Intro

Hey guys, I've been reading TRP and gaming for a while and even though I'm no expert I wanted to share few techniques that I found really fitting my style.

 

Power of laugh

Laugh can be very powerful for many reasons: it communicates agreement, interest and comfort, but my favorite one is using it to communicate consent.

 

As a rule of thumb doesn't matter what you say: if you make her laugh she accepts it. Of course, there is way and way to say something, you can imply instead of being direct: it has the same meaning but with the benefit of the doubt.

 

Once I was walking in the city with a girl I just took a coffee with, a hot girl passes beside us:
"Looks like she just got through a tornado, her hair are sexy"
"How about mine?" (She had curly hair)
"Well, looks like I just banged you in the bar's restroom"
She blushes and laughs. "You shouldn't say that!"

 

It's a really safe method to have an idea of what she thinks without having to directly try it. If she reacts negatively, you take a note and mock her bad sense of humour.

 

Personal space

Everyone has its personal space. Depending on the situation and on the manner, you may be more or less free to invade it without being inappropriate. Of course you want to break the touch barrier, get closer to her until you can go for the kiss and then to her panties.

 

I always found annoying having to move toward her for the kiss: it's very easy to foresee, very easy to dodge, very hard to recover from a no and I don't like closing my eyes like an idiot.

 

So I thought: what if I can get consent without actually trying to kiss her?

 

It's easier than it sounds, thanks to few social tricks. You can easily make a joke and touch her shoulder, her upper arm or her knee, and it's unlikely she will reject you (those are the most neutral parts of the body). The trick I exploit is the fact that if she agreed to get touched somewhere once (no matter the reason), the next time is gonna be much harder to reject you, because she would have to come up with an excuse why she's let you do it the first time and now she won't.

 

Let's say you're walking with her, you can easily pull her to change direction pulling her from the hip or taking her hand. Don't apply much strength, strong enough so that she knows you want to move her, but weak enough so that she can easily resist you if she doesn't want to.

 

On another date I was pulling this girl home with a silly excuse and I had around 10 minutes walk to my place. I didn't want to wait to be home for the kiss so I started escalating. At the beginning through jokes, then because "she didn't know which way to go" I started pulling and pushing her around. She was showing no resistance whatsoever and I could basically move her applying strength of a finger.

 

Few yards from home I stop without saying anything I let her surpass me, I pull her back like she's a puppet and she ends few inches to my face. She could have easily resisted my pull but she just let herself fall to me, indirectly agreeing to be kissed.

 

Conclusions

Indirect communication can be very useful to get an idea of how well you're doing during the date, how much she is invested and how far could you push. Good luck out there.