Disclaimer: I still have a long way to go, but wanted to post this to echo TRP philosophy for those still unsure if this community is legit.

TL;DR: I was in frame at a bar and passed multiple shit tests from a TFM (total frat move) girl. It ended with k- & #- close.

SUMMARY This isn't a post to discuss frame or shit tests. That horse has been beaten to death, brought back to life, and beaten to death again. It's a post to tell you that this community isn't a load of bullshit and the idea of "out of my league" is a BP fallacy. It's also a post to wonder if strong frame is what passes shit tests.

BODY The night this occurred I was the DD for a group of my friends. From the beginning of the night, I wanted to dance, so I danced. I danced a lot and this in itself help me get into frame. Flash forward to the end of the night and I'm feeling great - completely in frame. I'm literally dancing by myself on the dance floor and a HB9 is dancing by herself too. I waited for her to notice me, we made eye contact, she smiled, and I went for it. I slowly danced toward her without breaking eye contact. I started saying some bullshit about her being there alone. We get closer. I bullshit more. We're touching. I bullshit more. Escalating. Now my hand is around her neck and the side of my face is pressed against hers. More bullshitting. Then I go for a kiss and she didn't pull back, but I could tell I was the only one into the kiss. She proceeds to tell me I'm too old (I'm 22, but look 26ish). I joke about social security. shit test passed She tells me we need to take shots. I said I'm down and lead her to the bar. We sit there in silence for a moment and she asks if I'm going to get us shots. I tell her I'm broke. shit test passed She says she doesn't have any money. I tell her it's too bad we're not gunna do shots. At this point, she is sitting on a barstool with me in between her legs, I'm standing. I keep her close with my arms. I keep going for making out, but she's not fully in my frame yet. Time to neg. I tell her how it's too bad that I thought she was gunna be my sugar mama until my social security came in. It was like a switch, she broke. Her frame is too weak compared to mine. She starts to bite my lip and I could hear her pants getting wet over the music in the bar. Moments later my buddy tells me it's time to go, so I get her # and leave with my buddy. I'm sure I could have got her home that night, but I still need to work on logistics - need to hash out some of the BP left in me.

CONCLUSION Not sure if this has been covered before, but if not, I'd like to add an idea to this community. And it's this. I didn't even realize I was being shit tested in the moment. I realized the shit tests after the interaction and I think this is due to holding frame. Let me know if you've had a similar experience of passing shit tests without noticing till after the interaction and if you think it's related to frame.

-iSTRP

EDIT: spelling