1. Constant self-improvement

You never will be perfect.

A lot of men set goals and then determine their self-worth based on achieving those goals.

That's a poor mental attitude to have and it will lead to depression and misery. Depression and misery leads to weakness, and weakness leads to poor frame.

Perfectionism is the killer of progress and execution. Instead, focus on making your day 1% better. Like compound interest, you'll soon notice your days drastically becoming better, and better days lead to better weeks, better weeks lead to better months, better months lead to better years and better years lead to a better life.

But you're not done. Nor will you ever be. There will always be something you can improve about yourself, develop further. Keep focusing on making your days 1% better no matter how successful you become, otherwise you'll find you'll slip into your old bad habits fast.

2. Stand up for yourself

No you don't have to be aggressive or assert your "dominance." **That's Billy Beta behaviour." Instead try to reach a peaceful resolution. If one cannot be met without compromising your beliefs then simply walk away. Your power lies in your actions, not your words.

3. Take ownership of your decisions

Here's what goes through Billy Beta's mind:

Billy Beta's girlfriend: Billy, what should we do tonight?

Billy Beta: Oh, I don't know honey. What would you like to do?

Billy Beta (thinking): I'm so generous and considerate. I let her choose where we go. I'm so nice to her. I'm definitely getting laid tonight.

Billy Beta's girlfriend (thinking): Ugh! He's so indecisive. Why is he being so feminine? I want him to tell me where we're going tonight and I want him to take me home and fuck me. Why is he doing this? Why is this so complicated? I'm losing sexual interest in him. I guess I'll say I'm on my period and then call a Chad™ to give me the good manly fucking I need. I bet he'll still drive me back to my house and buy me my pads for me. God he's such a fucking loser.

That's what women think of indecisive men. Men were made to make decisions because men are strong enough to handle what happens when they make the wrong decision.

In your life you will make horrible decisions. It's how you respond to them that counts. Once you make a decision, commit to it. Only change your mind if the evidence or circumstances change. For the love of God, if you remember anything from this post, don't ask women to make decisions for you!

4. Be physically strong

I don't need to elaborate here. This should be drilled into you by now. Either lift and build muscle or be a pussy. The choice is yours.

Once you lift you'll notice psychological as well as physiological benefits too. Your frame will drastically improve.

Don't eat shit either. Have a good diet and use My Fitness Pal to track your specific dietary needs.

If you're a skinny guy like I used to be, don't listen to the well-intentioned Chad in the gym who tells you that you need to eat 6000 calories a day. Yes, to bulk you'll need to eat more than you usually eat, but you can only realistically gain a pound of muscle every week (usually with one or two pounds of fat to go with it). Any more weight gained is usually fat. ~3500 calories a day minimum with ~140g of protein did the trick for me. As you get bigger you'll need to eat more, but eating like a body builder when you have the physique of a lamppost is a recipe for disaster.

5. Be direct with women

With women, less really is more. You don't need to pretend to be her friend for two months before asking her out.

Lots of Nice Guys™ do this and then get angry when the girl "friendzones" them. They actually believe that because they put effort into being her friend they deserve access to her vagina as a result. That's not really nice now, is it? Genuinely nice people are nice to everyone, not only those who are attractive with vaginas.

There's a two stage logic model for dealing with women you want to fuck.

Input 1: You ask her out.

Output 1a: She says yes.

Output 1b: She says no.

No time wasted on women who aren't interested in you. Great! No matter how handsome, ripped and rich you are there will be women out there who just want nothing to do with you. Stop wasting your time on them!

6. Know how to say no

If something crosses your boundaries then don't do it. Nobody likes a monotonous yes-man. Have some self-respect and ensure that everything you do in your life is because you want to do it and not someone else.

7. Avoid the following mindless passive pursuits

  • Porn
  • Mental masturbation
  • Social media
  • Television
  • Drugs
  • Video games

On the most part, these things do nothing to improve your life and cause you to waste time. Replace them with positive habits like lifting, meditation, reading and learning new skills!

