Getting my possible RPW back [Not beta]

joppern · 2015-02-05T11:00:03+00:00

You have a feeder fetish which is often linked to needing the feeling of power over other people to get off.

The girl seemed to be totally submissive, you treated her like shit and she didn't do anything against it. Maybe that is why you want her back so bad.

All in all it sounds much like oneitis. It will be very hard to get back to a very dominant frame, because your behavior is emotional. Also she might be better off without your feeding fetish.

BrunoOh · 2015-02-05T10:44:56+00:00

This woman is the perfect RP wife.

A RPW wouldn't take you back after cheating, much less multiple times.

She simply said "The second you left me, our relationship was irrevocably over."

Looks like she finally got the message.

OP, if you want a RPW, you better be a red pil man as well.

Cryocasm · 2015-02-05T10:47:28+00:00

Given this post is genuine and has little ego-masking in it and little oneitis (which it doesn't, I can sense it): I cannot give much advice given I've never read nor been in this kind of fucked situation.

in effect divulging some redpill stuff.

Don't. That's like dropping a nuke, she knows you already, don't need to make false promises. You will come across as trying to market yourself and openly trying to manipulate her and she will catch on. Women might be stupid but they aren't flat out retarded.

Like I said guys, this woman is RPW material.

I wouldn't apply that label to any woman until she's proven it somehow (ie you overheard her talking on the phone about srs shit that would give you first hand proof).

I know the "genuine emotional approach"

I haven't been in a situation like yours, taking one back, so I cannot comment on this.

When I was gaming up girls with a higher RMV (relationship market value) who generally had a lower SMV, I noticed I could play with their emotions sooner but not too much until commitment came. I just stick to teasing and making her laugh, basic pickup shit.

Your second to last paragraph is an anecdote proving my oneitis theory. I never saw myself fucking X woman for more than a few months maximum. She has to prove to me that she's worth staying on my mind.

I'm willing to say, "I would be sad to see you go, but at the end of the day you're just another women and are replaceable to me."

Your outcome independence is strong. But I don't know how much willpower you have behind that statement.

What do you guys think of my action plan?

I feel like you should look at yourself with a grain of salt and go over it all again, objectively this time. You're also acting on emotions here and that is a big breach to your frame and especially when trying to reframe an old relationship.

JayViceroy · 2015-02-05T12:48:34+00:00

Dude you fucked up. She's gone. Let her go. You said you're young, don't waste your youth on your beta "she's perfect" mentality. NEWS FLASH: She's not the only girl in the world. As soon as you got this mentality you lost all respect in her eyes and yourself.

You fucked your relationship up and she will never be able to trust you again. Without trust no relationship can be a healthy one.

Move on by moving forward without her. Better yourself and get rid of this BP mindset. You may have convinced yourself you were redpill, but you are not. You had tendencies. Now figure out how to make yourself bulletproof.

Title	Getting my possible RPW back [Not beta]
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Comments	5
Date	February 5, 2015 10:33 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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