Hey TRP. Long time lurker first time poster yada yada yada

Here is my story. I will try and be brief.

Got interested in girls about 17. Lost my V-card to a slut and got in two LTRs with damaged daddy issue girls for 2 years. Long story short I was a typical beta provider/emotional tampon. Got cheated on and took her back, ended up going down in flames etc. When I turned 19 I took a year off from girls and just enjoyed being single trying to sort my life out.

At the start of this year I figured a year long hiatus was long enough and started getting ready to play the field again. I'm not very social so it took me about a month to get a social circle going again.

Fast forward to Wednesday. I'd added this girl on FB (a solid 7) who was in my lectures and spoke to her a little bit. We were both going to some social thing that day. Met another fucking hot girl (9/10) whilst there and got introduced to her too. Both were flirty with me at the pre-drink section of the night and I was torn between which to go for (7 was a nicer person but 9 was obviously hotter).

So I'd picked up a bit of TRP theory and figured to apply it lightly (I find a lot of TRP to be too strong) to the nightclub portion of the night to see if I could get lucky. I went to the club with the 9 and was confident and open. Light touching etc, pulling her in close to get her number, some pretty heavy flirting too. Ended up making out on the dance floor a few times. After a while she started telling me that she liked me but she "wasn't the type to throw herself at a guy even if she liked him". I didn't know what to make of it really. She let me finger her outside her panties whilst we were sat making out and all seemed well, but eventually she saw some old friends and said she would be back. She never came back.

Normally at this point I would have done the beta thing and gone looking for her, which I did for about 10 seconds until I remembered a bit of TRP that would turn out veryuseful - don't be a beta orbiter. So I decided "fuck it" and went off to find my other friends and see if the 7 was still around.

Found the 7 there and she tried to subtlety (wasn't subtle) make her way over to me. Instead of that beta awkward brief eye contact shit I stared her down and grabbed her by the hand and pulled her in to me and started dancing/sweet talking her in her ear. Instead of the usual "oh you so pretty" "I'm so glad I found you" bullshit I went the other way with "damn I thought I'd got rid of you" etc.

Inevitably we start making out and it's sweet. Tried to feel up her thighs and she said no. I said with a smirk "so you're not that kind of girl huh?" and she replied "NOOOOO" with a smile on her face. Normally I would have tried to play it off and retain control, but I decided to just say "fuck it" and next her, so I shuffled off for a drink to find some other friends.

After a while I end up near her again and she waves me down, shakes her head at me, waggles her finger and then sticks her middle finger up at me (she was laughing not really angry). I let her do this a few more times over the space of an hour until I bumped right into her near some chairs and convinced her to sit down with me. She said she was annoyed because when she said she wouldn't have sex with me I just left. I got from this that the dread game worked and she was disappointed I wasn't willing to throw myself at her feet. I said "I don't care. Don't want to waste my time". She giggled and sure enough we're dancing again and making out.

Time comes to leave and we get a taxi back together with her friends.

This is where the challenge to some of what I've seen on TRP comes in. She said to me, and to her friend, that "we're not having sex". I was uncomfortable giving up control to her but I wasn't sure what to say so I just jokingly went with it. Once we were walking home alone I said "so seeing as you don't want to have sex I'm going to go home". Figured at this point that me giving up control to her had nuked it, but she asked me to come over and "cuddle". (LOL).

So I went in with her and we got in bed. I said "I'm taking my jeans off in a non-sexual way", and when we spooned I said "you're getting my non-sexual awkward spooning boner".

As we were making out I snatched the control back and just gave her no choice. Started fingering her and rolled on top of her. Within minutes she whispered those two golden words "fuck me". She insisted I use a condom and I obliged this time.

Ended up banging several times, raw dogged her in the morning, got dressed and left.

TL;DR - Sometimes giving up a bit of control isn't the end of the world, provided you have the opportunity to snatch it back.