This is the best advice I have ever been given by my friends. When I was down after being dumped and my world shattered after swallowing the pill, they told me this. Over and over again. I never really understood it until I attained what a lot of RPers refer to as the "Abundance mentality".

Abundance mentality is great, but you have to develop it fellas. I had a severe case of one-ietis. The worst of the worst, she was the light that shined on me and I put her on a pedestal. 5 years together and she left me as if I was just some random. She left me for a DND nerd, who is so fucking ugly I can't even believe she left me for him. I digress, we all have our reasons for swallowing the pill. That was mine. Anyways, I have made a lot of progress over 7 months and I am just getting started.

Approach women always, if you are starting out and have no idea what to say. Don't worry about it! Treat her like a normal person, ask how the day is going. The key is to forgo your approach anxiety and in the back of your head you have a +1 to the amount of women you have spoken to. Even guys that are better looking, taller and have more going for them than I have issues approaching women. Just get to a state where you feel comfortable. This will be key to developing your mentality, approach men too,obviously not sexually...unless you are an RP gay male, in which case help a brother hook up with your friends. Go up to men that you see doing some activity that you know a little about. For me I use football, video games, working out and micro brews to start conversations and it's just bullshit but it helps me internally realize you know I am pretty awesome. Practice, practice, practice. We are men and we love to develop skills. That's all we are really good at, trial and error is how I personally learn.

Tinder. Oh man, oh man. You want a real numbers game? Fucking play tinder. Look some guys in monk mode or low self esteem. Avoid it for now, please. I used it when I first got broken up with and it hurt much1, much2, much3, much4.... much(n) times more than it was worth. Anyways, I don't want to make time for it, so I downloaded an app called tasker and it just auto likes everyone. It's good to practice my text game, I have 0 expectations other than to make me laugh and again develop this abundance mentality. That there are women out there, that find me attractive and will fuck me. I woke up and had 15 matches. (Some are probably bots if I am being honest though).

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Time-hos, or a oneitis. We have know one, we all have had one and we all know it gets us nothing, besides emptying our pockets, our gas tank and our hourglass. Maybe if I sit here and listen to her problems for 2 hours, we can fuck? Right? I mean that is how it works. That's what I have been conditioned for, however the fuck that happened. No, wrong. Bad. Fuck that. I don't care how nice of a booty she has, her laugh, the supple breasts that she walks around in a bra to show off, and how she endlessly talks about fucking another dude, the weird shit they do, it will never be you. It's a fucking hard bit of truth to handle, but it won't be. NEVER, EVER. She says she is your friend, and sometimes you want to believe that. It just isn't true when you need a favor or something in return for the friendship. Yes, I have someone in particular I am talking about.

Maybe one day, I can RP her into my bedroom dungeon, but I have shelved that idea. I know better now. Ending point on this is use your resources on a woman that wants you, not one that doesn't. I'm not saying women don't make great friends, I have one that I trust for her honest opinion on everything. ** The one I pine over however is like the kid that steals your lunchbox on the schoolyard, then asks if you want to play in the sandbox as they eat your lunch in front of your face. You, a little disappointed, agree to go into the sandbox, they say they will meet you there. You get there and wait, but but they never come.** That is the only way I could word it.

You are going to meet a lot of people in your life, get rid of the shitty ones, and look for new people that align with your life goals to bring inward change. We live in a world with close to 8 billion people, 8 billion... Your brain has a hard time comprehending putting 100,000 people in one room together. Try it, you will probably be wrong. There are people out there that are more like you than you realize. You just have to push yourself to go find them.

I want to make one point very clear, and I am guilty of this. Your best version of yourself, should come before any women. I spent an hour this morning replying to things on tinder and I should use my Saturday to be bettering myself. I sat down and wrote this because I thought it might help some other guys out there that are going through the same shit I am. I am going into nature today to discover my life's purpose, but that discussion is for another time. Keep being better than who you were yesterday, that's what a rp man does. Live you life on your own terms, you only have one and it's too fucking short to waste.