After rejecting this girl a couple of weeks ago, we end up going out again and fucking last night. My performance was pretty bad and I ended up not being able to stay up, but I didn't get apologetic or make excuses, I just told her "it'll get up when it wants to. You gotta make it want to is all." She went to town and we finished.

Old me would have curled up in a ball of embarrassment and stress and probably have gave up and cuddled/spooned with her for the rest of the night instead of finishing, just being glad to have her there. But I resisted the urge to do that even after we finished. It was what she said later that made me immediately want to share this here.

At breakfast, she talked about a friend of ours that she's also fucked (she's a ridiculous whore and we treat her as such). I have always thought of this guy as a red pill alpha. Known him all my life and have seen women of every sort throw themselves at him with varied results. She told me that he likes to cuddle. She said she enjoyed sex with him, but afterwards he was so clingy she didn't see the point in having sex in the first place. She said "I love cuddling. In fact, I'd rather just skip sex and do that!"

Of course, I realized that she's getting emotional gratification from the cuddling, and that's what she's really been seeking all along. This is from a woman who talks about how much she loves sex all the time and openly with pretty much anyone. The emotional gratification from cuddling, though, is much more satisfying to her than sex. My friend told me that she was developing feelings for him, and now I see why.

Don't cuddle with a girl, unless you mean to share an emotional experience with her. Your cuddling with a woman you don't have a solid, mutual emotional connection with is like a girl that freely gives out blowjobs to any guy who asks her for one. Rarely can it end well. She'll either develop feelings that you don't reciprocate, or she'll be repulsed by you if she doesn't have an emotional attraction to you.