in b4 "but thats raaaaaaaape!"

The whole point of me writing this post is that I have a hard time getting to the actual penis-in-vagina part of sex. I can do it, but its not easy. Last minute resistance is currently the weakest part of my game. let me explain:

I was in baltimore a while ago, met a girl at the bar, ended up going back to her place for the evening. She sucked my dick, I ate her out, we had a fun sexy time. She wouldn't let me stick it in her.

There was a girl I was seeing in DC for awhile. I would stay over at her place on the weekends. We essentially "dated" for a month. We spent a lot of time naked with each other, making out, oral, etc. Although she was willing to allow my penis in her mouth, she refused to allow it in her vagina. after a few weeks of this I realized she was using it as a weapon against me and so politely stopped seeing her.

there have been other examples, but those are the two most recent.

It is frustrating that girls exist that like me and are willing to be sexual with me, but apparently not have actual sex with me. It actually fills me with rage when I think about it. Everyone else gets to have sex, why not me? What is it about me that limits me to blowjobs? I don't blame the girls, I blame myself. This post is an attempt to better myself.

I am not a virgin. I've had penis in vagina sex multiple times, with multiple partners, just not nearly as much as I would like. To fix this problem, I've been doing some research online and thought I would share it with all of you so you can learn too. Here is what I learned:

1) her subconscious has to feel that you won't just pump and dump, even if that is your goal. This is called building comfort and is covered extensively in other material available all over the internet.

2) logistics are important. have condoms ready to go.

3) set the scene. She might be down to fuck, but be embarrased about something else, like how fat she looks or something similiarly dumb. make sure all the window shades are closed, the lights are dim, whatever. It needs to be private enough so that she won't feel exposed or nervous. She has to feel comfortable.

4) escalate. she is following your lead. If you don't try for sex, then she doesn't have the opportunity to say yes.

5) your genitals need to have access to each other. This one is obvious, but one time i drunkenly cock blocked myself because I forgot to take my clothes off. She told me the next day she thought it was weird I never got naked, so wasnt willing to be the only one with her pants off. When I asked her why she didn't say anything, she said it was because she wasn't sure if there was a reason I wasn't getting naked or not and didn't want to embarrass me. Duh. I guess I'm an idiot when I drink sometimes.

6) she must feel that you will not think less of her because she has sex with you. She does not want to be perceived as a slut. Create a judgement free zone.

7) no fear! mentally, sex can become a huge deal in dudes' heads and this can cause anxiety and fear. Recognize that these fears are baseless and that sex is fun and a good time. Don't cock block yourself. Subconsciously I think this is my biggest problem right now.

8) know what you are doing. If you are worried about your sexual technique, then there are various videos floating around that will teach you the basics. Watch them.

9) be willing to walk away. This is actually a negotiation tactic. Other names for this are the "freeze out" and framing it as you rejecting her advances, etc. Also don't get angry if she says no. The reality of the situation is that even the experts don't have sex every time. You're not an expert, so don't worry too much about failure. Learn from your mistakes and move on.

10) have fun with it! sex is not supposed to be a chore.

In summary, it seems that women probably want to have sex with me, but I am cock blocking myself for some reason or another.

relevant links:

[1] http://whetyourwoman.com/pickup-women/last-minute-resistance/

[2] http://www.puatraining.com/blog/smash-through-last-minute-resistance-with-any-girl

[3] r/seduction/comments/djla0/advanced_antilast_minute_resistance_lmr_tactics/

[4] http://therationalmale.com/2011/09/23/wait-for-it/

[5] http://www.girlschase.com/content/last-minute-resistance-sexy-women-treating-it-and-beating-it