Frequently asked questions (Please read this topic before asking)

How many chances should I give this girl? She keeps flaking!

• Don't tolerate flaking at all. It indicates she doesn't respect your time. There are more options out there in the world. You may allow one flake if the circumstances are reasonable.

• One. Flaking on a date, especially a first date, is a massive shit test that you only pass by nexting her.

• Pursuing a girl after she flakes the first time is not always a waste of time. Girls will flake on you even when they're interested, especially if you haven't met them in person yet. Wait a week and text "whats up flaky mcflakster" and set up another date while forgetting about it. It's worked for me a couple times and it's only a small investment.

My GF / Plate told me I need to wait X amount of time before sex, what gives?

• She either isn't attracted to you and wants to string you along, or doesn't want to seem like a slut. Everyone has their own limits, but three dates is the standard waiting time for modern relationships. You may have your own ideas. Just be wary of being strung along.

• She's sizing you up to see if you are her beta bux; particularly if she's in the 27 to 31 age range. If a girl is in the 18 to 23 age range, and she's making you hold out for sex, there is a slight possibility that, no, she doesn't want to ride the carousel. But if she's late 20's, it's almost certain she's given it up on the 1st, 2nd, or 3rd dates to other men. Don't pay new car prices for a used Honda Civic.

Where are the best venues to bring a girl on a blind date / First meet up?

• Somewhere with little time/cash investment, where you can either depart from if it is not a match, or move to another location where you can take the date further.

• Absolutely nowhere that can be construed as a "formal date". No dinners, no movies, etc. Keep it to coffee shops and local bars, and never spend more than $40 on a woman on a date. Ever. Never buy her dinner. That's what she expects Beta Bux to do. If she scoffs at you not paying for her, NEXT.

How do I get her Number?

• Give her your phone with the "new contact" page open and demand it. Never give her your number. That's entering her frame.

• Once you have a girl hooked (she is asking you personal questions) ask for her number and then leave

My GF says she's on the pill, do I still need a condom?

• yes

• If you trust her (you shouldn't) then go for it. Are you willing to pay 20% of your income to her for 18+ years?

• google "baby rabies"

She takes too long to respond to my texts, am I doing something wrong?

• It's hard to know. You may be over-eager and are turning her off. She may not be into you and is stringing you along. Shift your attention toward other things and you'll stop thinking about it.

• Yes. You're answering her texts too quickly, and she's sidelining you for later while she texts Chad Thundercock.

• You should only be texting for logistics

My best friend is struggling with his girlfriend and being pushed around like a tool, how do i get him to follow TRP?

• Most will say this doesn't work. He has to be sufficiently motivated himself to improve. Trying to educate him may risk his backlash, or the backlash of your social group. TRP is commonly misunderstood and you may come up on the wrong side of it. Proceed with caution.

• You don't. TRP is to be found and swallowed, not force fed.

My GF hasn't slept with me in one month, is this relationship worth it?

• Depends what you want from the relationship. If you're just in it for sex, then no, it's not worth it. However, you can turn this around if she's a quality woman and some other issue is at play. Work on making yourself more appealing. If this doesn't get the results over a time period you're comfortable with, then you have to make a tough choice.

Is marriage worth it anymore?

• Given the state of hypergamy, the thankless role of the husband, and the current nature of divorce laws, many men say it is not worth it. Read "Men on Strike" by Dr. Helen Smith.

• nope

• no

• absolutely not

Why doesn't my GF appreciate all the little things I do for her? She doesn't even acknowledge it!

• She may be entitled. You may not be giving her what she actually wants through the "little things." This may also be an indication that she doesn't respect you.

• Because of ALL THE THINGS you are doing for her. Things given repeatedly are no longer seen as gifts, they are seen as expectations. See Valentines Day as the biggest representation of this; it is not "special" that you get your GF a gift, you will be labeled an asshole by society if you don't give a gift. Rare things are valuable, common things are worthless. And "all of the little things" have become as common and worthless to her as dirt.

My GF asked me to vent to her and so I did. Now she's pushing me away, is this normal?

• Completely. Nothing repulses a woman more than a man who's emoting like a woman.

• Women are confused by vulnerability. They say they like it, but it confuses their perception of the typical male role. So yes, it is normal with certain women. Vent with your friends, or if it is a serious issue, with a professional.

How should a man handle it when a female is obviously "fishing for a complaint"?

• You don't bite. Her: "What do you think of this shirt?" Let's say her nice juicy tits are hanging out. You: "It fits."

