In weird situation with LTR, need help

Arminarmeen · 2017-04-12T02:08:28+00:00

What...the fuck..are you thinking, leave. Focus on your mission. This is borderline pedophilia.

420KUSHBUSH · 2017-04-12T02:43:49+00:00

Please be a troll please be a troll please be a troll

Arminarmeen · 2017-04-12T02:14:09+00:00

Okay, okay. I'll help you out.

She is underage you are 20.
It is thrilling to date an older guy, HOWEVER, you understand the consequences, she doesn't need to.
You have 2 options. If you really fucking dig this girl then 1) you wait until she turns 18 then you give it a shot, which includes letting her to her own thing, no mate guarding etc. just leave her alone, she might move on but it doesn't matter she was young OR 2) You keep playing her games, she will figure you out, tear you down slowly and as she keeps growing up and getting a lot more attention than she did before, she will leave your ass while you're all depressed and shit, because "she was amazing" "we had a connection" "we knew each other for long I'm attached"
For FUCK'S sake, have some self respect, go lift, and don't let underage girls get to your head.
No shit this is going to keep happening, why? Because you let it happen. Lead like a man...HOWEVER for FUCK'S sake... she is 16, what's the point?
Man...the only reason you date her is because she is either pretty and will grow up to be fucking hot, and you want to mate guard...and basically you want to be the last guy who fucks her..really...the ONLY guy, or...you're straight up into kids..but for the sake of you...it's definitely the first one. Have some respect for yourself, and move the fuck on.
Yes, she will fuck, she might fuck you, she might fuck guys, other guys, better looking than you, uglier than you, skinnier than you, musclier than you, leave before you get way too attached and know of the guys who fucked her. Trust me, there is nothing that hurts more than knowing who exactly fucked the girl you are attached to.

ImHerWonderland · 2017-04-12T04:00:20+00:00

Are you in the U.S.?

If yes, cut ties now. If anyone, ANYONE hears about your relationship and doesn't like it, they can call the cops on you. Depending on what state you are in, you might NOT be protected under "romeo and Juliet" laws, and you will be labelled a fucking sex offender for the rest of your life. Yes, even if the age of consent is 16.

This is your first girlfriend, I understand the feels are real. This isn't about if the cycle will repeat, it's about protecting yourself man. If she loves you she will wait two years to be with you and will be understanding. Lift and read TRP.

Piediver · 2017-04-12T03:21:17+00:00

Is she worth going to prison for?

TunedtoPerfection · 2017-04-12T03:03:22+00:00

Use the enter key and organize your thoughts better, it will help readers understand you a bit more. If your 20, talk like a 20 year old, not like a 16 year old girl...

She is fucking 16.... she doesn't love you she only understands lust at this point in her life...

Thomasanderson23 · 2017-04-12T05:06:01+00:00

^ get out of there now. If nothing else she'll respect you for it. As soon as you saw her phone you should have walked out, and if she asked why tell her your upset/disappointed etc. Man up. But don't do anything crazy

Entropy-7 · 2017-04-12T05:50:14+00:00

1) If 16 is legal in your jurisdiction, then no regrets or apologies. I've been in your shoes. I was 20 and chasing 16 year old tail. Hell, I even canoodled with a 15 year old (which, by the way, is legal in Canada). When I was 30-something I was still dating teenagers. When I was 40-something I was dating 20-somethings. In any event, do a Pontius Pilot and wash your hands of any guilt.

2) 5 months is NOT an LTR. It might seem like that at your age, but trust me, you need to crest a full year before you can legitimately attach that label.

3) MAN THE FUCK UP!

3a - Don't lose your shit! Don't get angry.

3b - You are the adult in this relationship, so act like one. Make it perfectly, fucking clear that you are not going to put up with any of her shenanigans.

4) Do not mingle with her friends. You do not go to her parties; she comes to your parties.

4a - And this gets a bit creepy but - isolate her. Get her away from all of her dysfunctional teenage friends and associates. Bring her into your world, don't go into hers.

5) If you really want to lock her down:

5a: I advise against it

5b: But if you want other advice, then PM me.

DoctorBees69 · 2017-04-12T14:06:51+00:00

How does this shit not get deleted? Your entire post is almost incomprehensible. Besides that, people aren't just focusing on the fact that you're dating a 16 year old, they're commenting on the fact that you're acting like a 16 year old. You have been dating for five months, neither of you are in love. She probably likes you because you're her first real relationship and you probably like her because you have put her on some very unearned pedestal. If she's crazy jealous like this now, she might be projecting her own infidelity, or at the very least it will only get worse. And the part I really can't understand of this story is whether or not you're saying that she cheated on you? If she did, you shouldn't even be asking us for advice you should drop her and focus/work on yourself. Either way read the fucking sidebar, man.

aanarchist · 2017-04-12T10:43:55+00:00

i find it funny how there's people shaming a dude for being attracted to a girl fresh in highschool. thanks feminism.

johnquincyadams4 · 2017-04-12T04:33:16+00:00

instead of everyone just criticizing me..can anyone actually help? lol

Title	In weird situation with LTR, need help
Author	johnquincyadams4
Upvotes	0
Comments	27
Date	April 12, 2017 2:04 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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