[FR] Relationship with an alpha widow

Rhynovirus · 2017-12-03T16:18:39+00:00

You're in a year long relationship, things are going great, what is the insecurity you have that you needed to creep her DMs?

This should be a red flag to OP that he is losing abundance mentality in his LTR as he feared.

UrsusG · 2017-12-03T14:51:19+00:00

The guy commenting before me already said it:

If the sex is good for me and for her, I actually don't mind how many cocks she had

This is the only healthy and mature approach to the situation.

I would even reduce it further:

If the sex is good for me

...then it's all good. Anything else is her personal problem: how many cocks she's had, how ripped they were, how kinky, how they compared to you, etc.

If she's not happy with the sex you're delivering, she should either bring it up (sometimes a minor change can fix an issue) or leave you for a guy who does it good to her.

That is really all there is to it. Playing detective and investigating her past behind her back, comparing yourself to pics of her previous guys - none of this can bring anything good to you.

TheRedPillMonkey · 2017-12-03T15:26:39+00:00

You promoted a girl from a plate to an LTR. Remember, she earned that promotion. Now, you're catching feelings for her and you don't want to be burned like you have been before.

Your post is full of that insecurity. Trying to defend the move to LTR. Trying to mention orange flags like they matter. Trying to say a high N-count is a massive red flag and then not even prove she has one. Logging into her Insta to prove your point and find evidence to next her. The only evidence you find is one dude who you think is an alpha, who you assume pumped and dumped her, and that's enough of a reason to plan to next her. Yet you have no plans to next her right now, do you? Just later when you get bored?

Cut the shit out. Abundance mentality isn't trying to find a reason to end a LTR and to be afraid to be burned. Abundance mentality is to make it easy to walk away if a reason naturally presents itself.

You like the girl enough to promote her. The sex is good. She respect you like she should. She's become a proper RedPillWomen. Just ride that shit out until you're bored then move on. Being bored is the only excuse you need. If you don't get bored or end up catch feelings, so the fuck what? Learning when to move on also means learning not to move on too quickly.

Ananonguy88 · 2017-12-03T14:30:38+00:00

If the sex is good for me and for her, I actually don't mind how many cocks she had, If it made her better, the better for me. I'm not going to marry anyway, nor stay exclusive for rest of my life with anyone yet I can have some deeper and more emotional relationships with some of my plates. The important part is to not put her used cunt on pedestal and treating her like a wife virgin love unicorn material. Prioritize yourself and for god's sake never give more commitment than necessary to have a good stimulating relationship. She's just a woman who likes to fuck, you either take her as that or not. And if she tries to fool you by playing someone else, then drop it.

And its hard to find an outstanding attractive girl that has not been riding CC or thundercock in her prime.

The only problem is when she starts to compare you, trying using your sex performance to shame and control you like "my ex fucked me better" or "my ex had better job, more money" and so on. Or when she's so used to CC or her demigod ex that she just can't get satisfied by you for real, keeps thinking of getting him back, and venting her frustration on you, but then just dump, keep gaming, training, and improving so you can alpha widow these bitches.

This is the real downsides of alpha widowhood.

If she fucked alpha, as long as she behaves, fucks good and treats you well, this is not kind of toxic alpha widowhood.

RealizedGainz · 2017-12-03T15:16:17+00:00

Going through her DMs isn't a move you should be doing. Emotions aside, your mind isn't in the right state when it comes to this girl if you're deep diving in her private life with her password behind her back

DrBrockStar · 2017-12-03T15:19:05+00:00

and just by looking at his profile I knew he was the one that gave her that good kinky sex and then dumped her.

First off don't let something as trivial as an instagram facade bring any conclusions. It's deceiving more times than not.

Second, if the sex is good and shes clean. Have fun, don't get her pregnant and enjoy it.

But your right, she is temporary, and the fact that some random guy turned her into his second-hand trash should reaffirm it.

HumanSockPuppet · 2017-12-03T16:35:44+00:00

I chose to promote her because at this point in my life I felt like slowing down a bit

That's your main mistake. You do not promote a bitch because of anything that YOU do or feel. You promote a bitch only when she earns the promotion.

As closing remarks, I'd like to discuss the whole idea of alpha widows and how it is a red flag, honestly, I wouldn't agree that the fact on itself is a red flag if your value is higher than his.

Here's a philosophical point for you to muse on:

Men are the gatekeepers of relationships. And a man can be picky precisely to the degree that his value compels women to pursue him for a LTR. The higher value he is, the pickier he can be, and the better women he can choose from.

So if this bitch couldn't lock down the other guy when she was younger, but she can lock you down now that she's older, who really has the higher value?

This question is meant to dovetail with the point above. Do not promote bitches unless they have done something to earn it.

rigbed · 2017-12-03T16:58:10+00:00

If he was alpha and kinky you need to be alpha and kinky

Title	[FR] Relationship with an alpha widow
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Comments	14
Date	December 3, 2017 1:32 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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