TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

BigRedRover Archive

View 1 post and 210 comments by BigRedRover on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Title Category Author Subreddit Date (UTC)
0

BigRedRover/r/askTRP30/11/16 02:35 PM
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
3

Red Pill Theory - What the fuck is OP posting At least there wasn't a link to some blog dude started a week ago Lift and don't get married bros 3/10
/r/TheRedPill31/12/16 07:06 PM
4

Last night, he expressed to me that he feels intimidated by me because I'm intelligent and have refined tastes, making him feel as if he'd never measure up. What a wuss. This is a moderate red flag. He continued to tell me that he's a simple man and I possess varied interests and he fears that I'll become bored of him. And on and on and on. I am so sorry he did this lol. So far, I've shown myself to be doting, sweet, a great listener and submissive type. A far cry from the budding raging feminis…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/16 06:39 PM
1

They all say I should start "sleeping around" to learn what I like No. Just don't. I told them I would be better at sex learning my partner's likes than a bunch of one night stands getting random frat boys off. Excellent answer. It's also the truth. How do I start dating again? Make like Nike and just do it. There's no right way except to vet well and go for it. How do I bring up my sexual inexperience without him thinking I'm weird? Only a small minority of men will think anything negatively ab…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/16 06:36 PM
1

After reading your comments, check the keto sub for ideas for what you're looking for
/r/askTRP31/12/16 06:06 PM
2

Can confirm the thing about being in a smaller area in the Southeastern US.
/r/askTRP31/12/16 06:04 PM
10

Happy New Year!
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/16 07:45 PM
1

I don't understand if I'm too naive in believing he's a charming guy with lots of hot girls around You are, and he's obviously full of shit about all of these imaginary hot girls he pulls with his nice guy schtick that doesn't get girls in the first place. Best of luck though.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/16 07:45 PM
1

No
/r/askTRP30/12/16 05:50 PM
36

There are only two RPW options here: If you don't think that you can do better than that, then you need to work on yourself (ie: monk mode) so that you can do better than that. If you do think that you can do better than that, then you go do better than that. Neither of them involves betting on this guy who has proven himself to be a losing proposition. Best wishes and the best of luck.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/16 05:18 PM
1

I don't feel like getting up right now. I don't need more sleep but I feel good in my bed Okay sweetheart, you've got about 20 seconds to get up before I flip the mattress, whether you're on it or not. Oh wait, I thought we were talking about shit women say.
/r/askTRP30/12/16 02:38 PM
3

For future reference: That's not Rollo
/r/askMRP30/12/16 02:37 PM
5

It's a lot different of an experience for men than it is for women, and there's nothing toxic about having a normal reaction to that.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/16 02:36 PM
2

You dressed like crap, and he acted like he wasn't interested. Then you presented yourself better, and he started acting much more interested. It's not that complicated (edit: meaning don't overthink this). If he likes me, I don't get why he does not directly ask me out. It's because he's a total wuss and is trying to "nice guy" himself into something with you. Between how weak he acts and how you aren't going to be around each other for long, you should not get involved with him in the least bi…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/16 05:54 PM
3

Try the cookingforbeginners sub for the cooking part. Best of luck!
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/16 05:43 PM
8

I'm not sure why no one has suggested a simple electric trimmer with a guard on it. I use the same model to trim my face as my FM does with her lady bits, though we have one for each of us. I think she uses a 1/8" or 1/4" guide. Also, a lot of this is going to come down to how your future captain prefers this to a major degree. Some guys like a lot, some like a middle amount, some like it bare, and many don't really care that much as long as it isn't a mess. One more thing: You are way, way, way…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/16 05:11 AM
13

Welcome to RPW. Your title including "training your man" is not a good sign. When I asked how many minutes away the driver was, instead of answering the question, he said "I don't know?!" with an attitude. He did answer the question, just not in the way you would have liked. I can't help but feel that I would never speak to someone that way, especially in a moment of intimacy. You aren't him. My male friend says that since he doesn't have as much experience, I have to train him. Or you could sto…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/16 11:43 PM
10

It feels like I don't really need to. You never needed to. It was all a choice. Now you have the choice to either get your shit together or be a shitty fiancee. It's up to you. You should be better for yourself, but you should also be better for your fiance, and if the former doesn't motivate you, then the latter should.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/16 01:27 PM
2

I understand what you mean completely. Just make sure you don't fall into the trap of spending more time trying to reconcile these differences (eg: trying to figure out how that particular link fits into your world view) than what it's worth, and you should be fine.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/16 01:22 PM
2

To be specific: Part 3, my previous account was rpnobody. VigilantRedRooster did an excellent job putting that whole series together, and it should be required reading for this sub imo.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/16 01:20 PM
2

Ideally I'd want long term relationship from one person that I feel fulfilled in both RMV and SMV and that he feels the same for me. This is definitely the ideal and what RPW aims to help women maximize the chances of. If you check out the section of the sidebar under "FINDING, GETTING, KEEPING YOUR CAPTAIN," then there is a multi-part section about vetting, a significant part of which I wrote under a previous screen name.
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/16 04:49 AM
3

Comfort doesn't go as far with them, so you need a little more of it. Attraction goes a lot further with them, so you need a little less of it. Aiming for 6:5 instead of 2:1 on alpha:beta is a decent way to think about it.
/r/askTRP26/12/16 01:49 AM
2

Don't confuse beta comfort with being blue pill. They aren't the same. Frame is the difference.
/r/askTRP26/12/16 01:41 AM
2

I don't want to lose him as a friend. I told him he should grab his balls and stop bitching and then I will show him something (TRP) that he will benefit from. Do not talk about TRP to this person if you want him to continue being your friend. Also your friend is being a jealous faggot.
/r/askTRP25/12/16 12:32 PM
67

You really went about this in a pretty terrible way that actually minimizes the chances that he will turn red pill. Red pill Rambo strikes again.
/r/TheRedPill25/12/16 12:14 PM
1

