Honesty

Recently i was kind of forced to break up with a girl i really liked. I was thinking going next level with her, upgrade her from plate status to LTR. Why? I though we connected really good, had same interests, she wasnt a polluted sex driven slut, not much outgoing and thats why i believed, this could work, since i would not spend much time worrying what shes doing and with who. I meet a couple of her friends, also not very outgoing and a nice group o people, they seemed to like me, exept for the orbiters, but i think they kind of given up when they met me. Im a good looking dude, i dress very good, im fit and my social skills are at a high level.

I never really had much problems talking or meeting new girls, it was since ive went to high school that i tried to better my game to the maximum, others were coming to me for advice when they were stuck on some girl and couldnt advance and i liked to help. Im on redpill for quite a while now and it filled alot of remaining holes i had in my game. I still have much to learn but i see how ive progressed, things escalated hard, ive met quite some girls and spend time with them. I execute dates much much better nowadays than i did in high school or college, i just always try to take what i want and it works, the girls like it and so do i. The whole thing progresses much faster and in a better way.

So one of the girls ive met, lets call her Marie, cought me kind of off guard. The talking we did was much better with her than with others, i really enjoyed spending time with her and after some time, i may have evolved some feelings for her. Butterflys in the stomach, or whatever you want to call it. I was ok with it, it was actually a nice difference from what ive expirienced from the other girls in the last months, so i thought to myself, well why the fuck not. Lets give this a go and see what happens. Everything was fine untill last week. I started seeing some differences and since im not deluded anymore and i dont buy bullshit from women, i knew something was wrong i just couldnt figure out what, since i believe i didnt betarise this. There may have been a little slip here or there, but nothing major. Maybe things were getting too serious too fast for her, or there was actually some other dude that spit in my soup. I dont know and at this point i dont care.

So we had plans on thursday, to meet at her apartment, but she gave me the most bizarre exuse ever… She had some lectures she wanted to attend at 7 PM and then it would have been to late. I immidiately thought of the Bratt Pitt test. Would she say the same if i were Bratt PItt? The answer is clear. It would have been “i have a lecture at 7 i need to attend, so meet me at 9 or 10″ or whatever hour this lecture ended. What bothered me is, that she immediatly made plans for friday with me. I couldnt get it, why the fuck wouldnt you want to meet me at your appartment, but then immediatly make plans for the next day when we cant be alone at your appartment. Sex till now was superb not only great, so i believe this was not the reason. Anyway, since she was absent all week and then this happened, i was a bit pissed off and said i have no time on friday and that was it for friday. Saturday i got my shit together sleept it through and i wanted find out whats wrong and try to fix shit. I wrote her and she again made immediate plans with me, i agreed this time. But again everything was odd, the meet up was different, and the whole catching up thing was different, she seemed absent and i already knew deep inside what awaits me. I knew from the moment i alowed feelings that shit like this could happen and it was happening right now.

She started talking about the stress she has with medicine, how everything in her life is falling appart, blah blah blah blah, every possible cliche exuse you can get from a girl thats decided she doesnt want to be with you anymore. Im very proud of the things how i ended the whole thing. She told me we still can be friends and i answered “i have enough girl friends” grabbed my coat and said “well thats that for me, i dont want to be here anymore” she agreed, we went out, she started talking about how she wishes me luck and just turned while she was talking smiled, waved and left without a word, picked out my phone and instantly contacted the girls i put aside when i decided i will try to go for an LTR. In my mind it was just the right thing to do, not to cry and whine, but just back to the place where i left off.

So 2 days have passed, i had the time to cool off and since im an observer/analyzer type of a guy, i give it some though, my job allowes me to do that. What really bothered me and it still does, what bothers me with all the relationships that are forming or ending around me is, that there is no more honesty and people rather give up then try to fix things. I see my grandparents and even parents, while i dont aprove of the way those relationships are maintained by the men in my family, i do really like the fact, that even there are some shitty hard times, they try to fix things. They talk, they scream, fight, sometimes they dont talk to each other for days, but at the end, they rather remember the good days and they somehow always manage to fix things. Honestly, if we would talk about the problems we have in others, we might be able to fix them, but eating it all up and then just end when it becomes unbearable… Well ill let everyone for himself decide, but i think its stupid. Just as i think it was stupid from Marie to not tell me the throuth and maybe we couldve fixed things for now. im not sure if it would have lasted, but it certaily would have lasted longer than now, because we understood each other good. Instead she gave me bullshit, all the cliche exuses and wanted to stay friends, cause she “doesnt feel it anymore”. Come the fuck on, give me a fucking break. She felt it every single time we were together, i saw it in her eyes, i saw it how she looked at me, i saw it in the way she let me touch her, so im sorry but i cant believe this bullshit.

Honesty my friends. Tell your girl, plate, wife whatever about the things that bother you, tell her that you think something has to change, dont just eat it up and then end it when you think its not worth the effort anymore. What effort did you actually put in it, if you didnt even took enough time and enough balls to tell her about the shit thats bothering you and rather eat it all up. The “i dont want to risk the fight” mentality is not going to get you anywere, its our own happines were talking about here my fellow men and i say, if we have to pass all the shit tests that are thrown our way, deal with shit at work and in our social lifes, i thinks its fair that we deserve at least this much honesty and a little try harding from our women, if we decide that its time for something more exlusive, but in return lets be this fair and give this honesty back. Maybe this will encourage your women to have the honesty to tell you whats bothering her. In the end, if her requests are unreal and you dont want to change that much, you still can try to find someone else if things will not work out.

Well for me, that was a total deal breaker for me, there will be no second chance for Marie if something like this would occure, because if after all of this what we shared, she didnt have the balls to honestly tell me whats bothering her, i wont bother either.