How to fix dating

Acksiom · 2014-05-10T13:30:35+00:00

I think it's a waste of time as far as this sub goes, because dating is reserved for the people we're already fucking.

Pre-relationship, I'm not applying for a slot on her list of suitors; she's applying to be one of the 5 most important people in my life:

1) Me, 2) my best male friend, 3) my best female friend, 4) my therapist, 5) my lover.

I don't spend money or time or attention on people applying for one of those slots; they're full already. They spend time and money and attention trying to rise high enough by my standards to be worthy of being that close to me.

If some girl wants me to move someone out of one and her in, she'd better be ready to pre-demonstrate her ability and commitment to bringing more and better quality to my life than whoever she thinks she can replace.

"But I don't have a lover yet!"

Then just act as though you do, because it's still one of the 5 most important slots for other people in your life, and you shouldn't piss that away paying other people to apply for it.

I know you're trying to help, and I respect and appreciate that, but. . .dating is dead, bro. It doesn't serve the reproductive sorting purposes it used to anymore, because technology, from the Pill forward to Tinder today, has superseded dating's ability to match people up and make families.

Dating is for people you're already having sex with, straight-up CH.

re-rebuild · 2014-05-10T13:31:01+00:00

How do you propose to implement such a change?

Occams_Shiv · 2014-05-10T14:00:30+00:00

I think you would find this counter productive in practice. Paying goes hand in hand with choosing, deciding, leading. The person who asks pays because they are in charge. You should want to be in charge.

Aexorys · 2014-05-10T14:32:35+00:00

It's a good idea but it is impossible. How do you plan on implementing such a drastic change to the dating scene?

sproondeermaan · 2014-05-10T14:32:39+00:00

Here's where you get it wrong: it's not a custom or a social convention that you can change. Humans are a sexually dimorphic species. We are not only physically different, but mentally as well. I cannot think of a single culture where it is common for the woman to ask men out. It's in our brains that women do the choosing based on what the men have to offer, in search of the best genes - aka. Briffault's Law.

Ultimately, your thinking is the equivalent to that of the feminists: 'let's redefine masculinity so we are equal.' and 'let's redefine dating so we are equal'. Even if everyone was equal, some people would end up more equal than others. Your mistake is that you seek equality of outcome but it would not work as we are different, even on a biological level. Even if you managed to get a sizable movement to support your idea, it would be going against all of human history up until 60 or so years ago, and it would not have any more impact than the screeches of the Tumblr harpies.

semigod__ · 2014-05-10T15:37:45+00:00

dating is for betas.

let her come to you. a bar, a hotel room, your apartment. it is not a date - you are not courting her. you let her take part in your life.

Title	How to fix dating
Author	J2501
Upvotes	1
Comments	35
Date	May 10, 2014 1:04 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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