• Read this

• My approach is to pause, smile and continue the conversation, letting her know I am aware of what she is trying to do and that I am not going to feed into it. I have also tried calling them on it but you basically just get the same old line, "No I wasn't" BS.

How do you maintain a friendship with a girl without becoming a beta orbiter?

• You don't expect to fuck her if you're her friend and want to "maintain a friendship." Unless you're aloof and she always had this sexual attraction to you that she only got to act on once or twice. It has to be you who chose to make her a friend, not the other way around. That will fuck with her ego.

• A friendship means that each person provides value to the other person. What value does she provide you? If it's nothing then you are an orbiter.

Why do woman talk about men so much? Just look at all the music video's by them.

• We are the only natural and meaningful purpose to their lives.

• Men provide the framework in which they live. Male attention is their only true source of happiness.

• They need us more then we need them.

What are the boundaries you should set in an LTR?

• The key is not what, but when. Boundaries have to be clearly established from the beginning. It's confusing (and unfair if we go down that route) to start setting boundaries later on, or changing what are dealbreakers for you. And the only way to do that naturally (and not be exasperated by an effort) is to know internally what your own boundaries are, and keep your integrity. If you know that you want to be able to chill with your boys and ditch her last minute, and you truly internalize that, then it's not a struggle to maintain a boundary. If you want to be able to say "fuck you, I need alone time haha!" then that can't come a year later. It can't be faked boundaries simply because you think you need to maintain your frame, because then if you're truly with her long term, you'll "break". It simply has to be part of your integrity. And remember: if that's truly a boundary of yours, you don't want to be with someone who fights you on that anyway. Easy abundance shortcut: "You wouldn't want to be with her anyway if she doesn't respect that."

• Exclusivity. No other men but you. This will of course include sex and intimacy. Absolutely nothing physical with any other guy. Each guy will have their own threshold beyond that. Some may not want them to flirt with guys in front of them, others will be flattered by that, for example. Some may demand that she doesn't spend time with guys who are clearly interested in her, but others may be confident enough that this is not a problem. Dealing with exes falls into this category too.

• Respect. First, she respects your time. This means she doesn't take you for granted. She respects your opinion (even if she disagrees with it) enough to listen to it and not reject it wholesale. Also, she maintains respect in public. Modern women are fond of exposing a guy's vulnerabilities in front of others or friends to feed their vanity or to shit test. Demand respect on all fronts.

How far into the first date should you kiss? As soon as possible?

• If you are on a date other than blind date, the reality is:

1. She likes you enough to invest her time and effort into you. 2) She considers your social status high enough for her to be potentially seen with you by her peers and feel OK with it, or even better, proud of it. 3) She willingly accepted to be alone with you, thus opening the opportunity for you to man up and escalate. Considering that reality, the only answer can be: simply assertively escalate as far as you can until she stops (or doesn't stop) you. If you feel afraid to do it, go back to increasing your SMV, which will lead to you having more options, which will lead to acquiring abundance mindset, which in turn will lead to you stop being afraid of doing it.

• Go for cheek kiss for the greeting. If she, as you are going in, does not turn and present her cheek, go for a lip kiss. This sets the filter through which all other behaviors on the date will be perceived through. Continue to escalate throughout the date.

Does someone have extensive experience in explaining amused mastery with some common examples? TRM does a good job but it seems to me that is the lifeblood of keeping things light and fun rather than letting things get bogged down by feeeelings and Rollo's blog post on it doesn't delve too deeply into examples of it.

• Amused mastery is hard to demonstrate with specific examples. It's a part of your overall frame and it should be internalized so you revert to the behaviour automatically with women. I've always thought amused mastery is a much deeper concept than something like "agree and amplify", where giving examples is easy. A few ways to do this:

Everything she says and everything she does is "cute" -- This reframe puts your heart and mind in the right place. When she says, "You just want me for sex!", look at her with a cheeky grin and think, "Aw", before you act.

Treat her like your bratty kid sister -- even if you never had a sister growing up, think of a situation where the younger sister wants to play with the two older brothers. They want to play football and roughhouse in the yard and she wants to join in. Obviously you don't tackle her with all your strength, you make fun of her for throwing like a girl, let her think she's about to win then crush her etc.

Treat her concerns as you would those of a child -- kids say the darnedest things. You don't get into debates with children or explain why their behaviour is wrong from an ethical or logical standpoint. You placate them and play to their emotions.

Pretty much, all of these boil down to not taking women seriously. That is what's at the heart of amused mastery.

Thank you all for contributing in the original thread. If there are any important questions i may have overlooked, please post them below and i will add them.