It's also a great example in the difference between RPW and TRP that newer women often bring up. It's extremely important for men to learn to recognize and pass these tests (ie: passing = not complying but not acting butthurt either). On the other hand, it's not necessary for women, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/16 12:11 PM
2

I want to preface this by saying that you cannot always avoid being alpha widowed in many circumstances, even if you "do everything right." I'll elaborate below: But wouldn't our goal be to eventually marry/ get comittment from a man that has the highest SMV/ atributes that we are seeking? Adjust this slightly: You're seeking commitment from the best man that you can get within a reasonable time frame. If one falls in love with a man that has a higher SMV/ has the attributes that we are seeking,…
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/16 12:09 PM
1

I think not being too much of a dick about it is a big part of passing the test. If he reacted too dickishly, then that would indicate he was butthurt, which betrays being beta.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/16 03:57 AM
2

You're glad he acted the way he did is the point I'm making. :) I'm not justifying you doing it btw
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/16 03:30 AM
2

And what for? To feel tingles when he passes it.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/16 01:20 AM
2

So I see this: gf And then I see this: We hooked up on the first night Hmm. I decided on a whim to fly out and see her for three weeks. Jesus Shes told me that she doesnt mind if i sleep with other girls because she also would like to sleep with other guys and that shes never been big on monogamy. She's not your girlfriend. She's the village door knob: Everybody gets a turn. Break up with her and go no contact. Then read the fucking sidebar and learn how to stop being a loser.
/r/askTRP24/12/16 11:49 PM
3

Cutting this down to the core issue: You're terrible at vetting. Tinder is also a hook-up site, so you should probably get off of there and look elsewhere to have an easier time.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/16 03:51 PM
2

Glad you gave her the peace out girl scout treatment
/r/askTRP24/12/16 03:49 PM
3

Shit tests will come less often in situations like these, and often they'll be relatively minor, so you can find yourself breezing right through them without actually noticing them.
/r/askTRP24/12/16 03:48 PM
2

I wound up losing my virginity to this girl. Men don't lose their virginity; they gain their first notch. Congrats. This situation sucks, and it's a bit over your pay grade at your age. Let her figure her shit out, and break up with her if you want to.
/r/askTRP24/12/16 03:45 PM
6

This is both a shit test and a comfort test. It's a shit test in the sense that if you do not hold frame, you will become less attractive in her mind. It's a comfort test in the sense that she is feeling insecure about her position in your life and wants reassurance. There are merits in choosing to pass only one of them or of passing both that can be discussed in more detail elsewhere. The key is that there is significant risk in failing the shit test if you focus on passing the comfort test, so…
/r/askTRP24/12/16 03:39 PM
2

The thing is I am only 18 yet so I can't really do the things I am passionate about. Constructive advice: Don't make excuses.
/r/askTRP24/12/16 03:34 PM
9

The answer to every one of these questions is "it depends."
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/16 01:22 PM
8

Being selective and not running up your n-count.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/16 01:19 PM
4

It sounds like you aren't attracted.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/16 01:19 PM
1

There is advice that is often given here about bringing your captain your problem, instead of your solution, and letting him decide how to handle it. I think that's something you would benefit from thinking about here. I think there's a link about the idea in particular in the sidebar, but I only have a moment and can't look it up right now.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/16 10:36 PM
1

If you're already in it and hitting it, then get what you can out of it.
/r/askTRP23/12/16 06:38 PM
2

Well I really liked this light socket and didn't want to have not sticking my dick in it as one of my regrets, so I tried to put my dick in it and got electrocuted.
/r/askTRP23/12/16 06:31 PM
1

However, I personally don't think marriage is good for men even in an ideal male world. Why? Because it demands partnering and monogamy. Your ideal male world might be different than someone else's, but in an ideal male world, it wouldn't demand monogamy on your end. All else being equal, there are conditions where it could be beneficial to men. We just don't have that situation as our current reality.
/r/TheRedPill23/12/16 05:45 PM
3

It's not your role to be doing the things you're trying to do yet. You're still in the vetting stage, and instead of vetting him, you've decided that you want to try to change him. You're going to have a bad time unless you either 1) next him, or 2) accept that you're going to be doing a whole lot more cleaning than he is if you decide to stay with him. Also, who says he's ever going to let you move in with him anyway? We don't really have much background here. You seem to have really, really go…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/16 05:12 PM
1

I sent that chick a smiley face. Chicks love smiley faces.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/16 05:07 PM
1

I think this is getting so much argument back and forth in the comments because the context is lacking. Being asked about an affair can be either a shit test or a comfort test depending on the situation. OP's describing a comfort test, which would require your value to be noticeably higher than hers. If it's not (ie: if you haven't been improving yourself for long), then it's a shit test, and you should handle it differently than what OP is suggesting.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/16 03:52 PM
1

Hi5
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/16 01:31 PM
4

I hate feeling like a bitch for being upset about his sickness, but he's not exactly trying to fix it. Well what are you doing to fix it?
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/16 01:10 PM
1

You sound like a pussy faggot tbh You are super over-exaggerating all of this shit like oh no there won't be anyone left in the world for me to hang out with as soon as I hit 30 omg it'll suck that I'm working and making good money oh god fuck what will I do Hopefully you're stop having your fucking period by then so you can save money on all of those tampons you're sticking up your ass
/r/askTRP23/12/16 01:08 PM
1

About the link itself and the concept of woman as the most responsible teenager in the house, I'm going to use your own situation that you posted about as an example to try to drive the point home: You complained in your other post (https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/5jd260/too_late_to_turn_the_ship_around_without_crashing/) about your husband not taking more initiative for taking care of the kiddos, doing stuff around the house, etc., and that he leaves a lot of it to you. He does t…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/16 12:58 PM
2

