Before i start i want to say that my english is bad,so lets start

I follow many forums,sites,blogs about man-women relation and how te the "above average man"-ALPHA,but one thing is missing all the time.The real muthafaking MANS are the rare thing to see those days.So,how to change myself in attitude toward other man,being,let's say being ENERGY ABOVE,when you see some man,you being like "wow dude"something above "the system".Just imagine Tyler Durden in some group of people,he would be like GOD,you know what im saying,really above others,not egoistical,but of his presence,energy that he have.Im getting in college this year,and i have problem with "disrespecting"from other mans.I like to joke,have fun a lot,but it seems like that i dont have authority if im doing this,like im wrong with being "my true self".Im 6'5 and 200lb,getting in gym but still dont look that big.I see that maybe the problem is with my "not serious"face,i think i look funny when i want to be some authority.Any help what to do?Ill post more thoughts about this,i really want to change this.Maybe i need to have stronger character or personallity,what would you suggest?