Okay, so this is going to be a little bit of a rant but hear me out:

I was going to school/college and met this chick, let's just call her Rachel. She approached me when I was at a very low time in my life, I had just transitioned back into academia. She showed herself to be "proud" of me, she would post pictures of every accomplishment I had, and join every project/club I was a part of...there were a lot of red flags I ignored. She got close to my family and even declared herself my nephew's god-mother without anyone's consent. We seemed to just "vibe", I later realized she was living through me, she completely absorbed me into her being. Mind you, she was a bigger girl, overweight, and pre-diabetic but very beautiful in the face. I am a highly intelligent, driven, athletic, likable person, and had beautiful women after me but I made a commitment to her. Anyway, we stayed together for 2 years until we got into a really bad fight. She was upset that I wasn't giving her attention, I was working a job, full-time student, researcher, and working on building a business. I kept telling her that I was laying the foundation to our future and which I was. Mind you, she's relatively stronger than I am so in self-defense I hit her and walked away. I was later arrested and charged...I'm looking at 15 months in jail/prison. My entire empire collapsed and fell apart because of her and she walked away with no consequence. She says she's the "victim." Basically, she later moved in with some guy who I briefly knew who is 400 pounds, he's a push-over and literally a man-child. I think she's with him because she wants someone to control and kids which I was holding out on until I had a stable career. They are engaged and it's only been 5 months since I've been gone. She claims to be "in love" with me but wants to send me away and get married so soon. It blows my mind! Yet, I realize that I attracted that through my own subliminal programming. I began to look back on my life and realize that if I had control over my subconscious mind then I wouldn't have fallen for her tricks/traps. She satisfied something in me that I hadn't dealt with. Now, at my lowest point, I feel like I'm being reborn aside from being kicked out of college and possibly having to do jail time. Any advice or tips or similar stories?

TL;DR I met a chick who turned out to be psycho and preyed on my insecurities because she couldn't deal with her own. Lesson from it: control your subconscious mind and don't let poison slip in.

A book recommendation that changed my life and helped me understand my subliminal programming:

"What to say when you talk to your self" by Shad Helmstetter, Ph.D.