Just a quick question I wanted to post. I've(34M) been seeing someone(34F) for about 5 months. We live an hour apart and usually see each other on weekends. She has 1 kid(widowed) and I have none.

This isn't a case of oneitis, I'm just really torn on if I keep her as a plate permanently, or entertain an actual relationship....

Some good things about her are...none drug user, rarely drinks. She's a good mom to her kid, very patient, understanding, and a great communicator. Not in the club or bars, and not the party type. I don't take her as easy or super ran through like most women these days, but I could be wrong who knows. She's very feminine and I don't believe we've had one argument yet.

The problem is the guy friend situation. I knew she had guy friends early on but didn't ask many questions because I didn't want to sound insecure. I'll admit it. She always mentions this one guy alot so the conversation came up regarding whether or not she's ever been with her guy friends. Turns out she has, just not with the guy she always talks about. She told me she had a fling with her best friend shortly after her husband passed, but eventually decided its best they remain friends. Long story short I made it clear I wasn't going for that and wished her best of luck. She took the hint and dropped the guy not too long after.

Ever since then I have been unsure about how to proceed with her. She told me she has a mix of guy and girl friends. She told me when her husband died alot of his friends stepped up and was there for her, which she's forever grateful for. She told me she has no intentions of cutting the rest of her guy friends because they are like uncles to her daughter.

Now, I never had an issue with her having guy friends until I found out about her fling with one of her closest friends. Even though she stopped talking to that guy I still feel myself having my guard way up with her. She want to be exclusive but I really don't know if I want that type of relationship. I've dated women who had guy friends, and it never fails that these guys cross the line at some point. So in my experience it's just not a good idea to have friends of the opposite sex. Also we're mid 30's, who really has 10-20 real friends at 35?

The main problem is my insecurities/past experiences are starting to show. Let me add I don't have Facebook, snapchat, or Instagram and she has all those. I have no way to creep her pages and see what she's like on social media, which I think is super important these days because it can tell you alot about a person. I feel like most of my questions could be answered with a simple glance at her sm presence. If she post thirst traps, has a number of guys under her pictures, interacts with alot of guys online she's obviously for the streets. Again I have no way of knowing that, even though I don't take her for that kind of woman.

I can drop her and move on, but part of me feels like another man will come along and accept her for who she is, and probably end up with a pretty decent woman. So I turn to this corner of reddit. Am I being an insecure pussy or do I have adequate reason to next and move on.