I'm going to make a different comment actually talking about the link that you had a problem with, but first: I have trouble accepting"it's not for women" The men who find TRP do so because they are lacking certain tools to reach a certain objective. The women who find TRP (ie: RPW) do so because they are lacking different tools and are trying to reach different objectives. A man who finds TRP and is having trouble leading a woman who walks all over him will benefit from taking her less seriousl…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/16 12:38 PM
2

There is absolutely no up-side whatsoever. Spend that time getting better.
/r/askTRP23/12/16 02:11 AM
1

I've seen persay and pursay so many fucking times.
/r/askTRP23/12/16 01:07 AM
5

A lot of the people in all areas are low-value. There are a lot more low-value people than there are high-value people, and that's one of the issues that high-value people have to contend with.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 11:48 PM
1

I don't have time to respond point-by-point, but I think you will benefit from taking a look at this: http://theredpillroom.blogspot.com/2014/09/girl-game-encouraging-your-captain-to.html
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 10:35 PM
5

But even if it was exaggerated to make a point or to motivate men, I have trouble putting this kind of information about women in practice. It's not for women, so it's not meant for you to put it into practice. I'm of the opinion that this is the source of every single problem and worry that you list in your post, but I'm going to point out one other thing too: I don't relate to a lot of the supposedly feminine things. I can cook and clean, I don't love it... You say this, but then you say... I …
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 10:19 PM
1

If you have high standards and are picky about who you date, how it affects you will depend on your value. The higher your value, the easier, less complicated and less stressful it will make things. The lower your value, the less success you will have.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 10:11 PM
3

I hope you said, "Because you're a gay buttfucking homofag."
/r/askTRP22/12/16 10:09 PM
1

Then you don't need to go into electrical engineering. You simply will not make it if you aren't already motivated to do the work for lower-level classes.
/r/askTRP22/12/16 10:06 PM
3

You can on mobile. Hit the "about this community" link at the top on the right and it'll display it. It's not intuitive to find at all.
/r/askTRP22/12/16 10:05 PM
3

Why are you getting fired and getting kicked out of school so fucking much? There's one place to start.
/r/askTRP22/12/16 10:04 PM
2

Women tend to be hypergamous, meaning they want someone better than them. Men tend to be hypogamous, meaning they want someone worse than them. This doesn't have much to do with culture differences, but it does have everything to do with evolutionary and other pressures that start with the difference in how men and women reproduce. This is RP 101.
/r/askTRP22/12/16 10:02 PM
7

Yes, don't shit where you eat, I know. I just decided to ignore that rule for many reasons. You know not to shit where you eat, except you don't. Got it. Why are you fucking a 35-year-old 6 who can risk your job? You have bigger problems here than this situation.
/r/askTRP22/12/16 10:00 PM
6

This situation is essentially a shit test in the third person. Normally you get them in the second person. You are the first person, the woman is the second person, and everyone else is the third person. This is very much related to situations of a girl's friends trying to cockblock in that it's a third-person shit test. One of the essential aspects of a shit test of any type is that it sorts the person receiving it into one of two categories (based on frame) depending on how they interpret it. …
/r/askTRP22/12/16 09:58 PM
1

Thank you for the title. I can't say that this guy is intentionally doing this sort of thing in this particular situation without more context, but I get what they're saying.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 09:44 PM
1

Is that because the liberals in America represent the societal feminism that we detest on here? More or less. Or is there anything inherently anti-RP about liberal, socialist policies in the traditional sense in that they reward those members of society that "didn't deserve it" due to their lacking investment in themselves, their careers and their families, e.g. public health care, unemployment benefits etc.? It's easy to make an argument along those lines, but I don't think many people in RP ci…
/r/askTRP22/12/16 07:53 PM
1

Do you have any some examples of this being discussed in this context? It doesn't seem to have anything to do with passive dread to me conceptually.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 07:39 PM
0

If you like dick too, you like dick too.
/r/askTRP22/12/16 04:11 PM
15

domination and aggression has worked very well for PIV but not oral, what gives? Have you ever choked on a dick before? Not everyone finds it enjoyable, let alone tolerable. You should probably let it go because it's just not going to happen with her. If you let oral be an act of her serving you instead of an act of you dominating her, then you'll get a lot more mileage with this particular woman.
/r/askMRP22/12/16 03:38 PM
2

I don't know your history, but it sounds like you haven't started out by building a foundation of value (see: the first 4-5 steps of dread).
/r/askMRP22/12/16 03:34 PM
2

A 6 is more comfortable with a 7 than a 9. That trumps your attractiveness advantage. Beta has advantages over alpha in certain situations, and this is one of them. This is related to the situations where women will cheat because they aren't getting enough beta.
/r/askTRP22/12/16 03:32 PM
1

Without knowing further details of this girl's status for you, I'd say soft next for three days.
/r/askTRP22/12/16 03:05 PM
6

Keep in mind that related to this to is the fact that a lot of men (particularly under the age of 30) have been conditioned to think that having women do your laundry is some kind of rampant misogyny oppressive bs.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 02:18 PM
1

I just want to throw out that being associated with "the red pill" has gotten people doxxed, fired and in all kinds of hot water in the past. Be careful about the particular words you use, and I would highly suggest never referring to "the red pill" directly in any way.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 02:14 PM
2

This girl bombed me with tons of messages the last one being "Forget it, i'm angry about you." I'm well aware that this is a shit-test but I have no idea how to respond. Tactically speaking, it kind of depends on what the rest of the text messages said. There are some contexts where it's not a shit test and is actually her flirting directly.
/r/askTRP22/12/16 02:13 PM
3

What a fag
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/16 04:36 AM
6

I have to sit there and pretend to be interested. There's your mistake. You don't have to do a goddamn thing, but you choosing to is indicative of your lack of frame.
/r/askTRP21/12/16 03:18 PM
4

Go no contact, block her on everything and ignore that she even exists. I'm not joking, I'm not being dramatic and I'm not trying to goad you into a dick-swinging contest against yourself. This is 100 percent the absolute best thing you can do for yourself AND for her.
/r/askTRP21/12/16 03:17 PM
1

