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[–]Mecha752 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
this will not end well. She is not a plate worth spinning despite you only looking at other guys in the shower for the last few months of your deployment. Besides, you would get more confidence in the RP philosophies on new plates and not one who's hypergamy has kicked in and wants validation that her SMV is still good enough to capture your attention.
[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You'll find it hard - she's expecting commitment, and you're not offering that. When is she going to find this out?
If it's after sex, she's going to be hugely resentful. If it's before sex, she's likely to negotiate hard for your previous beta commitment.
Good luck, but it's easier starting with others.
[–]cheekiestdoc0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
An ex is an ex for a reason. Spend your time elsewhere or this will end badly.
[–]Sweedie-1 points0 points1 point 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
By TRP standards: Yes
By decent human being standards: No
If you want to have casual sex, find women who are DTF + come without emotional baggage + be clear from the start that they shouldn't except more
By having sex with her, you are screwing with her head. This is unfair on her and could also have undesirable consequences for you depending on what kind of chick she is.
[–]toxic98130 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
My primary motivation for this is sex. It's been a while, surrounded by men for so long. We were compatible enough for a LTR before I dumped her, so that's not really off the table yet either. I can play the role but I don't want her to have any power over me, and I think this starting point is where I establish those boundaries (either for myself, or between us both, I haven't decided.)
[–]Sweedie0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Obviously you are free to do as you choose. However, I would generally say it's best to avoid hurting other people whenever possible. If she (genuinely) has feelings for you and you intentionally lead her on to gain something (sex) you are going to cause her pain, when you could easily go after other girls and avoid all that.
I imagine if you were in a relationship before you care about her in some regard, no?
If you're considering you might get back together in the future, why not see other girls, distance yourself from her for now so can have some time out. In doing so you will also have more "power" in terms of the dynamic between you.
The boundaries should be no sex with her for a while, no initiating contact.
It's generally not easy to go from relationship>casual sex, especially soon after breaking up, for either one or both of those involved.
[–]Senior Endorsed Contributormax_peenor0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
By having sex with her, you are screwing with her head.
That's a bit like saying a trailer home is screwing with a tornado.
There is really a lot wrong with this, but to get you on the right road, I suggest you consider this: women ARE emotional baggage. They are the sum of all their feelings and how they rationalize them to explain the outcome of their lives.
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