Summary:

A FR of my first time out. Unless you practice and internalize, infield you are liable to forget to TRP principles. As a man, you control your sexuality and SMV. Nobody cares, and that's a good thing. I play catch-and-release.

Body:

Last Saturday I decide to go out sarging officially for the first time. While earlier, I have number closed girls in my college library or in UberPool and thought about making FRs out of them, now I feel it's good that I held off because THAT was nothing like THIS.

Being on TRP the past few weeks, I've managed to connect with PUA/Redpillers in my city and joined their groups. Due it being a busy time at college, I wasn't able to join anybody going out to sarge. I finally set it up with this guy who sarges on an almost daily basis to meet up.

This place is all the way across town in our large city, so it takes a couple of hours to reach there, through all kinds of public transport, so I'm tired and dusty when I finally reach there, and he has to leave in 30 minutes, which I knew, but wanted to meet up and then try myself anyway. He's kind and shows me the ropes on how to go about this, since I'm pretty clueless on how this works. He says he just walks around and goes up to cute girls and talks to them. He shows me what's the best area to meet the girls at the mall, that I shouldn't try to pickup girls who work there or girls while they're shopping or inside stores, and I'm making mental notes. He says he believes in opening with a compliment about their clothes and shoes and taking it from there.

I ask him how he does it and he shows me a demonstration, walking up to a 2-set. He spends about 10 minutes with me hanging awkwardly by, and then me joining the conversation and trying to bring me in. He tries to number close by fails, and we move on. He urges me to open more girls and I try. I try to talk to a couple of girls, but they just walk past. I never thought I'd have approach anxiety, but I do. He tells me to not feel like a creep and be comfortable with myself. I eventually do and start getting better, opening with a compliment and introducing myself to a few girls and women, getting their names and shaking their hands, before moving on. He tells me to think strategically, and to avoid women there with their husbands/boyfriends potentially. We walk around for a bit awkwardly, me following him around or vice versa. I try to wing him but we're out of sync and I miss the signals. I open a 4-set by asking which one of us is hotter as I get bolder, but he walked away so now it's awkward and doesn't go anywhere. He shows me how you'd think women would be creeped out, but that most women have 0 problem and will actually atleast talk to you.

He has to leave which I'm ok and decide to game alone. Firstly, I freshen up, and feel a lot fucking better. Secondly, I'm ready to go out and talk to women, because of this guy can approach so many women and is getting laid more than me, I can to and I'm going to kill it. He was helpful, but this guy was a head shorter than me, had very oily skin, braces, a shit haircut, and he was fat with a paunch and manboobs bigger than the girls he was gaming. Imagine the comic book guy from the Simpsons, complete with yellow skin, and you've got an idea of what he looks like. He's a dime a dozen IT guy in our city. And if this guy is getting laid, I can completely do it. What he has going for him are a great smile and DGAF attitude. He games like 3-4 hours atleast practically everyday, and keeps something going on in his life otherwise. I'm taller than him, buffer than him, and more interesting than him, so goddamit, let's do this.

I spend the next hour on the mall floor, just enjoying myself and approaching girls by complimenting them on a bag, or a shoe, and asking where they got it, and using that conventional opener. But after I introduce myself and we shake hands, I don't know what to do the first few times and play catch and release. I just go up to them and start talking, but I'm not able to have more than 2-3 lines of conversation before they leave. I approach about 10 women this way, and they usually respond positively. As I get more and more comfortable, I start letting go of the opener and just going more natural. I start saying whatever comes to my mind, and my body language and smile are saying it all for me.

I walk up to a pair of older women wearing blue shirts and jeans and ask them if they're sisters, remembering The Game. But after they answer like an idiot I ask again because I didn't get it and they move on. There's this hot chick moving across the floor walking quickly who I siddle up to and compliment on her glasses, and we have a conversation about her power as she walks fast away, and while she's smiling at me, I can't keep or don't want to and just chill out. I approach this older-looking woman with big breasts wearing a frilly dress on the phone and compliment her on the same, and even though I had a rule against approaching women on the phone, she doesn't mind and thanks me, but when I try to talk farther, moves on. I open this really thin girl with a bag, asking her where I can get it, and she starts giving me details and ins't interested, so I move on. I happen this butterface with grandma glasses in a great dress though, and this is one of the 3 actual conversations I have that night, where I talk to her for 5 minutes about how she looks like Hermione Granger, opening with that being a cute dress, and ask to take her glasses but she refuses. Her male friend comes and she leaves so I chill out. Now it's time to go, so I approach this large dark woman and ask for mobile data to book a cab, but it's not working, and I try to start a conversation, which is a mistake, and she moves on. I start a conversation with another girl, complimenting her on her shirt and introducing myself and shaking hands, but after a few sentences I don't know what to say and let her go by saying you look like you need to be somewhere.