Morality is subjective, and you can find people who think that it's moral and immortal to do just about anything. That's why nobody gives a shit.
/r/askTRP21/12/16 03:13 PM
4

That explanation helps tremendously. You may want to edit it into your OP if you haven't already. I'm of the opinion that this guy is likely into you and has no idea how to go about the whole dating process. This can be as easy as asking him straight-up if he's into you or not because you feel like you're always the one initiating the conversation and going out.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/16 05:33 AM
1

Introspection and humility is frowned upon on both settings, unless it's forced on you. lol?
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/16 10:56 PM
2

A concrete example would be more helpful here. It's pretty vague the way you're talking about it, though that's the nature of the topic.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/16 10:52 PM
1

A bit of clarification might help: A soft next is when you cut off all contact for a period of days, usually 2-7 depending on the offense. A hard next is when you cut off all contact period. If he's responding, you haven't been subject to either of these. As for the issue you're having, it sounds like he's just weary of initiating the contact for whatever reason. Decades of having it pounded into you that going after a girl makes you a creepy rapist sleezeball will do that. So will being genuine…
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/16 10:48 PM
9

I personally stopped posting on MMSL a few years ago for this exact reason.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/16 08:40 PM
2

I prefer to message relatively sooner to get confirmation of how much they enjoyed themselves, etc., to help thwart any type of "I decided you raped me" bullshit a year down the line.
/r/askTRP20/12/16 08:29 PM
3

Quality men aren't going after average 20 year olds, so we've got to compare 31 year old Riley to 20 year old Riley. Both of them will be competing for the same men, with some exception.
/r/TheRedPill20/12/16 08:19 PM
2

Not to get too heavy here, but I think a big part of this dynamic has to do with the distribution of the range of men in terms of overall value. If we simplify things and use a 1-10 ranking system for men, I don't think it's the case that there are an equal number of 1s, 2s, 3s, 4s, etc. That is, if you were an 8, that doesn't mean that you're only better than 80 percent of men and that 20 percent are better than you. If you're an 8, then you're easily in the top 5 percent. Related to this is th…
/r/TheRedPill20/12/16 08:18 PM
4

Just looking at the title and not reading the post, yes that's exactly what it is. A shit test is a test of your frame, and your frame and nothing else is what will pass it. This isn't anything new, but it's really great to see it "click" for you.
/r/TheRedPill20/12/16 07:23 PM
4

However, I just was on the Red Pill sub for men You aren't a man, and you aren't trying to date men who are on the RP sub for men, so I'm not sure what you think you'd have to gain by doing that. But now I'm in a bit of a funk thinking that all of my accomplishments really don't matter to men It's not that they don't matter to men, it's just that they aren't the most important things when it comes to predicting the happiness of a man in a relationship and the success of the relationship long-ter…
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/16 04:20 PM
1

I'll add something to what you're thinking here, because you're completely and totally right: That is never an option for the male. The male equivalent is if your game is tight enough, you could never have to work a day in your life. It's called pimpin'.
/r/TheRedPill20/12/16 01:11 PM
4

Hey man, I just want to say congrats. It takes some balls to do that for yourself, and you did it. Good luck with the date.
/r/askMRP20/12/16 04:11 AM
3

If these four things happened inside of nine weeks, that's a pretty high rate of bullshit happening when you go out. Someone is going to take your head off at some point, and we don't want to see that happen. I don't understand. If you're not talking to people, then what else are you doing at a bar There's a difference between talking to people and becoming "that guy" who is constantly always up in the middle of peoples conversations and who everyone really wishes would just go away. You don't w…
/r/askTRP19/12/16 08:53 PM
4

You're still getting calibrated on what's normal. These aren't IOIs that you're getting.
/r/askTRP19/12/16 04:23 PM
1

There's a difference between love and infatuation. What you felt in high school was infatuation. What you feel now is love.
/r/askTRP19/12/16 04:20 PM
1

They're basically just shorthand for whether you're introverted/extroverted and whether you're sexually attractive/repulsive/neutral. If we're really, really simplistically over-generalizing here: Alpha: Extroverted and sexually attractive Sigma: Introverted and sexually attractive Beta: Extroverted and sexually neutral Delta: Introverted and sexually neutral Gamma: Extroverted and sexually repulsive Omega: Introverted and sexually repulsive Behaviors are often called alpha or beta depending on …
/r/askTRP19/12/16 04:18 PM
4

This is going to come across as harsh, but it's not personal: You sound fucking annoying. In #4, your neighbor would have every right to be pissed because you completely just fucked over a guy who was getting you some ass. It's like everyone you talk to wants to kick the shit out of you or something, but you're the common element here. Tone it the fuck down and learn when shit isn't appropriate. This whole "my fun and jolly self" bullshit translates to being annoying as fucking hell and never kn…
/r/askTRP19/12/16 04:13 PM
1

I say go for the four-year thing. If your physical activity is limited, you may want to check the keto sub for a viable solution to the weight issue. Best of luck man.
/r/askMRP19/12/16 01:13 PM
1

Hi5 git r done
/r/askTRP19/12/16 12:04 AM
2

It's a book, "When I Say No I Feel Guilty," and it's about this exact type of thing you're dealing with here. You should read the sidebar book recommendations in TRP. It'll help you tremendously with this sort of thing.
/r/askTRP19/12/16 12:04 AM
1

I hear you. I'm just warning you to be careful because it's easy to fuck up and wind up just as unhappy if you go too far in the opposite direction as well.
/r/askTRP18/12/16 10:56 PM
1

Yeah well they haven't banned her dumb ass from this sub yet like they did at least one of the others, so until then.
/r/askTRP18/12/16 10:55 PM
1

It sounds like you could do with a study of WISNIFG
/r/askTRP18/12/16 10:18 PM
8

if i decide to quit what do i do about the people who say i can still play in moderation? Why is there anything "to do?" Do whatever the fuck you want. You don't need to prepare an explanation for people for everything you decide to do.
/r/askTRP18/12/16 09:09 PM
4

