she definitely won't do. She ha…
/r/askMRP05/04/17 04:34 PM
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Nailed it. And yes, for the record, I am LDS. I also don't think RP is out of line with Christian and Mormon doctrine. Only that some of those principles need to be approached and looked at from a different perspective and lens to have them make sense. It can be taken too far though in my opinion as TRP talks about spinning plates etc., but everyone will have different limits and boundaries in what they want out of it. Like I have heard repeated a number of times that RP is amoral. It is more of…
/r/askMRP05/04/17 04:26 PM
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I agree that AWALT, but she has a pretty long road to get there with where she is right now. I have plenty of wiggle room before she would check out of the marriage and branch swing. In all honesty, I could probably turn into the biggest prick of a husband and she would just put up with it and be miserable. Maybe up until when the kids leave the house. Obviously, all of this up unto a certain point. We all have limits. Also, my goal is not to be a prick. I think TRP doesn't really care whether y…
/r/askMRP05/04/17 04:04 PM
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I already know the going to the gym thing will throw her off big time. Even when I started lifting at home a couple of years ago it did. I have always been skinny and the first day I started lifting and eating right I tipped that scales at a pathetic 150lbs even. I am 6'0" tall. I know weight 175lbs, but I have stalled recently. I only use a bench and dumbbells that top out at 70lbs. I have only in the last month or so dropped my reps down and started lifting heavier. Previously, I was do sets o…
/r/askMRP05/04/17 03:51 PM
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I know you are not religious and I totally respect that. For me, however, who is I have learned a lot recently. In the religious sense, God has some pretty black and white commandments and some "thou shalts and thou shalt nots", but overall there are things where he really just wants us to decide for ourselves and roll with it. Though I will say that having more kids is a big decision, God will likely not intervene unless something is really out of whack. I got dressed today and didn't ask God w…
/r/askMRP05/04/17 03:31 PM
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Honestly, I don't think she is all that feminist or liberal for that matter. Typical christian conservative. I do think the equality in marriage thing is something she believes in. I probably did too up until a few months ago. The captain and first mate thing is probably the best analogy to describe how it works rather than co-captain. We will stall on decisions because I want to make sure she is on board with them. She is probably waiting for me to make up my damn mind. From now on, my approach…
/r/askMRP05/04/17 03:27 PM
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That's actually what I did last night. She was obviously keeping her distance. I think she wanted to say something or talk about it last night, but never brought it up. I never really offered her a chance. Went to bed and I rolled over pretty quickly. She just recently contracted a cold and it is shark week, so there really wasn't much need to push for anything. Plus, the next morning was a lifting day and I was getting up at 5AM, so I just went to sleep. I am pretty sure I heard her sniffling. …
/r/askMRP05/04/17 03:21 PM
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The sperm donor concept has crossed my mind more than once. I am hoping it has been more than that, but she has been her most freaky, if that's even possible, during baby making sex. I think that might hold true for everyone else too though as women are wired to crave that.
/r/askMRP05/04/17 05:17 AM
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I will be taking a look. Thanks!
/r/askMRP05/04/17 05:14 AM
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Religion wise it is frowned upon as a hard stop to procreation. However, it is also not complete no no. I am personally not against it at some point, but I have some personal concerns about getting it done to be honest. I've heard it is mostly safe, but I have heard some really weird stories and potential complications. Also, though I don't want #5, I think I am not ready to go that route yet. Currently, it is all condoms unless she only has a few days left on her cycle. This method has worked f…
/r/askMRP05/04/17 05:14 AM
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Honestly, I don't really get the talking back and disrespect surprisingly. I think that is more because she respects God and less about respect for me. She HATES any conflict. To her, disagreement = fighting no matter how civilly it is handled. In the face of any conflict she will shutdown, stop talking, and cry. Former beta me couldn't stand that she was sad and knew that until I could get her happy again that there wasn't going to be any sex. As a result, I have never really tried to rock the …
/r/askMRP05/04/17 02:57 AM
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Thank you for the overall vote of confidence even though I have a long painful path ahead. The volleyball thing I agree is probably pretty trivial and I could be on the wrong side of it. It kind of mushroomed into something bigger which is why it made the post. Not necessarily the hill I would choose to die on, but I certainly don't mind digging in for a battle on it. Yes, you nailed it, as a former youth leader myself the kids that we struggled to bring into the group were the ones that were al…
/r/askMRP05/04/17 02:30 AM
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I think you are 100% right that she isn't going to go anywhere. I suppose we all have our breaking points, but I am nowhere even close to that for her.
/r/askMRP05/04/17 12:15 AM
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This helps me feel that I am at least on the right path. I know a lot of the events above are pretty trivial, but they provide some insight into what I have going on. Not sure what her state of mind will be when I get home. She hasn't texted me at all today. I had a couple of logistical things to communicate and she did respond, but not the normal communications we have. I plan on coming home and maintaining good frame for the kids and being the fun dad tonight. With her, do I just let her stew …
/r/askMRP04/04/17 11:22 PM
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Good advice. She will go to be "cheering on" the other girls in their volleyball tournament. I would really like to see her participate even though she will be awful at volleyball. My daughter is a little introverted and sometimes you've got to fake it until you make it. At least that is what I am doing. However, I think you are probably right and I should step back and not push any farther than what I have. I have already pushed enough to make things uncomfortable. Have always wanted to learn g…
/r/askMRP04/04/17 11:05 PM
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