TL;DR It's like 130 am and I'm still waiting for her to text me back. Help me break beta.

I have a long history of being incredibly beta and I've seen myself break free of that around other guys, but I give girls way too much of an emotional response to their shit tests.

I've been seeing a girl on and off for about 4 months. No kiss, no nothing but going out together. Super fucking beta. After the first 2 weeks, I (pussed out) and brought up the emotional, do you consider these dates? She gave me a lot of I like you but I can't like you right now. I said then we are not going to see each other.

3 days went by, no contact, then I hit her up. She said she was upset that I seemed to get on no problem. So i try to start things up again. A month of a lot of fun, she even would pay for me going out, but no drinking. I find out she's getting out of a 4 year thing. She says she needs time, and to be patient. I say let's just be friends.

Now its been 4 months of texting a lot, she asks about me, and I start texting her again after a few days. Same shit ends up happening. I'm fun, confident, and masculine, and then I get emotional on some shit. I ask her about a party she went to, and she texts me a screenshot of a guy basically asking her for sex the next day. In the he says he knows he's kind of boring. I tell her,"just wear protection, or else your kids will be bitchy and boring haha." Trying my best to not care. She gets pissed. I tell her to relax and don't text her for 3 days. Then hit her up again

I tell her not to tell me about the guys she's talking to. And I give off a really pissed off attitude. She says she's sorry with a few lols and said it's not that serious so calm down. I make a bunch of jokes with her for a few hours, and then say "this time apart has been beneficial" getting beta once again.

So my question is. How do I maintain alpha? Time? Experience? I've started running and working out. And it's weird because with my guy friends I'm always at the center of the circle. How do I completely stop chasing this girl who has YET to say, No, I don't want to date you.

Any specific advice with this girl?