Now I'm super comfortable and Uber-relaxed, so there's this 2-set who are walking on their way out. I stop them and ask for mobile data, which I get and start booking the cab. The conversation keeps going with one girl and the other says they have to go, and I just look up and give her a sly smile, and she just stops dead in her tracks and in her eyes I can see she melts. That smile is so coy, so sly, it exudes confidence and comfortable. With any girl, it's my secret weapon that works every time, which just turns them into a puddle and putty in my hands. It works on women of all ages, and I'm always complimented on it by girls. It's a shit-eating grin, with more the arrogance of a smirk than brutality. And thanks to that smile, even though they're late for the cab, those girls stand there for the next 10 minutes and make sure I have mobile data so I can book my own cab, and then I let them go.

Finally, the crowning glory of the night that shows me just how comfortable I was, I opened a 2 set outside the mall while I waiting for my cab by saying "What're a bunch of prety girls doing outside the mall, usually I find you inside in the makeup and fashion shops" and going on a very rambly and incoherent rant about not knowing anything fashion, none of which in any way affected their attention towards me and IoIs and we kept talking for a bit until my cab came so I had to leave and I found out they were married.

Everytime I approached a woman, I thought the world would come down on me and it would be like the scene from Game of Thrones, where everybody would turn towards me and start shouting "Shame! Shame! Shame" and I would be held down by the security and escorted out at the very least, if not face trouble with the police. Nothing happened. Nobody cared. Mind you, I was right in the middle near the entrance of a mall, filled with families and security guards close at hand. In my mind, I was freaking out and thought the world was watching me. In reality, nobody cared that I was doing this. In the beginning, I was in the anger phase, smirking and acting with an attitude of "wouldn't you like to know" and "why are we complimenting them? most of these women aren't even hot", but after a few approaches, I realised how hard it was to keep their attention and attempt to escalate, and instead of being stiff and edgy, I got comfortable with myself and had a good time. TRP principles only apply if you're in the game to begin with, if you're not in the game it doesn't matter how aloof you are, you're just standing in a corner by yourself.

You'll notice I didn't mention that I number closed any of them, or picked anyone up. Technically, this means that this time going out was a failure, I admit that. However, that was never my stated objective for this time around. Right now, I just want to get more comfortable with the idea of approaching women. While I have approached girls in the past and thought I was the king of number closes, none of those conversations ever went anywhere, it was in Uber or college. While it's not difficult, and I have done it in the past, it's the different ball game when cold approaching. I would have with the last 2 sets I opened, but frankly, I wasn't too bothered as well to be honest, given the specific context. So that's my objective for the next time around this weekend. To continue to get more comfortable and in the process number close atleast one girl.

Lessons:

  1. SMILE. Anger won't get you anywhere and is self-destructive. A really comfortable, really simple, genuine beaming smile when you're enjoying yourself is the sexiest thing about you, even if you have fucked up teeth like me. It screams confidence, and sexuality, and ease. Your smile is your friend. It goes back to the very first lesson that Mystery gives in The Game: What is the most Alpha thing you can do? Smile :)

  2. There is no better way to develop abundance mentality than to just go out there and sarge. There is aboslutely no dearth of women out there just waiting to be approached by you, waiting to be talk to you, waiting to laugh and chill with you, waiting to hang out with you, make out and fuck you. You just have to go out and there, put yourself out there, emotionally, mentally, and most importantly, physically out there, and do the leg work of just going up to them and talking to them. In that hour, I had more Tinder conversations than I had that month. When I was coming away, I was like fuck that Tinder girl who was playing games with me! And when I came back, I opened sexually with the girls I had number closed earlier. They blocked me. I couldn't care less. I can walk into any mall or public space with women tomorrow, spend a few hours, and get more numbers and female attention than I need. I need to learn and get better to get laid though, that's for sure, but that also is in control. I can increase my game through learning and my SMV through lifting. And I can go out there and meet as many HB7s and higher as I want. As a man, I control the resources and I control my sexuality. There is no better way to develop abundance mentality and if you're having trouble with meeting women or getting women's sexual attention in your life, I highly recommend it.