What about if she wanted to talk to you, she would have messaged you by now?
/r/askTRP18/12/16 07:54 PM
2

I just did. You aren't paying attention.
/r/askTRP18/12/16 05:06 PM
2

You mean amoral, not immoral. They aren't the same thing.
/r/askTRP18/12/16 04:49 PM
2

Disagreement is not a prerequisite for deferment (or submission). That's the source of your misunderstanding of submission.
/r/askTRP18/12/16 04:46 PM
2

"Submission" implies that a man is forcing me to do something I don't want to do or wouldn't do otherwise No it doesn't.
/r/askTRP18/12/16 03:12 PM
1

Whether you admit it or not, you are causing others to not benefit from certain jobs, girls, resources when you take them. Who cares? You think you deserve those resources because you worked harder? You think concept of "deserve" matters, why? Deserve has nothing to do with taking resources. In nature merit is not important. Stronger takes, weaker loses. Your first sentence here contradicts the second. Being stronger is merit. What is the maximum I can do that will let me sleep at night? Whateve…
/r/askTRP18/12/16 03:11 PM
5

If you text once like that and she doesn't reply, I suggest not texting again until she does. Otherwise, you'll come across as a bit beta in the sense that you're chasing.
/r/askTRP18/12/16 03:09 PM
3

How long have your rapists been in jail? There seems to be proof of the rape, so I'm assuming you went to the police. Why does this person have proof that you were raped? What was the nature of the proof? These are things we need to know before we can give you advice other than holding frame. As far as dealing with the chick: She's going to shit test you to test your frame to make sure you're alpha enough, no big deal.
/r/askTRP18/12/16 03:07 PM
5

Ever heard of the rule of thumb? That's not as meaningful as you might think.
/r/TheRedPill18/12/16 12:43 PM
2

til 5'10" is short
/r/askTRP18/12/16 05:59 AM
2

"Here, put your number in my phone," and hand her your phone with the screen up to put in her number.
/r/askTRP18/12/16 05:58 AM
2

You might have posted this reply with the wrong account
/r/askTRP18/12/16 05:52 AM
1

What in the fuck
/r/askTRP18/12/16 05:52 AM
1

So of course I do it like a bitch. Read the sidebar. This is the problem.
/r/askTRP18/12/16 05:48 AM
2

OP should learn the difference between immoral and amoral.
/r/askTRP18/12/16 05:44 AM
2

Today she asked if she could bring a male friend of hers "No."
/r/askTRP18/12/16 12:31 AM
9

Why do women lie about what they want? Stopped here. It's because they don't know what they want.
/r/TheRedPill17/12/16 08:15 PM
1

https://therationalmale.com/2013/12/03/saving-the-best/
/r/askTRP17/12/16 07:34 PM
1

By having a solid frame, I just mean not getting pulled into anything other than what you're wanting to bring to the table. If that's what it is then okay cool git r done, but if it's not, just avoid accidentally coming across as tryhard and you'll be fine imo
/r/askTRP17/12/16 07:33 PM
2

I just hate being judged on my ability to make her laugh or be "climb Mount Everest and kill bear with my bare hands" kind of interesting or try to establish an 'emotional connection' I think you have a misconception of what you're actually being judged on here vs. what you've been told you're being judged on. I'm of the opinion that if you show up and just display a solid frame that it will be plenty for her, but again, that's just like my opinion man.
/r/askTRP17/12/16 06:23 PM
2

talk about how she doesn't want to jump in bed with a stranger anymore and that she wants to go on a date Clearly the most important word of this sentence is "anymore." She's already had her alpha fucks, and now she's looking to see if you're down for being her beta bucks. This is an example of a combination (shit + comfort) test. If you fold on what she wants just because she wants it, you'll betray a lack of alpha (ie: shit test). However, if you give her the complete impression that you only …
/r/askTRP17/12/16 06:20 PM
2

I agree 100%. The alpha widow issue is generally only an issue for women who have lots of low-commitment sex and then realize that they can't get a relationship with a man who has as high of a SMV value as the ones who will give them the ol' pump-and-dump. As they age, the difference between the men they once were able to have sex with and the men who will commit to them becomes greater. I'd say it's pretty rare (though there obviously are cases) that a woman becomes an alpha widow over a man wh…
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/16 03:20 PM
7

In response to this: Yet I feel I should have fucked around at least once so I could satisfy a man properly. and this: I feel I should have jumped on the dick so I could appease a man better in the future. I'm sure you'll get a lot of good responses, but I want to touch on this one point in particular. I've had sex with a lot of women in my life (50+), and there wasn't that much of a correlation between the number of previous partners the woman had and how good she was at satisfying me sexually.…
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/16 03:11 AM
2

Paging /u/thefamilyalpha You need to lead her in this situation.
/r/askTRP16/12/16 11:44 PM
3

Not calling you a pussy lol, I'm agreeing with your sentiment about OP's shit
/r/askMRP16/12/16 07:38 PM
1

Yeah I was making a joke because your suggestion was some real live pussy shit
/r/askMRP16/12/16 06:02 PM
10

Your entire post is concern trolling, which I'm pretty sure is against the rules, but I'll answer a few quick things that might help you understand how silly your questions are in this context just in case you're sincere. Just wondering what RPW think about TRP's stance on women who are raped - which is basically, dump 'em in all cases no matter what because they're damaged goods and not worth shit anymore. TRP does not have an official stance on women who are raped. What you have asserted is th…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/16 06:01 PM
6

Your post is not detailed at all, so we really can't give you any kind of advice whatsoever. compliments me but in a way it's not really a compliment and it doesn't make me feel good Some people will jump to call this negging, but it's not. Negging leaves the woman feeling good about the interaction, not bad. Not to jump off into a tangent, but negging is not so much a back-handed compliment as it is about light teasing.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/16 05:50 PM
1

