The purpose of this post is to share some take-aways I've come across from here and other posts found on reddit. Things I find useful.

I also wanted to point out some things stuck out to me from the askreddit post the other day about what you want your significant other to do more.

I often read on here to escalate and initiate more, but not how to. I'm an introverted and awkward 25 yo living in my parent's basement. I smashed an 18 yo 9/10 in said basement the other day which I never thought would happen.

I'm not completely pathetic though, I've worked out my entire life, and am witty as shit.

It started with a snarky comment about her boobs, and she called me out betting I wouldn't grab them.

Man handle her boobs. That's a great way to escalate and find out. She never would have initiated anything. Which is true about most girls I've been with. A lot of missed opportunities because I didn't man up.

Man up and make out with them. Yeah, you. You have to be the one to start. No more missed opportunities.

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Anyway, here's some copy paste of portions of posts I've found useful

Fuck her like you hate her

grab my ass, push me over a table, smack it, them walk away, like, "Bitch, I gotta go to work now; we don't have time to do anything."

he's the big spoon; he rubs and squeezes my breasts, pushes his erection into me, and bites my shoulder. Instant pants-dropper.

Pulling my hair, biting my neck, breathing in my ear, "good girl"

Grab the hair at the base of her neck (really this is the only place you should be grabbing her hair), turn her head to you, kiss her hard. Tease her a bit, kiss her then brush your lips against hers, while still holding her back by her hair so that when she tries to respond to your lips by moving forward to kiss you she can't.

Push her up against the wall when you make out. Or onto the bed etc. But don't break contact as you push her, use your own body to dictate where you want hers, where you want her now.

Pinning her arms as you and caress the rest of her.

Make sounds (listed first because it's #1, seriously)

biting = OK, scratching = not OK

spanking during doggy

rough grabs at my hair/tits/ass/throat/wrists/waist

put me into the positions you want, don't ask if I want this or that

sometimes... I do just want to be treated like your sex toy ;)

say "beast mode" when switching to doggy style position

The majority like to be pounded. The majority like to have their hair pulled. The majority like a good, solid jackhammering. When a woman is bucking wildly against you, it’s not because she wants you to pull back and slowly swirl your cock around her vagina like you’re mixing a cake batter up there. It’s because she wants you to hold down her arms, or grab her hips, or push her legs above her head, and fuck her harder

guy kind of goes “Ah!”, half grunt, half yell? That’s HOT. Do that. Whisper our name (assuming you know it) gruffly. Groan against her neck when you’re in missionary position. You don’t have to grunt like a mountain gorilla, but if you are totally mute, she’s going to get worried.

ask her if she likes the way you fuck her. If she responds well, continue with something like, “I love fucking you. God, you look so fucking hot.” Is she still moaning in response? “Your tits are so beautiful.”

Oh, god. Your pussy is SO tight.”

“You’re so wet – are you wet because you like the feel of my cock ramming you?”

“I think I’m going to come inside you. I’m going to fill up your little cunt.” It doesn’t matter that you’re wearing a condom; we LOVE hearing this.