How can you be confident without external validation?

rayyaal · 2016-09-12T23:04:17+00:00

First things first: questions on askTRP.

Based on the few seconds I spent on your post history: stop doing opiates. Stop blaming the world for your problems. Pick up a fucking weight, run a fucking lap, and read a few pages every day for the rest of your life. In a year you'll feel like an idiot.

OH MY GAD A YEAR?

Fuck you change takes time. Be disciplined, be patient, and stop fucking worrying what other people think of you. Everyone dies and none of this actually matters outside your own head.

thelaptopliquidator · 2016-09-12T23:08:08+00:00

Women don't care about looks as much as men do.

They find having a spine to be a very attractive trait. Grow one.

Anyways, as far as your shit body, does your heart condition prevent you from not eating like a pig?

Skinny like a reed is better than fat, and if those are your two options, skinny is the way to go.

"I obsess about how my face isn't up to par, and there's nothing I can do about it."

This is your biggest turn off to women. The insecurity.

You don't need hobbies to be a hit with women. If you're so concerned you don't have hobbies, pick one up. Pref. something useful like learning another language or learning about something.

Anyways, the main point of your post: Learning that it doesn't matter if a woman rejects you will give you confidence.

There are no negative consequences to a woman turning you down. Realize that. Stop being afraid.

play_time_is_over · 2016-09-13T00:19:57+00:00

Fake it until you make it. "How to stop seeking validation? By getting it"

Satou4 · 2016-09-13T00:42:41+00:00

Watch Fight Club. You know that person inside your head that you wish you could be? Be that person. It starts with ending the beliefs that you are a shitty person. Replace those beliefs with "I am the ideal me" and you will begin to act like the person you wish you were. Then over time you will become that person if you focus and take action.

BluepillProfessor · 2016-09-13T01:55:56+00:00

I can't even exercise due to a heart condition), as well as ugly face disorder

Fuck off with that excuse bullshit right now. There is plenty of exercise you can do. Figure it out, talk to a trainer/PT/Doctor guy and get to work. At least get in shape. I just bet that would be good for your heart.

Do you just tell yourself, "I am good enough for this

Yes, you can create your own reality ESPECIALLY with women. If you believe it, so will they. aka: fake it before you make it.

you guys don’t have contradictory evidence - woman find you desirable.

HAHAHAHAHA! These guys? Desirability is a set of skills that you can learn. Are you going to pull ass like a NYC proctologist if you have an "ugly" face and a heart condition at 22? Probably not, but you can get laid plenty on fake confidence alone.

How can I be socially successful and attract a woman with my history of cringey social fails, shit skin, shit body?

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Even your question is cringey. How do you ATTRACT a woman? What the fuck are you, a firefly? You should be thinking how do I BAG a woman? How do I pick up and seduce a woman. You are a MAN. Start acting like it. Read some of the PUA books- The Game, Models, Bang etc and study the PUA vids.

Title	How can you be confident without external validation?
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Date	September 12, 2016 10:56 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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