That's a DBV aka a display of butthurt vagina
/r/askMRP16/12/16 02:37 AM
3

Chicks love that shit I got my SO excited over letting her have an xmas present early on dec 1, it was a matching set of hand towels and pot holders with christmas-themed owls on them (owls are her shit), cost me like $6.50 total and she squealed like OP at a justin bieber concert Gave them to her early so she can have them around leading up to xmas etc, I swear she's bragged like fuck about them to everyone who will listen
/r/askMRP16/12/16 02:37 AM
1

Alright, you caught me off guard with that one and I choked on my drink as I was swallowing. Take your fucking upvote.
/r/askMRP16/12/16 02:33 AM
2

Yes, you must be right. This will only work in this one guy's specific situation and is of no use anywhere else on the planet for anyone else. Stop being a faggot.
/r/TheRedPill16/12/16 02:19 AM
3

Here's Ian Ironwood on encouraging your man to lead: http://theredpillroom.blogspot.com/2014/09/girl-game-encouraging-your-captain-to.html He links to this sub about four words in, which I think is kind of funny, but this is probably the best read I know of on the topic. Best of luck.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/16 11:22 PM
2

I know that Athol's position is essentially to never refuse sex from the wife A big part of that is the demographic of men who are looking to improve the frequency of sex; if you're having sex pretty often, then it changes things on this particular topic.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/16 07:58 PM
1

If you have to ask this question, then you don't know enough about RP to be helpful to anyone anyway.
/r/askTRP15/12/16 01:22 PM
3

But, why isnt my wife responding?? "I'm 4 months in" That could have a lot to do with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/16 01:12 PM
1

Who cares
/r/askTRP15/12/16 01:02 PM
9

Father lives in a different country so he is not really in the boys life. He is a bum with no job or future. Aka he shot his alpha nut up in this bitch and now you're the beta paying for him to sit on his loser ass and cry about dumb shit Kick them both the fuck out if they don't want to go by your rules and have her stop raising this kid to be a loser, though it might be too late
/r/askMRP14/12/16 03:57 AM
2

I would suggest a daily journal, nothing major or long-form, just a few notes about how you did towards each of your goals, should take no more than a few minutes for record-keeping if nothing else
/r/askTRP14/12/16 02:45 AM
2

But you should really call it the color-neutral pill and have an LTR and btw this doesn't work for short indian guys
/r/TheRedPill14/12/16 12:58 AM
4

I see it as a combination shit test and comfort test due to the factors you just described. That's why I think the ultimate simplicity of the answer to it lies in passing both tests at the same time.
/r/TheRedPill13/12/16 10:51 PM
9

No but I've got a bunch of bitches But cant this backfire? What if she asks about her name etc? How can it possibly backfire? She asks what her name is, and you give her some other ridiculous answer like "George with a silent F" Treat it like a shit test
/r/askTRP13/12/16 10:48 PM
5

Concern trolling 101 here folks
/r/TheRedPill13/12/16 08:19 PM
1

Because it's easy as fuck to become the top 20 percent because your competition is full of pussies who say dumb shit like "so why try"
/r/askTRP13/12/16 05:16 PM
7

You can't see AIDS dumbass.
/r/askTRP13/12/16 05:14 PM
1

A few things: polygamous What you think this word means is not what it means. and whenever I mention theredpill to them Don't do that. Overall, you need to stop whining and grow the fuck up. The world shouldn't be what you want it to be just because you want it to be that way. Learn to deal with the world as it is, and stop blaming women for your own weaknesses. You really sound like a pussy and either you don't belong here or you need to make some major changes to how you think.
/r/askTRP13/12/16 05:11 PM
12

Don't over-complicate it: It's just a comfort test. Anyone calling this a shit test is hugely misidentifying this to the point that it's ridiculous.
/r/askTRP13/12/16 05:04 PM
8

Related, Ian Ironwood's discussion of The Girlfriend Experience: http://theredpillroom.blogspot.com/2012/07/girl-game-gfe.html
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/16 05:01 PM
2

That means you're making progress. If you weren't making progress, you wouldn't even see them after the fact. Just keep working at it; you're not that far away from seeing them in real time more often now.
/r/askMRP12/12/16 09:53 PM
2

This may not be strictly RP, but I would open a retirement account the day I turned 18 and put something in it out of every bit of income I got, even if it was $5.
/r/askTRP11/12/16 07:30 PM
5

Before "The Secret" came out and turned the concept into a complete joke, there was this idea of the "Law of Attraction." The basis of the "Law of Attraction" concept was that there are opportunities in your life that you do not see because you are not open to them, and changing how you view them gives the illusion that the universe is opening itself up to you by throwing tons of opportunities at you. However, they were always there; you just didn't see them. That's basically what's happening to…
/r/askMRP11/12/16 02:55 PM
3

The main focus is not to actively mold a reputation. Instead, it's generally a side effect of holding frame. It's a lot like dread. Soft dread is not something that you actively do. Instead, it's the side effect of becoming better as a man. Another angle: You can focus on what people think about you, or you can focus on doing the things that you want/need to do (ie: the mission concept). Whenever you do the latter, you will be seen as authentic, and that will be your reputation, but it's only a …
/r/TheRedPill11/12/16 02:43 PM
4

these liberals "These liberals" is a very, very small, statistically unimportant set of people whose sexual fetish has nothing to do with their political affiliation. This type of reaching hurts legitimate arguments and largely misses the point that there are women from all different backgrounds who have these types of fantasies. AWALT, so don't get caught up on what one tiny sliver of them do.
/r/TheRedPill11/12/16 01:52 PM
9

Most women don't want to actually be raped in most situations with most guys. There's a difference between fantasy and reality in that regard. However, the vast majority of women do prefer to be dominated, which is largely the preference that's hijacked in the rape fantasy scenario.
/r/TheRedPill11/12/16 01:42 PM
1