8. Know how to handle shit tests

There's some great posts in the Sidebar regarding shit tests. I suggest you read those.

9. Avoid making excuses

Did something not go as you planned? Did you lose your job? Did you gain weight? This is where Billy Beta and other weak-minded men would blame the situation, whereas an alpha looks at the situation and takes responsibility for it.

For example, perhaps he lost his job because he didn't build enough rapport with his boss. Perhaps he started gaining weight because his dieting wasn't on par with his gym regime.

Once you stop blaming others for your problems, you truly become free.

10. Have a good sense of style

Seriously watch Teaching Men's Fashion on YouTube. He'll teach you all the essentials. I went from someone who knew nothing about fashion to the best-dressed man in almost every room I walk into, and if I see a better-dressed man than me I go up to him, compliment him and ask him where be bought his outfit from so I can a) emulate it and b) make a new friend in the process :). Jealousy is for women.

11. Always make eye contact and speak from the diaphragm

It's confusing when you're out there making eye contact with women and they look away. They're just not that interested in you, right? Wrong! Women look away to be submissive. Especially if they look down, this is a huge IOI, even more so if she smiles and blushes.

As a general rule of thumb, IOIs can be a good means of gauging a woman's attraction levels, but at the end of the day they're just your subjective interpretations of her. Unless you be direct and ask her out on a date you'll never know.

Also, when you speak, make sure your voice comes from your diaphragm and not your throat. There's nothing more painful than listening to someone who knows nothing about voice projection trying to scream from their throat when in a loud environment such as a club, or more annoying than listening to someone who mumbles.

Speaking from your diaphragm makes you sound more authoritative too, and more authoritative = more alpha.

12. Have sex often

Women are attracted to men other women are attracted to. It's funny how life works. Often, it's gaining the first plate that's the most difficult when you have no social proof. After that you might get another plate here and there and then, after about five plates and numerous female 'friends' who are a couple of passed shit tests away from being in your bed suddenly women are hitting on you left, right and centre. Sure, it might be because you became more muscular and wealthier, but the fact is that doesn't really count for shit with women. They don't think rationally. They go off their feelings, hence when the bad boy convict with $2 to his name gets more pussy than the Blue Pilled doctor who has a stable income and house. One makes women feel wet and wild, the other makes her feel dry and bored. Guess which? As a result, if women see a man surrounded by women, they get aroused. Jealousy is an aphrodisiac for them. They'll tell you they don't like it, but it's difficult to understand what they're saying when their mouth is wrapped around your dick. One of the most important rules with dealing with women is to focus on what they do, not what they say. If women actually did what they said, Billy Beta would be drowning in pussy. Is he? No! That's why we're here!

13. Don't let your ego go out of control

I firmly believe that your ego leads you to self-destruction. To increase it, we need to adopt awful habits such as seeking validation from others, and if we can't get that we turn to low-effort high-reward activities such as porn.

Kill your ego. Trust me, you'll be a lot happier. Focus on self-esteem, but always be humble. Behind every egotistical person is a manic depressive constantly obsessing over what others think of them. It's why celebrities kill themselves when they stop being plastered on the front covers of magazines. They seemingly have everything, yet they have nothing because they place their self-worth in the hands of everyone but themselves.

14. Be a leader, not a follower

If you want to do something then just do it! Don't wait for the perfect time because it will never arrive. One day or day one? You decide!

15. Don't be easily offended

Know the flaws you have about yourself that you cannot change and accept them. People will try to rock your boat and comment on them, but the trick is to agree and amplify (what you say) and then cut those people out of your life and have nothing to do with them (what you do). If someone is maliciously trying to bring you down (and not doing so in a bantering way) then you're better off without them.

Of course, some women will try to insult you as a shit test, for which I recommend you read the posts I suggested in #8.

I hope this post gave you 15 habits you can start implementing today to become more alpha. If you have any feedback and suggestions please let me know :)