That's fair I'll shoot you a PM
/r/askTRP11/12/16 03:39 AM
20

This place is turning into the fucking Buzzfeed of self help with all of these generic ass, rehashed posts of people trying to get everyone else to follow their fucking blogs and buy their shitty ebooks.
/r/TheRedPill11/12/16 03:37 AM
3

That's a pretty lame duck excuse you're banking on there.
/r/askTRP11/12/16 03:34 AM
2

It's like a step up from communications and a step over from social work. It's super easy and involves little math or science.
/r/askTRP11/12/16 03:31 AM
8

Some of the comments here are conflating soft dread with hard dread when they are two completely different things with two completely different purposes and times and places for them to be used. I really wish new names would be picked for these concepts in the RP lexicon because the current ones are exceptionally confusing for people in general. Soft or passive dread is a naturally occurring thing that happens whenever you are in a relationship with a man who has value. Other women will notice t…
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/16 08:18 PM
8

She put on a blinding black dress last night which was figure hugging, had her hair done and looked pretty stunning. The absolute, 100 percent, most sincere and most important compliment that a man can give a woman is an erection. You can (and should) give her positive feedback without falling into her frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/16 01:02 PM
3

I'm still weighing my options. You mean you're completely caving on what was agreed to like 24 hours later. Good job on cutting out the texting and going face-to-face.
/r/askMRP09/12/16 05:39 PM
1

You'd probably see just as good of results from taking dick, and it's probably cheaper.
/r/askTRP09/12/16 03:57 PM
2

Big picture: Work on developing frame, because you don't have it yet, and it's the source of real self-improvement.
/r/askMRP09/12/16 02:34 PM
1

Taken? I think you mean takin that dick.
/r/askTRP09/12/16 02:33 PM
1

It sounds to me like you need to decide for yourself what's fun. Commenting here somewhere would be a good start to get more targeted suggestions.
/r/askTRP09/12/16 01:06 PM
30

I think you're completely right about everything except having spoken up. I don't think there was anything to gain from speaking out and making yourself a target.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/16 02:59 AM
2

Solid discussion. No wonder you can't get girls over guys who like big dicks in their ass since you act more butthurt than they do.
/r/askTRP09/12/16 12:45 AM
1

It's because you're making yourself a target.
/r/askTRP08/12/16 11:35 PM
2

Well what I find wrong is that one minute they are totally homo and the next they think they can get with the same girl I am trying to. If they're so homo and it's so awful, they shouldn't stand a chance against you, right? Like someone said that's basically being greedy by trying to have both This is the same logic as saying it's being greedy to have multiple girls. and imo ruining the balance of Ying and yang Are you into horoscopes too faggot?
/r/askTRP08/12/16 11:33 PM
1

You are a giant walking covert contract. That is your problem, not your shiny ass bald motherfucking head.
/r/TheRedPill08/12/16 11:32 PM
4

Bullshit it is lol Quit acting like a pussy about it and women will stop sensing you're acting like a pussy about it
/r/TheRedPill08/12/16 02:25 PM
3

It sounds like she went about it in a pretty reasonable way, and it sounds like you handled it well. There doesn't seem to be much to see here. Just keep in mind that the point of the spinning plates analogy is that they sometimes fall, and you just keep on with the others because it's no big deal.
/r/askTRP08/12/16 01:43 PM
1

They've always been there. There's nothing inherently wrong with it from any perspective.
/r/askTRP08/12/16 01:41 PM
3

And this one definitely does not have what it takes it make it here.
/r/askTRP08/12/16 01:40 PM
5

Maybe you should listen and stop reacting like a fucking 13 year old who had his Xbox controller taken away because it's time to eat the Hot Pockets his mom put in the microwave for him.
/r/askTRP08/12/16 01:36 PM
2

Do not tie your personal information to your discussion of TRP in any way, shape or form.
/r/askTRP08/12/16 01:34 PM
1

If you need support, then get a fucking bra. We're all out of support. why is she buying me crap to eat when she knows I've just kicked off my exercise? I mean does she even love me? The fact that you're asking the question shows that you've been drawn into her frame. It does not matter why she bought them. It does not matter what her reaction will be if you do not eat them. Don't talk to her about what you're doing. Just do it.
/r/askTRP08/12/16 01:33 PM
1

As similar as they might seem to you, "trust but verify" is a concept that centers around fidelity specifically in the captain/first mate model. I will note that also in this model, the captain would be encouraged to accept input on things like major financial decisions, but he is ultimately trusted to make the decision himself without constant second guessing from the first mate. Whether you agree with that being the right course of action is obviously up to you, but you should realize that you…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/16 01:28 PM
2

"Trust but verify" is about fidelity, not second guessing their decisions and leadership.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/16 03:11 AM
3

"An alpha" wouldn't give a shit, and he wouldn't act like a little butthurt bitch with a shiny new vibrator and no batteries. Yes It's worth evaluating because you acted like an insecure butthurt pussy.
/r/askTRP06/12/16 12:52 PM
3

Dread does not work like you think it works. You cannot "dread" this woman. However, she noticed I'm being aloof and cold to her so she buys me gifts and offers to pay for my meals when I go out. So what? Keep the gifts, let her pay if she wants, and go on about your business. It doesn't have to affect how you two interact.
/r/askTRP06/12/16 12:24 PM
0

And here's my advice for losing weight (and I personally have lost 100# on this so I know it is possible): Stop eating. Literally fast for an entire week. Purge yourself of emotional connections to food and start fresh with a new palate. Or follow an old Southern rule and lose the weight in 4 months (like I did) - Only eat on dates. Eventually the less weight and increased hotness will equalize to your ideal chub to cheeseburger ratio. This is absolutely disgusting "advice" and would be terrible…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/16 12:18 PM
1

What violence? I didn't see any reference to violence in the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/16 12:38 AM
1

Welcome to RPW. I might suggest deleting this post in a few days and then making a separate account just for posting on RPW so that it is not tied to your main account. Also, I want to note that I saw /u/Ptmothello reference violence in the relationship, but I didn't see it mentioned anywhere in the OP, so I'm not sure what that's about. As to your situation, your friends sound pretty terrible. I would not be interested in staying friends with people like that. My advice is to make new friends a…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/16 12:37 AM
0

Not hardly.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/16 10:30 PM
1

My doctor said gaining weight beyond this point won't be healthy for me. LOL? No, it doesn't work like that unless you're a big fatass, which you don't seem to be. You need to work on the other aspects of the shit too, not just lifting and gaining 10 pounds.
/r/askTRP04/12/16 08:25 PM
1

Often, I'll plan/propose an activity for us, and she'll shoot it down immediately You're entering her frame by setting it up so that she has input on shooting it down in the first place. What I mean is that you're giving her the opportunity to turn it into a discussion of wanting to do it at all. Instead of proposing that you go do X, you can always tell her to be ready at Y time and to wear Z, then just get her ass in the car and go. She will likely protest to some degree wanting to know where …
/r/askMRP04/12/16 08:07 PM
1

There was a thread in asktrp or trp that was a review from a screening
/r/askMRP04/12/16 04:16 AM
1

Yeah pretty much. I mean I'm not really like glad the guy had all of that happen or whatever, but his hocking of his videos and websites and all of that crap is pretty constant.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/16 11:42 PM
1

She already made that decision. Ding ding ding
/r/askTRP03/12/16 11:26 PM
3

So drinks goes well, she's clearly into me and when we go to part ways I kiss her. But when I do so I notice E's body language feels stiff so I pull back and ask what's wrong and she asks, "dont you have a gf?" To which I reply "I'm in an open relationship." Me personally, I would have broached the open relationship talk after it was clear she was into me and before I went to kiss her. You've also got to understand that she's been conditioned her entire life to feel shame about being with a guy …
/r/askTRP03/12/16 11:24 PM
7

do you need to be in the top 20% of men looks wise? Not necessarily, but it can make things easier Also, do you need to give off a certain vibe or sub-communicate/be direct with your intent? Read the sidebar I ask because I would consider myself slightly above average in looks (6/10 roughly). I am at about 15% BF, losing the pounds each week while putting on muscle mass. My face is becoming more chiselled, making my jaw nice and defined. I'm trying to get down to 12% or so by end of February. Aw…
/r/askTRP03/12/16 11:14 PM
1

Sounds like a frame issue. I don't think your hand is the thing that caused this.
/r/askTRP03/12/16 11:12 PM
1

Google "chuck palahniuk guts" and read the first result. It's a very quick read, and it might help to give you some more insight on how Palahniuk felt about things. It's also fucking hilarious.
/r/askTRP03/12/16 11:10 PM
4

The guy in the video posts in the RP subs here and there peddling his shit. He's been milking the same story for god knows how long now. I'm not convinced that the woman was a psychopath.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/16 11:05 PM
1

"Great men are forged in fire. It is the privilege of lesser men to light the flame."
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/16 05:34 PM
3

Do you own an enter key? If so, then you should use it.
/r/askTRP02/12/16 03:46 AM
0

but it ignores the elephant of backstabbing males No it doesn't. You can apply the same principles to any situation. If men weren't backstabbing disloyal cowards I hear a trip by the car wash is a good way to get sand out of your vagina. I would argue this was the big change A big change from what exactly? Do you think there was ever a time when men did not compete for women to fuck? The butthurt is strong with this one.
/r/TheRedPill01/12/16 11:42 PM
3

In light of your edit, you do not have to cut him out of your life, and that's not what I meant at all. I'm asking you again, what is there to deal with? Why does it matter? Why do you think it's your job to "do something about it?" You're saying you want to "beat" him. Beat him at what? Why are you imagining this guy as competition for you that you have to "beat?" Any suggestions on what to do about this? Our suggestion is to ignore it and carry on about your business. You're looking for "what …
/r/TheRedPill01/12/16 11:26 PM
10

What is there to deal with? Why does it matter? Why are you wasting your time and energy thinking about this? Focus on yourself.
/r/TheRedPill01/12/16 10:52 PM
2

To help you understand the situation, let's be clear about something, particularly form her perspective. She married you, and things were great. Then you turned into a fat, boring, unattractive lump of shit who was a failure as a leader in your marriage. Your wife felt abandoned by you, so of course she seeks out other men. That's the natural thing to do. After she files for divorce, which was completely reasonable for her to do given the circumstances, you started going to the gym, acting like …
/r/askTRP30/11/16 07:03 PM
3

The problem you are describing is not a problem with hypergamy any more than it's a problem with hypogamy. A woman advocating for hypergamy is one of the most red pill things there is. The reason why RPW is geared around women improving themselves as much as possible is because that's what allows them to facilitate hypergamy in the sense that it allows them to find the best man that they can find. This is exactly the type of woman that a masculine, even RP, man would want if monogamy is what he …
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/16 06:27 PM
1

5.5" is actually right flat in the middle for length.
/r/askTRP30/11/16 06:09 PM
3

First, you should break things off with her and go no contact immediately. Do not wait to do this unless you have something at her place, or something along those lines, in which case you should get it immediately and then break things off immediately. The keyword here is immediately. Second, you have a dick that is very much in the normal range, and if she's talking about erect length, I'm pretty sure that three times that length would be a few inches longer than the current world record, so sh…
/r/askTRP30/11/16 06:08 PM
1

I don't know if I'm up for that, but we'll see lol
/r/askTRP30/11/16 05:56 PM
1

Thanks for the suggestion. I didn't know that exists. It's pretty dead in there, but I'll dig around.
/r/askTRP30/11/16 05:56 PM
7

RP does not judge whether hypergamy is good or bad; hypergamy just is. For the same reasons, it doesn't judge whether hypogamy is good or bad; hypogamy just is. Hypergamy and hypogamy are the direct results of the biological differences of the sexes. Without them, we would not thrive as a species.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/16 04:28 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter